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Speaker 1: Have we told you lately how much we love you

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Speaker 1: being here?

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Speaker 2: Hey, yeah we do, we do.

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Speaker 1: It's true. Welcome to your brand new second date. This

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Speaker 1: is the podcast. It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning,

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Speaker 1: and we do have a brand new second date coming up.

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Speaker 1: But first we've got to reflect on yesterday's awkward Tuesday

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Speaker 1: phone call. Yeah, the proposal fails and then non athleic Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she didn't want to get married to him, supposedly because

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Speaker 1: he wouldn't give her athletic genetics. Yeah, so what are

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Speaker 1: people saying?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we got one person said I want to put

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Speaker 3: my head in the oven.

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Speaker 2: After hearing her excuses.

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Speaker 3: Okay, someone else said, knowing a proposals coming soon, and

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Speaker 3: as a fellow listener with my partner, I'm totally stealing

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Speaker 3: the non athletic children as a joke for the future.

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Speaker 1: God. Yeah, okay, make sure it's not actually while they're

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Speaker 1: down on a knee, yeah you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And then a lot of I would break up

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Speaker 3: with her. He should have dumped her. Why is it

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Speaker 3: such a simp? Hey, Brooke is ninety nine percent right here?

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Speaker 1: Oh wait that why are people shut I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't either. Yes, we'll see how right I am today.

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Speaker 1: Let's go to it though, Let's get your brand new

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Speaker 1: Second Date update. Go and it starts right.

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Speaker 2: Now, Second Date Updated. You can't spell desperation without Brooke

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Speaker 2: and Jeffrey in the morning, I can't spell well, but

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Speaker 2: I think that's right.

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Speaker 1: That's absolutely correct.

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Speaker 2: Pretty much. Desperation is what made our listener email us

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Speaker 2: for help today. I'm not saying he's desperate, but you

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Speaker 2: know what it feels like when you've tried every other option,

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Speaker 2: You've exhausted every good idea, You've reached out to every

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Speaker 2: other reputable company and are getting nothing back. Eventually you say, fine,

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Speaker 2: I'll talk to Brook and Jeffrey.

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Speaker 1: No, it doesn't feel as good to be the last

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Speaker 1: resort when you explain it that way.

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Speaker 2: The fact that we are a resort should feel good.

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Speaker 2: We are on the list, even if it's at the

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Speaker 2: very bottom. And that's what made our listener, Absolutely that's

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Speaker 2: what made our listener, Dorman, email the show for help today. Dorman,

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Speaker 2: it's an absolute pleasure to have you. Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 2: Fun name is that's your real name? Dorman?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you guys for having.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well, desperate times.

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Speaker 2: We are excited to have you on the show. Tell

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Speaker 2: us about the woman that you are trying to get

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Speaker 2: a hold of. What's her name?

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Speaker 4: Her name is Jilanda.

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Speaker 1: Okay, where'd you guys meet?

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Speaker 4: We met online, And what made her stand out to

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Speaker 4: me was like, obviously I thought she was very attractive

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Speaker 2: She's sorry, what do you mean by intentional? What does

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Speaker 4: To me, that means like somebody who's actually like being

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Speaker 1: You know, can I ask what your favorite? Thing that

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Speaker 4: Yeah, forget like the exact wording of it, but it

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Speaker 2: I mean, there's a new Flash TV show that's airing

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Speaker 3: I didn't know that either.

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Speaker 1: You're just going to insult the Flash like a seventies

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Speaker 5: I think all the superheroes are coming back play the Flash.

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Speaker 2: No, alexis they picked the first ugly guy ever to

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Speaker 2: So good. So bottom line is you appreciated her and

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Speaker 2: Like what was your date?

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Speaker 4: So I was thrilled that she wanted to go out.

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Speaker 4: I picked this spot. It's like really known for their chili.

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Speaker 2: Chilly is a great first date food, Like people love chili.

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Speaker 2: I mean my point was that you don't think of

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Speaker 4: How did that go? So it was good. I'm going

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Speaker 4: I did catch myself rambling, and when I reflect on that,

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Speaker 4: Like I was just like, this girl is so cool

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Speaker 2: See yourself with somebody.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it sounds like you have a lot of

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Speaker 4: But it gets worse a little bit. Maybe I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Okay, how does it get worse?

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Speaker 4: Well, I just told her I'm close to my mom,

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Speaker 1: Oh she packs your lunch.

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Speaker 5: Okay, well at least you know again self aware, right, bro?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this could be it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, that's a lot.

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Speaker 2: You wouldn't take that guy home immediately Brook after he

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I think if you just said every Friday, I

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Speaker 2: It was the details that the lunch.

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Speaker 1: But what if the mom would pack her lunch too?

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Speaker 2: Then you get too first. Okay, make all of us lunch,

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Speaker 2: not your mother. If it doesn't work out with Yolanda,

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Speaker 5: And your.

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Speaker 3: I would need to see the menu.

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Speaker 4: Him.

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Speaker 1: All you need is on Crossable every Friday.

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Speaker 2: All right? So your mom might be on the hook

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Speaker 4: Overall? It was good, but I will say it wasn't

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Speaker 4: the longest date because I didn't think the chili thing through.

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Speaker 4: I was like, I gotta hit the restroom.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, it dick.

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Speaker 1: So you're the one that ended things early and you

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Speaker 4: And I'm the one that drove her there, so I

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Speaker 4: Still drive her back home before I get home to myself.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, sometimes something ends the day and you're not

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Speaker 5: Look out, there's a little bit of regret.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know, I was just in my defense

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Speaker 1: Totally totally. I mean it could happen to anybody.

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Speaker 2: So how long has it been since that date happened?

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Speaker 4: Eight days now?

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Speaker 2: Okay, I mean eight days. It could have taken her

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Speaker 1: I'm really hoping we were done with talking about this part.

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Speaker 2: We actually we'll have to see when we call Yolanda

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Speaker 2: successful one coming out right after this. Hold on second

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Speaker 2: date update. If you're just joining us, let's recap the

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Speaker 2: highlights from Dorman's first date. A couple big bowls of

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Speaker 3: Just like Fridays on Fridays and he's.

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Speaker 2: Only thirty four years old, followed by a rocket ship

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Speaker 2: car ride back to Yolanda's house because the chili was

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Speaker 2: That's what it felt like to his insides. I'm sure

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Speaker 1: What we didn't ask is if he even came to

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Speaker 2: Gorman, did you make her tucking roll out the vehicle

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Speaker 4: No, but she's the first girl in a long time

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, listen, if she can see past all of this,

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Speaker 2: We're going to do our very best to go to

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Speaker 2: second date with Yolanda. Are you ready to do this? Man?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do it, all right?

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Speaker 2: Is your mom ready to do this? She's not behind you.

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Speaker 1: If she was back on the speaker phone, I swear

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Speaker 1: me this time.

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Speaker 2: All right, work with what we've got here we go. Hello, Hey,

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Speaker 2: is this Yolanda?

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Speaker 4: Ah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, this is a radio show called Brooke and

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Speaker 2: jaf Free in the Morning.

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Speaker 1: A great question, rights to the point, I've.

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Speaker 2: Heard better questions. But you know what, I'll answer this one.

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Speaker 4: Uh.

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Speaker 2: This it's a segment that we do. It's called a

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Speaker 2: second date update.

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Speaker 7: Okay, and I still don't know where you guys are

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Speaker 7: calling me?

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Speaker 2: Okay, So the second date update is where we have

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Speaker 2: a listener who isn't sure why they're not getting a

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Speaker 2: call back for another meetup after they went out with

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Speaker 2: a lovely person.

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Speaker 7: I'm so sorry, guys, I really feel like you might

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Speaker 7: have the wrong person.

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Speaker 2: Well, okay, if you don't have been any dates lightly

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Speaker 2: the fact fact, Yeah, we we got your number from

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Speaker 2: a guy you went out with recently named Dorman. There's

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Speaker 2: probably more than one. It's a pretty common name. I've

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Speaker 2: never heard that name.

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Speaker 1: I have so many dormans in my life.

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Speaker 2: Does that ring a bell? Dorman?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I know who that is.

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Speaker 7: Why did you give you my number? I don't that part.

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Speaker 7: I don't get well.

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Speaker 2: Because he felt like the two of you had a

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Speaker 1: I mean, he honestly had so really lovely compliments he

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Speaker 4: So that's why you're calling.

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Speaker 1: Are you upset with him? Because you sound kind of.

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Speaker 7: It's weird because there's like, I don't even know how

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Speaker 4: Oh I'll just say this.

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Speaker 7: We were at dinner and he brought up a really

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Speaker 2: Oh man, we kind of know what that is. He

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Speaker 7: Maybe no, no, I had nothing to with his mom.

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Speaker 7: He he wrought the fact that he had him been

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Speaker 2: Told you that way physically he hasn't. Okay, how did

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Speaker 7: It didn't, It didn't come up. He just said it

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Speaker 1: He was really nervous.

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Speaker 4: Nervous, But like, why make me nervous too?

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Speaker 2: Well, I think he's excited. You check a lot of

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Speaker 2: would think, like a Lexus, that's happened to you multiple times. Right,

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Speaker 2: I would totally date those people.

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Speaker 7: I would totally give them another chance.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to, Okay, I can see I can

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Speaker 4: Okay, so now you know I'm going to go now, well.

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Speaker 2: Hold on, it's really important that we know, but it's

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, are you serious?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry, Dorman. Are you there?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, buddy, Dorman, say hi to Yolanda. Say something, Hilda, Hi, Okay, apologize,

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Speaker 4: We were having chili. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I just chili brings up.

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Speaker 7: I don't know why you would tell your date that

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Speaker 4: It's a lot. The chili was spicy. We were talking

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Speaker 4: I just haven't done it in a while. It had

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Speaker 7: I've never you're in front of a bowl of chili

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Speaker 3: That's good.

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Speaker 7: A lot of girls are gonna test that on their boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's kind of like that interview show The

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Speaker 4: Yes, I don't know why it came out. I'm sorry

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Speaker 7: It doesn't matter who brought it up, you're the one.

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Speaker 4: Who said it on a first date. Like that's so weird.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it's not weird. Making love is natural thing.

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Speaker 4: That's just not happening perfectly, don't I wish that it was,

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Speaker 7: You tell me women that makes it even less likely

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Speaker 1: Okay, wait, wait, wait though, I mean listen, you don't.

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Speaker 4: Think I know this. My mom says the same thing.

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Speaker 7: You tell your mom about your lack of intimacy.

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Speaker 4: I'm not the one that brings it up. Okay, she

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Speaker 7: I didn't think I could be more turned off at

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Speaker 4: Of this call, but congratulations, he didn't.

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Speaker 7: Wait now, I don't know if I'm going to have

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Speaker 4: I hope you don't. Then you'll know what it feels like.

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Speaker 7: Okay, oh my god, I can't with you more than anything.

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Speaker 1: You want to go back after a date and tell

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Speaker 2: This is not going darning. I mean, maybe maybe it's

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Speaker 1: What that his conversation with his mom about his mom's

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Speaker 2: Well, it's his mom's fault that she's rubbing that into

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Speaker 4: Hey, let's leave the mothers out of it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you were the one who brought it up. That

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you brought it up. Okay, not on the radio.

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Speaker 4: That was over an intimate bowl of chili.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that was a private bowl of chili.

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Speaker 1: I cannot believe it was this and not the other

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Speaker 2: We had dormant.

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Speaker 7: You need to stop talking because every sentence you say

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Speaker 4: Okay, you know what, at this point, guys, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: Okay, he's going to stop talking, and I'm just going

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Speaker 2: Alda would have changed your mind at all if it's

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Speaker 1: That Jeff thought that was the issue.

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Speaker 2: Seems to be the thing that's bringing up all of

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Speaker 2: some people are just too judgmental, you know the issue.

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Speaker 2: That's well said Dorman, and we appreciate you coming on

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Speaker 2: the show and being open with us, far too open

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Speaker 5: But you know what a break after this the other room.

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Speaker 2: We all wish you a lot of luck getting over

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Speaker 2: Yeah, free in the morning, brookie've had a few moments

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Speaker 1: Oh my, I honestly think that he's a good person

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Speaker 2: Admit, I haven't gotten action from a woman in three years,

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Speaker 1: She was like, Oh, I get to be the lucky.

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Speaker 2: One because I'm a believer in manifestation, in the trying

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Speaker 1: That's the world into your date.

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Speaker 2: Although who knows, maybe after this Dorman's gonna have twelve

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Speaker 2: and there's somebody out there for everybody. If you need

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Speaker 2: some help in your dating life, email the show. We

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Speaker 2: can call that person who's not calling you back. Go

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Speaker 2: check out all of our second dates wherever you get

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Speaker 2: your podcasts. They're up online at Brook and Jeffrey