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Speaker 1: Buggle up, Hold on tight. We got it for you. Here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. The subject this letter just

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Speaker 1: makes me laugh. My baby won't stop cussing. Junior says

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Speaker 1: it's about him. We'll see. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am

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Speaker 1: a twenty seven year old married woman with a two

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Speaker 1: year old son that won't stop Cussin recently, whenever he

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Speaker 1: gets frustrated or upset, he starts cussing. If he falls

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Speaker 1: down and hurts himself, he cusses. If you tell him no,

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Speaker 1: he cusses. I assumed he was hearing these cuss words

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Speaker 1: from my husband because I don't cuss in front of him,

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Speaker 1: so he is not hearing it from me. My husband

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Speaker 1: swore to me that he has not been cussing in

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Speaker 1: front of him either, so I figured the only other

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Speaker 1: person it could be is my mother in law. I

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Speaker 1: asked her, and she says, come on, Steve, you gotta

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Speaker 1: help me with this. She said, here, yeah, I'll cussing

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Speaker 1: in front of letter, That's what she said. Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: said that because he's a brat when you're not around.

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Speaker 1: I was shocked. I couldn't believe that she can't find

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Speaker 1: a way to discipline him without using foul language. I

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Speaker 1: want my son to have a relationship with this grandmash

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Speaker 1: and she's a wonderful woman in a lot of ways,

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Speaker 1: but we don't see eye to eye on this. She

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Speaker 1: says she can't help it and we should be teaching

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Speaker 1: him to never repeat what he hears. But he's a

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Speaker 1: two year old and that's what small children do. I

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Speaker 1: told her that she should lead by example, but she

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Speaker 1: said when she is babysitting him, she will do things

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Speaker 1: her way. My husband is stuck in the middle, and

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Speaker 1: he said his mom is sixty and said in her way.

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Speaker 1: So I said let it go, so I should let

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Speaker 1: it go. He says, we can teach our son not

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Speaker 1: to cuss when he is a little older and can understand.

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Speaker 1: I have a problem with all of this. Yes, his

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Speaker 1: grandma is an authority figure, but it's my son, so

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Speaker 1: I say we go by my rules. I don't want

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Speaker 1: my baby cussing out his teachers as a daycare. How

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Speaker 1: should I resolve this? Am I wrong? Please advise? I

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Speaker 1: think you're a little bit too much on this issue. Okay,

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Speaker 1: your baby's only two, and I do agree with your husband.

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Speaker 1: I think you should wait until he's a little older

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Speaker 1: and he can understand. I know so many kids, little

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Speaker 1: young babies or children who used to cuss because that's

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Speaker 1: what they see. And children are sponges. We all know

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Speaker 1: that they repeat what they see and that's what they do.

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Speaker 1: And you're right. The mother in law, your husband's mom

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Speaker 1: is set in her ways, and she says when he's

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Speaker 1: things her way. So that's that's how she puts the

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Speaker 1: hammer down. She cusses at him, and he probably obeys

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Speaker 1: when she does that. He knows what she means when

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Speaker 1: he does that, so when she does that, so I

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Speaker 1: just say, you know, loosen up just a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Is going to get better. When he gets older, he'll

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Speaker 1: stop or at least understand and not do it around

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Speaker 1: you guys. At least you can be hopeful for that.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, the grandmother's not gonna change. You. Continue not

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Speaker 1: to cuss in front of him and let him know

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Speaker 1: every time he does it that it's wrong. He's only two.

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Speaker 1: He's only two. He's going to grow and learn things.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry. It's gonna be all right. He's not gonna

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Speaker 1: be at the daycare cussing out the teachers and all

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Speaker 1: of that. He's not gonna do that. So just relax

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Speaker 1: on this issue just a little bit. He's gonna be fine, Okay, Steve. Well, Shirley, Yes,

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Speaker 1: I disagree with everything you said in this letter. I

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Speaker 1: hope you don't. You know, only give good advice, but

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Speaker 1: you missed it on this from good baby girl. See, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: the reason you missed it on this letter just because

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Speaker 1: you don't cuss. No, you need a cussle to talk

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Speaker 1: about a letter that's about cussing. See I'm a cussle,

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Speaker 1: Yes you are. My father father was in the top

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Speaker 1: three greatest cussings of all time, all through the Civil

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Speaker 1: rights movement everything. My daddy cussed sitting at the counters

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Speaker 1: at Woolworth luncheon cities. My daddy was cussing wold counters

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Speaker 1: with them German shepherds and them fire hoses. My daddy

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Speaker 1: was cussing. My daddy got arrested he was cussing. My

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Speaker 1: daddy came to church he was cussing. So, Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 1: sorry you missed this. Ladder. This twenty seven year old

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Speaker 1: lady got this too year old boy that won't stop cussing.

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Speaker 1: When he gets frustrated or upset, he cussed. I do too.

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Speaker 1: When he falled down and hurt itself. He cussed. Every

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Speaker 1: time I fall I cuss. If I tell him no,

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Speaker 1: he cussed. If Marjorie tells me no, I couldn't if

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Speaker 1: my mama told me no, under my brother cousin couldn't

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Speaker 1: let her head though. That's so she assumed that these

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Speaker 1: cuss words was coming from her husband, so she confronted him.

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Speaker 1: He said it wasn't her, So she got to think

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Speaker 1: an only other person it could be, as my mother

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Speaker 1: in law. So I asked her. Did she cuss around

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Speaker 1: the boy? She said, hell, yeah, I cuss in front

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Speaker 1: of his little lad because here bratt when you're not

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Speaker 1: without using full letter words. She's a wonderful woman. She's

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Speaker 1: in a lot of ways, but we don't see her not.

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Speaker 1: She says, I can't help it that y'all should be

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Speaker 1: teaching him to never repeat what he is and he's

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Speaker 1: a two year old and that's what children do. Well.

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Speaker 1: Shirley said in her response that you've got to light up.

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Speaker 1: He's only two and things like that. Well, Shirley, we

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Speaker 1: come back. I'm gonna tell you why I disagree with

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Speaker 1: your statements. As I said, he cussing, all right, this baby,

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Speaker 1: twenty seven year old Lady Mary got a little two

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Speaker 1: year old boy to Cusso this is my baby right now.

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Speaker 1: Get upset. Cuss when they fall, man, Cuss when he

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Speaker 1: don't get his way, Cuss if you tell him no,

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Speaker 1: the sport just cussing. And you found out that it

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Speaker 1: wasn't a husband. So you went to the mother in

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Speaker 1: law and said, do you cuss in front of the baby?

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Speaker 1: Her exact quote to this woman who wrote the letter was, hell, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I cuss in front of his little last that's your

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Speaker 1: favorite line in this whole letter, in this whole letter,

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Speaker 1: in any strawbery letter that we've ever done. Yeah, and uh,

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Speaker 1: you know you talk to the mother and said, you

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Speaker 1: can't find another way to discipline him and everything. I

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Speaker 1: don't want my son using five language. And then you know,

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Speaker 1: you know that your mother in law is a wonderful

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Speaker 1: woman in a lot of ways, but y'all don't see

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Speaker 1: eye to eye. And your grandma, your mother said that

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Speaker 1: you should teach the boy to not to repeat what

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Speaker 1: he's heard. And then you said, but he's a two

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Speaker 1: year old, and that's what small children do. Well, let

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Speaker 1: me explain something to you. Small children shouldn't be allowed

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Speaker 1: to cuss. Why don't you backhand his little last since

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Speaker 1: he cuss? Yeah, that's what happened to me. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: he once again. Here we go, y'all see her? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know cussing. Yeah, I said, back what you know?

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Speaker 1: Why cuss? Yeah? Oh my god? Backhand the baby because

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Speaker 1: you're not a custoler. You don't have cussing babies to

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Speaker 1: knock his little last out exactly what they do to you.

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Speaker 1: I can't surely come to talk about he only two

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Speaker 1: years old. You should wait till he older. Let me

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Speaker 1: tell you something. Cussing, cussing go deep? Yeah? No, And

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Speaker 1: then lady at the end, am I wrong? No, you're

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Speaker 1: not wrong. Cuse cussing? Go deep. I've been cussing since

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Speaker 1: I was fault. Okay really, and I've been an ADVIC

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Speaker 1: cussingty eight years. Slot solot outstanding combinations. I didn't put

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Speaker 1: together some combinations that ain't been heard before, and I've

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Speaker 1: gotten results. If you don't stop this boy from cussing.

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Speaker 1: I got news for you. He's never gonna stop. He's not.

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Speaker 1: You should nip it in the board right now. Cussing

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Speaker 1: is a habit, and it's a hard habit to break. So, Sirley,

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Speaker 1: I disagree. The lady is right. She has every right

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Speaker 1: to be upset, and the grandma talking about when she

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Speaker 1: with him, she got to do it her way. Stop

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Speaker 1: cussing at the baby. Stop. But you know why your

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Speaker 1: son ain't gonna say nothing because he knew gonna get

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Speaker 1: his ass cussed out. He he know he going out

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Speaker 1: to Bernard Debt and tell Bernard Debt cusin Bernard Debt

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Speaker 1: burn Nice Blonkins burnt burn, Nice Blonkings BBB. So, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: ask me some questions. I'm gonna be a two year old.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna answer the question cussing and y'all bleep out

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Speaker 1: to cussing boy. Come on, I got enough beep. Come on,

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Speaker 1: it's time to get your bath so you can go

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Speaker 1: to bed. Come on, come on, Bobby, I ain't taking

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Speaker 1: no bath. Bobby about your mouth, get it and don't forget.

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Speaker 1: I can see what Bobby I ain't sish. Bobby is

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Speaker 1: not speaking that clearly too sound, and hurry up. Come on,

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Speaker 1: hurry up now so we can get to bed. Don't

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Speaker 1: know body won't go no, come on, Bobby, let's put

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Speaker 1: your jammies on. I don't like the punk, all right,

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Speaker 1: all right, come on, get in bed. But before you

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Speaker 1: get in say your prayers. Come on, we gotta say

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Speaker 1: your prayers. I don't like nobody. I got to pray

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Speaker 1: for the punk. Bobby, all right, get in bed. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna turn out the light. I know how you don't

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Speaker 1: like the light off, but we gotta start turning this light.

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Speaker 1: Turn the light off. Mommy, you know I ain't nothing,

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Speaker 1: but it's time for all right. Keep keep this cussing.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell your daddy you keep it up here.

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Speaker 1: Ain't nobody scared of his grandma? And that ain't my

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Speaker 1: real damn daddy over, Bobby, get in here, say your prayers,

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Speaker 1: get in this bed and go to sleep. And if

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Speaker 1: I don't, you're gonna, Bobby, I'm gonna whip your butt. Okay,

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Speaker 1: keep on here. You're gonna get your little butt all right,

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Speaker 1: But you don't cuss because you ain't never been a customer,

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Speaker 1: so you can't participate in this letter. It's a little bobby.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna beat your ass, all right, listen. Post your

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Speaker 1: comments on today's crazy Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook

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