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Speaker 1: kiss that from this day after election Tuesday, it's Ryan

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Speaker 1: Seacrest here. You know, you can text into the show four,

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Speaker 1: one or two seven any time about anything really, So

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Speaker 1: if you can't get three, you can do that. You

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Speaker 1: can also text these questions for this segment. Do we

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Speaker 1: have music for this segment? Yes, Relationship coaches, intimacy coaches,

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Speaker 1: fascinating stuff that everybody's going through. I love it. I

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Speaker 1: love these questions that we get. Yeah, me too. So

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Speaker 1: let me bring in our expert of the week and

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Speaker 1: we rotate Erica Angela, Erica, good morning. How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm great? How are you? I'm great. I'm seeing here.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be hosting Relationships Without Borders on Bravo coming

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Speaker 1: later in the month. Huh. It's called Love Without Borders

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Speaker 1: and this is the first time I am actually getting

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Speaker 1: to talk about it publicly. Thank you, Love great, Love

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Speaker 1: without Borders starring Relationship Coach Eric and I'll be tuning it.

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Speaker 1: I'll be tuning in great stuff. Congratulations, that's great. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Now we're gonna just shift all of this over to

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Speaker 1: our listeners who've been texting in heard you're coming on.

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Speaker 1: So this first question is to get into it is

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Speaker 1: from the three one oh text question what do you

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Speaker 1: do when you're significant other just won't go places because

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Speaker 1: they're not interested or they are quote not that guy

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Speaker 1: I guess means doesn't want to hang out with you

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Speaker 1: in certain places. Like what do you do to motivate

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Speaker 1: them to want to be with you? Yeah, So listen,

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Speaker 1: like some people are introvert. Some people, you know, they

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Speaker 1: just don't want to be out in certain areas. That

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Speaker 1: doesn't fight with their personalities, but at the end of

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Speaker 1: the day with some relationships are compromised. So in a

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Speaker 1: scenario like this, you've got a good cop bad cops

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Speaker 1: of scenario. And what I mean is this like good

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Speaker 1: cop in terms of create a win win situation. Look,

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Speaker 1: I know you don't like going to these places, but

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Speaker 1: if you can just come with me for an hour,

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Speaker 1: that would mean the world to me and tell them

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Speaker 1: like how you feel. And then the bad cop is

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Speaker 1: the reality of like, hey, let's then if you don't

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Speaker 1: start meeting me halfway, I'm going to start resenting you.

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Speaker 1: It's gonna start pissing me off. And I know you

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Speaker 1: don't want drama in our relationships. I don't want drama

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Speaker 1: in our relationship. So let's avoid the drama. Let's negotiate.

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Speaker 1: Meet me in the middle. It would mean the world

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Speaker 1: to me. Tell him how you feel about it. I

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Speaker 1: like that advice. And I'm watching White Lotus. I saw

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Speaker 1: the first episode and I don't know the couple's names yet,

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Speaker 1: but the guy says to his wife, Hey, make an effort.

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Speaker 1: It's like, make an effort. Show me. Have you seen it? No?

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Speaker 1: Not the second seasons in Sicily can't all right, Erica,

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Speaker 1: that's off topic. Here we go back to the text

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Speaker 1: six to my husband of three years walked away from

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Speaker 1: our home, our marriage, and our life. Uh. He says

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Speaker 1: it was my attitude. I found multiple women he was

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Speaker 1: secretly messaging on his phone. He says, I invaded his

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Speaker 1: privacy by looking in his phone. After I felt this

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Speaker 1: behavior changing, she feels like she did something wrong. That's

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Speaker 1: a lot to sort of go through. But what do

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Speaker 1: you think, ran I have one word for you, gas lighting,

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Speaker 1: and it's gas it is I think it's one word. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's gas lighting this out of her. Because look, when

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Speaker 1: a woman starts getting attitude, it's because she knows her

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Speaker 1: intuitive little knowing is going something's not right here, and

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Speaker 1: so instead of just speaking to that, we get has

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Speaker 1: stopped and we start throwing attitude. And the reality is,

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Speaker 1: I bet she spends something long before, but she didn't

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Speaker 1: know how to confront it. This guy is basically saying like, oh,

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Speaker 1: no, no no, no, let's not confront the mirror fact that

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Speaker 1: I'm messaging other women, which is a violation of our trust,

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Speaker 1: which is a violation of the valve that I made

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Speaker 1: with you. No, don't hold me accountable or responsible for that.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to shift it on you, and I'm going

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Speaker 1: to shift it on an attitude and invading my privacy.

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Speaker 1: And it's like a woman is not going to invade

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Speaker 1: your privacy unless she knows that you're withholding information from her.

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Speaker 1: Gas lighting. So true, right, one final one here, six

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Speaker 1: the day, Look, we're human beings. We're wired for a community,

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Speaker 1: We're wired for connection, and so if you're not finding

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Speaker 1: it with your boss, I mean, you've got to form

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Speaker 1: your own little group because at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: managers too immature to create that kind of environment, you've

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Speaker 1: got to be proactive and create it for yourself. You

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Speaker 1: gotta follow Erica. She's at the Erica with an a

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Speaker 1: Erica Angelo on Instagram and Sierra Bravo later in the month.

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Speaker 1: Great to talk to you and great advice. Erica, Thanks

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Speaker 1: for coming on, good luck, we'll talk again. Yes, thank you.

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Speaker 1: By relationship ex at me all of worried about like

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Speaker 1: what we don't know ourselves. You know, it's pretty crazy

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Speaker 1: being expert in relationships. I always want to ask, are

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Speaker 1: you good at your own stuff? Then we should start

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Speaker 1: with that next week, next week? Alright? Paying the bill

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