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Speaker 1: Wine down with Janet Kramer and I heard radio podcast. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we have a lot to discuss. Um, we're not discussing

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Speaker 1: the reflection. Um. I got to ruin my question. What

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Speaker 1: was your question? Well, I wasn't really a question. I

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Speaker 1: was just going to give you crap. But I didn't notice.

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Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't. Yes, I don't look into reflections,

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Speaker 1: and so then when you realize I really I can't

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Speaker 1: take it down. So I was going to ask at

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Speaker 1: that point it's like yes, but then it's like then

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Speaker 1: it's something. Did you have a did you have a

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Speaker 1: lot of responses? Yes? Okay, that's what I was litering. Um, yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: that's all I have to say. Um, fine, what would

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Speaker 1: you like to know about the reflection photo? Katherine? What

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Speaker 1: would I like to know? Would actually going to ask

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Speaker 1: ask what did you notice it before you put it up?

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Speaker 1: And then I'm just asking asking for a friend now,

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Speaker 1: But then you can't take it down because then it's

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Speaker 1: like then it becomes like oh people are It's like

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Speaker 1: then it becomes something. Right, What was the next question?

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Speaker 1: I really just wanted to know if you noticed I

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Speaker 1: did not notice it. I mean, okay, go ahead, No, nope,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, Well no the tag, Yeah, I know, right,

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Speaker 1: So but do we have to keep skirting around this? Okay,

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Speaker 1: yes we do. Okay, I got it, because it's it's

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Speaker 1: a weird. Because I don't know what to do. I

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Speaker 1: can tell I. I just I'm I I'm like, I

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Speaker 1: I I I I UM, it's a very weird situation

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Speaker 1: that I'm in right now. Understand that it's fair. It's

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Speaker 1: a weird time. It's a weird and I'm but I'm

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Speaker 1: just how do I say this. I'm still I've still

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Speaker 1: so much work to do that I'm trying to find

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Speaker 1: the balance between happiness and doing my work. Well, I

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Speaker 1: at the same it's just very strange to you. Yes,

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Speaker 1: because I don't trust it. That makes sense, because I

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Speaker 1: I feel like there's no way that someone can be honest. Well,

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Speaker 1: that's going to take some work on it, and like

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Speaker 1: that it can be good. Like I was. I ran

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Speaker 1: into a friend, um, Lindsay l Actually I ran into

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Speaker 1: her um at the airport and we were talking about it,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I think I'm so afraid of

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Speaker 1: like like I'm used to just war and not and

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Speaker 1: not being on like steady ground, and like I'm used

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Speaker 1: to like my you know, my therapist as like you're

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Speaker 1: that freaks me out because I'm like, would like that

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Speaker 1: can't be really, like you're waiting there's no way. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I and for what seven six years, I was always

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Speaker 1: waiting for the other shooter drop, So clearly there's another

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Speaker 1: So I think that's where like I get scared to

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Speaker 1: like I want to talk about, you know, dating and

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Speaker 1: my dating life because I'm like, I've been so fooled

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Speaker 1: that I'm terrified to be fooled again. So you're terrified

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Speaker 1: just understand anybody. But you're also probably scared of putting

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Speaker 1: someone in the public and then something happening. But for sure, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm just I'm I'm again, which is why I haven't

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Speaker 1: been in anything that was exclusive. And also um or

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Speaker 1: So I can't understand just dating. Yeah, it's like, just

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Speaker 1: never my boyfriend. When you have to figure things out,

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Speaker 1: like people have to give you time to figure things out.

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Speaker 1: But I think, on the other hand, I think there

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Speaker 1: I see all that, I read all it, and I'm

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Speaker 1: that came out with my X and I like I

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Speaker 1: tried to change the narrative because I believe that we

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Speaker 1: I look like a girl that you know, should have

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Speaker 1: left a long time ago. But I did believe in

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Speaker 1: someone that could change, and you know, I put forth

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Speaker 1: was like Janna, She's like, there are good people out there.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, are there, Yes, there are good people out there,

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Speaker 1: then y'all didn't work out. That's dating. But like in

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Speaker 1: the public eye, people think it's a relately. People thought

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Speaker 1: And I have respect for you know, everyone that I

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Speaker 1: things when you're happy. We all do. Who doesn't want

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Speaker 1: to share when they're happy. But if for some reason

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Speaker 1: people don't work out. I had a girl reach out

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Speaker 1: to me who's like, you can't bash your ex husband

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Speaker 1: I'm still posting narcissistic things because I dealt with that,

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Speaker 1: and that's okay that I can still be dealing or

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Speaker 1: I was like, I'm divorced, Like why can't I just

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Speaker 1: the negative energy of my ex go, well, I think

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Speaker 1: a marriage from that will still come up, however, long later.

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Speaker 1: But that doesn't mean you can't be happy where you are.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm trying, but it's just it's very strange,

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Speaker 1: just like a very scary place to live when you're

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Speaker 1: not used to it. Yeah. Well, and it's almost like

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Speaker 1: It's a friend that I've been friends with for a

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Speaker 1: little bit longer, but like so nervous. So what do

422
00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:51,320
Speaker 1: I do. I run up and I give him a

423
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:57,159
Speaker 1: hug and I'm like Steve and I gave him a

424
00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:00,880
Speaker 1: hug and I am just snuggled into him, and I'm thinking, well,

425
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:05,399
Speaker 1: he's not that being that warm back to me, and

426
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 1: I'm full on having a conversation like thank you so

427
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 1: much for coming, Oh my god, hey, like does girlfriend

428
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 1: because saying again Burnett, even though I was like, you know,

429
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 1: she got a little taller, but you know, um, and

430
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 1: then you know, they called me up on stage and

431
00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:23,000
Speaker 1: while I'm singing on stage, I go, holy, that is

432
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:28,360
Speaker 1: not my manager. He never said anything, he said nothing,

433
00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 1: but I'm like his response back was like, you know,

434
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:34,719
Speaker 1: wasn't really great. I was like, god, Steve's usually more

435
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:36,399
Speaker 1: like friendly, like maybe I don't know, maybe and his

436
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:38,880
Speaker 1: girlfriend are like going to fight or whatever. So from

437
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 1: the moment I got off stage to like, I mean,

438
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:46,720
Speaker 1: I kept running into him, but I avoided him like

439
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:50,160
Speaker 1: the plague, even more so much so that we had

440
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 1: gotten the same elevator when we were leaving, and I

441
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:57,800
Speaker 1: am mortified because I just hugged this random dude. I

442
00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 1: have no idea who he is, who he was, what

443
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 1: affiliation he had with He probably thinks, like, why is

444
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 1: Janna giving me this giant hut? Because he knew who

445
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 1: I was once I went up to sing. Well, once

446
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 1: I went up to sing, he did. He probably didn't

447
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 1: know when he first saw me. To that man, whoever

448
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,119
Speaker 1: you are, I am so sorry, But what would you do?

449
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 1: Because a part of me now wishes I went back

450
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: and was like, I'm so sorry. I thought you were

451
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:26,440
Speaker 1: my manager. So you got in an elevator with him

452
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 1: and looked the other one and said nothing, nothing, no, nothing.

453
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 1: I think by like the second or third time I

454
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:34,760
Speaker 1: saw him, if it was just the first, I probably

455
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:36,480
Speaker 1: would have done the same thing and avoided but by

456
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 1: the second or third time, once I was in the elevator,

457
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 1: I would have been like, Okay, I can't. I was

458
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 1: so mortified. I didn't even tell anyone that I was with.

459
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 1: I didn't tell Jeff, for Emily or like, no. One

460
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 1: didn't tell anyone because I was so mortified with what

461
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 1: I did. I was just like I wonder who he is,

462
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 1: like if he's somebody. And I told my manager that

463
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 1: night at the party, I was like, Steve, first of all,

464
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 1: where the were you at the thing? He told me

465
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,639
Speaker 1: you were going. And now because of that, I random

466
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 1: some I hugged some random and he was like, wait,

467
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:07,879
Speaker 1: I'm dying. I was like, no, you don't understand, Like

468
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 1: if I had it, if I had you guys next

469
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 1: to each other, you guys are long lost twins. Like again,

470
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,399
Speaker 1: like he was a little a little skinnier and like

471
00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 1: a lot longer hair, but I haven't seen you in

472
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:20,159
Speaker 1: freaking eight months. So he wasn't there at all. No,

473
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: he didn't come, but he went and he got caught

474
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: for not coming. I know. I was like, well, realized

475
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: it wasn't you because hugged the wrong person. Oh my gosh,

476
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: I mean that is mortifying. I'm sorry it was more,

477
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:33,680
Speaker 1: but I was just I was wondering what you would

478
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 1: have done, like if you would have just been like,

479
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 1: but I don't. I didn't even want to own up

480
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 1: to the fact that, like I was just gonna go

481
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 1: with like, I'm a real friendly person and I had

482
00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: a lot of people I probably would have avoided it

483
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: at first, but once I kept running, I don't know

484
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 1: the elevator, I don't know. If I could have just

485
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:51,679
Speaker 1: sat there, I don't know. I avoid so maybe I

486
00:25:51,680 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 1: would have. Um, Okay, there's a lot to talk about

487
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: when we're gonna talk about sex in the city too,

488
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 1: because I just like, have you been watching did you watch?

489
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, so yeah, so many things. Okay, so

490
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:16,480
Speaker 1: we were we were going to maybe take some colors

491
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: and talk about sex in the city. Um, but let's

492
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 1: you know, I just have a few things I want

493
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 1: to discuss. Okay, but speaking of my acting managers, Um,

494
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 1: they represent Chris No. Um, I got the rundown, and

495
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 1: I got to be really careful because I mean, I

496
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: don't know anything that's like going on. Um. But they

497
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 1: were talking about the peloton thing bad um, and I

498
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:44,000
Speaker 1: thought that was genius, absolutely genius. But I had heard

499
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:46,200
Speaker 1: that someone was upset about it because they didn't want

500
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 1: him replicating his character. I'm like, it's Chris not it's

501
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 1: not Mr Big, It's genius. It is the most genius.

502
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:53,959
Speaker 1: I was like, if anything, if I was the creator,

503
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 1: whoever was having whoever, I would have been like, you know,

504
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: this is um, this is a uh like this helps

505
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 1: the show well and more of the talking point of

506
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,360
Speaker 1: like of the whole thing like it was. I thought.

507
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 1: I was like, that is the most genius thing I've

508
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 1: ever heard of. Well do you think stupid question here?

509
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:19,680
Speaker 1: Do you think they already had that ad planned when

510
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 1: they had no idea? Pelton had no idea, They had

511
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,440
Speaker 1: no idea of what was going on. So Ryan Reynolds

512
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 1: was caught top it, so all they knew is that

513
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:30,680
Speaker 1: it was going to be used. But they're but yeah,

514
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,159
Speaker 1: so they didn't know that because I got all this

515
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 1: scoop from the party and I was like, this is

516
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:40,160
Speaker 1: like everything that's crazy. So they had no idea. So

517
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 1: then they were like it happened overnight. Like Ryan Reynolds,

518
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: I don't know how he's involved with Peloton, but he's

519
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 1: involved somehow, was calling my manager and was like, we

520
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: need Chris for a Peloton AD and so then he

521
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,160
Speaker 1: had to clear it with you know, and people weren't happy.

522
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's like it's genius. I

523
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:59,119
Speaker 1: was like, that is the most genius idea I've ever heard,

524
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 1: because I wonder I had been watching it. I'm like,

525
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 1: did that just like tank Peloton their stocks one down.

526
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:05,920
Speaker 1: I was about to say it, I mean, that's that's

527
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,120
Speaker 1: the yeah, and then there's a lot of people east

528
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 1: and I say, you popped down? What's up? Baby? I

529
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm just I'm just such a huge Sex

530
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,320
Speaker 1: and the City fan. And I was I'm so excited

531
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 1: to get this information because I was so curious to this.

532
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 1: I just as they knew. I thought so because Okay,

533
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 1: in that episode, Peloton is featured so prominently, like gotten

534
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 1: real close up shots of the bike. I'm like, oh,

535
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 1: this is like clear product placement. And then I thought

536
00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: the ad was like make good in case things went poorly.

537
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,439
Speaker 1: I think it was like planned simultaneously. It's like, we

538
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: know that this is going to probably tank some things,

539
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 1: but we're going to come back with this. But to

540
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:39,480
Speaker 1: know that, to my knowledge, they had no idea that

541
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 1: it was going to be how he died. And so

542
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 1: then also to my knowledge, from my understanding, um, the

543
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 1: other side of it not Peloton was not happy with

544
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 1: it because something is going to happen that they didn't

545
00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 1: want to and I can't say what it is. I

546
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 1: might know what it is, um. And I was like

547
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 1: when I heard it, and I was like, oh, that

548
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:06,480
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that's nothing. Like I was like, the add

549
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 1: is still genius. There's two separate people. It's genius. And

550
00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 1: honestly it's that to me, isn't make good to say

551
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 1: thank you know, I'm sorry for like tanking your eleventh

552
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 1: or sales or whatever. Oh whoa, that's crazy, I know.

553
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 1: So then I got that gossip and then they asked

554
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 1: me if I like it, Well, let me just say

555
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: this to a lot of people, like I saw Jonah

556
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 1: Hill's comment like or like, you know, why why couldn't

557
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 1: carry call the ambulance? And at first, I will be honest,

558
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 1: when I saw that he died, I mean, I had

559
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 1: a good ball session. But and I talked to my

560
00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: manager about this as well. He goes. I was like,

561
00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 1: why did they have to kill him? He's like, trust me,

562
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 1: I wanted him to stay alive, you know, because for

563
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 1: him it's like it's money, it's his client. What would

564
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 1: the show be, yeah, you know it's like there, the

565
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 1: show would not be the whole thing is about Carrie

566
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,000
Speaker 1: and love and find yes. And I was like, well,

567
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 1: I just wanted the happy ending, you know, happy we

568
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 1: had that we had that when it ended, and then

569
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 1: we had the movies. It ended, It's fine, So now

570
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 1: it's like now I'm like, now I am again. Like

571
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: everything else in sexas City, you were invested in Carry's

572
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 1: love life, and I think, and I'm just gonna say this,

573
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 1: when they were doing the podcast, there was a really

574
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 1: cute guy that I noted in the podcast, and I

575
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 1: was like, that's going to be her new love interest.

576
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 1: M hm. He saw that. I was like, he's cute.

577
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: He's cute, k And it was like a random just

578
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 1: kind of like real, real quick. But I was like,

579
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 1: I'm I'm calling that. That is the dude. Yes, here's

580
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 1: the thing that, at least to my point of view.

581
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:39,560
Speaker 1: I was excited for Carrie and Big two. I thought

582
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 1: they were going to explore like, oh no, they don't

583
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: have kids. Everyone else in their friend group has kids

584
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: that are like growing up and doing these like milestone things,

585
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 1: you know, having dance recitals and and you know, getting

586
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 1: their first girlfriend, stuff like that, and Carry and Big

587
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 1: don't have that. And I, as a childless person, I

588
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 1: was like excited to see what, you know, as they

589
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 1: get older, they don't have children, they don't have this legacy.

590
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 1: What's going to happen with that, and then they killed

591
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 1: They take my Big away before my very eyes, and

592
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 1: it made me so sad. So yeah, I mean it

593
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: was it was hard to see Big die. But I also, like,

594
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 1: I get he died, and then basically came in my

595
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 1: mind how I saw the show was he died, and

596
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 1: basically was she was there kind of revived and they

597
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:23,479
Speaker 1: knew he was. He was dying, like there was no calling.

598
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 1: It was like that moment. And I saw an interview

599
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 1: I think it was with Chris or someone said it

600
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 1: was like the they compared it to another movie where

601
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 1: it was just like they needed I needed that moment

602
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: between them. I didn't want her on the phone for

603
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 1: Rantiket calling. It was very strange to me. Really yeah,

604
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 1: I thought the whole that whole scene was very strange.

605
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: Oh tell me more. I just I liked her reaction

606
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 1: at first, where she just kind of stood back and

607
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 1: she watched and it really didn't like hit her yet.

608
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 1: That was great. And I understand that when you have

609
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 1: a heart attack maybe you just can't move and you can't,

610
00:31:56,360 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: but he was like awake and alive, but just standing there.

611
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: I don't know, it was just all very odd to me.

612
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 1: I didn't it didn't feel um, you didn't feel that

613
00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 1: authentic to me, like that's how it would happen. So

614
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 1: I understand that having the moment, which I think is

615
00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 1: important too. I'm glad they had the moment. But he

616
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 1: was like still alive and no one was doing anything.

617
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 1: But he wasn't though he was done. He was moving barely.

618
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:25,320
Speaker 1: But if you're moving, you're going to think that there's

619
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 1: still alive. Okay, I'm just being yeah, I don't know,

620
00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 1: I get it, but I just it was I totally

621
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 1: get your point with it. Also, like I needed that closure.

622
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 1: I needed that, like Carrie, I needed their last like

623
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 1: I'm that was really super sweet. Though I did love

624
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 1: like their their moment. It was it was their looks together,

625
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:45,960
Speaker 1: it was there. It was just like and then he died.

626
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 1: I hated that voiceover though. I thought that that was

627
00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: so callous, the way it's just like and just like

628
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 1: that big die yeah on earth like this because I

629
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 1: thought he was he was still alive at that point.

630
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: He was like blinking and moving around. Yeah, and then

631
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 1: like that's how you find out is gone, Like he's

632
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 1: literally his hand is moving and putting it on her,

633
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 1: but yet he's dead. I'm like, I don't understand. It's

634
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: just like he's dead. Yeah, it was strange. Do we

635
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 1: have a caller, Let's let's take our first caller who

636
00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I was like, we have a caller,

637
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 1: we do have callers to talk about this. Uh, we're

638
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 1: talking about Sex in the City and just like that,

639
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 1: which is an HBO Max original by the way, in

640
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 1: case anyone hadn't picked that up. Major spoilers ahead. We

641
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: are entering spoiler country. All here comes our first her

642
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: first collar, Brittany is coming in. Oh my god, I

643
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 1: love you. Okay. So Brandy is like the head of

644
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,800
Speaker 1: like all One One Tree Hill and she's a big

645
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 1: TV watcher. We love Brittany. What did you think of

646
00:33:57,560 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 1: Sex in the City. We're talking about the death right now.

647
00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 1: I have so many opinions. I watched you on Thursday

648
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,120
Speaker 1: when it first came out, Like I had a dinner

649
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:08,839
Speaker 1: plans and I was like, we wrapped this dinner rout,

650
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,240
Speaker 1: like I need to go home because I'm avoiding the internet.

651
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,479
Speaker 1: And I watched a Thursday night. I kind of knew

652
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:19,760
Speaker 1: what was coming. Um, especially with the heavy recital playing

653
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 1: and like showing big and I'm like, oh, he's gonna die,

654
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 1: Like so um. I just think it started very rough

655
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 1: and aggressive and the dialogue that they were, like when

656
00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 1: Carrie and them started having the dinner, you know, that

657
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:35,479
Speaker 1: lunch and they were they were very like I thought

658
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 1: it was really forcing, clunky dialogue. But then it got better,

659
00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 1: Like it started off really aggressive with COVID and trying

660
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,720
Speaker 1: to but then it got better and then the second

661
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:48,879
Speaker 1: episode was really heartbreaking. That's my initial thoughts. I'd agree

662
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 1: with that. There's one thing I want to say about

663
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 1: I loved everything here. I mean, at the end of

664
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 1: the day, it's I always said this, and like I

665
00:34:58,000 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 1: could watch Sexy the City of them in the closet.

666
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 1: They're just like I just love watching them. The second episode,

667
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,439
Speaker 1: the one thing that hit me the most was when

668
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 1: I saw the flowers. I said, Samantha, that was That

669
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 1: was the most touching moment I think of the second

670
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 1: episode was that I hate that she's not on it.

671
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 1: It bums me out that there's a little feud. Um.

672
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,280
Speaker 1: I wish, you know, for the sake of the fans

673
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 1: and the TV set all of it would be really

674
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 1: nice if they can, you know, and I really love

675
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 1: how they how they how they have like blended that

676
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 1: and like that the flower I was like, it's gonna

677
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:39,240
Speaker 1: be from Samantha. Samantha, I was like, but I still

678
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: I felt like there could have been a better speech

679
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 1: at the funeral. It's just me. I just felt a

680
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 1: little empty. I was just like, I'm not that sad.

681
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't. I mean, I know they

682
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,239
Speaker 1: had explained to Samantha's absence, and I'm glad they did

683
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:54,360
Speaker 1: and in the way they did right away. But the

684
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:57,880
Speaker 1: comments Brandon Curry had when they were walking together and

685
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,319
Speaker 1: then she said the h T M comment, I just like, yeah,

686
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 1: that was as yeah, that's like a little dick there. So,

687
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 1: but the flowers were the best part of the second episode.

688
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 1: And then it's going to pass away like that, it's

689
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 1: hard to see Stanford's character, you knowses away, so that

690
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is symbolic. It was, but the

691
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: flowers were a good touch. How do you think they're

692
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:23,799
Speaker 1: gonna do Stanford's death or like, where are they going

693
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:26,879
Speaker 1: to say about him? I don't know what's nice about

694
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 1: how this second episode ended. It was there alluding to

695
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 1: a lot of things, and how the series is going

696
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 1: to play out, and I think with his husband and

697
00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: the fighting is like over the top more so than

698
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: it was the movie. I'm like, maybe there's something. I

699
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: don't know if they will have him pass away. I

700
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:45,440
Speaker 1: really don't. I hope not. I can't deal with I

701
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: can't deal with Stanford dying too, like I just like

702
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 1: and just like that, I stopped watching. But actually, oh man,

703
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 1: I never thought I would say this because I'm not

704
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 1: carry on the show at all. I'm totally like a

705
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:05,919
Speaker 1: mix of Miranda and Charlotte all day. I have never

706
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 1: felt more like Carrie. And in that podcast episode because

707
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 1: of estimating, you talk about sex and I'm like, I

708
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 1: don't want to talk about this, She's like, like so uncomfortable,

709
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 1: and I'm like, the rabbit is fantastic. See, I just

710
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 1: I felt like her, and I just I feel I'm

711
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 1: going to turn away in the bedroom, so I can't,

712
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 1: like I'm so uncomfortable, right, I can't talk about her?

713
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 1: And big Yeah that like that, Like that just seemed

714
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 1: that was a little like you guys are in your fifties,

715
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:43,320
Speaker 1: Like why are we I don't I don't know, Like no,

716
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 1: I'm saying I'm not saying people can't masturbate in their fifties.

717
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, I mean, how long have they

718
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 1: been together? This exactly? Like never asked him and carry

719
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 1: like she's sexual, Like I don't want to. I didn't

720
00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 1: buy that. I didn't buy that either. I didn't buy it.

721
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 1: I was gonna talk about about the forest scenes sometimes.

722
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 1: I just saw the little force and like try. I know.

723
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 1: So my friend actually this morning because obviously we have

724
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:04,959
Speaker 1: nothing else harder to do but talk, you know, during work,

725
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 1: she was saying that we need to look at it

726
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 1: is a different chapter of Sex in the City. I

727
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 1: kept looking at like sex in the City. I'm like,

728
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 1: what their character wouldn't do that? So I was to

729
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 1: rephrase it into a new chapter that we're going into

730
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:22,319
Speaker 1: with these women in their fifties and reinventing themselves. I

731
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'll try. Well, Brittany, thanks for coming on.

732
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:28,239
Speaker 1: I love you for having me. I'll see you next

733
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:38,919
Speaker 1: year at the Friend's benefit One Tree Hill. Yeah, November eleven, Bie, guys, Christmas.

734
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 1: I love Bretty. She's so sweet. Yeah, she's great. Um,

735
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: Eastern would you think about all that? So many thoughts

736
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: something about that podcast. See if we can go back

737
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 1: to that really quickly. I was, okay, I when I

738
00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 1: heard the show is happening through, like Carrie's gonna have

739
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 1: a podcast, and I'm like, I like podcasts. This will

740
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 1: be fun. How how exciting? I thought she was gonna

741
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 1: have her own podcast. And no, no disrespect to ch

742
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 1: d as the character. I'm sure it's a fine podcast,

743
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 1: but like Jane is like not Janna. Sorry. Carry is

744
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 1: like a like fourth mic on that show, Like she's

745
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 1: like a sidekick, sidekick, And it really bummed me out

746
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 1: because I was like, Carry needs to be the host.

747
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 1: That should be Sex in the City of the podcast.

748
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 1: Like I thought they were going to convert the column

749
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 1: into a podcast, So that made me kind of bummed.

750
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 1: I agree they should have done that, but I think

751
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 1: they needed to bring in that new Ramirez character. I agree,

752
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 1: but I also do in a way, like the dynamic

753
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 1: of showing that they're older and that like even though

754
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 1: she was a columnist or whatever, you know, she used

755
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 1: to write the columns like she she's like I need

756
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:40,959
Speaker 1: you to do She's like, yeah, I talked about sex,

757
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:43,359
Speaker 1: but like that was sex then and like it's so

758
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 1: different now. What we talk about. And I do kind

759
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:48,759
Speaker 1: of like that dynamic of showing that as well as

760
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 1: like the Miranda with her professor. It just kind of

761
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 1: shows age and um making mistakes and what you say

762
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: and how you know things have changed. I kind of

763
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 1: like that dynamic of kind of showing like Miranda didn't

764
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 1: mean it in any way, but she's like, Oh I

765
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:08,359
Speaker 1: got this class because you're black. No, not because you're black,

766
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, it's like whole like she's a

767
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,359
Speaker 1: train wrecord. I love her, but I just think it's

768
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: kind of an interesting dynamic to also bring We have

769
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 1: another caller to bring in. But do you guys think

770
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:22,919
Speaker 1: they're making the characters too old, like acting too old?

771
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 1: Like they're like they're not old. They're in there like fifties,

772
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:28,320
Speaker 1: Like that's not like. But Steve especially, he's like, man,

773
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 1: what was that sunny? Like he hasn't hearing aid and

774
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 1: he's only he's like ninety years old. Like I don't know,

775
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 1: but I mean people were up and uproar about like

776
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 1: oh they didn't know what a podcast was. I'm like,

777
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 1: I don't really listen to many podcasts either, Like my

778
00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:43,879
Speaker 1: mom is a notework podcaster. You know, I think that's like, yeah,

779
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 1: I think that's kind of a stretch. I mean I

780
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 1: don't really I mean, I know what podcasts are, but

781
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 1: she basically was just saying she doesn't listen to them.

782
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 1: Rights not that she didn't know what they were, but

783
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 1: I don't really listen besides this podcast, so it's fair.

784
00:40:55,400 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 1: But you could listen to Oprah And I told, yeah, yeah,

785
00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 1: it's true. Um, okay, who's who's calling in? Let's bring

786
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:07,400
Speaker 1: in Gabby for another hot sex in the City and

787
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 1: just like that take, here comes Gabby. Gabby, Hi, my friend. Okay,

788
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,440
Speaker 1: what was what was your take? I love it, you know,

789
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:20,919
Speaker 1: I obviously love the show. I'm so happy that it's back.

790
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:24,839
Speaker 1: I didn't necessarily love how they're making a bunch of

791
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:28,320
Speaker 1: like fifty fifty five year old people act so ancient.

792
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, my mom is like fifty six and she

793
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: knows all about TikTok and Instagram and all that stuff.

794
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: So seen like Miranda and Carrie just act like, oh

795
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: like that they can't get into it. I'm like, that's

796
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:43,280
Speaker 1: just not realistic. And I think it does play into

797
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: like a little bit of like the stigma about women

798
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 1: in Hollywood, which kind of annoyed me because I feel

799
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 1: like that's one of the reasons that Samantha didn't come back,

800
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 1: because she like had these expectations that you know, she wanted,

801
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,239
Speaker 1: as like an older woman in Hollywood, to be like,

802
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 1: have the opportunity for rules out so I have just

803
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 1: sex in the city, and the franchise wouldn't give her that,

804
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:04,960
Speaker 1: so she like took that stand, and then for these

805
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:09,240
Speaker 1: characters to still be acting like portrayed so much older

806
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:12,399
Speaker 1: and out of touch than I think like fifty year

807
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:15,520
Speaker 1: old women actually are. That was a little bit annoying

808
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 1: to me. But I'm still going to be watching. I mean,

809
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 1: the trailers that I saw made it look like there

810
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 1: is a lot more um like character development in those

811
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:25,400
Speaker 1: ways and advances, So hopefully the rest of the season

812
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 1: will be a lot better. But from the first two episodes,

813
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 1: I was like, there there, it's a little bit far

814
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: fetched for me to think that they're so out of

815
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: touch with a lot of like normal technology, I hear you.

816
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 1: My only debate to that gap is Carrie always had

817
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 1: a flip phone. Remember, She's like, I don't know how

818
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 1: to use this thing, So that's the only thing that

819
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:46,040
Speaker 1: I'll give to my girl carry because she's like this,

820
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:48,279
Speaker 1: she's like, you know, what's her face? Hands are like

821
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 1: a you know, blackbird's like I don't know how to

822
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 1: use this place, you know. So that that is, to me,

823
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 1: has always stayed consistent with at least Carrie. And I

824
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,399
Speaker 1: would say that for Carrie, but not for Miranda, right

825
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: I can I can hear that can seem Randy to

826
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:03,920
Speaker 1: be more up on it, but I will say to like,

827
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 1: I I feel bad for all the comments that they're

828
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 1: getting about their looks, like their age, and it's like,

829
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 1: what do you expect? Like we age, women age and yes,

830
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 1: we might have a little fillers here there or botox,

831
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 1: or we might age with gray hair, but like what

832
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:22,319
Speaker 1: did you what did what did people honestly expect We're

833
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 1: gonna they're gonna look different, we are going to look

834
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 1: different in twenty years. I think they expect what a

835
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 1: lot of Hollywood is these days, and they're not necessarily that. Yeah, honestly,

836
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:36,920
Speaker 1: I mean I like that there's age now again, Like

837
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 1: you said, like, I think it's a little too much

838
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 1: like but yeah, I love like the physical aging like

839
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: I love them Miranda's rocking her gray hair, and I

840
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 1: kind of want the red back though, just for her

841
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Speaker 1: own power stance. I don't know something because I feel

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Speaker 1: like it's like, but yeah, m and like I think

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Speaker 1: all the women look beautiful, and I think that unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: like there's just gonna be trolls that are want to

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Speaker 1: say things about the way that women look, which again

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Speaker 1: is just like a greater issue I think within the

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Speaker 1: industry that women's appearances are so much heavily criticized compared

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Speaker 1: to men um But I mean, like, I love all

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Speaker 1: the girls and I think that they look fabulous and

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Speaker 1: I would love to look like that when I'm their age.

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Speaker 1: So girl. Amen, Well, Gab, thanks for coming on. I

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Speaker 1: appreciate it. Beb Yeah, thank you guys so much. Chas

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Speaker 1: Merry Christmas. I would also like to say before we

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Speaker 1: wrap out, it's obvious they're lending or their trending in

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Speaker 1: the direction where Miranda has a drinking problem because she

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Speaker 1: went to the bar and she's like, wait, like we

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Speaker 1: don't open till eleven or whatever. Oh wait, oh she

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Speaker 1: went twice to the bar. She went to that one

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Speaker 1: and in the funeral, yeah, like she's like, oh, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: which then trends me in the direction that she might

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Speaker 1: be frustrated, So maybe she's going to, you know, stray

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Speaker 1: a little bit, not saying drinking strays, but I'm just like, so,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm kind of like watching that storyline because

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Speaker 1: I feel like she's going to get a little I

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Speaker 1: think she might have a little Not saying drinking at

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Speaker 1: eleven is a problem, I think we all have on vacation,

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Speaker 1: but at a funeral, I'm sure. Yeah, well yeah, I

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Speaker 1: kind of took it as she was about to have

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Speaker 1: to go do a speech there. Oh yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 1: You got drunk in my wedding microgund the other time. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the other time too. But you know, I can see

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Speaker 1: that she has a little something going on there. But

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Speaker 1: I also think it'll be interesting to see the friendship

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Speaker 1: between like her and Charlotte and then Miranda. There's something

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Speaker 1: we're there too. I don't know. I guess we'll see. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So we just got a spoiler because my producer Amy

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Speaker 1: is listening, is watching the episode right now, so I

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Speaker 1: don't I haven't watched it, but apparently spoiler. If you

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Speaker 1: do not want to be spoiled, do not listen to this.

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Speaker 1: But apparently Big left a million dollars to Natasha. Why

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Speaker 1: would you leave money for your ex wife? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm so like confused by the whole thing. Right, if

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Speaker 1: I was Carrie, I'd be like, wait what because they

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Speaker 1: have probably already had a settlement, like like I would

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Speaker 1: like what out of the bigness of his heart? Like?

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Speaker 1: But that would would that bother you as a wife?

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Speaker 1: Because that'd bother me? For sure? What if they had

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Speaker 1: a kid together? They're a child, There's something else to this.

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Speaker 1: I feel like there's a reason. There's got to be

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Speaker 1: a reason. Right. Well, now I'm canceling the rest of

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Speaker 1: the day and I'm not going to operate land now

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Speaker 1: with the kids, and I'm going to sit on my

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Speaker 1: couch and watch this. Man. Oh major spoiler alert, Amy,

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Speaker 1: thanks for that. Wow okay, wow. Um. Well I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: end this episode because now I think I want to

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Speaker 1: watch it. Um. But yeah, here's to um, here's to

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Speaker 1: finding your reflection. By y'all,