Speaker 1: Have we told you lately how much we love you
Speaker 1: being here?
Speaker 2: Hey, yeah we do, we do.
Speaker 1: It's true. Welcome to your brand new second date. This
Speaker 1: is the podcast. It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning,
Speaker 1: and we do have a brand new second date coming up.
Speaker 1: But first we've got to reflect on yesterday's awkward Tuesday
Speaker 1: phone call. Yeah, the proposal fails and then non athleic Yeah,
Speaker 1: she didn't want to get married to him, supposedly because
Speaker 1: he wouldn't give her athletic genetics. Yeah, so what are
Speaker 1: people saying?
Speaker 3: Yeah, we got one person said I want to put
Speaker 3: my head in the oven.
Speaker 2: After hearing her excuses.
Speaker 3: Okay, someone else said, knowing a proposals coming soon, and
Speaker 3: as a fellow listener with my partner, I'm totally stealing
Speaker 3: the non athletic children as a joke for the future.
Speaker 1: God. Yeah, okay, make sure it's not actually while they're
Speaker 1: down on a knee, yeah you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And then a lot of I would break up
Speaker 3: with her. He should have dumped her. Why is it
Speaker 3: such a simp? Hey, Brooke is ninety nine percent right here?
Speaker 1: Oh wait that why are people shut I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't either. Yes, we'll see how right I am today.
Speaker 1: Let's go to it though, Let's get your brand new
Speaker 1: Second Date update. Go and it starts right.
Speaker 2: Now, Second Date Updated. You can't spell desperation without Brooke
Speaker 2: and Jeffrey in the morning, I can't spell well, but
Speaker 2: I think that's right.
Speaker 1: That's absolutely correct.
Speaker 2: Pretty much. Desperation is what made our listener email us
Speaker 2: for help today. I'm not saying he's desperate, but you
Speaker 2: know what it feels like when you've tried every other option,
Speaker 2: You've exhausted every good idea, You've reached out to every
Speaker 2: other reputable company and are getting nothing back. Eventually you say, fine,
Speaker 2: I'll talk to Brook and Jeffrey.
Speaker 1: No, it doesn't feel as good to be the last
Speaker 1: resort when you explain it that way.
Speaker 2: The fact that we are a resort should feel good.
Speaker 2: We are on the list, even if it's at the
Speaker 2: very bottom. And that's what made our listener, Absolutely that's
Speaker 2: what made our listener, Dorman, email the show for help today. Dorman,
Speaker 2: it's an absolute pleasure to have you. Welcome to the show.
Speaker 2: Fun name is that's your real name? Dorman?
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you guys for having.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well, desperate times.
Speaker 2: We are excited to have you on the show. Tell
Speaker 2: us about the woman that you are trying to get
Speaker 2: a hold of. What's her name?
Speaker 4: Her name is Jilanda.
Speaker 1: Okay, where'd you guys meet?
Speaker 4: We met online, And what made her stand out to
Speaker 4: me was like, obviously I thought she was very attractive
Speaker 4: and cute, but like just her prompts and stuff, she
Speaker 4: seemed really intentional and playful at the same time.
Speaker 2: She's sorry, what do you mean by intentional? What does
Speaker 2: that mean to you?
Speaker 4: To me, that means like somebody who's actually like being
Speaker 4: honest and transparent. She took the time to fill out
Speaker 4: her actual profile. It wasn't just like one or two
Speaker 4: word answers.
Speaker 1: You know, can I ask what your favorite? Thing that
Speaker 1: she wrote was.
Speaker 4: Yeah, forget like the exact wording of it, but it
Speaker 4: was like a joke about like Harry Potter and like
Speaker 4: she had a tattoo of it, and people just thought, like,
Speaker 4: it's the little Lightning Strike. But people just thought it
Speaker 4: was about the Flash, the superhero.
Speaker 1: Oh, okay, she's got weird tattoos. It's not weird cool
Speaker 1: old tattoos and old people were the only ones that
Speaker 1: would associate it with the Flash, right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, what is that.
Speaker 2: I mean, there's a new Flash TV show that's airing
Speaker 2: right now, pretty big. I didn't want to call her out.
Speaker 3: I didn't know that either.
Speaker 1: You're just going to insult the Flash like a seventies
Speaker 1: superhero or something.
Speaker 5: I think all the superheroes are coming back play the Flash.
Speaker 2: No, alexis they picked the first ugly guy ever to
Speaker 2: be the star. Then I don't care anymore about it.
Speaker 2: So good. So bottom line is you appreciated her and
Speaker 2: her profiles. So tell us about how you interacted with her,
Speaker 2: Like what was your date?
Speaker 4: So I was thrilled that she wanted to go out.
Speaker 4: I picked this spot. It's like really known for their chili.
Speaker 4: It's supposed to be like world famous.
Speaker 2: Chilly is a great first date food, Like people love chili.
Speaker 2: I mean my point was that you don't think of
Speaker 2: chili as a really romantic food that you want to
Speaker 2: eat and then make out afterwards. So that, yeah, you
Speaker 2: can be a little but I guess going on an
Speaker 2: adventure to taste the best chili in town that could
Speaker 2: be a bonding experience, right, So.
Speaker 4: How did that go? So it was good. I'm going
Speaker 4: to be like really transparent with you guys, like because
Speaker 4: I'm asking you for help. So like at the restaurant,
Speaker 4: I did catch myself rambling, and when I reflect on that,
Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, that's nervousness and maybe him of insecurity.
Speaker 4: Like I was just like, this girl is so cool
Speaker 4: and I haven't had a girlfriend in a while, and
Speaker 4: she would be an awesome girlfriend. She's smart, she's funny.
Speaker 4: She was like super self aware of everything.
Speaker 2: See yourself with somebody.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it sounds like you have a lot of
Speaker 1: self awareness. I mean you maybe have babbled a little bit.
Speaker 4: But it gets worse a little bit. Maybe I don't know.
Speaker 2: Okay, how does it get worse?
Speaker 4: Well, I just told her I'm close to my mom,
Speaker 4: and like I talked to her daily and there's a
Speaker 4: tradition from years ago where like every Friday before I
Speaker 4: go to work, I go to my mom's place to
Speaker 4: see her, and she always like packs my lunch for me.
Speaker 1: Oh she packs your lunch.
Speaker 4: Yeah, just kind of like how she used to when
Speaker 4: I was a kid. You know.
Speaker 5: Okay, well at least you know again self aware, right, bro?
Speaker 2: Yeah, this could be it.
Speaker 1: What was her reaction?
Speaker 4: I mean, in the moment, she was super nice. She
Speaker 4: was just listening. I kept rambling and then I changed
Speaker 4: the subject to something else. But I don't know how
Speaker 4: it landed.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, that's a lot.
Speaker 2: You wouldn't take that guy home immediately Brook after he
Speaker 2: came out with that information.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think if you just said every Friday, I
Speaker 1: go see my mom, awesome, perfect, awesome.
Speaker 2: It was the details that the lunch.
Speaker 6: And the childhood.
Speaker 1: But what if the mom would pack her lunch too?
Speaker 2: Then you get too first. Okay, make all of us lunch,
Speaker 2: not your mother. If it doesn't work out with Yolanda,
Speaker 2: hear Alexis is ready to jump on board with you.
Speaker 5: And your.
Speaker 3: I would need to see the menu.
Speaker 4: Him.
Speaker 1: All you need is on Crossable every Friday.
Speaker 2: All right? So your mom might be on the hook
Speaker 2: here soon. But how did the date with you and
Speaker 2: Yolanda end?
Speaker 4: Overall? It was good, but I will say it wasn't
Speaker 4: the longest date because I didn't think the chili thing through.
Speaker 4: I was like, I gotta hit the restroom.
Speaker 2: Oh no, it dick.
Speaker 1: So you're the one that ended things early and you
Speaker 1: had to rush home to use the restroom.
Speaker 4: And I'm the one that drove her there, so I
Speaker 4: was like, you know, I have to keep this all together.
Speaker 4: Still drive her back home before I get home to myself.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, sometimes something ends the day and you're not
Speaker 2: expecting it totally, or speeding at eighty miles per hour
Speaker 2: home might hit that something's wrong with a bumper sticker
Speaker 2: on the back of your car that said we just
Speaker 2: had the best chili in town.
Speaker 5: Look out, there's a little bit of regret.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know, I was just in my defense
Speaker 4: trying to avoid any awkward situations in the car.
Speaker 1: Totally totally. I mean it could happen to anybody.
Speaker 2: So how long has it been since that date happened?
Speaker 4: Eight days now?
Speaker 2: Okay, I mean eight days. It could have taken her
Speaker 2: that long to recover from the chili dinner, so maybe
Speaker 2: she just needed a little extra time hot chilli.
Speaker 1: I'm really hoping we were done with talking about this part.
Speaker 2: We actually we'll have to see when we call Yolanda
Speaker 2: and try and get you a second date update, a
Speaker 2: successful one coming out right after this. Hold on second
Speaker 2: date update. If you're just joining us, let's recap the
Speaker 2: highlights from Dorman's first date. A couple big bowls of
Speaker 2: chili there were a few stories of Dorman's mom making
Speaker 2: his lunch still to this day.
Speaker 3: Just like Fridays on Fridays and he's.
Speaker 2: Only thirty four years old, followed by a rocket ship
Speaker 2: car ride back to Yolanda's house because the chili was
Speaker 2: starting to kick in. It sounds like you put a
Speaker 2: corner in one of those machines outside of like a store.
Speaker 2: That's what it felt like to his insides. I'm sure
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: What we didn't ask is if he even came to
Speaker 1: a full stop before she got out of the car.
Speaker 2: Gorman, did you make her tucking roll out the vehicle
Speaker 2: before you sped home?
Speaker 4: No, but she's the first girl in a long time
Speaker 4: that has girlfriend potential.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, listen, if she can see past all of this,
Speaker 1: then she may be the right person for material.
Speaker 2: We're going to do our very best to go to
Speaker 2: bat for you and make sure you lock down a
Speaker 2: second date with Yolanda. Are you ready to do this? Man?
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do it, all right?
Speaker 2: Is your mom ready to do this? She's not behind you.
Speaker 1: If she was back on the speaker phone, I swear
Speaker 1: me this time.
Speaker 2: All right, work with what we've got here we go. Hello, Hey,
Speaker 2: is this Yolanda?
Speaker 4: Ah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, this is a radio show called Brooke and
Speaker 2: jaf Free in the Morning.
Speaker 1: A great question, rights to the point, I've.
Speaker 2: Heard better questions. But you know what, I'll answer this one.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 2: This it's a segment that we do. It's called a
Speaker 2: second date update.
Speaker 7: Okay, and I still don't know where you guys are
Speaker 7: calling me?
Speaker 2: Okay, So the second date update is where we have
Speaker 2: a listener who isn't sure why they're not getting a
Speaker 2: call back for another meetup after they went out with
Speaker 2: a lovely person.
Speaker 7: I'm so sorry, guys, I really feel like you might
Speaker 7: have the wrong person.
Speaker 2: Well, okay, if you don't have been any dates lightly
Speaker 2: the fact fact, Yeah, we we got your number from
Speaker 2: a guy you went out with recently named Dorman. There's
Speaker 2: probably more than one. It's a pretty common name. I've
Speaker 2: never heard that name.
Speaker 1: I have so many dormans in my life.
Speaker 2: Does that ring a bell? Dorman?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I know who that is.
Speaker 7: Why did you give you my number? I don't that part.
Speaker 7: I don't get well.
Speaker 2: Because he felt like the two of you had a
Speaker 2: really nice time going out to the chili restaurant.
Speaker 1: I mean, he honestly had so really lovely compliments he
Speaker 1: gave about you when we talked to him.
Speaker 4: So that's why you're calling.
Speaker 2: Me, Well, it's because he liked you and he's confused
Speaker 2: why there hasn't been another meetup.
Speaker 1: Are you upset with him? Because you sound kind of.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, this is so weird.
Speaker 2: Is it just weird question at all?
Speaker 7: It's weird because there's like, I don't even know how
Speaker 7: many people are on the phone, and you're asking me
Speaker 7: about details from a date, Like, that's just weird.
Speaker 2: I understand that this suns definitely a lot. It can
Speaker 2: be really overwhelming. So maybe we can just cut to
Speaker 2: the chase. We just want to know, is there one
Speaker 2: main reason, one big red flag for why you're not
Speaker 2: wanting to see Dormant again. We're not trying to.
Speaker 1: Check you or anything not yet.
Speaker 4: Oh I'll just say this.
Speaker 7: We were at dinner and he brought up a really
Speaker 7: uncomfortable conversation that like didn't sit well with me.
Speaker 2: Oh man, we kind of know what that is. He
Speaker 2: did say something new, something involving his mother.
Speaker 7: Maybe no, no, I had nothing to with his mom.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 7: He he wrought the fact that he had him been
Speaker 7: with a woman romantically in three years he.
Speaker 2: Told you that way physically he hasn't. Okay, how did
Speaker 2: that come up?
Speaker 7: It didn't, It didn't come up. He just said it
Speaker 7: to me and he then he followed it up with
Speaker 7: like looking at me dead in the eye, and he's like,
Speaker 7: I hope that can change soon.
Speaker 1: Even respond to that, what did you say?
Speaker 2: I mean, No, I didn't say anything. He did say
Speaker 2: that he was rambling a lot during the day and
Speaker 2: was just saying every thought that came to his mind.
Speaker 2: Maybe that was one of them.
Speaker 1: He was really nervous.
Speaker 4: Nervous, But like, why make me nervous too?
Speaker 2: Well, I think he's excited. You check a lot of
Speaker 2: boxes for him, and it's probably more common than you
Speaker 2: would think, like a Lexus, that's happened to you multiple times. Right,
Speaker 2: I would totally date those people.
Speaker 7: I would totally give them another chance.
Speaker 1: You don't have to, Okay, I can see I can
Speaker 1: see where that would be pretty shocking on a day
Speaker 1: A different thing to say.
Speaker 4: Okay, so now you know I'm going to go now, well.
Speaker 2: Hold on, it's really important that we know, but it's
Speaker 2: actually more important that Dorman knows that. And well, I
Speaker 2: don't have to because he's on the other line listening
Speaker 2: to this right now and wanting to talk.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, are you serious?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry, Dorman. Are you there?
Speaker 6: Yeah, buddy, Dorman, say hi to Yolanda. Say something, Hilda, Hi, Okay, apologize,
Speaker 6: I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: We were having chili. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just chili brings up.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 7: I don't know why you would tell your date that
Speaker 7: you hadn't had sex in three years.
Speaker 4: It's a lot. The chili was spicy. We were talking
Speaker 4: about our love life while eating it, and fun fact,
Speaker 4: I just haven't done it in a while. It had
Speaker 4: just started rambling and when I get nervous.
Speaker 7: I've never you're in front of a bowl of chili
Speaker 7: a youth feel like.
Speaker 3: That's good.
Speaker 7: A lot of girls are gonna test that on their boyfriend.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's kind of like that interview show The
Speaker 1: Hot Ones. People people confess things they don't realize they
Speaker 1: were going to say because they're just not in control
Speaker 1: of what's happening.
Speaker 4: Yes, I don't know why it came out. I'm sorry
Speaker 4: that it did. But now it's out publicly, so I
Speaker 4: have to depend. But it came out of done.
Speaker 7: It doesn't matter who brought it up, you're the one.
Speaker 4: Who said it on a first date. Like that's so weird.
Speaker 4: I mean, it's not weird. Making love is natural thing.
Speaker 4: That's just not happening perfectly, don't I wish that it was,
Speaker 4: and I was just expressing it.
Speaker 7: You tell me women that makes it even less likely
Speaker 7: to happen.
Speaker 1: Okay, wait, wait, wait though, I mean listen, you don't.
Speaker 4: Think I know this. My mom says the same thing.
Speaker 7: You tell your mom about your lack of intimacy.
Speaker 4: I'm not the one that brings it up. Okay, she
Speaker 4: just tells me that like her and dad do it
Speaker 4: more often.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's not let's not talk anymore.
Speaker 7: I didn't think I could be more turned off at
Speaker 7: the start.
Speaker 4: Of this call, but congratulations, he didn't.
Speaker 7: Wait now, I don't know if I'm going to have
Speaker 7: sex for three years.
Speaker 4: I hope you don't. Then you'll know what it feels like.
Speaker 7: Okay, oh my god, I can't with you more than anything.
Speaker 1: You want to go back after a date and tell
Speaker 1: his mom, Okay.
Speaker 2: This is not going darning. I mean, maybe maybe it's
Speaker 2: going a little bit better.
Speaker 1: What that his conversation with his mom about his mom's
Speaker 1: sex lightly.
Speaker 2: Well, it's his mom's fault that she's rubbing that into
Speaker 2: her son's face. You know what, Dorman, shame on your
Speaker 2: mom for bragging to you about how much action she's
Speaker 2: getting from your dad.
Speaker 4: Hey, let's leave the mothers out of it.
Speaker 2: Okay, you were the one who brought it up. That
Speaker 2: was your information.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you brought it up. Okay, not on the radio.
Speaker 4: That was over an intimate bowl of chili.
Speaker 2: Okay, that was a private bowl of chili.
Speaker 1: I cannot believe it was this and not the other
Speaker 1: things that.
Speaker 2: We had dormant.
Speaker 7: You need to stop talking because every sentence you say
Speaker 7: makes it worse.
Speaker 4: Okay, you know what, at this point, guys, I'm sorry,
Speaker 4: I'm getting nervous, getting rambling, upset everything that I need
Speaker 4: it too. I'm just gonna keep talking. Like fun. Fact
Speaker 4: even went out getting it three years ago. It wasn't
Speaker 4: that great, and you know I wasn't even like the fu.
Speaker 2: We don't want details.
Speaker 4: Okay, we've heard enough, but I just think there's a
Speaker 4: connection here that we should stop talking.
Speaker 2: Okay, he's going to stop talking, and I'm just going
Speaker 2: to pick it up and offer to send you to
Speaker 2: on another day, and we would well, we would be
Speaker 2: Alda would have changed your mind at all if it's
Speaker 2: not chilly. No, it's possible.
Speaker 1: That Jeff thought that was the issue.
Speaker 2: Seems to be the thing that's bringing up all of
Speaker 2: these deep seated memories. And though Cob Salad I appreciate it,
Speaker 2: some people are just too judgmental, you know the issue.
Speaker 2: That's well said Dorman, and we appreciate you coming on
Speaker 2: the show and being open with us, far too open
Speaker 2: for anybody to be comfortable with.
Speaker 5: But you know what a break after this the other room.
Speaker 2: We all wish you a lot of luck getting over
Speaker 2: your hill that you're trying to climb here.
Speaker 4: King.
Speaker 2: Yeah, free in the morning, brookie've had a few moments
Speaker 2: to recover after that fiasco. Are you feeling any better
Speaker 2: about what we just heard?
Speaker 1: Oh my, I honestly think that he's a good person
Speaker 1: and that he like I don't think he means to.
Speaker 5: Be socially awkward, so open to close it down a
Speaker 5: little bit, buddy, Yeah, I don't think we've ever had
Speaker 5: somebody on the show in the middle of a date.
Speaker 2: Admit, I haven't gotten action from a woman in three years,
Speaker 2: But I'm hoping that's going to change looking at you.
Speaker 2: At least he didn't say never. I mean that's yeah.
Speaker 2: Think he's got hope crazy.
Speaker 1: She was like, Oh, I get to be the lucky.
Speaker 2: One because I'm a believer in manifestation, in the trying
Speaker 2: to put your wants out there into the world. I
Speaker 2: don't think this is quite the right way to do it.
Speaker 1: That's the world into your date.
Speaker 2: Although who knows, maybe after this Dorman's gonna have twelve
Speaker 2: women in a single week, almost as many sessions as
Speaker 2: his mom and dad have. H keep dreaming, Dorman, I'm
Speaker 2: still looking for someone to text in to go out
Speaker 2: with him. Yeah, I'm literally looking. Somebody's out there for him,
Speaker 2: and there's somebody out there for everybody. If you need
Speaker 2: some help in your dating life, email the show. We
Speaker 2: can call that person who's not calling you back. Go
Speaker 2: check out all of our second dates wherever you get
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