WEBVTT - Two Things Can Be True At The Same Time: Part 8 [The Mini-Series] (Normalizing the In-Betweens and Healing From Extremism) (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out be outwait everything that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm learning love who I am again. I'm strong, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel free, I know every pardon me, it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we'll always out way if you feel it,

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<v Speaker 1>but you are, She'll some love to the vid.

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<v Speaker 3>Why get there? Take you one day?

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<v Speaker 2>An did you and die out way?

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<v Speaker 4>Happy Saturday outweigh Amy here and my co host Leanne Ellington, No,

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<v Speaker 4>all right, Part eight of two things can be true

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<v Speaker 4>at the same time the final parts.

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<v Speaker 3>We're finally here.

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<v Speaker 4>You can be happy and satisfied and feel like you've

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<v Speaker 4>arrived and still desire to do more, be more, have more,

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<v Speaker 4>create more, and be absolutely unapologetically all about it, all

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<v Speaker 4>about what you want and dig into that and we

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<v Speaker 4>want to see that happen. And this makes me think

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<v Speaker 4>of our conversation last week in the mountain yep, like

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<v Speaker 4>reaching the top right and feeling like I have arrived here,

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<v Speaker 4>I am world and you can be there, and like

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<v Speaker 4>last week, you may go back down the mountain some

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<v Speaker 4>and that is also okay. It doesn't mean you're not

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<v Speaker 4>working hard, doesn't mean you haven't evolved, you're not in

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<v Speaker 4>the process of evolving.

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<v Speaker 3>But also now.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm picturing that beautiful mountain and being at the top

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<v Speaker 4>and knowing that, Hm, is there a bigger mountain? Like

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<v Speaker 4>can I hop on over and keep climbing? And what

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<v Speaker 4>we're saying here.

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<v Speaker 1>With this is yes, I see this happen a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>and I am gonna specifically say more with women doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean it's exclusively with women, but I see the patterns

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<v Speaker 1>more almost apologetic, like I know my life is amazing,

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<v Speaker 1>but I also want more, and they're apologetic that they

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<v Speaker 1>want more, because it's almost like a toxic form of

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<v Speaker 1>gratitude where it's like, I'm so grateful, I shouldn't I

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't ask for more.

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<v Speaker 3>This makes you think of the Barbie monologue. Have you

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<v Speaker 3>seen it?

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't yet, but now because of our mastermind text,

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<v Speaker 1>I need to go see it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, America Farra in the movie, even if you don't

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<v Speaker 4>want to go see the whole movie, look up her monologue,

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<v Speaker 4>because in fact, I'll look it up and I'll read

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<v Speaker 4>it in a second because it's it's exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>What you're saying for when it comes to women.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So I mean that's the thing, Like, first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>we talked last week about there is no real arrival

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<v Speaker 1>because what do they say, new level, new devil, Like

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<v Speaker 1>you you overcome one mountain. Have you seen those memes

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<v Speaker 1>where it's like I went on a hike and I

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<v Speaker 1>thought we got to the top of the mountain, and

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<v Speaker 1>then I looked there was like another peak another I'm

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<v Speaker 1>totally butchering the meme, but I'm that girl too when

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<v Speaker 1>I go on a hike, I think I've gotten to

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<v Speaker 1>the top, and I'm like, oh there's another. This is

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<v Speaker 1>just the bottom of the next one, you know, And

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<v Speaker 1>so really acknowledging that there's it's never just this end

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<v Speaker 1>all be all thing, like opening your mind to the

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<v Speaker 1>expectation and transforming your expectations of like, this is life

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm always growing and evolving. If you're on this

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<v Speaker 1>growing and evolving journey, which if you're listening to this,

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<v Speaker 1>you are right, Let's be honest, You're always going to

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<v Speaker 1>be looking for the next thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And so part of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Is like, yes, have that gratitude, be so appreciative of

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<v Speaker 1>where you are. Consciously practice that gratitude. And for me,

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<v Speaker 1>like with my food freedom and the freedom that I

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<v Speaker 1>have in my body, which is still also always evolving.

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<v Speaker 1>I have great gratitude for where I am, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I want even more freedom.

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<v Speaker 2>I want even more peace in my body.

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<v Speaker 1>I want even more of the ability to wake up

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<v Speaker 1>and feel amazing and acceptance of myself without having to

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<v Speaker 1>change my thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I want more of that.

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<v Speaker 1>So be grateful for where you are, but also be

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<v Speaker 1>eager for the next level.

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<v Speaker 2>But that also goes for your career.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked about on the first two things can be

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<v Speaker 1>true at the same time. You can find healing and

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<v Speaker 1>then also say, you know what, I want to take

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<v Speaker 1>my body to the next level. I want to see

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<v Speaker 1>how strong I can get, how able bodied I can get,

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<v Speaker 1>how great at an activity or sport I can get.

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<v Speaker 4>So that was hard for me in the beginning to realize,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, the pendulum sort of swings right when you enter.

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<v Speaker 2>You're like all the.

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<v Speaker 4>Way like, I'm gonna do whatever I want. I don't

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<v Speaker 4>need to have goals. If I have goals, that's bad,

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<v Speaker 4>Like I shouldn't care about my body.

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<v Speaker 3>I just eat the oreos.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, and then it swings the other way and

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<v Speaker 4>levels it levels off. But I loved that first episode

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<v Speaker 4>about you know, being pro body image and being aware

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<v Speaker 4>of that, but also giving yourself the permission to absolutely

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<v Speaker 4>have health goals if you have them absolutely so anyway, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>that was the first part one of this. If y'all

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<v Speaker 4>didn't hear it, you can go back and listen to it.

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<v Speaker 4>Did you find the quote you look like you have.

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<v Speaker 3>A the monologue?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I have it. Okay, I I could see it

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<v Speaker 2>in your eyes.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, the movie's been out for a little bit because

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<v Speaker 4>as far as like, oh, I don't want to ruin

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<v Speaker 4>this part.

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<v Speaker 3>Of the movie.

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<v Speaker 4>Alert if you want to see it and you don't

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<v Speaker 4>want to hear it from me, then okay, pause this

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<v Speaker 4>really quick. But this is so good, Like I would

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<v Speaker 4>go see the movie again just to see America Ferrera

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<v Speaker 4>do this, although I'm sure I could like google that

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<v Speaker 4>clip or something. Here it is written out America Frere's

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<v Speaker 4>Barbie monologue, read by Amy. It is literally impossible to

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<v Speaker 4>be a woman. You are so beautiful and so smart,

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<v Speaker 4>and it kills me that you don't think you're good enough.

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<v Speaker 4>Like we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we're

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<v Speaker 4>always doing it wrong. You have to be thin but

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<v Speaker 4>not too thin, and you can never say you want

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<v Speaker 4>to be thin, you have to say you want to

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<v Speaker 4>be healthy, but also you have to be thin.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to have.

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<v Speaker 4>Money, but you can't ask for money because that's crass.

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<v Speaker 4>You have to be a boss, but you can't be mean.

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<v Speaker 4>You have to lead, but you can't squash other people's ideas.

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<v Speaker 4>You're supposed to love being a mother, but don't talk

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<v Speaker 4>about your kids all the damn time. You have to

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<v Speaker 4>be a career woman, but also always be looking out

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<v Speaker 4>for other people. You have to answer for men's bad behavior,

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<v Speaker 4>which is insane, but if you point that out, you're

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<v Speaker 4>accused of complaining. You're supposed to stay pretty for men,

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<v Speaker 4>but not so pretty that you tempt them too much,

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<v Speaker 4>or that you threaten other women because you're supposed to

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<v Speaker 4>be a part of the sisterhood. But always stand out

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<v Speaker 4>and always be grateful, but never forget that the system

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<v Speaker 4>is rigged, so find a way to acknowledge that, but

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<v Speaker 4>also always be grateful. You have to never get old,

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<v Speaker 4>never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never

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<v Speaker 4>fall down, never fail, never show fear.

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<v Speaker 3>Never get out of line.

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<v Speaker 4>It's too hard, it's too contradictory, and nobody gives you

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<v Speaker 4>a medal or says thank you, and it turns out

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<v Speaker 4>in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong,

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<v Speaker 4>but also everything is your fault. I'm just so tired

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<v Speaker 4>of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself

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<v Speaker 4>into noughts so that people will like us. And if

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<v Speaker 4>all of that is also true for a doll just

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<v Speaker 4>representing women, then I don't even know.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, I was good, So I'm was so good, so

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<v Speaker 1>true and such a topic to explore, because again we

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to buy into like this is how it

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<v Speaker 1>always is, but like, unfortunately, this is the reality as

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of presented to us. So that's why I

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<v Speaker 1>think copics like today are so important, Like you can

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<v Speaker 1>have both, and I mean it goes for the air

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<v Speaker 1>quotes negative side of things too. I'll have clients come

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<v Speaker 1>to me and be like, listen, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>sound ungrateful. I have great parents, but and they have

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<v Speaker 1>some sort of emotional wound or emotional need that didn't

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<v Speaker 1>get filled. And part of it is I'm like, you're

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<v Speaker 1>allowed to say, like, I have amazing parents and they

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know what they didn't know, and there's something in

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<v Speaker 1>me as an adult that I need to figure out,

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<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't mean that they're bad parents or that

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<v Speaker 1>you're not grateful for the upbringing that you had. So

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<v Speaker 1>it can go in so many different directions. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think when we live in these worlds of extremism

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<v Speaker 1>of like you can't be too thin, you can't be

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<v Speaker 1>to not thin, you can't talk about being thin, you

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<v Speaker 1>can't talk about being rich, you can't all these like labels,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're just words. They really are just words, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and words only have the power of the meaning that

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<v Speaker 1>we give them. When it's like, okay, screw all that, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we write our own story and yes, be grateful, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>like like find things to be appreciative about, but also

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<v Speaker 1>give yourself permission to let your her dreams come true

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<v Speaker 1>and to explore, like what do I really want and

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<v Speaker 1>what would make me happy? And not just what I

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<v Speaker 1>think looks good in society. You're on my Instagram feed,

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<v Speaker 1>but like what do I really want? You know? I

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<v Speaker 1>think a lot of people that's like where people change careers.

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<v Speaker 1>When you see those stories of like she, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>became I saw one the other day. She's like she

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<v Speaker 1>became a personal trainer when she was seventy, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's like squatting three hundred pounds.

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<v Speaker 2>I like that, that's not my dream, but you go girl, right?

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<v Speaker 2>Or you know, I know my mom.

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<v Speaker 1>When when we all graduated from college, she went back

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<v Speaker 1>and got her interior design degree.

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<v Speaker 2>She wasn't necessarily.

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<v Speaker 1>Planning on using it, but she she did end up

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<v Speaker 1>using it, but she just wanted to do it for her,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So like, you're allowed to have the life

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<v Speaker 1>that you have and be grateful for it, but don't

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<v Speaker 1>apologize if you want the next level for yourself either.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what we're really trying to say.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, the apologizing part, because we do it. Honestly, I'd

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<v Speaker 4>like to meet a man that does it. Like, if

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<v Speaker 4>you're a man that's ever apologized for wanting more money,

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<v Speaker 4>wanting more and feeling bad for asking for it, mail

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<v Speaker 4>me yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Or we're doing to study halla.

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<v Speaker 4>We want to hear from you, because when that monologue

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<v Speaker 4>was happening during the movie, I just was like, Hm,

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<v Speaker 4>I wonder how don't even feel this way? And I'm

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<v Speaker 4>sure there are some and it also too. I want

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<v Speaker 4>to say this that I know the two things can

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<v Speaker 4>be true. Maybe that you're totally satisfied you've arrived and

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<v Speaker 4>you can want more, and you're allowed to want more,

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<v Speaker 4>but we're not saying.

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<v Speaker 3>You should want more.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, you maybe have arrived and you're like, this is

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<v Speaker 4>good for me, but that the challenge would be like,

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<v Speaker 4>is this really good for you? Or are you conforming

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<v Speaker 4>to the ways in which we've been hard right hardwired

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<v Speaker 4>to sort of accept that, well, this is as far

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<v Speaker 4>as I go, and I'm cool with that because I

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<v Speaker 4>never saw myself even coming this far.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm thankful right totally.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's where I don't mean the toxic gratitude in

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<v Speaker 1>a bad way, but that's where it's like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't you know, I'm grateful, but I shouldn't want more,

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<v Speaker 1>or this is as good as it gets. As another

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<v Speaker 1>form of that too, we're trying to telling ourselves like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just grateful for what I have, and it almost

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<v Speaker 1>limits us. And when you said, like, show me a

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<v Speaker 1>guy that has these limitations in their mind what came

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<v Speaker 1>up for me? Is lis like, it shows us that

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<v Speaker 1>this is all in our heads. These limitations live within

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<v Speaker 1>our own perception of like, who the heck am I

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<v Speaker 1>to have the right to ask for what I want?

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<v Speaker 1>To put that steak in the ground, and it really

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<v Speaker 1>is a limitation in our own mind.

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<v Speaker 2>And I do it, I know you do, like we

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<v Speaker 2>all do it.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's where it's one of those things we're creating

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<v Speaker 1>an awareness of, Like it doesn't have to be so,

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<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't mean that we're ungrateful, arrogant, cattie whatever.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that when it comes to outweigh which, since

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<v Speaker 4>this podcast is, you know, a life without disordered eating

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<v Speaker 4>outweighs everything.

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<v Speaker 3>But I think we can.

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<v Speaker 4>This conversation is more so about the bigger picture of

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<v Speaker 4>like for me, I'm thinking of entering the space of

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<v Speaker 4>having more space in my brain. Yes, when you're in

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<v Speaker 4>the throes of it all, you're literally trying to make

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<v Speaker 4>yourself small, but you are making yourself small in always

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<v Speaker 4>likely even at your career, likely even in your home

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<v Speaker 4>or whatever. That looks like you're trying to shrink yourself.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's happening inside your brain too, and that can

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<v Speaker 4>be very limiting. So when you have arrived in a

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<v Speaker 4>sense to that healing place, you realize all this brain

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<v Speaker 4>space you now have and it's like, okay, now what

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<v Speaker 4>do I want to do with it? And again, it

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<v Speaker 4>may be that you're cool content you don't have the

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<v Speaker 4>bandwidth for whatever else. But also the question would be, Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>what do I want to do with this new freed

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<v Speaker 4>up space in my brain?

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<v Speaker 1>Totally, I think knowing where you are and having that

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<v Speaker 1>inner intuition of the season that you're in. So for example,

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<v Speaker 1>when you air quotes arrive right and you're feeling good

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<v Speaker 1>about something, knowing like, hey, I actually want to just

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<v Speaker 1>stay put right here and I want to tread water.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to just you know, live in this easy,

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<v Speaker 1>breezy kind of way of thinking right now, or way

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<v Speaker 1>of being or whatever it is right now. But because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm choosing it, not because I don't think I can

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<v Speaker 1>have more, or not because I think I should set

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<v Speaker 1>the next level goal because somebody else has expectations of me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like knowing what you're doing and why you're doing

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<v Speaker 1>it and where it's coming from. But treading water is

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<v Speaker 1>a beautiful strategy sometimes, right sometimes we need to just

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<v Speaker 1>tread water. And it's about knowing that the next level

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<v Speaker 1>is there when we're ready for it, but having that

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<v Speaker 1>wisdom and discernment to know when it's time.

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<v Speaker 4>And I think when you have arrived, you have more discernment. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>and you can tap into that wisdom and it's not

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<v Speaker 4>cluttered right with all.

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<v Speaker 3>The other thoughts that take over.

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<v Speaker 4>And so yeah, that was my challenge is just seeing

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<v Speaker 4>where you want to go with it next, because I

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<v Speaker 4>think when our thoughts are consumed with body and food

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<v Speaker 4>and all of that, we don't even.

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<v Speaker 3>Know our career goals.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, it's so exhausting. And you're right, there's no mental

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<v Speaker 1>real estate for anything else. Yeah, And that's part of

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<v Speaker 1>what this is too.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like invite.

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<v Speaker 1>We said this a few episodes ago, like what if

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<v Speaker 1>your body and your weight and what you're eating is

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<v Speaker 1>the least interesting thing about you? Yeah, because you're so

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<v Speaker 1>much more and then you. That creates space of like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>what else is interesting about me? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty funny sometimes, or.

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<v Speaker 1>I make great dad jokes, or I'm smart and worthy

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<v Speaker 1>and capable, i have something to say, or I'm such

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<v Speaker 1>a great friend or whatever.

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<v Speaker 4>Or I'm actually a really good cook when I allow

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<v Speaker 4>myself to use lots of ingredients and not limit myself

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<v Speaker 4>to four things, amen, three things.

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<v Speaker 2>And I love my body.

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<v Speaker 1>I love going dancing and paddleboarding and whenever, and when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not shaming it. I could actually go spend myself

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<v Speaker 1>my time doing that, you know. So there's so much

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<v Speaker 1>more outside of this, but again giving you compassion and

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<v Speaker 1>grace if you're in it because you don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why Outweigh exists.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, Leanne, where can people find you?

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely Stressless Eating dot com if you want to learn

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<v Speaker 1>how to break out of your own food and body

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<v Speaker 1>and shame, prison and really heal from the disorder Stressless

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<v Speaker 1>Eating dot com or I'm over on Instagram at Leanne Ellington.

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<v Speaker 4>And I am at Radio Amy on socials and a

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<v Speaker 4>radiome dot com. All right, this concludes our mini series,

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<v Speaker 4>but Leanne is the official new co host of out Weigh.

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<v Speaker 4>As you can tell that transition has sort of happened.

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<v Speaker 4>It's speaking of evolving and having space for what's the

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<v Speaker 4>next right thing and Leanne joining as co host. Here

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<v Speaker 4>was the next right thing. I started this with Lisa

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<v Speaker 4>in twenty twenty. Lisa Haim and she's a registered dietitian

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<v Speaker 4>that's amazing. She has a podcast called The Truthyist Life.

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<v Speaker 4>She's evolved so much in the last few years and

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<v Speaker 4>she unapologetically has evolved and I love following her on

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<v Speaker 4>Instagram and she's she's real over there. She's like, my

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<v Speaker 4>content is totally different than what it was. If you

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<v Speaker 4>started following me a few years ago, and you're not

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<v Speaker 4>into this, okay, well I get it. You're probably gonna

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<v Speaker 4>unfollow me, and that is okay because I'm gonna just

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<v Speaker 4>you know who I am, be who I am. And

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<v Speaker 4>she's someone that is constantly evolving and has She's probably

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<v Speaker 4>arrived multiple times. She's arrived, but then there's been a

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<v Speaker 4>pivot and then she's a evolved and then arrived and

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<v Speaker 4>then evolved and then arrived and so that's been cool

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<v Speaker 4>to see with her, and you know, outweigh, I just

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<v Speaker 4>felt very comfortable with Leanne and love her expertise and

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<v Speaker 4>she is so passionate about helping others and knowledgeable. So

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<v Speaker 4>thank you Leanne for joining us co host and pleasure. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>we'll see y'all next Saturday.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye bye