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Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramas and this is the Street

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Speaker 1: Stoic Podcast, bringing your daily dose a timeless stoic philosophy

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Speaker 1: or remix for the hip hop generation. Now, with that

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Speaker 1: of inspiration. Now today we are going to be focusing

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Speaker 1: around the stoic idea of practicing resilience when faced with obstacles, failure,

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Speaker 1: or tragedy. But more specifically, when we talk about these

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Speaker 1: ideas of obstacles or tragedies that inevitably are going to

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Speaker 1: get thrown our way in life, it's really thinking about

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Speaker 1: pain in a different way, right And I believe that

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Speaker 1: if we can of correct the mindset that we have

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Speaker 1: around the idea of pain, it won't go away. Obviously

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Speaker 1: it's a part of human life, but it may have

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Speaker 1: a little bit less of an effect on our day

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Speaker 1: to day and we may be able to sort of find,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, some sort of peace when we're feeling

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Speaker 1: pain in some of those dark moments. Right now, record

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Speaker 1: that stood out to me kind of talking about this

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Speaker 1: sort of of topic from that lens. It's by Russ

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Speaker 1: and it's called Adventure, and in it he says, when

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Speaker 1: I was at my lowest, had to hold my head

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Speaker 1: the highest reconnect with silence. Otherwise it's hard to hear

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Speaker 1: the guidance thinking that I got a broken version of

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Speaker 1: success until I realized this is the version I'm supposed

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Speaker 1: to get. I see the way the roads connect if

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Speaker 1: you just keep driving. And he's said a couple different

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Speaker 1: things here, but I think the kind of grandiose idea

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Speaker 1: behind these lyrics that I pulled. He's talking about the

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Speaker 1: acknowledgment that the low moments that he's facing are in

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Speaker 1: fact a part of the process. Right. And he's sort

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Speaker 1: of talking about, you know, achieving success and it not

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Speaker 1: feelings as he thought it would, feeling like he got

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Speaker 1: a broken version of it, right. And I think you know,

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Speaker 1: even in life, if you're feeling like the moment that

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Speaker 1: you're experiencing, if you feel like you're being robbed of

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Speaker 1: have to have to sort of come to terms with

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Speaker 1: the fact that this is where you're supposed to be

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Speaker 1: right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, eventually

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Speaker 1: it's going to make sense. These tough moments that you'll

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Speaker 1: inettedly get through will provide you with with you know,

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Speaker 1: the the version of life that you're hoping for, or

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Speaker 1: something even better, as it usually ends up turning out. Right.

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Speaker 1: And this relates to a quote from one of the stokes,

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Speaker 1: Marcus Aurelius, where he says pain is neither unbearable nor

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Speaker 1: unending as long as you keep in mind it's limits

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Speaker 1: and don't magnify them in your imagination. And he's talking

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Speaker 1: understanding that it only lasts for but so much time. Right,

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Speaker 1: It's not something that you're going to be feeling permanently

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Speaker 1: when a tragedy happens, when an obstacles thrown your way

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Speaker 1: and you are feeling some type of way about it,

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Speaker 1: knowing that that feeling is only going to last for

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Speaker 1: but so long, right, and keeping that in your mind

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Speaker 1: and not allowing the sort of idea of pain and

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Speaker 1: the disappointment to then magnify it in your brain and

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Speaker 1: make it become something even bigger than it already is. Right.

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Speaker 1: And this actually reminded me of a quote from a

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Speaker 1: book that I had been reading recently, the Prophet Right,

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Speaker 1: And this quote kind of brought me a lot of

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Speaker 1: a lot of peace, and I want to own to

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Speaker 1: read an excerpt from it where he says, much of

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Speaker 1: your pain is self chosen. It is the bitter potion

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Speaker 1: by which the physician within you heals your sick self.

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Speaker 1: And sort of viewing pain through this lens of the

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Speaker 1: of depression, anxiety, whatever it might be. These are our

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Speaker 1: moments where my body, my internal self. He talks about

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Speaker 1: the physician within you. It's going through a healing process

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Speaker 1: and this is a necessary part of that process. And again,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't make those feelings you know of pain any

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Speaker 1: relate to this on a pretty deep level. I mean,

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Speaker 1: particularly this year was a tough one in many ways,

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Speaker 1: through an incredible year of transformation as just a human being. Right,

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Speaker 1: Like I got into therapy again, I really dug deep

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Speaker 1: And you know, without that painful experience, I would have

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Speaker 1: never evolved into the person that's speaking to you today.

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Speaker 1: And that has been life changing. Right, It's completely changed

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Speaker 1: know that moving forward into this next year and beyond,

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Speaker 1: a far higher level because of what I went through,

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Speaker 1: because of the pain that I experienced and the lessons

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Speaker 1: that it taught me. Now, with that said, we have

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Speaker 1: Marcus Relius, I've given you some insight into my own life.

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Speaker 1: Now let's talk about you and how you can make

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Speaker 1: it your mantra for today. But first to take a

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Speaker 1: quick break and then we'll be right back, all right.

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Speaker 1: So we have heard the words of Russ, we have

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Speaker 1: heard from Marcus Aurelius, one of the stokes, you've heard

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Speaker 1: from myself, all around this idea of practicing resilience when

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Speaker 1: faced with obstacles, failure or tragedy. Now let's talk about

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Speaker 1: how you can make it your mantra for today. And

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Speaker 1: I really do think, you know, like a lot of

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Speaker 1: things in our lives, the healing process or the growth process,

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Speaker 1: it really starts within and how we choose to see

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Speaker 1: things in life right, and pain and obstacles and failure

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Speaker 1: they do show up, that they don't just upend our

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Speaker 1: a healthy manner, that we're actually able to see their value,

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Speaker 1: because there's value in absolutely everything. Right, So I think

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Speaker 1: it all starts with transforming our idea of pain, recognizing

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Speaker 1: And I think for me that's sort of removed some

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Speaker 1: whatever moment you're going through. Right. And I think in

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Speaker 1: now seeing the value in pain, and you're really trying

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Speaker 1: And I think that is sort of what we talk

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Speaker 1: all we've been talking about, where you know pain has

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Speaker 1: its limits, and you can't allow yourself to magnify the

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Speaker 1: amount of pain in your imagination making it worse. Right.

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Speaker 1: Where As we're talking about being proactive and changing your

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Speaker 1: relationship with pain, you're actually diminishing the amount of power

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Speaker 1: Russ is talking about sort of acknowledging that even though

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Speaker 1: exactly as he would hope and he's not happy with

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Speaker 1: his life in that moment, knowing that it's all a

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Speaker 1: part of the plan, right, this is all a perfect

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Speaker 1: part of where he's supposed to arrive to eventually in

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Speaker 1: his life. And then even for me in my own

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Speaker 1: personal experience, you know, having gone through an incredibly difficult

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Speaker 1: for having gone through that experience because I'm so proud

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Speaker 1: sort of next evolution of myself has allowed me to

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Speaker 1: that were holding me back in both my personal life

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Speaker 1: I'm incredibly grateful for having gone through. Right, I'm a

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Speaker 1: better person as a result. Now. With that said, thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for checking out The Street podcast. Do

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Speaker 1: your best to apply these concepts we've discussed today in

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Speaker 1: your everyday life and I'll catch you next time. The

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