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Speaker 1: Your real talk. Nobody loves the holidays more than my wife.

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Speaker 1: That is a whole as fact, and I have not

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Speaker 1: any shame about that. Dead asks. Hey, I'm Cadine and

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Speaker 1: we're the Ellises. You may know us from posting funny

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Speaker 1: videos with our boys and reading each other publicly as

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Speaker 1: a form of therapy. Wait, I'll make you need therby

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Speaker 1: most days. Wow. And one more important thing to mention,

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Speaker 1: we're married. We are. We created this podcast to open

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Speaker 1: dialogue about some of life's most taboo topics, things most

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Speaker 1: a millennium married couple. Dead ass is the term that

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Speaker 1: we say every day. So when we say dead ass,

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Speaker 1: we're actually saying facts, the truth, the whole truth, and

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Speaker 1: nothing but the truth. We're about to take Phillow talk

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Speaker 1: to a whole new level dead that starts right now.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell y'all about the great Christmas fiasco all

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Speaker 1: right year and no, no, no, This is when I

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Speaker 1: really started to realize that you had problems. Okay, um,

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Speaker 1: and I should have. There was a lot of red

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Speaker 1: of the same behavior. But this this time really took

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Speaker 1: it over the top. Okay. We were still living in

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Speaker 1: the apartment, okay, in Brooklyn, and typically the Christmas tree

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Speaker 1: all right. So because CoDeeN was pregnant with kas I

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Speaker 1: believe she was like, maybe earlier this year because you know,

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Speaker 1: She had the Christmas tree up and out by octobert

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Speaker 1: this was before Halloween. Got before Halloween, there was a

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Speaker 1: Christmas tree box in my living room. So I said, bed,

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Speaker 1: all right, I'm gonna put this tree up now. I said,

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Speaker 1: but if the Christmas tree goes up this early, it

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Speaker 1: it's like the January second, the tree has to come down.

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Speaker 1: So she was just like angry. I ain angry. She

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Speaker 1: agreed everything, and the Christmas tree went up right. The

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Speaker 1: January second comes around and I'm like, yo, okay, it's

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, fine, now that now, now that you

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Speaker 1: And she goes, can you help me put the Christmas

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Speaker 1: of all, it's very much giving petty level and petty Pendergrass.

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Speaker 1: I tried to cooperate, comply, what's the what's the other

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Speaker 1: these Christmas trees. Now, yes, the sacrificial lamb, Yes, all right, well,

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Speaker 1: real sand saying is not really what you want. We

428
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:05,200
Speaker 1: got some hoodies up in here with saying is black,

429
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 1: Sanda black in the Ellis household, right and everybody. And

430
00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:11,440
Speaker 1: I used to have this argument with people all the time.

431
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:14,640
Speaker 1: Like I legitimately had an argument with my friend right,

432
00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:17,120
Speaker 1: and he just just like, how much tell my son

433
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:20,640
Speaker 1: that a white man comes down to Chimney and gives

434
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:22,920
Speaker 1: him gifts when I work hard for it. I said, bro,

435
00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 1: first of all, you live in an apartment. You worried

436
00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:28,719
Speaker 1: about the wrong things. You don't have a chimney, all right,

437
00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 1: you need to be more creative and figure out how

438
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,480
Speaker 1: you're gonna explain your son that Santa went down the

439
00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:35,280
Speaker 1: fire escape and snuck through the window, all right, to

440
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: give you the gifts, Like relax, bro, and your son

441
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 1: is three. Your son does not care where the gifts are.

442
00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:43,560
Speaker 1: You don't even care about the gifts. At three, you

443
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:45,359
Speaker 1: know what your son is doing, tearing the wrapping paper

444
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:48,879
Speaker 1: off and playing with the boxes. So we as as humans,

445
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:52,159
Speaker 1: sometimes we have to stop trying to micro manage every

446
00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 1: little thing and make every little thing about the holidays

447
00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 1: a political statement. We are all in agreement that we

448
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 1: know sand is not real. Okay, we know that Christmas

449
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 1: is a pagan holiday, right. Jesus technically wasn't even born

450
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 1: on December. If you if you read the Bible and

451
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 1: your historian, you know that these are historical facts that

452
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 1: he just was not born on the Sumber. But that

453
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 1: doesn't change the fact that kids like to have fun facts.

454
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 1: This is the same way I feel about like a Halloween,

455
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:18,040
Speaker 1: for example, is just like you know, I have some

456
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,680
Speaker 1: family members that are like really strict adventus, and they're

457
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,639
Speaker 1: just like, who celebrating the Devil's holiday and the Devil's party?

458
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, guys is stressed up. It's just fun.

459
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:31,160
Speaker 1: Like nobody's over here, y'all doing worse doing uh obia

460
00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 1: and whatever voodoo practices y'all do over there and whatever,

461
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 1: but place y'all. But we're just doing it for the

462
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: fun that kids want to have. They want to face paint,

463
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,640
Speaker 1: they want to get candy, like it's just something else

464
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 1: to do. I think the traditions that surround a lot

465
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:48,879
Speaker 1: of these holidays are bigger than sometimes you know where

466
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:52,199
Speaker 1: it's them from. I think it's sometimes just creating a

467
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 1: little fairytale environment for your kids to make it fun.

468
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 1: The thing is, people make it seem as if you

469
00:23:56,600 --> 00:24:00,439
Speaker 1: can't be educated and have fun, right, Like Role was

470
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:06,120
Speaker 1: five six, Cairo six cases four. The Colds, I mean,

471
00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 1: Carl's cas is gonna be five. The Cold is turning

472
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 1: one this year. Jackson knows the sin is not real, right.

473
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:16,399
Speaker 1: We had an open conversation when he was understanding the

474
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,199
Speaker 1: kids school ruin it for him. At first, they did

475
00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 1: ruin it for him. They told him he wasn't real

476
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:21,679
Speaker 1: but I mean at the at the age we were

477
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:23,919
Speaker 1: going to have that conversation anyway, he was in third grade,

478
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:27,159
Speaker 1: he was a But it's like, have those conversations when

479
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: they need to be had. You don't have to sit

480
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 1: your two year old down and explain to him like

481
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,880
Speaker 1: this is the American Express bill. You know, daddy really

482
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 1: bought that Transformer set. It wasn't sent. You know, you

483
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,399
Speaker 1: gotta do that to a year Let the kid enjoy

484
00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:43,280
Speaker 1: the easy parts of life, because adulting is a motherfucker's

485
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 1: sure as hell is. Like I try to prolong that

486
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,120
Speaker 1: as long as we fin as long as we can.

487
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 1: Like carolawt another tooth and the tooth Fairy you know,

488
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: supposed to have come, and both of us were just like,

489
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 1: oh ship the ferry totally forgot, Like we had to

490
00:24:57,320 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 1: make up a whole thing now where the tooth Fairy

491
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 1: weekends off now because of first of all, and she

492
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 1: was taking leaves and whatnot. Kyra was the first stop

493
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 1: after she had the weekend off because she was tired

494
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 1: because she's first. Let's let's talk about how we're bad parents, okay,

495
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 1: because Kira lost his first tooth, we lost the tooth.

496
00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:25,399
Speaker 1: We were in Alabama. We were in Alabama filming and

497
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: couldn't find the tooth. So Cairo was so focused on

498
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:32,680
Speaker 1: getting this this money. So because he's also just really

499
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 1: big on getting money, he has a whole wide So

500
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: we get back home and we forget and he wakes

501
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 1: up and he's just like Daddy, the tooth Fairy never

502
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 1: never got my money. And I was like, no, what happened,

503
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:48,960
Speaker 1: was the tooth fairy because you lost it technically in Alabama.

504
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 1: The tooth Fairry went to Alabama first, and when she

505
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: got to Alabama, she had to find the tooth first,

506
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 1: because remember we lost the tooth, and he's looking at

507
00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:00,040
Speaker 1: me lying, uh huh. So I said she went to

508
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: Alabama first, had to get the tooth. Once she found it, too,

509
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,440
Speaker 1: she had to fly to Atlanta. That took a couple

510
00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:08,199
Speaker 1: of days. She got small wings tooth fairies, not a

511
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 1: big person, so it took a couple of days to

512
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 1: get there. She had to make a couple of stops

513
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 1: because other kids lose their teeth. You gotta learn to

514
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,200
Speaker 1: be patient, son, Okay, turn this into a whole life lesson.

515
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,239
Speaker 1: The whole time, he's like uh huh h. Then at

516
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 1: the end, he goes, so when am I going to

517
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 1: get my money? How much will it be? So I

518
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 1: was like, listen, check check back in a couple of

519
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:28,679
Speaker 1: days and we'll see. You know, it could take her

520
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: a while. So that night Dean was like, hey, hey,

521
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:34,960
Speaker 1: you better make sure you leave this money under Cairo's tooth.

522
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 1: So we ended up leaving the money under this tooth,

523
00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 1: which I think he got on this pillow. You're not

524
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,679
Speaker 1: honest to on this pillow, which I believe he got

525
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 1: twenty dollars because all I had at the time. But

526
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 1: that's a lot for a tooth. What do you do?

527
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:49,440
Speaker 1: What I did for the last tooth. What I did

528
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 1: was I hand no cash on me. So I was like, damn.

529
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:54,199
Speaker 1: I was like, this's a tooth faide like zell Or,

530
00:26:54,240 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 1: like Venmo or whatever nowadays. I just went into his wallet.

531
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 1: It took out one of Oh you will stay terrible,

532
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 1: You terrible. Aren't listening because the kids are definitely in

533
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,720
Speaker 1: the house now, but definitely did walk by. It's not

534
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:13,159
Speaker 1: so on his feet, and I heard made me go

535
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 1: casts come back here, because you just would have completely

536
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 1: ruined everything. Because one kid gonna pay attention, it's going

537
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:21,640
Speaker 1: to exactly. You'll come over deadpan one day and be like,

538
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:25,360
Speaker 1: you know, there's no tooth fairy, right, it doesn't matter

539
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 1: your teeth in the garbage. It's all lies and it's

540
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 1: the patriarch. It's all lies. But yeah, so yeah, I agree, Like,

541
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: let's give the kids a little bit of hope. You

542
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, because one of the questions here

543
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 1: we had today was like, what, well, what do you

544
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:47,239
Speaker 1: hope to give your children through the holiday celebrations. I

545
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 1: want to I want to teach my children about humanity. Yeah,

546
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 1: you know, I want them to understand, you know, when

547
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 1: they say it's the season of giving, it really is.

548
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: Like two years ago was when Gadine and I first started,

549
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:02,280
Speaker 1: uh not exchanging if said Christmas and decided that, I mean,

550
00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 1: we exchanged gifts last year because Kadin had a baby,

551
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 1: and I was like, she just needs a gift because

552
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: she gave us the greatest gift and giving us Dakota.

553
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 1: But the year before that, we decided to gift families

554
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 1: who were in need instead of us buying gifts for

555
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 1: each other. And um, I spoke to Jackson about it

556
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 1: and he was just like why, you know, why, why

557
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:20,880
Speaker 1: do you do that. And I was like, well, when

558
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 1: you live in abundance, you have a fiduciary responsibility to

559
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: pay it forward. You know, God only provides you with

560
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 1: more than you can handle or more than you need,

561
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: so that you can give to other people. And if

562
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,639
Speaker 1: you look at Jackson. Now, Jackson has his own bank account,

563
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: he collects his money, but all of his friend's birthday

564
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: come around, he gets them gifts. One of his friends

565
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 1: on the football team broke his leg and he was like,

566
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 1: Daddy cannot buy him something. And I'm like, you as

567
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:45,960
Speaker 1: your money, you can do what you want. But what

568
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 1: he learned over time is that you don't go into

569
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 1: these holidays looking for what you can get. You go

570
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: into the holidays thinking about what you can give and

571
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 1: how you can be of service to the people who needed. No.

572
00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:59,080
Speaker 1: For sure, that's definitely top on my list. And you know,

573
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 1: as the kids grow out, want them to think of

574
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: the fond memories that they've had as a child, you know,

575
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: not just in the holiday fl you know, like, not

576
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 1: every day is going to be the best day, but

577
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 1: particularly around these holiday times. I think that I want

578
00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 1: to make sure that when they look back on it,

579
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 1: they just think about Wow, these little things that mom

580
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 1: and dad did, or these little things like it extends

581
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 1: far beyond us. You know we already have like for example,

582
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: your parents are sending down things for them because they'll

583
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 1: be over Christmas. Or my sister they're like, oh, Auntie,

584
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 1: they look forward to her coming because she's cookies with

585
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 1: them and she's gonna be brownies. And you know it's

586
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 1: it's these together moments that I know that they will

587
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 1: look back on and they'll just love and you know

588
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 1: I have those moments with their children in the future.

589
00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:42,920
Speaker 1: What this question also leads me to what's you know,

590
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 1: what's the best Christmas gift You've ever always says what's

591
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 1: the best Christmas gift you have a given? I will

592
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 1: have to say for me, last year was the greatest

593
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 1: Christmas that critics Gistmas gift I've ever given. Right, this

594
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 1: is our first Christmas we spent in our home that

595
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 1: we were dot asses off to get right. Both your

596
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:06,680
Speaker 1: immediate family and my immediate family and extended family were

597
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: able to stay in the same home, right, um, people

598
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 1: asked us. You know, I saw some comments on social media,

599
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 1: is like what you need a twelve square foot home for? Well?

600
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: When you have an immediate family that comes up upwards

601
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 1: of seventy people. People need a place to stay when

602
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 1: they come here, and we were able to house our

603
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 1: entire family and not feel cramped. All of the kids

604
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: were downstairs in the boy cave. I was with the

605
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 1: guys in the man cave. You and the ladies were

606
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 1: up here in the family room. Um. All of the

607
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 1: cousins and extended cousins were upstairs upstairs, so it was

608
00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 1: like there was enough space for everyone. And we all

609
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 1: got together on these during these special moments to do things.

610
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: And I feel like, for me, that was the greatest

611
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 1: gift I could ever give my family was a space

612
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 1: to be openly themselves and celebrate each other and have fun.

613
00:30:54,680 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 1: Not to mention upgraded Cadine's ring something crazy she got favorite. Yeah,

614
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 1: that's that's the one that was my greatest. I was like, okay,

615
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 1: I see you, I see you. Um. But yeah, like

616
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 1: having having the space to be able to have for everybody,

617
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: which was also weird, like people, why are you looking

618
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 1: at the square footage of my house? That's what people do.

619
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 1: That's what people do. But it is it weird or

620
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: is it like aspirational? Because I'm not gonna lie. I

621
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 1: guess it could be a little bit of both. But

622
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 1: if you're wrapping it in sarcasm, then it's not. No.

623
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 1: I mean, I can't say it's weird because you and

624
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 1: I have done it. We've looked at our favorite celebrities

625
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 1: and looked at their house and you hit me like,

626
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 1: damn baby, look at this, And for me it was

627
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 1: inspiration to what I want to give. So I think

628
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: some people, you know, some people look it up to see,

629
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 1: like Dan, how big is that house? And some people

630
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: are just not happy with their place in life, so

631
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 1: they try to tear down what they don't understand. Um,

632
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 1: So either way, it doesn't bother me. But I understand

633
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 1: how people can ask certain questions and get to where

634
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 1: they get to. But um, I don't let it stop

635
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 1: me now. I feel you know, it just it just

636
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: came to mind because I'm like, yeah, it did. We

637
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 1: did have that when we moved here. People like why

638
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 1: do you like why? I don't know, It's like, why

639
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: are you even like, it's just cleard that you're just

640
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 1: looking at where we live. But any who, UM, back

641
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 1: to the topic at hand, I think for me, there's

642
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 1: been and not to put like people on blast and

643
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 1: their business on blast. But there are people who we've

644
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 1: been able to help UM in our immediate circles, whether

645
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 1: it's family or like close friends. And I want to

646
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 1: say that Christmas time for us is of course wrapped

647
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: in the time of year and package as the holiday,

648
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 1: but we just have been able to help so many

649
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: people around us UM and not expecting anything in return,

650
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 1: UM just seeing that somebody needs help, or they're in

651
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:43,360
Speaker 1: a dire situation, or there's a way to alleviate a

652
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 1: little bit of stress off of someone's life. And sometimes

653
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 1: it's around the holidays where people need that picked me

654
00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 1: up because why they may not have family nearby, they

655
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 1: may have fallen on hard time, they may be trying

656
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 1: to make ends meet. It's the end of the year,

657
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 1: like you know, there's so many different things that people

658
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 1: are going through. So just the best gifts that I've

659
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 1: given are those gifts that are just of help to

660
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 1: other people who I care about genuinely, I want to

661
00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 1: make sure that they are okay. It doesn't have to

662
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 1: necessarily only be money, but sometimes it helps to have

663
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 1: those scenarios where we can just be of assistance to somebody.

664
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: UM but this Christmas, you know, I think every Christmas

665
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 1: for us is always going to be wrapped in who

666
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 1: can come by and be under the same roof as us, right,

667
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:28,480
Speaker 1: because we have four kids. Like when people ask how

668
00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 1: come you don't travel, it's very difficult to travel with

669
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 1: four kids, especially during cold and flu season and when

670
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: you have an infant, Like no one wants to get

671
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: on a plane with an infant for a number of

672
00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 1: hours and then try to find a place to to

673
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 1: huddle all the kids in sleep because when you come in,

674
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 1: when we're coming to someone's house as six of us, right,

675
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 1: I mean also too when I think of Christmas, I

676
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 1: don't think of like going somewhere tropical, Like I know

677
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 1: that Christmas exists in tropical places, but for me, I

678
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 1: want to be somewhere where I feel like it's cold

679
00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 1: outside and make potentially snow. I'm going to be making

680
00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: hot chocolates, sit in by the fireplace under a blanket

681
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 1: like I'm under it now. That would be great. If

682
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 1: it's snow here in Atlanta and we could get like

683
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 1: a foot of snow on Christmas Day and it melt

684
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 1: by like the that would be great. Like when you

685
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 1: wake up and it just be powdery snow outside and

686
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 1: the kids can go and run outside in the snow,

687
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 1: and that would just be perfect. I can think of,

688
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:21,799
Speaker 1: probably on my one hand, the number of Christmas is

689
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 1: that I've actually woken up to like snow, like fresh,

690
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:28,800
Speaker 1: nice pillow snow. You ain't something crazy. The first Christmas

691
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:33,839
Speaker 1: that we spent together in two it was wild, snowy, Yes,

692
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 1: it was. We even had these traditions early on in college,

693
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: Like that's when you should have known I was crazy.

694
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 1: I knew because in my dorm room, well it was

695
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 1: my dorm room. But then yeah, I ended up on

696
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:47,720
Speaker 1: campus in an apartment when I was a resident director

697
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 1: of Halfstra and I went out a tree. We did

698
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 1: this together. Actually went to Target. I got a tree

699
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 1: and it wasn't a little baby tree. I had a cute,

700
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 1: little like six foot tree, and we decorated it together.

701
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 1: We did it in Michigan when I came out to Michigan.

702
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 1: It was important for me too. When you were in

703
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 1: the league, for example, like you played during the holiday

704
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:06,839
Speaker 1: season and you were out there pretty much alone. So

705
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 1: I wanted to bring that piece of home to you

706
00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 1: out there. So by doing that, I'm like I'm going

707
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:13,760
Speaker 1: out there, I'm getting a tree, I'm doing all the things,

708
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 1: you know, to make sure that you just feel like

709
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: that comfort that you feel at home and that comfort

710
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 1: that you feel around the holiday season, I feel like

711
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 1: that's something you can take anywhere with you. So even

712
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 1: if we were to travel with the kids one year,

713
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 1: which I do aspire to do that, Like I said,

714
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 1: there's Thanksgiving for me, then the next major holiday my birthday,

715
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 1: then we have Christmas, and then there's also New Year's

716
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 1: even to New Year's Day. And I also used to

717
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:37,600
Speaker 1: like as a kid, knowing that a couple of weeks

718
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:39,600
Speaker 1: after my birthday, like two weeks after my birthday, we

719
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: had time off and then you just out of school

720
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 1: during that time and you can just feel free to

721
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 1: just be home and you know, so I love UM

722
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:50,799
Speaker 1: having that to look forward to UM, particularly with you

723
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:53,399
Speaker 1: and the kids, and making sure that you know when

724
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:54,840
Speaker 1: they look back. I just want my children to have

725
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 1: a rich childhood and have memories. Just really think about, man,

726
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: you remember, when you know we we we'd be watching

727
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 1: flight watching for like non Epopa scoops flight to land

728
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 1: and for Auntie Chatrist to land, and they all pop

729
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 1: up here and then it's literally, you know, we have

730
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:12,920
Speaker 1: different areas of the house where everyone's wrapping gifts and

731
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 1: all the packages are coming in, and you know they're

732
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:18,839
Speaker 1: sorting under different trees, and you know, it's just it's

733
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 1: just a warm and funny time. And being the big

734
00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:22,880
Speaker 1: family woman that I am, I think that's ultimately the

735
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 1: root of the holiday season for me. Well, what do

736
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:29,479
Speaker 1: you want for Christmas this year? Well, there's a couple

737
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:33,839
Speaker 1: of things on my list, you know, um little things

738
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 1: I've had my eyes on, a little trinkets and whatnots,

739
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 1: you know, a couple of things here and there. What

740
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 1: I would really love is for us to be able

741
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 1: to get settled into this house. I feel like we

742
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 1: just we've been almost two years. We moved in here

743
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 1: almost two years February two years, and we have not

744
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: been able to do anything in this house in terms

745
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 1: of just like interior decorating, design. Well, there's finished. There's

746
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:57,319
Speaker 1: two reasons why. Part of it has We've both been

747
00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 1: working like crazy, so we haven't been able to set

748
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 1: on time. We only hired and Intilia designer to help

749
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 1: us design, but also everything's been on backup and and

750
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 1: all the supply trucks have been messed up because of COVID,

751
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 1: Like we moved spies and materials and stuff like forever.

752
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 1: So we've been living in this house as a shell

753
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:18,279
Speaker 1: for almost two years. Yeah, and I just kind of

754
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 1: feel like, damn, I kind of want to make this

755
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: place our own. So I was looking forward to for

756
00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: the holiday seasons being able to do a couple of

757
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 1: things in the house. Um, but for me, Christmas is

758
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:29,400
Speaker 1: never really I really don't think about myself during Christmas.

759
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: I really think about how I can make the holiday

760
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 1: season for someone else. So I'm looking forward to, you know,

761
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 1: shopping stuff for the kids, getting their list. Like I said,

762
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 1: my mom used to always request to listen still to

763
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: this day, I mean listen, I'm pushing forty years old,

764
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 1: and my mom still it's like, hey, guys, pushing forty. Yeah.

765
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 1: She sing out that mass text to me, my brother

766
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 1: and my sister and be like, hey, y'all send your

767
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 1: Christmas list over. I'm like, y'all still want a Christmas

768
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 1: list for me? You know, my brother and my sister,

769
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:58,399
Speaker 1: we all shot for each other because it's just nice

770
00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 1: to just feel like somebody's think about you and enough

771
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 1: to get you a little something. So it doesn't matter

772
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 1: how big or how small. I'm always appreciative of whatever

773
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:10,439
Speaker 1: I get because, like I said, ultimately, it's not about

774
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 1: the gifts, It's just about the togetherness. What you want

775
00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:17,400
Speaker 1: this year for Christmas? A big booty hoe. I was

776
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:19,920
Speaker 1: abound to say, you know, since I got that vasectomy,

777
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:22,399
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, it'd be nice. And Mrs

778
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:27,880
Speaker 1: Claus got dressed up, puts put on some heels. It

779
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 1: became a ho ho ho, that would be really really

780
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: nice for christ really really nice. Considering the fact that

781
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: Ms Claus got blind out the last two years of Christmas.

782
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: It's time to pay the piper, literally, pay the piper. Okay,

783
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 1: but now Dad say this all the time and we

784
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:54,359
Speaker 1: legitimately mean it. Right. You see me every weekend, every

785
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 1: weekend since football season started. What do I enjoy to do?

786
00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: I go to Publix. I get me some hot dog,

787
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 1: some sausages, paws, some hamburgers. I come back, I get

788
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 1: some beers. I grow for all the kids. I like

789
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:08,839
Speaker 1: all the kids to be where I can see them.

790
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: And I watched the games and my friends come over,

791
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: um when the podcast crew comes over. I loved everybody's

792
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:16,279
Speaker 1: in the house. I like to cook out in mc grill,

793
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 1: but have everybody just chilling the man cave and we

794
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:21,320
Speaker 1: just talk about life and don't be in a rush.

795
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 1: You know, I am a homebody. I am. I do

796
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 1: accepted it that, like you know, I did accept that.

797
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 1: That's part of the reason why once again he would say,

798
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: why you buy a big gass house. It's because I

799
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: like to entertain at home. It's a safe space. I

800
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 1: can be myself. The people who are here can be

801
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:42,279
Speaker 1: themselves if we decide we want to drink, take an

802
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 1: edible smoke when we we don't got to drive nowhere leave.

803
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 1: There's rooms for everybody to stay. We can listen to

804
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: music as loud as we want. The kids to be

805
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 1: downstairs in the boy cave and joining their life. We

806
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,759
Speaker 1: can have adult time upstairs with the adults. It can

807
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 1: be separate. You know. It's not like back in the

808
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 1: day where when we grew up. You know, my my

809
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 1: parents weren't afforded the opportunity to live like we live.

810
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 1: So when my parents had adult top and it was

811
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 1: like y'all stay in the room, like they kept us

812
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 1: in the room with the door closed, you felt excluded

813
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:08,760
Speaker 1: because there's certain things that you don't want your children

814
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 1: to see. But when you have a home is big

815
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 1: and you can do things in your own space, and

816
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 1: your kids can still run on a different part of

817
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: the house and then run upstairs and be like hey, Dad,

818
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: and I can just step out for me and talk.

819
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: That's all I want for Christmas. I want all my

820
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 1: family to be around me. I want to watch my

821
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 1: boys open gifts. I want my wife to open her

822
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:29,760
Speaker 1: gifts and be surprised and cry and feel like she's

823
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:32,759
Speaker 1: just a princess because everything she ever dreamed is right

824
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: in front of her. That's all I really want because

825
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 1: the things that I can really now, I want to

826
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 1: buy it for myself throughout the year, and I really

827
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 1: don't want for much, but I get it, you know

828
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I get it. So having all of

829
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 1: y'all around, and it sounds cliche, but it's the truth.

830
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:52,720
Speaker 1: Having everybody right here means the most. And of course,

831
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 1: having my wife take care of me. You've You've done that.

832
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 1: You've done a great job of making sure I feel special,

833
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 1: even if it's not buying some big, expensive gifts because

834
00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 1: I don't really need that. But you find ways to

835
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:06,879
Speaker 1: make sure that I feel special. One year, you did

836
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,760
Speaker 1: the Twelve Days of Christmas for me, and it wasn't

837
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 1: big gifts. It was just small little things that reminded

838
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:18,680
Speaker 1: me of our relationship. And that's that's all I really

839
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:20,480
Speaker 1: just want. I just want to sit in peace and

840
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 1: not be on anyone else's time or anyone else's schedule.

841
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 1: I don't have to worry about content or helping produce

842
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,360
Speaker 1: a podcast, or trying to sell ads, or thinking about

843
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 1: lines to remember for the team, or I want to

844
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 1: sit my black ass down and do nothing. That's all

845
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:38,360
Speaker 1: I want to do for Christmas. I'm gonna hold you

846
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: too that because if I was talking to some hot

847
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:41,720
Speaker 1: about all the ship he don't want to do until

848
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:43,399
Speaker 1: time come to do it, and he's like, I got

849
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 1: to go do this for all this stuff, I understand,

850
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 1: I get it, But I'm here to create the balance

851
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: as well, to make sure that you're good too. Make

852
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:55,840
Speaker 1: sure that you're good too. All right, some fun facts

853
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 1: about Christmas before we head into this break. The tradition

854
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: of Christmas trees goes all the way to the ancient

855
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:04,879
Speaker 1: Egyptian and Romans who decorated using evergreens during the winter

856
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 1: solstice and to signify the spring return. Unless you're like

857
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 1: me and spring you have the evergreen tree. But that

858
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 1: goes to show you. That goes to show you too

859
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:19,759
Speaker 1: that the Christmas tree literally has nothing to do with

860
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: Jesus's birth. No, definitely doesn't, right exactly, And just so

861
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:26,960
Speaker 1: you know, to like, because people have lots to say

862
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:28,799
Speaker 1: about my trees, that's like, oh, she's wasting all this

863
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:30,719
Speaker 1: money buying all these trees. I didn't buy six trees

864
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:33,399
Speaker 1: at one time. We kind of eventually over the years

865
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:37,839
Speaker 1: we ain't. We ain't raised no funds to get the trees.

866
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:40,799
Speaker 1: This is money we work for. And yeah, I'd just stay.

867
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:42,719
Speaker 1: But I was just like this, like I don't go

868
00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 1: every year and like splurge on all Christmas and new

869
00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 1: trees and stuffing. Is my wife is frugal again. I'm

870
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:51,239
Speaker 1: a smart shopper now, okay, and I'm gonna wait for

871
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: ship to go on sale. Tip number one for Christmas shopping. Okay,

872
00:42:56,680 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: I'm looking at all the cameras shop after Christmas for

873
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: your stuff for next year. See me, I'm not big

874
00:43:03,040 --> 00:43:05,320
Speaker 1: on trends. I don't have to have the hottest latest

875
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 1: Christmas tree item for this year, because it's probably gonna

876
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 1: cost you right get the tree when it goes on sale.

877
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:15,279
Speaker 1: So if I want seven trees for next year, I

878
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:17,320
Speaker 1: wouldn't gonna do. I'm gonna buy me an extra tree

879
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 1: after Christmas. I'm gonna get me the ornaments after Christmas,

880
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 1: because everything goes down to off. Everything must go. You're

881
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:28,840
Speaker 1: gonna catch me up when the stores. That's when I

882
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: get my shop and done. So you heard it here,

883
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 1: all right. The idea of Santa Claus came from St. Nicholas.

884
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 1: He was a bishop in the fourth century who gave

885
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 1: away his large inheritance to pour and rescued women from servitude.

886
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: And that's what the whole idea of giving comes from.

887
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 1: It's important. I'm sure the chimney and all that stuff

888
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:51,800
Speaker 1: was probably extra additive. Of course, before Coca Cola decided

889
00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 1: to use his image for advertising, Santa's looks tended more

890
00:43:56,320 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 1: towards spooky than jolly. Then in nine thirty one, the

891
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 1: beverage company hired an illustrated name Hayden sun Bloom to

892
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 1: depict the jolly old Elf for the magazine ads. So

893
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 1: this is clearly a ploy to get people to spend

894
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 1: money to be happy. We understand, we understand that Christmas

895
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,720
Speaker 1: is a consumerst holiday. We get that. We're not trying

896
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:23,279
Speaker 1: to avoid that or not trying to say that that

897
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:25,959
Speaker 1: don't exist. But it's clear that don't mean you can't

898
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 1: have fun. That's a fact, and you don't have to

899
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:30,839
Speaker 1: participate either. Like nobody's holding the gun to your head

900
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 1: to celebrate Christmas here, but stop trying to stop other

901
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 1: people from having weve like Scrooge. You know, it was

902
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 1: a funny quick story. I have really quick about us

903
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,759
Speaker 1: Christmas time. This is when we moved to Calabasas, right.

904
00:44:42,520 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 1: This is pre COVID. We moved August. This is December. Right.

905
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: I'm in the house with Mimi. Maybe it's just like, hey, okay,

906
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 1: I can really use a new toothbrush. And I'm like, okay,

907
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 1: no problem, and she's just like, yeah, are you're going

908
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 1: to the store? I was like, I wasn't planning on it.

909
00:44:58,600 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 1: And she's like, oh, I thought you said you have

910
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 1: to go to CVS. I need a tooth person shower caps.

911
00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 1: And I'm like, all right, well when I go, I'll

912
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 1: get it. She's like, she's not going today, and you

913
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 1: want to go. Do you want to go get the

914
00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 1: toothbrush and the shower caps? Now, I'll go get it.

915
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,800
Speaker 1: So I went to a local CVS out in Calabasas

916
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 1: and I walked in and there's this this huge black

917
00:45:16,200 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 1: Santa in the doorway and he had a price tag

918
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 1: on it. He was like nine or something like that.

919
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 1: And I thought to myself, I was like, damn, I've

920
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 1: been in Calabasas about web four months now and I

921
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 1: ain't seen that one black person. And the one black

922
00:45:29,120 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 1: person I see is Santa all right in CVS in

923
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 1: plastic form, but he's at least six ft tall, right,

924
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:38,480
Speaker 1: So I said to myself, as I'm gonna find me

925
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:40,680
Speaker 1: her goddamn shower caps and her toothbrush, I'm like, you know,

926
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:42,640
Speaker 1: I might just buy this big black ass Santet and

927
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 1: put them right in front of our house. You know.

928
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:49,239
Speaker 1: Just fishing singing goes right. So as I'm walking through

929
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:53,240
Speaker 1: the aisle, i hear someone singing Christmas carols and I'm like, oh,

930
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 1: what a sing So as the person sitting and I'm like, wow,

931
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 1: did the voice sound like a brother? Because you can

932
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 1: tell the soulful send the voice, I'm like it sounds

933
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: like a brother singing, and I was like, and the

934
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 1: voice sound familiar too, That's weird. So now I'm in

935
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 1: like the vitamin isles something like that. Probably get in

936
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 1: vitamin see or some chanation, some ship. And then I

937
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 1: come around the corner and it's Jamie Fox. Jamie Fox

938
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 1: and the Coles Coal. I'l getting some coal medicine for

939
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:21,320
Speaker 1: one of his kids. I believe you, I think, he said.

940
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 1: But I was like, I looked at him and I

941
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:25,200
Speaker 1: was like, I know I knew that voice. So he

942
00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 1: laughed and he was just like, yeah, you do you

943
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,399
Speaker 1: think you do? And like yeah. So on the way

944
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:31,719
Speaker 1: to the register, now I'm about to tell them that

945
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 1: I want to, you know, get the black Santa over there,

946
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:36,440
Speaker 1: and then what does Jamie do? He comes right online

947
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:39,239
Speaker 1: behind me holding the big gas black sans. So I

948
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:40,959
Speaker 1: was like, you're really about to take the one stance

949
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:43,359
Speaker 1: I was about to buy, and he's just like, oh,

950
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 1: you was gonna buy Santa. He's like, because I've seen

951
00:46:45,080 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 1: this big black stand up in here, and I was

952
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 1: just like, I never seen a big black sand over here.

953
00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 1: That's that's the same thing. So I said, you know what,

954
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:53,399
Speaker 1: you could have saying that it's all right, it wasn't

955
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 1: meant to be. And he was like, well, you know

956
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 1: what's meant to be. You should come to my holiday party.

957
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 1: And then his manager he gave giving giving me his

958
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:01,879
Speaker 1: info and we change information and Deval and I went

959
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: to the Christmas party that year, and I think that

960
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 1: was one of the last normal, one of the very

961
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 1: last normal outings that we had pre COVID. Yeah, because

962
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 1: right after that was when COVID started. Yeah, But I

963
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:13,359
Speaker 1: remember getting to be getting to his house and I'm

964
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:15,160
Speaker 1: just like, they go to CVS sanswer right there in

965
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 1: the doorway. He wasn't playing no games. He actually did

966
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 1: get the answer there. And it wasn't no small party, No,

967
00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:25,240
Speaker 1: it was that Jamie Foxx Christmas party be lit. There

968
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:26,959
Speaker 1: was a lot of people, There was hundreds of people.

969
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 1: It was a great time too, for sure. Hanging stockings

970
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:33,319
Speaker 1: is a tradition that started within with an accident. St.

971
00:47:33,400 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 1: Nicholas dropped some gold coins down a poor man's chimney

972
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 1: to help him feed his daughters. The man had freshly

973
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 1: watched stockings hanging in his fireplace to dry, and the

974
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: coins ended up inside. Interesting. My mom was big on

975
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 1: stockings too. What we would do is we put little

976
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:50,920
Speaker 1: gifts in there, and we used to have to wait

977
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:53,439
Speaker 1: until after Christmas dinner to open all of our gifts

978
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 1: amongst our family. But in the morning, my mom wa

979
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 1: let us open our stocking gifts, so at least we

980
00:47:57,719 --> 00:47:59,439
Speaker 1: had something to open when we first got there because

981
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 1: we knew sands they arrived, so that was cute. And

982
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 1: the Christmas wreath is the first um originated as the

983
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 1: symbol of Christ. The holly represents the crown of thorn

984
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:12,279
Speaker 1: Jesus war at his crucifixion, and the red berry stand

985
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 1: for the blood he shed. And when you see wreath

986
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:18,280
Speaker 1: this holiday season, you remember the reason for the season

987
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: and like you say, that's how your family celebrated it.

988
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,240
Speaker 1: So I hope y'all in the Christmas very baby, because

989
00:48:24,280 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 1: we are right around the corner. I'm super excited. Um

990
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 1: My trees are going up. They're gonna get fluffed. I'm

991
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 1: almost at the point where I feel like I just

992
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 1: want to get somebody to come in here and do

993
00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:35,520
Speaker 1: it for me. At least put the trees up and

994
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:39,040
Speaker 1: then we'll decorate them. But I'm definitely gonna swing by. Um,

995
00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:40,440
Speaker 1: you know, at home or one of the places to

996
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 1: see what new you know, Christmas themes and collars and stuff.

997
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 1: It's fun to kind of makes a match every year.

998
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 1: All Right, I'm gonna take a quick break and get

999
00:48:48,600 --> 00:49:05,400
Speaker 1: into listening letters. We'll be right back. All right, we're back.

1000
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 1: I'm so excited for the holidays. Yeah, alright, so listen letters.

1001
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 1: We're going to dive in. And since I rambled and

1002
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 1: talked too much about the holidays, you are very concise

1003
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 1: with your thoughts. But I just know how excited you

1004
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 1: get about that. There's always something to say. I have

1005
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:25,840
Speaker 1: a thousand stories about Christmas, but do you know the

1006
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:28,279
Speaker 1: one way we just went with what came to my mind? Um,

1007
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 1: So I want to dive into this first one. Here.

1008
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: I'll go ahead and read it. It says I don't

1009
00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:34,880
Speaker 1: want nothing. I love when people saying with the I

1010
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 1: O N I don't want nothing. But it is important.

1011
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:41,120
Speaker 1: I have always thought it's very important to contact people,

1012
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 1: not only when you want something. Okay, So for my

1013
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 1: listener letter, I would like to give you both your

1014
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:53,960
Speaker 1: flowers all this every show, you guys give great advice

1015
00:49:53,960 --> 00:49:56,360
Speaker 1: to people who write to you, which is great. But

1016
00:49:56,440 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 1: I simply want to say thank you. Me and my

1017
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:00,319
Speaker 1: husband have been together for seven years is and I

1018
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:03,280
Speaker 1: tear up at how much he has changed over time

1019
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:08,399
Speaker 1: by acting on advice given by Devo. Wow, Gadeine, thank

1020
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:12,680
Speaker 1: you for giving me the confidence to say them kids girl.

1021
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:19,040
Speaker 1: When I said that, I'm just kidding. But you've given

1022
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:21,239
Speaker 1: me the confidence to say it's okay to ask for

1023
00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:23,239
Speaker 1: help or say if something is too much for me

1024
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 1: to handle regarding my kid without feeling guilty as you

1025
00:50:25,960 --> 00:50:29,400
Speaker 1: should sist Kadeine. You have also given me the push

1026
00:50:29,440 --> 00:50:31,480
Speaker 1: to get back in the gym when I'm ready, and

1027
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:35,839
Speaker 1: so far i've lost it. You better do it. That

1028
00:50:36,000 --> 00:50:38,759
Speaker 1: is amazing. You know what. I needed this messagere So

1029
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:40,400
Speaker 1: this was a gift for me today because I've been

1030
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: a little bit of a rut lately, just because we've

1031
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 1: been so busy, and Devot said we're gonna work out

1032
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:47,600
Speaker 1: today together and I said, yeah, we're gonna get back

1033
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:49,480
Speaker 1: on the wagon. So I needed to hear that. Since

1034
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:53,399
Speaker 1: thank you for that. Congratulations. That's amazing, Devout. If God

1035
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:55,800
Speaker 1: didn't exist for me, I would say you single single

1036
00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:58,800
Speaker 1: handedly fixed my husband because of a lot of the

1037
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:02,000
Speaker 1: advice you've given. I'm more confident on planning to have

1038
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:05,279
Speaker 1: another child with my husband. At first, I was very

1039
00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:07,600
Speaker 1: nervous because the first time around, I felt like he

1040
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:10,400
Speaker 1: wasn't as considerate of me and how I felt. But

1041
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:12,959
Speaker 1: over the past five years of watching how you cater

1042
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 1: to Codein somehow has inspired him to treat me like royalty.

1043
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 1: With that being said, Codeine, I hope that you get

1044
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:24,800
Speaker 1: all you all you want. Wait. With all that being said, Conneine,

1045
00:51:24,840 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 1: I hope you get all you want and need out

1046
00:51:27,160 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 1: of life that you desire devout. I hope you become

1047
00:51:29,560 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 1: the biggest movie star in the world. Congratulations on Kingdom

1048
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 1: be four. Damn. I wish I would have known you

1049
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:41,240
Speaker 1: guys were going to post a show just for listener letters,

1050
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 1: because instead of bringing my problems to you guys, I

1051
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:46,319
Speaker 1: would like for people to hear more about how the

1052
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 1: work you guys do really affects people's lives. I'm over

1053
00:51:52,160 --> 00:51:54,759
Speaker 1: here life fixing my eyelash, right. I can't wait until

1054
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:56,760
Speaker 1: I'm able to come to one of y'all's live shows

1055
00:51:56,800 --> 00:51:59,400
Speaker 1: one day. But Phil, till then I will be listening.

1056
00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 1: That was really sweet. Triviled. You were very sneaky for

1057
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 1: putting that because we're talking about giving gifts and all

1058
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:08,839
Speaker 1: kinds of stuff, and little do we know we're being

1059
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:11,799
Speaker 1: such a gift to other people. And trust me, y'all

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Speaker 1: have been such a great gift to us. Every single

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Speaker 1: person who listens to a podcast episode, every single person

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Speaker 1: who engages with us on social media, UM that comes

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Speaker 1: to a live show, um that clicks on them links.

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Speaker 1: When I'm trying to, you know, tell you all about

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Speaker 1: my latest deal that I'm promoting, Like it's just so

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00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:33,480
Speaker 1: so overwhelmed to really think about. And you know, we

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00:52:33,560 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 1: do a lot of stuff just from sitting here in

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00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 1: front of a camera or from our phones or from

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Speaker 1: our laptops, and it's sometimes you don't even realize how

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00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 1: many people are the magnitude with how you're affecting people

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00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:45,880
Speaker 1: on a day to day basis, because we feel like

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00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:48,799
Speaker 1: we're just out here walking in our purpose and you know,

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Speaker 1: this is our ministry, this is what we've been I

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Speaker 1: guess designed to do. So thank you for that notes

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Speaker 1: as I wish you had your name, UM to give

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Speaker 1: you a shout out. Thank you that that was that

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Speaker 1: was dope, That was dope, that was open unexpected, and um,

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Speaker 1: I'm almost speechless and I always got something to say.

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Speaker 1: I am speech. I appreciate all you guys, so thank

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Speaker 1: you so much that I definitely got me a little

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Speaker 1: choked up. It's the holidays. It's always about giving. But

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00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 1: when someone chooses to give you something that you didn't

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00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 1: even know that you needed, words of encouragement, that means

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Speaker 1: a lot. It does. It means a lot because the

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Speaker 1: days I wish you would have put her name so

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00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 1: that we could say thank you to her and her husband.

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Speaker 1: And I will say this, though I did not fix

1088
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:35,960
Speaker 1: your husband, your husband made choices to fix himself. Like you.

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Speaker 1: Got to give that man credit. He didn't have to

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Speaker 1: listen to a thing I said or decided he wanted

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Speaker 1: to do anything. He actually put the work in, so

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00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:46,680
Speaker 1: he deserves all the credit that none of that goes

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00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:49,000
Speaker 1: to me. So kudos to him, and kudos to you

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Speaker 1: for introducing him to us. So thank you, guys, Thank

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00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:57,719
Speaker 1: you so much. All right, I think we should end

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Speaker 1: it on that man. I just holidays in doing it high,

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Speaker 1: you know, yes, it's a really good high. It's the

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Speaker 1: end of the year. Um. I want to love with

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Speaker 1: my wife and I love with my kids. So that's

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Speaker 1: what we're looking forward to doing as soon as these

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Speaker 1: kids let out from school. Well, like I said, it

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Speaker 1: starts around things. Well Colda's birthday this year for us,

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Speaker 1: so that now now we start the holiday season with

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Speaker 1: all our big holidays, starting with the Dacoda's birthday, hiros

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Speaker 1: No sorry Kazi, Thanksgiving, and then spiraling into my stuff.

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Speaker 1: So thank you all so much. We love you. If

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Speaker 1: you want to be featured as a listener letter, if

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00:54:30,760 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 1: you want to send us more flowers like we love this,

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Speaker 1: be sure to email us at dead Advice at gmail

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Speaker 1: dot com. That's right, there's d E A d A

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Speaker 1: S S A, d V I C E at gmail

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Speaker 1: dot com. All right, moment of truth time. We're talking holidays.

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Speaker 1: They're talking about Dean's Big Christmas that happens every year.

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Speaker 1: And UM, I guess my moment of truth or my

1115
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:54,040
Speaker 1: takeaway is just you know, let's not forget the ultimate

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Speaker 1: reason around the holiday. Um. And for me that's family,

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00:54:57,920 --> 00:55:01,759
Speaker 1: that's family togetherness giving. Um. Regardless of you know what

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00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:03,719
Speaker 1: you believe in or where you come from, what your

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00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:07,759
Speaker 1: background is, what your religious beliefs and ideologies are, if

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Speaker 1: you just ultimately think about how you can be of

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Speaker 1: help to someone else, particularly around this time of year,

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00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 1: and we'll all be winning. I just feel so good

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Speaker 1: around the holidays. My moment of truth is this, each

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Speaker 1: day we work to build a legacy, not to be

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Speaker 1: defined by our greatness, but by the masses. We inspire

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Speaker 1: to be greater than ourselves. The greatest Yes, my model

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00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:32,640
Speaker 1: has been my models and sophomore year of college. Um,

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Speaker 1: the greatest gift you can give someone is to inspire them,

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Speaker 1: inspire them to be better, uh, inspire them to want more,

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00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 1: inspire them to learn more, and inspire them to pay

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Speaker 1: it forward. So that's my My moment of truth is

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Speaker 1: for everyone to feel inspired and inspire someone to pay

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Speaker 1: forward to inspire someone else. That's great. And hopefully I'll

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Speaker 1: be inspired to take down my tree at a decent

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Speaker 1: time this year. But I won't make any promises or

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Speaker 1: you won't need to be inspired. I'm going to hire

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Speaker 1: people to take it down if it is not down,

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Speaker 1: like I'm not. I'm not doing that no more? All

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Speaker 1: right with that because I don't like to take them

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Speaker 1: just down, know how? Al Right? Be sure to follow

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Speaker 1: us on social media dead as the podcast and you

1142
00:56:11,480 --> 00:56:14,799
Speaker 1: can follow Kadine I Am to see more tree progress

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Speaker 1: and I am devout and if you're listening on Apple Podcasts,

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Speaker 1: be sure to rate, review and subscribe. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah,

1145
00:56:23,640 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 1: Happy Kwanza, and all that good stuff to all your

1146
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Speaker 1: beautiful people out here in a dead as podcast family.

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Speaker 1: We'll see y'all yeah next year. Dead as dead Ass

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Speaker 1: is produced by the Norapinia and Triple Follow the podcast

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Speaker 1: on social media at dead as the Podcast and never

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