WEBVTT - #17 Pal-entine's Day 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:04.080 Shall we we shall, Let's go baby Hell. I Suck 0:00:04.120 --> 0:00:07.640 at Dating with Dean Angler and I Heart Radio Podcast. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.400 Hello everyone, thank you for joining in for help. I 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:13.680 Suck at Dating Still the title of the show. I'm 0:00:13.720 --> 0:00:16.640 Dean Angler joined in studio by Mark Easton and Erica 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:20.160 Um Today. It's gonna be a bit of a Valentine's 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:24.680 Day centric episode. Yeah, because we all love Valentine's Day. 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:30.200 I actually do. Yeah. Why because it requires you to 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:35.360 step up married couples. I'm part of a married couple. 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:38.920 It tends to get complacent after the over the years. 0:00:39.000 --> 0:00:41.479 You don't schedule as money date nights as you should. 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:45.680 Valentine's Day, you have to schedule something. So that's why 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:48.560 I like it so and early in a relationship you 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:50.880 learn a lot about the guy depending on what he does. 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:52.600 Don't you think that it's kind of silly though, that 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:55.520 we need one day every year to be like listen, listen, guys, 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:58.200 you gotta get your together and set up a nice 0:00:58.280 --> 0:00:59.920 date for your your girlfriend, your wife with ever to 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:02.880 I get that, but I'm not as anti Valentine's Day 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:05.640 as some people are. You anti Valentine's I'm anti Valentine's 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:07.880 Day for the fact of I mean, I think that 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:09.960 you should be doing nice yesterdays occasionally. Understand it. We're 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:11.840 obviously been married twenty years, so I can understand it's 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:13.760 nice to like have an event, to be like, all right, 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:15.360 we're gonna go out and have a nice dinner and 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:18.840 do all this. Um, I just hate like the crowds. 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:21.120 I hate like the cliche of it all. Um, you know, 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.720 going to dinner, waiting fixed menus, I hate prefixed I 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:26.320 mean they're great, but it's like you could do that 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.000 any other day of the week for you know, af 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:30.679 fractional costs, and I think it's on a Wednesday. So 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:34.120 you'll either go out the weekend before the weekend after right, No, 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:35.720 you have to go out on Valentine's I don't think 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:38.119 we will, really, I don't think so. So you're gonna 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:39.720 go out on a Saturday night and be like, listen 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:42.319 to Amy, this is your Valentine's Day date. I'm not 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:45.720 gonna put it that way. We will decide together when 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:49.160 because Wednesday night, Brooklyn's got gymnastics alleys got tracked. There's 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:52.400 just too much going on on a Wednesday evening with 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:55.400 work the next day. Just not going to happen. We're 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:57.680 in a similar problem because my wife works at a 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:02.160 church and Wednesday Valentine's da is ash Wednesday. It's a big, 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:05.040 big day, so she's going to have the ashes on 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:07.200 her forehead, she's gonna have to work really late. But 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:11.160 we're still going out. So because Black Panther opens the 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:15.520 next weekend, I'm booked. IM spoking for um and Eric. 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:19.000 What about you? I have a huge Valentine's Day plans, 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:21.880 don't kid Well, I do. It's dinner and drinks with 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:25.760 my single girlfriends. Yeah, which is cool and I'm fine 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:28.200 with that. But I'm not a big like Valentine's person 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.760 in general, Like, never even in relationships, done a big 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:35.000 Valentine's Day. How come there's no like Malan Melanine's Day. 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:38.480 I call it Pine Palentine. That kind of sounds like 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:45.040 we're Palestinians Palentine. Um, I don't know. I just think 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:46.360 that I think it's great that you guys are going 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.600 out on different nights. Then for Eastern Eastern's going out 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:51.680 on ash Wednesday maybe more interesting. But maybe it may 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:54.000 be the kids that prevent the weekday. Why don't they 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:59.480 have my kids? Yeah? Um, they're Ali's eleven in Brooklyn's eight, 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:04.080 and they're us kind of. Allie's noticing boys. She has 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:07.720 a crush. Yeah, do you remember the first one of 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:10.080 the first claus we had was Zoe, my middle school 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:11.840 girlfriend and my first girlfriend. You remember the reason that 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:14.400 she broke up with me? No, it's because I didn't 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:18.040 plan a Valentine's Day date when we were ten years old. Wow, 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:20.840 we're eleven years old. So I'm just saying, this is 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:23.000 the age where that stuff starts to like, well, I 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:26.040 have a story about Alie. A boy, a seventh grade boy, 0:03:26.280 --> 0:03:30.200 approached her. She's in sixth grade. There was a dance, 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:32.200 and they have the sixth grade dance separate from the 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:34.839 seventh and eighth grade dance. I'm guessing this a lot more. 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:38.040 You know, booty shaking seven grade dance and the sixth 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:40.480 grades have their own thing. So he went up to 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:43.960 her and said, are you going to the dance? And 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:46.920 she looked at him, like, why are you talking to me? 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:49.880 And she said yeah, and he said, oh, are you 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:54.400 in sixth grade? Yeah, okay, I was gonna ask you 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:56.640 to come to our dance. And then he said to 0:03:56.680 --> 0:04:00.200 her maybe we could hang out sometime oh my god. 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:05.920 And Ellie yelled no, thank you and ramped. She's not 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:08.640 there yet, she's not ready for that conversation. And she's 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:11.280 in sixth grade. Ye and he was in seventh grade. Interesting. 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:16.800 I was very proud of her for that get it go, 0:04:16.920 --> 0:04:19.080 get away from those voice. I like it. I don't 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:20.720 even know. I don't even know how to eleven year 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:23.760 old is getting like more date requests than most four 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:26.720 year olds I know, including myself, Like, oh my god, 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:29.960 this is so good. So they have a Valentine's Day dance. No, 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:32.120 this wasn't Valentine's this was for something else. This is 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:34.279 just an independent They do him throughout the year in 0:04:34.320 --> 0:04:37.120 the afternoons, like it's like they have early day. They 0:04:37.120 --> 0:04:39.080 get out like one thirty and then they have dances 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:42.480 until the regular time school would be out. And she 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:44.440 she shows me video, she takes videos on her phone. 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:47.640 It's a rager, like there's lights and there's all kind 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:50.680 of loud music and she's having a blast. They put 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:53.760 like black over the windows. It's like nighttime. We had 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:56.360 this in my middle school, but it is nighttime. Were nighttime, 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:01.600 three pm. It gets too racy at nighttime these days. Um, well, 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:02.680 so what do you guys really like to do for 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:07.000 Valentine's Day? Then? You know, for us, it's really we 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:08.599 we we made a rule a few years ago, no 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:12.480 more cards for any for any occasion. No more cards. 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:17.360 They are a waste of money and you look at them, 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:19.599 Oh that's nice, and you throw it in the garbage. 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:22.040 And now they're like, they're like seven eight bucks cards 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:24.200 and you feel bad throwing them in the garbage too. Yeah, 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:26.479 so we no more cards. We're not doing that anymore. 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.479 So there's no real expectation. Her birthday was a few 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:33.200 weeks ago. Great, we don't do gifts really. We just 0:05:33.279 --> 0:05:35.520 kind of spend some time together and that's it. It's 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.599 pretty low key at this point. Do you think that's 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:40.120 a practice that we could all take in early on 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:41.599 or is that something that you kind of get to 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:45.360 after to this because there was pressure early on. Yeah, 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:47.520 and I'm still surprised with flowers and stuff. A couple 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:50.320 of years ago. She teaches group exercise on Saturday mornings. 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:53.000 So I dressed the girls up in little red dresses 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:54.800 and they each had a bouquet of flowers, and they 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:57.160 walked into her group exercise class right before it started. 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:58.680 And gave him that that was pretty good. That I 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:01.120 got a lot of points for that one life. So 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:03.000 I still tried to do a nice surprise every so often, 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:05.839 but generally speaking, it's it's it's pretty quiet these years 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:10.440 until the next big surprise. Come on something else. We'll 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:12.520 take us through. You were looking through your Instagram, So 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:16.160 where were you Valentine's Day? I wanted to go through 0:06:16.200 --> 0:06:19.840 my I guess chronicled pictures to the past four or 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:25.120 five years. UM, February seventeen. It was like the month 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:27.960 before I left for Bacherette filming, so I literally just 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:30.760 sat at home. We were not allowed to be pursuing anyone, 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:32.080 not even that. I don't even think I was in 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:35.400 the process at that point, but I was like more 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:37.479 single than ever, so I like literally ordered Indian food 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:39.400 with my roommates, and like we watched movies or something 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:44.760 that pines but not romantic movies. I assume we watched like, 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:48.640 I don't know, like X Men or something like that. Um. 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:52.720 And then the year before that, I think, um, I 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:54.680 was I was dating someone. I can't remember exactly what 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:56.359 we did, though, I was looking back because I was 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.760 right around the Super Bowl time, and um, I remember 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:00.760 watching the Super Bowl with the girl that I was dating, 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:01.680 So I was like, I'm sure we had to do 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:03.880 I've done something, but obviously recalled exactly what it was. 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:05.680 It probably just like a dinner date and something like that. 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:08.000 You were in a relationship two years ago on Valentine's yea, 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:09.640 and I'm sure we went to dinner And the fact 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.400 that I am unable to remember exactly what we did, 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:14.800 it's just it's a sign that I think dinners are 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.480 too cliche for Valentine's Day dates. Do we know about 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:21.320 this woman? Uh, we haven't spoken much of her. We 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:23.600 have talked to her. How long were you together? Put? 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:28.720 And why did it end? Ah, it was just it 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:31.000 was like messed from the start, and then we like 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:32.560 kind of evened out in the middle and like things 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:33.720 were going well and then near the end of this 0:07:33.960 --> 0:07:37.160 what does that mean? A mess from the start? Um, 0:07:37.280 --> 0:07:39.280 she worked at a company that I worked at formerly 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:41.040 before moving here, and so we had like some mutual 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:43.320 friends and she and one of my other good friends 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:46.960 had something before her and I got together. So yeah, 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:48.280 so it was like kind of one of those things 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:50.240 where we have these callers calling and they're like, I 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:52.480 like this girl, but my guy my like my friend 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:54.200 used to date her kind of thing. Um, it was 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:55.520 kind of one of those situations. So it's kind of 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:57.680 like a rocky start. How how friendly were you with 0:07:57.720 --> 0:08:02.200 that guy best friend? Oh, and I made the horrible, 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:05.880 horrible mistake of um pursuing her without telling him and 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:10.160 without asking for permission. Not permission obviously, but like you know, um, 0:08:10.200 --> 0:08:13.600 not giving the courtesy heads up right, and in hindsight, 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.400 I always say, I see really regret it. We lived 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:17.440 together with best friends, moved I moved out here from 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:21.720 together at the time with him. Yeah, um, I can't 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:26.400 remember exactly how unfolded with like everything kind of like 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:29.040 becoming to coming to the surface. But he was like, 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:31.280 he's like, honestly, like it was like a very short 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:32.640 fling that they had. They weren't like in a serious 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:34.560 relationship or anything that. But he's like, honestly, if you 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:35.960 just came to me and told me or like asked 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:38.480 me or whatever, everything wouldn't perfectly fine. And it was 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:39.920 perfectly fine. It was just like a little bit of 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:41.880 like they weren't together at the time, but they had 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:43.880 been together. No, no no, no, they weren't together at the 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:45.560 time they had hooked up, maybe like a few months 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:47.800 prior hooked up. It wasn't much. They were never like 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:50.720 never never boyfriend girlfriends, but they had a history together. 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:52.680 It's interesting because we were just talking about this in 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:55.080 the Scrubbing In podcast this week with Becca in Twania, 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:58.800 available for download now. Um about how Tanya is able 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:00.400 to kind of if if she knows a guy who 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:02.319 has done anything with any of her friends, he is 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:04.520 like like switched off in her mind, Like she wouldn't 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:08.840 even consider him as a possibility. That is just off limits, friend, brother, whatever, 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:12.160 he goes mat category. Maybe guys don't have that. I 0:09:12.200 --> 0:09:14.120 think Tanya has a fault there because I think you 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:17.160 have to be open to like some people like if 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:19.640 it was a fling, you should have told him, yeah, 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:21.840 for sure. But I also think like that could have 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:24.960 been okay, Yes, it might be weird at first, but 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:27.840 what if that's your person? And in these situations, people 0:09:27.880 --> 0:09:30.000 always say that like the heart wants what it wants. 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:32.640 It's like, what if that's my person? Well, that's just 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:34.120 like that's one of those things too, where she was 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:35.760 like in our friend group and like we would hang out, 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:38.200 you know, every a couple of Beegins a month, like altogether. 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:40.680 Um And I always like a certain level of like 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:42.400 admiration for like, always thought she was a great personal 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.120 kind of stuff. Obviously I wasn't gonna make any moves 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:45.720 at the time, but um And there was like this 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:47.520 one night where we made out or something like that, 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:49.280 and they're like, all right, well, let's like hang out 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:50.719 a few more times and see what it leads to. 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:52.079 So it's kind of one of those things where like 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:53.559 we didn't really know how to define it. And then 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:55.800 because we didn't really know what we were I didn't 0:09:55.800 --> 0:09:57.760 want to go to my friend and be like, hey, 0:09:57.880 --> 0:09:59.960 I don't know what's going on. But then obviously hinds 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:01.200 it's like easier to say I should have done it, 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:02.960 but I could have. I don't know, like how to 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:04.640 define our relationships. I didn't really know what to go 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:06.520 to him with what information, you know, Yeah, but you 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:08.720 could just tell him, Hey, I'm interested in so and 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:10.959 so would you mind if I pursue this? Absolutely, and 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:12.800 I wish I did. And I mean I mean obviously 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:15.240 like there was no love lost between me my friend 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:17.360 or meither or the girl that I kind of continued 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:19.400 to continue to date but it's just it made very 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:21.440 very rocky a couple of days. I guess is part 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:23.960 of that early the early days, there is part of 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:27.280 it the excitement of sneaking around, because that does add 0:10:27.360 --> 0:10:31.719 an element of excitement to the relationship. I don't want 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:33.520 I don't know if we're necessarily we weren't like hiding 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:36.480 it intentionally or anything like that. But it's it's funny 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:38.280 now because like even I don't know how long we 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:40.520 want to talk about this topic for but um, in 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:43.600 our friend group, this girl who dated one of my 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:45.840 good friends for like a year or two, so they 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:48.200 lived together. They're like a very serious relationship. She's now 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:53.040 um dating another one of our good friends in the group, 0:10:53.160 --> 0:10:55.800 and I think that the her x doesn't know about 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:58.800 their currently even though everyone else in the friend group does. 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:00.800 But it's like I feel like it's not like anyone 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:03.280 else's place to like go to the guy and be like, hey, listen, 0:11:03.640 --> 0:11:07.400 this girl is dating uh this other guy. Bro code 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:09.800 that you let him know what's going on, or is 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:12.360 it you're loyal to the other bro. I mean, he's 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:14.480 fully moved on from the relationship, but it's still like 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:17.160 stings a little bit to like see that. Um, I 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:18.960 just think that it's not necessarily I think a lot 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:20.680 of us think that's not necessarily our place to start 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:22.800 that drama. And like if and when they're ready to 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:25.120 talk about it, and I'll talk about it. Two years later, 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:27.960 it's been almost exactly two years. You were with her 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.240 two years ago. But where what do you where do 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:33.880 you stand with her? Is there any any friendship any anything? There? Um, 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:36.560 there there's a friendship. We all try to have a 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:38.920 good friendship, or at least I made an effort to like, like, hey, 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:40.920 I want to be friends with you. I mean, obviously 0:11:40.920 --> 0:11:43.559 we like dated because I thought you were a great person. Um, 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:46.520 but I think that it's just it's becoming increasibly increasingly 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:50.320 harder to keep a friendship with like a former girlfriend, 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:54.480 you know. Um, so we don't really have much of 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:56.400 a friendship anymore, which kind of stings a little bit. 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:59.720 But um, I think she's doing really well. So and 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:03.360 what with the guy, the guy her, the guy that 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:04.839 she hooked up with, it you were best friends and 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:09.040 roommates with real Wow, you guys survived that, of course 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:11.280 was he was a little ticked off at first, but 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:13.640 not too bad. He was like he had moved on 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:15.800 and had started dating someone. So it's not like they 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:20.480 like he wasn't like like, I don't know he we 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:22.640 were still best friends. Everything's fine there, everything's fine still 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:26.160 to this day. Good. That's nice to hear. I got 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:30.120 the threat up box that you gave us last week. Fantastic. 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:34.320 My my wife and my daughter really appreciated because the 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:36.920 denim jacket fit my daughter better than fit my wife. 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:38.400 And so there she goes, she's got a new denim 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:43.120 jack and for these Ontine's days. He's about to go on, Yeah, 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:46.880 well you're getting ahead of yourself. But but but they're great. 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:49.280 They don't seem like, you know, I don't know what 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:52.319 kind of a stigma people put on used clothing or 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:54.760 thrift store clothing. It didn't seem like that at all. 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:56.840 There was no feeling of this is pre owned. It 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:59.199 was a feeling of, wow, what a great denim jacket 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:01.600 this is, and my daughter loves it, so thank you 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:05.240 for that. You're welcome and Easton. Easton's wife sent a 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:07.839 cute little thank you know, Yeah, she's very appreciative of 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:11.120 the jacket. It looked brand new, I mean, like this 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:13.920 had the tags on it. Still she got a Theory 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:17.319 denim jacket and uh, I don't know if that's a 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:19.760 nice brand or not, but it was very exciting for 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:22.880 her to get. Fits are great, is really nice? Yeah, yeah, 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:24.800 I see whenever I see a girl wearing a Theory jacket, 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:27.840 it's just I don't know, I like it. It looks 0:13:28.160 --> 0:13:30.000 for those guys who are listening and for those girls 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:32.480 that are looking to treat themselves for whether it's Gallentine's Day, 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:35.040 Valentine's Day, whatever it is. Um, I mean you heard 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:37.560 Easton and Mark talked about how much their wives loved it, 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:41.600 and in Mark's case, I guess his wife and his daughter. UM, 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:43.319 be sure to check out threat up dot com. It's 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:45.400 the world's largest online thrift store with brands you'll love 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:48.640 from up to off retail price. Like I said, Easton's 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:50.120 wife got hers and she said it was Brandy with 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:52.760 the tax still on it. That's pretty common with thread Up. 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:54.559 You'll get a lot of a lot of designer clothes 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:57.480 basically you know, never worn, if they've been worn only 0:13:57.480 --> 0:13:59.679 once or twice. In Mark's case, I got them to 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:02.160 two items for his wife. One of them didn't fit 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:05.079 her quite as well. Fortunate in his situation, she was 0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:07.120 able to just pass it down to the daughter. But 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:09.920 in an event where you get something that doesn't fit, 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.520 you do have free returns and make it super easy, 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:15.200 super convenient for you to do. So, say you get 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:17.160 something a little bit too smaller than you expected it 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:18.800 to be, people for just send it right back and 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:20.920 they'll make it as easy as possible for you. So 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:22.640 be sure to show your weal who's boss and don't 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:24.840 wait another minute. Um, so go to throw up dot 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:27.640 com slash Dean for an extra thirty percent off your 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:29.960 very first order. Uh. And I know I said this 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:31.640 at the top of this, but you guys need to 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:34.960 remember that you're getting offer up to off retail price 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.120 through threat up dot com. Um, you're going basically on 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:41.480 to these online thrift stores. You're gonna be gritting great deals, 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:44.120 getting great brands, and on top of all that, you 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:45.840 can get thirty percent off. So go to th h 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:49.400 R E d up dot com slash dean for an 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:52.040 extra thirty percent off today and be sure to make 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:55.320 well there it's Valentine's Day or Galantine's Day as fashionable 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:59.240 as possible. Before we get Genie on the phone, Genieus 0:14:59.280 --> 0:15:02.280 from e Harmony answers dating questions. I have an idea 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:05.400 for the name of this podcast, and I really thought 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:09.479 about this and I really like it because it's very succinct. 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.680 It says everything you need to say. In my opinion, 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:15.120 ready for this, because I I haven't liked a lot 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:19.040 of the suggestions we've gotten. It's very simple. The new 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:24.720 podcast name would be Dating Dean Unglert. Dating Dean Dating 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:29.120 Dean Unglert like being John malkovis kind of but but 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:30.800 he doesn't like it, and I can tell but let 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:32.840 me just tell you. Let me tell you why. Because 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:36.840 it's about dating. It's it's you dating, whether you're in 0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:39.680 a relationship or not in a relationship. It works either way. 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:43.640 It's simple, it's three words. It encompasses what we're talking about. 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:47.000 And you're gonna you know, this is the part that 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:50.160 will make you a little bit uncomfortable. But I think 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:53.320 of you as a very eligible bachelor. To the people listening, 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:56.560 they probably think you're an attractive young man and they 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:59.640 might want to be dating Dean Unglert, And that's why 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:03.680 it's an appealing title as well. Let me ask you this, 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:07.880 Let's flip it let's flip it around real quickly. Say 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:10.840 Amy comes to you one day and says, here, Mark, 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:12.680 I have this idea for myself. I want to come 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:15.080 out with the TV show. Just bear with me. It's 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:20.320 gonna be dating Amy. I'm gonna talk about my life, 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:23.800 all the dating ins and outs that I go through 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:27.200 on a daily basis, weekly basis, etcetera, etcetera. Um, how 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:28.920 do you feel about that? You're worried about how this 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:32.120 would come off to potential partners of yours or even 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:35.280 hypothetically if you were in a relationship. Now, yes, you 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:39.120 think it's weird, Yes, all right, what do you think? Well, 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:41.240 how would you feel about Amy doing We're married. It's 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:46.520 a different situation. So I think it's I don't know. 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:49.720 I okay. Do you want to bounce it off somebody 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:53.400 in your life and see if they like it? No, 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:56.520 I don't like you don't like it? It's okay, I'll 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:58.360 bounce it off, all right. I don't know. I don't know. 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:01.240 I appreciate. I appreciate the fact that we are brainstorming 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:04.719 new ideas. What about help dating? It can sucks? See, 0:17:04.720 --> 0:17:06.760 all of that is too negative. I don't like sucking. 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:10.400 There it's too negative. It's too I don't know, it's 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:13.760 too cynical. Yeah, I guess because they have one listener 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:15.400 emails say that, and so now we're kind of stuck 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:17.040 on that. Yeah. But also I like it. I like 0:17:17.119 --> 0:17:18.960 it short too, I don't like help. I suck a 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:22.440 dating as too many words? What's another? Okay, well let's 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:28.160 jump over to Genie. So Genie is from e Harmony. 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:30.320 We we've talked quite a bit about online dating, all 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:32.040 those types of apps that people use, but we haven't 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:34.399 really talked much about e Harmony or the or the 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:37.000 those types of I guess avenues of meeting new people. 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:40.679 So Janie, are you there? I am here, How are you? 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:43.000 I'm doing well? Thank you so much for calling in. 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:46.240 Chief of Advice. Chief that's the title, chief, Chief of 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:49.720 Advice and VP of contented the Harmony. That's impressive. I 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:54.040 don't know how this happened, you guys. Um awesome. Well, 0:17:54.040 --> 0:17:55.520 so Jennie, tell us a little more about that then, 0:17:55.560 --> 0:17:58.200 Chief of Advice. Probably you're the only person in the 0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:01.080 entire world with that title. What does that meaning? I 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:03.919 think VP of Content might be view. Um, so I 0:18:04.000 --> 0:18:06.600 managed the harmonade vice site which is a site, a 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:09.640 content site, which is full of articles and blogs by 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:12.960 different experts. So that's where that comes from. Um. I 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:14.880 also work in the marketing department, and I've been here 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:17.600 for nine years. I've kind of been there, done that, 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:22.600 seen at all. It's always interesting, awesome. Well, so tell 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:24.080 us a little bit more about the harmony. I mean, 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:26.840 obviously we know mostly what it is, but a lot 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:29.800 more people at least, Um, I don't I don't necessarily 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:31.080 want to say this, but I feel like more people 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:33.160