WEBVTT - Second Date Update: There's A Chili In The Air

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<v Speaker 1>Have we told you lately how much we love you

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<v Speaker 1>being here?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, yeah we do, we do.

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<v Speaker 1>It's true. Welcome to your brand new second date. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the podcast. It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>and we do have a brand new second date coming up.

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<v Speaker 1>But first we've got to reflect on yesterday's awkward Tuesday

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<v Speaker 1>phone call. Yeah, the proposal fails and then non athleic Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she didn't want to get married to him, supposedly because

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<v Speaker 1>he wouldn't give her athletic genetics. Yeah, so what are

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<v Speaker 1>people saying?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we got one person said I want to put

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<v Speaker 3>my head in the oven.

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<v Speaker 2>After hearing her excuses.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, someone else said, knowing a proposals coming soon, and

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<v Speaker 3>as a fellow listener with my partner, I'm totally stealing

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<v Speaker 3>the non athletic children as a joke for the future.

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<v Speaker 1>God. Yeah, okay, make sure it's not actually while they're

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<v Speaker 1>down on a knee, yeah you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And then a lot of I would break up

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<v Speaker 3>with her. He should have dumped her. Why is it

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<v Speaker 3>such a simp? Hey, Brooke is ninety nine percent right here?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait that why are people shut I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't either. Yes, we'll see how right I am today.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go to it though, Let's get your brand new

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<v Speaker 1>Second Date update. Go and it starts right.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, Second Date Updated. You can't spell desperation without Brooke

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<v Speaker 2>and Jeffrey in the morning, I can't spell well, but

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's right.

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<v Speaker 1>That's absolutely correct.

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<v Speaker 2>Pretty much. Desperation is what made our listener email us

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<v Speaker 2>for help today. I'm not saying he's desperate, but you

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<v Speaker 2>know what it feels like when you've tried every other option,

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<v Speaker 2>You've exhausted every good idea, You've reached out to every

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<v Speaker 2>other reputable company and are getting nothing back. Eventually you say, fine,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll talk to Brook and Jeffrey.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it doesn't feel as good to be the last

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<v Speaker 1>resort when you explain it that way.

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<v Speaker 2>The fact that we are a resort should feel good.

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<v Speaker 2>We are on the list, even if it's at the

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<v Speaker 2>very bottom. And that's what made our listener, Absolutely that's

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<v Speaker 2>what made our listener, Dorman, email the show for help today. Dorman,

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<v Speaker 2>it's an absolute pleasure to have you. Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 2>Fun name is that's your real name? Dorman?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, thank you guys for having.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, well, desperate times.

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<v Speaker 2>We are excited to have you on the show. Tell

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<v Speaker 2>us about the woman that you are trying to get

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<v Speaker 2>a hold of. What's her name?

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<v Speaker 4>Her name is Jilanda.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, where'd you guys meet?

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<v Speaker 4>We met online, And what made her stand out to

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<v Speaker 4>me was like, obviously I thought she was very attractive

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<v Speaker 4>and cute, but like just her prompts and stuff, she

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<v Speaker 4>seemed really intentional and playful at the same time.

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<v Speaker 2>She's sorry, what do you mean by intentional? What does

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<v Speaker 2>that mean to you?

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<v Speaker 4>To me, that means like somebody who's actually like being

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<v Speaker 4>honest and transparent. She took the time to fill out

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<v Speaker 4>her actual profile. It wasn't just like one or two

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<v Speaker 4>word answers.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, can I ask what your favorite? Thing that

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<v Speaker 1>she wrote was.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, forget like the exact wording of it, but it

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<v Speaker 4>was like a joke about like Harry Potter and like

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<v Speaker 4>she had a tattoo of it, and people just thought, like,

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<v Speaker 4>it's the little Lightning Strike. But people just thought it

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<v Speaker 4>was about the Flash, the superhero.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, okay, she's got weird tattoos. It's not weird cool

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<v Speaker 1>old tattoos and old people were the only ones that

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<v Speaker 1>would associate it with the Flash, right.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, what is that.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, there's a new Flash TV show that's airing

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<v Speaker 2>right now, pretty big. I didn't want to call her out.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't know that either.

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<v Speaker 1>You're just going to insult the Flash like a seventies

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<v Speaker 1>superhero or something.

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<v Speaker 5>I think all the superheroes are coming back play the Flash.

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<v Speaker 2>No, alexis they picked the first ugly guy ever to

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<v Speaker 2>be the star. Then I don't care anymore about it.

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<v Speaker 2>So good. So bottom line is you appreciated her and

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<v Speaker 2>her profiles. So tell us about how you interacted with her,

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<v Speaker 2>Like what was your date?

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<v Speaker 4>So I was thrilled that she wanted to go out.

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<v Speaker 4>I picked this spot. It's like really known for their chili.

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<v Speaker 4>It's supposed to be like world famous.

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<v Speaker 2>Chilly is a great first date food, Like people love chili.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean my point was that you don't think of

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<v Speaker 2>chili as a really romantic food that you want to

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<v Speaker 2>eat and then make out afterwards. So that, yeah, you

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<v Speaker 2>can be a little but I guess going on an

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<v Speaker 2>adventure to taste the best chili in town that could

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<v Speaker 2>be a bonding experience, right, So.

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<v Speaker 4>How did that go? So it was good. I'm going

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<v Speaker 4>to be like really transparent with you guys, like because

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<v Speaker 4>I'm asking you for help. So like at the restaurant,

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<v Speaker 4>I did catch myself rambling, and when I reflect on that,

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, Okay, that's nervousness and maybe him of insecurity.

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<v Speaker 4>Like I was just like, this girl is so cool

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<v Speaker 4>and I haven't had a girlfriend in a while, and

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<v Speaker 4>she would be an awesome girlfriend. She's smart, she's funny.

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<v Speaker 4>She was like super self aware of everything.

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<v Speaker 2>See yourself with somebody.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and it sounds like you have a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>self awareness. I mean you maybe have babbled a little bit.

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<v Speaker 4>But it gets worse a little bit. Maybe I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, how does it get worse?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I just told her I'm close to my mom,

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<v Speaker 4>and like I talked to her daily and there's a

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<v Speaker 4>tradition from years ago where like every Friday before I

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<v Speaker 4>go to work, I go to my mom's place to

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<v Speaker 4>see her, and she always like packs my lunch for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh she packs your lunch.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, just kind of like how she used to when

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<v Speaker 4>I was a kid. You know.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, well at least you know again self aware, right, bro?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this could be it.

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<v Speaker 1>What was her reaction?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, in the moment, she was super nice. She

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<v Speaker 4>was just listening. I kept rambling and then I changed

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<v Speaker 4>the subject to something else. But I don't know how

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<v Speaker 4>it landed.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, yeah, that's a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>You wouldn't take that guy home immediately Brook after he

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<v Speaker 2>came out with that information.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, I think if you just said every Friday, I

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<v Speaker 1>go see my mom, awesome, perfect, awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>It was the details that the lunch.

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<v Speaker 6>And the childhood.

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<v Speaker 1>But what if the mom would pack her lunch too?

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<v Speaker 2>Then you get too first. Okay, make all of us lunch,

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<v Speaker 2>not your mother. If it doesn't work out with Yolanda,

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<v Speaker 2>hear Alexis is ready to jump on board with you.

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<v Speaker 5>And your.

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<v Speaker 3>I would need to see the menu.

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<v Speaker 4>Him.

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<v Speaker 1>All you need is on Crossable every Friday.

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<v Speaker 2>All right? So your mom might be on the hook

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<v Speaker 2>here soon. But how did the date with you and

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<v Speaker 2>Yolanda end?

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<v Speaker 4>Overall? It was good, but I will say it wasn't

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<v Speaker 4>the longest date because I didn't think the chili thing through.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, I gotta hit the restroom.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, it dick.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're the one that ended things early and you

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<v Speaker 1>had to rush home to use the restroom.

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm the one that drove her there, so I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, you know, I have to keep this all together.

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<v Speaker 4>Still drive her back home before I get home to myself.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, okay, sometimes something ends the day and you're not

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<v Speaker 2>expecting it totally, or speeding at eighty miles per hour

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<v Speaker 2>home might hit that something's wrong with a bumper sticker

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<v Speaker 2>on the back of your car that said we just

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<v Speaker 2>had the best chili in town.

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<v Speaker 5>Look out, there's a little bit of regret.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and you know, I was just in my defense

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<v Speaker 4>trying to avoid any awkward situations in the car.

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<v Speaker 1>Totally totally. I mean it could happen to anybody.

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<v Speaker 2>So how long has it been since that date happened?

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<v Speaker 4>Eight days now?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I mean eight days. It could have taken her

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<v Speaker 2>that long to recover from the chili dinner, so maybe

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<v Speaker 2>she just needed a little extra time hot chilli.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really hoping we were done with talking about this part.

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<v Speaker 2>We actually we'll have to see when we call Yolanda

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<v Speaker 2>and try and get you a second date update, a

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<v Speaker 2>successful one coming out right after this. Hold on second

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<v Speaker 2>date update. If you're just joining us, let's recap the

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<v Speaker 2>highlights from Dorman's first date. A couple big bowls of

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<v Speaker 2>chili there were a few stories of Dorman's mom making

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<v Speaker 2>his lunch still to this day.

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<v Speaker 3>Just like Fridays on Fridays and he's.

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<v Speaker 2>Only thirty four years old, followed by a rocket ship

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<v Speaker 2>car ride back to Yolanda's house because the chili was

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<v Speaker 2>starting to kick in. It sounds like you put a

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<v Speaker 2>corner in one of those machines outside of like a store.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what it felt like to his insides. I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>What we didn't ask is if he even came to

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<v Speaker 1>a full stop before she got out of the car.

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<v Speaker 2>Gorman, did you make her tucking roll out the vehicle

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<v Speaker 2>before you sped home?

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<v Speaker 4>No, but she's the first girl in a long time

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<v Speaker 4>that has girlfriend potential.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Well, listen, if she can see past all of this,

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<v Speaker 1>then she may be the right person for material.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to do our very best to go to

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<v Speaker 2>bat for you and make sure you lock down a

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<v Speaker 2>second date with Yolanda. Are you ready to do this? Man?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, let's do it, all right?

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<v Speaker 2>Is your mom ready to do this? She's not behind you.

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<v Speaker 1>If she was back on the speaker phone, I swear

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<v Speaker 1>me this time.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, work with what we've got here we go. Hello, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>is this Yolanda?

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<v Speaker 4>Ah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, this is a radio show called Brooke and

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<v Speaker 2>jaf Free in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>A great question, rights to the point, I've.

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<v Speaker 2>Heard better questions. But you know what, I'll answer this one.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh.

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<v Speaker 2>This it's a segment that we do. It's called a

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<v Speaker 2>second date update.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, and I still don't know where you guys are

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<v Speaker 7>calling me?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So the second date update is where we have

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<v Speaker 2>a listener who isn't sure why they're not getting a

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<v Speaker 2>call back for another meetup after they went out with

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<v Speaker 2>a lovely person.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm so sorry, guys, I really feel like you might

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<v Speaker 7>have the wrong person.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, okay, if you don't have been any dates lightly

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<v Speaker 2>the fact fact, Yeah, we we got your number from

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<v Speaker 2>a guy you went out with recently named Dorman. There's

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<v Speaker 2>probably more than one. It's a pretty common name. I've

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<v Speaker 2>never heard that name.

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<v Speaker 1>I have so many dormans in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>Does that ring a bell? Dorman?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>I know who that is.

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<v Speaker 7>Why did you give you my number? I don't that part.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't get well.

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<v Speaker 2>Because he felt like the two of you had a

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<v Speaker 2>really nice time going out to the chili restaurant.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, he honestly had so really lovely compliments he

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<v Speaker 1>gave about you when we talked to him.

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<v Speaker 4>So that's why you're calling.

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<v Speaker 2>Me, Well, it's because he liked you and he's confused

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<v Speaker 2>why there hasn't been another meetup.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you upset with him? Because you sound kind of.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my gosh, this is so weird.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it just weird question at all?

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<v Speaker 7>It's weird because there's like, I don't even know how

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<v Speaker 7>many people are on the phone, and you're asking me

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<v Speaker 7>about details from a date, Like, that's just weird.

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<v Speaker 2>I understand that this suns definitely a lot. It can

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<v Speaker 2>be really overwhelming. So maybe we can just cut to

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<v Speaker 2>the chase. We just want to know, is there one

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<v Speaker 2>main reason, one big red flag for why you're not

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<v Speaker 2>wanting to see Dormant again. We're not trying to.

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<v Speaker 1>Check you or anything not yet.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh I'll just say this.

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<v Speaker 7>We were at dinner and he brought up a really

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<v Speaker 7>uncomfortable conversation that like didn't sit well with me.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh man, we kind of know what that is. He

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<v Speaker 2>did say something new, something involving his mother.

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<v Speaker 7>Maybe no, no, I had nothing to with his mom.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh.

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<v Speaker 7>He he wrought the fact that he had him been

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<v Speaker 7>with a woman romantically in three years he.

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<v Speaker 2>Told you that way physically he hasn't. Okay, how did

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<v Speaker 2>that come up?

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<v Speaker 7>It didn't, It didn't come up. He just said it

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<v Speaker 7>to me and he then he followed it up with

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<v Speaker 7>like looking at me dead in the eye, and he's like,

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<v Speaker 7>I hope that can change soon.

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<v Speaker 1>Even respond to that, what did you say?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, No, I didn't say anything. He did say

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<v Speaker 2>that he was rambling a lot during the day and

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<v Speaker 2>was just saying every thought that came to his mind.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe that was one of them.

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<v Speaker 1>He was really nervous.

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<v Speaker 4>Nervous, But like, why make me nervous too?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think he's excited. You check a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>boxes for him, and it's probably more common than you

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<v Speaker 2>would think, like a Lexus, that's happened to you multiple times. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>I would totally date those people.

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<v Speaker 7>I would totally give them another chance.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to, Okay, I can see I can

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<v Speaker 1>see where that would be pretty shocking on a day

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<v Speaker 1>A different thing to say.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so now you know I'm going to go now, well.

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<v Speaker 2>Hold on, it's really important that we know, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>actually more important that Dorman knows that. And well, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have to because he's on the other line listening

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<v Speaker 2>to this right now and wanting to talk.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, are you serious?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm sorry, Dorman. Are you there?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, buddy, Dorman, say hi to Yolanda. Say something, Hilda, Hi, Okay, apologize,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 4>We were having chili. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I just chili brings up.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know why you would tell your date that

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<v Speaker 7>you hadn't had sex in three years.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a lot. The chili was spicy. We were talking

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<v Speaker 4>about our love life while eating it, and fun fact,

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<v Speaker 4>I just haven't done it in a while. It had

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<v Speaker 4>just started rambling and when I get nervous.

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<v Speaker 7>I've never you're in front of a bowl of chili

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<v Speaker 7>a youth feel like.

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<v Speaker 3>That's good.

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<v Speaker 7>A lot of girls are gonna test that on their boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's kind of like that interview show The

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<v Speaker 1>Hot Ones. People people confess things they don't realize they

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<v Speaker 1>were going to say because they're just not in control

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<v Speaker 1>of what's happening.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, I don't know why it came out. I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 4>that it did. But now it's out publicly, so I

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<v Speaker 4>have to depend. But it came out of done.

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<v Speaker 7>It doesn't matter who brought it up, you're the one.

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<v Speaker 4>Who said it on a first date. Like that's so weird.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, it's not weird. Making love is natural thing.

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<v Speaker 4>That's just not happening perfectly, don't I wish that it was,

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<v Speaker 4>and I was just expressing it.

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<v Speaker 7>You tell me women that makes it even less likely

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<v Speaker 7>to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, wait, wait, wait though, I mean listen, you don't.

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<v Speaker 4>Think I know this. My mom says the same thing.

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<v Speaker 7>You tell your mom about your lack of intimacy.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not the one that brings it up. Okay, she

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<v Speaker 4>just tells me that like her and dad do it

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<v Speaker 4>more often.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, let's not let's not talk anymore.

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<v Speaker 7>I didn't think I could be more turned off at

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<v Speaker 7>the start.

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<v Speaker 4>Of this call, but congratulations, he didn't.

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<v Speaker 7>Wait now, I don't know if I'm going to have

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<v Speaker 7>sex for three years.

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<v Speaker 4>I hope you don't. Then you'll know what it feels like.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, oh my god, I can't with you more than anything.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to go back after a date and tell

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<v Speaker 1>his mom, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>This is not going darning. I mean, maybe maybe it's

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<v Speaker 2>going a little bit better.

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<v Speaker 1>What that his conversation with his mom about his mom's

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<v Speaker 1>sex lightly.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's his mom's fault that she's rubbing that into

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<v Speaker 2>her son's face. You know what, Dorman, shame on your

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<v Speaker 2>mom for bragging to you about how much action she's

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<v Speaker 2>getting from your dad.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey, let's leave the mothers out of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you were the one who brought it up. That

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<v Speaker 2>was your information.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you brought it up. Okay, not on the radio.

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<v Speaker 4>That was over an intimate bowl of chili.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that was a private bowl of chili.

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot believe it was this and not the other

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<v Speaker 1>things that.

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<v Speaker 2>We had dormant.

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<v Speaker 7>You need to stop talking because every sentence you say

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<v Speaker 7>makes it worse.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, you know what, at this point, guys, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm getting nervous, getting rambling, upset everything that I need

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<v Speaker 4>it too. I'm just gonna keep talking. Like fun. Fact

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<v Speaker 4>even went out getting it three years ago. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 4>that great, and you know I wasn't even like the fu.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't want details.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, we've heard enough, but I just think there's a

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<v Speaker 4>connection here that we should stop talking.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, he's going to stop talking, and I'm just going

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<v Speaker 2>to pick it up and offer to send you to

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<v Speaker 2>on another day, and we would well, we would be

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<v Speaker 2>Alda would have changed your mind at all if it's

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<v Speaker 2>not chilly. No, it's possible.

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<v Speaker 1>That Jeff thought that was the issue.

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<v Speaker 2>Seems to be the thing that's bringing up all of

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<v Speaker 2>these deep seated memories. And though Cob Salad I appreciate it,

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<v Speaker 2>some people are just too judgmental, you know the issue.

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<v Speaker 2>That's well said Dorman, and we appreciate you coming on

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<v Speaker 2>the show and being open with us, far too open

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<v Speaker 2>for anybody to be comfortable with.

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<v Speaker 5>But you know what a break after this the other room.

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<v Speaker 2>We all wish you a lot of luck getting over

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<v Speaker 2>your hill that you're trying to climb here.

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<v Speaker 4>King.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, free in the morning, brookie've had a few moments

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<v Speaker 2>to recover after that fiasco. Are you feeling any better

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<v Speaker 2>about what we just heard?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my, I honestly think that he's a good person

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<v Speaker 1>and that he like I don't think he means to.

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<v Speaker 5>Be socially awkward, so open to close it down a

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<v Speaker 5>little bit, buddy, Yeah, I don't think we've ever had

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<v Speaker 5>somebody on the show in the middle of a date.

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<v Speaker 2>Admit, I haven't gotten action from a woman in three years,

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm hoping that's going to change looking at you.

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<v Speaker 2>At least he didn't say never. I mean that's yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Think he's got hope crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, Oh, I get to be the lucky.

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<v Speaker 2>One because I'm a believer in manifestation, in the trying

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<v Speaker 2>to put your wants out there into the world. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think this is quite the right way to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the world into your date.

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<v Speaker 2>Although who knows, maybe after this Dorman's gonna have twelve

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<v Speaker 2>women in a single week, almost as many sessions as

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<v Speaker 2>his mom and dad have. H keep dreaming, Dorman, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>still looking for someone to text in to go out

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<v Speaker 2>with him. Yeah, I'm literally looking. Somebody's out there for him,

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<v Speaker 2>and there's somebody out there for everybody. If you need

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<v Speaker 2>some help in your dating life, email the show. We

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<v Speaker 2>can call that person who's not calling you back. Go

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<v Speaker 2>check out all of our second dates wherever you get

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<v Speaker 2>your podcasts. They're up online at Brook and Jeffrey