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Speaker 1: Thank you if you subjects. There were way too many

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Speaker 1: people in one bed. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married

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Speaker 1: for twenty two years, and I have a big problem

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Speaker 1: with my husband. My husband's coworker recently bought a motorcycle

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Speaker 1: and my husband wants one. So he showed me pictures

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Speaker 1: of the motorcycle on his phone. As I swiped through

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Speaker 1: the pictures, my husband walked outside, and so I kept

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Speaker 1: swiping through his pictures. I went as far back as

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Speaker 1: March and came across a video of my husband naked.

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Speaker 1: Video I was done two days before my fiftieth birthday,

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Speaker 1: and it was in a hotel room that had a.

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Speaker 2: Jocozie in it.

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Speaker 1: There were six or seven people in there in one bed,

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Speaker 1: including two other naked men. My husband laid on the

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Speaker 1: My husband came back inside and I didn't say a word.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to ask him all about the art orgy,

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Speaker 1: but I needed to get some information first. Later on,

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Speaker 1: I called my brother to ask him what it meant

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Speaker 1: if three guys were naked in one room. He said,

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Speaker 1: it is never good for a group of men to

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Speaker 1: be naked together, unless they're in a locker room. I

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Speaker 1: he knew exactly why I asked. He reminded me that

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Speaker 1: have been rumors about my husband being into a lot

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Speaker 1: I don't want my marriage of twenty two years to

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Speaker 2: But there were.

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Speaker 1: Way too many naked people in the bed. Do I

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Speaker 1: take my brother's advice and leave or talk to my

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Speaker 1: We need to well, well, okay, all right, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Sure this was a shocker to you. I'm sure it was.

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Speaker 1: I mean, who wants to find out that their husband

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Speaker 2: Why would he keep.

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Speaker 1: Something like this on his phone anyway? I mean does

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Speaker 1: Did he want to get caught subconsciously? And it seems

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Speaker 1: like everyone in town, according to your brother, knows anyway

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Speaker 1: but you? And what a shame After twenty two years

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Speaker 1: of marriage. He's brought unimaginable pain and embarrassment and humiliation

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Speaker 1: mean so. But what I don't get though, is why

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Speaker 1: information did you need? You have him on tape in

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Speaker 1: an orgy, You have the evidence, you on his side

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Speaker 1: out of this? And listen don't get me wrong. I

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Speaker 1: twenty two years of marriage with this man. But please,

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Speaker 1: but believe what's in front of your eyes. Please believe

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Speaker 1: that and base your decision on facts and not the

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Speaker 1: get out of this particular mess. And this is really

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Speaker 1: way more than just a mess. This is a tot

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Speaker 3: I'm so damn confused.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this damn man.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, ladies and gentlemen, you're about to enter twisted man

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Speaker 3: Let us begin been married twenty two years.

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Speaker 4: All this started over a damn motorcycle. Was before I

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Speaker 4: your phone with your wife? And you know you do wrong, man.

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Speaker 4: I swiped through the pictures after you looked at the motorcycle,

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Speaker 4: way back to March and you came across this video

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Speaker 4: your husband had and video of your husband naked. Now,

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Speaker 4: the video was two days for your fiftieth birthday. It

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Speaker 4: was in a hotel room that had a Jacuzi in it.

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Speaker 4: The here would have let her change. That was six

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Speaker 4: or seven people in there on the bed. Kind of

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Speaker 4: bed was this? That ain't gonna California King Six seven

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Speaker 3: Al's was in there. Some of the best top cookie makers.

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Speaker 4: In the world Keepler airs. Now, this was inside of

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Speaker 4: a treehouse. I don't understand how six seven people and

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Speaker 4: two naked me that's what was on the tape. Well,

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Speaker 4: let's stop hitt on and see. Yeah, it's the two

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Speaker 2: That all right, old thing. Just hold it right there.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 2: My Strawberry letter for today, the subject there were way.

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Speaker 1: Too many people in one bed. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject there were way too many people in one bed.

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Speaker 4: All right, This lady thumbing, threw her husband's phone. He

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Speaker 4: didn't gave They've been married twenty two years. He want

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Speaker 4: a motorcycle, showing her the picture of the motorcycle, left

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Speaker 4: up with the phone, went outside. She went all the

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Speaker 4: way back to March found this picture video of her

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Speaker 4: husband niked. Now, this was two days before her fiftieth birthday.

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Speaker 4: They was in the hotel room, had a jacuzzi in it,

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Speaker 4: Where is this hotel as strong?

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Speaker 3: And two of the people in the bed was naked. Mean, oh,

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Speaker 3: I just swear. It's confusing.

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Speaker 4: Then your hug laid on the bed in between two

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Speaker 3: Now you gotta understand why the video ended.

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Speaker 2: Okay, break that down.

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Speaker 4: Because what was happening after that? You know, that was

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Speaker 3: They was just doing a copy of the video. He

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Speaker 4: He wonted what about something happened, something got out of hand.

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Speaker 3: You didn't need to see that. Then your husband came

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Speaker 4: Your hands are shaking you, your heart was raising you.

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Speaker 3: And you ain't say a word.

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Speaker 4: I wanted to ask him about the orgy, but I

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Speaker 4: needed to get more information first. Now I'm sorry, man,

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Speaker 4: you what more information was you looking for? That was

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Speaker 4: He managed somehow to find a crack between two women.

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Speaker 3: Because this bed is crowded.

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Speaker 4: Six seven people in there, the load a piece of

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Speaker 4: sheep was showing. He jammed as down in there and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, Now.

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Speaker 3: You need some more information.

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Speaker 4: So you called your brother to ask you what it

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Speaker 3: And then he told you a fact. It ain't ever

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Speaker 4: See, if I'm in a room, I'm just saying, ill,

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Speaker 4: I must be the only one in there that zips

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Speaker 4: can be the only one in here. It'd be eight, nine, eleven, thirteen.

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Speaker 3: People in here.

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Speaker 4: But I got to be the only one in here,

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Speaker 4: that got to let the toil and seat up. When

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Speaker 4: even when I come out of the people go, Steve,

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Speaker 4: why you leave to see them?

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Speaker 3: That's what would have to happen because I'm the only

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Speaker 4: So and then you asked your brother about it, and

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Speaker 3: Always in the room?

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Speaker 4: Let talk?

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Speaker 3: So the rumors is true.

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Speaker 4: Your husband is into some other things all Jesus w Yeah,

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Speaker 3: This is not a rumor.

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Speaker 4: I told you brother, it was all true, and you've

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Speaker 4: seen it for yourself. He said, what, you're gonna leave

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Speaker 4: your husband because there's nothing else to talk about. Now?

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Speaker 4: You don't want your marriage twenty two years to end

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Speaker 4: this way? Okay, how do you want it to end?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 4: Do you want it to end with you would a

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Speaker 4: uh sexually transmitted disease? Do you want it to end

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Speaker 4: with you finding out some more people pregnant. Do you

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Speaker 4: then you get mad?

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Speaker 3: Y'all get in a fight? How you want it to end?

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Speaker 3: Because it's ended to end.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but there were way too many nicked people in

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Speaker 4: the bed, ma'am. If it's one person, and why do

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Speaker 4: you keep saying it was way too many nicked people

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Speaker 4: by the men. Now I can understand that, see, because

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Speaker 4: I guess. I guess I'm just assuming as a woman,

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Speaker 3: You dealing with, you can fight that fight.

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Speaker 4: But now you're thinking if he has an appetite for

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Speaker 4: trouble for you. So that is a dilemma that you have.

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Speaker 4: But one naked person in the bed is a problem. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: he had a bunch. Now, your brother then told you,

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Speaker 4: but you don't want to do that. So do I

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Speaker 4: take my brother's advice and leave, or do I talk

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Speaker 4: to my husband and hit his side of the story. First,

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Speaker 4: I would love for you to talk to your husband,

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Speaker 4: Say you can hear his side of the store.

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Speaker 2: How can he lie his way out of your cane.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Charley Shearley, I asked, then I'm gonna show you.

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Speaker 4: Go ahead and ask me.

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Speaker 1: I happen to go through your phone and I saw it.

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Speaker 3: You went through my phone?

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Speaker 2: look at the picture? Yeah I did.

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Speaker 3: You went through my phone.

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Speaker 2: You heard what I said I want?

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Speaker 4: Oh hell no. So now we got a marriage. Well,

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Speaker 4: I can't trust you with my phone. Ain't this a bottle?

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Speaker 2: Oh that's how you're gonna try to lie on. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's that's weak.

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Speaker 3: I know it's weak, but that's all.

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