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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. The Candy Lady

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Speaker 1: is the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty nine

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Speaker 1: year old mother of two grown sons, and I pride

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Speaker 1: myself on how well I raised them by myself. They

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Speaker 1: he is trying to send me to an early grave.

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Speaker 1: When I was raising my boys, I had a village

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Speaker 1: of strong women to help me. One of my nearest

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Speaker 1: and dearest friends helped me the most, and my son's

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Speaker 1: love to call her the candy Lady because she always

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Speaker 1: had some kind of candy in her purse. She never

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Speaker 1: had children and never got married, but they never saw

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Speaker 1: her go through all of the men and the drama

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Speaker 1: in her life. Up until twenty twenty, she was in

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Speaker 1: an eleven year relationship with this married man. After they

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Speaker 1: broke up, she was very depressed, and I did all

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Speaker 1: I could to snap her out of it. I even

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Speaker 1: sent my twenty nine year old son over to change

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Speaker 1: into her life. She called me a few days after

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Speaker 1: that and said she was getting her life back on

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Speaker 1: to play tennis. I thought that a hobby would be helpful.

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Speaker 1: Little did I know she and my son have been

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Speaker 1: seeing each other for over a year. He's been living

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Speaker 1: how or why it all happened. He came to me

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Speaker 1: last week and said he wanted to tell me something.

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Speaker 1: Before he told me, he said there is nothing I

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Speaker 1: can do about it. He told me that I shouldn't

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Speaker 1: be upset with my friend because age doesn't matter, and

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Speaker 1: he called her his soul mate. The candy lady that

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Speaker 1: I know has had over a hundred soul mate over

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Speaker 1: the year. I don't want my son with this old

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Speaker 1: half of Is there anything I can do to break

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Speaker 1: up my son and the candy lady? Wow? First of all,

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Speaker 1: I mean this is one of those, you know, ultimate

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Speaker 1: betrayal type situations because she knows better that she's your age.

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Speaker 1: You say, you're fifty nine and she's you know, doing

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Speaker 1: your twenty nine year old son. Yeah, this, she went

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Speaker 1: to be friends. She knows your son was off limits.

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Speaker 1: And here's what you know. You already know. There is

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Speaker 1: nothing you can do about this. I mean, as a mother,

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Speaker 1: I know you don't want this for your son. You

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Speaker 1: do not like them together. This woman is your friend,

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Speaker 1: and so you know all her business, and you don't

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Speaker 1: think she's good enough for your son. You know what

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Speaker 1: she's been through, all the men, the married men for

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Speaker 1: eleven years that she was with. All you're doing is

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Speaker 1: looking out for your son. At this point, you think

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Speaker 1: she's way too old, as you mentioned in the letter,

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Speaker 1: for your twenty nine year old son, and that she

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Speaker 1: has too much baggage. There's nothing wrong with how you feel.

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Speaker 1: But here's the other thing. They are both grown. They

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Speaker 1: are both consenting adults. I guess around fifty nine. He's

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Speaker 1: twenty nine. He never even told you how this happened

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Speaker 1: or came about, but you know he was over there

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Speaker 1: and she probably you know, seduced him, and they want

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Speaker 1: each other right now, that's what they do. They're grown,

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Speaker 1: like I said, consenting, free to do whatever they want,

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Speaker 1: and what they want is each other. They already lived together,

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Speaker 1: so basically your hands are tied. He's been with her

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Speaker 1: for a whole year. Sometimes you just gotta pray, let

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Speaker 1: it go, give it to God. This relationship and all

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Speaker 1: life experience for your son. You're trying to stop that,

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Speaker 1: don't see anything you can do at this point. Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: Candy Lady, Candy Lady friend, little Candy Boy, have or

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Speaker 1: Paul and really just be upsetting to So before I

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Speaker 1: personally stand by everything I'm about to say. I have

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Speaker 1: be clear about that. Oh, I don't care. I don't care.

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Speaker 1: I DC. I'm gonna create my own emojis online. Yah,

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Speaker 1: w y D. I got a new one, I DC

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Speaker 1: because I really be wanting to text that most of

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Speaker 1: the time when I'm texting. So that's the new one.

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Speaker 1: I DC stands for I don't care, I wish I'm

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Speaker 1: All right, let me tell you that this fifty nine

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Speaker 1: year old mother, these two grown sons, Now here's a

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Speaker 1: lot of word. I I'm proud of single mothers that

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Speaker 1: raise their children. I really am, and I think you

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Speaker 1: do a great job. But I keep telling y'all. You

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Speaker 1: can raise these boys to be good citizens. You can

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Speaker 1: raise them to be gentlemen. You can really raise them

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Speaker 1: to be God fearing. You can raise them to obey

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Speaker 1: the law. You can raise them a lot of weight.

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Speaker 1: You can't make them men. I don't care what you do.

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Speaker 1: You can't make them men. The how they decide to

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Speaker 1: be as men. It's gonna have a lot to do

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Speaker 1: with another man. Now, you can instial a lot of

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Speaker 1: the great qualities of a man in y, but when

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Speaker 1: it's time to be a man, he has to stand alone.

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Speaker 1: Your oldest son is married, he got a baby on

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Speaker 1: his way. Your youngest son twenty nine. He trying to

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Speaker 1: send you to an early grade. See you mad because

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Speaker 1: one of your knees and dearest friends helped me the most.

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Speaker 1: And my son's love to call her the candy lady.

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Speaker 1: She's been a candy lady for a long time. You

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Speaker 1: got the title of this letter, right, And when I

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Speaker 1: come back, I'm gonna tell you how much candy the

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Speaker 1: lady has been passing out and for how long? And

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Speaker 1: who all are handy candy? All right? Hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Part two of your responses coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject the Candy Lady.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. The sub the candy Lady. Well, this fifty

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Speaker 1: nine year old woman raised her two sons, did a

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Speaker 1: then she's having some trouble with the youngest one. He

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Speaker 1: early grave. He said, well, let's get into this. Then,

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Speaker 1: she said, when I was raising my boys, I had

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Speaker 1: a village of strong women to help me that needed

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Speaker 1: to be a man in now. But no problem. Women

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Speaker 1: do a great job being mothers and single mothers, and

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Speaker 1: they've done great job raising some boys and some some

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Speaker 1: some young men that turned out just fine. But the

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Speaker 1: the shoulders of another man, I can't teach my daughters

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Speaker 1: how to be women. I don't care how much I

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Speaker 1: talked to him. It's just too much about that. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. And so it is with manhood. But you

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Speaker 1: did a good job. Now. One of your knars and

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Speaker 1: dear friends helped you the most. And my son loved

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Speaker 1: to call her the Candy League because she always had

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Speaker 1: some kind of candy in her purse. We'll get into

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Speaker 1: that in a minute. She never had children, never got married,

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Speaker 1: but they never saw her go through all the men

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Speaker 1: and the drama in her life up until twenty twenty. Now,

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Speaker 1: this woman, candy Lady, was in eleven year relationship with

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Speaker 1: and I did all I could to snap out of it.

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Speaker 1: And now here's what you do. You'll sit the twenty

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Speaker 1: Little did I know she and my son have been

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Speaker 1: how a wild I have that? Heyb you any gray?

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Speaker 1: Before I finished crying, let me tell you what happened.

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Speaker 1: He went over the candy lady house. Candy Lady turned

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Speaker 1: He won't tell me how wild all happened. So then

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Speaker 1: Why oh it all happened? No, surely you can't stop me.

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Speaker 1: I've been doing this now for my whole life, and

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Speaker 1: you're trying to help her. I sit my son over

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Speaker 1: it out cooking over there, and he's stupid. He'd have

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Speaker 1: and good as experience. I know what she did to him.

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Speaker 1: But then he gonna tell me I should be I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, you'll tell me how to be. Don't come

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Speaker 1: my friend, coach, age don't matter. This old helpful and

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Speaker 1: And I know good where y'all want know? Kid, she

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Speaker 1: you're stupid bout this candid lad that I don't have

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Speaker 1: had a hundred soul mates over the year. She had

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Speaker 1: Now you a hundred and one, You like a puppet.

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Speaker 1: Now you wanted a water in one damnation? I I

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Speaker 1: do here. It is, and I'm letting that a close out.

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Speaker 1: we sixty, We used to do that all the time.

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Speaker 1: Coming up next, it is Sports Talk with Junior. Right

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