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Speaker 2: Hey, dude, you hear no what?

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Speaker 1: No, I'm saying. I'm talking to the people.

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Speaker 3: Did they hear that?

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Speaker 1: I'm so hood right now?

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Speaker 1: So hood.

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Speaker 2: I'm a little rusty.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Ladies and gentlemen, I'm so rusty. Guess

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Speaker 1: who's here? Yep, Merry Christmas. Christmas edition of Hood Politics podcast.

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Speaker 1: We have actually the co founder the origins of this

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Speaker 1: whole story. Refer to her by her prefix introduced to

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Speaker 1: some Some of y'all may know that a original Red

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Speaker 1: Couch podcast where the Hood Politics came from. Ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: my wife, doctor Almazara Gosa Petty A. Hey, I'm back,

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Speaker 1: see back in the building.

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Speaker 4: Man.

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Speaker 1: Listen. It's been this whole season ever since I joined

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Speaker 1: the iHeart family. The olg ain't been on the show.

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Speaker 2: No, I have not. It's also been like a whole

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Speaker 2: ass pandemics. So there's that, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we uh but I'm excited. Yeah, it's been so long.

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Speaker 1: Some of y'all been asking, y'all where the Red Couch at,

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, were busy and she had other things

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was writing a book.

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Speaker 1: This full wrote a book.

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Speaker 2: Only coming out of that cave I put myself into

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Speaker 1: Yeah, spurting. Yeah again for some of I that don't

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Speaker 1: know if some of y'all movies, how herd Politics came

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Speaker 1: about was my wife and I doctor Alma. We had

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Speaker 1: a podcast called the Red Couch Podcast, and it was

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Speaker 1: broken up into four sections, so there's like twenty minute segments.

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Speaker 1: The first segment was hood politics, and then then the

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Speaker 1: next section, what do we do? Like like, uh, what's

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Speaker 2: We had How's your Heart? I remember that because.

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Speaker 1: Hey, how's your heart? Yeah? We had almost vocab lists. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so what was it? We had some sort of like

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Then we did a justice part where it was

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Speaker 1: we ended with hey, how's your heart? And we had

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Speaker 1: almost vocabulist. So but her Politics just took on its

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Speaker 1: own life, right, and that's how you guys have got

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Speaker 1: So we figured for this Christmas episode we would do

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Speaker 1: saying where the doc chimes in and usually the doc

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Speaker 1: She's the actual academic and I'm just a better communicator.

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Speaker 1: Guide to surviving a Christmas Holiday meal at either a

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Speaker 1: But they're pretty like they're pretty it's a pretty ed strong. Yes,

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Speaker 3: I was like, wait, what, Yes, we're very much traditional

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Speaker 1: So yeah, ain't no lowriders.

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Speaker 1: She this one, which which did not continue in our family.

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Speaker 1: My wife did not continue some of these traditions.

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Speaker 2: No should I should? I go ahead?

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Speaker 2: Were you done with the dominoes one?

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Speaker 1: No? Give dominoes just like it's just an example. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: All right? So well now I think maybe we should

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Speaker 2: To get there at too, and just don't get there

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Speaker 2: because you're gonna start setting up at least in you know,

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Speaker 2: gonna start getting stuff ready for this party at two. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: if you there, you buy your elf, come through to

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Speaker 1: That's pretty similar because I'm like, fools, ain't dressed. We're

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Speaker 1: could nobody expect you? They still vacuum in and if

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Speaker 1: Then somebody gonna hand you a mop. You're gonna get

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Speaker 1: a broom. You gonna be sent to the store. He Hey, hey, baby, Hey,

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Speaker 1: who who your little friend? How you do it? Hey?

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Speaker 1: Run to the store right yet, get us some ice?

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Speaker 1: So you're gonna you're gonna be running errands. Yeah, if

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Speaker 2: Do you do you'all have, like because I think this

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Speaker 2: And do y'all do that? For instance, like no, if

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Speaker 2: someone if like there's a there's they're expecting you, right

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Speaker 2: and someone's coming by to pick you up, you almost

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Speaker 2: know to lie, Like you should definitely just say yeah,

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Speaker 2: least they'll start getting ready to come get you.

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Speaker 1: Then they'll come get you. Oh yeah, on my way.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, yeah, I almost I'm almost there. Really

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Speaker 2: means oh thanks for calling me, man, Now I know

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Speaker 2: to get up and get ready, better go get you.

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Speaker 1: That's that's just in general. Yeah, like you tell somebody hey,

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Speaker 1: that's yeah, y'all just getting in the car.

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Speaker 2: That's communal.

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Speaker 1: That's yeah, apparently that's intersection happen they just got in

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Speaker 1: a car. Yeah, that's superherritading. Okay, So for now, Christmas

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Speaker 1: Ain't nobody even thinking about you. I'm saying you not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, why why you even gained bullied? You don't even

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Speaker 1: Because you don't even know that because we don't even know.

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Speaker 2: Society's gonna treat you like this. Let's go ahead and

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Speaker 1: Yup, yup. You better have a clapbacker when they do

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Speaker 2: So what I don't know if you're crying, if I

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Speaker 1: Right now, that's interesting about having to dress up, Like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: You got to dress up because everyone's gonna be looking

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Speaker 1: Like, you know, we go to your sister's house, I'd

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Speaker 1: You're gonna get roasted. You better dress up good. You

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Speaker 1: You high on Stephanie. You gotta give her because it's

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Speaker 2: You gotta say hi to everyone and hug and kiss everybody. Everyone, everybody,

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Speaker 1: That's crazy, what you would that's dang. You got agree everybody?

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Speaker 1: Maybe peeking a room where like other uncles or something

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Speaker 1: You keep going, but I don't have to like go

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Speaker 1: That mean maybe drinking by that time, come here, what

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Speaker 4: Hey?

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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, nephew, keep him a cute little girlfriend

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: She had a pretty dump day, you remember that one

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Speaker 2: Like my current one is here.

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Speaker 1: Well, my wife is here. Yeah. So okay, so you

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think I think y'all beat us in that.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, yeah, yeah, I don't think there's the y'all

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Speaker 1: In that sense, it's impossible.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, y'all take forever.

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Speaker 1: It's all bad, you're right, Yeah, because Mama gonna start

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Speaker 1: Okay, mom, even you got like an hour to play, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: If you know, if you didn't bring anything, you can't

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00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:16,120
Speaker 1: take no plate home.

431
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 2: Oh okay, uh huh oh yeah yeah that's different.

432
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,879
Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no, no, you can't wait you

433
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,800
Speaker 1: what you getting that foiled out for? What did you bring? Like? No,

434
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 1: you can't take food home. You ain't bringing them. That's like, no,

435
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:32,680
Speaker 1: you tripping. Yeah, unless somebody offers lets they say, hey,

436
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:34,399
Speaker 1: you want to take some of this home? Because they

437
00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:35,240
Speaker 1: trying to get rid of it.

438
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:37,160
Speaker 2: See, we always trying to get rid of it because

439
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:43,040
Speaker 2: the amount of cooking in a Latino party, it's ridiculous.

440
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 1: It's a lot of food.

441
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 2: I ain't we have so much food and don't and

442
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 2: don't turn down nobody's food that they bring. They just

443
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 2: get an equal place at the table, yes, you know,

444
00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:57,119
Speaker 2: at the buffet table. It's like yes, the more the merrier,

445
00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:01,240
Speaker 2: you know, So you're gonna get like a plate, you

446
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 2: could get several plates when you leave. You have to, yeah,

447
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:06,639
Speaker 2: because then that's rude. You like leaving the host with

448
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:07,880
Speaker 2: all this food that they made.

449
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 1: For some reason, there is a little bit of like, okay,

450
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,639
Speaker 1: if you this is this is a this is now,

451
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:20,520
Speaker 1: this is a nuanced one. If you brought like if

452
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 1: you didn't bring food, but you brought soda and you

453
00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 1: want to take your soda back home with you, that's

454
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 1: look down on, Like you can't be like, hey, we're

455
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:30,919
Speaker 1: that ginger ale I brought that ginger. I'm gonna take

456
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 1: it back with me. It's like that's just cheap.

457
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:33,440
Speaker 2: Why are you gonna do that?

458
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 1: Exactly, it's like you being judged, like wait, you're going

459
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 1: to take it back even if it's half drunk, like

460
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 1: it's almost there, like yeah, you're gonna take it back

461
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 1: with you. Yeah, like you get or if you had

462
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 1: like hey, I'm gonna take back you know what I'm saying.

463
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: Now if you want your like dish where it's like, hey,

464
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 1: let me get my my bowl, like I brought, you know,

465
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: my yams in my bowl. Then you washed it, you

466
00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: found something to put it in the rest of the stuff,

467
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 1: and you're taking your bowl back right. But that's all

468
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 1: happening after mom told you to go get tell your

469
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 1: cousins by so she's still washing, she's still holding place.

470
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:11,399
Speaker 1: Talk girl, let me tell you about it. Then they

471
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 1: telling stories, and then you get to the living room

472
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 1: and she said, come on, son. Now she started another

473
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:20,880
Speaker 1: conversation in the living room, and now at least she's

474
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,440
Speaker 1: holding her keys at this time. And then then the

475
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:27,160
Speaker 1: next one is like where a jacket at? Hey, tell

476
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: your sister to go get our jackets. So now, Nikki,

477
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 1: you gotta go get the jackets. And y are you

478
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:35,120
Speaker 1: still on that video game? No, Mama, I got my shoes.

479
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,439
Speaker 1: Wait while your shoes and my shoes are on, mom, right,

480
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:41,440
Speaker 1: come on now, yeah, girl, So this and then they talking.

481
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:44,360
Speaker 1: Then there's then there's the standing in the door as

482
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:47,960
Speaker 1: another conversation. Then there's the standing on the porch. There's another.

483
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 1: Then there's the standing at the car car door open,

484
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: holding your keys, and now she mad at you for

485
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 1: taking too long. Then I tell you, let's go get

486
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 1: in the car.

487
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 2: Son.

488
00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:00,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, Mom, you know what I'm saying. And you're

489
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 1: sitting in the car and you start looking at each

490
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 1: other like all right, I'm gonna go say, I'm gonna

491
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:09,159
Speaker 1: go talk to you. You just get out where you going. Okay,

492
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,880
Speaker 1: Now you just but yeah, yeah, it's a good hour after.

493
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's dope.

494
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 1: Sucks.

495
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, in a Latino household, if if it was a success,

496
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 2: you know, by by whether there's gonna be an after

497
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 2: party the next day. It's called we have like a

498
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 2: name for it. So the next day there's the it's

499
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 2: called like you know, to translate it, like literally, it

500
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 2: means reheating, a reheating party, so you reheat the food,

501
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 2: you continue eating it.

502
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: You just come back.

503
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,159
Speaker 2: So yeah, if it's been a success, that means that

504
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 2: you had so much food, people want to eat it.

505
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,120
Speaker 2: They're like, yeah, man, i'll see tomorrow, you know, yeah,

506
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 2: you just come through. It's like the closer people you know,

507
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:53,680
Speaker 2: to the family get invited back to just continue eating

508
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:57,360
Speaker 2: the ginormous amounts of food that has been.

509
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,680
Speaker 1: That's even hap people to take stuff home. Oh yeah,

510
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 1: still food. There's another after party then and say it again,

511
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 1: what's the name of it. It just means reheating, reheating

512
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 1: and then come on back. That is incredible.

513
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're pretty hard. Yeah, yeah, we're pretty hard.

514
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 1: That now there's that's there's something we do know, Like

515
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:22,360
Speaker 1: anybody who lived anywhere in the vicinity of the Mexican

516
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 1: family on the holidays pretty hard, he looked. Just I've

517
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 1: said it many times. Just go get a plate if

518
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: you if you the black family, just go across the

519
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 1: street going.

520
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 2: The reason you can get a plate it is because

521
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:35,160
Speaker 2: they made so there's so much.

522
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 1: They don't call the police. They gonna be playing by

523
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 1: the way rest in peace. That means y'all gonna be

524
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 1: going even harder. It's Christmas, it's gonna be. It's gonna

525
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 1: be with the mustache bust handle bars playing and like

526
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:59,880
Speaker 1: double fisted Mordello's crying their eyes out to some chant.

527
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 1: Y'all think Drake make niggas cry, like chin't they make

528
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:09,880
Speaker 1: him cry? Boy? Yeah, buddy, all right, speaking of witch,

529
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 1: what are the rules around around the drinking? What's what's

530
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:17,400
Speaker 1: some of the what's some of the uh? I feel

531
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:21,399
Speaker 1: so removed from that now, but because yeah, I like

532
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 1: two years sober.

533
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 2: Now because yeah, I haven't been drinking. But I mean

534
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,960
Speaker 2: at the party, at the parties, first of all, the

535
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 2: men are gonna egg each other on to see who

536
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 2: can drink more than the other, for sure, you know,

537
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 2: it's just and then the wild theias, that's what we

538
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 2: call the ones They ain't married and oh yeah, yeah,

539
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 2: went to school only but never got kids or something.

540
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: So those are that's the difference between an aunt and

541
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: an auntie. Your auntie she's still young. Like she young,

542
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 1: she's still she got a blue tooth in her ear.

543
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. She was like you was

544
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 1: probably bad in the eighties, y know what I'm saying. Yeah, okay,

545
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 1: anyway going.

546
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, so those they're gonna get down to and yeah,

547
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 2: I mean we usually had so much alcohol, even at

548
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 2: little kids parties. It's just part of the way that

549
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 2: parties were had, Like it wasn't you know. Like it's

550
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 2: so interesting because now as an adult when I take

551
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 2: my kids to like kids party, I'm like, oh yeah,

552
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 2: this makes more sense. Like kids sized food like kids sized,

553
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 2: like kids size drinks, drinks for kids.

554
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 4: Yeah.

555
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 3: Yeah.

556
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 2: But in my birthdays growing up, it was like cervesas

557
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 2: the quila, you know, Molley, like it was there was

558
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 2: no like kids side, like you gonna eat whatever we're

559
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 2: eating and you're not gonna drink no alcohol necessarily, but

560
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 2: there's gonna be so much of it.

561
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's gonna be.

562
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 2: It's it's really really like who can hang till the real.

563
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 2: That's really what it becomes. You know, like who can

564
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 2: get so like just keep partying and not be gone

565
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 2: but still be level headed to be at the real

566
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 2: and still be chilling.

567
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 1: And not do y'all be fighting. I don't know that

568
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 1: I grew up your family is not like not like.

569
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 2: That, but I've heard that there's like, yeah, it could,

570
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 2: it could get wild.

571
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 1: Now where Yeah, like I said, like I grew up

572
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 1: with Chicanos, they be fighting. Yeah, Like it's just and

573
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 1: it's like and you already you could you could count

574
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: the beers in to win the fight on Like y'all

575
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 1: be fighting now with us with black people, we we

576
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 1: don't be fighting like that, like fist fighting unless y'all

577
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 1: like hood hood like y'all like y'all are gangs like

578
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 1: where you guys are like multi generational gangsters or y'all

579
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 1: be like fighting like that. But there's something like it

580
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 1: was interesting even out of here in La. It's like

581
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 1: you know you you you you bang your section, so

582
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 1: you may you may be like Granny. You may live

583
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: near Granny or a Granny's house where where like Christmas

584
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: is happening and everybody on that side of town is crips.

585
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 1: But you know Uncle Ray Ray moved to Inglewood, so

586
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 1: they're all bloods, you know what I'm saying. So like

587
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: you got crips and bloods in the same house, you

588
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,959
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. But it's Granny's house, so you respect,

589
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 1: you respect Granny said, you know your cousin, you come in, like,

590
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 1: what's up? Granny? Give her a kiss? You'd be like,

591
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 1: it's cracking cuz your cousin be like, what's bracking? Blood?

592
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, or you know what it is.

593
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. But it's Granny's house. Is cool.

594
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 1: We're gonna respect her, you know what I'm saying. We're

595
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: not gonna get down like this. But like niggas, no

596
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 1: like on set. You know what I'm saying. So, but

597
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 1: if it but if y'all start drinking, it tru until

598
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 1: until a nigga start drinking, you know what I'm saying, right,

599
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: or until or until a dice game or Domino start playing.

600
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 1: What's gonna be the next thing I'm gonna talk about

601
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: once because now now money's be in exchange, and when

602
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 1: you start slamming the thing down, you're gonna say blood

603
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 1: too many times, like what's up? Blood? Like you know

604
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, fifteen blood, Like somebody gonna be like, hey, cut, hey, lo,

605
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 1: you gonna stop. You're gonna stop slopping up through you

606
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. The nigg gonna be like, what

607
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 1: a slide? What's up? Crab liking it? Niggas now go

608
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 1: Fool's gonna start doing these like derogatory terms among each

609
00:31:56,680 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 1: other because foods is either losing money getting salty and

610
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: they getting salty, or it's just you got a little

611
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 1: few more in them then it get weird. You know

612
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Uh, that's that. But yeah, so for

613
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 1: us it's like it's beers, but it's the brown liquor

614
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 1: round round our parts. It's that brown. That brown will

615
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: get you, you know what I'm saying. And for our

616
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:24,160
Speaker 1: our yeah, our aunties, the aunties, which are the young

617
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 1: ones that can get down with like get down with us.

618
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: They're they dancing, you know what I'm saying. They drinking,

619
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 1: they gossiping, they screaming, somebody cutting the rug at this point,

620
00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 1: if you wanted the children has been made to do

621
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: a dance, you know what I'm saying. That's suff so

622
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: like y'all be partying all night. That's the thing with

623
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 1: like black people, it's like we tired. It's like, hey, hey,

624
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: show them how to do that new dance. You know

625
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You gotta dance for them, you know

626
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But most of the time, you know,

627
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:52,440
Speaker 1: they gossiping, They talking about this man ain't ship, they

628
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 1: talk about ex boyfriends. And yes, once once the liquors

629
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,960
Speaker 1: start going, you feel me, and but it only gives violet.

630
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 1: If like Foods is losing money at.

631
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 2: The game table, that's understandable.

632
00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:11,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, speaking of the game table, Yeah, Latria, that's what

633
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 1: you'll be doing.

634
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 2: I think Lotaria is definitely a game that's that's very

635
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 2: much cross generations. Like we're all gonna play, you know,

636
00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 2: but there's definitely a lot of card games and I

637
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 2: grew up with you know, also seeing like the men

638
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 2: play dominoes, but dominate is different than y'all dominoes.

639
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: Ours is a way of life, yeah for sure. And

640
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 1: number two, like speaking of which, it's either dominoes or spades,

641
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:43,920
Speaker 1: like we said before, but one of the cardinal rules

642
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 1: about that is like if you when somebody asks if

643
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 1: you're a guest and somebody asked, can you can you

644
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 1: play dominoes? Or you're not how to play spades. They're

645
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 1: not asking if you know the rules, they're asking are

646
00:33:56,520 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 1: you good? And if you are not so confident in

647
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 1: yourself of being like, oh, I'm a mock y'all, do

648
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 1: not sit at that table because we already said you're

649
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 1: gonna get dragged.

650
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 2: That's one of the other oh.

651
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 1: That like it dials up the dial up because it's like,

652
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 1: I can't believe this, like just merciless, we talk trash.

653
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 1: It's money up. Listen, Okay, okay, yo, here go, here

654
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,759
Speaker 1: go a real oh man, drop my phone because it's

655
00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 1: getting real. Let's just say you are somebody's if you're

656
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:42,920
Speaker 1: less like as a dude, you somebody's you, somebody's like boyfriend, Like,

657
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 1: so you're there, but your connection to this house is

658
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 1: a girl. Right, let's just say yeah, or somebody else's family.

659
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 1: You're the guest, but specifically if it's male to females

660
00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 1: civically in our house, right, so men are gonna test you.

661
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 1: It's like, can you play Domino's? Oh?

662
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 2: Okay, it's kind of like drinking.

663
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, so if I know after marrying your family. But

664
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 1: so if you sit down and play, there's a few

665
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 1: things that happen, Like, nigga, don't be too good, but

666
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 1: at the same time, don't be trash because if you

667
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,920
Speaker 1: too good, somebody gonna be like, hey, I Like, it's

668
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,879
Speaker 1: the same thing in like a house party, somebody be like, hey,

669
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 1: you start winning, y'all shooting dice, You're starting winning, you taking,

670
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 1: you taking niggas money. Somebody gonna be like, hey, hey,

671
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:30,879
Speaker 1: hold on, hold up, Hey, who know cut? Hey, who

672
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 1: are you bluod? Like, hey, who know blood?

673
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 2: Who you with?

674
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:36,400
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. And if you name a

675
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 1: female like, it's like, oh, that's not a that's not

676
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 1: a good enough pass. And if you name a female

677
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,919
Speaker 1: now now I'm like them. If they cousins, they gonna

678
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,360
Speaker 1: get protective. It's like, oh what nigga, Like, you know

679
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You here with my little cousin. How

680
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 1: long you've been messing with her? What are your plans were?

681
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 1: Now you're getting finna get pressed because the niggas is

682
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 1: mad that you running the domino table right yea? Or

683
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 1: now if you losing, they're gonna be like, at your

684
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:06,399
Speaker 1: little soft ass, your little cupcake cash. You can't date

685
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 1: my cousin, nigga, you on know how to play, you

686
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like you ain't mad enough like

687
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:14,720
Speaker 1: or even worse. This would get crazy if the family

688
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 1: actually like her ex boyfriend, motivate like you and you

689
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 1: pull up to the spot you out here either being

690
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 1: trash at the game table or you being too good. Yeah,

691
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:31,720
Speaker 1: oh yeah, yeah, they're gonna be like, hey, web, it happened.

692
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 1: And then they're gonna start talking around you. Hey, you

693
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 1: remember that boy? You remember that Brian. What that nigga name?

694
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Daniel, Daniel. That nigga was dope and he

695
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 1: was better than you, niggy. You just gotta take it.

696
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 2: Speaking of toxic masculinity patriarchy.

697
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 1: Good Transition thinks.

698
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:57,360
Speaker 2: There's one that's I mean, no matter where you go,

699
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:01,320
Speaker 2: I think this might be cross like like Latino communities,

700
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 2: not just in the Mexican households. Like, no matter where

701
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 2: you go, there's a hierarchy of who gets to eat

702
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:09,919
Speaker 2: first and how they get to eat.

703
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:11,319
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay.

704
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 2: So for instance, and in my household growing up Mexican,

705
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 2: you feed the children first, Okay, okay, because they're even

706
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:23,840
Speaker 2: though they're like get clowned and you know, the theas

707
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 2: come at them, they're also venerated, you know, and they're like,

708
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 2: you know, they're seen as more like vulnerable and you're

709
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 2: supposed to serve them, you know, like.

710
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:36,799
Speaker 1: They're you standing there, You're grown, You're a grown ass person.

711
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 1: You standing there with the kids. Ain't good fish?

712
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, And then they and mainly because it just shows

713
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 2: bad on the parent to not be doing that, because

714
00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 2: it because it's another reason to get roasted if you

715
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:51,360
Speaker 2: ain't taking care of your kids tads. So you gotta

716
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 2: take care of your kids, so you feed them kids first,

717
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:58,759
Speaker 2: and so if you're a parent, you better like know

718
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 2: that you got to do that because that's another reason

719
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 2: that your theeas will come at you. And then once

720
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 2: your kids eat, it's very like typical for them the

721
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 2: wife or the girlfriend to serve the man or their boyfriend.

722
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, mama, get on you. If I'm the new boyfriend

723
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: and you don't make plate, mama get on you.

724
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 4: Yes?

725
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 2: Is that is that also something y'all?

726
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 1: Hell no again, But again, I'm from the West. It's different.

727
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 1: I think in the South it's.

728
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've seen a lot more in the South South

729
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 2: you write that.

730
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 1: Man at play you want to keep him. That's they

731
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 1: believe that, like that's how you keep a man is

732
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:38,760
Speaker 1: his stomach. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. That's very Southern.

733
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 2: That's very different when you marry somebody who's who's not about.

734
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 1: Getting the master patriarchy, which is what I did.

735
00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 2: Well, not only that, but you don't love food like

736
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 2: that like in Latino households, where we just be eating

737
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 2: for fun sometimes, you know, because eating is like almost

738
00:38:56,960 --> 00:39:02,280
Speaker 2: like a like a sport, like an activity because again

739
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 2: there's way too much food, so we kind of eat

740
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,959
Speaker 2: it all. Yes, But anyway, so you're supposed to serve

741
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 2: your husband or your boyfriend first, which you know, like

742
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 2: two or three boyfriends in I was like, all right, yeah,

743
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 2: I'll do this. After that, I was like, you know what,

744
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 2: I don't like this part of my culture. I don't

745
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 2: know in my house you here right, Yeah, that's one

746
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:26,800
Speaker 2: of the ones that I really like buck up against that.

747
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:28,320
Speaker 2: My theas have like fodder.

748
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 3: For for sure.

749
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you because then they're like, oh.

750
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 2: I'm gonna listen to Novio, you know, like they just

751
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 2: got something to talk about me.

752
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 1: Show you let me tell y'all. Let me tell y'all

753
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 1: podcast listeners. My wife does not make my plate.

754
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:43,880
Speaker 2: I think I made it like a few times in

755
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,399
Speaker 2: the beginning, just so I could be like mainly because

756
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 2: we were about around my parents and I knew that

757
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:52,279
Speaker 2: I had to because then I would be found upon.

758
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 2: But as soon as we got as soon as I got,

759
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 2: you not around affair.

760
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so crazy because I'm watching her serve everybody.

761
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, dagga, she didn't, she didn't made a plate

762
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: for both of our kids. She's over there helping her dad,

763
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 1: and I'm.

764
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 2: Just like, okay, well that that's a lie.

765
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:15,080
Speaker 1: You know why I know that because your mama.

766
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 2: Makes My mom already got here, so stop lying.

767
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, I'm putting, I'm putting, you're putting extras.

768
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:45,720
Speaker 4: Okay yah.

769
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 1: Uh so yeah. So yeah, in the South, you you

770
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 1: you you serve that. Now, I will say this once

771
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 1: we're all sitting down, the patriarch, like the figurehead, whether

772
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 1: it's a grandfather or in any of any of the

773
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: grandparent generation, you know, you let them get their food first.

774
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:40,320
Speaker 1: No any other grandparents, but usually like the father, whatever

775
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 1: that father is, he gets his choice of meat. First,

776
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:49,359
Speaker 1: he gets the best, the biggest chicken, the biggest one.

777
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. That's one thing that like,

778
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 1: you know, if if if I'm like in a cousin,

779
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,479
Speaker 1: if I'm in the cousin tier right with the kids

780
00:41:57,520 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: are the cousin tier, and I'll reach for a piece

781
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: of chick and that's the size for a full grown nail. Oh,

782
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 1: you're gonna get your hand popped, right or yeah, or

783
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:12,320
Speaker 1: one of them, one of the moms or the auntie

784
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 1: is gonna be like, that's for that's for your daddy,

785
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 1: that's for your father, you know what I'm saying. Like

786
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: they get the biggest pieces of stuff that grab you

787
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 1: a little wing, you know what I'm saying, grab you

788
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 1: a little jumpstick, because you're not not allowed. That's not

789
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:30,880
Speaker 1: for you with no you know, and for kids we

790
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 1: don't necessarily from what I remember, is like we don't

791
00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 1: serve the kids, but there is a section of the

792
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 1: table that's for them because and and they'll put it

793
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: over there for them. Okay, y'all, y'all gonna get y'all's things,

794
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:44,400
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Noah, serve yourself, get yourself

795
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 1: plate now you want some of this, you know what

796
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And then and then they'll make sure that

797
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 1: you don't put your little nasty, dirty hands inside the food,

798
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying.

799
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 2: So that's one thing we are like we serve our

800
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:55,880
Speaker 2: children to ye and then y'all.

801
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 1: Gonna go sit over there, you know what I'm saying.

802
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 1: And then and then the party starts. Yeah, okay, so

803
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: that's yeah, we don't at least where I'm at. Well,

804
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 1: that's then they don't necessarily serve a men like that.

805
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 1: What's another one? No one should have to tell you

806
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 1: if they have to tell you you already messed up

807
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:22,319
Speaker 1: to like clean up your plate and stuff, No one

808
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,800
Speaker 1: should tell you. You should already know get up whoever

809
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 1: cooked whatever. You should have already been complimenting them, telling,

810
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:30,839
Speaker 1: oh man, that was amazing, you know what I'm saying.

811
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 1: Then you go, you know where the trash can look

812
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 1: if you should already be tying up the trash bag, like,

813
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:39,839
Speaker 1: don't let it if you wait for somebody to tell

814
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 1: you you already messed up. You know what I'm saying, Say, hey,

815
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:46,359
Speaker 1: can you hey, you mind grabbing me? That's messed up?

816
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:49,719
Speaker 1: You should already be like wiping up stuff. Be like,

817
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 1: you know Auntie, you know miss Jenkins, where do you

818
00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:56,360
Speaker 1: keep the broom? Okay, baby broom right there? You should

819
00:43:56,440 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 1: already ask her. You know what I'm saying. If you wait,

820
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 1: if you wait and somebody got to ask you, or

821
00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 1: if everybody cleaning up around you, oh, you don't already

822
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 1: messed up.

823
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 2: See this is where I don't know if it's regional

824
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,840
Speaker 2: or not, but for us, it's like being the host

825
00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 2: comes with like certain responsibilities and one and I think,

826
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 2: like in a Latino household, like it's about how you

827
00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:25,360
Speaker 2: serve and how you treat everyone while they're there. So

828
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:28,279
Speaker 2: you actually want to beat the host wants to beat

829
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:32,360
Speaker 2: their guests from cleaning.

830
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,919
Speaker 1: See that's what's crazy. That's why I'm like, maybe that's happen.

831
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:36,760
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. All this stuff, this is nuanced

832
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, This is unspoken. Yeah, you understand what

833
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like you're supposed to as the guest, feel

834
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 1: obligated to help. Yes, you know what I'm saying.

835
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 2: And as a host, you should, like, at least from

836
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,360
Speaker 2: how I remember, it is like you should feel like

837
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 2: like you should do it before anyone else does, so

838
00:44:57,600 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 2: before the guests start cleaning up. It almost shows on

839
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:04,839
Speaker 2: the goat and the host like they ain't doing their

840
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 2: job right, you're slacking your you know.

841
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 1: Like, oh so so if I'm at like your thes

842
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 1: house and.

843
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:11,560
Speaker 2: Like, it'll mean don't clean up after yourself.

844
00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:13,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm saying if I just start helping while

845
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: she's still eating, it's almost like she's like, oh my god, yes,

846
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 1: like you just met life out.

847
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, you basically just told her like she don't know

848
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 2: how to throw a party, y'all.

849
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 1: Did y'all follow that? You see how you just messed

850
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:25,880
Speaker 1: up by trying to help? Yeah, you just messed up

851
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: by being like you just told her she's a trash host.

852
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 2: Yeah so, but I do feel like there are some

853
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 2: caveats where like now if you offer to help, you

854
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 2: got to ask that person if they if you can

855
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:41,080
Speaker 2: do it, because it's almost like a reverence, like they

856
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 2: gonna tell you how to do it, right.

857
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:45,880
Speaker 1: Okay, that's true, you know, so I don't know if

858
00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 1: that's that might a good one if you're just like

859
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 1: if you ask, like, hey, do you would you like

860
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 1: me to would you like me to empty the trash.

861
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: Yeah for you, thank you so much. You know what

862
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Dan, that's different. Now you better just start.

863
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 1: That's where we at, like, you better just start. And

864
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 1: at some point like and then that's the other thing

865
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 1: sometimes with like the cousins, Like if one cousin gets

866
00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:06,719
Speaker 1: up and starts helping, yo, Mama gonna look over at

867
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 1: you and being like, why wasn't that you You see

868
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:14,320
Speaker 1: Sean over there taking the trash out? You know what

869
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 1: I mean? So now I gotta go in there and

870
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 1: you be like, damn Sean, Sean smiling, but you know so, yeah,

871
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:26,799
Speaker 1: that's that's that's that's a good one. So what's another one?

872
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:30,080
Speaker 1: Let me see you got any more off the head

873
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 1: than you could think of it?

874
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:32,719
Speaker 2: I do, but I'm trying to remember the name of

875
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:35,879
Speaker 2: it because it's been so long since I oh wait,

876
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:38,439
Speaker 2: I think I might have it. So the other reason,

877
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:41,239
Speaker 2: the other thing with the theos ones they're drinking is

878
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 2: that at some point someone's gonna throw money in the.

879
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:48,719
Speaker 1: Air, like change It's okay.

880
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,800
Speaker 2: I feel so I just outed myself right now. I

881
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 2: feel like such a hipster.

882
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: Wow, because you don't remember this.

883
00:46:57,120 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's basically where like they're either pulled some

884
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 2: of the change, like the man will or like, uh

885
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 2: just or someone will just know to bring like a

886
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:11,839
Speaker 2: whole bunch of just change. I haven't seen this lately

887
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 2: because I feel like this is more like like recent yeah,

888
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 2: like Mexican households, and you know, I don't think we

889
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 2: have enough around now in terms of like feels, you know,

890
00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 2: and children to like do this anymore. But I remember

891
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:29,480
Speaker 2: growing up at some point in the night, probably by

892
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 2: a deal that had one too many. He's gonna throw

893
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:34,839
Speaker 2: some money in the air and people and then all

894
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:36,279
Speaker 2: the kids are going to rush to try to get

895
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 2: something like almost like a pinata with money.

896
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:40,880
Speaker 1: That's so dope.

897
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:42,840
Speaker 2: Now I gotta look it up. I can't remember what

898
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:44,360
Speaker 2: the name of it, and it's driving me crazy.

899
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 1: Oh man, ain't nothing like that.

900
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 4: Now.

901
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:48,080
Speaker 1: There is definitely an uncle that's going to like hand

902
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 1: you like a dollar, hand you five dollars. I come here,

903
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:57,319
Speaker 1: don't tell you, Mama give you some money. Do y'all

904
00:47:57,440 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 1: have a we're gonna go for a while tradition?

905
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 2: Uh, not that I can think of. Why you have that?

906
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, that means you're gonna go smoke some weed. Oh yeah,

907
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 1: we're gonna go for a walk.

908
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:09,840
Speaker 2: Oh I thought that was like the eldest going for

909
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:10,960
Speaker 2: a while for healthy reasons.

910
00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 1: No, I mean they're finna go so you So it's

911
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 1: like so and you can always tell, like, all right,

912
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:23,280
Speaker 1: so cousin Kirk, cousin, Aaron, cousin, Ben, cousin Daisy.

913
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 2: It's called so. I was very close. I was calling

914
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:30,760
Speaker 2: it volo with the V. But it's a b the boodle.

915
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 1: So all right, and they're gonna go. Well, the point

916
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:37,839
Speaker 1: is they're gonna go smoke. And if these are your

917
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 1: older cousins and they go and you want to go

918
00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 1: for a walk, you've made it. If they invite you

919
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 1: on the walk, Dang, you made it, because it's kind

920
00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 1: of a ride of passage because they gonna go, I

921
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:51,399
Speaker 1: gonna go smoke. Yo, you're finna go for a walk.

922
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 1: Can come now, We'll be all right back. Damn it.

923
00:48:56,840 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 1: Once you go play one to play one video games,

924
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 1: so then you then you stuck in the video game room.

925
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 1: So there's that like that eleven to twelve, thirteen fourteen

926
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 1: window when your seventeen, eighteen, nineteen year old cousins when

927
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 1: they go for they walk, when they finally are like, yeah,

928
00:49:13,680 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 1: come on, then you're like yees yo, saying, even if

929
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: you don't smoke, it's just cool that you that they

930
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: let you go, because that means you understand you you're

931
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:27,399
Speaker 1: in the you're in the circle of trust y'all saying, does.

932
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:29,480
Speaker 2: That mean that you've graduated to now being able to

933
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 2: roast others instead of roast being the one that's.

934
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,960
Speaker 1: You can roast a butve you can roast up. You

935
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 1: can always roast down, okay, but you can't roast up

936
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 1: unless you've crossed that long Now you're in that. Yeah,

937
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 1: Now when you when you eleven thirteen fourteen, you when

938
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:47,719
Speaker 1: you're eleven twelve thirteen, you're actually your roasting skills really

939
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:50,319
Speaker 1: ain't as good as everybody else's. True, So you learn,

940
00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:52,680
Speaker 1: but you learn it right. But if you get a

941
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:54,800
Speaker 1: good clapback, that art of that clap back, if you

942
00:49:54,840 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 1: can get a good one in. Sometimes you got to

943
00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 1: say I'm under your under your breath, and you just

944
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 1: say them to the cousins, so you don't say I'm

945
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,239
Speaker 1: to the person themselves. Like when your auntie come in

946
00:50:03,320 --> 00:50:05,360
Speaker 1: and she got jokes and then when she leave, you

947
00:50:05,480 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 1: start dragging her to the rest of the cousins. It's

948
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 1: pretty hilarious. Yeah, y'all got jokes, but you ain't gonna

949
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:13,800
Speaker 1: say it to her until you cross that cross that threshold.

950
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 2: This is my clapasha clap back.

951
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, the clap back Thanksgiving a Christmas you.

952
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 2: Know community, because you can't really talk back to the

953
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 2: theas that are talking trash about you, uh huh. But

954
00:50:24,680 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 2: man online you can.

955
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:27,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can drag them all line.

956
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:28,359
Speaker 4: Yeah.

957
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:32,279
Speaker 1: Lastly, we'll end with this, so as y'all know we

958
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 1: are a blended, blended black Sikin family. What is the

959
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:43,040
Speaker 1: one thing you've learned from being part of my family

960
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:47,359
Speaker 1: that you was like? Okay, I know now, I'm never

961
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:49,399
Speaker 1: gonna mess this up because I know mine. I'm gonna

962
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:50,280
Speaker 1: tell mine in a second.

963
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 2: Okay, dang, I feel unffair?

964
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:53,239
Speaker 1: Should I go first?

965
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:53,400
Speaker 4: Then?

966
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:54,239
Speaker 1: So you can?

967
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:56,880
Speaker 2: I want to see the one that pupped in my

968
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 2: head right now?

969
00:50:58,000 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 3: Do it.

970
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:11,680
Speaker 2: Y'all's love for aluminum foil is unbelievable. It's like, y'all,

971
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:15,080
Speaker 2: I never heard of that vegetable oil like want to

972
00:51:15,120 --> 00:51:17,600
Speaker 2: be butter buckets that you're supposed to save to take

973
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 2: you know, that's what we do. We reuse our yogurt,

974
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:26,279
Speaker 2: you know, bottles, so you ain't got to use all.

975
00:51:26,200 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 1: That country crop little thing, right.

976
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, that's what you're living with when you take

977
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:32,520
Speaker 2: your food our food.

978
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:37,920
Speaker 1: Yeah na, illuminum foil. It's it's pretty true. I was

979
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:44,360
Speaker 1: gonna say, whatever you do, don't overfill your plate because

980
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:45,680
Speaker 1: you have to eat everything.

981
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 2: Yes, and it's important.

982
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 1: And the problem is and then you gotta time it

983
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 1: because if you eat it too fast, then they gonna think, oh,

984
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:58,600
Speaker 1: you really like it, let me give you more, Let

985
00:51:58,640 --> 00:51:59,400
Speaker 1: me give you more.

986
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 2: Yes, And you're like, oh, so you set yourself up.

987
00:52:02,800 --> 00:52:04,000
Speaker 1: You just set yourself up.

988
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:04,920
Speaker 3: It is.

989
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:10,880
Speaker 1: Deeply offensive to not finish your meal. So you have

990
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 1: to like when whatever they serve and just get you

991
00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:22,080
Speaker 1: one scoop each, Okay, pace yourself right and and yo

992
00:52:22,239 --> 00:52:28,839
Speaker 1: yo out. I found yo out is the liquor. That's

993
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 1: your way out. So if I'm dying, right, but if

994
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 1: if if somebody goes you want a beer, hea vessa,

995
00:52:37,280 --> 00:52:39,239
Speaker 1: then you're like, yeah, yeah, no, let me come with you.

996
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: So then I go with you. That's my out.

997
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 2: And then how do you out yourself from the drinking.

998
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:48,960
Speaker 1: You got? Like you just gotta nurse that one, you

999
00:52:49,200 --> 00:52:51,359
Speaker 1: nurse that one, but then after a while, somebody's gonna

1000
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:53,680
Speaker 1: call you. At that point, that's when you go, I'm

1001
00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 1: gonna check on the kids. So you gotta go check

1002
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 1: on the kids, you know what I'm saying, And just

1003
00:52:57,360 --> 00:53:00,480
Speaker 1: trying to like ham up your your drunkenness, like probably

1004
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 1: not as fade as as he does, because let me

1005
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:04,319
Speaker 1: tell you right now, you can't drink with these people.

1006
00:53:04,320 --> 00:53:07,359
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you that right now. Brothers, fellas, look

1007
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 1: it and just go ahead and grab thigh, Just grab thigh,

1008
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:14,080
Speaker 1: just cut it, just just cut that. Cut that alcohol

1009
00:53:14,080 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 1: a little bit. I'll tell you what white people, if

1010
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:19,200
Speaker 1: you showing up at these houses, Listen, y'all, y'all, y'all

1011
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:23,120
Speaker 1: drinking is very different, y'all get y'all like to mix,

1012
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 1: y'all be it's y'all concoctions of a multiple different types

1013
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:29,760
Speaker 1: of drinks, which is why y'all get so shit faced,

1014
00:53:30,200 --> 00:53:32,799
Speaker 1: like that's not how it happens in our houses. If

1015
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 1: you ship face like that, that's different. Like especially if

1016
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:38,320
Speaker 1: you're a guest and you ship faced, it's a problem,

1017
00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:42,520
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So listen, what you drink.

1018
00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 1: What they drinking. If they drink, that's that's the if.

1019
00:53:45,480 --> 00:53:48,400
Speaker 1: If whatever, he havn't like whatever, that to ya having you?

1020
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:51,320
Speaker 1: If they drinking modelos, you drinking models. If they drinking Pacifico,

1021
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:54,000
Speaker 1: they drinking Gron, you drinking gron. If they haven't tequila shots,

1022
00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:56,320
Speaker 1: you having t squitha shots. You just do what they do.

1023
00:53:56,920 --> 00:53:58,880
Speaker 1: Just don't keep up. You don't have to keep up.

1024
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:01,840
Speaker 1: Just you know, if he pouring a new shot, you

1025
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 1: want more, then just dump out what you got real

1026
00:54:04,120 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: quick and just refill it again and just drink it

1027
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:08,919
Speaker 1: halfway because he's gonna be like what I'm asking. You're like, yeah,

1028
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 1: dump it real quick and so so now, although they

1029
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:15,040
Speaker 1: on seventh, you on fourth. You know what I'm saying,

1030
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:16,439
Speaker 1: that's my that's what I learned.

1031
00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:20,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, so so healthy, so healthy?

1032
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 1: Well yes, well if you follow these simple rules, these nuances,

1033
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 1: these unspoken things where you just you know, show up

1034
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:34,800
Speaker 1: at a time that's not too late but not too early.

1035
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:37,480
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, help out, but don't help

1036
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 1: out because you might be insulted. So clear, Yeah, exactly,

1037
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 1: play a game, be good at it, but not too good, yo, saying,

1038
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:49,080
Speaker 1: know somebody else more than just your significant other. Make

1039
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:50,920
Speaker 1: sure you got friends with somebody else there. You know

1040
00:54:50,960 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. If this is a friend's party again,

1041
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:55,280
Speaker 1: if you invite it over and that's not your girlfriend,

1042
00:54:56,040 --> 00:54:59,759
Speaker 1: you look, they might rob you. It's very like if

1043
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:02,080
Speaker 1: depend on how good you are, especially with black folks,

1044
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:03,960
Speaker 1: you might get robbed. I'm not gonna lie. I can't.

1045
00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 1: I can't protect you from that. And if it's even

1046
00:55:06,040 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 1: if it's my homie and my cousin just robbed you,

1047
00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:10,000
Speaker 1: I'm not. You think I'm gonna say something I'm related

1048
00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:12,200
Speaker 1: to this, Nick, I'm not gonna tell you nothing. I'm sorry.

1049
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:13,719
Speaker 2: Bro. Yeah, you see about the next party.

1050
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:15,680
Speaker 1: You gotta show up at the next party. Homie, like,

1051
00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:18,080
Speaker 1: I don't not to tell you. It's like, hey, your

1052
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:21,399
Speaker 1: uncle took my watch. I'm like, yeah, nah, he crazy.

1053
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:22,799
Speaker 1: You shouldn't have been sitting over there with him.

1054
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:26,360
Speaker 2: Man, how about giving people that heads up before.

1055
00:55:27,480 --> 00:55:30,560
Speaker 1: That's what you don't do. I didn't.

1056
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:31,239
Speaker 2: I didn't do it.

1057
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:33,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, my wife didn't give me.

1058
00:55:33,840 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 2: It's a long story for another day.

1059
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 4: Story.

1060
00:55:35,560 --> 00:55:38,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is this is now an hour h So,

1061
00:55:39,760 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen, once again, the gorgeous, the brilliance, all right,

1062
00:55:46,920 --> 00:55:51,800
Speaker 1: the smash the patriarchy, Drm, Mazara Gosa Petty, thank you.

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Speaker 2: Wow, I should come on here more often than as

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Speaker 2: a guest.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to say, Man, I'm having to drag you

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Speaker 1: to the mic. Can you tell everybody where to follow

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Speaker 1: you on the socials?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm at the dock ZP across the socials. So

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Speaker 2: that's t H E.

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Speaker 1: D O c ZP the doc.

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Speaker 2: And to be real, I don't really post a lot,

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Speaker 2: but to be honest with you, but when I post,

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Speaker 2: it's significant what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Damkay, it's pretty true.

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Speaker 2: It is.

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Speaker 1: She don't talk a lot, but when she do bars Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I agree. All right, well thanks on that note. At least.

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Speaker 2: You're the rest of that home. No, I don't.

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Speaker 1: Look there's limits, all right, y'all, Very good, y'all. This

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Speaker 1: mug was recorded and edited by me Propaganda right here

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Speaker 1: in East Lost Boyle Heights, Los Angeles. Y'all can follow

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Speaker 1: me at prop hip Hop on all the socials. You

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Speaker 1: could follow the Hood Politics pod itself at Hood Politics Pod,

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Speaker 1: where we'd be trying to make takes on stuff that

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Speaker 1: aren't really big enough for a whole episode. But definitely

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Speaker 1: needs a little bit of clarity. This mug was scored, edited, mixed,

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Speaker 1: and mastered by the one and only Headlights. Y'all, go

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Speaker 1: follow my dog Matt Auswelski. I still don't know how

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Speaker 1: to say his name. I'm glad he changed it to Headlights.

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Speaker 1: Follow him on his socials at Headlights. Underscore music telling

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Speaker 1: you hear all these new other fly tracks this will

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Speaker 1: be making, and the theme music was done by the

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Speaker 1: one and only Gold Tips Gold Tips DJ Sean P.

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Speaker 1: Y'all remember every time you check in. If you understand

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Speaker 1: the hood, you could understand politics. Shouts to iHeartMedia for

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Speaker 1: making this happen.

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Speaker 4: In fact, Statut