Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 2: Yes we are, my girl, my girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you've been staring at me with that look in
Speaker 1: your eye since I walked in.
Speaker 2: I just am so loving you lately.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I have just done anything to
Speaker 1: deserve that.
Speaker 3: Yes, you have, and you are and it's just your
Speaker 3: essence and your being and who you are. So I
Speaker 3: don't know why you're so squeamish about it, like accept
Speaker 3: the love except the love I want to give you
Speaker 3: and show you.
Speaker 1: I accept it. I just am like, why out of nowhere,
Speaker 1: I haven't done like I haven't. We haven't spent time
Speaker 1: together in like an intimate setting, so I'm just trying to.
Speaker 2: Gage it very intimate lately, quite frankly.
Speaker 1: Not that intimate.
Speaker 2: Hell, so just like chilling like a villain.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, actually no, we're not in our backguard living room, Hags.
Speaker 1: We did have some living room, Hans. Yeah, I have
Speaker 1: a Kinker store right now. And let me just tell
Speaker 1: you debilitating.
Speaker 2: Oh is it on your right side? I can see swollen.
Speaker 1: My whole lift is swollen. I get them so bad
Speaker 1: and they're so dramatic, and I was thinking, you know,
Speaker 1: I was thinking earlier, I was like, I want to
Speaker 1: wish this on my worst end to me, but I
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, this would be the perfect
Speaker 1: thing to wish because it's not like death, but it's
Speaker 1: like pain.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it looks like could I pop it?
Speaker 1: No, you can't pop it.
Speaker 2: It looks poppable, it's not.
Speaker 1: That's just like what don't no, please listening, Please never
Speaker 1: try to pop a anchor.
Speaker 2: Sword spoiler alert.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's been just really tough. And then Haley
Speaker 1: and I went and ate dinner and I was aggressively
Speaker 1: eating pasta because it was so good and I bit
Speaker 1: it and that's where it went downhill.
Speaker 2: I literally can see it from here.
Speaker 1: So yeah, so every time Haley goes to kiss me,
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, like just because the other side of
Speaker 1: my mouth.
Speaker 2: You know what you should do?
Speaker 3: Though, Whenever I have a canker swore, I take this
Speaker 3: is I'm not a doctor, so just take.
Speaker 1: This just so it's worth just a disclaimer.
Speaker 3: Disclaimer, but it works for me like a charm. Okay,
Speaker 3: whenever I have a canker swore, I take a Q
Speaker 3: tip and I dip it in warm water, and then
Speaker 3: I stick it in a pile of salt, like Himalayan
Speaker 3: pink salt, and then I put it right on the
Speaker 3: canker swore, and I just hold it there, and I
Speaker 3: just hold it there, and I just hold it there
Speaker 3: and then I do that like duck. Yeah, but I
Speaker 3: do that like two or three times, and then the
Speaker 3: next day it's like significantly better.
Speaker 1: So I've heard of this. I have dealt with cankers
Speaker 1: like they come when I'm stressed, which I haven't been stressed,
Speaker 1: So I don't.
Speaker 2: Know why I'm stressed about let's talk about that.
Speaker 1: No, I'm not stressed, but you know what I think happened.
Speaker 1: I've been baking and using like so much sugar and
Speaker 1: like butter and flour, and I think and I've been
Speaker 1: eating cookies like the literal cookie.
Speaker 2: Monster canker stores from sugar.
Speaker 1: Can you you don't think I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: think so, because I haven't really been stressed, unless it's
Speaker 1: like a delayed something from being stressed.
Speaker 4: They're caused by emotional stress, dietary deficiencies, menstrual period.
Speaker 2: Not excessities excessivities.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I imagine I'm very deficient in nutrients as we
Speaker 1: can imagine, as I'm eating like four to five chocolate
Speaker 1: chip cookies.
Speaker 4: For meal, consuming a lot of sugar foods. That's on there,
Speaker 4: totally feeding me facts about canker.
Speaker 1: Thank you Mark for the canker facts.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I think that could be it because I
Speaker 1: got on this ever since Thanksgiving all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: I'm like a baker. It's just in my it's passion. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's my fixation of the month.
Speaker 3: I guess instead of scrubbing in and we should call
Speaker 3: it baking in, baking in.
Speaker 1: It's just like we talked about baking or what.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, our new recipe of the week could be cute.
Speaker 1: Well, I can't be doing it because it's causing me
Speaker 1: kinger saurce.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry about that.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Wow, we had a big weekend, Well you had a
Speaker 1: big weekend. Min was pretty fine. That's pretty good.
Speaker 2: It it was a big weekend. And you know what,
Speaker 2: I realized.
Speaker 3: What when I and I don't know if it's age,
Speaker 3: and I'm just gonna have to chalk it up to age.
Speaker 3: I cannot not have a good night's sleep and function
Speaker 3: normally the next day, like I had.
Speaker 2: Do you ever get chills when you're really tired?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I get like achy, like I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: going to get sick.
Speaker 3: I had the chills all weekend long, like just like
Speaker 3: I was frigid all weekend because I was just so tired.
Speaker 1: It was actually pretty cold in Malibu too, so I
Speaker 1: think jingle Ball.
Speaker 3: So yeah, it's a combination of all things. But I
Speaker 3: was like, wow, I've never I've never had like the
Speaker 3: chills for a full weekend.
Speaker 2: But totally worth it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean totally worth it for the chills.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I loved your jingle Ball outfit. I thought you got
Speaker 1: this stylist.
Speaker 3: I know, Becca Goes did Brian style you. I was like,
Speaker 3: this is a Tanya rad special baby.
Speaker 1: I love that designer resiic.
Speaker 2: I don't know how that's it by.
Speaker 1: Ariel, who is a designer. Aril Resik at a dinner
Speaker 1: that I went to and we were just talking and
Speaker 1: she was like, oh, yeah, I have a clothing line
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh what is it? And she
Speaker 1: told me and I would I would always see it
Speaker 1: on my feed and I was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I love your stuff. So when you when you wore
Speaker 1: it and I saw you tag, I was like, there
Speaker 1: she is.
Speaker 2: There, there she is.
Speaker 3: And I was going to actually get it in white,
Speaker 3: because you know, like jingle Ball, So I did it
Speaker 3: in green, but and then I found the US on Amazon.
Speaker 2: I mean I literally typed in green.
Speaker 3: I think I typed in like Emerald green heels, and
Speaker 3: this was like one of the front I was like
Speaker 3: crossing my fingers that it would match, and it matched perfectly.
Speaker 2: And they were very comfortable too.
Speaker 1: You gonna ask were they of comfort?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I mean I wouldn't say like, no, heel to me
Speaker 3: is like of comfort, Like it's not like I'm walking around.
Speaker 2: Like a hookah.
Speaker 3: But hokkah, hookah, hakka, hokah.
Speaker 1: She's gone downhill.
Speaker 2: It's not like I'm walking around a hookah. But for heels,
Speaker 2: they were very comfortable. Great, Well, you looked great, Thank
Speaker 2: you so much.
Speaker 1: How was jingle Ball super super cute?
Speaker 3: Do you know who I'd love to have on the
Speaker 3: podcast if he's around, although not really sure where he's
Speaker 3: living these days.
Speaker 1: Let me guess, did he perform yes? Flow Rider?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 1: He I don't even know who.
Speaker 2: Because I got's flow Rider and that's.
Speaker 1: All Rodrigo and Brina Carpenter and flow Rider.
Speaker 3: No Easton gotta guess uh a Jr.
Speaker 2: Nope, but close.
Speaker 1: I don't close.
Speaker 3: I remember who played all right, I'm just gonna tell
Speaker 3: you now Horn Oh we love now.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I haven't seen him since before the pandemic. Oh yeah,
Speaker 3: Like it's been a minute. And we were in the
Speaker 3: hallway together and walking down we like walked out of
Speaker 3: the doors at the same time, and he goes, I
Speaker 3: hair congratulations on order, and I was like, you are
Speaker 3: the cutest thing in the whole world.
Speaker 1: I weirdly feel like I feel like he's so massive,
Speaker 1: and yet he feels attainable for our show.
Speaker 2: I think so too.
Speaker 1: Something to work on.
Speaker 2: Something to work on.
Speaker 3: Although twenty twenty three was the year for Patrick Dempsey
Speaker 3: and it's coming really to the end.
Speaker 1: I have a strong feeling, not to be negative or
Speaker 1: Debbie Downer, that we're not going to get we will
Speaker 1: not have him in doing twenty three.
Speaker 3: You know what, I don't like that attitude. I know
Speaker 3: you want it up until December thirty. First, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: hold out hope.
Speaker 1: I love that about you.
Speaker 2: Thank you, and if not, maybe we get a Patrick
Speaker 2: dempsty impersonator or something.
Speaker 1: I want the real thing.
Speaker 2: I want the real thing too.
Speaker 1: I sit here and stare at him and marvel at him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but now Horn was super super cute and actually
Speaker 3: he was watching. At the end of the night, Olivia
Speaker 3: Rodrigo ended the show she like closed, you know, like
Speaker 3: the headliner, and he was standing on the side of
Speaker 3: the stage watching her performance, which I love when artists
Speaker 3: watch other artists perform.
Speaker 2: I think it's like the cutest thing ever.
Speaker 1: You think he was trying to shoot a shot.
Speaker 3: Uh No, I don't think he was trying to shoot
Speaker 3: a shot. I think it was just like chillin' okay,
Speaker 3: but it was so cute. Is Nil Horn single?
Speaker 2: I don't know what about him. For Raquel, I'd be
Speaker 2: into it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I do feel somebody's probably tried to set
Speaker 3: them up already at some point. I don't know for sure,
Speaker 3: but I feel like that path might have already been.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just over here trying to match make where
Speaker 1: I can end her text? Have you everyone I asked
Speaker 1: her about She's like.
Speaker 4: No, she's pretty pick I believe he's in a relationship.
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, I feel like I have designer
Speaker 4: shoe buyer.
Speaker 1: Okay, congrats Nia. We will not be trying to set
Speaker 1: her up with our friend Raquel. I mean, I'm up
Speaker 1: with our friend.
Speaker 3: No, we will not be trying to set them upright,
Speaker 3: It's still cute.
Speaker 2: Nonetheless, what was.
Speaker 1: Who was your favorite performer?
Speaker 2: Alvia Rodrigo?
Speaker 3: So you know Olivia is managed by Aleen Kashishian. If
Speaker 3: you don't know who Aleen Kashishian is, she is a
Speaker 3: manager to the stars. So I met her because she's
Speaker 3: Selena gomezz.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I was like, I heard that same.
Speaker 3: But she's so badass, like she always has all these
Speaker 3: talks and she's like such a super like women for women,
Speaker 3: like female empowerment, just super cool, like she does Paul
Speaker 3: Rudd and I want to say she doesn't one with Paltrow.
Speaker 1: Two mm hmm. But she's just like super and.
Speaker 3: Jennifer Anison, she's just like badass.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, I feel like you have her number.
Speaker 2: I do have her number.
Speaker 1: So you're telling me we're is that one degree from
Speaker 1: Jennifer Anderson?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Where's Yeah?
Speaker 2: Uh, I can say the same things to you. Where's
Speaker 2: Sophia bush At? You got her in your phone book.
Speaker 1: I don't have her phone number.
Speaker 2: What do you have a person?
Speaker 1: Nothing? You don't have Haley has.
Speaker 3: Her number, you don't have her DMS, No, don't talk
Speaker 3: via nothing, events always each other.
Speaker 2: Jennifer Andison does feel like a bit of a stretch.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, but I'll think about it, think about it.
Speaker 4: I've been soft floating the idea to Sophia Bush. I
Speaker 4: just want to know, oh, because I do have her number.
Speaker 4: But our texts are all Hi, Sophia, can you reboot
Speaker 4: your computer? Yes? Thank you. That's that's our text.
Speaker 2: Further than I have, much further than I have.
Speaker 4: We wish each other happy birthday. But that's again as
Speaker 4: far as it goes. But when we do the podcast,
Speaker 4: I've told her like, oh, you know, hey, I work
Speaker 4: with Beckatilly. She has nothing but good things to say
Speaker 4: about you. She has a really fun podcast, and she's like,
Speaker 4: oh cool, that's so sweet. It feels good, feels like
Speaker 4: we're moving in the right direction right now.
Speaker 1: I am tired of being the podcast where people say
Speaker 1: oh cool, fine, but them being like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: would you connect us? I'd love to be on that podcast.
Speaker 1: What have you said that about?
Speaker 2: Call her? Daddy. Oh, like you'd want to be on
Speaker 2: call her daddy.
Speaker 1: I would love to have her on our podcast. I'd
Speaker 1: love to be on her podcast. Yeah. Yeah, she's also
Speaker 1: I don't listen to podcasts.
Speaker 3: See, That's the thing, Like, I feel like there's not
Speaker 3: very many podcasts that people would say, oh, I'd love.
Speaker 2: To be on that podcast.
Speaker 1: I think there are really, Like I feel like chicks
Speaker 1: in the office people would say that Lady Gang.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Lady Gang Che's office yet. Okay, but it's not
Speaker 3: like you're not saying a ton of podcasts.
Speaker 1: I'm not a podcast listener though. Oh, I think there's
Speaker 1: probably many.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I don't even know how that'll go down,
Speaker 3: because I've never actually I have Allen's number, but I've
Speaker 3: never actually texted her.
Speaker 2: Hey, can I have Jennifer Aniston on my podcast?
Speaker 1: Just yeah, let's get better, let's like elevate our podcast.
Speaker 1: Before we go to dinner, fran and.
Speaker 3: I said, okay, well maybe Olivia Rodrigo. So the reason
Speaker 3: why I was saying that was because we were backstage,
Speaker 3: like behind the stage, about to introduce Olivia Oldrigo and
Speaker 3: Aleen runs up to me. She gives me a hug,
Speaker 3: She's like, hey, how are you? And she's like, have
Speaker 3: you ever met Olivia? And I'm like no, and I haven't.
Speaker 2: She was come over here. She's literally about to perform.
Speaker 3: She has like her in years in and Allen introduces
Speaker 3: me to Olivia and she could not have been cuter.
Speaker 3: It gives me a hug, super super cute, literally about
Speaker 3: to perform and is like oh yeah, but I'm just
Speaker 3: like to me, Aleen is like, I would love to
Speaker 3: have a leen Maybe we get a leen On as
Speaker 3: a guest, because she has these like amazing stories of
Speaker 3: how she started such incredible brands, like these huge brands
Speaker 3: and manages these like massive, massive names. She's a really
Speaker 3: cool story and I think she'd be really empowering and
Speaker 3: insightful for our listeners because I've heard her speak and
Speaker 3: I was like moved.
Speaker 1: I'll be honest, I might be more interested in having
Speaker 1: someone like Eileen as opposed to one of the celebrities
Speaker 1: to get the inside scoop of like not about them,
Speaker 1: but like how you get into that position. Yeah, But
Speaker 1: who was her first big celebrity right?
Speaker 2: And I want to say.
Speaker 3: She started it with like a big firm and then
Speaker 3: she created her own company.
Speaker 2: I think in her forties.
Speaker 3: So yeah, it's like a pretty cool she has a
Speaker 3: really cool story, and maybe I reach out to her
Speaker 3: and get her on as a guest, because I do.
Speaker 3: I think she has some like really cool and interesting stories.
Speaker 1: Great, that's a good goal. I like that.
Speaker 2: Okay, great.
Speaker 1: So then we had we had jingle Ball or you
Speaker 1: had jingle Ball. And then there was the iHeart Christmas Party,
Speaker 1: which was at.
Speaker 3: Day holiday party. What holiday party? We don't exclude Hanukkah or.
Speaker 1: Oh sorry, okay. It was the Christmas plus many other
Speaker 1: holiday party the holiday party for iHeart And it was
Speaker 1: at No Boo Malibu and it was We did it
Speaker 1: there last year and it was so fun and this
Speaker 1: year was like even bigger. Like we walked in and
Speaker 1: I was like, what rams it was? It was a
Speaker 1: packed house party time. Yeah, but it was super fun.
Speaker 1: Easton and Mark both were there.
Speaker 4: That was very exciting. We did not go last year,
Speaker 4: but this year we went, Yeah other's dates and it
Speaker 4: was really fine.
Speaker 1: I felt like Mark really raged this weekend.
Speaker 2: He did didn't you Mark out and about more in
Speaker 2: my life out.
Speaker 1: In a boot in a boat and he got his
Speaker 1: daughter a photo with Olivia Rodrigo and then uh he
Speaker 1: got a Fallen. I literally saw that photo and I
Speaker 1: was like, did I miss something? Are they friends? Like
Speaker 1: it looked like a photo that you take with your
Speaker 1: friend because they were post.
Speaker 3: Jimmy Fallon was totally down to do whatever. Like I
Speaker 3: got a picture of Jimmy Fallen too, because he was
Speaker 3: just backstage taking selfies with people, romping around, like just smiley,
Speaker 3: so approachable, like you know, like sometimes when artists and
Speaker 3: stuff are backstage, they're kind of being like walked to
Speaker 3: and fro, kind of like don't look at me.
Speaker 2: He could not have been the opposite.
Speaker 3: He was like looking around, smiling, just like happy to
Speaker 3: be there.
Speaker 1: It was the people's choice, yes, of jingle Ball.
Speaker 3: Yes he was the people's choice of jingle Ball, but yeah.
Speaker 3: One of Mark's daughters got a photo with Olivia and
Speaker 3: the other one was watching Ajar, and Mark was like, Hey,
Speaker 3: Olivia's going to be backstage, so you can meet her
Speaker 3: potentially not one hundred percent, or stay and watch AJR.
Speaker 3: So one of the daughters went with him for the
Speaker 3: chance to meet Olivia and the other one stayed to
Speaker 3: watch Ajar, And then the one that went to go
Speaker 3: see Olivia met her and got a photo with her, and,
Speaker 3: like I know, is.
Speaker 4: A risky taken life.
Speaker 1: It really is all about the risk it is it is.
Speaker 2: I would have taken the risk too.
Speaker 4: You can see Ajar again. I'm sorry AJF.
Speaker 5: They love Ajar, and I do think she slightly regrets it,
Speaker 5: but also she might have regretted missing Ajar.
Speaker 1: Wow, you think she would have regretted missing Ajr. She
Speaker 1: had met Olivia.
Speaker 5: I'm glad she did, only because if it would have
Speaker 5: been Ali and her friend and Brooklyn, it would have
Speaker 5: not been the moment Brooklyn got to have the one
Speaker 5: on one time with Olivia. That's a real gift her
Speaker 5: sister gave heard. I'm trying to tell my oldest to
Speaker 5: focus on that she was a giver.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it'd be upset.
Speaker 5: It was a fantastic weekend. Jingle Ball was one of
Speaker 5: the true highlights of my nearly twenty years with iHeartRadio.
Speaker 5: It was phenomenal. And then Saturday and I had such
Speaker 5: a blast. It's so great to see Robbie and Haley,
Speaker 5: and of course Ben Higgins and Dean Angler and Jared Haben.
Speaker 5: These are my favorite people, so it was great. It
Speaker 5: was a great, great weekend.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really fun to have you guys there.
Speaker 1: And everyone Eastern posted the photo and Mark is holding
Speaker 1: a glass of water and everyone was like, I know,
Speaker 1: that's water in Mark's glass. They're like the scrubbers. No,
Speaker 1: that's water in Mark's glass.
Speaker 5: That's hilarious, And of course it was. Yes, I had
Speaker 5: many waters that night. You got to be holding something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is true. It's like a security, just like
Speaker 1: having a drink in your hand.
Speaker 2: I love having a drink in my hand.
Speaker 1: We both do.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: We love having a drink in our hand. I had
Speaker 1: two bodies.
Speaker 2: Uh huh.
Speaker 1: I was fine.
Speaker 2: Actually no, we drink at all on jingle Ball.
Speaker 3: I drink yeah on Saturday, and I was I think
Speaker 3: I maybe blacked out a little bit.
Speaker 2: Was just the whole time. Yeah yeah, no, not really.
Speaker 3: I didn't black out, but I woke up on Sunday
Speaker 3: and I was like, I am a hungover.
Speaker 1: Well, I also think that your body you were just
Speaker 1: like in go go go mo, so you're probably Sunday you.
Speaker 2: Were like just able to release.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But the thing is, I love a Leachi Martini. It's
Speaker 3: like my favorite drink, and not everywhere can do it right.
Speaker 3: Like sometimes they use Leachi liqueur, which is like not
Speaker 3: the same vibe. So when a Leachi martini is done right,
Speaker 3: I can suck them down.
Speaker 1: Can you explain what's in a Leitchi martini?
Speaker 3: To be honest, I don't know, but I think it's
Speaker 3: just vodka and Leachi juice.
Speaker 2: It's like a it's a martini. Yeah, fresh leachy juice.
Speaker 3: And then they like put like you know, they put
Speaker 3: like an olive for a martini, they do lechi so
Speaker 3: it's like.
Speaker 2: Sweeter m It's delicious.
Speaker 1: I feel like Robbie uh introduced you to the martini
Speaker 1: world because.
Speaker 2: You were at girl never a martini girl. Well he
Speaker 2: does like a crazy.
Speaker 3: Gin martini with the two olives, two onions and a twist,
Speaker 3: a little splash of removeth I don't even know what
Speaker 3: I'm ordering when I say it, but I'm like, this
Speaker 3: is the order.
Speaker 1: Wait, what was that?
Speaker 3: It's it's a it's a gin martini, okay, with a
Speaker 3: rinse I think you said, like a rinse of remooth
Speaker 3: the so it just goes in and out, okay, and
Speaker 3: then two olives, two onions in a twist.
Speaker 1: Wow, decadence.
Speaker 3: That's our order. That's very martini tasting. The Leachi martini
Speaker 3: tasted like dessert.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll try it next time because I I can
Speaker 1: imagine every martini I've tasted is not like dessert.
Speaker 3: No, it's like very potent, yeah, very vodka, yeah, very strong.
Speaker 1: Robbie and I were like sitting closest to the ocean,
Speaker 1: so we were like frozen. But there was this funny
Speaker 1: photo of us like up against the heater.
Speaker 2: We both like have our hands, so cute.
Speaker 1: And he was funny because they brought out blankets and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I only need one because Hayley's like, here,
Speaker 1: do you need another? I'm okay, and Robbie is freezing.
Speaker 1: I was like give it to Robbie and he's like,
Speaker 1: I can't take a blanket. I'm a man.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh god, he's a mirror on their mirror.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: He was like shivering and then he finally took it.
Speaker 1: He's like, that's really what a man does. Exactly said
Speaker 1: I'm cold, and he takes the health given.
Speaker 2: Exactly a modern man.
Speaker 1: A modern man.
Speaker 2: So we actually came to a.
Speaker 3: Discovery at that dinner that I want to get to
Speaker 3: when we come back.
Speaker 7: Great tease you know what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 1: All right, we're back. What discovery did you come to?
Speaker 3: So spoiler alert if you are not aware. I am
Speaker 3: obsessed with Survivor and I found out on Saturday night
Speaker 3: that Dean Belle formerly Dean Anglert wants to be on Survivor.
Speaker 3: H like actually legitimately wants to be on the show.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I don't know anybody at CBS except for the girl
Speaker 3: behind their instagram, which is pretty good. Yeah, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: try dming. I don't really know how that people do
Speaker 3: they do you nominate people, do.
Speaker 2: They like apply?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Watching Dean on Survivor would be top tier television in
Speaker 3: my opinion.
Speaker 1: He doesn't want he said, he doesn't want to like
Speaker 1: go through an audition process. He just wants them to
Speaker 1: come to him and say, like, we want you on
Speaker 1: the show. He doesn't want to have to go through
Speaker 1: like any like do they have an audition process? No,
Speaker 1: but probably like how the Bachelor, it was like you
Speaker 1: went and and and then I don't know, tell me, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: this is a fun little I don't know if I've
Speaker 1: ever told this. Maybe I have. We've had it's been
Speaker 1: six years of this podcast heard it.
Speaker 3: I didn't know there was a process. So you sent
Speaker 3: in a tape and then they pick you.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, So Laura nominated me.
Speaker 8: Yeah, and I uh like she would always she watched
Speaker 8: it like loyally at the time, and she would always
Speaker 8: be like, Becca, let's send in a video of you
Speaker 8: for the Bachelor.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I'll never do that, you know.
Speaker 1: It was very like straight laz, I'm not chasing a man. Hello,
Speaker 1: And and so she texted me it was like on
Speaker 1: a Tuesday, and she was like, Hey, did you know
Speaker 1: that all you have to do to nominate someone for
Speaker 1: the Bachelor is send in a paragraph about them in
Speaker 1: a photo. And I was kind of like, no, I
Speaker 1: didn't know that. And then that weekend I got off
Speaker 1: a plane. I was in Chicago, and I do you
Speaker 1: remember the Do you remember mag Con? It was like, fortunately,
Speaker 1: I've worked read the guy who was like one of
Speaker 1: the like started mag Con. I was like, here's you
Speaker 1: have one of the founding fathers. I was like his assistant.
Speaker 1: And so we were in Chicago and I got off
Speaker 1: the plane and I had a voicemail and he was like, Hi,
Speaker 1: this is Scott from the Bachelor. Your friend Laura nominated
Speaker 1: you and we would love to meet with you. And
Speaker 1: so I texted her and I'm like I just got
Speaker 1: a call from the Bachelor and She's like, I literally
Speaker 1: did that this week. I can't believe they called you
Speaker 1: so fast. And I was like, I'm not doing it.
Speaker 1: She was like, you have to do it. So I
Speaker 1: got home and I had a call with them, and
Speaker 1: then I went up. I came up to La from
Speaker 1: San Diego and I met with them. This is in March.
Speaker 2: We didn't start with them, meaning like you meet for
Speaker 2: coffee or like I.
Speaker 1: Went to their offices. It was like on the West side,
Speaker 1: off like Olympic or something, and yeah, so I met
Speaker 1: with them and and they were, you know, they did
Speaker 1: the whole thing like we think you'll go very far,
Speaker 1: which I'm sure they told everyone that who doesn't leave
Speaker 1: that going like I'm my destiny is above like set
Speaker 1: ahead of me. So I go, I go home. This
Speaker 1: is a March. I every like month or so, they'd
Speaker 1: call and be like, hey, just checking in, like are
Speaker 1: you still single? Are you still interested in going on
Speaker 1: the show? And I was like, yeah, still single, so interested.
Speaker 1: And then the final casting weekend came and it was
Speaker 1: like all the like having to do like meet with
Speaker 1: an investigator, investigator like a private investigator to see if
Speaker 1: you had anything in your past. Yeah, and then we
Speaker 1: took like photos and stuff, I think, and then yeah,
Speaker 1: and then I went home and I waited to hear
Speaker 1: if I made it to the final like to go
Speaker 1: on the show.
Speaker 2: So it's a meeting, it's like a phone call, a
Speaker 2: meeting investigating.
Speaker 1: Some people like it's immediate, like depending on timing of
Speaker 1: when they meet. Like Caitlin Bristow actually had put submitted
Speaker 1: a tape for the season before ours, and they really
Speaker 1: liked her, but they were like, we're gonna wait and
Speaker 1: put her on this next season because I think they
Speaker 1: wanted her for Crystals because she was so like such good.
Speaker 1: She was just like a great person to have on
Speaker 1: TV and like him being from like Farmland, Iowa, and
Speaker 1: she was this like spunky firecracker and like so funny
Speaker 1: and like was.
Speaker 2: The Bachelor before Crystals Wan Pablo, Yeah, Caitlin try to date. Well, yeah,
Speaker 2: that she was what she wanted to do. Wow.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it was like a really interesting thing. But
Speaker 1: like some people, I think Jordan Rodgers got called like
Speaker 1: the week of to go on JoJo's season, Like it
Speaker 1: was really fast.
Speaker 3: So Dean could potentially be the Jordan Rogers of sin.
Speaker 1: I think will only do it if he had.
Speaker 2: The Jordan Rogers. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Before we move on from your early Bachelor experience, I
Speaker 4: went to the Bachelor mansion for the first time. That
Speaker 4: was a thrill and I wanted to you hear all
Speaker 4: the only stories about this place, you know, and I
Speaker 4: got to like walk the grounds. It was crazy. Do
Speaker 4: you remember what room you were in there?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, So on Chris's season, like when you went
Speaker 1: up the stairs, I was to the right, like I
Speaker 1: was on the very end.
Speaker 3: Wow, yeah, I stood there are there like rooms with
Speaker 3: bunk beds, Like is it like a sleeping porch and
Speaker 3: a sorority?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Every room has like multiple bunk beds
Speaker 1: in it.
Speaker 2: It's like my dream.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, you would have thrived just in that part
Speaker 1: of the Bachelor, h you would have thrived. And then
Speaker 1: on Ben's season, I was the middle room which had
Speaker 1: the bathroom was like the grated, like the grate on
Speaker 1: it the mirror. Yeah yeah yeah, that was very challenging.
Speaker 4: Can you just go in that pool? Whenever you want.
Speaker 1: So they don't warm the pool because they don't want
Speaker 1: you to get in it because you have to take
Speaker 1: your mic off. So if I wanted a break from
Speaker 1: the mic, I would be like, I just want to
Speaker 1: go dip in the pool. And they were like, it's freezing,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, that's okay, it sounds nice, just so
Speaker 1: I could like, because you wear like a pack on
Speaker 1: your back and you have it on twenty four to
Speaker 1: seven and it's so uncomfortable, not when you sleep, but
Speaker 1: like you always have it on, and so they would
Speaker 1: like the bathroom. Yeah, they were like they were like,
Speaker 1: we're not listening to it. I always switched mine off though,
Speaker 1: I would always switch myne off. I'm like, this is
Speaker 1: so uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: So yeah, and like what if you're like changing your
Speaker 2: tampon and like.
Speaker 1: What noises are like changing your pad?
Speaker 2: It's like sh I.
Speaker 1: Mean yeah, I think they probably see in here so
Speaker 1: much that they're like.
Speaker 2: Ever, that's like, yeah, inappropriate.
Speaker 1: So uh. And I was telling Ben it was really
Speaker 1: weird because on Chris the season, I felt like we
Speaker 1: didn't sleep at all, Like we would have to wake
Speaker 1: up so early and stay up so late, like five
Speaker 1: or six, Like we wouldn't go to sleep till like
Speaker 1: four or five from a rose ceremony, and then they'd
Speaker 1: have us up like six or seven for like Dick
Speaker 1: card stuff.
Speaker 2: I'd be a mess.
Speaker 1: It was brutal. But then on Ben's season they would
Speaker 1: I just would go up to the room and I'd
Speaker 1: sleep like they would never bother me.
Speaker 2: Interesting.
Speaker 1: So I don't know if they were just like like
Speaker 1: she's not gonna give us anything like that entertaining, just
Speaker 1: like don't even let her go, let her be.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I appreciated that.
Speaker 1: But yeah, the Bachelor Mansion lots of memories. It's it's, uh,
Speaker 1: it's such an interesting place because it's like so people
Speaker 1: were like why won't they paint it? Like why won't
Speaker 1: they update it?
Speaker 4: It's it's bizarre, like like all the I mean, it's
Speaker 4: clearly just the house they ran out for stuff, and
Speaker 4: it's like we got there and like, not only is
Speaker 4: there no furniture in there, there's no light fixtures in
Speaker 4: a lot of the room. So like after the sun
Speaker 4: went down, like I was like using my flashlight to
Speaker 4: get into my back by my gosh.
Speaker 1: I was like, gosh, yeah, because they always just have
Speaker 1: all the studio lighting. Yeah, I don't even think about that.
Speaker 4: It was it was cool being there, though.
Speaker 1: You know, how are the Golden Bachelor women.
Speaker 4: They were awesome. I I uh, I've met a lot
Speaker 4: of Bachelor people in my life. I've never wanted a
Speaker 4: picture with one of them until Sandra came in.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 4: I love Sandra. I got a photo with Sandra. She
Speaker 4: was my favorite.
Speaker 1: The fart around the world heard around the world.
Speaker 4: Uh, there's a part where they're playing pickleball and Jesse
Speaker 4: Palmer's like, here comes Sandra. She's had two knee replacements
Speaker 4: and she's missing her daughter's waiting to be here. And
Speaker 4: I started crying from laughing at that. I love Sandra
Speaker 4: and she was so cool. All the bachel Golden Bachelor
Speaker 4: ladies were awesome. They're so great. I hope they'll get
Speaker 4: their own shows. I hope they're all the.
Speaker 3: Bachelorette I do you know what I have pitched the
Speaker 3: next Bacherette one of the Golden Bacher contestants.
Speaker 1: I mean, I hope so it was so I felt
Speaker 1: like it was such a hit. It would be such
Speaker 1: a miss for them to not do it. But my
Speaker 1: dream is a bachelor in Paradise, Golden Bachelor in Paradise,
Speaker 1: and they're like in Palm Springs or something. Yes, like
Speaker 1: you know, like pickleball.
Speaker 4: With the West Palm Beach.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Do we have any facts of like how the Golden
Speaker 3: Bachelor did? Is that like public knowledge?
Speaker 4: I don't. I'll pull up the exact numbers. But I
Speaker 4: remember seeing that the finale was like the best viewed
Speaker 4: one since the pandemic. I think, why.
Speaker 1: Did you watch it? Have you? Did you ever watch
Speaker 1: it or catch up or anything I did.
Speaker 3: I kept trying, okay, but it's the death that was
Speaker 3: hard for me. Every single week hearing about somebody's spouse
Speaker 3: dying before I went to sleep.
Speaker 2: I just I just it made me sad.
Speaker 4: Robbie told me that too.
Speaker 3: At Nobuy, he only gave it. I went a lot
Speaker 3: further than Robbie. Robbie gave it one episode.
Speaker 4: I was like, everybody dies, bro it comes for.
Speaker 2: Us all it does. Robbie after that, yeah, the storyline.
Speaker 3: He was out after the first episode, but I kept going.
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm gonna keep giving it a shop
Speaker 3: then because I was like, okay, maybe I'll just get
Speaker 3: through Jerry's Gary's, Gary's you know, story and then it
Speaker 3: was every date after talking about how they lost their spouse,
Speaker 3: and I was like, I can't do it.
Speaker 2: It just makes me too sad.
Speaker 1: Well, spoiler alert, there was a finale and he chose
Speaker 1: I know who he chose. Okay, so we're watching it's me,
Speaker 1: Haley and Taylor Banks and Hailey is like, heaving, she's
Speaker 1: solving so much during the breakup.
Speaker 2: Oh, because he had to send one of them home. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I knew who was at.
Speaker 1: Home, Leslie, And it was like painful because it felt
Speaker 1: like that heartbreak of that you're so angry and you're
Speaker 1: sad and you're embarrassed and you're just like I want
Speaker 1: to tell them to get out, but also be like
Speaker 1: don't leave, you know, like if you could feel it,
Speaker 1: and knowing that she you know, she was like, this
Speaker 1: is so embarrassing and it's happening on national television, and
Speaker 1: she was like and I'm at least grateful that you
Speaker 1: came and told me in my room as opposed to
Speaker 1: doing it like at the like making me come and
Speaker 1: get dressed up in a fancy dress. And it was
Speaker 1: just like pain and he was like sobbing, was like
Speaker 1: are you good? Really? Are you good. This show like
Speaker 1: wrecked her.
Speaker 3: So yeah, that's what I feel like. I just feel
Speaker 3: like I was always sad and like wanting to cry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well it's pretty upset. I mean it was, but
Speaker 1: it was really sweet. It was a great season.
Speaker 2: So is now Leslie like the front runner to be
Speaker 2: the Bacheorette?
Speaker 1: So I think Leslie or there was this woman who
Speaker 1: went like left kind of early on because her daughter, Yeah,
Speaker 1: get Joan. She's like a TikTok star. She does a
Speaker 1: lot of tiktoks and people are like Joan for Bachelorette
Speaker 1: and she so that I think it would be between
Speaker 1: those two, but maybe maybe someone else. Okay, But I
Speaker 1: was mostly jealous about the Bachelor Mansion because of the
Speaker 1: Golden Bachelor woman in the bachi that looked fun.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that I was working. I couldn't do that.
Speaker 2: You couldn't dabble in the bottom.
Speaker 4: I did not know. I saw them practicing.
Speaker 2: No soy sauce for you.
Speaker 4: No soy sauce. I got pizza later, lies true.
Speaker 1: What kind of pizza though?
Speaker 4: Pepperoni?
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, can I tell you something.
Speaker 3: I've never wanted a piece of pizza more than I
Speaker 3: did on Friday night sidebar.
Speaker 2: There's something about it Get one no, because it was
Speaker 2: going to a different crew and I just like watched
Speaker 2: it go bye, smelled it.
Speaker 4: I was like, when you're working an event like that
Speaker 4: and it's a long day, I feel like nothing hits
Speaker 4: better than pizza or in and out.
Speaker 3: Yeah after yes, And like I had the Sophie's choice
Speaker 3: at the end of the day because I got there,
Speaker 3: I really hadn't eaten. I didn't eat anything, and then
Speaker 3: when you're at the venue, I'm eating like nuts and chips,
Speaker 3: and like I didn't really have a meal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we got to get to your what you eat
Speaker 1: in a day?
Speaker 3: No, but that was like a weird day because you're
Speaker 3: at the forum, so you just have to kind of
Speaker 3: eat what's there. Yeah, And so I didn't really have
Speaker 3: a meal, and it's eleven o'clock we do Olivia Rodrigo.
Speaker 2: I'm leaving.
Speaker 3: It's like eleven thirty, and I was like starving, So
Speaker 3: I wanted to go to In and Out, but then
Speaker 3: I really just wanted to get to bed, and I
Speaker 3: was I went straight to bed, and I regreted not
Speaker 3: going in and out.
Speaker 1: You have to end a night like that with a
Speaker 1: delicious meal. I no, no, but for myself, I had a
Speaker 1: lot of fun to do it.
Speaker 2: When you're like with someone, it.
Speaker 1: Is, you know, fun. But it's great alone too, is it?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Have you ever in I've never in and outed it alone.
Speaker 1: You're missing out.
Speaker 4: I have done it a lot.
Speaker 2: I've never never in and it alone.
Speaker 1: Wow, you should do that. Take yourself on a little
Speaker 1: in and out date.
Speaker 6: Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 1: All I'm gonna say is I watch the most disturbingly
Speaker 1: crazy cult documentary that I've ever watched. And I can't
Speaker 1: talk about it because if I describe what it is,
Speaker 1: You're gonna stare at me like you always do when
Speaker 1: I describe something that you don't watch, and it's like
Speaker 1: crazy insane. But I need someone to message me and
Speaker 1: talk about this documentary which is on HBO Max and
Speaker 1: it's called Love has Won the Cult of Mother God.
Speaker 2: Why would you ever watch that?
Speaker 1: Because someone was saying, oh, Taylor Banks was telling me
Speaker 1: like this, have you I love a good like kind
Speaker 1: of like crime documentary, love a good cold documentary. Nothing.
Speaker 1: I don't know that anything will ever top this wow insanity,
Speaker 1: but just be prepared. It is graphic. So yeah, I
Speaker 1: just that's been on my brain and I need a
Speaker 1: palate cleanse ace.
Speaker 2: You know, it's a great palate cleanses. Survivor.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well Survivor. I just finished season forty, which
Speaker 3: was like the Winners at War, best season I've ever
Speaker 3: watched a Survivor because they brought back it was all
Speaker 3: the winners. So it was like twenty seventeen or twenty
Speaker 3: winners from past seasons.
Speaker 1: Did you know all of them?
Speaker 3: No, because I haven't watched one through seventeen and I
Speaker 3: knew most of them. Yeah, yeah, so good. And then
Speaker 3: what was crazy is I'm watching the whole season. I'm
Speaker 3: so into it. And then the finale they used to
Speaker 3: do their finales live from LA but it was COVID
Speaker 3: and so it was on Zoom and I was watching it. Actually,
Speaker 3: we watched it last night. We finished it, and I
Speaker 3: was like, that sucked because it was such a great,
Speaker 3: powerful season. And then we just got the Zoom ending
Speaker 3: and they're all on Zoom and their homes and I was.
Speaker 2: Like, damn.
Speaker 1: Yeah. The pandemic sucked for many reasons, including the Survivor finale.
Speaker 3: The no I know, but like I guess, I think
Speaker 3: we were so used to just like watching stuff like
Speaker 3: we were like, I'd rather get it on zoom and
Speaker 3: like have them do it.
Speaker 1: We were just they were doing stuff right right.
Speaker 3: But now looking back and watching it, I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I wish I could have asked Mo, like, you know,
Speaker 3: like ask more questions, Yeah, to my TV that and
Speaker 3: then Jeff Probes would know and ask the contestants.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we did catch up on the Squid Games.
Speaker 2: Have you watched the Battleship episode yet?
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've a We're literally as caught up as you
Speaker 1: can be.
Speaker 2: Oh my, the Battleship episode was iconic.
Speaker 1: It's so luck based in a show like I think this, Haley,
Speaker 1: I think you'd be really good at this, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't think so, because it's you don't even have
Speaker 1: to have skill. You just have to be maybe to
Speaker 1: an extent, but a lot of it.
Speaker 3: Now Because if you were skilled, if you were really
Speaker 3: good at Battleship, you'd say I want to be the
Speaker 3: captain because I'm gonna win this for my team.
Speaker 2: That's skill. That's not luck.
Speaker 1: No, if your battleship is just getting lucky with.
Speaker 2: Your guests, no, it's not. There's skill in Battleship.
Speaker 1: Guessing where the other boats are? Isn't luck?
Speaker 4: No, what can you describe the skill?
Speaker 3: So I don't have it, so I can't describe it,
Speaker 3: but there is a skill to it, like people who
Speaker 3: play battleship often are gonna be better at battleship.
Speaker 2: Then let's say me playing Battleship's patterns.
Speaker 4: I guess you could probably patterns like.
Speaker 3: C four is like a common like missile thrower. People
Speaker 3: always want to throw at C four. There's some skill.
Speaker 3: I'm sure if you look on Reddit, I'm sure you'll
Speaker 3: find something.
Speaker 4: Okay, slash Battleship.
Speaker 1: Okay, you know, not worth the argument, But a lot
Speaker 1: of the other stuff is.
Speaker 2: Luck Like which one the one?
Speaker 1: Where did you finish it?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 2: I just finished the Battleship episode.
Speaker 1: Oh you're so far behind? Oh?
Speaker 2: Really, the best show you've ever watched?
Speaker 1: And you're are you watching Survivor finale instead of because.
Speaker 2: I'm watching Winners at War? Are you kidding me? Top
Speaker 2: tier television?
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think if we watched anything else?
Speaker 7: Uh?
Speaker 1: Oh Special Forces? Did you finish that?
Speaker 2: Not finish yet?
Speaker 3: But what I don't have that many hours in a
Speaker 3: day to watch TV.
Speaker 1: You watch like fourteen seasons of Survivor.
Speaker 2: I watched I.
Speaker 3: Watched two episodes of television a night usually, so it
Speaker 3: depends when we have the kids, we watch something that
Speaker 3: I watch with the kids. So, like, you're not gonna
Speaker 3: watch Lego Masters, No I'm not. It's actually not bad TV.
Speaker 3: I kind of quite like Lego Masters. But that's where
Speaker 3: I watch all my baking shows. And then I'll watch
Speaker 3: like one episode of something that I want to watch
Speaker 3: before I fall asleep. Uh huh, not that much time.
Speaker 1: Well maybe for the sake of like having discussions about things,
Speaker 1: you can watch one episode.
Speaker 2: If you told me ahead of time, I would do.
Speaker 1: I assume I got caught up because you said it
Speaker 1: was the greatest show you've ever watched, and you can't
Speaker 1: get over how amazing it is.
Speaker 2: I know, I love it. I'm still watching it.
Speaker 1: You're just giving it like a weekly you're treating it
Speaker 1: like a weekly episode TV show.
Speaker 3: I can't we watch it with the kids, so I
Speaker 3: can only watch it when we have them. So we
Speaker 3: watch it when we have them, and when we don't
Speaker 3: have them, I can't watch it.
Speaker 1: Oh, you're watching squid games with the children?
Speaker 7: Correct?
Speaker 1: Gotcha? All right, Well, I'll be more intentional about saying, Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm caught up to this point on this show that
Speaker 1: you're watching. Are you gonna be able to catch up
Speaker 1: on it this weekend so we can talk about on
Speaker 1: the podcast.
Speaker 3: Yeah, a little proactive would be Okay, appreciate it.
Speaker 1: I rushed through it thinking that you were being caught up.
Speaker 1: And now we wait till like December ninth for the finale.
Speaker 1: Well yeah, four days, yeah, four days, all right, because
Speaker 1: then next week, if you watch it, if you get
Speaker 1: all caught up, we can talk about the finale. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: We're gonna take a break and we have some emails.
Speaker 1: All right, we are back. Easton is going to fill
Speaker 1: in for reading the emails today.
Speaker 4: Thank you. It's my pleasure to do this because I
Speaker 4: can read. This is from Ali. Hello friends, Becca, Tanya, Mark,
Speaker 4: and Easton smiley face. I would love your objective opinion
Speaker 4: on what to do. Four years ago, I met my
Speaker 4: husband while we were both living in Colorado. He is
Speaker 4: originally from Nebraska, so after dating a while, we moved
Speaker 4: to Lincoln. Fast forward to now. His dad is awful.
Speaker 4: He is so rude. He has made it known that
Speaker 4: he does not like me very much. For no reason.
Speaker 4: He is mean to his wife, my mother in law,
Speaker 4: and just makes everyone's life hell. We've gone family therapy
Speaker 4: to try to fix it, but he's just older and
Speaker 4: he's set in his ways. Here's my dilemma. I feel alone.
Speaker 4: My husband does not have many friends here in town,
Speaker 4: and it's hard. We're going on year three of trying
Speaker 4: for a baby and dealing with the many struggles of infertility.
Speaker 4: I missed my sisters and family back in Colorado, and
Speaker 4: part of me wants to move back. My husband is
Speaker 4: open to it and willing to move back, but it
Speaker 4: can't shake the feeling of guilt. He loves Nebraska, he
Speaker 4: is Nebraska. It's his happy place here, and a part
Speaker 4: of me would always feel selfish for taking him away
Speaker 4: from it. I just feel like with his parents getting
Speaker 4: older and he does not have any friends or siblings here.
Speaker 4: Once we finally get our miracle baby, we won't have
Speaker 4: any help or community and it feels so isolating. So
Speaker 4: my question is how do I look past the guilt
Speaker 4: of it? Do we move? Do we say help? Love
Speaker 4: you all? I'm a day win scrubber.
Speaker 1: It doesn't feel like he's particular cularly happy there either.
Speaker 2: Well, she says that he is Nebraska, so no, I
Speaker 2: think he.
Speaker 1: Loves being home, but I don't feel like he's like
Speaker 1: integrated into like a friend group or like super close
Speaker 1: with like connecting with his family. And if he's willing
Speaker 1: to move to Colorado, I think maybe he's trying to say, like,
Speaker 1: I love where I'm from, and I'm also willing to
Speaker 1: go where you're going to be happy.
Speaker 4: I'm sure there's Cornfield's in Colorado they can find.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But I feel like we're missing a part in
Speaker 3: the email where we don't know what his thoughts are,
Speaker 3: like how she brought it up to him yet, or
Speaker 3: is this just stuff that she's like going through in
Speaker 3: her head before she talks to him, Like she's like,
Speaker 3: I feel bad asking him to do that. I feel
Speaker 3: like you have to just be open and honest and
Speaker 3: ask him his opinion and then he might say no,
Speaker 3: I don't want to do it, and then you can
Speaker 3: kind of come figure out a solution or a compromise.
Speaker 3: But I feel like you got to just ask yeah.
Speaker 1: And I also think like it feels with his dad
Speaker 1: and the family dynamic being stressful, Like y'all don't feel
Speaker 1: like you're in a good routine. And I think that
Speaker 1: you met in Colorado, so he obviously has he likes
Speaker 1: Colorado because he moved there, and then you moved for
Speaker 1: him to where he loves to be. And now it's
Speaker 1: kind of like, do we go and create our new
Speaker 1: you know, life somewhere that we're both happy and like
Speaker 1: can meet people and community and have you know, go
Speaker 1: visit Nebraska when when we can, but not feel stuck there.
Speaker 4: It seems to me like this is like if she
Speaker 4: just says, let's move to Colorado, he would be he
Speaker 4: would say sure, Like it seems like she's over Yeah,
Speaker 4: like she's she feels guilty about it. But I mean
Speaker 4: it's not like he said I'm not leaving Nebraska like that. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I know, as I was doing an xcent and I
Speaker 4: felt bad immediately, but I'm sorry everyone in Nebraska. I
Speaker 4: love Cornesker State. Yeah, I mean, it's not like you
Speaker 4: put his foot down. And also, when you have a kid,
Speaker 4: you're gonna want to be in your family that will
Speaker 4: help you out.
Speaker 3: I know, But I feel like, not this, she's not
Speaker 3: really liking her father in law.
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. Like the because she's from Colorado, right,
Speaker 4: oh yeah, yea, So they go back to Colorado. I
Speaker 4: assume there's gonna be more of a network there. Yeah,
Speaker 4: to care for this child instead of this terrible father
Speaker 4: in law. You got just move. I bring it up
Speaker 4: to him. He's probably gonna be down for it.
Speaker 3: And you know what always works as a pros and
Speaker 3: cons list? Yes, pros and cons lists.
Speaker 2: Are top tier.
Speaker 4: List.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I know, a persuasion, Oh yeah, tactics. I feel
Speaker 3: like a pros and cons list could do you some
Speaker 3: real good and you make the pros list really really long.
Speaker 1: But it sounds like he's open and wants you to
Speaker 1: be happy. So I think it's worth like trying to
Speaker 1: start your life in a place where both of you
Speaker 1: can set roots in. He's willing to do that for you,
Speaker 1: and I think that it feels time to make that
Speaker 1: decision and start fresh.
Speaker 3: And do it then in the next couple of weeks,
Speaker 3: because twenty twenty four is about to be here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't feel rushed, you know, yeah, sure, sure, sure,
Speaker 1: fresh start, fresh start, but good luck.
Speaker 2: We love you, we love you.
Speaker 4: Uh one more. Yeah, let's uh here's anonymous. Uh. I'm
Speaker 4: writing and seeking advice my fiance and I have been
Speaker 4: engaged almost a year and together for four years. Getting
Speaker 4: married getting married to day bro woo hoo. I was
Speaker 4: excited about that woo hoo part. I am so ready,
Speaker 4: But there is one thing I've been struggling with. He
Speaker 4: is very into sports, mostly football. We go to all
Speaker 4: our college football games together, which is so fun. However,
Speaker 4: he is almost two into it. He spends ninety nine
Speaker 4: percent of the day, mostly Friday through Monday, on his
Speaker 4: phone looking at sports betting and quote unquote making his
Speaker 4: picks for the week. To give you an idea, his
Speaker 4: screen time was ten hours one day and he has
Speaker 4: a full time job. I am all for having hobbies,
Speaker 4: but it's really become an issue because I feel like
Speaker 4: we never talk. He's pretty quiet at baseline, and he
Speaker 4: hasn't made an effort to be intimate or plan any
Speaker 4: fun date nights. I can't even remember the last time
Speaker 4: we went on a date. He's, without a doubt, the
Speaker 4: guy for me, and this is just a little hump
Speaker 4: we need to get over. But I'm unsure how to
Speaker 4: approach the situation. I brought it up a couple months
Speaker 4: ago and he said he'd be better about being attentive
Speaker 4: and intentional all their time, but nothing has changed. He
Speaker 4: really is a good guy and a hard worker. He
Speaker 4: has a great career, and he treats me well besides
Speaker 4: not prioritizing quality time. But I feel like he has
Speaker 4: definitely been more attentive in the past and now it
Speaker 4: feels like we're just living together as pals. And I
Speaker 4: really think it's from sports.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so so drive me crazy.
Speaker 3: I mean I kind of experienced it, not on that level,
Speaker 3: but like I get what she's saying, because but there
Speaker 3: has to be a compromise.
Speaker 2: The way that she's explaining it, that would make me.
Speaker 3: So frantic and so unsettled, because like last night was
Speaker 3: Monday Night football, but we were we wanted to finish
Speaker 3: off this season of Survivor, so probably didn't watch.
Speaker 2: He was watching it on his phone.
Speaker 3: Whatever, she says, picking his bets or picking his picks
Speaker 3: or checking up on his squad or whatever they do.
Speaker 2: And it is very annoying because he's like on his phone.
Speaker 3: So it's like I get it, but I'm like, he's
Speaker 3: making the compromise because we're watching Survivor, so he's still like,
Speaker 3: you know, playing with his team on his phone. Yeah,
Speaker 3: And Sundays are kind of the same. He's like very
Speaker 3: locked into football on Sundays. But if it was Friday
Speaker 3: through Monday, that's like Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 2: That's four days out of the week.
Speaker 3: Being locked into your phone and like not being attentive,
Speaker 3: and that is a lot. And so I feel like
Speaker 3: you need to say something. And even if it's okay,
Speaker 3: maybe he still wants to have his Friday to Monday.
Speaker 3: Maybe you can do some compromises and maybe you could
Speaker 3: do a date night on like a Wednesday, so you
Speaker 3: still feel like you're getting that quality time.
Speaker 1: I just don't think Friday through Monday needs to be
Speaker 1: fully attend attention to one thing. That feels like excessive
Speaker 1: no matter what. I don't care how much I am
Speaker 1: all about hobbies and having passions and football is on
Speaker 1: the weekends, but it's like set a time of like
Speaker 1: how long you're going to be on your phone looking
Speaker 1: at that stuff and if you want to watch one
Speaker 1: of the games. But that's so unfair to your partner
Speaker 1: to put them in that position.
Speaker 4: There's a big red flag coming out to me about this.
Speaker 4: And I don't think this is a sports issue. I
Speaker 4: think this is a gambling problem, because she says he
Speaker 4: spends all most ninety percent of the day on the
Speaker 4: weekends looking at sports betting and making his picks for
Speaker 4: the week. So that means because at first I thought like, oh,
Speaker 4: he's just in front of the TV the whole time.
Speaker 4: But I think this man is I don't say addicted
Speaker 4: to gambling, but I think gambling is a big component yes, betting,
Speaker 4: and that leads to a lot of other problems that
Speaker 4: will not go away and only get worse.
Speaker 3: Okay, So then that's like a trickier thing because how
Speaker 3: do you It's like, how do you tell someone they
Speaker 3: have a problem. You can't tell someone they have to
Speaker 3: have a problem. They have to figure it out themselves.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and he probably sees he's like, this is.
Speaker 2: What I like, is what I like to do, right,
Speaker 2: he calls it a hobby.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and hey, hey, hey babe, I'm getting money from
Speaker 4: this and I'm getting rich here.
Speaker 2: But honestly, I would seek a professional.
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe a couple therapy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, or if you want to do a couple sapy,
Speaker 3: maybe like you go to like a professional that can
Speaker 3: help you pro talk to him in like a way
Speaker 3: that's gonna help him versus. I feel like if you
Speaker 3: went to him and you were like, you have a
Speaker 3: gambling problem, He's gonna shut it down, you know what
Speaker 3: I mean, Like, you can't just do that. There's probably
Speaker 3: a more methodical way that you can go about doing it.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I don't want to freak you out, Anonymous, but you
Speaker 4: say it's your fiance. As you get closer that wedding day,
Speaker 4: there's gonna be I'm sure there's gonna be some financial
Speaker 4: problems that will come to light. I'm just gonna say, yeah,
Speaker 4: right now, you probably don't know about them, but I'm
Speaker 4: not saying the exist. But a guy who spends the
Speaker 4: whole weekend looking at sports betting.
Speaker 1: And also, like you don't feel chosen, You don't feel
Speaker 1: like he puts He puts all his effort and energy
Speaker 1: into football, like you deserve to for someone to look
Speaker 1: after you and your needs, and this feels very selfish
Speaker 1: on his part. So I think you just need to
Speaker 1: approach him, and maybe you do need a professional that
Speaker 1: can help you do it in a way that's productive
Speaker 1: and not like just riddled with anger and make him
Speaker 1: defensive but accusatory. But good luck, that's very, very challenging
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I feel like this last one's funny because
Speaker 1: it won't take many a long time.
Speaker 4: Let's do it. This from Chloe sos re listening to
Speaker 4: one of the episodes from twenty twenty one with Chelsea
Speaker 4: Handler Good Vibes only as the title, and in the
Speaker 4: thirty ninth minute we Love a Timestamp, Tanya says she'd
Speaker 4: rather buy a house than thinking about the money would
Speaker 4: take to throw a wedding. I truly can't believe my
Speaker 4: ears right now. Listen how excited she is in real
Speaker 4: time as an engaged girl. Mind blown emoji. Just had
Speaker 4: to bring this to someone's attention. Love the pod.
Speaker 3: Wow, that is the whole problem. That's why I haven't
Speaker 3: started planning my wedding because it's like you see, as
Speaker 3: you get older, you look at how much everything is,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I don't want to spend this on
Speaker 3: a wedding. I'd rather buy put a down payment on
Speaker 3: a house. So it's like very debilitating because like you're
Speaker 3: it's kind of like you're in that space. I can't
Speaker 3: make it. That's why I just can't make a decision.
Speaker 3: But then you get into like your bridal era and
Speaker 3: you're like so excited about all that stuff. So I'm
Speaker 3: like so excited about it and I want to do it,
Speaker 3: but then I get debilitated because I'm like, but I
Speaker 3: don't want to spend I mean.
Speaker 2: It's it's so crazy, it's so crazy. And so.
Speaker 1: You still have the same mindset, but you also are
Speaker 1: just like, now that it's happening, you can't imagine not
Speaker 1: having a wedding.
Speaker 2: I can't imagine not having a wedding, for sure.
Speaker 3: I definitely want to do it, but like the way
Speaker 3: that I want to do it, I feel like I
Speaker 3: can't what I mean, it's so expensive. I'd rather save
Speaker 3: that and buy a house.
Speaker 1: Oh oh, well, could you do like a cute little
Speaker 1: courthouse thing.
Speaker 2: I don't want to do that.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 3: So, like when you think about the when I think
Speaker 3: about the wedding of my dreams.
Speaker 1: You'd like regret not having a wedding.
Speaker 2: I'd regret not doing anything correct.
Speaker 1: Living in your mansion but correct.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, well you bought a.
Speaker 1: House and then eventually you did a ceremony.
Speaker 2: Like have a wedding in like ten years, No.
Speaker 1: Not ten years, ye, like yeah, like a couple of years.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like the further and further along you go, Like,
Speaker 3: I have friends who got married. They did like a quick,
Speaker 3: quickie wedding because they got pregnant and they were going
Speaker 3: to like have a wedding after the baby came, and
Speaker 3: now they're just like, eh, yeah, I feel like you
Speaker 3: just get more and more less motivated. Yeah, correct, Right, Well,
Speaker 3: so that girl is still there who talked to Chelsea Hammler,
Speaker 3: which is why I feel like I'm in a predicament.
Speaker 1: That I'm in a predicament because she won the house
Speaker 1: and she wants a wedding.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I have not said millionaires. So it really
Speaker 3: puts you in a pickle.
Speaker 1: A pickle of sorts. But I think if even if
Speaker 1: you have the wedding, which is what you desire and want,
Speaker 1: I think the time will come when you feel ready
Speaker 1: to buy house. It all lines, you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So yep, just trying to keep you know, just
Speaker 3: work a little harder.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just.
Speaker 2: A little harder, next two to three years.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, we'll be back next week. And I
Speaker 1: think there's two episodes next week. Yeah, yes, yeah, there.
Speaker 4: Are two episodes next week. Where are they going to be?
Speaker 1: Only time will tell, Only time will tell, and only
Speaker 1: we know and.
Speaker 2: Sneak peaks here.
Speaker 1: Greeks, it's our final book Club episode. Just kidding. We
Speaker 1: love you so much and hope you have a wonderful
Speaker 1: week and we'll be back next week.
Speaker 2: I love you, love you, Bye.
Speaker 7: Hm.