WEBVTT - Conversations About Marriage 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:04.360 Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.480 Sinners podcast with your host now funk that with your 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:23.639 low blastes Malone. Please read your Facebook post that you 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:28.800 posted all right, so I said, Hey Facebook, fam, so sad. 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:31.080 Today I was talking to one of my co workers 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:34.360 and she was saying her and her husband rarely make love. 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:38.920 He rarely initiates, and sometimes this month before their intimate again, 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:41.440 she asked me if he could be cheating and what 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:48.000 should she do? I don't know, should she initiate? So? 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:54.280 Why the fuck? How did she come up with he's cheating? Well, 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:57.480 she asked me, like, do you think he could be cheating? Why? 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:02.400 Because they're not intimate? She said that. She said that 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:04.520 she even did like a whole thing where she laid 0:01:04.520 --> 0:01:08.000 out like some little candles for him and everything, and 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:11.200 he was happy, like, oh this is sweet. But she 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:13.840 said that he was tired and he went he fell asleep. 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:23.199 What the fund does women do all the time? Women 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:27.040 doing all the time go to sleep to sleep? How 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:32.240 in that equation doesn't equal another woman? Well, because she 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.959 said that they hardly ever rarely, because she's so hot, 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:38.560 how could somebody possibly not want to sleep with her? 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:40.280 Right now? I don't think that can be that that 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:44.400 maybe they maybe they did get down before, like a lot, 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:48.280 and maybe it just switched up, you know, maybe she 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:50.600 felt some type of way like maybe it's not the same. 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:54.120 I don't know, maybe they were, maybe their sex life 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:57.400 was better, maybe she was having sex a lot or whatever, 0:01:57.440 --> 0:02:04.480 and then that it's like non existent basically. So I 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:08.919 feel like, Okay, you're not having sex with your husband 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:11.920 or your your husband. You guys aren't being intimate. He's 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.959 not loving on you, and he's not loving on you. 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:23.799 So that's what fucking loving on you? No is loving 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:27.520 That is loving on me? Is it? So all these 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.160 niggas that you slept with the past was loving on 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:34.040 you know, we're talking about my husband, we're talking about 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:37.560 all of the other husbandly things because we're just talking 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:40.399 about this, we're talking about sex. So they don't ever 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:44.880 mentioning on you because it's not. But you're not. You 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:46.520 cut me off. I was gonna say, and she loving 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:50.480 on him, and he living on anybody? You fuck for nothing. 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:53.520 You funk without love all the time. It's happening in 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:55.840 your life multiple times. But so don't try to make 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:59.840 it like so you love each other so you're loving 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.720 on each other, loving each other is the fact that 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:05.080 I thought it was nice and I fucking came home. 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:07.760 That's loving on you, loving on and you was eating 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:10.840 the food, paying the meals. No, that not that too, 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:12.359 because this is the one thing that they make of 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:15.560 that was just fucking you wasn't doing That's what. That's 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.720 what And this is what kills me about marriage. Why 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:22.360 are you so mad? It's crazy that Read the message again. 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:25.720 Read the message again. This is why I'm upset because 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:34.160 he rarely initiates the whole message, read again, said Hey, 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:37.800 Facebook fans, so sad. Today I was talking to one 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:39.840 of my co workers and she was saying her and 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:45.080 her husband rarely make love. He rarely initiates, and sometimes 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:51.280 it's months months before they're intimate again. She asked me 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:54.560 if he could be cheating and what she should do. 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:59.040 I don't know, should she initiate? So this is the problem. 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:01.840 I'm gonna tell you my flaws and that lame ash 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:04.280 it and this is my issue at times with the 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:10.040 concept of marriage and women. Right, nothing about that says 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:13.360 he has to be with another woman too. Intimacy is 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:15.600 so much more than what you've been getting from them 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:18.960 other niggas all the time. Every nigga will suck you 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:23.080 for free. Intimacy really stands for closeness. Fucking has never 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:27.000 bought you closer to anybody you fucked. It actually runs 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:32.000 motherfucker's away. I am totally in understanding that that is 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:36.400 a personal conquest of that woman by herself questioning who 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:40.120 she is. Am I not hot anymore? I think that 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:43.120 would bring in security um into her mind, like damn, 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:46.279 like he's not, does he not? Because you're treating him 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:49.080 like you're treating every single nigga in your life. That 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:52.280 wanted to say, but but listen. So she said that 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:56.520 he told her that he's attracted to her and he's 0:04:56.600 --> 0:05:04.680 not attracted to her body. Oh ship, Well that's another 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:08.799 He had a conversation with him why they're not having sex. 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:12.599 He said, that's not the main' not even gonna bring 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:14.920 that part into it. That's back out. That's back out 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:22.120 of that part because this doesn't make it right. But 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:25.640 let's focus on the beginning. This focus on the beginning. 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:30.200 Why is it when somebody's not sucking you, they have 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:32.760 to be So let me ask you a question. Do 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:34.880 you think it's possible for a man to get his 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:38.440 dig hard for two people in the same day to 0:05:38.600 --> 0:05:41.200 seven is possible, So why the fund would it be 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:43.480 she's cheating? Why couldn't come another bit and then fun 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:47.240 his wife? What you mean how did that just equate 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:51.720 to notice? And this is my problem when you're missing 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:55.600 the point. What she's saying is he cheating because she's 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:59.080 not sleeping with her, that's what she's equated with. He's 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:02.320 not getting this pussy. He got to be getting some pussy. Well, really, 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:05.479 that's stupid because we can get all the pussy dollar 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:09.720 bill stuck up. Okay, it's still you still going out 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.719 and getting pussy. It don't matter. What does it have 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:15.480 to do with me not fucking you? What does that 0:06:15.560 --> 0:06:18.240 have to do with him not loving her? I don't 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:20.240 even get into that now. I don't, I don't, I don't, 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:23.920 I don't even What does it have to do with 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:28.640 me not fucking you? You're not because you're sucking someone else, 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:31.560 So we can't suck people in the same day. Who 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:34.039 said that? And then what the funk are you talking about? 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:37.640 That's cheating? You're missing the point. I am back up. 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:42.040 Let's let's go over the gains. Please put the training. 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:48.119 I don't understand, she said in the message, because that 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:50.880 he has to be cheating. Do you think he's cheating 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:55.760 because he's not fucking me? Why would you not think that? Though? 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:59.839 So my question to you is, could he not fuck 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:05.280 you and somebody else in the same day? That's cheating? Why? 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:09.560 Why are why is my cheating? Well why you're not 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:12.640 even listening, y'all just hearing, But why is my husband 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:15.760 sleeping with another woman the same day? No? The thing is, 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:17.960 the thing is, the whole point is that he could 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:20.320 still be attracted to her. He could go have sex 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:25.880 with another one does with you as his wife does. 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.320 It doesn't need to be that one or the other. 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:32.240 He can be doing both so in the same day. 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:34.880 So okay, So and then it's it doesn't have to 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:36.880 be the one, but he's not having sex with her, 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:41.400 So what does it have to do with cheating? Um, well, 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:45.040 if your man is not having sex with you, then 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:49.320 we say cheating because he's sleeping with someone else, regardless, 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:54.760 because because he's not having sex with you, I mean, 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:57.120 so we just got to have sex, That's what it is. 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:00.120 That's what you fucking think of us, of men, We 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:04.480 just gotta funk somebody. Yeah, everybody, what are you talking 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:08.520 about to? Or we can? You can, but for the 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:11.400 most now, I don't try to spend this ship hold on, 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:18.400 hold half wait, no, y'all niggas be out. They're doing ship. 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:20.840 It don't matter. It could be a woman too, don't matter. 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:24.400 If you're not having questions, you had your point. No, 0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:28.040 if y'all having sex, if you're if you if I'm 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:30.880 married to you, and all of a sudden you just 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:33.960 stopped sucking on me. We're not nothing. And we're not 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:36.319 even communicating this. I'm not even saying it's not I'm 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:38.959 not even saying it's not her father or his father 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:41.679 or whatever. The whole point is, no one's communicating, and 0:08:41.800 --> 0:08:43.880 I'm you're now you're feeling like, damn, like what is 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:47.240 going on? You're going to question everything. That's just one thing. 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:50.199 It could be normous of things. Why not because you're 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:53.640 doin somewhere else? Let me, she's thinking, he is? I mean, 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:56.440 so let me get this right. So you think if 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.480 you're married for somebody four years, you're gonna sunk like 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:02.080 the first day. No, so the funk are you? So 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:04.559 let me ask you a question? What is that I'm 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:07.079 going to ask you. I'm going to ask you more questions. 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:10.640 Why is it? How am I a man? And I 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:17.440 understand intimacy is way more than sex, So fucking is 0:09:17.480 --> 0:09:21.280 a serviceable port, like it's a serviceable purpose. There's a 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:24.520 reason why we're fucking. Our mind could be the reason 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:26.600 why we want to feel special. It could be a 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:29.960 hard penis a thousand things. What happens as you get older, 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:32.280 your penis don't get hard as much. That's why I 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:36.079 start taking peels. This problem But in regardless of whatever 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:38.160 is fucking problem is, why is it? The why is 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:41.520 the bitch did not take her to get Why he 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:43.280 didn't take her to get it? Let me take it 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:46.120 to the doctor because maybe you did not working? Why 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:50.320 is the first thing? It's another woman? Well, like I 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:57.320 said ahead, I was gonna say, I'm sorry, no sellings 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:05.080 glasses Malone read what's up, hey, Red? What's up? I 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:10.640 got my man host hip hop historian and and the 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:14.160 host of Los Angeles Battleground, my man Tony Nadio, And 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:19.360 this is not with some tone? What's up? Man? What 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:21.880 I was gonna get to? What Red? Right? You know? 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:25.240 I think you interjected that other part to it kind 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:28.600 of after the reason why it's an issue, because he's 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:31.240 not the reason why she's thinking that, because I'm trying 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:33.280 to listen to everybody. I think the reason why she's 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:37.760 thinking he's cheating is because the conversation happened about her body. Now, 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.480 even though that's a whole another conversation, it's not the company. 0:10:40.600 --> 0:10:42.599 That's not fair. But she interjected that, and I was 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:45.160 wondering why, Like I was gonna ask her, what did 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:47.319 you ask her if she talked to him about it, 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:49.640 because you can't just assume some ship. Now, if you're 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:52.000 just assuming that's wrong, I don't make no sense that 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:53.760 at that point, you're just saying a man is just 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:57.280 shallow and all he that's what they're saying. No, that's 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:07.000 not what she's not. She's saying, don't lie. No, I'm 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:09.480 not saying you don't think men are shallow. I don't 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:14.560 think men are shallow. But you're gonna lie from all 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:18.920 one point. I did, at one point just think that 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:22.440 men that they all want to have sex. They do, 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:27.880 they do, but that's not that that's not but no, 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:30.360 but what's wrong with wanting to have sex? Though? Let 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:32.199 me ask you a question trash. Let me ask you 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:35.640 a questions. Yeah, I'm confused. Men do want to have sex, 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:37.920 but it's not like that's not all we're doing. But 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:40.840 because that's because men don't always want to have sex, 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.640 that's a whole different, that's a whole that's what she says. 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:46.440 So when she's saying that to you, she's saying, that's 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:49.600 all we think about. Okay, look, no, of course not. 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:52.959 How is he gonna tell you what what I'm thinking 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:59.200 that because because I'm like, so, let me get this right. 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.480 If he not fun and you he fucking somebody, they 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:06.719 don't ness it, then why would that be eventually eventually? Why? 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:10.520 Because he's gonna want to have sex? I feel like eventually, 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:14.400 so what if he rolls over seven? And I'm not 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:17.360 saying like, of course because if you're older and stuff 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:20.679 like that, you know you may not be getting past. 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:24.800 That's a that's a whole another conversation right there. To 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:29.960 man women to think that the same pussies like every 0:12:30.320 --> 0:12:35.959 time Valentine's Day, you've been there for twenty five years, 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:45.040 a great birthday, birthday, birthdays? Not everyone make it funny. No, 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:47.800 I'm gonna tell you what makes it funny? I'm gonna 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:50.920 tell you why that's funny. And this is same day. 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:53.880 We never use you for your birthdays. We never be 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:59.480 for yourthday. What are you talking about. I'm gonna get 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:03.080 everything because I'm a requests because we're not. You will 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:09.240 try to present that old dress, it up that dress 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:12.960 all the time. We don't want the same drug all 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:17.160 the time. That's not yes, it is, it's the same 0:13:17.800 --> 0:13:21.160 missing the point. See what you're doing is you're not 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:24.480 listening to you. You're not. Yes, I am. We have 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:27.960 never ever gave you dick as a present. You know 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:39.160 that's not because like what I'm saying that I did 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:46.960 never heard that. I never I never heard that. But 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:50.480 I've never been like that either. And if she and 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:56.280 if she did, you not your photo to see that 0:13:56.440 --> 0:14:02.360 same us present. And I'm not just putting it's not 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:05.319 it's not to say that you're not a magnificent woman. 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:09.160 That I'm far pressed from saying that, Olivia. That's not 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:11.760 what I'm saying. I know you do. And what I'm 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:15.800 saying to you is what I'm saying to you is 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:19.880 somehow you like if this nigga is not getting this pussy, 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:23.320 he gotta be getting pussy from somewhere. The first thing 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:26.040 that y'all think when somebody not fucking you in a 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:30.000 marriage is that they are sleeping with someone else. And 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:33.760 it's not true. It's not the first thing. It's not. 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:42.360 It depends on it's not true their patterns. You know, 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:45.760 what you're doing is you're manipulating how you think they 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:48.040 are as a person and trying to size them up. 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:50.920 You're not thinking about their health, you're not thinking about 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.520 everything about their mind that makes them. First of fucking 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:57.080 is not just a physical thing, it's not. It's a 0:14:57.080 --> 0:15:00.120 mental thing. So motherfucker could be going through a all 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:02.320 the things and his mind ain't. Don't suck it. And 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.560 that don't mean that he sucked somebody else. That could 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:07.440 be a freedom of sucking somebody else. But the fact 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:11.960 that when you read that message, right, she didn't mention 0:15:12.080 --> 0:15:15.800 anything specifically about oh, he could be not attracted. It 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:18.120 literally was like, well, if he's not sucking me, he 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:22.480 must be cheating. Or she asked her that. She said, no, no, 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:25.440 this is not She didn't put that in the message. 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:28.040 She didn't put that in the message. See the thing 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.080 she said after she didn't put the message. So we're 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:31.760 not even gonna that ship didn't happen. That's probably a 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:39.680 lie to say the message why why would he have 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.520 to be She's basically asking, like what should she do? 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.240 She did the whole candle thing, like the whole um 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:49.040 romantic thing or whatever, you know, to try to, I 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:55.200 guess initiate because I'm like, well, his dick lighting candles 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:58.640 ever been needed? I don't I think that. I'm okay. 0:15:58.680 --> 0:16:03.320 I might agree with that. Most man, you're missing the 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:05.440 point of what this whole conversation is when it comes 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:08.000 to marriage, and you should know you're an expert. You 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:11.920 went to I was married for eight years, so feel me. 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:14.800 I was married to so feel me. But see, this 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:23.600 is different. Women do things. No, I'm not disrespected, it 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:26.800 is different. It's different. Is this a racial thing? Again? 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:31.640 This is one of the few times I'm not being racist. 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:34.480 I'm racist all the other So why is it difference? 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:38.560 So what I'm saying is women in the space, especially 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:42.120 in the marriage, tend to make well before marriage, even 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:45.640 but especially the marriage. It has to be about me. 0:16:46.880 --> 0:16:50.560 Women turned into serious me monsters. So it's like, he's 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:53.120 not exactly That's what I say. It's not fair for 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:56.480 me to say terms because they really be. It's not. 0:16:56.640 --> 0:17:00.920 This is a message. Every woman is a stuff, every 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:06.320 single woman who because why would the fuck this because 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:10.280 why in the funk would you think, well, he not 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:12.400 sucking me, he must be sucking somebody because I don't 0:17:12.400 --> 0:17:14.480 know how he could not intimate And then they tried 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:17.160 to make it with them like pretty words intimate, man, 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:19.000 this nigga probably help me and watch TV and talk 0:17:19.080 --> 0:17:20.760 to her about this day and all the intimate moment 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:25.720 she just well I had I went through that before myself. 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:29.040 I could imagine, but again personally, and I felt I 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:31.200 felt like because I called you and I was like, okay, 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:34.720 well you know we're not like vibe and we're not 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:37.440 being but but you were like, well, do you'll watch TV? 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:41.320 Do you do this intimate all the all the other 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:48.359 intimate things. But I'm this is the problem when you 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:53.080 marry a woman who's had sex before y'all were married. Ship. 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:56.720 I agree, it matters. I agree, huh. I tell you, 0:17:56.800 --> 0:18:02.880 I really do. Right. Didn't get God getting some ship right? 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:07.640 It's like God is like good money, bro. God will 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:11.119 say some ship and it will make perfect sense. And 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:13.800 the reason he's saying you shouldn't be sucking before you married, 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:18.040 and so you don't be compared to that shallow compared 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:20.920 to the shallow ship you married. So a woman could 0:18:21.040 --> 0:18:23.119 sleep with some nigga, I just want to fucker. Really 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:25.160 think that nigga lover. He don't got to do nothing, 0:18:25.200 --> 0:18:26.520 He just gotta want to funk her all the time. 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:28.440 They'd be like this, nigga really love me? No he don't. 0:18:28.720 --> 0:18:33.760 He loves sucking you again, because no, you don't. But 0:18:33.800 --> 0:18:38.120 it's no, definitely. I think it's because you guys want 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:42.239 to have sex and that, but that's not And this 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:44.520 is the tricky part. So there's a two part question. 0:18:46.320 --> 0:18:48.679 So there is a physical thing trash, right, there's a 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:51.840 physical demand for men that six that change as you 0:18:51.880 --> 0:18:54.000 get older. Right, your body picks on how healthy you are, 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:57.439 depends blood, blood, pumpy, add thousands of things. As I 0:18:57.440 --> 0:18:59.359 get older, I realized I have to take care of 0:18:59.400 --> 0:19:03.080 myself because really controls my sex drive like that matters. 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:08.280 M Part two is the mental part for men, it's 0:19:08.320 --> 0:19:11.320 the personal conquest of somebody. I've told you this a 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:15.880 thousand times. Where we tend to value vagina like it's 0:19:15.920 --> 0:19:19.000 special because we really feel like especial when you're giving 0:19:19.040 --> 0:19:21.320 it to us because we like, she chose me, so 0:19:21.440 --> 0:19:24.200 that's okay. So if you think that it's special though, no, 0:19:24.280 --> 0:19:27.000 I'm just saying those a lot of women that it's 0:19:27.040 --> 0:19:30.920 not special. That's the problem. Just listen and it niggas realized. 0:19:30.960 --> 0:19:35.040 And see I've realized none of them are special. It's 0:19:35.080 --> 0:19:38.800 just your turn. You maybe you you may get the 0:19:38.880 --> 0:19:42.480 last term, but it's still just your turn. Right. But 0:19:42.600 --> 0:19:46.280 it's important right that you know the difference because like 0:19:46.320 --> 0:19:48.120 what you're about to say right now, because we see 0:19:48.160 --> 0:19:51.280 it that way. When you get married, that's when you 0:19:51.440 --> 0:19:54.920 really realize it is not as special as you thought 0:19:55.000 --> 0:19:59.480 it was. Vagina, when you get married, because you because 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:01.800 it's the one person. It's just the one. It's not that, 0:20:01.840 --> 0:20:06.160 it's not that it's just serviceable. It's there, and you're 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:10.720 not conquering a person. Mentally, this person has already been conquered. 0:20:12.160 --> 0:20:14.719 So the mental part of you feeling special that she 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:17.200 gave you some pussy goes out the door now because 0:20:17.240 --> 0:20:19.840 now it becomes a job for her to give you pussy. 0:20:19.960 --> 0:20:23.240 And no matter what people say, marry people funk like 0:20:23.280 --> 0:20:26.520 it's a job. Yeah, they're not that you're not always 0:20:26.560 --> 0:20:28.320 sucking the dick. When you first meet and you're sucking 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:30.960 his dick and doing backflips and flips, and ship you 0:20:31.040 --> 0:20:36.639 get married them head become a special occasion would do 0:20:38.240 --> 0:20:40.560 when they first sucked the dick, and especially they're coming 0:20:40.560 --> 0:20:47.199 off this is the greatest dick I've ever seen they do. 0:20:47.840 --> 0:20:50.639 And then if you get into a relationship or you 0:20:50.760 --> 0:20:54.160 marry that person, that head is gonna go away. It's 0:20:54.200 --> 0:20:58.359 the whole point of what made it Excitedly, you're not 0:20:58.400 --> 0:21:01.200 because you're not because it becomes the ladies. It's not 0:21:01.280 --> 0:21:05.199 it's a serviceable job, I don't think, and it's not 0:21:05.320 --> 0:21:07.840 it's again again again, I think we're missing the point. 0:21:07.840 --> 0:21:10.600 It's not so much about that. It's the fact that 0:21:10.720 --> 0:21:13.720 over time those things changing that that's not the most 0:21:13.760 --> 0:21:17.159 important thing that's holding it together, actually, because the least 0:21:18.160 --> 0:21:22.359 important thing it does because what happens is I told 0:21:22.400 --> 0:21:24.679 read this a while ago. I said, look, when you 0:21:24.840 --> 0:21:29.120 become an adult and you really bond with somebody, intimacy 0:21:29.440 --> 0:21:32.399 is for real now. So you only think of intom 0:21:32.440 --> 0:21:36.520 me as intimacy as sex. When you ignorant and you 0:21:36.640 --> 0:21:38.800 just fucking and you get a boyfriend and you think 0:21:38.840 --> 0:21:41.280 we're this is how we get close when you really 0:21:41.320 --> 0:21:45.160 get with somebody in a marriage per se. So I've 0:21:45.200 --> 0:21:49.040 been single now going on five years. I've been selling 0:21:49.040 --> 0:21:56.800 a bit about two purposely. I've been dating to get 0:21:56.840 --> 0:22:00.359 to know women. I realized when I take out the sex, mhm, 0:22:01.080 --> 0:22:04.639 like you don't really like them. I don't, Damn I don't. 0:22:04.760 --> 0:22:07.680 And it's like, but I've met something that are cool 0:22:07.720 --> 0:22:10.600 and I liked you. But but to me, I'm like, 0:22:10.600 --> 0:22:13.360 when you take out the sex, when you really get 0:22:13.400 --> 0:22:16.360 to know who she is, where her head is at, 0:22:16.680 --> 0:22:21.280 and then also expressed I'm about to tell him, yes, 0:22:21.400 --> 0:22:25.959 I agree with him because two weeks ago, No, I 0:22:26.000 --> 0:22:30.040 never said I didn't agree with you. I'm sorry, my 0:22:30.119 --> 0:22:33.840 bad because he because the way you probably said was 0:22:33.920 --> 0:22:39.480 yelling at me. No. No, but I do really like 0:22:39.680 --> 0:22:41.840 I feel I don't know, maybe because I'm getting older, 0:22:41.920 --> 0:22:46.320 Like I really like sex. Sex is like the last 0:22:46.760 --> 0:22:49.760 fucking thing I'm thinking of, Like I literally want to 0:22:50.240 --> 0:22:54.760 like enjoy that person. I want to like have conversations, 0:22:55.280 --> 0:22:59.040 meanful ship, like do some ship, Like I feel like 0:22:59.119 --> 0:23:06.399 once you start sucking ship, yeah, it just comes, don't know, 0:23:06.440 --> 0:23:11.399 it's just weird. This is the thing also about sex, 0:23:11.640 --> 0:23:14.240 and I think you mentioned that in one of the 0:23:14.240 --> 0:23:17.560 other podcast might have heard it today actually, where you said, 0:23:17.800 --> 0:23:19.479 if you want to, if they want to see how 0:23:19.520 --> 0:23:22.520 a man what his true colors are, give him some 0:23:22.520 --> 0:23:27.399 pussy first day. It's true, and you know it's crazy 0:23:27.440 --> 0:23:30.040 about that. It's kind of true because you guys would 0:23:30.080 --> 0:23:32.520 get learned so much about that if you I know, 0:23:32.560 --> 0:23:35.120 sounds crazy, right, just give him the pussy. But when 0:23:35.160 --> 0:23:37.760 you give the man the pussy, you'll see right there 0:23:37.920 --> 0:23:40.040 if if he really funk with you, if he really 0:23:40.080 --> 0:23:42.520 funk with you, he's gonna call you and he gonna 0:23:42.520 --> 0:23:44.880 and it's not even gonna be at that point once 0:23:44.880 --> 0:23:47.879 he says, oh the pussy's good, she's cool. Hey, you 0:23:47.920 --> 0:23:49.720 want to go to a movie, you want to go 0:23:49.840 --> 0:23:52.679 have dinner. Now, as far as how many nigs gonna do, 0:23:52.720 --> 0:23:58.080 that's gonna down. Ye. That's why I recommend don't because 0:23:58.119 --> 0:24:01.639 it's really your only power play because outside of that, 0:24:01.680 --> 0:24:04.040 you don't do nothing. When you dating the nigga or 0:24:04.119 --> 0:24:05.919 engaged to a nigga on the way to marriage but 0:24:06.000 --> 0:24:11.119 cost him money, you provide no benefit. Think about it. 0:24:11.800 --> 0:24:14.920 The nagua gonna take you out, You're gonna buy you stuff. 0:24:15.080 --> 0:24:18.080 He's trying to woo you. It's just costing him money 0:24:18.359 --> 0:24:22.000 in time. But I was I was watching something, a 0:24:22.000 --> 0:24:25.359 clip of something recently, uh, and that that lady was talking. 0:24:25.480 --> 0:24:27.880 White lady from like she talks to these people from 0:24:27.920 --> 0:24:31.400 like London. I mean she's a white lady though, and 0:24:32.080 --> 0:24:34.520 she always talks to black people, but she's a white lady. 0:24:34.640 --> 0:24:37.280 But she talks about marriage and she has people on 0:24:37.280 --> 0:24:41.960 the show. But she statistically said eight percent of men today, 0:24:42.080 --> 0:24:45.639