WEBVTT - Battleship Tricks 0:00:00.640 --> 0:00:04.880 Scrubbing in with Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:11.960 Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:16.000 Yes we are, my girl, my girl. 0:00:18.480 --> 0:00:21.200 Yeah, you've been staring at me with that look in 0:00:21.239 --> 0:00:22.480 your eye since I walked in. 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:25.439 I just am so loving you lately. 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:29.159 I don't know why I have just done anything to 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:29.800 deserve that. 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:32.479 Yes, you have, and you are and it's just your 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:34.800 essence and your being and who you are. So I 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:38.120 don't know why you're so squeamish about it, like accept 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:40.479 the love except the love I want to give you 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:41.240 and show you. 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:46.040 I accept it. I just am like, why out of nowhere, 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:48.720 I haven't done like I haven't. We haven't spent time 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:53.519 together in like an intimate setting, so I'm just trying to. 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:56.760 Gage it very intimate lately, quite frankly. 0:00:57.240 --> 0:00:58.360 Not that intimate. 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:02.560 Hell, so just like chilling like a villain. 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:08.080 Okay, yeah, actually no, we're not in our backguard living room, Hags. 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:10.679 We did have some living room, Hans. Yeah, I have 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:12.839 a Kinker store right now. And let me just tell 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:15.000 you debilitating. 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:18.440 Oh is it on your right side? I can see swollen. 0:01:18.520 --> 0:01:21.399 My whole lift is swollen. I get them so bad 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:24.880 and they're so dramatic, and I was thinking, you know, 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:26.360 I was thinking earlier, I was like, I want to 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:27.800 wish this on my worst end to me, but I 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:29.559 was like, you know what, this would be the perfect 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:32.800 thing to wish because it's not like death, but it's 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:34.199 like pain. 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:36.360 Yeah, it looks like could I pop it? 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:38.440 No, you can't pop it. 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:40.040 It looks poppable, it's not. 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:46.520 That's just like what don't no, please listening, Please never 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:48.120 try to pop a anchor. 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:49.320 Sword spoiler alert. 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:54.400 Yeah, so that's been just really tough. And then Haley 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:57.000 and I went and ate dinner and I was aggressively 0:01:57.040 --> 0:01:59.400 eating pasta because it was so good and I bit 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:01.240 it and that's where it went downhill. 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:03.880 I literally can see it from here. 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:07.840 So yeah, so every time Haley goes to kiss me, 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:10.799 I'm like, no, like just because the other side of 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:11.240 my mouth. 0:02:11.320 --> 0:02:12.040 You know what you should do? 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:15.160 Though, Whenever I have a canker swore, I take this 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:17.280 is I'm not a doctor, so just take. 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:19.559 This just so it's worth just a disclaimer. 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:21.880 Disclaimer, but it works for me like a charm. Okay, 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:24.000 whenever I have a canker swore, I take a Q 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:26.760 tip and I dip it in warm water, and then 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:29.440 I stick it in a pile of salt, like Himalayan 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:31.239 pink salt, and then I put it right on the 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:33.480 canker swore, and I just hold it there, and I 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:35.480 just hold it there, and I just hold it there 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:40.200 and then I do that like duck. Yeah, but I 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:42.519 do that like two or three times, and then the 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:44.640 next day it's like significantly better. 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:49.440 So I've heard of this. I have dealt with cankers 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.720 like they come when I'm stressed, which I haven't been stressed, 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:52.240 So I don't. 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:53.600 Know why I'm stressed about let's talk about that. 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:55.880 No, I'm not stressed, but you know what I think happened. 0:02:56.400 --> 0:03:00.640 I've been baking and using like so much sugar and 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:02.960 like butter and flour, and I think and I've been 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:05.440 eating cookies like the literal cookie. 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:08.320 Monster canker stores from sugar. 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:11.080 Can you you don't think I don't know. I don't 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:14.519 think so, because I haven't really been stressed, unless it's 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:16.799 like a delayed something from being stressed. 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:22.079 They're caused by emotional stress, dietary deficiencies, menstrual period. 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:26.200 Not excessities excessivities. 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:32.480 Yeah, but I imagine I'm very deficient in nutrients as we 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:36.240 can imagine, as I'm eating like four to five chocolate 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:37.440 chip cookies. 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:41.839 For meal, consuming a lot of sugar foods. That's on there, 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:44.880 totally feeding me facts about canker. 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:48.240 Thank you Mark for the canker facts. 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:48.800 Wow. 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:54.640 Yeah, so I think that could be it because I 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:57.240 got on this ever since Thanksgiving all of a sudden, 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:02.040 I'm like a baker. It's just in my it's passion. Yeah, 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:04.880 it's my fixation of the month. 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:07.280 I guess instead of scrubbing in and we should call 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:08.880 it baking in, baking in. 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.360 It's just like we talked about baking or what. 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:15.080 Yeah. Yeah, our new recipe of the week could be cute. 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:17.520 Well, I can't be doing it because it's causing me 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:18.840 kinger saurce. 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:20.159 Yeah, I'm sorry about that. 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:21.040 Thank you so much. 0:04:21.120 --> 0:04:21.920 Yeah, I'm sorry. 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:25.240 Wow, we had a big weekend, Well you had a 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:28.400 big weekend. Min was pretty fine. That's pretty good. 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:32.080 It it was a big weekend. And you know what, 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:33.720 I realized. 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:37.920 What when I and I don't know if it's age, 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:40.279 and I'm just gonna have to chalk it up to age. 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:44.120 I cannot not have a good night's sleep and function 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:45.760 normally the next day, like I had. 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:47.520 Do you ever get chills when you're really tired? 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:49.680 Yeah, I get like achy, like I feel like I'm 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:50.320 going to get sick. 0:04:50.360 --> 0:04:52.800 I had the chills all weekend long, like just like 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:55.560 I was frigid all weekend because I was just so tired. 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:59.200 It was actually pretty cold in Malibu too, so I 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:00.000 think jingle Ball. 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:04.400 So yeah, it's a combination of all things. But I 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:06.960 was like, wow, I've never I've never had like the 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:08.480 chills for a full weekend. 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:09.760 But totally worth it. 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:12.760 Yeah, I mean totally worth it for the chills. 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:13.200 Yeah. 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:16.200 I loved your jingle Ball outfit. I thought you got 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:16.960 this stylist. 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:19.560 I know, Becca Goes did Brian style you. I was like, 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.800 this is a Tanya rad special baby. 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:25.520 I love that designer resiic. 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:27.919 I don't know how that's it by. 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:34.920 Ariel, who is a designer. Aril Resik at a dinner 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:39.159 that I went to and we were just talking and 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:41.599 she was like, oh, yeah, I have a clothing line 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:43.000 and I was like, oh what is it? And she 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:45.560 told me and I would I would always see it 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:47.120 on my feed and I was like, oh my gosh, 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:49.080 I love your stuff. So when you when you wore 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:50.839 it and I saw you tag, I was like, there 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:51.400 she is. 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:52.640 There, there she is. 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:54.360 And I was going to actually get it in white, 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:57.640 because you know, like jingle Ball, So I did it 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:02.240 in green, but and then I found the US on Amazon. 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:04.880 I mean I literally typed in green. 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:07.400 I think I typed in like Emerald green heels, and 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:08.680 this was like one of the front I was like 0:06:08.720 --> 0:06:12.240 crossing my fingers that it would match, and it matched perfectly. 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:13.960 And they were very comfortable too. 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:15.799 You gonna ask were they of comfort? 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:16.160 Yeah? 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:17.880 I mean I wouldn't say like, no, heel to me 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:20.440 is like of comfort, Like it's not like I'm walking around. 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:20.920 Like a hookah. 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:26.600 But hokkah, hookah, hakka, hokah. 0:06:26.960 --> 0:06:28.160 She's gone downhill. 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.480 It's not like I'm walking around a hookah. But for heels, 0:06:31.520 --> 0:06:35.560 they were very comfortable. Great, Well, you looked great, Thank 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:36.120 you so much. 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.599 How was jingle Ball super super cute? 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.120 Do you know who I'd love to have on the 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:45.400 podcast if he's around, although not really sure where he's 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:46.080 living these days. 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:51.760 Let me guess, did he perform yes? Flow Rider? 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:52.440 No? 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:59.159 He I don't even know who. 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:02.799 Because I got's flow Rider and that's. 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:05.400 All Rodrigo and Brina Carpenter and flow Rider. 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:10.600 No Easton gotta guess uh a Jr. 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:12.320 Nope, but close. 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:15.760 I don't close. 0:07:15.960 --> 0:07:17.720 I remember who played all right, I'm just gonna tell 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:21.280 you now Horn Oh we love now. 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:22.000 Yeah. 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:25.720 I haven't seen him since before the pandemic. Oh yeah, 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:28.160 Like it's been a minute. And we were in the 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:31.320 hallway together and walking down we like walked out of 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:33.400 the doors at the same time, and he goes, I 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:37.160 hair congratulations on order, and I was like, you are 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:39.280 the cutest thing in the whole world. 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:42.520 I weirdly feel like I feel like he's so massive, 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:44.400 and yet he feels attainable for our show. 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:45.360 I think so too. 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:47.480 Something to work on. 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:48.160 Something to work on. 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:50.680 Although twenty twenty three was the year for Patrick Dempsey 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:52.880 and it's coming really to the end. 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:57.080 I have a strong feeling, not to be negative or 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:59.200 Debbie Downer, that we're not going to get we will 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:00.680 not have him in doing twenty three. 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:03.000 You know what, I don't like that attitude. I know 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:07.000 you want it up until December thirty. First, I'm gonna 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:07.600 hold out hope. 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:11.320 I love that about you. 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.840 Thank you, and if not, maybe we get a Patrick 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:16.119 dempsty impersonator or something. 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:18.520 I want the real thing. 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:19.720 I want the real thing too. 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:23.680 I sit here and stare at him and marvel at him. 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:26.360 Yeah, but now Horn was super super cute and actually 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:29.960 he was watching. At the end of the night, Olivia 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:32.440 Rodrigo ended the show she like closed, you know, like 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:36.280 the headliner, and he was standing on the side of 0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:39.440 the stage watching her performance, which I love when artists 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:40.839 watch other artists perform. 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:42.360 I think it's like the cutest thing ever. 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:43.920 You think he was trying to shoot a shot. 0:08:44.600 --> 0:08:46.920 Uh No, I don't think he was trying to shoot 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:49.400 a shot. I think it was just like chillin' okay, 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:51.960 but it was so cute. Is Nil Horn single? 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:57.880 I don't know what about him. For Raquel, I'd be 0:08:57.960 --> 0:08:58.360 into it. 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:01.600 Yeah, but I do feel somebody's probably tried to set 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:05.200 them up already at some point. I don't know for sure, 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.640 but I feel like that path might have already been. 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:10.320 Okay, I'm just over here trying to match make where 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:13.880 I can end her text? Have you everyone I asked 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:14.880 her about She's like. 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:17.880 No, she's pretty pick I believe he's in a relationship. 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:21.680 I was gonna say, I feel like I have designer 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:22.280 shoe buyer. 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:29.079 Okay, congrats Nia. We will not be trying to set 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:31.280 her up with our friend Raquel. I mean, I'm up 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:31.800 with our friend. 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:33.960 No, we will not be trying to set them upright, 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:34.720 It's still cute. 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:35.959 Nonetheless, what was. 0:09:36.080 --> 0:09:37.760 Who was your favorite performer? 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:40.239 Alvia Rodrigo? 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:44.440 So you know Olivia is managed by Aleen Kashishian. If 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:47.400 you don't know who Aleen Kashishian is, she is a 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:50.600 manager to the stars. So I met her because she's 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:52.000 Selena gomezz. 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:53.120 Oh yeah, I was like, I heard that same. 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:55.800 But she's so badass, like she always has all these 0:09:56.000 --> 0:10:00.559 talks and she's like such a super like women for women, 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:05.280 like female empowerment, just super cool, like she does Paul 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:09.559 Rudd and I want to say she doesn't one with Paltrow. 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:12.480 Two mm hmm. But she's just like super and. 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:14.600 Jennifer Anison, she's just like badass. 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:18.480 Okay, well, I feel like you have her number. 0:10:18.760 --> 0:10:19.800 I do have her number. 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:23.280 So you're telling me we're is that one degree from 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:24.120 Jennifer Anderson? 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:24.800 Yeah? 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:26.400 Where's Yeah? 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:30.880 Uh, I can say the same things to you. Where's 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:32.800 Sophia bush At? You got her in your phone book. 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:34.040 I don't have her phone number. 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:35.120 What do you have a person? 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:37.880 Nothing? You don't have Haley has. 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:41.000 Her number, you don't have her DMS, No, don't talk 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:43.720 via nothing, events always each other. 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:50.240 Jennifer Andison does feel like a bit of a stretch. 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:55.839 Okay, okay, but I'll think about it, think about it. 0:10:56.440 --> 0:10:59.520 I've been soft floating the idea to Sophia Bush. I 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:03.160 just want to know, oh, because I do have her number. 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:07.040 But our texts are all Hi, Sophia, can you reboot 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:09.760 your computer? Yes? Thank you. That's that's our text. 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.160 Further than I have, much further than I have. 0:11:13.280 --> 0:11:15.360 We wish each other happy birthday. But that's again as 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:17.600 far as it goes. But when we do the podcast, 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:19.600 I've told her like, oh, you know, hey, I work 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:21.439 with Beckatilly. She has nothing but good things to say 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.280 about you. She has a really fun podcast, and she's like, 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:28.439 oh cool, that's so sweet. It feels good, feels like 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:30.320 we're moving in the right direction right now. 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:34.680 I am tired of being the podcast where people say 0:11:34.679 --> 0:11:39.839 oh cool, fine, but them being like, oh my gosh, 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:42.559 would you connect us? I'd love to be on that podcast. 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:45.200 What have you said that about? 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:49.360 Call her? Daddy. Oh, like you'd want to be on 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:49.959 call her daddy. 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:53.400 I would love to have her on our podcast. I'd 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:56.440 love to be on her podcast. Yeah. Yeah, she's also 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:58.080 I don't listen to podcasts. 0:11:58.120 --> 0:11:59.640 See, That's the thing, Like, I feel like there's not 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:02.320 very many podcasts that people would say, oh, I'd love. 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:03.679 To be on that podcast. 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:09.040 I think there are really, Like I feel like chicks 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:11.920 in the office people would say that Lady Gang. 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:16.840 Yeah, Lady Gang Che's office yet. Okay, but it's not 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.800 like you're not saying a ton of podcasts. 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.800 I'm not a podcast listener though. Oh, I think there's 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:23.720 probably many. 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:25.800 Yeah, Like I don't even know how that'll go down, 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:28.240 because I've never actually I have Allen's number, but I've 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:29.199 never actually texted her. 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:31.240 Hey, can I have Jennifer Aniston on my podcast? 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:35.000 Just yeah, let's get better, let's like elevate our podcast. 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:36.800 Before we go to dinner, fran and. 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:39.720 I said, okay, well maybe Olivia Rodrigo. So the reason 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:41.840 why I was saying that was because we were backstage, 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:44.880 like behind the stage, about to introduce Olivia Oldrigo and 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:46.960 Aleen runs up to me. She gives me a hug, 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.160 She's like, hey, how are you? And she's like, have 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:51.400 you ever met Olivia? And I'm like no, and I haven't. 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.559 She was come over here. She's literally about to perform. 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:56.319 She has like her in years in and Allen introduces 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.439 me to Olivia and she could not have been cuter. 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:02.800 It gives me a hug, super super cute, literally about 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:07.800 to perform and is like oh yeah, but I'm just 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:10.640 like to me, Aleen is like, I would love to 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:12.839 have a leen Maybe we get a leen On as 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.720 a guest, because she has these like amazing stories of 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:19.320 how she started such incredible brands, like these huge brands 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:23.880 and manages these like massive, massive names. She's a really 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:26.080 cool story and I think she'd be really empowering and 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.560 insightful for our listeners because I've heard her speak and 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:30.120 I was like moved. 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:32.920 I'll be honest, I might be more interested in having 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:36.439 someone like Eileen as opposed to one of the celebrities 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:39.400 to get the inside scoop of like not about them, 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:42.920 but like how you get into that position. Yeah, But 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:45.280 who was her first big celebrity right? 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:46.560 And I want to say. 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:51.080 She started it with like a big firm and then 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.640 she created her own company. 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:56.120 I think in her forties. 0:13:57.400 --> 0:13:59.640 So yeah, it's like a pretty cool she has a 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:01.840 really cool story, and maybe I reach out to her 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:03.400 and get her on as a guest, because I do. 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:07.559 I think she has some like really cool and interesting stories. 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.599 Great, that's a good goal. I like that. 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:11.520 Okay, great. 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:15.480 So then we had we had jingle Ball or you 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:20.600 had jingle Ball. And then there was the iHeart Christmas Party, 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:21.680 which was at. 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:27.800 Day holiday party. What holiday party? We don't exclude Hanukkah or. 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:31.320 Oh sorry, okay. It was the Christmas plus many other 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:37.600 holiday party the holiday party for iHeart And it was 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:42.520 at No Boo Malibu and it was We did it 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:43.880 there last year and it was so fun and this 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:46.440 year was like even bigger. Like we walked in and 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.360 I was like, what rams it was? It was a 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:53.680 packed house party time. Yeah, but it was super fun. 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:55.320 Easton and Mark both were there. 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:58.080 That was very exciting. We did not go last year, 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:00.880 but this year we went, Yeah other's dates and it 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:01.640 was really fine. 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:04.080 I felt like Mark really raged this weekend. 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:07.640 He did didn't you Mark out and about more in 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:09.080 my life out. 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:12.120 In a boot in a boat and he got his 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:16.760 daughter a photo with Olivia Rodrigo and then uh he 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:20.360 got a Fallen. I literally saw that photo and I 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:23.240 was like, did I miss something? Are they friends? Like 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:25.080 it looked like a photo that you take with your 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:26.800 friend because they were post. 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:31.240 Jimmy Fallon was totally down to do whatever. Like I 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:33.400 got a picture of Jimmy Fallen too, because he was 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:38.640 just backstage taking selfies with people, romping around, like just smiley, 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:42.560 so approachable, like you know, like sometimes when artists and 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:44.600 stuff are backstage, they're kind of being like walked to 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:46.280 and fro, kind of like don't look at me. 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:48.000 He could not have been the opposite. 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:52.440 He was like looking around, smiling, just like happy to 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:52.840 be there. 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:56.800 It was the people's choice, yes, of jingle Ball. 0:15:56.880 --> 0:16:00.320 Yes he was the people's choice of jingle Ball, but yeah. 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:02.840 One of Mark's daughters got a photo with Olivia and 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:07.640 the other one was watching Ajar, and Mark was like, Hey, 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:11.680 Olivia's going to be backstage, so you can meet her 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:15.000 potentially not one hundred percent, or stay and watch AJR. 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:17.560 So one of the daughters went with him for the 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:19.920 chance to meet Olivia and the other one stayed to 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.120 watch Ajar, And then the one that went to go 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:25.760 see Olivia met her and got a photo with her, and, 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:27.720 like I know, is. 0:16:27.720 --> 0:16:28.720 A risky taken life. 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:32.280 It really is all about the risk it is it is. 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:34.800 I would have taken the risk too. 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:37.400 You can see Ajar again. I'm sorry AJF. 0:16:38.160 --> 0:16:41.880 They love Ajar, and I do think she slightly regrets it, 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:43.720 but also she might have regretted missing Ajar. 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.960 Wow, you think she would have regretted missing Ajr. She 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:47.880 had met Olivia. 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:51.080 I'm glad she did, only because if it would have 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:54.840 been Ali and her friend and Brooklyn, it would have 0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:56.960 not been the moment Brooklyn got to have the one 0:16:57.000 --> 0:16:59.520 on one time with Olivia. That's a real gift her 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:02.040 sister gave heard. I'm trying to tell my oldest to 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:04.600 focus on that she was a giver. 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:07.679 Yeah, yeah, it'd be upset. 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:10.480 It was a fantastic weekend. Jingle Ball was one of 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:14.040 the true highlights of my nearly twenty years with iHeartRadio. 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:16.080 It was phenomenal. And then Saturday and I had such 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:18.560 a blast. It's so great to see Robbie and Haley, 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:21.720 and of course Ben Higgins and Dean Angler and Jared Haben. 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:23.760 These are my favorite people, so it was great. It 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:25.120 was a great, great weekend. 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:27.880 Yeah, it was really fun to have you guys there. 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:32.159 And everyone Eastern posted the photo and Mark is holding 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:34.600 a glass of water and everyone was like, I know, 0:17:34.760 --> 0:17:38.119 that's water in Mark's glass. They're like the scrubbers. No, 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:41.080 that's water in Mark's glass. 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:44.000 That's hilarious, And of course it was. Yes, I had 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:47.400 many waters that night. You got to be holding something. 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:50.080 Yeah, it is true. It's like a security, just like 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:51.280 having a drink in your hand. 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:54.000 I love having a drink in my hand. 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:54.960 We both do. 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:55.880 I love it. 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:58.520 We love having a drink in our hand. I had 0:17:58.520 --> 0:17:59.480 two bodies. 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:01.280 Uh huh. 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:01.920 I was fine. 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:05.240 Actually no, we drink at all on jingle Ball. 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:09.880 I drink yeah on Saturday, and I was I think 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:11.159 I maybe blacked out a little bit. 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:18.360 Was just the whole time. Yeah yeah, no, not really. 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:20.600 I didn't black out, but I woke up on Sunday 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:22.280 and I was like, I am a hungover. 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:24.320 Well, I also think that your body you were just 0:18:24.359 --> 0:18:26.800 like in go go go mo, so you're probably Sunday you. 0:18:26.800 --> 0:18:28.399 Were like just able to release. 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:29.199 Yeah. 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:29.520 Yeah. 0:18:30.680 --> 0:18:33.400 But the thing is, I love a Leachi Martini. It's 0:18:33.440 --> 0:18:36.720 like my favorite drink, and not everywhere can do it right. 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:40.359 Like sometimes they use Leachi liqueur, which is like not 0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:43.240 the same vibe. So when a Leachi martini is done right, 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:44.359 I can suck them down. 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.359 Can you explain what's in a Leitchi martini? 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:50.400 To be honest, I don't know, but I think it's 0:18:50.560 --> 0:18:52.800 just vodka and Leachi juice. 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:56.320 It's like a it's a martini. Yeah, fresh leachy juice. 0:18:56.320 --> 0:18:57.880 And then they like put like you know, they put 0:18:57.880 --> 0:19:00.359 like an olive for a martini, they do lechi so 0:19:00.359 --> 0:19:00.720 it's like. 0:19:00.680 --> 0:19:03.440 Sweeter m It's delicious. 0:19:03.680 --> 0:19:08.320 I feel like Robbie uh introduced you to the martini 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:09.400 world because. 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:12.800 You were at girl never a martini girl. Well he 0:19:12.840 --> 0:19:14.240 does like a crazy. 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:16.960 Gin martini with the two olives, two onions and a twist, 0:19:17.480 --> 0:19:19.159 a little splash of removeth I don't even know what 0:19:19.200 --> 0:19:21.480 I'm ordering when I say it, but I'm like, this 0:19:21.560 --> 0:19:22.160 is the order. 0:19:23.160 --> 0:19:24.159 Wait, what was that? 0:19:24.359 --> 0:19:28.679 It's it's a it's a gin martini, okay, with a 0:19:28.800 --> 0:19:31.000 rinse I think you said, like a rinse of remooth 0:19:31.080 --> 0:19:33.120 the so it just goes in and out, okay, and 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:35.240 then two olives, two onions in a twist. 0:19:35.800 --> 0:19:37.960 Wow, decadence. 0:19:38.880 --> 0:19:43.120 That's our order. That's very martini tasting. The Leachi martini 0:19:43.160 --> 0:19:43.960 tasted like dessert. 0:19:44.640 --> 0:19:47.040 Yeah, I'll try it next time because I I can 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:50.520 imagine every martini I've tasted is not like dessert. 0:19:50.680 --> 0:19:53.959 No, it's like very potent, yeah, very vodka, yeah, very strong. 0:19:56.320 --> 0:19:58.479 Robbie and I were like sitting closest to the ocean, 0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:00.440 so we were like frozen. But there was this funny 0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:02.160 photo of us like up against the heater. 0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:05.040 We both like have our hands, so cute. 0:20:06.000 --> 0:20:08.919 And he was funny because they brought out blankets and 0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:11.600 I was like, oh, I only need one because Hayley's like, here, 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:14.879 do you need another? I'm okay, and Robbie is freezing. 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:16.080 I was like give it to Robbie and he's like, 0:20:16.280 --> 0:20:18.040 I can't take a blanket. I'm a man. 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:22.640 I was like, oh god, he's a mirror on their mirror. 0:20:22.840 --> 0:20:23.040 Yeah. 0:20:23.119 --> 0:20:25.680 He was like shivering and then he finally took it. 0:20:25.960 --> 0:20:28.560 He's like, that's really what a man does. Exactly said 0:20:28.600 --> 0:20:30.640 I'm cold, and he takes the health given. 0:20:30.680 --> 0:20:32.520 Exactly a modern man. 0:20:32.480 --> 0:20:33.840 A modern man. 0:20:34.560 --> 0:20:35.520 So we actually came to a. 0:20:35.520 --> 0:20:38.600 Discovery at that dinner that I want to get to 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:39.400 when we come back. 0:20:39.560 --> 0:21:03.080 Great tease you know what I'm trying to say. 0:21:00.200 --> 0:21:03.439 All right, we're back. What discovery did you come to? 0:21:04.280 --> 0:21:08.600 So spoiler alert if you are not aware. I am 0:21:08.680 --> 0:21:14.640 obsessed with Survivor and I found out on Saturday night 0:21:15.400 --> 0:21:22.320 that Dean Belle formerly Dean Anglert wants to be on Survivor. 0:21:22.920 --> 0:21:25.760 H like actually legitimately wants to be on the show. 0:21:26.000 --> 0:21:26.480 Yeah. 0:21:26.560 --> 0:21:29.840 I don't know anybody at CBS except for the girl 0:21:30.320 --> 0:21:34.720 behind their instagram, which is pretty good. Yeah, I'm gonna 0:21:34.720 --> 0:21:36.959 try dming. I don't really know how that people do 0:21:37.000 --> 0:21:38.800 they do you nominate people, do. 0:21:38.720 --> 0:21:40.000 They like apply? 0:21:41.600 --> 0:21:42.280 I don't know. 0:21:44.200 --> 0:21:50.280 Watching Dean on Survivor would be top tier television in 0:21:50.280 --> 0:21:50.800 my opinion. 0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:52.879 He doesn't want he said, he doesn't want to like 0:21:52.920 --> 0:21:54.879 go through an audition process. He just wants them to 0:21:54.880 --> 0:21:56.439 come to him and say, like, we want you on 0:21:56.480 --> 0:21:58.240 the show. He doesn't want to have to go through 0:21:58.280 --> 0:22:02.960 like any like do they have an audition process? No, 0:22:03.040 --> 0:22:05.080 but probably like how the Bachelor, it was like you 0:22:05.119 --> 0:22:09.320 went and and and then I don't know, tell me, oh, okay, 0:22:09.480 --> 0:22:12.560 this is a fun little I don't know if I've 0:22:12.560 --> 0:22:14.479 ever told this. Maybe I have. We've had it's been 0:22:14.560 --> 0:22:18.080 six years of this podcast heard it. 0:22:18.119 --> 0:22:20.159 I didn't know there was a process. So you sent 0:22:20.240 --> 0:22:21.720 in a tape and then they pick you. 0:22:21.880 --> 0:22:24.480 No, no, no, So Laura nominated me. 0:22:24.760 --> 0:22:29.520 Yeah, and I uh like she would always she watched 0:22:29.560 --> 0:22:32.000 it like loyally at the time, and she would always 0:22:32.000 --> 0:22:34.240 be like, Becca, let's send in a video of you 0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:35.120 for the Bachelor. 0:22:35.240 --> 0:22:37.159 And I was like, oh, I'll never do that, you know. 0:22:37.160 --> 0:22:41.680 It was very like straight laz, I'm not chasing a man. Hello, 0:22:42.440 --> 0:22:48.080 And and so she texted me it was like on 0:22:48.119 --> 0:22:49.919 a Tuesday, and she was like, Hey, did you know 0:22:49.960 --> 0:22:51.600 that all you have to do to nominate someone for 0:22:51.680 --> 0:22:54.639 the Bachelor is send in a paragraph about them in 0:22:54.680 --> 0:22:56.760 a photo. And I was kind of like, no, I 0:22:56.760 --> 0:22:59.640 didn't know that. And then that weekend I got off 0:22:59.640 --> 0:23:03.399 a plane. I was in Chicago, and I do you 0:23:03.440 --> 0:23:07.480 remember the Do you remember mag Con? It was like, fortunately, 0:23:08.640 --> 0:23:10.679 I've worked read the guy who was like one of 0:23:10.720 --> 0:23:14.080 the like started mag Con. I was like, here's you 0:23:14.160 --> 0:23:16.639 have one of the founding fathers. I was like his assistant. 0:23:17.000 --> 0:23:18.520 And so we were in Chicago and I got off 0:23:18.520 --> 0:23:20.880 the plane and I had a voicemail and he was like, Hi, 0:23:20.960 --> 0:23:25.000 this is Scott from the Bachelor. Your friend Laura nominated 0:23:25.040 --> 0:23:27.800 you and we would love to meet with you. And 0:23:27.880 --> 0:23:29.240 so I texted her and I'm like I just got 0:23:29.240 --> 0:23:31.640 a call from the Bachelor and She's like, I literally 0:23:31.840 --> 0:23:34.439 did that this week. I can't believe they called you 0:23:34.520 --> 0:23:36.760 so fast. And I was like, I'm not doing it. 0:23:37.040 --> 0:23:39.240 She was like, you have to do it. So I 0:23:39.280 --> 0:23:42.400 got home and I had a call with them, and 0:23:42.440 --> 0:23:44.200 then I went up. I came up to La from 0:23:44.200 --> 0:23:46.439 San Diego and I met with them. This is in March. 0:23:46.480 --> 0:23:48.199 We didn't start with them, meaning like you meet for 0:23:48.240 --> 0:23:49.320 coffee or like I. 0:23:49.280 --> 0:23:52.120 Went to their offices. It was like on the West side, 0:23:52.320 --> 0:23:57.000 off like Olympic or something, and yeah, so I met 0:23:57.040 --> 0:23:59.760 with them and and they were, you know, they did 0:23:59.800 --> 0:24:01.800 the whole thing like we think you'll go very far, 0:24:02.480 --> 0:24:05.359 which I'm sure they told everyone that who doesn't leave 0:24:05.400 --> 0:24:09.960 that going like I'm my destiny is above like set 0:24:10.080 --> 0:24:13.640 ahead of me. So I go, I go home. This 0:24:13.680 --> 0:24:16.320 is a March. I every like month or so, they'd 0:24:16.359 --> 0:24:18.080 call and be like, hey, just checking in, like are 0:24:18.160 --> 0:24:20.080 you still single? Are you still interested in going on 0:24:20.119 --> 0:24:23.000 the show? And I was like, yeah, still single, so interested. 0:24:23.040 --> 0:24:26.919 And then the final casting weekend came and it was 0:24:27.000 --> 0:24:31.119 like all the like having to do like meet with 0:24:31.160 --> 0:24:35.879 an investigator, investigator like a private investigator to see if 0:24:35.880 --> 0:24:40.760 you had anything in your past. Yeah, and then we 0:24:40.800 --> 0:24:44.840 took like photos and stuff, I think, and then yeah, 0:24:44.880 --> 0:24:47.240 and then I went home and I waited to hear 0:24:47.280 --> 0:24:50.000 if I made it to the final like to go 0:24:50.080 --> 0:24:50.560 on the show. 0:24:50.760 --> 0:24:52.600 So it's a meeting, it's like a phone call, a 0:24:52.640 --> 0:24:54.119 meeting investigating. 0:24:54.160 --> 0:24:57.040 Some people like it's immediate, like depending on timing of 0:24:57.080 --> 0:25:01.440 when they meet. Like Caitlin Bristow actually had put submitted 0:25:01.480 --> 0:25:04.520 a tape for the season before ours, and they really 0:25:04.640 --> 0:25:06.280 liked her, but they were like, we're gonna wait and 0:25:06.320 --> 0:25:09.080 put her on this next season because I think they 0:25:09.080 --> 0:25:12.360 wanted her for Crystals because she was so like such good. 0:25:12.480 --> 0:25:15.280 She was just like a great person to have on 0:25:15.359 --> 0:25:19.840 TV and like him being from like Farmland, Iowa, and 0:25:19.880 --> 0:25:23.320 she was this like spunky firecracker and like so funny 0:25:23.359 --> 0:25:23.879 and like was. 0:25:23.880 --> 0:25:31.000 The Bachelor before Crystals Wan Pablo, Yeah, Caitlin try to date. Well, yeah, 0:25:31.040 --> 0:25:34.040 that she was what she wanted to do. Wow. 0:25:34.480 --> 0:25:37.000 So yeah, it was like a really interesting thing. But 0:25:37.160 --> 0:25:39.240 like some people, I think Jordan Rodgers got called like 0:25:39.280 --> 0:25:42.000 the week of to go on JoJo's season, Like it 0:25:42.040 --> 0:25:43.040 was really fast. 0:25:43.080 --> 0:25:46.280 So Dean could potentially be the Jordan Rogers of sin. 0:25:46.480 --> 0:25:48.400 I think will only do it if he had. 0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:49.920 The Jordan Rogers. Yeah. 0:25:49.960 --> 0:25:52.520 Before we move on from your early Bachelor experience, I 0:25:53.200 --> 0:25:56.679 went to the Bachelor mansion for the first time. That 0:25:56.840 --> 0:26:00.600 was a thrill and I wanted to you hear all 0:26:00.640 --> 0:26:02.639 the only stories about this place, you know, and I 0:26:02.680 --> 0:26:05.520 got to like walk the grounds. It was crazy. Do 0:26:05.520 --> 0:26:07.240 you remember what room you were in there? 0:26:07.440 --> 0:26:10.280 Yeah? Yeah, So on Chris's season, like when you went 0:26:10.760 --> 0:26:13.840 up the stairs, I was to the right, like I 0:26:13.880 --> 0:26:14.760 was on the very end. 0:26:15.080 --> 0:26:18.720 Wow, yeah, I stood there are there like rooms with 0:26:18.760 --> 0:26:20.480 bunk beds, Like is it like a sleeping porch and 0:26:20.520 --> 0:26:21.040 a sorority? 0:26:21.240 --> 0:26:23.680 Oh my gosh. Every room has like multiple bunk beds 0:26:23.680 --> 0:26:24.119 in it. 0:26:24.119 --> 0:26:24.960 It's like my dream. 0:26:25.440 --> 0:26:28.080 Yeah. Yeah, you would have thrived just in that part 0:26:28.119 --> 0:26:30.360 of the Bachelor, h you would have thrived. And then 0:26:30.560 --> 0:26:32.479 on Ben's season, I was the middle room which had 0:26:32.520 --> 0:26:35.800 the bathroom was like the grated, like the grate on 0:26:35.920 --> 0:26:39.000 it the mirror. Yeah yeah yeah, that was very challenging. 0:26:39.400 --> 0:26:41.520 Can you just go in that pool? Whenever you want. 0:26:42.119 --> 0:26:44.879 So they don't warm the pool because they don't want 0:26:44.960 --> 0:26:46.160 you to get in it because you have to take 0:26:46.160 --> 0:26:49.640 your mic off. So if I wanted a break from 0:26:49.640 --> 0:26:51.600 the mic, I would be like, I just want to 0:26:51.640 --> 0:26:53.440 go dip in the pool. And they were like, it's freezing, 0:26:53.480 --> 0:26:55.600 and I'm like, that's okay, it sounds nice, just so 0:26:55.640 --> 0:26:58.080 I could like, because you wear like a pack on 0:26:58.119 --> 0:26:59.760 your back and you have it on twenty four to 0:26:59.760 --> 0:27:03.159 seven and it's so uncomfortable, not when you sleep, but 0:27:03.280 --> 0:27:07.160 like you always have it on, and so they would 0:27:07.440 --> 0:27:11.040 like the bathroom. Yeah, they were like they were like, 0:27:11.040 --> 0:27:13.280 we're not listening to it. I always switched mine off though, 0:27:14.320 --> 0:27:15.800 I would always switch myne off. I'm like, this is 0:27:15.800 --> 0:27:16.560 so uncomfortable. 0:27:16.640 --> 0:27:18.200 So yeah, and like what if you're like changing your 0:27:18.200 --> 0:27:19.440 tampon and like. 0:27:20.040 --> 0:27:22.600 What noises are like changing your pad? 0:27:22.760 --> 0:27:24.640 It's like sh I. 0:27:24.600 --> 0:27:27.760 Mean yeah, I think they probably see in here so 0:27:27.880 --> 0:27:28.840 much that they're like. 0:27:28.760 --> 0:27:31.680 Ever, that's like, yeah, inappropriate. 0:27:32.640 --> 0:27:36.440 So uh. And I was telling Ben it was really 0:27:36.480 --> 0:27:38.800 weird because on Chris the season, I felt like we 0:27:38.840 --> 0:27:40.760 didn't sleep at all, Like we would have to wake 0:27:40.840 --> 0:27:44.520 up so early and stay up so late, like five 0:27:44.600 --> 0:27:46.520 or six, Like we wouldn't go to sleep till like 0:27:46.560 --> 0:27:48.480 four or five from a rose ceremony, and then they'd 0:27:48.480 --> 0:27:50.880 have us up like six or seven for like Dick 0:27:50.960 --> 0:27:51.600 card stuff. 0:27:51.600 --> 0:27:52.560 I'd be a mess. 0:27:53.160 --> 0:27:55.560 It was brutal. But then on Ben's season they would 0:27:55.600 --> 0:27:57.400 I just would go up to the room and I'd 0:27:57.440 --> 0:27:59.679 sleep like they would never bother me. 0:28:00.560 --> 0:28:01.080 Interesting. 0:28:01.200 --> 0:28:02.919 So I don't know if they were just like like 0:28:03.040 --> 0:28:05.760 she's not gonna give us anything like that entertaining, just 0:28:05.800 --> 0:28:07.439 like don't even let her go, let her be. 0:28:07.720 --> 0:28:09.240 Yeah, but I appreciated that. 0:28:10.920 --> 0:28:16.600 But yeah, the Bachelor Mansion lots of memories. It's it's, uh, 0:28:17.040 --> 0:28:20.320 it's such an interesting place because it's like so people 0:28:20.320 --> 0:28:22.200 were like why won't they paint it? Like why won't 0:28:22.200 --> 0:28:23.000 they update it? 0:28:23.000 --> 0:28:25.040 It's it's bizarre, like like all the I mean, it's 0:28:25.040 --> 0:28:27.199 clearly just the house they ran out for stuff, and 0:28:27.240 --> 0:28:29.080 it's like we got there and like, not only is 0:28:29.080 --> 0:28:31.000 there no furniture in there, there's no light fixtures in 0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:33.000 a lot of the room. So like after the sun 0:28:33.080 --> 0:28:35.000 went down, like I was like using my flashlight to 0:28:35.000 --> 0:28:36.479 get into my back by my gosh. 0:28:36.520 --> 0:28:38.160 I was like, gosh, yeah, because they always just have 0:28:38.240 --> 0:28:41.440 all the studio lighting. Yeah, I don't even think about that. 0:28:42.120 --> 0:28:43.480 It was it was cool being there, though. 0:28:43.520 --> 0:28:45.400 You know, how are the Golden Bachelor women. 0:28:45.640 --> 0:28:50.000 They were awesome. I I uh, I've met a lot 0:28:50.000 --> 0:28:52.360 of Bachelor people in my life. I've never wanted a 0:28:52.400 --> 0:28:54.800 picture with one of them until Sandra came in. 0:28:55.160 --> 0:28:55.480 Wow. 0:28:55.520 --> 0:28:57.920 I love Sandra. I got a photo with Sandra. She 0:28:58.080 --> 0:28:58.640 was my favorite. 0:28:58.640 --> 0:29:01.040 The fart around the world heard around the world. 0:29:01.360 --> 0:29:03.800 Uh, there's a part where they're playing pickleball and Jesse 0:29:03.880 --> 0:29:07.400 Palmer's like, here comes Sandra. She's had two knee replacements 0:29:07.440 --> 0:29:09.959 and she's missing her daughter's waiting to be here. And 0:29:10.040 --> 0:29:13.680 I started crying from laughing at that. I love Sandra 0:29:13.760 --> 0:29:15.800 and she was so cool. All the bachel Golden Bachelor 0:29:15.840 --> 0:29:18.239 ladies were awesome. They're so great. I hope they'll get 0:29:18.240 --> 0:29:19.400 their own shows. I hope they're all the. 0:29:19.400 --> 0:29:22.600 Bachelorette I do you know what I have pitched the 0:29:23.240 --> 0:29:26.280 next Bacherette one of the Golden Bacher contestants. 0:29:26.440 --> 0:29:28.000 I mean, I hope so it was so I felt 0:29:28.000 --> 0:29:29.520 like it was such a hit. It would be such 0:29:29.520 --> 0:29:31.560 a miss for them to not do it. But my 0:29:31.720 --> 0:29:34.600 dream is a bachelor in Paradise, Golden Bachelor in Paradise, 0:29:34.640 --> 0:29:37.480 and they're like in Palm Springs or something. Yes, like 0:29:38.200 --> 0:29:41.240 you know, like pickleball. 0:29:39.880 --> 0:29:40.920 With the West Palm Beach. 0:29:41.200 --> 0:29:42.480 Yeah. 0:29:42.520 --> 0:29:44.880 Do we have any facts of like how the Golden 0:29:44.920 --> 0:29:47.480 Bachelor did? Is that like public knowledge? 0:29:48.200 --> 0:29:50.720 I don't. I'll pull up the exact numbers. But I 0:29:50.800 --> 0:29:52.960 remember seeing that the finale was like the best viewed 0:29:52.960 --> 0:29:55.560 one since the pandemic. I think, why. 0:29:56.160 --> 0:29:59.240 Did you watch it? Have you? Did you ever watch 0:29:59.280 --> 0:30:01.200 it or catch up or anything I did. 0:30:01.920 --> 0:30:05.120 I kept trying, okay, but it's the death that was 0:30:05.160 --> 0:30:08.920 hard for me. Every single week hearing about somebody's spouse 0:30:09.000 --> 0:30:10.920 dying before I went to sleep. 0:30:11.440 --> 0:30:13.400 I just I just it made me sad. 0:30:13.840 --> 0:30:14.760 Robbie told me that too. 0:30:15.000 --> 0:30:17.840 At Nobuy, he only gave it. I went a lot 0:30:17.880 --> 0:30:20.080 further than Robbie. Robbie gave it one episode. 0:30:20.280 --> 0:30:22.280 I was like, everybody dies, bro it comes for. 0:30:22.360 --> 0:30:26.240 Us all it does. Robbie after that, yeah, the storyline. 0:30:26.280 --> 0:30:28.880 He was out after the first episode, but I kept going. 0:30:28.960 --> 0:30:30.600 I was like, I'm gonna keep giving it a shop 0:30:30.680 --> 0:30:32.320 then because I was like, okay, maybe I'll just get 0:30:32.320 --> 0:30:38.560 through Jerry's Gary's, Gary's you know, story and then it 0:30:38.640 --> 0:30:41.400 was every date after talking about how they lost their spouse, 0:30:41.400 --> 0:30:42.560 and I was like, I can't do it. 0:30:42.560 --> 0:30:43.960 It just makes me too sad. 0:30:44.200 --> 0:30:48.400 Well, spoiler alert, there was a finale and he chose 0:30:49.000 --> 0:30:52.040 I know who he chose. Okay, so we're watching it's me, 0:30:52.160 --> 0:30:56.160 Haley and Taylor Banks and Hailey is like, heaving, she's 0:30:56.200 --> 0:30:57.800 solving so much during the breakup. 0:30:57.880 --> 0:31:00.240 Oh, because he had to send one of them home. Yeah, 0:31:00.240 --> 0:31:01.360 I knew who was at. 0:31:01.240 --> 0:31:05.200 Home, Leslie, And it was like painful because it felt 0:31:05.240 --> 0:31:10.360 like that heartbreak of that you're so angry and you're 0:31:10.440 --> 0:31:13.240 sad and you're embarrassed and you're just like I want 0:31:13.280 --> 0:31:14.960 to tell them to get out, but also be like 0:31:15.000 --> 0:31:17.440 don't leave, you know, like if you could feel it, 0:31:17.520 --> 0:31:19.560 and knowing that she you know, she was like, this 0:31:19.720 --> 0:31:24.920 is so embarrassing and it's happening on national television, and 0:31:24.920 --> 0:31:27.200 she was like and I'm at least grateful that you 0:31:27.240 --> 0:31:29.000 came and told me in my room as opposed to 0:31:29.040 --> 0:31:31.240 doing it like at the like making me come and 0:31:31.280 --> 0:31:34.680 get dressed up in a fancy dress. And it was 0:31:34.800 --> 0:31:39.640 just like pain and he was like sobbing, was like 0:31:40.360 --> 0:31:43.360 are you good? Really? Are you good. This show like 0:31:43.480 --> 0:31:44.040 wrecked her. 0:31:44.200 --> 0:31:46.280 So yeah, that's what I feel like. I just feel 0:31:46.280 --> 0:31:48.760 like I was always sad and like wanting to cry. 0:31:49.400 --> 0:31:53.920 Yeah, well it's pretty upset. I mean it was, but 0:31:54.000 --> 0:31:55.680 it was really sweet. It was a great season. 0:31:56.280 --> 0:31:58.200 So is now Leslie like the front runner to be 0:31:58.240 --> 0:31:58.960 the Bacheorette? 0:32:00.040 --> 0:32:04.160 So I think Leslie or there was this woman who 0:32:04.200 --> 0:32:07.960 went like left kind of early on because her daughter, Yeah, 0:32:08.040 --> 0:32:11.600 get Joan. She's like a TikTok star. She does a 0:32:11.640 --> 0:32:14.320 lot of tiktoks and people are like Joan for Bachelorette 0:32:14.360 --> 0:32:16.480 and she so that I think it would be between 0:32:16.480 --> 0:32:19.680 those two, but maybe maybe someone else. Okay, But I 0:32:19.760 --> 0:32:22.120 was mostly jealous about the Bachelor Mansion because of the 0:32:22.160 --> 0:32:25.600 Golden Bachelor woman in the bachi that looked fun. 0:32:26.040 --> 0:32:29.520 Oh yeah, that I was working. I couldn't do that. 0:32:29.960 --> 0:32:31.320 You couldn't dabble in the bottom. 0:32:31.720 --> 0:32:33.880 I did not know. I saw them practicing. 0:32:34.040 --> 0:32:35.640 No soy sauce for you. 0:32:35.360 --> 0:32:40.320 No soy sauce. I got pizza later, lies true. 0:32:41.640 --> 0:32:42.720 What kind of pizza though? 0:32:42.960 --> 0:32:43.640 Pepperoni? 0:32:44.400 --> 0:32:46.320 Oh my gosh, can I tell you something. 0:32:46.480 --> 0:32:49.360 I've never wanted a piece of pizza more than I 0:32:49.400 --> 0:32:50.920 did on Friday night sidebar. 0:32:52.120 --> 0:32:54.600 There's something about it Get one no, because it was 0:32:54.640 --> 0:32:56.720 going to a different crew and I just like watched 0:32:56.720 --> 0:32:57.760 it go bye, smelled it. 0:32:57.880 --> 0:33:00.520 I was like, when you're working an event like that 0:33:00.760 --> 0:33:02.720 and it's a long day, I feel like nothing hits 0:33:02.760 --> 0:33:04.160 better than pizza or in and out. 0:33:04.320 --> 0:33:07.520 Yeah after yes, And like I had the Sophie's choice 0:33:07.720 --> 0:33:10.680 at the end of the day because I got there, 0:33:10.920 --> 0:33:12.880 I really hadn't eaten. I didn't eat anything, and then 0:33:12.880 --> 0:33:15.440 when you're at the venue, I'm eating like nuts and chips, 0:33:15.440 --> 0:33:16.680 and like I didn't really have a meal. 0:33:16.880 --> 0:33:19.160 Yeah, we got to get to your what you eat 0:33:19.160 --> 0:33:19.479 in a day? 0:33:19.880 --> 0:33:22.400 No, but that was like a weird day because you're 0:33:22.440 --> 0:33:24.360 at the forum, so you just have to kind of 0:33:24.360 --> 0:33:27.400 eat what's there. Yeah, And so I didn't really have 0:33:27.440 --> 0:33:29.760 a meal, and it's eleven o'clock we do Olivia Rodrigo. 0:33:29.840 --> 0:33:30.320 I'm leaving. 0:33:30.400 --> 0:33:32.840 It's like eleven thirty, and I was like starving, So 0:33:32.880 --> 0:33:35.280 I wanted to go to In and Out, but then 0:33:35.320 --> 0:33:37.560 I really just wanted to get to bed, and I 0:33:37.600 --> 0:33:39.480 was I went straight to bed, and I regreted not 0:33:39.520 --> 0:33:40.200 going in and out. 0:33:40.320 --> 0:33:42.760 You have to end a night like that with a 0:33:42.800 --> 0:33:47.920 delicious meal. I no, no, but for myself, I had a 0:33:48.000 --> 0:33:48.800 lot of fun to do it. 0:33:48.840 --> 0:33:50.720 When you're like with someone, it. 0:33:50.680 --> 0:33:53.600 Is, you know, fun. But it's great alone too, is it? 0:33:53.680 --> 0:33:53.880 Yeah? 0:33:53.960 --> 0:33:56.320 Have you ever in I've never in and outed it alone. 0:33:58.080 --> 0:33:58.880 You're missing out. 0:33:59.040 --> 0:34:00.240 I have done it a lot. 0:34:01.640 --> 0:34:03.920 I've never never in and it alone. 0:34:04.040 --> 0:34:06.080 Wow, you should do that. Take yourself on a little 0:34:06.120 --> 0:34:06.760 in and out date. 0:34:06.960 --> 0:34:22.440 Yeah, Okay. 0:34:23.880 --> 0:34:27.200 All I'm gonna say is I watch the most disturbingly 0:34:27.600 --> 0:34:33.000 crazy cult documentary that I've ever watched. And I can't 0:34:33.040 --> 0:34:36.080 talk about it because if I describe what it is, 0:34:36.200 --> 0:34:38.520 You're gonna stare at me like you always do when 0:34:38.560 --> 0:34:40.840 I describe something that you don't watch, and it's like 0:34:41.000 --> 0:34:45.040 crazy insane. But I need someone to message me and 0:34:45.120 --> 0:34:49.759 talk about this documentary which is on HBO Max and 0:34:49.800 --> 0:34:52.440 it's called Love has Won the Cult of Mother God. 0:34:53.840 --> 0:34:55.520 Why would you ever watch that? 0:34:56.080 --> 0:34:58.440 Because someone was saying, oh, Taylor Banks was telling me 0:34:58.520 --> 0:35:01.160 like this, have you I love a good like kind 0:35:01.160 --> 0:35:06.160 of like crime documentary, love a good cold documentary. Nothing. 0:35:06.200 --> 0:35:09.560 I don't know that anything will ever top this wow insanity, 0:35:09.840 --> 0:35:15.200 but just be prepared. It is graphic. So yeah, I 0:35:15.320 --> 0:35:18.799 just that's been on my brain and I need a 0:35:18.840 --> 0:35:19.879 palate cleanse ace. 0:35:20.360 --> 0:35:22.400 You know, it's a great palate cleanses. Survivor. 0:35:22.560 --> 0:35:26.040 Oh yeah, well Survivor. I just finished season forty, which 0:35:26.080 --> 0:35:30.920 was like the Winners at War, best season I've ever 0:35:31.000 --> 0:35:33.560 watched a Survivor because they brought back it was all 0:35:33.600 --> 0:35:35.880 the winners. So it was like twenty seventeen or twenty 0:35:36.080 --> 0:35:37.320 winners from past seasons. 0:35:37.600 --> 0:35:38.600 Did you know all of them? 0:35:38.920 --> 0:35:41.520 No, because I haven't watched one through seventeen and I 0:35:41.560 --> 0:35:44.640 knew most of them. Yeah, yeah, so good. And then 0:35:44.680 --> 0:35:47.319 what was crazy is I'm watching the whole season. I'm 0:35:47.320 --> 0:35:49.800 so into it. And then the finale they used to 0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:53.200 do their finales live from LA but it was COVID 0:35:53.320 --> 0:35:56.120 and so it was on Zoom and I was watching it. Actually, 0:35:56.160 --> 0:35:57.680 we watched it last night. We finished it, and I 0:35:57.719 --> 0:36:02.240 was like, that sucked because it was such a great, 0:36:02.320 --> 0:36:05.720 powerful season. And then we just got the Zoom ending 0:36:05.880 --> 0:36:08.120 and they're all on Zoom and their homes and I was. 0:36:08.080 --> 0:36:09.160 Like, damn. 0:36:10.160 --> 0:36:15.840 Yeah. The pandemic sucked for many reasons, including the Survivor finale. 0:36:15.960 --> 0:36:17.839 The no I know, but like I guess, I think 0:36:18.160 --> 0:36:20.520 we were so used to just like watching stuff like 0:36:20.520 --> 0:36:22.279 we were like, I'd rather get it on zoom and 0:36:22.320 --> 0:36:23.120 like have them do it. 0:36:23.200 --> 0:36:25.440 We were just they were doing stuff right right. 0:36:25.480 --> 0:36:27.480 But now looking back and watching it, I was like, oh, 0:36:27.600 --> 0:36:29.319 I wish I could have asked Mo, like, you know, 0:36:29.520 --> 0:36:34.160 like ask more questions, Yeah, to my TV that and 0:36:34.160 --> 0:36:36.800 then Jeff Probes would know and ask the contestants. 0:36:37.000 --> 0:36:40.760 Yeah, we did catch up on the Squid Games. 0:36:42.280 --> 0:36:44.319 Have you watched the Battleship episode yet? 0:36:44.480 --> 0:36:46.600 Yeah, we've a We're literally as caught up as you 0:36:46.640 --> 0:36:46.920 can be. 0:36:47.160 --> 0:36:50.840 Oh my, the Battleship episode was iconic. 0:36:51.320 --> 0:36:55.919 It's so luck based in a show like I think this, Haley, 0:36:56.160 --> 0:36:57.920 I think you'd be really good at this, and I'm like, 0:36:58.480 --> 0:37:01.319 I don't think so, because it's you don't even have 0:37:01.360 --> 0:37:04.040 to have skill. You just have to be maybe to 0:37:04.040 --> 0:37:05.880 an extent, but a lot of it. 0:37:06.000 --> 0:37:08.319 Now Because if you were skilled, if you were really 0:37:08.320 --> 0:37:09.799 good at Battleship, you'd say I want to be the 0:37:09.800 --> 0:37:11.480 captain because I'm gonna win this for my team. 0:37:13.080 --> 0:37:15.279 That's skill. That's not luck. 0:37:16.080 --> 0:37:19.160 No, if your battleship is just getting lucky with. 0:37:19.160 --> 0:37:22.600 Your guests, no, it's not. There's skill in Battleship. 0:37:23.719 --> 0:37:26.120 Guessing where the other boats are? Isn't luck? 0:37:26.880 --> 0:37:28.960 No, what can you describe the skill? 0:37:29.440 --> 0:37:31.920 So I don't have it, so I can't describe it, 0:37:32.040 --> 0:37:34.239 but there is a skill to it, like people who 0:37:34.239 --> 0:37:38.279 play battleship often are gonna be better at battleship. 0:37:38.320 --> 0:37:40.520 Then let's say me playing Battleship's patterns. 0:37:40.520 --> 0:37:42.279 I guess you could probably patterns like. 0:37:42.280 --> 0:37:46.200 C four is like a common like missile thrower. People 0:37:46.200 --> 0:37:49.960 always want to throw at C four. There's some skill. 0:37:50.160 --> 0:37:51.960 I'm sure if you look on Reddit, I'm sure you'll 0:37:52.000 --> 0:37:52.480 find something. 0:37:52.880 --> 0:37:54.680 Okay, slash Battleship. 0:37:55.760 --> 0:37:58.919 Okay, you know, not worth the argument, But a lot 0:37:58.960 --> 0:38:00.560 of the other stuff is. 0:38:00.480 --> 0:38:04.120 Luck Like which one the one? 0:38:04.200 --> 0:38:07.080 Where did you finish it? 0:38:07.200 --> 0:38:07.359 No? 0:38:07.680 --> 0:38:09.240 I just finished the Battleship episode. 0:38:09.239 --> 0:38:10.719 Oh you're so far behind? Oh? 0:38:10.760 --> 0:38:12.840 Really, the best show you've ever watched? 0:38:12.840 --> 0:38:16.400 And you're are you watching Survivor finale instead of because. 0:38:16.120 --> 0:38:18.919 I'm watching Winners at War? Are you kidding me? Top 0:38:18.960 --> 0:38:19.880 tier television? 0:38:21.920 --> 0:38:23.600 I'm trying to think if we watched anything else? 0:38:24.640 --> 0:38:25.000 Uh? 0:38:25.040 --> 0:38:27.080 Oh Special Forces? Did you finish that? 0:38:27.280 --> 0:38:28.359 Not finish yet? 0:38:28.400 --> 0:38:31.360 But what I don't have that many hours in a 0:38:31.400 --> 0:38:32.200 day to watch TV. 0:38:32.920 --> 0:38:35.680 You watch like fourteen seasons of Survivor. 0:38:36.000 --> 0:38:38.200 I watched I. 0:38:38.120 --> 0:38:41.799 Watched two episodes of television a night usually, so it 0:38:41.880 --> 0:38:44.160 depends when we have the kids, we watch something that 0:38:44.200 --> 0:38:45.640 I watch with the kids. So, like, you're not gonna 0:38:45.640 --> 0:38:50.919 watch Lego Masters, No I'm not. It's actually not bad TV. 0:38:51.000 --> 0:38:53.200 I kind of quite like Lego Masters. But that's where 0:38:53.239 --> 0:38:55.200 I watch all my baking shows. And then I'll watch 0:38:55.200 --> 0:38:57.080 like one episode of something that I want to watch 0:38:57.120 --> 0:38:59.960 before I fall asleep. Uh huh, not that much time. 0:39:01.680 --> 0:39:06.680 Well maybe for the sake of like having discussions about things, 0:39:06.680 --> 0:39:09.000 you can watch one episode. 0:39:08.800 --> 0:39:11.239 If you told me ahead of time, I would do. 0:39:11.320 --> 0:39:13.640 I assume I got caught up because you said it 0:39:13.680 --> 0:39:15.960 was the greatest show you've ever watched, and you can't 0:39:15.960 --> 0:39:17.359 get over how amazing it is. 0:39:17.680 --> 0:39:19.399 I know, I love it. I'm still watching it. 0:39:19.719 --> 0:39:21.920 You're just giving it like a weekly you're treating it 0:39:21.960 --> 0:39:23.839 like a weekly episode TV show. 0:39:23.880 --> 0:39:25.400 I can't we watch it with the kids, so I 0:39:25.400 --> 0:39:28.120 can only watch it when we have them. So we 0:39:28.160 --> 0:39:29.640 watch it when we have them, and when we don't 0:39:29.640 --> 0:39:30.480 have them, I can't watch it. 0:39:30.480 --> 0:39:32.320 Oh, you're watching squid games with the children? 0:39:32.360 --> 0:39:32.720 Correct? 0:39:32.840 --> 0:39:37.000 Gotcha? All right, Well, I'll be more intentional about saying, Hey, 0:39:37.200 --> 0:39:40.279 I'm caught up to this point on this show that 0:39:40.440 --> 0:39:44.080 you're watching. Are you gonna be able to catch up 0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:45.520 on it this weekend so we can talk about on 0:39:45.560 --> 0:39:46.160 the podcast. 0:39:46.280 --> 0:39:49.920 Yeah, a little proactive would be Okay, appreciate it. 0:39:50.000 --> 0:39:52.839 I rushed through it thinking that you were being caught up. 0:39:54.160 --> 0:39:57.360 And now we wait till like December ninth for the finale. 0:39:58.719 --> 0:40:03.840 Well yeah, four days, yeah, four days, all right, because 0:40:03.880 --> 0:40:05.600 then next week, if you watch it, if you get 0:40:05.600 --> 0:40:09.920 all caught up, we can talk about the finale. Okay, Okay, 0:40:11.640 --> 0:40:25.240 We're gonna take a break and we have some emails. 0:40:35.920 --> 0:40:39.600 All right, we are back. Easton is going to fill 0:40:39.640 --> 0:40:41.200 in for reading the emails today. 0:40:42.280 --> 0:40:44.360 Thank you. It's my pleasure to do this because I 0:40:44.440 --> 0:40:49.439 can read. This is from Ali. Hello friends, Becca, Tanya, Mark, 0:40:49.480 --> 0:40:52.520 and Easton smiley face. I would love your objective opinion 0:40:52.520 --> 0:40:54.719 on what to do. Four years ago, I met my 0:40:54.800 --> 0:40:57.160 husband while we were both living in Colorado. He is 0:40:57.200 --> 0:40:59.520 originally from Nebraska, so after dating a while, we moved 0:40:59.560 --> 0:41:02.600 to Lincoln. Fast forward to now. His dad is awful. 0:41:02.800 --> 0:41:04.840 He is so rude. He has made it known that 0:41:04.880 --> 0:41:06.960 he does not like me very much. For no reason. 0:41:07.280 --> 0:41:09.160 He is mean to his wife, my mother in law, 0:41:09.200 --> 0:41:12.200 and just makes everyone's life hell. We've gone family therapy 0:41:12.200 --> 0:41:13.680 to try to fix it, but he's just older and 0:41:13.680 --> 0:41:16.800 he's set in his ways. Here's my dilemma. I feel alone. 0:41:16.960 --> 0:41:19.000 My husband does not have many friends here in town, 0:41:19.040 --> 0:41:21.360 and it's hard. We're going on year three of trying 0:41:21.360 --> 0:41:25.080 for a baby and dealing with the many struggles of infertility. 0:41:25.400 --> 0:41:27.560 I missed my sisters and family back in Colorado, and 0:41:27.600 --> 0:41:29.719 part of me wants to move back. My husband is 0:41:29.760 --> 0:41:31.520 open to it and willing to move back, but it 0:41:31.560 --> 0:41:34.239 can't shake the feeling of guilt. He loves Nebraska, he 0:41:34.440 --> 0:41:37.359 is Nebraska. It's his happy place here, and a part 0:41:37.400 --> 0:41:39.719 of me would always feel selfish for taking him away 0:41:39.719 --> 0:41:42.040 from it. I just feel like with his parents getting 0:41:42.080 --> 0:41:44.320 older and he does not have any friends or siblings here. 0:41:44.719 --> 0:41:46.920 Once we finally get our miracle baby, we won't have 0:41:46.960 --> 0:41:49.600 any help or community and it feels so isolating. So 0:41:49.680 --> 0:41:51.760 my question is how do I look past the guilt 0:41:51.760 --> 0:41:54.080 of it? Do we move? Do we say help? Love 0:41:54.120 --> 0:41:55.720 you all? I'm a day win scrubber. 0:41:57.360 --> 0:42:03.120 It doesn't feel like he's particular cularly happy there either. 0:42:03.760 --> 0:42:06.279 Well, she says that he is Nebraska, so no, I 0:42:06.320 --> 0:42:06.719 think he. 0:42:06.800 --> 0:42:09.239 Loves being home, but I don't feel like he's like 0:42:09.520 --> 0:42:12.760 integrated into like a friend group or like super close 0:42:12.800 --> 0:42:15.920 with like connecting with his family. And if he's willing 0:42:15.920 --> 0:42:18.480 to move to Colorado, I think maybe he's trying to say, like, 0:42:19.040 --> 0:42:21.640 I love where I'm from, and I'm also willing to 0:42:21.719 --> 0:42:23.160 go where you're going to be happy. 0:42:24.840 --> 0:42:27.200 I'm sure there's Cornfield's in Colorado they can find. 0:42:27.400 --> 0:42:29.040 Yeah, But I feel like we're missing a part in 0:42:29.080 --> 0:42:32.640 the email where we don't know what his thoughts are, 0:42:32.680 --> 0:42:34.760 like how she brought it up to him yet, or 0:42:34.920 --> 0:42:36.360 is this just stuff that she's like going through in 0:42:36.400 --> 0:42:39.640 her head before she talks to him, Like she's like, 0:42:39.719 --> 0:42:42.680 I feel bad asking him to do that. I feel 0:42:42.719 --> 0:42:45.000 like you have to just be open and honest and 0:42:45.080 --> 0:42:47.279 ask him his opinion and then he might say no, 0:42:47.360 --> 0:42:49.000 I don't want to do it, and then you can 0:42:49.080 --> 0:42:51.080 kind of come figure out a solution or a compromise. 0:42:51.640 --> 0:42:56.280 But I feel like you got to just ask yeah. 0:42:56.360 --> 0:43:00.680 And I also think like it feels with his dad 0:43:00.719 --> 0:43:05.880 and the family dynamic being stressful, Like y'all don't feel 0:43:05.880 --> 0:43:08.000 like you're in a good routine. And I think that 0:43:08.600 --> 0:43:11.640 you met in Colorado, so he obviously has he likes 0:43:11.680 --> 0:43:14.400 Colorado because he moved there, and then you moved for 0:43:14.520 --> 0:43:18.399 him to where he loves to be. And now it's 0:43:18.480 --> 0:43:20.880 kind of like, do we go and create our new 0:43:22.520 --> 0:43:25.360 you know, life somewhere that we're both happy and like 0:43:25.440 --> 0:43:28.960 can meet people and community and have you know, go 0:43:29.080 --> 0:43:33.240 visit Nebraska when when we can, but not feel stuck there. 0:43:34.080 --> 0:43:38.360 It seems to me like this is like if she 0:43:38.560 --> 0:43:42.560 just says, let's move to Colorado, he would be he 0:43:42.600 --> 0:43:47.239 would say sure, Like it seems like she's over Yeah, 0:43:47.560 --> 0:43:50.080 like she's she feels guilty about it. But I mean 0:43:50.920 --> 0:43:55.160 it's not like he said I'm not leaving Nebraska like that. Yeah, 0:43:55.280 --> 0:43:56.480 I know, as I was doing an xcent and I 0:43:56.520 --> 0:43:59.719 felt bad immediately, but I'm sorry everyone in Nebraska. I 0:43:59.719 --> 0:44:03.320 love Cornesker State. Yeah, I mean, it's not like you 0:44:03.320 --> 0:44:06.160 put his foot down. And also, when you have a kid, 0:44:06.280 --> 0:44:08.160 you're gonna want to be in your family that will 0:44:08.320 --> 0:44:08.960 help you out. 0:44:09.280 --> 0:44:11.440 I know, But I feel like, not this, she's not 0:44:11.520 --> 0:44:13.840 really liking her father in law. 0:44:14.360 --> 0:44:18.359 That's what I'm saying. Like the because she's from Colorado, right, 0:44:18.400 --> 0:44:20.480 oh yeah, yea, So they go back to Colorado. I 0:44:20.480 --> 0:44:22.319 assume there's gonna be more of a network there. Yeah, 0:44:22.440 --> 0:44:24.640 to care for this child instead of this terrible father 0:44:24.719 --> 0:44:28.640 in law. You got just move. I bring it up 0:44:28.640 --> 0:44:30.200 to him. He's probably gonna be down for it. 0:44:30.280 --> 0:44:31.840 And you know what always works as a pros and 0:44:31.880 --> 0:44:34.880 cons list? Yes, pros and cons lists. 0:44:34.520 --> 0:44:36.239 Are top tier. 0:44:38.520 --> 0:44:39.280 List. 0:44:39.400 --> 0:44:43.959 Yeah, like I know, a persuasion, Oh yeah, tactics. I feel 0:44:43.960 --> 0:44:45.759 like a pros and cons list could do you some 0:44:46.120 --> 0:44:48.800 real good and you make the pros list really really long. 0:44:49.560 --> 0:44:51.560 But it sounds like he's open and wants you to 0:44:51.600 --> 0:44:55.200 be happy. So I think it's worth like trying to 0:44:55.280 --> 0:44:57.399 start your life in a place where both of you 0:44:57.600 --> 0:45:02.120 can set roots in. He's willing to do that for you, 0:45:02.160 --> 0:45:05.719 and I think that it feels time to make that 0:45:05.880 --> 0:45:12.720 decision and start fresh. 0:45:10.280 --> 0:45:12.359 And do it then in the next couple of weeks, 0:45:12.400 --> 0:45:14.120 because twenty twenty four is about to be here. 0:45:16.800 --> 0:45:19.480 Yeah, we don't feel rushed, you know, yeah, sure, sure, sure, 0:45:19.600 --> 0:45:21.719 fresh start, fresh start, but good luck. 0:45:21.760 --> 0:45:23.160 We love you, we love you. 0:45:24.880 --> 0:45:30.120 Uh one more. Yeah, let's uh here's anonymous. Uh. I'm 0:45:30.120 --> 0:45:32.520 writing and seeking advice my fiance and I have been 0:45:32.560 --> 0:45:34.840 engaged almost a year and together for four years. Getting 0:45:34.920 --> 0:45:38.239 married getting married to day bro woo hoo. I was 0:45:38.239 --> 0:45:40.720 excited about that woo hoo part. I am so ready, 0:45:40.719 --> 0:45:43.080 But there is one thing I've been struggling with. He 0:45:43.200 --> 0:45:46.040 is very into sports, mostly football. We go to all 0:45:46.040 --> 0:45:49.040 our college football games together, which is so fun. However, 0:45:49.120 --> 0:45:52.000 he is almost two into it. He spends ninety nine 0:45:52.040 --> 0:45:54.719 percent of the day, mostly Friday through Monday, on his 0:45:54.800 --> 0:45:58.040 phone looking at sports betting and quote unquote making his 0:45:58.160 --> 0:46:00.719 picks for the week. To give you an idea, his 0:46:00.719 --> 0:46:02.799 screen time was ten hours one day and he has 0:46:02.800 --> 0:46:05.320 a full time job. I am all for having hobbies, 0:46:05.320 --> 0:46:07.160 but it's really become an issue because I feel like 0:46:07.200 --> 0:46:11.239 we never talk. He's pretty quiet at baseline, and he 0:46:11.320 --> 0:46:13.319 hasn't made an effort to be intimate or plan any 0:46:13.360 --> 0:46:15.239 fun date nights. I can't even remember the last time 0:46:15.280 --> 0:46:17.200 we went on a date. He's, without a doubt, the 0:46:17.239 --> 0:46:18.800 guy for me, and this is just a little hump 0:46:18.840 --> 0:46:20.840 we need to get over. But I'm unsure how to 0:46:20.880 --> 0:46:23.120 approach the situation. I brought it up a couple months 0:46:23.120 --> 0:46:25.120 ago and he said he'd be better about being attentive 0:46:25.160 --> 0:46:27.640 and intentional all their time, but nothing has changed. He 0:46:27.680 --> 0:46:29.520 really is a good guy and a hard worker. He 0:46:29.520 --> 0:46:31.480 has a great career, and he treats me well besides 0:46:31.520 --> 0:46:34.560 not prioritizing quality time. But I feel like he has 0:46:34.600 --> 0:46:36.319 definitely been more attentive in the past and now it 0:46:36.320 --> 0:46:38.319 feels like we're just living together as pals. And I 0:46:38.320 --> 0:46:39.560 really think it's from sports. 0:46:41.239 --> 0:46:43.239 Yeah, so so drive me crazy. 0:46:43.520 --> 0:46:45.680 I mean I kind of experienced it, not on that level, 0:46:45.800 --> 0:46:50.480 but like I get what she's saying, because but there 0:46:50.480 --> 0:46:51.400 has to be a compromise. 0:46:51.680 --> 0:46:54.399 The way that she's explaining it, that would make me. 0:46:56.000 --> 0:47:02.200 So frantic and so unsettled, because like last night was 0:47:02.200 --> 0:47:05.240 Monday Night football, but we were we wanted to finish 0:47:05.320 --> 0:47:07.320 off this season of Survivor, so probably didn't watch. 0:47:07.920 --> 0:47:09.240 He was watching it on his phone. 0:47:09.120 --> 0:47:11.279 Whatever, she says, picking his bets or picking his picks 0:47:11.360 --> 0:47:13.960 or checking up on his squad or whatever they do. 0:47:14.440 --> 0:47:17.040 And it is very annoying because he's like on his phone. 0:47:17.120 --> 0:47:18.560 So it's like I get it, but I'm like, he's 0:47:18.640 --> 0:47:21.319 making the compromise because we're watching Survivor, so he's still like, 0:47:22.280 --> 0:47:25.200 you know, playing with his team on his phone. Yeah, 0:47:25.239 --> 0:47:27.000 And Sundays are kind of the same. He's like very 0:47:27.040 --> 0:47:30.240 locked into football on Sundays. But if it was Friday 0:47:30.280 --> 0:47:32.720 through Monday, that's like Friday, Saturday, Sunday. 0:47:32.840 --> 0:47:34.320 That's four days out of the week. 0:47:35.880 --> 0:47:38.440 Being locked into your phone and like not being attentive, 0:47:38.760 --> 0:47:40.719 and that is a lot. And so I feel like 0:47:41.160 --> 0:47:44.959 you need to say something. And even if it's okay, 0:47:44.960 --> 0:47:46.880 maybe he still wants to have his Friday to Monday. 0:47:46.960 --> 0:47:48.919 Maybe you can do some compromises and maybe you could 0:47:48.920 --> 0:47:51.200 do a date night on like a Wednesday, so you 0:47:51.239 --> 0:47:52.920 still feel like you're getting that quality time. 0:47:54.600 --> 0:47:58.279 I just don't think Friday through Monday needs to be 0:47:58.600 --> 0:48:03.320 fully attend attention to one thing. That feels like excessive 0:48:03.360 --> 0:48:05.759 no matter what. I don't care how much I am 0:48:05.800 --> 0:48:08.400 all about hobbies and having passions and football is on 0:48:08.440 --> 0:48:12.279 the weekends, but it's like set a time of like 0:48:12.320 --> 0:48:14.080 how long you're going to be on your phone looking 0:48:14.160 --> 0:48:16.799 at that stuff and if you want to watch one 0:48:16.840 --> 0:48:19.720 of the games. But that's so unfair to your partner 0:48:20.120 --> 0:48:21.560 to put them in that position. 0:48:21.800 --> 0:48:24.839 There's a big red flag coming out to me about this. 0:48:25.200 --> 0:48:27.319 And I don't think this is a sports issue. I 0:48:27.360 --> 0:48:31.960 think this is a gambling problem, because she says he 0:48:32.080 --> 0:48:35.040 spends all most ninety percent of the day on the 0:48:35.040 --> 0:48:37.880 weekends looking at sports betting and making his picks for 0:48:37.920 --> 0:48:40.400 the week. So that means because at first I thought like, oh, 0:48:40.400 --> 0:48:42.000 he's just in front of the TV the whole time. 0:48:42.040 --> 0:48:46.320 But I think this man is I don't say addicted 0:48:46.360 --> 0:48:49.560 to gambling, but I think gambling is a big component yes, betting, 0:48:50.280 --> 0:48:53.080 and that leads to a lot of other problems that 0:48:53.320 --> 0:48:55.240 will not go away and only get worse. 0:48:55.320 --> 0:48:57.680 Okay, So then that's like a trickier thing because how 0:48:57.719 --> 0:48:59.719 do you It's like, how do you tell someone they 0:48:59.719 --> 0:49:01.799 have a problem. You can't tell someone they have to 0:49:01.840 --> 0:49:03.800 have a problem. They have to figure it out themselves. 0:49:03.880 --> 0:49:06.879 Yeah, and he probably sees he's like, this is. 0:49:06.800 --> 0:49:08.000 What I like, is what I like to do, right, 0:49:08.200 --> 0:49:09.160 he calls it a hobby. 0:49:09.360 --> 0:49:11.200 Yeah, and hey, hey, hey babe, I'm getting money from 0:49:11.200 --> 0:49:12.200 this and I'm getting rich here. 0:49:12.400 --> 0:49:15.839 But honestly, I would seek a professional. 0:49:16.600 --> 0:49:17.960 Yeah, maybe a couple therapy. 0:49:18.440 --> 0:49:20.560 Yeah, or if you want to do a couple sapy, 0:49:20.560 --> 0:49:22.399 maybe like you go to like a professional that can 0:49:22.440 --> 0:49:26.120 help you pro talk to him in like a way 0:49:26.120 --> 0:49:28.560 that's gonna help him versus. I feel like if you 0:49:28.600 --> 0:49:29.879 went to him and you were like, you have a 0:49:29.920 --> 0:49:32.040 gambling problem, He's gonna shut it down, you know what 0:49:32.080 --> 0:49:34.160 I mean, Like, you can't just do that. There's probably 0:49:34.600 --> 0:49:37.120 a more methodical way that you can go about doing it. 0:49:37.960 --> 0:49:38.160 Yeah. 0:49:38.239 --> 0:49:40.000 I don't want to freak you out, Anonymous, but you 0:49:40.040 --> 0:49:42.640 say it's your fiance. As you get closer that wedding day, 0:49:43.160 --> 0:49:45.040 there's gonna be I'm sure there's gonna be some financial 0:49:45.040 --> 0:49:47.920 problems that will come to light. I'm just gonna say, yeah, 0:49:48.000 --> 0:49:50.799 right now, you probably don't know about them, but I'm 0:49:50.800 --> 0:49:53.719 not saying the exist. But a guy who spends the 0:49:53.719 --> 0:49:55.520 whole weekend looking at sports betting. 0:49:55.480 --> 0:49:58.880 And also, like you don't feel chosen, You don't feel 0:49:58.920 --> 0:50:01.760 like he puts He puts all his effort and energy 0:50:01.760 --> 0:50:06.799 into football, like you deserve to for someone to look 0:50:06.840 --> 0:50:10.320 after you and your needs, and this feels very selfish 0:50:10.400 --> 0:50:13.080 on his part. So I think you just need to 0:50:13.120 --> 0:50:15.560 approach him, and maybe you do need a professional that 0:50:15.560 --> 0:50:18.239 can help you do it in a way that's productive 0:50:18.320 --> 0:50:21.799 and not like just riddled with anger and make him 0:50:21.800 --> 0:50:27.320 defensive but accusatory. But good luck, that's very, very challenging 0:50:27.480 --> 0:50:31.279 I'm sorry. I feel like this last one's funny because 0:50:31.560 --> 0:50:33.480 it won't take many a long time. 0:50:34.320 --> 0:50:38.239 Let's do it. This from Chloe sos re listening to 0:50:38.239 --> 0:50:40.120 one of the episodes from twenty twenty one with Chelsea 0:50:40.200 --> 0:50:42.840 Handler Good Vibes only as the title, and in the 0:50:42.880 --> 0:50:45.799 thirty ninth minute we Love a Timestamp, Tanya says she'd 0:50:45.880 --> 0:50:48.200 rather buy a house than thinking about the money would 0:50:48.200 --> 0:50:50.480 take to throw a wedding. I truly can't believe my 0:50:50.520 --> 0:50:52.799 ears right now. Listen how excited she is in real 0:50:52.840 --> 0:50:56.200 time as an engaged girl. Mind blown emoji. Just had 0:50:56.239 --> 0:50:58.280 to bring this to someone's attention. Love the pod. 0:50:59.040 --> 0:51:02.839 Wow, that is the whole problem. That's why I haven't 0:51:02.880 --> 0:51:06.319 started planning my wedding because it's like you see, as 0:51:06.840 --> 0:51:08.960 you get older, you look at how much everything is, 0:51:09.000 --> 0:51:10.799 and I'm like, I don't want to spend this on 0:51:10.840 --> 0:51:13.920 a wedding. I'd rather buy put a down payment on 0:51:13.920 --> 0:51:17.839 a house. So it's like very debilitating because like you're 0:51:17.920 --> 0:51:20.160 it's kind of like you're in that space. I can't 0:51:20.160 --> 0:51:21.840 make it. That's why I just can't make a decision. 0:51:23.160 --> 0:51:26.040 But then you get into like your bridal era and 0:51:26.040 --> 0:51:28.759 you're like so excited about all that stuff. So I'm 0:51:28.760 --> 0:51:31.399 like so excited about it and I want to do it, 0:51:31.520 --> 0:51:33.680 but then I get debilitated because I'm like, but I 0:51:33.680 --> 0:51:35.360 don't want to spend I mean. 0:51:35.200 --> 0:51:39.640 It's it's so crazy, it's so crazy. And so. 0:51:41.320 --> 0:51:43.600 You still have the same mindset, but you also are 0:51:43.719 --> 0:51:46.719 just like, now that it's happening, you can't imagine not 0:51:46.800 --> 0:51:47.520 having a wedding. 0:51:47.840 --> 0:51:50.000 I can't imagine not having a wedding, for sure. 0:51:50.040 --> 0:51:51.960 I definitely want to do it, but like the way 0:51:52.000 --> 0:51:54.279 that I want to do it, I feel like I 0:51:54.320 --> 0:51:57.759 can't what I mean, it's so expensive. I'd rather save 0:51:57.800 --> 0:51:58.719 that and buy a house. 0:51:58.800 --> 0:52:01.920 Oh oh, well, could you do like a cute little 0:52:01.960 --> 0:52:02.680 courthouse thing. 0:52:03.719 --> 0:52:04.560 I don't want to do that. 0:52:04.719 --> 0:52:05.959 Oh. 0:52:05.160 --> 0:52:09.200 So, like when you think about the when I think 0:52:09.200 --> 0:52:11.000 about the wedding of my dreams. 0:52:11.000 --> 0:52:13.959 You'd like regret not having a wedding. 0:52:13.880 --> 0:52:15.960 I'd regret not doing anything correct. 0:52:15.640 --> 0:52:17.719 Living in your mansion but correct. 0:52:18.040 --> 0:52:20.200 Yeah. Yeah, well you bought a. 0:52:20.200 --> 0:52:23.640 House and then eventually you did a ceremony. 0:52:23.880 --> 0:52:26.239 Like have a wedding in like ten years, No. 0:52:26.320 --> 0:52:30.440 Not ten years, ye, like yeah, like a couple of years. 0:52:32.680 --> 0:52:35.799 Yeah, I feel like the further and further along you go, Like, 0:52:36.160 --> 0:52:38.359 I have friends who got married. They did like a quick, 0:52:38.440 --> 0:52:40.360 quickie wedding because they got pregnant and they were going 0:52:40.400 --> 0:52:41.880 to like have a wedding after the baby came, and 0:52:41.920 --> 0:52:44.239 now they're just like, eh, yeah, I feel like you 0:52:44.280 --> 0:52:51.560 just get more and more less motivated. Yeah, correct, Right, Well, 0:52:53.520 --> 0:52:56.200 so that girl is still there who talked to Chelsea Hammler, 0:52:56.719 --> 0:52:58.320 which is why I feel like I'm in a predicament. 0:52:58.320 --> 0:53:00.600 That I'm in a predicament because she won the house 0:53:00.800 --> 0:53:01.720 and she wants a wedding. 0:53:01.840 --> 0:53:05.600 Yeah, and I have not said millionaires. So it really 0:53:05.680 --> 0:53:06.839 puts you in a pickle. 0:53:08.160 --> 0:53:11.799 A pickle of sorts. But I think if even if 0:53:11.840 --> 0:53:15.560 you have the wedding, which is what you desire and want, 0:53:15.719 --> 0:53:18.400 I think the time will come when you feel ready 0:53:18.440 --> 0:53:20.520 to buy house. It all lines, you know. 0:53:20.920 --> 0:53:24.880 Yeah, So yep, just trying to keep you know, just 0:53:24.880 --> 0:53:25.760 work a little harder. 0:53:25.880 --> 0:53:26.719 Yeah, just. 0:53:28.440 --> 0:53:31.640 A little harder, next two to three years. 0:53:32.120 --> 0:53:35.520 All right, Well, we'll be back next week. And I 0:53:35.520 --> 0:53:39.120 think there's two episodes next week. Yeah, yes, yeah, there. 0:53:39.080 --> 0:53:41.040 Are two episodes next week. Where are they going to be? 0:53:41.160 --> 0:53:44.000 Only time will tell, Only time will tell, and only 0:53:44.040 --> 0:53:44.879 we know and. 0:53:45.160 --> 0:53:46.200 Sneak peaks here. 0:53:47.960 --> 0:53:55.439 Greeks, it's our final book Club episode. Just kidding. We 0:53:55.520 --> 0:53:57.600 love you so much and hope you have a wonderful 0:53:57.640 --> 0:53:59.279 week and we'll be back next week. 0:53:59.320 --> 0:54:01.000 I love you, love you, Bye. 0:54:10.440 --> 0:54:10.560 Hm.