WEBVTT - Second Cup: Often, rather than always

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that often is pretty much as good

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<v Speaker 1>as always, and often is a lot more achievable in

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<v Speaker 1>a busy life. Today's tip was inspired by someone who

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<v Speaker 1>was wrestling with the question of whether to pick her

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<v Speaker 1>kid up.

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<v Speaker 2>At school each day. She had a new job that

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<v Speaker 2>allowed her to work from home, and she had a

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<v Speaker 2>reasonable amount of control over her time, so it was

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<v Speaker 2>theoretically possible to pick her kid up at school at

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<v Speaker 2>three point thirty basically every day, but driving ten minutes

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<v Speaker 2>to school, waiting ten minutes in the car line, and

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<v Speaker 2>then driving ten minutes home was a thirty minute chunk

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<v Speaker 2>out of the afternoon at in time spent grabbing keys

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<v Speaker 2>and shoes and then gearing back up, and the chunk

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<v Speaker 2>of time got larger. Her kid could take the bus,

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<v Speaker 2>but she felt guilty then that she wasn't spending time

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<v Speaker 2>with him despite the flexible job. But I pointed out

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<v Speaker 2>that none of this was an either or situation. You

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<v Speaker 2>can do things often, but not always. Given that she

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<v Speaker 2>did have flexibility and autonomy with her time, she could

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<v Speaker 2>structure different days to look different. Maybe she could sign

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<v Speaker 2>her kid up for an after school activity that met

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<v Speaker 2>at the school one day a week, so she got

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<v Speaker 2>a longer uninterrupted work day on that day. Two days

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<v Speaker 2>a week, he could take the bus home, and then

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<v Speaker 2>she would say hello to him and then get back

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<v Speaker 2>to work, making the chunk of time taken out of

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<v Speaker 2>work closer to ten minutes rather than thirty. And then

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<v Speaker 2>two days a week she would pick him up at

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<v Speaker 2>school and just be done with work. Then she and

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<v Speaker 2>her kid could hang out and do something fun. She

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<v Speaker 2>was driving every day right at three thirty, but she

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<v Speaker 2>was spending plenty of time with her kid and taking

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<v Speaker 2>advantage of her flexible schedule. I suspect that many times

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<v Speaker 2>when people say they always do something, they really mean

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<v Speaker 2>often anyways, people who say they always do family dinner

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<v Speaker 2>often miss a night here or there. They do not

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<v Speaker 2>truly mean that the primary breadwinner turns down absolutely all

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<v Speaker 2>work dinners or evening events. They do not mean that

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<v Speaker 2>when a family member goes to visit Grandma and the

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<v Speaker 2>next date over, everyone else zips over there for dinner too.

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<v Speaker 2>What they mean is that they generally eat dinner together

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<v Speaker 2>unless there is a good reason not to, but so

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<v Speaker 2>it goes for most things. Once you decide that often

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<v Speaker 2>is generally as good as always, you open up all

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<v Speaker 2>sorts of possibilities. I often go to bed at eleven PM.

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<v Speaker 2>I consider that my bedtime, but if I have a

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<v Speaker 2>really good book i'm reading, I might stay up later.

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<v Speaker 2>I often practice the piano, but I do not do

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<v Speaker 2>it every single day. I often put my kids to bed,

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<v Speaker 2>but sometimes I am traveling or doing other things at night,

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<v Speaker 2>and that is okay too. What might you choose to

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<v Speaker 2>do often rather than aiming for always? What might that

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<v Speaker 2>make possible in your life? Thinking more broadly is often

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<v Speaker 2>a good thing, because life is seldom either or In

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<v Speaker 2>the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's.

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<v Speaker 1>To making the most of our time. Thanks for listening

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<v Speaker 1>to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback,

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<v Speaker 1>you can reach me at Laura at Laura Vancam dot com.

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