1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: Now from Unbreakable, a mental health podcast. This is your 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:14,440 Speaker 1: mental health check in. Here's Jay Glazer. Welcome back yet. 3 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:18,080 Speaker 1: This is Unbreakable, a mental health podcast with Jay Glazer. 4 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: I happen to be Jay Glazer, and I want to 5 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 1: share something that was pretty life transformative for me. I 6 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 1: learned it in Thailand recently. And I know we all 7 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 1: can't go to Thailand. But what I can do is 8 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: when I do travel around and I go to different things, 9 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:36,120 Speaker 1: and I go to different places, I could share what 10 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 1: I learned in these podcasts with you. I'm trying to 11 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: make us one big, badass team together so we can 12 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:44,560 Speaker 1: all fight the gray together and hunt that blue together. 13 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 1: So whatever I learned, I'm gonna share with you, even 14 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 1: if they're really deep personal things like this is that 15 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:53,639 Speaker 1: I'm about to tell you. So, first of all, when 16 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: I went to Thailand, Um, I use these these Tai 17 00:00:56,600 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: monks and I get there and but for I even 18 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: say a word my very first day, I show up 19 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna go to like a group meditation class. 20 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 1: Before I say a word, this time, monk looks at 21 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: me and he says, Oh, you're in a lot of pain. 22 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:19,479 Speaker 1: You need to learn how to love yourself. I'm kind 23 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: of looking around, like, damn, there's seven other people in there. 24 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 1: He's only talking to me. And another month puts his 25 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: arm around me and says, we're all gonna be praying 26 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 1: for you this week. So even with me trying to 27 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:34,960 Speaker 1: put on a front like oh, you know, I'm working 28 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 1: on I'm even working myself, they could see it. We 29 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: put off that energy. So in one of my first sessions, 30 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: the monk says to me, you know, we want you 31 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: to really do the work on yourself here, and we 32 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: want you to sit in your own pain. And I said, 33 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: I sit in my pain every week. They said, no, 34 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 1: you experience your pain every week, you don't sit in it. 35 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: I'm still trying to understand what they're talking about. They said, 36 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 1: we want you to sit in your pain, relive the 37 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:15,320 Speaker 1: things that have affected you throughout your entire life from 38 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: childhood on, and we want you to sit in it 39 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: because it's time to heal. The way to heal this 40 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 1: is you have to grieve it, and you've got to 41 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:26,639 Speaker 1: heal that little kid. I said, what do you mean? 42 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: He said, okay, we want you to sit in your pain. 43 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: And what do you call the younger version of you 44 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:35,680 Speaker 1: when you were growing up. What was your name? Was 45 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: it Jake? I said, actually no, it was Jason. I 46 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 1: went by Jason. They said, okay, we want you to 47 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 1: sit in your pain, and we want you to hold 48 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 1: little Jason's hand, just comfort him, put your arm around him, 49 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: and show him compassion because he doesn't think he's had any. 50 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: And you heard me get choked up talking about it. 51 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 1: That's the little kid us that that's still hurting, a 52 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: little kid in me that's still hurting. He said, we 53 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: want you to put your arm around little Jason, hold 54 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: his hand, tell him it's gonna be okay. That has 55 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: helped me immensely. We've got to go back to the 56 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: root of it. A lot of us I'm trying to 57 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: figure out why why am I like this? Like why 58 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: am I in so much pain? But that little kid 59 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 1: who did feel so beaten down um and felt so unloved, 60 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: it's pretty cool for me to hold his hand and 61 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: for me to let him know it's gonna be okay. 62 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: So let the little kid and you know it's gonna 63 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 1: be okay, show him compassion, put your arm around him, 64 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: hold her hand, lover up, love him up. Because we 65 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: deserve it. Thank Yang. Let's keep walking this walk together.