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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for saying I won't come

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Speaker 1: to Christmas with my in laws if I can't wear

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Speaker 1: my hat?

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Speaker 2: Sam, Sometimes there's a very special hat.

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Speaker 3: And what if you're bald?

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Speaker 2: What if you have no hair?

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Speaker 3: What if it's a yamaka? You see?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, these are the questions people should be asking. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: see then that that is a hate crime. Yes, And

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Speaker 1: if your in laws are asking you to commit a

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Speaker 1: hate crime against yourself, no, don't. Don't do it against yourself. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's amazing. Don't don't hate crime yourself. No. All right,

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Speaker 1: this is a petty little thing. But maybe you guys

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Speaker 1: can help me know if I was in the wrong.

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Speaker 3: We will. This is exactly what will help you do.

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Speaker 2: Exactly.

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Speaker 1: We're just your We're just your too helpful guys on

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Speaker 1: a Reddit trying to solve your problems.

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Speaker 3: That's what we are that nobody asked for.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, way, you're too Reddit vigilante.

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Speaker 2: If you want some opinions, oh boy, not the opinions

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Speaker 2: you want, but the opinions you will.

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Speaker 3: Get, all right.

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Speaker 1: For context, twenty five female got married in November. Congrat

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Speaker 1: so pe. My mother in law doesn't really like me.

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Speaker 1: She even tried to steal the spotlight at my wedding

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Speaker 1: and is overly traditional.

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Speaker 3: Ouch.

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Speaker 1: Thanksgiving, I was having a really bad hair day, so

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Speaker 1: I wore a black leather cap. Think about you know,

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Speaker 1: like the dressier newsboy kind of one, you know, talking

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Speaker 1: about like a leather daddy.

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Speaker 2: You can toss extra extra read all about my.

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Speaker 1: Sasshead, which my husband said looked great on me. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm imagining if you've ever seen like a clue clue clueless,

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Speaker 2: No, but it's the it's the newspaper boy like yeah,

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Speaker 2: or like nineties cool girl, like a small beret. Actually,

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Speaker 2: I was imagining like a kind of like a like

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Speaker 2: I forgure what that's called, but yes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, whatever whatever that is. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The holiday was hostile, even more so than priorings i'd

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Speaker 1: been to, and hebby said, mother in law said it

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Speaker 1: was because I wore our Hat's disgusted. We're gonna bully

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Speaker 1: you until you take off the hat. That's middle school rules, baby. Actually,

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Speaker 1: you do anything that makes you look different, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: be bullied into being the same. Lame piece of sausage

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Speaker 1: that you were you know, uh the day you were born?

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Speaker 3: You wearing a hat.

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Speaker 2: Get on the ground so I could kick your.

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Speaker 1: Teeth in stupid Yeah, you look so dumb in that hat,

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Speaker 1: and how dumb you look makes me look angry and

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Speaker 1: makes me feel insecure about how I look. So I'm

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Speaker 1: divorce and the fact that my mom doesn't really love

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Speaker 1: me because yeah, I look like my dad. Damn my

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Speaker 1: husband anyway. Mother in law said it is because I

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Speaker 1: wore a hat, but I know that's just an excuse

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Speaker 1: that's already bad, just singling somehow because of their hat.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they hate you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I told my law I wouldn't come to Christmas

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Speaker 2: A bit of an overreaction to an overreaction.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, two overreactions equal a big over reaction. My husband

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Speaker 1: is trying to keep us both happy since he doesn't

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Speaker 1: like conflict. Who does He wants me to maybe uh.

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Speaker 3: Muhammad Ali in the ring love it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he loves that conflict float like a bee, sting

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Speaker 2: like conflict.

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Speaker 3: And that is a direct quote. Ladies and gentlemen.

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Speaker 1: Yep, he wants me to come to one more celebration

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Speaker 1: to see if maybe people are getting used to me.

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Speaker 3: What is this? I feel like bad brobe Maybe op sucks.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. He's told mother in law she needs.

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Speaker 1: To be nice and treat me as part of the

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Speaker 1: Feel unwelcome, then maybe I won't attend future events and

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Speaker 2: I get her wanting to limit it, but like I

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Speaker 2: think she's being like she's telling the family. It sounds

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Speaker 2: like like I am not I hate you, I hate you. Like,

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Speaker 2: just minimize it. As long as they don't like, I mean,

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Speaker 2: not liking your hat. I don't know, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It's hard, it's hard to tell. It's really what is

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Speaker 2: the hat? Is it like a strap on dildo? Like

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Speaker 2: a unicorn dildo. It's like when have you seen those

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Speaker 2: Westboro Baptist clips where a guy was just around just

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Speaker 2: No oh, bro, it's absolute classic content, absolute classic people

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Speaker 2: they used They spoken to it as if it was

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, marriage is about compromise, and I don't want him

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Speaker 1: Mother in law was listening to him, so I asked

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Speaker 1: my husband to requests that I'd be allowed to wear

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Speaker 1: the same hat the Christmas.

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Speaker 3: So the hat, okay, okay, that she wore the Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that apparently her mother in law hates her for

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Speaker 1: She's like I'm wearing that same shit Christmas.

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Speaker 1: Hovey said he thought I'd warn it since I had

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Speaker 1: Husband agreed, Oh god, and relayed this to his mother

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Speaker 3: Devil the smallner shirt.

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Speaker 1: My god, he's growing tense with me, and I told

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Speaker 1: And then I never intended it that way. He spent

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Speaker 1: and no conflict stresses him out. I told him to

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Speaker 1: My friends think my hat request was unnecessary and maybe

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Speaker 1: I strayed my relationship with my husband. Oh you think

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Speaker 1: he strayed asking him to choose between you or his

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I think he just needed some space because conflict stresses

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Speaker 2: Okay. So I do believe that OP is right in

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Speaker 2: the sense that the mother in law it's not the hat,

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Speaker 2: it's actually the deeper issues. Yeah, the mother in law

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Speaker 2: just hates Op. It doesn't matter. But like to tackle

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Speaker 2: it in this way, it's it's probably the worst possible

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's like I feel like she's inviting

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Speaker 2: So like choose me or You're like choose me or

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Speaker 1: No, and it won't, And you're like destabilizing his family,

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Speaker 1: Like it's kind of a pretty shitty thing to do.

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Speaker 1: Not saying that the mom is being an a hole either,

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Speaker 1: it sounds like she is, But I think OP is

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Speaker 1: also being the a hole. The only one who is

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Speaker 1: blameless and I feel bad for is the husband.

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Speaker 2: Dude, he's literally he's doing all he can the piece.

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Speaker 2: H he can't I hate working, bro, and he's at

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Speaker 2: what do I do? Brain is exploding with like.

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Speaker 3: These girls be crazy. But there's an update.

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Speaker 1: John, Oh, my husband just texted me saying he got

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Speaker 1: can't wear the hat, he's not coming either, and that

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Speaker 1: did not respond, well, I don't think we're going to Christmas,

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Speaker 1: and so now maybe we'll hell friend, miss, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: we'll think of something.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're driving too much of a wedge between him

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, this is a bad idea.

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Speaker 2: It's it's it's it's entirely too I think you should say, like, look,

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Speaker 2: I just you know she can. I think the easiest

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Speaker 2: concession on planet Earth is for her to not wear

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Speaker 3: Just don't wear that.

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Speaker 2: But at the same time, be like, all right, we

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Speaker 2: won't wear the hat, but like, just like respect her

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean, like, don't don't get angry

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Speaker 3: But we want to get angry at you stupid things.

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