1 00:00:00,800 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio. 3 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:09,640 Speaker 2: Hello everyone, Welcome to the Almost Podcast. I am so 4 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:12,800 Speaker 2: thrilled to have on the guest that we have on 5 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 2: today for an in depth episode. It's Beca Martinez. She 6 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 2: hasn't been here in so long and so much has 7 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 2: happened in her life since. 8 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 3: When was the last time we talked on here? 9 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:25,760 Speaker 2: Oh my god. I want to feel like I was. 10 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:26,840 Speaker 3: Probably pregnant with Ruth. 11 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 2: Probably you have, may have been pregnant with Frank. 12 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:35,040 Speaker 3: Some other baby. But I haven't been pregnant in three years, 13 00:00:35,159 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 3: so it's been a long time. 14 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:39,520 Speaker 2: That actually is quite a bit of a gap. Because 15 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 2: when you announce your pregnancy, which you did in a 16 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 2: very interesting way, I have so many what questions we 17 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:49,199 Speaker 2: can ask you, like teased it up so like you 18 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 2: did multiple Instagram reels and tiktoks hyping us up for 19 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,040 Speaker 2: a big announcement. It was either like you were going 20 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 2: off the grid and like literally living in the middle 21 00:00:56,920 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 2: of nowhere you're getting a TV show, or you were pregnant. Yeah, 22 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 2: and I think I was between the pregnancy and the 23 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 2: TV show because the going off the grid, like you 24 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:15,320 Speaker 2: really are entrenched in your social media, like you're so 25 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 2: good at it. So I didn't think that was it. 26 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:20,360 Speaker 2: Because what you do, which is awesome and I really 27 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 2: need to take note of it, is you take every 28 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 2: January completely off. 29 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:27,199 Speaker 3: Yeah. I do like six weeks, which is so funny 30 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 3: because people forget that and then they're like, oh, like, a, 31 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 3: were you guys filming something during that time, or like 32 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 3: maybe you were pregnant. I'm like, no, that's just like 33 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 3: my thing. I did it last year, I did it 34 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 3: this year. I'm gonna do it again. I do like 35 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,920 Speaker 3: I start the week before Christmas and then I take 36 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 3: that off for like five or six weeks through the 37 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 3: end of January, which January is usually slow anyway for 38 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 3: like partnerships and like social media stuff. And for me, 39 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:52,480 Speaker 3: it's just like the perfect reset and it gets me 40 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 3: all reinvigorated and like, cause you know, it can be 41 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 3: a drag being on social media, but then taking that 42 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 3: time totally off, when I get back on, I'm like 43 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 3: refreshed and ready to go. 44 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. 45 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 2: I was like, Becka knows how to take time off, 46 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:08,639 Speaker 2: go off the grid if she wants to. So I 47 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:10,959 Speaker 2: think that's not the option, but the TV option was 48 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 2: definitely thing, and I thought that possibly the pregnancy thing 49 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 2: was sort of like a thing to throw us off. 50 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 2: You you and Grayson just you know, you are fertile. 51 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 2: You are you guys don't have any fertility issues thankfully, yes, 52 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:33,079 Speaker 2: which is very nice. But I remember reading or seeing 53 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 2: on your Instagram or something that you guys were gonna 54 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,959 Speaker 2: like not actively try for a while because you wanted 55 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:41,519 Speaker 2: to just kind of enjoy this age in which the 56 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:44,079 Speaker 2: kids are kind of like getting out of the diaper 57 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,240 Speaker 2: phase and like the very they're getting more into an 58 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 2: independent phase, and you're gonna take a while, especially since 59 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 2: you're so young. You are, what are you twenty eight, 60 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:51,680 Speaker 2: twenty seventy. 61 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 3: Eight, it's yeah. 62 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, look at you. You used to be the 63 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:58,079 Speaker 2: little twenty two year old from The Bachelor, and now 64 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 2: you're twenty eight and a model of almost I. 65 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 3: Know we had talked about. What we had really said 66 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 3: is like when the kids are four and five, like 67 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:06,639 Speaker 3: that's when we want to start trying. So like it 68 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 3: definitely wasn't off the table, but I mean, at this point, 69 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 3: when you do the math, like Ruth's gonna be she'll 70 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 3: be five next February, babies do like September thirtieth, October first, 71 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 3: October thirtieth, Yeah, September thirtieth, October first, So she'll be 72 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:23,640 Speaker 3: almost five. Frank's going to be like three in some months. 73 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 3: And so when you really like look at it in 74 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 3: the grand scheme of things, it was kind of like, Okay, well, 75 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 3: you know that's what's the difference. 76 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 2: So, yeah, I can't believe Frank is almost three. 77 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 3: I know. No, that's how I feel too. But like Ruth, 78 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 3: I keep calling her a toddler, She's not a toddler anymore. 79 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:44,839 Speaker 3: She's like she's like a little kid now, like she's 80 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 3: like almost kindergarten age. Frank two is like yeah. So anyway, 81 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 3: Gray said, he's really excited. He's like, all right, because 82 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 3: now we're gonna have another little baby. And it does 83 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 3: go by fast. Like of course I'm nervous about, you know, 84 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 3: going through the newborn sleep deprivation phase thing again, and 85 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 3: you know, we do cloth diapers and all that, so 86 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 3: like the first year and a half are kind of 87 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 3: a bitch, but it goes by so fast. 88 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 4: So I don't know, Ashley, why were you thinking that 89 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 4: she was just going like why were you hinting at 90 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:16,719 Speaker 4: going off the grid. I watched all this stuff, by 91 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 4: the way, it's really good. 92 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:22,799 Speaker 2: She said that that was one of the three options. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 93 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 3: I mean I'm interesting all three. I don't want to 94 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 3: go completely off the grid, but I think it would 95 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 3: be fun to kind of go somewhere some more remote 96 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:31,280 Speaker 3: and you know, blog it and kind of document it 97 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 3: and do that. Not totally like. 98 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:35,719 Speaker 2: I can see you doing that though, because like you know, 99 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 2: you rock climbed camp, you do like all these adventury things, 100 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,479 Speaker 2: and then you cloth diaper, you know, so you're like 101 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 2: runty like that. 102 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 3: I would like to do that and make it a 103 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 3: TV show. 104 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 105 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 3: Maybe we could, you know, get that off the ground 106 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 3: in like three years, and then I could get pregnant 107 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 3: on the TV show. So maybe I could do all three. 108 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 4: And if so, that's an interesting statement because I've always 109 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:01,839 Speaker 4: imagined that you're somebody that like being on television, like 110 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 4: this was a thing that happened. 111 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 2: Am I wrong? 112 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 3: That's so funny. Someone else said that in like a comment. 113 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 3: They were like, well, I don't think she would ever 114 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,479 Speaker 3: do reality TV again. And I'm like, you know a heartbeat, 115 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:13,160 Speaker 3: are you kidding me? I love it? 116 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 4: Okay, walk me through that, like, why is this something 117 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:16,240 Speaker 4: you enjoy? 118 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 3: Well, The Bachelor definitely didn't just happen. I watched The 119 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:22,720 Speaker 3: Bachelor for years and I was like, I'm gonna be 120 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:27,479 Speaker 3: on that show one day, Like next time i'm single, 121 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 3: because like I always had a boyfriend, I was like, 122 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 3: next time i'm single, I'm going on the show. This 123 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 3: guy broke up with me. And the next month I 124 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 3: was like, great, I'm gonna go to a Bachelor audition. 125 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:38,719 Speaker 3: Now's my time. I thought it was going to be 126 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 3: Peter what's his face? Yeah, cross, And so it's like, 127 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:43,720 Speaker 3: I'm gonna go audition. 128 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:46,039 Speaker 2: Bachelor who never was I know? 129 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:49,520 Speaker 3: And I'm glad though I'm glad that it ended up. 130 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 3: It was kind of cool because on my season I 131 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 3: didn't even know who Ari was and that was kind 132 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:55,919 Speaker 3: of like the fun of it. But anyway, so I 133 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 3: went to the audition and it was so funny because 134 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 3: my mom doesn't like reality TV and she's like, I 135 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 3: don't go to this audition otherwise you're gonna end up 136 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 3: on this stupid show. And then yeah, then I got 137 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 3: cast and that was and I told my dad and 138 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 3: he said at the time, he was kind of like, Okay, sure, Becca, 139 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 3: but I was like, no, I'm gonna go on the show. 140 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:18,159 Speaker 3: And I do think that like if I go like 141 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 3: far on the show, and if I like make a 142 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,599 Speaker 3: good impression on the show, like I could really turn 143 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 3: this like into a career. 144 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:28,360 Speaker 2: That was with my dad. He was like, okay, right. 145 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:30,560 Speaker 3: I was like, you know, I see these girls like 146 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:34,039 Speaker 3: they're they're making like they can quit their jobs, you know, 147 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:37,599 Speaker 3: like I think I could do this, So yeah, I 148 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:39,479 Speaker 3: mean that was kind of that was kind of my plan. 149 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 3: And I totally was open to, like, well, if I 150 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,359 Speaker 3: fall in love and like find my husband on the show, great, 151 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 3: like I'm down, why not? I was ruling out that possibility, 152 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 3: so yeah. And then now, I mean, I I just 153 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 3: think reality TV is is so much fun. So I 154 00:06:55,520 --> 00:06:57,440 Speaker 3: would one hundred percent to it again, especially if I 155 00:06:57,480 --> 00:06:59,359 Speaker 3: had a little more control over production, if it was 156 00:06:59,360 --> 00:07:01,240 Speaker 3: something that like I was helping to produce, I mean, 157 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 3: that would be incredible. 158 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:04,840 Speaker 2: Beca. That's why I think, like, do you have like 159 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 2: a cool diconomy where you're like, oh, I love reality tea, 160 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 2: but I've told you it again. But at the same time, 161 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 2: you try not to have a TV in the house, 162 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 2: and then you like make crafts and only thrift, but 163 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 2: you'll definitely do the influencer thing. Oh yeah, we can 164 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 2: totally trust you that when you're doing ads that like 165 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 2: they're really authentic, I know that you wouldn't do anything 166 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 2: that you don't really like. It's really you just have 167 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 2: really found your niche. And it just makes a lot 168 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 2: of sense to me. 169 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just think it's you know, life's all about balance, 170 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:36,440 Speaker 3: and I don't know, even with social media. Like I 171 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:38,200 Speaker 3: was just saying to Gray the other day, I'm like, man, 172 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 3: I gotta like delete my TikTok app or something, because 173 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 3: like with I don't know, I've over the past few 174 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:47,559 Speaker 3: years had to find so many different ways to balance 175 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 3: things out, you know how it goes. I'm like, man, 176 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 3: I think I have to delete my TikTok app because 177 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 3: I like, I'll spend forty five minutes scrolling on this 178 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:56,840 Speaker 3: and afterwards I'll feel like legit, like anxiety in my 179 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:59,200 Speaker 3: body and like don't know what to do with myself. 180 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 3: And I'm like, Okay, I have to like put curbs 181 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 3: on how I spend my time doing something that's although 182 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 3: it's you know, tied to my job, I still have 183 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 3: to put up barriers and be careful. Justin. 184 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 4: And my wife has a she's a good scroller at night, 185 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 4: she can really go at it. But I think she 186 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 4: has an app or it's a setting on the phone 187 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 4: where once she hits I think like twenty five minutes 188 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 4: or thirty minutes of total scrolling for the day, it 189 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 4: shuts it off. She can't get back onto the app 190 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 4: for the rest of the day. 191 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 3: Okay, I need to get that. Yeah, I have the 192 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 3: little phone thing where it's like, you know, you've reached 193 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:36,560 Speaker 3: your time limit and then I'm like fifteen more minutes, fifty. 194 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:38,839 Speaker 2: She has something to really low. 195 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 4: I'm sure there's a work around it. She could like 196 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 4: do it, but it's like not easy, and she set 197 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 4: herself to that. So I hear her say Okay, I'm done, 198 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 4: and she's done. 199 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 3: Smart. It's honestly easy. It's hard on TikTok. These algorithms 200 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 3: these days just like know exactly what to put in 201 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 3: your face for you to like stay on the app 202 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 3: as long as possible. But anyway, I digress. 203 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 2: Let's talk about motherhood a little bit more and your announcement. 204 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 2: So you did it in a very special way. You 205 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 2: made a claimation it's like stop motion. What starts doing 206 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 2: claimation stop motion, like I know claymation is the actual 207 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 2: like you know the clay figures. 208 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:12,719 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think stop motion is just like because you 209 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:14,559 Speaker 3: could do stop motion like with your body, you know 210 00:09:14,600 --> 00:09:17,719 Speaker 3: when you see people on the ground and like doing it's. 211 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 2: Like the movement. 212 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I think it's just the stop motion is 213 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 3: just the idea of like taking a series of pictures 214 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 3: and then putting them together to make like a little movie. 215 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:29,559 Speaker 2: So in the movie, you show yourself taking a pregnancy 216 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 2: test and then going and throwing it at Grayson, who 217 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 2: is for those who don't know her fiance, and he 218 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:39,199 Speaker 2: has a shocked, like dead face on. So tell us 219 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 2: if it was extremely accurate or like did you just 220 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 2: do it for fun? Like did you did you? Were 221 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 2: you like Grayson, I think I'm pregnant again. I think 222 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:48,679 Speaker 2: I'm pregnant again. 223 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:52,240 Speaker 3: Or I was saying before I even took a test, 224 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 3: it was so funny, like the chances of me getting pregnant, 225 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 3: like from what I conceived was really like so ridiculous, 226 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 3: Slee Low, We've been really careful the last few years, 227 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:06,319 Speaker 3: but I just like knew I was like dude, I 228 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 3: am going I'm sure I'm going to get like pregnant. 229 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:11,760 Speaker 3: And so before I even took a test, I was like, 230 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 3: I'm pregnant. Gray, I'm convinced I'm pregnant. Like I'm pregnant, 231 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 3: I'm pregnant. And so I took the test like eight 232 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 3: days before my period, and I was supposed to leave 233 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:20,440 Speaker 3: for a flight that morning, so it was six thirty 234 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 3: in the morning. I was like, Okay, I'm just going 235 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:26,680 Speaker 3: to take a test. It was the faintest shadow of 236 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:29,920 Speaker 3: a line I think I have. Yeah, Oh my god. 237 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 3: It was like if I probably would have thrown away 238 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:36,079 Speaker 3: the test if I hadn't been like looking so hard 239 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 3: for it. But I saw like the faintest shadow took 240 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:41,840 Speaker 3: another song, like the faintest shadow in the world, and 241 00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:45,079 Speaker 3: I was like, I'm like, yep, that's it. So I 242 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 3: don't even remember what his reaction was. I think he 243 00:10:47,200 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 3: was just like, oh my god, like are you kidding me? 244 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 3: Because he's so I mean, I know him so well, 245 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:55,679 Speaker 3: so I think it's hard for other people to understand. 246 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 3: But Gray is always like, I don't want any more kids. 247 00:10:57,520 --> 00:10:58,959 Speaker 3: I don't like That's what he'll say. That's what he 248 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 3: would say on the podcast and all that, like I 249 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 3: don't want anymore, but I know him and he said 250 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,520 Speaker 3: that with like every kid, but he loves being a dad. 251 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:11,960 Speaker 3: When they're born, he's obsessed with them. And look he's 252 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:14,960 Speaker 3: not putting that much work into preventing it. So I 253 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:18,080 Speaker 3: mean every time at the beginning it's been like, oh 254 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:20,959 Speaker 3: my god, what are we gonna do? But this time, 255 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 3: being the third, actually I feel like pretty quickly his 256 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 3: tune changed and now he's really excited and I think 257 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 3: we're both just really so much more confident as parents now. 258 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 3: Like zero to one for us was the hardest, Like 259 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 3: I just felt like the shift from having getting to 260 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 3: do whatever you want with your time to all of 261 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:41,680 Speaker 3: a sudden being like I mean, you know, your whole 262 00:11:41,679 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 3: world out where you're like oh sleep and like everything 263 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 3: is just everything, everything is new, and it's just crazy 264 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 3: and like the hormones for me postpartum were just so 265 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 3: nuts and just like everything was crazy. And then actually 266 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 3: having the second it was so funny because your perspective 267 00:11:58,480 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 3: just changes, Like and I had Frank. I remember putting 268 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:03,480 Speaker 3: him on the bed and I was like, wait, this 269 00:12:03,600 --> 00:12:05,920 Speaker 3: kid sleeps all day and he like can't roll anywhere. 270 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 3: Like I can stick him on the bed and like 271 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 3: go do something, and he's not gonna go anywhere. Like 272 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 3: this newborn thing is easy. I remember just having a 273 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:15,840 Speaker 3: whereas with the first I was like, oh my god, 274 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 3: like I can't shower, like you know, you're just so 275 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 3: like frazzled, and so I don't know it being the third. 276 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 3: I a couple of my friends had new babies over 277 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:27,440 Speaker 3: the last few months and I was helping out with them, 278 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:29,960 Speaker 3: and I was just like, all right, we know the 279 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 3: drill now, you know. And the kids are a little 280 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:34,400 Speaker 3: bit older so they can do stuff for themselves, like 281 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 3: I can be like, go get a snack, or can 282 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:38,440 Speaker 3: you bring me a glass of water, or can you 283 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:41,600 Speaker 3: grab me a diaper? So, I don't know I'm feeling. 284 00:12:41,640 --> 00:12:44,520 Speaker 3: I think we're both feeling pretty confident going into this 285 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:45,560 Speaker 3: new one. 286 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:48,320 Speaker 2: That's awesome. That's so awesome. I feel like you guys 287 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 2: were definitely gonna have more than two. That's like absolutely ridiculous. 288 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 2: Like Grayson knew that you were going to have more too. 289 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:55,640 Speaker 3: But we had been talking about it. It wasn't like 290 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:58,600 Speaker 3: completely out of the blue, just wasn't like the perfect 291 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:01,719 Speaker 3: timing and we had I guess what was sort of 292 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 3: a bummers. Like we had talked about like, oh, it 293 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:06,640 Speaker 3: would be so fun to like try I mean, I 294 00:13:06,679 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 3: know that's not always fun, but. 295 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:10,520 Speaker 2: For us would say, it's not that much fun. 296 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 3: Okay. The idea we had the like the intentionality just 297 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:20,120 Speaker 3: because we haven't experienced it of like let's have another baby, 298 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:24,080 Speaker 3: you know, like oh, like am I pregnant, Like we're 299 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 3: you know, I think we just wanted to experience that, 300 00:13:27,000 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 3: and I think we will get to. I want to 301 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:33,839 Speaker 3: have I see with four or more. Yeah, I think 302 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 3: four is I like even numbers, odd numbers. See, I'm 303 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:39,880 Speaker 3: already numbers. I'm already looking at plane, you know, at 304 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 3: flights with the seats, like we're gonna need to have 305 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:46,680 Speaker 3: like an even number otherwise like someone's gonna end up 306 00:13:46,679 --> 00:13:49,920 Speaker 3: sitting alone. So yeah, anyway, but yeah, So I think 307 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 3: that was the only disappointment is we're like, oh, like 308 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:54,479 Speaker 3: we kind of wanted it to be like an intentional 309 00:13:54,559 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 3: choice that we both made together. So I think that 310 00:13:57,800 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 3: was the only thing that we were like, oh, well, 311 00:13:59,840 --> 00:14:02,959 Speaker 3: here we go, like another surprise. But it's been it's 312 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:03,440 Speaker 3: been good. 313 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, before your your first kid did you expect to 314 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 4: have a big family, or did Gray expect to have 315 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 4: a big family? Like, I mean, when you're on the 316 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:23,760 Speaker 4: show and all this and then it happened as a surprise. 317 00:14:23,920 --> 00:14:26,480 Speaker 4: Did did your perspective change? 318 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 3: Well, it's so funny, Gray and I did like a 319 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 3: YouTube Q and a we posted yesterday and I was like, Grey, 320 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:36,280 Speaker 3: how many kids do you want? And he's like one, 321 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 3: and so that he's like one kid. I think for me, 322 00:14:43,520 --> 00:14:46,280 Speaker 3: I'm one of five. I always had a really great 323 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 3: relationship with my siblings. I loved having a big family. 324 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 3: A lot of my friends had big families, and the 325 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 3: friends that I knew that had like small families, I 326 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 3: don't know that they always or even like boyfriends. I 327 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 3: remember them always like having fun being, you know, a 328 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:05,320 Speaker 3: part of our big family. And my parents are each 329 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 3: one of like my mom, I think they're both one 330 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:10,080 Speaker 3: of five. So I always grew up around a lot 331 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:13,200 Speaker 3: of cousins and just just a big extended family. So 332 00:15:13,280 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 3: I knew that I wanted that for myself. And my 333 00:15:18,440 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 3: oldest brother has five under the age of nine, which 334 00:15:21,760 --> 00:15:24,600 Speaker 3: they're nuts. I'm not doing that. I'll take a little 335 00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 3: more time. My sister has four, so I don't know. 336 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 3: I feel like, yeah, I was always planning on having 337 00:15:32,560 --> 00:15:38,520 Speaker 3: like more than two, and Gray, I don't. I don't know. 338 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:41,120 Speaker 3: I don't even think his even he was like twenty 339 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:43,000 Speaker 3: nine though. I mean, I remember when I got pregnant 340 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:44,840 Speaker 3: with Ruth and he's like, I'm not ready to be 341 00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 3: a dad. I'm like, shut up, you're like literally almost thirty. 342 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:51,640 Speaker 3: Like grow up, la boy, You're gonna be fine. So 343 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:54,480 Speaker 3: I don't. I know, he definitely wanted to be a dad, 344 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 3: but I don't think he ever had I don't even 345 00:15:57,520 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 3: I don't think he thought he was gonna have three 346 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:01,080 Speaker 3: over the course of five years. 347 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,120 Speaker 4: How many nieces and nephews do you have? Then? 348 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:06,239 Speaker 3: This baby's about to be number twelve of my parents' 349 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 3: grandkids and my parents aren't neither of them are even 350 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:10,000 Speaker 3: sixty yet. 351 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, wow, goodness gracious. 352 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 3: So yeah, I have nine nieces and nephews and my 353 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:20,920 Speaker 3: younger two siblings aren't even married or have kids yet. 354 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:26,440 Speaker 3: So wow, I'm sure that's fun. I mean already, like 355 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 3: Christmases and holidays, like getting the family together, like Ruth's 356 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 3: obsessed with their cousins, and I just think it's really cute, 357 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 3: is it? 358 00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 2: Fun or chaotic. 359 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 3: I like it, But I mean, I think it's part 360 00:16:38,920 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 3: of why I like reality TV. I like chaos. I 361 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:45,720 Speaker 3: like being like constantly stimulated by, like I don't know, 362 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:49,320 Speaker 3: having stuff going on. It's kind of feel like where 363 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:53,400 Speaker 3: I thrive, And yeah, I love it. Well. 364 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:55,400 Speaker 2: I have to say you're just so inspirational to me 365 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 2: through your Instagram. I have to say that you are 366 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:02,280 Speaker 2: probably like the person who I look at the most 367 00:17:02,280 --> 00:17:04,960 Speaker 2: content from on Instagram. Oh thank you, Yeah, I know. 368 00:17:05,040 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 2: So It's like I feel like I see your every 369 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:09,159 Speaker 2: reel and I always look at your stories. I just 370 00:17:09,160 --> 00:17:13,400 Speaker 2: find them really interesting, and you always have an interesting perspective. 371 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:15,679 Speaker 2: Even if like we're not like in agreeance, you always 372 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:17,760 Speaker 2: have like this great way of expressing yourself in a 373 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:19,440 Speaker 2: way where I can see your point of view, do 374 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:21,960 Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Yeah, you're never like too preachy. 375 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:23,960 Speaker 2: I don't know, Like I just really like admire you 376 00:17:23,960 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 2: in lots of ways. But one of the things that 377 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:28,640 Speaker 2: I wanted to ask you about is just the fact 378 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 2: that it seems like you always have your kids doing 379 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:33,919 Speaker 2: something like fun and interesting, and even though like you 380 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 2: know that they're all over the place, Like I know, 381 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:37,800 Speaker 2: like in my head, like like, yeah, they're they're kids, 382 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:40,639 Speaker 2: They're running all over the house. You seem to have 383 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:43,159 Speaker 2: like some sort of like semblance of common peace in 384 00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:45,400 Speaker 2: the house too. Can you tell me your tricks? 385 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:48,200 Speaker 3: Yeah? I think that For me, I think that it 386 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:52,040 Speaker 3: really comes down to just like confidence as a parent. 387 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 3: And what I mean by that is like not, I guess, 388 00:17:56,160 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 3: I guess just like accepting that I don't have it 389 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:00,919 Speaker 3: all figured out. Granted I'm only showing certain parts on 390 00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 3: social media, right. 391 00:18:02,200 --> 00:18:04,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I but I actually believe you, like you 392 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 2: know how sometimes like people like you have like this 393 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 2: great mix of realism and that picture perfect. 394 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:13,440 Speaker 3: Like curated and not. Yeah, I mean but like, yeah, 395 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:15,119 Speaker 3: I guess I just do want to remind people. I'm 396 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 3: showing usually like ninety second clips of like the day 397 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 3: when you really boil it down to like the whole day. 398 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:25,040 Speaker 3: But I just think like a big thing for me 399 00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 3: is I'm into just letting the kids like do their 400 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 3: own thing, like not in the sense that I'm neglecting 401 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:33,639 Speaker 3: them or ignoring them, but from a young like what 402 00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:37,640 Speaker 3: we started doing from like twelve to eighteen months is 403 00:18:38,200 --> 00:18:41,320 Speaker 3: I just started getting really comfortable with being like no, 404 00:18:41,359 --> 00:18:43,080 Speaker 3: I'm not going to pick you up right now, or 405 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:44,560 Speaker 3: like no, I'm not going to play with you because 406 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:47,200 Speaker 3: like I'm in the middle of doing something and like, 407 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:50,880 Speaker 3: you know, that was not fun. They'd be like crying 408 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:53,080 Speaker 3: or upset, and I'd be like, I know, I'm here, 409 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:54,760 Speaker 3: I'm sorry. It sucks. Like you want me to hold you, 410 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:58,159 Speaker 3: I'm not going to. And it's like really uncomfortable to 411 00:18:58,160 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 3: deal with as a parent, you know, because you like 412 00:18:59,760 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 3: want it could be happy all the time, and sometimes 413 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:03,800 Speaker 3: in a selfish way where you're just like I don't 414 00:19:03,800 --> 00:19:07,199 Speaker 3: want to deal with like this overstimulation right now, so 415 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:10,639 Speaker 3: like please stop. But I feel like that's something we 416 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:15,119 Speaker 3: implemented kind of early and so now you know, if 417 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:17,240 Speaker 3: I'm just like, hey, I'm in the middle of doing this, 418 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:19,359 Speaker 3: like I can't stop what I'm doing in play with 419 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:20,920 Speaker 3: you right now, like you're gonna have to go find 420 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:22,159 Speaker 3: something to do, or you're gonna have to go in 421 00:19:22,200 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 3: the backyard. And now I feel like they're like, yeah, okay, 422 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:29,879 Speaker 3: and they are really just like they do like a 423 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:33,520 Speaker 3: lot of self directed play, and I think some people think, like, oh, 424 00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 3: that's their personalities, but I'm like, no, we did really 425 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 3: work consciously on it, I'm like accepting their tantrums and 426 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 3: they're like upset when when you know, if they didn't 427 00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:47,560 Speaker 3: get what they wanted from us in that moment. But 428 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:49,720 Speaker 3: I feel like it's really paid off because they will 429 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:52,199 Speaker 3: literally play sometimes like an hour and a half two 430 00:19:52,280 --> 00:19:55,000 Speaker 3: hours by themselves, and I think it's good for them 431 00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 3: because I one thing that's important to me and I 432 00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:01,560 Speaker 3: learned this as a nanny too, is like I don't 433 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:04,760 Speaker 3: I think kids know what our energy is like and 434 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:08,760 Speaker 3: if I'm not having fun like playing pretend with them, 435 00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 3: you know, or if I'm doing this whole fakey thing 436 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,200 Speaker 3: like yeah, I love what we're doing, and like I don't, 437 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:16,440 Speaker 3: I feel like kids know, like mom doesn't is not 438 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:20,040 Speaker 3: enjoying herself. So I don't know. What I try to 439 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:21,919 Speaker 3: do is I just try to bring them into the 440 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:25,520 Speaker 3: stuff that I'm doing when when I can, sometimes it's 441 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 3: a little difficult, like some oh my god, Like a 442 00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:29,760 Speaker 3: couple of weeks ago, I was like cooking dinner and 443 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 3: I was making pizza sauce and I was making salad dressing, 444 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 3: and the kids wanted to help, so I was like, yeah, sure, 445 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,600 Speaker 3: and then Frank like took the salad dressing I just 446 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 3: made and like dumped it in the pizza sauce, and 447 00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:43,760 Speaker 3: I was like, and I actually was like I think 448 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:45,480 Speaker 3: I like did that, and I was like, Okay, I'm sorry. 449 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,400 Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I like didn't mean to yell, just like frustrated, 450 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:53,640 Speaker 3: like so sometimes you know it's not doesn't go as planned, 451 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:55,879 Speaker 3: and I'm like, okay, I don't want to like involve 452 00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:58,720 Speaker 3: you guys in what I'm doing. When it does go smooth, 453 00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 3: it pays off. And so I would say, I only 454 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 3: like play with them. This is kind of the secret 455 00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:06,800 Speaker 3: to my piece. Like I only like play with them 456 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 3: for like maybe twenty minutes a day, but I still 457 00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:12,120 Speaker 3: make time to like I'll read books with them. I'll 458 00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:14,359 Speaker 3: do stuff that I enjoy doing with them, right, Like 459 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 3: let's go on a walk together and like pick flowers. 460 00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:20,840 Speaker 3: I'll enjoy that, you know, or like let's let's draw together. 461 00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:23,840 Speaker 3: So I guess, I guess that's something that I feel 462 00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,280 Speaker 3: like kind of grounds me. I feel like that I'm 463 00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:28,400 Speaker 3: never stretched too thin. 464 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 2: That's super duper interesting, and I feel like I could 465 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:33,480 Speaker 2: ask so many questions about that, but I won't drag 466 00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 2: it off here. We'll have to do another like side 467 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 2: of this, but do you have a nanny. 468 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:43,439 Speaker 3: We do three days a week Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and 469 00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:46,320 Speaker 3: usually they're like in the house, which that kind of 470 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:47,200 Speaker 3: you know, even. 471 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,640 Speaker 2: That's that's us too. I basically prefer them in the house. 472 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,480 Speaker 2: If they're going on walks and stuff, that's fine. 473 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:56,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, well, and sometimes it doesn't always go 474 00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:57,919 Speaker 3: so well, Like right now, I have the door like 475 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:01,120 Speaker 3: barricaded because I'm like, don't let them in because they're 476 00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:04,239 Speaker 3: gonna be following me everywhere I go. But yeah, we 477 00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:07,240 Speaker 3: haven't nanny three days a week, and then yeah, I'm 478 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 3: with them Thursday, Thursday and Friday during weekdays, so I 479 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:17,520 Speaker 3: mean that definitely helps too, obviously. But yeah, we didn't 480 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,680 Speaker 3: have nanny until I'd say, like a year and a 481 00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 3: half ago. But I was like losing my mind trying 482 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:23,960 Speaker 3: to do work, and like it's great. 483 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:26,280 Speaker 2: He inspired me with that too, you like made me 484 00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:28,960 Speaker 2: feel like it was okay that I needed that, because. 485 00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:31,920 Speaker 3: I mean, dude, I know that it feels like it's 486 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:34,119 Speaker 3: not a real job sometimes. So when you're trying to 487 00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:37,560 Speaker 3: like feel emails and like get ads done during their 488 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:39,840 Speaker 3: nap and then they wake up thirty five minutes later 489 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 3: and you're like, oh my god, Like how I like, 490 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:45,359 Speaker 3: how am I physically supposed to get this stuff done? Okay, 491 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:46,760 Speaker 3: I'm guess I'm gonna have to do it tonight at 492 00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:49,520 Speaker 3: eight thirty when they're passed out. Like that's just I 493 00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 3: don't think that's sustainable because you know, we are working moms, 494 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,120 Speaker 3: so you can't do it all at the same time. 495 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:57,159 Speaker 2: Thanks. 496 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:11,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I would love to hear about the future 497 00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:15,400 Speaker 4: plans too. You are obviously engaged. We mentioned your fiance. 498 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,640 Speaker 4: Are you in the wedding planning process? No? 499 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 2: Why not? 500 00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:23,960 Speaker 4: Is it delayed? Is it like just not something you 501 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:25,160 Speaker 4: want to focus on right now? 502 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,000 Speaker 2: What where are we? Are you secretly married? 503 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:28,680 Speaker 3: No, we're not secretly married. 504 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 2: People think that you know me, confirm that you're not. 505 00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:37,320 Speaker 3: No, we're not. But Okay, it's funny because, like i 506 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 3: I'll not forgoing over. 507 00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:41,840 Speaker 2: I always like. 508 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 3: Rolled my eyes at people who said this, and I 509 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,000 Speaker 3: was just like, oh my god, shut up. But it's 510 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:51,119 Speaker 3: so funny. Like now that I'm in the position myself, 511 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:57,360 Speaker 3: like more and more I find myself being like, why 512 00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 3: do I have to like sut in this like legal 513 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:04,800 Speaker 3: document in order to like make our relationship like legitimate 514 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,440 Speaker 3: and binding like it sort of bothers me, I think, 515 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,800 Speaker 3: especially just because I come from a very Christian family 516 00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:12,639 Speaker 3: and like Gray and I still aren't allowed to like 517 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:14,800 Speaker 3: sleep in the same room together when we go to 518 00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 3: my parents' house, which is that yeah, right, or I 519 00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:21,800 Speaker 3: guess they just don't want to happen and know they're like, 520 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:25,479 Speaker 3: no baby's made in our house, that's our rule. So 521 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 3: I don't know. I I think I'm just and I've 522 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,280 Speaker 3: sort of felt that with my my family lately, where 523 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:37,560 Speaker 3: I'm just like so like our relationship is like still 524 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,719 Speaker 3: not legitimate to you, you know, like even though like 525 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:45,680 Speaker 3: to me, making the choice to parent together. I always 526 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,800 Speaker 3: I've said this a lot on my own like channels, 527 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:49,760 Speaker 3: but I think it's like one of the biggest commitments 528 00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:51,560 Speaker 3: you could ever make, like bigger than marriage, because my 529 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:54,640 Speaker 3: dad always said, my dad's been divorced and he has 530 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:59,720 Speaker 3: kids with other people, and my dad just says, like 531 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,719 Speaker 3: you divorce someone, you could never see them again, Like 532 00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 3: you could literally erase them from your life. If you 533 00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 3: have kids with someone, barring you being like a person 534 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:11,439 Speaker 3: who's gonna ditch your kids, you're gonna see that person 535 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:13,120 Speaker 3: for the rest of your life. You're going to see 536 00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:16,439 Speaker 3: them at piano recitals, at your grandkid's birthdays party, like 537 00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:19,879 Speaker 3: you are going to be around that person that you 538 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,359 Speaker 3: made that choice to have a child with for the 539 00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:25,359 Speaker 3: rest of your life. And so anyway, that's kind of 540 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,399 Speaker 3: how I look at it, where I'm like, wow, like 541 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,080 Speaker 3: we made to me one of the biggest commitments we 542 00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:33,879 Speaker 3: could make, which is to raise humans together. And so 543 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,200 Speaker 3: it kind of bothers me that some people still don't 544 00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:40,440 Speaker 3: view our relationship as like legitimized in the same way 545 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,440 Speaker 3: it would be if we like went to a courthouse. 546 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:44,439 Speaker 3: And so I don't know, that's been kind of like 547 00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:46,800 Speaker 3: bothering me lately. I'm not going to say that we're 548 00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,280 Speaker 3: not going to get married, but I'm sort of like why, 549 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:52,840 Speaker 3: Like I guess, like what's for me. I'm just sort 550 00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:56,399 Speaker 3: of like, what's the difference at at this point? I 551 00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:59,520 Speaker 3: would still like to have a party and all that 552 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 3: kind of thing. But even so, I actually feel like 553 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:05,320 Speaker 3: really uncomfortable at the idea of all the attention being 554 00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 3: on like us and like our love and our relationship, 555 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,760 Speaker 3: which is strange, but like I just feel I feel 556 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,439 Speaker 3: like a little awkward. I'm like, this is kind of 557 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:18,360 Speaker 3: something special between us, and I don't know. I guess yeah, 558 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:20,879 Speaker 3: I guess I just feel like awkward, including like a 559 00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:23,959 Speaker 3: whole bunch of other people in that thing that feels 560 00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:26,439 Speaker 3: like really just special between the two of us. So, 561 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:28,480 Speaker 3: but also, my family would kill me if we just 562 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,159 Speaker 3: did a private ceremony, so I'm not going to do 563 00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 3: that either, because like literally all my siblings and my 564 00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:35,720 Speaker 3: parents are like, please, like please, can we just like 565 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:39,120 Speaker 3: be there're getting married, like please, don't just like run 566 00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:41,639 Speaker 3: off and do this alone. And I'm like, okay, I promise. 567 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 4: So can I ask a question If you don't want 568 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,919 Speaker 4: to answer, you don't have to. No, I'm curious. Uh So, 569 00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:50,119 Speaker 4: when you think about your relationship with Gray and it 570 00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:53,560 Speaker 4: right you know, right now, I completely understand everything you're saying. 571 00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:57,160 Speaker 4: But when you think about it, is this a lifetime relationship? 572 00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,560 Speaker 4: Is this something that you like, you two will be 573 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:04,439 Speaker 4: together in, you know, a committee relationship or however you 574 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:05,720 Speaker 4: design it forever? 575 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,199 Speaker 3: I mean we literally, that's I guess that's sort of 576 00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:15,119 Speaker 3: my point is because we're both committed to like parenting 577 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:17,920 Speaker 3: our children and being involved in their lives like we 578 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:21,879 Speaker 3: undoubtedly will for the rest of our lives regardless of 579 00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:26,639 Speaker 3: even of how our romantic relationship goes, like we yes, 580 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,240 Speaker 3: we will have to be in some sort of relationship 581 00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:30,720 Speaker 3: for the rest of our lives. I guess that sounds 582 00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:32,040 Speaker 3: like a little when I say it like that, it 583 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:35,840 Speaker 3: sounds a little doomsy. I will say, I'm one of 584 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:41,639 Speaker 3: those people where I really believe like a lot of 585 00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:45,639 Speaker 3: couples could like work through anything given the right tools, 586 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:50,080 Speaker 3: and they're right, like, because look, we've been through couples 587 00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:53,399 Speaker 3: counseling the last year so and like our relationship had 588 00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,440 Speaker 3: a really difficult start. And I will say that I 589 00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,640 Speaker 3: understand why some couples don't make it just because they 590 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:03,760 Speaker 3: like financially don't have the tools to like get help 591 00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:06,920 Speaker 3: on their relationship. And if they didn't have the foundation 592 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:10,040 Speaker 3: of like seeing a healthy relationship, you know, or having 593 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:12,040 Speaker 3: like a healthy foundation in their early life, I think 594 00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,959 Speaker 3: it's like really hard for people to continue to nurture 595 00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,480 Speaker 3: and have a healthy relationship when they just like weren't 596 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,200 Speaker 3: ever given the tools and like don't have the resources 597 00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:24,159 Speaker 3: to like have someone help guide them through learning all 598 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:27,679 Speaker 3: that stuff. Anyway, I don't know why I got up 599 00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 3: on that, but I guess I think we are both 600 00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:36,080 Speaker 3: sort of realists in the sense of, like, I'm not 601 00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:38,400 Speaker 3: going to pretend to know what's going to happen thirty 602 00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 3: years down the road, like already so much has happened 603 00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:43,480 Speaker 3: in our lives the last five years. Like I don't 604 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,960 Speaker 3: I don't know if I could ever I know people 605 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:48,479 Speaker 3: are gonna roll their eyes at this, but like, I 606 00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:51,680 Speaker 3: don't know that I could ever say for certain, like 607 00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:54,480 Speaker 3: forty years from now, like we're still going to be together, 608 00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:56,920 Speaker 3: that is, I will say, though, that is our goal, 609 00:28:57,000 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 3: and I think we both really feel committed to working 610 00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:04,480 Speaker 3: on a relationship and to nurturing our relationship so that 611 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 3: hopefully it is a lifelong relationship. But yeah, but I mean, 612 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,080 Speaker 3: shit happens. This is this is super dramatic, But like 613 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,440 Speaker 3: what's that? What's that movie? A horrible movie Manchester by 614 00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 3: the Sea, where like the house burns down like all 615 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 3: the kids are inside it and like all that kind 616 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,640 Speaker 3: of thing. I mean, God forbid anything horrible like that 617 00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:27,400 Speaker 3: did happen. But I mean, I don't know, you don't 618 00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:31,120 Speaker 3: you just don't know. People have struggle with addictions. Things. 619 00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:33,520 Speaker 3: I don't know, things happen, So I guess I could 620 00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:35,960 Speaker 3: never say we're certain that, like I would be with 621 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,440 Speaker 3: anyone forty thirty years from now, what I would make up? 622 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 4: I think for me then, because it's super interesting to 623 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,360 Speaker 4: hear this, I'm one, I'm curious how these conversations go 624 00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:47,120 Speaker 4: between the two of you. Obviously you have a very 625 00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:51,040 Speaker 4: open line of communication if you know, these conversations are 626 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:53,719 Speaker 4: existing and you're kind of being like, hey, I you know, 627 00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 4: I love you. My plan is to be with you forever. 628 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,120 Speaker 4: I don't know if that's going to be the case 629 00:29:58,240 --> 00:29:58,440 Speaker 4: or not. 630 00:29:58,960 --> 00:29:59,200 Speaker 1: You know. 631 00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:04,000 Speaker 4: For me, you know, there was when I was getting married, 632 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:05,920 Speaker 4: there's a lot of it that was like wait, is 633 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,760 Speaker 4: this necessary kind of thing? Those questions, and I think 634 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 4: for me personally, what it did was it solidified that yes, Jessica, 635 00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:18,200 Speaker 4: my wife believes and wants to be with me forever. 636 00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:20,680 Speaker 4: You know, like there is no easy way out now, 637 00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 4: there is no Hey, you know, we're going to work 638 00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:24,920 Speaker 4: on this and we're going to do this thing for 639 00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:27,240 Speaker 4: as long as we you know, as long as we live. 640 00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:29,960 Speaker 4: And that was what I needed, I think, because if not, 641 00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,920 Speaker 4: I would all I'm so insecure that I think I 642 00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:36,200 Speaker 4: would be wondering, like does this person really like me? Like, 643 00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:38,280 Speaker 4: do they really love me, do they really want to 644 00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:39,920 Speaker 4: commit to me? Or are they just kind of stuck 645 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:43,320 Speaker 4: in this because well we have kids. So my question 646 00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,360 Speaker 4: to you is like, how do those conversations exist in 647 00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:47,600 Speaker 4: your relationship? How do you keep them healthy and uplifting 648 00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:49,680 Speaker 4: so you both feel like I am loved? 649 00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:52,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean we definitely had a lot of those conversations. 650 00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:55,080 Speaker 3: I think that's been a difficult point in our relationship 651 00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,960 Speaker 3: at times, like you said, in times of insecurity. And 652 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 3: I think that, look, all really relationships like have their 653 00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,520 Speaker 3: ups and downs. I know that's a cliche. I do 654 00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:06,200 Speaker 3: think there are some people out there where their relationships 655 00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:08,600 Speaker 3: really are just like hunky dory most of the time. 656 00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:11,440 Speaker 3: I think just some people have personalities like that. Gray 657 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:15,240 Speaker 3: and I are very like we are not people who 658 00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:18,760 Speaker 3: shy away from conflict, and we're very both very stubborn. 659 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 3: So I think like in difficult points in our relationship, 660 00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:27,360 Speaker 3: like we have, those insecurities have come up, and those 661 00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,880 Speaker 3: questions have come up, and sometimes they've been really painful 662 00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:32,320 Speaker 3: and difficult to navigate. But luckily, like I was saying, 663 00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:37,040 Speaker 3: we've had the support of a really incredible couples counselor 664 00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:39,560 Speaker 3: and I will say not all couples counselors are built equally. 665 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:41,920 Speaker 3: We've seen a couple others that were not so great, 666 00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,400 Speaker 3: and every week it was kind of like, Oh, what'd 667 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 3: you guys fight about this past week? Okay, Like, no, 668 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:50,240 Speaker 3: we have like an amazing couples counselor. Who's really about 669 00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:53,080 Speaker 3: Like this whole thing is like how can you connect 670 00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:55,080 Speaker 3: in the middle of conflict and like find the other 671 00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:58,120 Speaker 3: person even when like instead of avoiding those times where 672 00:31:58,160 --> 00:31:59,640 Speaker 3: you guys are both like at a ten, Like, how 673 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:01,720 Speaker 3: can you connect in the midst of that and like 674 00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,920 Speaker 3: find a way to come back to each other. So anyway, 675 00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,760 Speaker 3: we've had guidance sort of sorting through those questions. But 676 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:13,240 Speaker 3: I will say like we've had a couple really serious 677 00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 3: private conversations that, to be honest, I think for both 678 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,600 Speaker 3: of us felt like the point where we sort of 679 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,200 Speaker 3: became like sort of made this crossover to like husband 680 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,480 Speaker 3: and wife. We call each other like husband and wife 681 00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,480 Speaker 3: even though it's not in illegal document, but we had 682 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:33,040 Speaker 3: some really like intimate conversations where that basically those things 683 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:35,360 Speaker 3: were said of like no, I do want to be 684 00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,720 Speaker 3: with you forever, Like I am committed to being with you. 685 00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,240 Speaker 3: I'm not just here because like we have kids together, 686 00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 3: but because like I care about you and and I'm 687 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 3: in this for the long fall, and like I see 688 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:47,400 Speaker 3: you as my wife, and like I see you as 689 00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:51,000 Speaker 3: my husband, and so so yeah, I think I think 690 00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:54,520 Speaker 3: that answers the question. But I think for us, we 691 00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:59,800 Speaker 3: we I think we've had like some really touchstone conversations 692 00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,520 Speaker 3: about that exactly, and I think since then we do 693 00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:05,680 Speaker 3: sort of see each other on that level. And like 694 00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:07,480 Speaker 3: I said, we call each other like husband and a 695 00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,160 Speaker 3: wife and basically consider each other like on the level 696 00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:12,160 Speaker 3: being married. But now it's just time for the party 697 00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:13,920 Speaker 3: at some point after the next. 698 00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:17,080 Speaker 4: So well, every couple has their own dance, and it's inspiring, 699 00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:20,080 Speaker 4: you know, as Ashley said, to see you to his parents, 700 00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,240 Speaker 4: to see your story play out, it's always exciting, it's 701 00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 4: always fun, it's always interesting. Keep up the claymation. I 702 00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:33,080 Speaker 4: enjoy it, and come back soon. Don't make it three years. 703 00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:34,040 Speaker 4: That's just ridiculous. 704 00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:34,200 Speaker 1: No. 705 00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:37,440 Speaker 3: I love being interviewed on podcasts, and like, everyone invite 706 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:38,560 Speaker 3: me on your podcast, I'll come. 707 00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,760 Speaker 2: I love it. Yeah, let's have our come recap an 708 00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,640 Speaker 2: episode with us, and we still have to talk about 709 00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:47,040 Speaker 2: good Alma and all that, your clothing line and all 710 00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:48,400 Speaker 2: the other things that you're doing, the fact that you 711 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:50,920 Speaker 2: don't have a podcast anymore. Where's your talking outlet? We 712 00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:54,160 Speaker 2: can give you a talking outlet here, so we'll talk 713 00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:55,360 Speaker 2: about that next time you're here. 714 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:56,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 715 00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:58,280 Speaker 3: Hey, thanks guys, Thank you. 716 00:33:59,080 --> 00:33:59,440 Speaker 2: Bye. 717 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,200 Speaker 4: Well, this has been another episode of the Almost Famous Podcast. 718 00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:05,600 Speaker 4: We have a very special guest, Becca, and as Ashley mentioned, 719 00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,359 Speaker 4: if you don't know that Becca has her own clothing line, 720 00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:12,320 Speaker 4: please go check it out. It's worth it. Also follow 721 00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,960 Speaker 4: Becca on Instagram to keep up with updates. But until 722 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,440 Speaker 4: next time, I've been Ben, I've been Ashley. 723 00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:18,000 Speaker 2: Bye. 724 00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:22,440 Speaker 1: Follow the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcasts on 725 00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:25,680 Speaker 1: iHeartRadio or subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.