Speaker 1: The second date date. What's the fastest you've ever gone
Speaker 1: from dating app to first date?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: Wow, that's interesting because usually it takes some your sweet
Speaker 1: talking and finagling little get to know you. You make
Speaker 1: a couple jokes, exchange a couple picks. But Gabe says
Speaker 1: they only sent two messages before they agreed to meet
Speaker 1: up to record.
Speaker 3: What one the messages it had to be more than
Speaker 3: how are you Wow?
Speaker 1: I don't know what it says. It either screamed super
Speaker 1: charming or super desperate? So which one of those would
Speaker 1: you say describes you the best?
Speaker 4: I would say definitely super charming.
Speaker 3: You know, it's okay if you're both desperate at the
Speaker 3: same time. It cancels each other out like two negatives.
Speaker 5: Gabe gave a lot of people can relate. I had
Speaker 5: a girl snap me the other day, Hey, I got
Speaker 5: a pack of butt lights?
Speaker 1: Can I come over?
Speaker 5: And I was like, WHOA well, stranger danger?
Speaker 2: That's yeah, I know.
Speaker 1: She obviously was yes and gave. By the way, that
Speaker 1: was his mom to you're already starting off on a
Speaker 1: higher level than us. Tell us about the woman that
Speaker 1: you met online? Right?
Speaker 4: Yeah? So I met this girl in Abby up a
Speaker 4: dating app, and we didn't really mess her around with
Speaker 4: this small talk right away. And I'm like that anyway,
Speaker 4: so it was kind of perfect. She's like, Hey, I'm
Speaker 4: not a big texture or pen pal person. Let's just meet.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, doing is that the first message she set you?
Speaker 2: Or had you messaged her first?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 4: No, that was on her dating profile.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, so it wasn't special treatment for you.
Speaker 4: Correct. She's very blunt into the point, which I really loved.
Speaker 3: So what did you write to her to make her
Speaker 3: interested in meeting up with you in person?
Speaker 4: Well? I think it wasn't much. It was like, I
Speaker 4: agree with you, let's not get stuck on this app
Speaker 4: in text, let's meet in person. And she had an
Speaker 4: amazing so I knew I was there was attraction, So
Speaker 4: I'm like, great, let's meet.
Speaker 1: That's awesome because you have the entire rest of your
Speaker 1: lives to talk and bore each other and get to
Speaker 1: know each other that way. Let's just cut right to
Speaker 1: the June room.
Speaker 2: I don't know that your total strangers like you, don't.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's one thing when you're like set up
Speaker 3: on a blind date by a friend, you just there's
Speaker 3: some like, well, somebody's vouching for this person.
Speaker 2: True, this is like out of the blue internet stranger.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I didn't really feel if she was a stranger.
Speaker 4: Like she had a nice listing, the stuff on her profile.
Speaker 4: I kind of had an idea of who she was,
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, Like I kind of knew,
Speaker 4: at least in writing, what kind of person she was.
Speaker 4: So I felt comfortable in a big deal.
Speaker 1: That's great. So that is good. Yes, yeah, a little
Speaker 1: little danger is exciting. So what did you guys end
Speaker 1: up doing?
Speaker 4: I mean you obviously met right, Yeah, so we met
Speaker 4: up at a restaurant.
Speaker 2: Are really jumped right into it. I thought for sure
Speaker 2: it would be coffee.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was. It was dinner and she getting to
Speaker 4: know her a little bit. At dinner. She's a very
Speaker 4: to the point person, but still friendly. She wasn't like
Speaker 4: ameanor and is. Then she is a very beautiful, great smile.
Speaker 1: That'd be kind of funny.
Speaker 5: She sits down, She's like, all right, let's get these
Speaker 5: appetisers going. Don't look at me, don't talk to me.
Speaker 5: Let's first, yeah, let's eat and then we'll go from there.
Speaker 3: But it's so different, like you're going into a dinner
Speaker 3: where you know nothing about this person all the other
Speaker 3: days are you know some history right, a little bit.
Speaker 1: But if you get to know people, then that gives
Speaker 1: you reasons to not like that, safer to do that.
Speaker 1: I get it, just like I've never yeah want that.
Speaker 1: No one should ever ask me anything. But did it
Speaker 1: work out well for you? Gab and have you? Yeah?
Speaker 2: What was the conversation?
Speaker 4: Like, it was a great conversation. We talked about family
Speaker 4: and what she's into and what she does outside of work.
Speaker 4: So it was a nice flow. I mean, I'm not
Speaker 4: gonna lie. And then actually, something really cute happened. Some
Speaker 4: little kid came up to our table. He was in
Speaker 4: a like a Superman cape, you know. He came kind
Speaker 4: of running up and she was playing along like, hey, Superman,
Speaker 4: are you here? Can bring a villain? Like she was
Speaker 4: like playing into this kid.
Speaker 3: She said, God, some parents like this is a restaurant.
Speaker 4: Basically I would have been the same way, like kids,
Speaker 4: go scram go with your parents. You're interrupting our day.
Speaker 4: So like she was like charming actually, and so I
Speaker 4: was like, oh and look at I want to have
Speaker 4: kids one day, and so I'm like maybe this would
Speaker 4: be a great mom.
Speaker 2: It's a future milk. You didn't tell her that.
Speaker 3: That's usually a turn off when you hear that on
Speaker 3: a first date you're going to be a great mom.
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, I held off on that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a sweet thought.
Speaker 1: How did the dinner end? So it ended?
Speaker 4: I thought pretty well, And I said to her, you know,
Speaker 4: I'm thinking i'd want another day with you, and she
Speaker 4: kind of laughed and says, we'll see, but in a
Speaker 4: cutey way. But now it's been here, we are a
Speaker 4: week and a half later and nothing. She hasn't responded
Speaker 4: to me, So.
Speaker 3: Maybe she wasn't being as cutesy as you thought when
Speaker 3: she said that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, did I do something wrong? Did I say something?
Speaker 4: I'd like to know where I stand.
Speaker 2: I feel like it's going to be easy if this
Speaker 2: is a direct person.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say.
Speaker 5: That easier to pick up and then it should be
Speaker 5: a short phone call.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but she might be brutally honest, so prepared for that.
Speaker 1: But you would think if she was that brutally honest,
Speaker 1: she would have just told him directly, we're not going
Speaker 1: to hang out again. Hanging Yeah, I don't know. Could
Speaker 1: have been her kid actually in real life, and she
Speaker 1: just wanted to like from Mommy's on the date.
Speaker 2: I told you sit in booth number four, Honey.
Speaker 1: That could have been her little test and you failed.
Speaker 4: Super Boy, God, that really was her kid, then you
Speaker 4: know that's pretty impressive. Bravo to her. I didn't see
Speaker 4: that coming, but the kid didn't look like her by
Speaker 4: the way, it didn't look like her, so I didn't
Speaker 4: think that.
Speaker 2: You better go check your bill make sure you didn't
Speaker 2: pay for kids.
Speaker 1: We're gonna find out for sure when we come back.
Speaker 1: We call this woman and we interrogate her on if
Speaker 1: she's a mom or not, and if she wants to
Speaker 1: go out with you again.
Speaker 2: I think we get come in a little looser than that.
Speaker 1: We're coming hard and fast, like Superman, can we do
Speaker 1: your second date update right after this.
Speaker 4: Date?
Speaker 1: Look, it's a kid a restaurant and he didn't get
Speaker 1: kicked out Because one of our listeners, Gabe, was on
Speaker 1: a date with a woman recently when a super child
Speaker 1: swooped up to their table. Yeah, and the woman he
Speaker 1: was with, named Abby treated him really nicely.
Speaker 3: Shocking, played along, even got into the game of pretend.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like who's the villain? Ah broccoli is my kryptonite. No,
Speaker 1: and when he suggested afterwards that they hang out again,
Speaker 1: Abby replied, we'll see.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 2: She thought was flirting until she stopped calling him.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, directly to the point. And hopefully it's not
Speaker 1: going to take superhero strength to get Gabe another date here,
Speaker 1: because looking around the room, I don't know if we
Speaker 1: have it in a Yeah.
Speaker 3: To be honest, Alexis said she lifted one weight in
Speaker 3: a jim yesterday.
Speaker 2: I did. I'm a little I might be able to
Speaker 2: pull for you.
Speaker 1: Wow, two and a half pounder. Good for you, any chance?
Speaker 1: Never mind, I would have given us more credit. Gabe.
Speaker 1: On a scale of one to ten, how confident are
Speaker 1: you that we're going to get this done for you?
Speaker 4: Probably a six?
Speaker 2: I thought you.
Speaker 1: Said ten.
Speaker 4: Well yeah, then thinking at you guys, I just feel
Speaker 4: like I've done something wrong and I'm a little nervous
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 1: Okay, so you're the reason it's a six. I like
Speaker 1: that we blame you, all right, We're gonna put all
Speaker 1: the blame on you if this goes wrong, but if
Speaker 1: it goes right, one hundred percent of the credit goes
Speaker 1: to us. I like that deal. Let's call this lady
Speaker 1: for you. See, we can get another date. Here we go.
Speaker 3: Hello.
Speaker 1: Hey is this Sabby?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Hey Abby. You may or may not know us, but
Speaker 1: we're a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning,
Speaker 1: and we were hoping we could take a second of
Speaker 1: your time to talk, uh date life.
Speaker 4: What Hi? Hi?
Speaker 2: Abby? Sorry? I almost called you Gabby because I mean
Speaker 2: it kind of makes sense.
Speaker 1: You were laughing at what I said. Sorry, I probably
Speaker 1: talked to her a little bit. I like talking around her. Serious, Gabby,
Speaker 1: what's up?
Speaker 4: You know what?
Speaker 1: I'm mashing the name up with the guy that you
Speaker 1: went out with recently.
Speaker 2: Either, this is all awful.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Abby. You know what, At this point, we're
Speaker 1: just gonna have Alexis takeover. Run the combo people one.
Speaker 1: Where's four of us, a whole room full of us together?
Speaker 4: We make more from you.
Speaker 1: Well, we're a morning show. It's a radio show.
Speaker 6: I'm on the radio.
Speaker 3: Ye.
Speaker 1: We got there when we're doing a segment called a
Speaker 1: second Date Update, and we're trying to help out one
Speaker 1: of our listeners named Gabe, who you met at a
Speaker 1: restaurant recently.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I know.
Speaker 2: Did you have a fun time with Gabe?
Speaker 6: Look here this is the all I like getting to
Speaker 6: know him. I found him to be interesting at first,
Speaker 6: but then he said a bunch of things that are
Speaker 6: pretty out putting to me, and I'm just gonna leave.
Speaker 4: It at that.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean one of the good things he
Speaker 3: said about you is he loved how honest you were,
Speaker 3: and so I don't I don't know that he would
Speaker 3: be hurt to hear what you have to say.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's just a little clueless. I don't think that
Speaker 1: he realizes that he said anything that could have come
Speaker 1: across offensive.
Speaker 6: One of the things that he sent to me at
Speaker 6: first was you look nice in this light.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, Well, because it's in this light, that's the thing.
Speaker 6: There was no light. It was super dark where we were, Like,
Speaker 6: I looked nice in the dark.
Speaker 2: That look.
Speaker 1: I've heard you say this before, like, oh, the lighting
Speaker 1: in here is perfect for me, and things like that.
Speaker 2: I can say that about myself.
Speaker 6: He said more than that. We haven't even gotten to.
Speaker 4: The other things he said.
Speaker 1: Okay, there's more.
Speaker 6: He said, I bet you're so pretty that the guys
Speaker 6: online are throwing themselves at you. What the guys in
Speaker 6: person don't like.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: I think that's a little bit of a stretch.
Speaker 3: I think that maybe you were hurt from the lighting
Speaker 3: comment and then you're like, so now you're looking for
Speaker 3: the backhanded compliments.
Speaker 6: No, like I have nothing else to offer except my look, Like,
Speaker 6: come on, well you.
Speaker 2: Know what's interesting.
Speaker 3: He didn't even bring up your looks when we talked
Speaker 3: to him about what.
Speaker 2: She has other things to offer.
Speaker 3: He talked about how lovely and and and how great
Speaker 3: she was with the kid and what a good person
Speaker 3: she said.
Speaker 1: Kid, you did mention a good moment where a kid
Speaker 1: came up to the table and you were really playful.
Speaker 6: Yeah. He was like so impressed that I shockingly be
Speaker 6: good with kids, Like, of course, I'm good with kids.
Speaker 2: It seems like.
Speaker 1: Every time hold on, you were offended that he said
Speaker 1: that you seem to be good with kids.
Speaker 6: Yeah, like, why wouldn't I be.
Speaker 3: I don't think he meant it as a surprise. He
Speaker 3: just has never met you before, so everything's new.
Speaker 2: And he's blue expectations.
Speaker 3: But I just think you give him a chance, Like
Speaker 3: he's nervous, he's trying to be nice to you.
Speaker 6: I don't see it that way at all.
Speaker 1: Well, you don't have to take it directly from us.
Speaker 1: You can actually hear it straight from Gabe's mouth because
Speaker 1: he's on the other line listening right now, wanting to
Speaker 1: talk to you and not compliment you in any way. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know that, Gabe. Are you there?
Speaker 4: Hey guys, Hey, Abby, Hey, here we are.
Speaker 2: Like this award.
Speaker 1: He's clearly a little bit scared.
Speaker 6: So there's another person on the line too, good guy,
Speaker 6: the one you went out with. This is like a
Speaker 6: crazy party.
Speaker 1: Gabe, talk to Abby, tell her what you meant.
Speaker 4: So. I didn't mean anything like negative or derogatory. I
Speaker 4: was trying to compliment you. I was trying to be flirty.
Speaker 4: I was trying to be duty cheeky, you know what
Speaker 4: I mean. And I don't remember you having an ego
Speaker 4: like you do now I will say that that's but
Speaker 4: I mean, I just I'm shocked to hear all this.
Speaker 4: And when I said you look good in this light,
Speaker 4: you took it in a way that I meant that
Speaker 4: had nothing to do with what you thought. It was like,
Speaker 4: maybe you have some insecurity issues. I don't know.
Speaker 6: Oh, so that's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: Okay, let me just jump in really quick. I think
Speaker 1: what he meant by that is I'm really, really sorry.
Speaker 3: All you have to do is bring Jeff on every
Speaker 3: date you ever go on, and he will interpret in
Speaker 3: the correct way.
Speaker 1: Men have a hard time expressing what they really feel inside,
Speaker 1: so I can translate he's deeply apologetic.
Speaker 6: I am not hearing that at all, Like, GiB why.
Speaker 3: Are you saying things like that, You're being like, you're
Speaker 3: like accusing her of having.
Speaker 2: A big ego and being insecure. Why would you even
Speaker 2: mention that?
Speaker 4: Again, I was being trying to be cute and flirty,
Speaker 4: and now I'm hearing the side of her like which
Speaker 4: came out of nowhere. She didn't say any of this
Speaker 4: during our dinner. I'm just glad I didn't say anything wrong, truly,
Speaker 4: because yes.
Speaker 1: I can understand gave you. You're feeling a little bit
Speaker 1: attacked because she's she's she thinks that you're being insulting
Speaker 1: and you don't feel that way. Maybe this is a
Speaker 1: good chance to hit the reset button and try complimenting
Speaker 1: her in a totally non offensive, completely one hundred percent
Speaker 1: safe way. Every let's give it a shit.
Speaker 2: Do not say you're smart for a woman, Don't say that.
Speaker 1: Don't don't say what Brooks husband tells to her.
Speaker 4: I will compliment you right now again Abby, like I
Speaker 4: did a few times. You are remarkable, You are gorgeous
Speaker 4: and an incredible soon to be mother. And how you
Speaker 4: kind of played with that young kid who came over
Speaker 4: with the super mother?
Speaker 6: What I now to?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 6: Where are you getting this?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 6: What's wrong?
Speaker 4: Like what's happening here? No?
Speaker 6: Enough? Honestly, this has been enough. I didn't need to
Speaker 6: engage in it a second time, quite frankly. So I'm
Speaker 6: just word of advice next time you go out with
Speaker 6: a woman, a beautiful woman, a lovely woman. I mean,
Speaker 6: maybe you just try not to shame her all the time. Okay,
Speaker 6: I don't.
Speaker 2: Think it's not a bad piece of advice of course.
Speaker 1: Gave you can compliment her on that nice piece of
Speaker 1: advice that she gave you.
Speaker 4: That was a wonderful piece of advice. Abby. I'm going
Speaker 4: to take it to heart, and I'm going to make
Speaker 4: a note in my journal about it when I write tonight.
Speaker 4: So I appreciate that, and I wish you the best.
Speaker 4: You're You're beautiful, You're charming. I don't have an ego.
Speaker 6: We're done wonderful.
Speaker 1: Gonna ask we still need to.
Speaker 5: I think technically their chemistry is off, like no one's
Speaker 5: done anything crazy.
Speaker 2: This happen if they texted before they went on.
Speaker 1: It's a good point. But we would love to offer
Speaker 1: to send you guys out to meet up one more time.
Speaker 1: Well it's a no from Abby. It sounds like, but Gabe,
Speaker 1: I haven't heard from you. Are you still in a
Speaker 1: solo date by yourself?
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I mean if you guys are paying, I
Speaker 4: wouldn't mind that. That's nice.
Speaker 1: Okay, practice, yes, by yourself, maybe across from a mirror
Speaker 1: is at.
Speaker 5: A lowlit diner, just talking to himself.
Speaker 1: Getting super offended by the things that he said.
Speaker 3: Brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well that was one of those second dates that
Speaker 1: escalates quickly and we don't know what to do with it.
Speaker 3: You know, it's like, how could two opposite people just
Speaker 3: find each other? Yeah, I know, they just don't go
Speaker 3: well together.
Speaker 1: They did, Brook, though. I do have to give it
Speaker 1: to you here because for what you were very calm
Speaker 1: and rational and all when talking to the callers today
Speaker 1: and not emotional and controller like normal. I was impressed,
Speaker 1: is what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 2: That is what we call it backhand compliment. Jeffrey.
Speaker 4: No, I'm just.
Speaker 1: Saying that you were so poised that I hardly even
Speaker 1: noticed your mismatched outfit. Okay, you can't to that I'm
Speaker 1: giving you a compliment. I said, I did not know
Speaker 1: that it's getting the years round.
Speaker 3: If it was anyone else, i'd take offense to it.
Speaker 2: But jeff and I don't really care about his opinion.
Speaker 1: I think that you're hearing what you want to hear that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and just the fact that you're hearing it all at
Speaker 1: your age is so let's give a lost everybody.
Speaker 2: I can't let's get I can't hear.
Speaker 1: That studio loves you. That's what I'm trying to say. Remember,
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Speaker 1: you can email the show. We'll call that person wasn't
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