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Speaker 1: I have a story about drumline and this title is

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Speaker 1: Frank and we tell the funniest stories on the Internet.

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Speaker 2: Great, you can only do a song that you love?

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Speaker 3: We talk very often.

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Speaker 1: Awesome. It sounds like, you know, bad situation, but everything

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Speaker 3: Your favorite girl huh oh wow, How how about the wife?

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Speaker 2: Fucking But she tends to choose men more like her father.

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Speaker 2: Cowardly weak men child, damn calling father. I was always

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Speaker 2: Her choice in men, our personalities were very similar.

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Speaker 3: This is a better choice of men.

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Speaker 2: So, four months ago, after breaking up with the latest

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Speaker 3: We're coming along here.

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Speaker 2: I work from home and my wife does not, so

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Speaker 1: Which honestly sounds like an abortion clinic.

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Speaker 2: Over I was gonna say, like, that's a hilariously genius

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Speaker 2: How genius are Oh man, good, good ravy. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: So she's going to be a horrible mother, but he

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Speaker 3: I know. It's it's obviously this guy is awful.

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Speaker 2: And yes, I've decided he and I need to have

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Speaker 3: So op's ready to lay down, lay down the freaking

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Speaker 1: Yes? What?

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Speaker 1: How do you even react with that? Also, what kind

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Speaker 1: I wish this baby was ours?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is just a crazsy scenario. I immediately thought, wtf, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I've been in my.

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Speaker 2: what should I tell my wife? What should I say

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Speaker 1: I mean ideally, if you have a good relationship with

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I could see him like being terrified of it.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, that would be terrible.

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Speaker 1: Also also not a good idea to drink Captain Morgan

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Speaker 1: Maybe you put down, put down the Captain Morgan, talk

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Speaker 1: that's what should I do?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, here's what happened. What do I do you?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is your daughter? What parents?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, apparent to that.

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Speaker 1: But uh, I feel like, you know, that's a really

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