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Speaker 2: Welcome to after Hours, our little easter egg podcasts that

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Speaker 2: we drop into the Klay and Buck feed from time

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Speaker 2: to time. I'm producer Ali and I'm producer Greg. You

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Speaker 2: never know what you're gonna get in the After Hours podcast.

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Speaker 2: It's kind of random, but that makes it fun, right Greg.

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Speaker 1: It does, It does, And it's appropriate that this is

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Speaker 1: an Easter egg because Easter is right around the corner

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Speaker 1: and you don't have to hunt for this one.

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Speaker 2: That's right, It's right in the Kalaimbuck podcast feed. Well,

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Speaker 2: on this episode, we wanted to focus on Buck having

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Speaker 2: his first child because that's a big deal. We're gonna

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Speaker 2: air some talkbacks that didn't make it on the show

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Speaker 2: because Greg, how many did we get?

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Speaker 1: I can't even count. I stopped counting at a certain point.

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Speaker 1: There were just so many.

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Speaker 2: Ditto on the emails, we heard from so many people

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Speaker 2: that wanted to send in their care congratulations, but also

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Speaker 2: give Buck and Carrie, well mainly Buck, some advice. We

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Speaker 2: also heard from a couple of our Clay and Buck

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Speaker 2: podcast network hosts. Carol Markowitz, who has two podcasts in

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Speaker 2: our feed, the Carol Markowitz Show and also Normally, which

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Speaker 2: she hosts with Mary Catherine Hamm. Tudor Dixon of The

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Speaker 2: Tudor Dixon Show also sent in a message. Let's listen

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Speaker 2: to that one first, Greg.

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Speaker 3: Hey, Buck, this is Tutor Dixon, and I wanted to

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Speaker 3: share with you what I know about being a parent.

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Speaker 3: First of all, it's the best job you will ever have,

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Speaker 3: so enjoy those baby snuggles and that beautiful baby smell.

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Speaker 3: Every phase of your James life will come with beauty

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Speaker 3: and wonder, but also some challenges. So focus on the

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Speaker 3: beautiful parts of parenting when you're in the midst of

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Speaker 3: something tough. Remember each phase is fleeting love, the sweet smell,

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Speaker 3: and sleepy afternoons of babyhood. Soak up the puddle splashes,

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Speaker 3: frog jumping and hand holding of the toddler phases. Never

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Speaker 3: turned down reading a book together in elementary school and

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Speaker 3: step away from everything to help build that horrible Roobe

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Speaker 3: Goldberg machine in the eighth grade science class. Go on

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Speaker 3: as many failed trips as you can and try your

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Speaker 3: hardest to make every single sports game. Do these things

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Speaker 3: because you love James with everything you have, and be

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Speaker 3: intentional with your love because you won't notice the last

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Speaker 3: time they ask you to read that book a night

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Speaker 3: until that phase is over, because you being present in

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Speaker 3: every phase will shape james life more than you will

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Speaker 3: ever know. And then one day he's going to look

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Speaker 3: at you and he's going to say he had the

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Speaker 3: most wonderful childhood because he always knew you were there

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Speaker 3: for him, you were safe, and you loved him. Enjoy fatherhood, Buck,

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Speaker 3: It's the best and most important job you will ever have.

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Speaker 2: Tutor Dixon with a mama, Mike drop. I just love

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Speaker 2: that message, Greg.

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Speaker 1: Tutor Dixon's a mom, she's got four kids, so she

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Speaker 1: knows and any kind of wisdom like that is always perfect.

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Speaker 1: So it's nice to hear someone from the podcast network

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Speaker 2: Always And you know what, it occurred to me, Greg,

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Speaker 2: Buck can play this podcast for him. How cool will

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Speaker 2: that be? Like an audio photo album? And it would

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Speaker 2: let's listen to what Carol Markowitz said.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Buck and Carrie. It's Carol Markowitz. Congratulations on the

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Speaker 4: new edition. I cannot wait to meet him, my baby.

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Speaker 4: Advice is actually more like relationship advice. Always remember that

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Speaker 4: you're a team. There will be hard times when sleep

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Speaker 4: relationship first. Prioritize each other, support each other, love each

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Speaker 4: other openly, hold hand, kiss at red lights, let your

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Speaker 4: Congratulations again, You're going to be amazing at this Best

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Speaker 2: I really love this because it kind of reminds me

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, that is great advice, because your relationship with your

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Speaker 1: Well, I think, and I've actually said this to Buck,

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Speaker 1: the best advice I ever got was sleep when the

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Speaker 2: I would agree with you on those two. Definitely Good

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Speaker 2: another one is called Frederick the Mouse.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Frederick the Mouse Leo Leone. Oh really, Yes, It's

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Speaker 1: I think that's great, and we're going to play some

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Speaker 1: asking for advice because and just have faith in your abilities,

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Speaker 2: And also, I just think people want to give advice

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Speaker 1: From the first year or so of the show, if

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Speaker 2: Were talking about Tony Dungey and some comments he made

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Speaker 2: on fatherhood and how if someone else had made them

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Speaker 2: they would have been received much differently. I thought it

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Speaker 1: I'm a big fan of the coach, and his post

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Speaker 1: football focus has been on fatherhood and that sort of thing.

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Speaker 1: So yes, it was an excellent conversation.

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Speaker 6: And Tony Dungeee, former coach of the Tampa Bay Buccaneers

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Speaker 1: Thank you for all of you who sent in the

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Speaker 1: And Carrie absolutely. And if you want to send in

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Speaker 2: It's a great idea, kind of get her used to it.

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Speaker 1: That's a great idea.

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Speaker 2: Grace.

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Speaker 1: One thing I would suggest for Buck because he's going

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Speaker 1: to need a lot of energy before we wrap this

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Speaker 1: up and head onto these talkbacks. He's going to need

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Speaker 1: some chalk. I don't know about you, but as a

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Speaker 1: new dad back in the day, I could have used it.

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Speaker 1: I could have used that extra boost of energy. And

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Speaker 1: he's already doing the Chad Mode for his workouts anyway,

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Speaker 1: But I think a little extra energy for Buck wouldn't

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Speaker 1: necessarily be a bad thing, and it could help you too.

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Speaker 1: So check out chalk dot com c choq dot com.

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Speaker 2: You can put clam Buck's name in for a discount

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Speaker 2: as a prescription.

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Speaker 1: They've been a long time sponsor of the show. We're

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Speaker 1: really big fans of theirs, and I recommend heading on

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Speaker 1: over there and checking them out, because if they can

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Speaker 1: help out Buck, they can certainly help help you out

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Speaker 1: as well, so.

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Speaker 2: I would concur all right, well, Greg, I think that

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Speaker 2: is a wrap on our random after hours podcast, actually

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Speaker 2: Buck Baby edition, we can call this one and until

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Speaker 2: next time, you never know where we're going to end

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Speaker 2: up or when we're going to end up in the feed,

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Speaker 2: so you got to check back from time to time.

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Speaker 2: Then checking We will try to keep it entertaining.

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Speaker 1: He'll go those talkbacks. Thanks again, Thank you, Hey Buck.

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Speaker 1: The fact that you think you're going to sleep through

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Speaker 1: this is hilarious.

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Speaker 7: Good luck with the new baby, but I guarantee there

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Speaker 7: will be no sleeping.

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Speaker 10: Just make sure you stock up on your crack of

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Speaker 10: coffee because you are going to need it. My friend

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Speaker 10: you ain't going to be sleeping very much, and just

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Speaker 10: make sure you're very supportive of your wife. That's the

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Speaker 10: biggest thinking SAE. So one is going to have to

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Speaker 10: do the hardest parts of everything from feeding to obviously

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Speaker 10: giving birth. So good luck, you'll be good.

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Speaker 11: I'm telling you if you put in that air in

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Speaker 11: that mattress in the labor room, you'll be in trouble

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Speaker 11: the rest of your life. What you need is a

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Speaker 11: bit of nails and that might come close to what

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Speaker 11: your wife will be going through.

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Speaker 6: Look, the main thing you need to know to become

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Speaker 6: a master swaddler, the master swaddler of wrapping the baby

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Speaker 6: and that little cloth nice and tight and snug. You

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Speaker 6: can wrap that baby up tight, you'll be the man

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Speaker 6: of the house.

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Speaker 12: This is Dan calling from North Texas, a huge fan

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Speaker 12: listening to you guys every day. Buck. I just wanted

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Speaker 12: to tell you, as a new dad that the number

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Speaker 12: one piece of advice I can give you is to

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Speaker 12: do the sleep training around five or six months. Absolutely

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Speaker 12: do it. I'm an older dad. I'm fifty years old

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Speaker 12: and I haven't about to be four and about to

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Speaker 12: be two year old, and both my kids sleep through

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Speaker 12: the night. And it's glorious. Absolutely, make sure that you

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Speaker 12: do the sleep training, and good luck to you and

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Speaker 12: your wife.

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Speaker 1: I wish you the best with your baby healthy and happy.

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Speaker 8: I'm rooting for you. I'm rooting for you.

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 13: Hey Buck, I just have to say, when I gave

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Speaker 13: birth to my first child, my husband put all his

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Speaker 13: focus on that baby afterwards, which is normal, but after

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Speaker 13: a day or two, you need to kind of embrace

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Speaker 13: your wife. So don't make that mistake that your whole

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Speaker 13: focus is the baby.

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Speaker 14: I mean, mom just went.

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Speaker 13: Through a whole lot. So that's a little postpartum information.

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Speaker 5: Hi Buck, congratulations on this coming baby. This is Randy

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Speaker 5: from Tucson. What you're not going to believe is when

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Speaker 5: it's time to leave the hospital and you're going to

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Speaker 5: think to yourself, they're letting me take this baby in

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Speaker 5: my car and you're just not going to feel prepared

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Speaker 5: and it's going to be the scariest drive of your life.

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Speaker 5: You're going to be so careful and nervous, but it's

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Speaker 5: going to be so great. It's a great blessing. Congratulations.

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Speaker 1: Best advice I can give you for your new little one.

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Speaker 1: She's fussy, give her to mama. Just give her to

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Speaker 1: Mama and run.

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Speaker 15: The only dad advice you're going to need is just

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Speaker 15: take it easy, you know, take a little bit of time.

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Speaker 8: Relax.

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Speaker 15: It's really not that hard. You're just it's a.

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Speaker 8: Kid, you know.

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Speaker 15: Don't cut the umbilical cord too quick, do some skin

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Speaker 15: to skin. Other than that, you know, just relax and

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Speaker 15: enjoy your kid.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's.

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Speaker 15: Really that simple. It's not hard or anything. It's gonna

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Speaker 15: be fun though.

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Speaker 14: Hey guys, love the show. Congratulations Buck. The best advice

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Speaker 14: I can give you to get through the next ninety

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Speaker 14: days is stop asking everybody for advice. You will be

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Speaker 14: just fine. You're gonna be great at this. I think

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Speaker 14: you've gone through enough life that none of these things

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Speaker 14: are going to be difficult for you to deal with.

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Speaker 14: Please enjoy it. It does not last long. It goes

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Speaker 14: by so quick. Just be there and have fun.

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Speaker 10: Man,