1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for making my stepfather an 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:05,800 Speaker 1: outsider at my wedding that he paid for? 3 00:00:06,360 --> 00:00:08,360 Speaker 2: Ooh yeah, maybe. 4 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:10,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, let's find out. So I ruined the memory of 5 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 1: the best day of my life because I was too 6 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: blind to see what I was doing was hurting one 7 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:19,040 Speaker 1: of the most important people in my life. So I 8 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: got married two months ago to the love of my life, 9 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:24,479 Speaker 1: and he finally opened my eyes to what I did. 10 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: He showed me the perspective I didn't understand. I'm like 11 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 1: on the edge of my sheet. Now I really want 12 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,479 Speaker 1: to know. I really want to know. So when I 13 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: was five, my father left us, just disappeared without a trace. 14 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 1: He and my mom were already separated by this point, 15 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: but he was still living with us. Three years later, 16 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:43,919 Speaker 1: my mom started dating Rob. He was quite a bit 17 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: younger than she was. I believe she was thirty four 18 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: and he was twenty six. Okay, let's go today. He 19 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: is very wealthy, not like a crazy age gap. It's 20 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: like eight years, ten years is where I'm like a 21 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 1: little old. 22 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think it's a little bit better when 23 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 2: it starts off at like, wait, how old was he 24 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 2: when they started dating. 25 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: Three years later, my mom started dating Rob she was 26 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 1: thirty four. Rob was twenty six. 27 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, it's still like a big age gop. But 28 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 2: I think as long as he's like. 29 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: Above twenty five, yeah, I think it's more manageable. Today 30 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:18,679 Speaker 1: he is very wealthy, he wasn't when he met my mom, 31 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 1: and he treats my mother like a queen. Whenever she 32 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: is around him. She looks like the happiest person in 33 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 1: the world. My younger sister looks a lot like me 34 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 1: and mom, but her personality is for sure a reflection 35 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: of her dad, always telling jokes and being just a 36 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 1: nice person all around, while me and my mom are 37 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: more serious and cold. Okay, you got both sides. We 38 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: bought both sides. That's good. Yeah, yin and yang, hot 39 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 1: and cold, funny and tweet and los stale, sad, serious cold. 40 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: I don't know. As I got older, Rob became more 41 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 1: present in my life. He got married to my mom 42 00:01:53,320 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: and she got pregnant. Hey, I like that. As I 43 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 1: got older, Rob became more present in my life, but 44 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 1: it was still pretty weird seeing him as a father figure, 45 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: mostly because people would assume he was my brother all 46 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:13,240 Speaker 1: the time because he's so young. When I was in 47 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: high school, I was dating this boy and he broke 48 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: up with me at my friend's house. My mom was 49 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 1: on the night shift and I had to ask Rob 50 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,520 Speaker 1: to pick me up. When he did, he comforted me, 51 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: took me to ice cream, and when we got home 52 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 1: he told me something like this, without knowing what happened. 53 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 1: Whoever made you sad doesn't understand that you are the 54 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 1: best girl in the world, and it's their loss. Don't 55 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,680 Speaker 1: beat yourself up because other people are too see it. 56 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 2: Oh, that is so cute, Rob, rub Rub. 57 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: I just said to him, I wish you were my dad. 58 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: He smiled and said he wished that too, and he 59 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 1: could be if I wanted to. We left it at that. 60 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: I never called him dad, but from that point forward 61 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 1: I saw him as a father, and I think he 62 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: knows it. This is adorable, but adorable in the chat, 63 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 1: if you think it's I finally reconnected to my biological 64 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: father about a year ago, it happened disgusting. 65 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 2: That's probably great. 66 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:17,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll see. I finally reconnected with my biological father 67 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:20,360 Speaker 1: about a year ago. It happened because I got engaged. 68 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 1: When I came to my mom's house one day, he 69 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: was there. And I couldn't even recognize him. He was 70 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: way thinner than he was when I was a kid. 71 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: He struggled for years with depression and substance use. My 72 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:33,639 Speaker 1: mom and Rob actually helped him get clean, and they 73 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: even paid for his stay at a rehabilitation center. Rob Rob, 74 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: the amazing, Rob is the best. 75 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 2: Rob's amazing. Wow, give him an award because. 76 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: He's because he's robing all our hearts today, Robin Hood. Yeah, 77 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: they decided together that it was time for me to 78 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: finally meet him again. Oh pi's biology at all, right, 79 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 1: So I don't want to explore much on how this was, 80 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: but all I have to say is that I'm glad 81 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: to have him back in my life, and I'm glad 82 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: for being able to help him heal. He suffered a lot, 83 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: he got lost, but now he is at least trying. 84 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 1: This is I'm waiting for the other shooting. 85 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 2: Rob. 86 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 1: Everyone's happy, but we know, we know these stories. There's something, 87 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:24,919 Speaker 1: Sarah says, I see you, I don't see it. I 88 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 1: don't see it. 89 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:28,280 Speaker 2: I know it's coming, but I don't see it. Yeah. 90 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: I see I see something on the horizon, and I 91 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:34,840 Speaker 1: think it's not gonna be Yeah, Josephine says, the w 92 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 1: in the chats for Rob agreed, w's in the chats 93 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: for Rob unless we're gonna get get some terrible information 94 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,239 Speaker 1: in the near future. So Rob and my mother paid 95 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 1: for everything at my wedding and everything was amazing. Oh 96 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: I think I'm seeing the icy us. I'm seeing the icy. 97 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:52,840 Speaker 2: I know what's happening to my stuff the title, But. 98 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I don't. It's not gonna be Rob though, 99 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:55,280 Speaker 1: or is it. 100 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 2: Gonna be spoil yourself? 101 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:01,839 Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, wait, okay, oh no, all right, Rob and 102 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 1: my mother paid for everything at my wedding and everything 103 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: was amazing again. Rob is rich. 104 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 2: Now, Rob's rich young and rich. 105 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 1: Rob's young rich kind like whole package six. The church 106 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 1: was beautiful, My husband looked amazing. Oh the one mistake 107 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:28,479 Speaker 1: I made. I chose my biological father. 108 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,360 Speaker 2: Over Rob to walk her down the aisle. 109 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: What do we think? What do we think about that? 110 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:35,279 Speaker 1: Is that good of op to do? Bad of op 111 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 1: to do? Should OP choose Rob or her bio dad 112 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: to walk down the aisle? Really quick? Pausing here? What 113 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: do you think? So of you? 114 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 2: This is tough because I understand why I would choose 115 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:52,279 Speaker 2: Rob I would choose Rob. I understand why Ope would 116 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 2: think about choosing her dad, because she's just started this 117 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 2: new relationship with him, and there's kind of this like 118 00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 2: tradition of your father walking down. I don't However, we 119 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 2: know who's been there for Op, and it's been Rob. 120 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 2: And I think that what Ope should have done is 121 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 2: changed the tradition somehow to two dads. Yeah, both of that. 122 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 2: You don't have to stick with both traditions. And I 123 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 2: think that Ope. It seems like Op he wasn't even 124 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:19,159 Speaker 2: thinking about that. 125 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:22,599 Speaker 1: But something I'm thinking is if Rob is the best 126 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:26,799 Speaker 1: guy in the world. Yeah, yes, Lossandra RIVERA, Rob will understand. 127 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 2: I was about to say Rob. 128 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:29,719 Speaker 1: I feel like Rob would understand. 129 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:30,799 Speaker 2: Rob gets everything. 130 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 1: Samantha says action over blood, which I understand, Like choose 131 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: Raw like I would. I did understand. I would understand 132 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 1: choosing either. 133 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:39,679 Speaker 2: Personally, I understand both. 134 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:41,640 Speaker 1: I don't think there's a wrong. I think she. 135 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 2: Should have gone with both. Yeah, I think she should 136 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:45,479 Speaker 2: have had both people. 137 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: It looks it seems like nine percent of you think 138 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: Rob should be chosen. But let's keep going and see 139 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: what happened. So I chose the man that did abandon 140 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:55,160 Speaker 1: me for over twenty years over the one that took 141 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: me as his own and gave me everything he could 142 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: when he didn't have to. I chose the man that 143 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:03,920 Speaker 1: broke my mother's heart over the one that saved her. 144 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: I don't know why I did that. Looking back on it, 145 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:10,400 Speaker 1: it feels so effing stupid. My dad didn't deserve to 146 00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: walk me down the aisle. My dad didn't deserve to 147 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: be in all the pictures of my mom and my 148 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:18,400 Speaker 1: husband's parents. It should have been rob Wow. I don't know. 149 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 1: I think I was compensating for the time loss with 150 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: my dad. Everything was still so fresh with him. I 151 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 1: was helping him out. He talked to me every day. 152 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 1: I felt he deserved to be back in my life. 153 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 2: Oh, Kimberly Fine, is a great comment. Opie was probably 154 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 2: probably afraid that jilting her bio dad by not bestowing 155 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,840 Speaker 2: the honor upon him, she'd risk being abandoned in the 156 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:37,559 Speaker 2: second time. 157 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: That is true. That's a great comment, Kimberly Fine. 158 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 2: I don't think op he recognizes that consciously, but that 159 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 2: an unconscious fear. 160 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: I think I think that could potentially be an unconscious 161 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:50,120 Speaker 1: here for sure. 162 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 2: And also, yeah, j just Kat says, now she gave 163 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 2: into the dad fantasy. I think she had that kind 164 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 2: of like rush up, my dad is back in my life. 165 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 2: I can have that moment that I wanted of walking 166 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 2: down the aisle with my dad, And I think she 167 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 2: wasn't thinking about Rob, which is not. 168 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: But again I think Rob will understand hopefully. Well. When 169 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 1: we were deciding who would give speeches, we had to cut. 170 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 1: We had to cut some no because it was just 171 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: too many and me and my husband didn't really like 172 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 1: the idea of hearing speeches for an hour and a half, 173 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 1: so we decided for five people each. When I gave 174 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 1: the list to my husband, he even asked, no, Rob. 175 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 2: No, Even your husband pointed it. 176 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:34,200 Speaker 1: Out, and I said, yeah, my mom is already doing one. 177 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:35,480 Speaker 2: Your mom is not Rob. 178 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:39,360 Speaker 1: The others I chose were two of my bridesmaids, my mom, 179 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: my sister. She really pushed for it, and again my. 180 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 2: Dad okay, no, no, I okay. One bride one thing, yeah, 181 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 2: number one one bridesmaid honor one thing to walk down 182 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 2: the aisle with your dad, which I still think is 183 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 2: not necessarily. I don't think that's the right decision, and 184 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:57,520 Speaker 2: I think they could have gone both, But to give 185 00:08:57,559 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 2: your dad, who has not been in your life, has 186 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 2: just recently got back in your life. This is a 187 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:04,520 Speaker 2: new acquaintance if you think about it, this is a 188 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 2: new person in your life. 189 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:08,320 Speaker 1: No over, Rob, Rob was there? 190 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:12,320 Speaker 2: Rob? What is your dad going to talk about? He's like, oh, yeah, 191 00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 2: you know I've been talking to Op for last. 192 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:18,600 Speaker 1: Couple Yeah, miney walking down the aisle. 193 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. 194 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:23,200 Speaker 2: He's like, yeah, I wasn't there for like, you know, 195 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:24,719 Speaker 2: twenty years, but. 196 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:28,959 Speaker 1: Uh twenty six, says this is breaking my heart for Rob. 197 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:30,679 Speaker 2: Yeah. No, this is so sad. 198 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:31,679 Speaker 1: I am sad. 199 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 2: Opa. 200 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: Well let's keep reading a whole move. Yeah, a whole move, Op, 201 00:09:35,880 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 1: Come on, I understand, you know it's a it's like 202 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:41,719 Speaker 1: it's more of a toss up with the walking down 203 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 1: the aisle. 204 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:45,240 Speaker 2: But to not give Rob a speech, Yeah, you were 205 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 2: just I mean, let everyone else speak and then just 206 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:51,400 Speaker 2: add Rob Rob. Why was it so like why was 207 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:55,559 Speaker 2: it such a you know, more speech? Break the back five? Yeah, 208 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:57,680 Speaker 2: come on, give Rob a speech or get rid of 209 00:09:57,720 --> 00:09:58,560 Speaker 2: one of the bridesmaids. 210 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:02,960 Speaker 1: And Rob literally paid for everything. 211 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,320 Speaker 2: Probably pay for everything, and you won't even like jine 212 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 2: a hole. You did not need two people to speak 213 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 2: from your risemans, and you definitely didn't need your dad 214 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 2: to speak. 215 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: Also, between which one, Rob Biodad are both sixty two 216 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:16,160 Speaker 1: percent of you are still rocking with Rob? 217 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, Biodad, I think it's Rob or both. 218 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: Do you think Rob will be sad? 219 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:24,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think he'll. I don't think he'll bring it 220 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 2: up because Rob. 221 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 1: We know Rob. 222 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 2: But I do think he'll be liked. 223 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:31,960 Speaker 1: All right, Well that's what happens, so the others I 224 00:10:32,040 --> 00:10:35,559 Speaker 1: chose to and then Dad, my husband, said I should reconsider. 225 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:38,720 Speaker 1: He even thought of giving up one of his to 226 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:40,959 Speaker 1: put Rob in. Husband. 227 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 228 00:10:42,559 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: Okay, so maybe the husband saved it. Nope, nope, nope, nope, 229 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,840 Speaker 1: nope nope. I said it was fine, he didn't need 230 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 1: to do that. My whole thinking when doing this was 231 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: Rob has my sister, he will have his moment. This 232 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:59,080 Speaker 1: was the only chance my dad had. You could dope both. 233 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:02,800 Speaker 1: But I went too far. I completely cut him out 234 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: of the party. Basically, if you look at the photos, 235 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,559 Speaker 1: it doesn't even look like he went. My mom looks 236 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 1: like she is faking a smile in half the pictures. 237 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 1: I don't have a single picture with him. He only 238 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 1: appears in group pictures and some with my husband. I 239 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:21,640 Speaker 1: only realized all of this when I texted Rob two 240 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 1: days ago, asking him about a gift I'm giving my 241 00:11:24,600 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 1: husband or his birthday he answered. Then asked about my 242 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 1: car that is with a mechanic friends of his he answered. 243 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:35,440 Speaker 1: Then I asked him something about my insurance. He did 244 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: not answer. 245 00:11:36,880 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 2: It's so much worse that OPI doesn't even realize that 246 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 2: she did anything like she She's so out of touch, 247 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:46,760 Speaker 2: I know, would she have other people's emotions that she's 248 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 2: just you know, forging ahead in this path of destruction. 249 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:52,320 Speaker 1: I'm so sad. 250 00:11:52,360 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 2: I'm so sad for Rob. Oh. 251 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 1: A little over an hour later, my mom called me. 252 00:11:58,320 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: She just said, do you have no shame? Do you 253 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 1: not understand what you did? I just listened, and she 254 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:07,560 Speaker 1: told me to not talk to Rob for now. I 255 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 1: was just so effing confused. I got home and told 256 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: my husband and he just said he knows what she 257 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:14,600 Speaker 1: is referencing, but he will talk to her first. Later, 258 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:17,079 Speaker 1: he showed me the wedding photos. He went step by 259 00:12:17,080 --> 00:12:20,079 Speaker 1: step on everything I have listened here. He talked calmly 260 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:22,320 Speaker 1: and broke it down for me. By the end, I 261 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:25,080 Speaker 1: was crying so much that I had a headache. What 262 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:28,440 Speaker 1: an inconsiderate I am. He told me that he and 263 00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:31,439 Speaker 1: my mom didn't tell me anything before the party because 264 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:36,560 Speaker 1: Rob asked them not to. He understood that it was 265 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: important for me for my father to be a big 266 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 1: part of this day, and when they protested, he said, 267 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:46,160 Speaker 1: they should not make me worry about these small things. 268 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:49,360 Speaker 2: They should have told OPI I'm good at Chris. This 269 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:51,839 Speaker 2: is so sad. They should have brought this up before. 270 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: The classy eyes right now. 271 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 2: I mean, hope you should have known, but like, this 272 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,040 Speaker 2: is so sad. Why would you put Rob through this? 273 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:01,080 Speaker 1: Oh? I don't know what changed from before the party 274 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:03,480 Speaker 1: to now. My mom only tells me that he needs 275 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 1: a bit of time and that he will talk to 276 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:07,440 Speaker 1: me soon. My husband keeps telling me that I made 277 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:10,600 Speaker 1: a mistake, but Rob will be understanding. Cary will and 278 00:13:10,679 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 1: will forgive me. Carsy will, and I know he will 279 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 1: has already forgiven me. He probably felt something when I 280 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 1: was texting him that day that broke him down. I 281 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:23,040 Speaker 1: don't know what I said to trigger him at that moment, 282 00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 1: but also doesn't really matter. I did the real damage 283 00:13:26,040 --> 00:13:28,839 Speaker 1: at the party, probably since he appeared to be fine 284 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:31,800 Speaker 1: with everything else before it, it was not fine by 285 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:33,960 Speaker 1: any means. I have to make it up to him. 286 00:13:34,320 --> 00:13:36,720 Speaker 1: I don't know how, but I just do. I guess 287 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:39,560 Speaker 1: I'm just writing this here because I'm a little lost. 288 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,720 Speaker 1: I'm too ashamed to talk about it with anyone else 289 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 1: I know, apart from my mom and my husband. She 290 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:46,840 Speaker 1: doesn't tell me anything, and my husband keeps insisting that 291 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 1: everything will be fine and for me not to worry 292 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 1: about it too much, and he is probably right. I 293 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 1: just feel like me not worrying about this is just 294 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 1: being inconsiderate to Rob again, which I think I would agree. 295 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 1: I have to worry. I just don't know what to do. 296 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:01,880 Speaker 1: If someone has any idea of how I can make 297 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:05,360 Speaker 1: it up to him, I will greatly appreciate it. At it. 298 00:14:05,720 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 1: Literally forty minutes after I uploaded this, my mom texted 299 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: me saying that Rob wants to speak to me tonight 300 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:16,560 Speaker 1: and there are some relevant comments and a big juicy update. 301 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 1: But Sophia one is op the a hole? 302 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:23,920 Speaker 2: Well yeah, but they realized it now. Oh, it's so sad. 303 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 2: It's so sad, like Opie is. Definitely I don't want 304 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:29,440 Speaker 2: to say that like, I don't think I hate OPI. 305 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:31,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, because he's not hate Worthies. Just don't. 306 00:14:31,960 --> 00:14:36,880 Speaker 2: She's just yeah, inconsiderate and now knows it. But like, yeah, 307 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 2: you hurt so many, you know, you hurt Rob so much. 308 00:14:40,280 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 1: But the thing is Rob is such a good guy. 309 00:14:41,880 --> 00:14:45,000 Speaker 1: It's like he's gonna forgive her. But you should. I 310 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:47,600 Speaker 1: think you should. You should be worried, yeah, or you 311 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: should be worrying because I think that is what will 312 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:52,080 Speaker 1: give justice for Rob. As Jesse says. 313 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:54,160 Speaker 2: Logan, Bobwolf says she can't go back in time, she 314 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:56,800 Speaker 2: needs to focus more on doing things with him, daddy, 315 00:14:56,880 --> 00:14:59,080 Speaker 2: daughter time, as she adds up, and also. 316 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:02,160 Speaker 1: Like reach out to him, not for a thing, just 317 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:03,920 Speaker 1: reach out because you want to reach out. Like when 318 00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 1: I like I call my mom and dad all the time. Yeah, 319 00:15:06,400 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 1: I'm just like, what's up? 320 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:07,880 Speaker 2: What's up? 321 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not because I need something. And I think, 322 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:12,680 Speaker 1: like maybe that that's all like Rob really wants is 323 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: just he just wants just wants to call. Well, I 324 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: think he just wants to know that he means something 325 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 1: to I think. 326 00:15:17,600 --> 00:15:20,400 Speaker 2: There's there's like two things because she asks why, I 327 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 2: don't know what triggered him when he I called him 328 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 2: and you know, he might have broken down afterwards or 329 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 2: I texted him. I think there's two different you know 330 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:30,480 Speaker 2: things that could have paused that one. Oh he not 331 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 2: you know, bringing up the fact that she did wrong him, 332 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:37,720 Speaker 2: or to her asking him for these simple kind of 333 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 2: banal things everyday things that you ask your dad or help, 334 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:43,840 Speaker 2: like asking about insurance that's like something that you would 335 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 2: go to a parent for, and he's like, Wow, does 336 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 2: she actually see me as a parent or not? 337 00:15:47,840 --> 00:15:50,680 Speaker 1: I think yeah, I think probably what happened is he 338 00:15:50,800 --> 00:15:53,080 Speaker 1: was just like like he was yeah, Like he probably 339 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:55,640 Speaker 1: was just confused. I think what happened is he's like, 340 00:15:55,720 --> 00:15:57,840 Speaker 1: does she care about me as much as I care 341 00:15:57,880 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 1: about Yeah? I think that the whole cut him out 342 00:16:00,440 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 1: of the wedding made him question that. 343 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:06,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, am I will? Can I ever be a 344 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:08,920 Speaker 2: father in her eyes? Or am I always just a stepfather? 345 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: Yeah? There was a comment from someone that I saw 346 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:14,440 Speaker 1: that was like, what you can do to make it up? 347 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 1: Throw Rob a party? 348 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:18,040 Speaker 2: Oh and then give him a speech. 349 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 1: And give him a speech. Yeah. M J. Lamb says 350 00:16:20,360 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 1: Rob was feeling used. That's kind of what I thought initially. 351 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 1: It's like oh, she doesn't really care about me. Yeah, 352 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:27,280 Speaker 1: but like, I don't know if that necessarily was. I 353 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 1: think he just like, I don't know if he felt used. 354 00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 1: I think he just was like do I feel love? 355 00:16:32,160 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 1: But we do have another bunch of relevant comments and 356 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 1: an update. Do you want me to read those now? Okay, 357 00:16:39,760 --> 00:16:42,280 Speaker 1: so we're gonna get into the relevant comments, but first. 358 00:16:42,480 --> 00:16:44,720 Speaker 1: Matt hatter Gowa thanks to the ten bucks. This reminds 359 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:47,240 Speaker 1: me of my best friend's wedding. His wife and her 360 00:16:47,280 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 1: father in law walked her down the aisle to my 361 00:16:49,680 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 1: friend instead of her father because father in law was 362 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 1: more of a father than her own dad. Her mom 363 00:16:55,240 --> 00:16:58,680 Speaker 1: still complains about it. That's rough. A rough situation. Oh yeah, 364 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 1: the rough situation. Katie P Three thanks for the ten bucks. 365 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:05,480 Speaker 1: Just jumped on and prematurely voted for both Rob and 366 00:17:05,520 --> 00:17:08,280 Speaker 1: Bio Dad. After hearing more, Oh, I changed my mind 367 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: and vote Rob. Josephine Madola thanks for the twenty seven 368 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:15,560 Speaker 1: sec Oh he is an a hole. Not even me 369 00:17:15,680 --> 00:17:18,760 Speaker 1: an autistic would do this. Lessandro Rivera thanks to the 370 00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:24,120 Speaker 1: five bucks. I like it, especially the Discord Sillies commenter's wheel. Yeah, 371 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:26,320 Speaker 1: we thought you guys would like that. Or God, you've 372 00:17:26,359 --> 00:17:29,439 Speaker 1: been enjoying it. But let's get into relevant comments. So 373 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:32,480 Speaker 1: odd welcome seven nine to four zero says good news. 374 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 1: I bet Rob forgives you bad news. He doesn't see 375 00:17:35,640 --> 00:17:38,200 Speaker 1: you as his daughter anymore, he probably never will. 376 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 2: I disagree with it. 377 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:40,439 Speaker 1: I disagree agree with that. 378 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 2: You don't know Rob. 379 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:42,280 Speaker 1: You don't know Rob. 380 00:17:42,320 --> 00:17:43,280 Speaker 2: You don't know Rob like we do. 381 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,520 Speaker 1: What you did can't be changed. You can't make up 382 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:47,560 Speaker 1: for it. You took the man who gave you more 383 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:50,000 Speaker 1: than any other man ever and took him for granted. 384 00:17:50,080 --> 00:17:51,960 Speaker 1: You will never be able to undo it, fix it, 385 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:53,520 Speaker 1: or make up for it. I don't agree with this. 386 00:17:53,800 --> 00:17:56,240 Speaker 1: Even worse, even after all that he hoped you would 387 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:58,520 Speaker 1: realize your mistake and he would feel like he raised 388 00:17:58,560 --> 00:18:00,399 Speaker 1: you well enough to figure it out and try to 389 00:18:00,400 --> 00:18:02,760 Speaker 1: fix it, he now feels that you don't see him 390 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:05,159 Speaker 1: as a dad, which maybe he does, but also that 391 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:07,560 Speaker 1: it is one hundred percent his own fault for failing 392 00:18:07,600 --> 00:18:10,000 Speaker 1: you as a dad. I suggest you just pray some 393 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 1: day he sees your kids as grandkids and is the 394 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:16,479 Speaker 1: amazing grandpa he can be for them. Other than that, 395 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:18,879 Speaker 1: go see a therapist and figure out what is wrong 396 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:21,840 Speaker 1: with you because this isn't a singular mistake inside of 397 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:24,440 Speaker 1: a small moment. This was a series of repeated decisions 398 00:18:24,480 --> 00:18:27,159 Speaker 1: and honestly shows you have a lot to work on. 399 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:28,639 Speaker 2: I disagree. 400 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:31,439 Speaker 1: I disagree with a lot of that. Yeahh what do 401 00:18:31,480 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 1: you disagree with? 402 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 2: One? Rob? We know Rob and he's he's a forgiving guy, 403 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 2: forgiving guy. I don't think that he doesn't think of 404 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:40,760 Speaker 2: OPI as not his daughter. I think he thinks that 405 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:42,680 Speaker 2: op he doesn't think of him as a father. 406 00:18:42,800 --> 00:18:42,960 Speaker 1: Two. 407 00:18:43,240 --> 00:18:46,399 Speaker 2: I don't agree that OPI can't do anything to fix this. 408 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:48,480 Speaker 2: I think she has to do a lot. Yeah, I 409 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 2: think she has to put in the work, But I 410 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:51,160 Speaker 2: think she. 411 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:52,760 Speaker 1: Can fix it exactly exactly. 412 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 2: I think to say that she can't fix it is 413 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 2: even more selfish. 414 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 1: And I think there's a lot of ways you can 415 00:18:57,119 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: fix it. Tiny Cactus has a great way. Name all 416 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:07,200 Speaker 1: all of your kids after Rob, Robin, Robina, Roberta, roberta bomb. Yeah. 417 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:08,919 Speaker 1: I think that's one way to do it. And then 418 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 1: bird Bibe says, I just can't get over the fact 419 00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:13,720 Speaker 1: that Opie's husband tried to point out to her before 420 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:16,840 Speaker 1: it ever happened. Was she truly that oblivious? And revolutionary 421 00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:19,320 Speaker 1: hat eight nine eight eight says I want to hug Rob. 422 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:21,640 Speaker 1: We all need a Rob in our lives, and there 423 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 1: is an update radit says classic Reddit. Yeah, Reddit is 424 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 1: always just way tu mean and like way too cruel. 425 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 1: I think Reddit is like the least forgiving platform ever, 426 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 1: And I think something we try to do on the 427 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 1: show is more be more forgiving, Like I think we 428 00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 1: should all be more forgiving of people who transgressed us. 429 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 2: And yeah, to use some of my fourteen years of 430 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:48,520 Speaker 2: Catholic upbringing, let ye who is the one without sin? 431 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 2: Cast the first stone? 432 00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:55,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, there we go. Yeah, Yeah, I feel like it's 433 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 1: it's really important to live a good life, to be 434 00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: forgiving if we want to live a bit live like 435 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 1: Rob lives, Yeah, more like Rob do, And that's probably 436 00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:06,400 Speaker 1: what should be done. 437 00:20:06,520 --> 00:20:08,760 Speaker 2: No, I think a lot of times, yeah, I agree 438 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:11,280 Speaker 2: when people read these stories and when sometimes when you 439 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 2: know people who watch our stories, they're they're very quick 440 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 2: to judge, and I think that you know, just to 441 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:17,919 Speaker 2: take a second and be like, okay, is there you know? 442 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,359 Speaker 2: Have I always been perfect? Is there any grace I 443 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:20,960 Speaker 2: can give them? 444 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:23,680 Speaker 1: And I think something that some people I've noticed I 445 00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:25,600 Speaker 1: get a lot of comments where it's like, I can't 446 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 1: believe you would support blah blah blah blah this person. 447 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:30,400 Speaker 1: And I think it's like trying to see things from 448 00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:34,680 Speaker 1: other perspectives actually makes you the most empathetic person possible. Yeah, 449 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:36,880 Speaker 1: and I think that's like one of the most important 450 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:39,120 Speaker 1: lessons to learn in life is empathy. 451 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:40,760 Speaker 2: I think it's also important to note that you don't 452 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:44,680 Speaker 2: have to agree with someone or with a person's actions 453 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:46,400 Speaker 2: to have empathy for them exactly. 454 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you can say that was dumb, that was 455 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:52,000 Speaker 1: a dumb move, and I totally would have done that 456 00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:54,920 Speaker 1: when I was younger and stupider. Yeah, or maybe I 457 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 1: would have done it. 458 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 2: I have absolutely made, you know, decisions or made like 459 00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:01,199 Speaker 2: there have been moments in my life where I have 460 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,600 Speaker 2: been like not as empathetic or like I've made a 461 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:06,040 Speaker 2: mistake and I've hurt someone. 462 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:11,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, so perfect, crazy guys, crazy shocker. 463 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:17,640 Speaker 2: Every time. It's impossible for everyone to be right all 464 00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:20,080 Speaker 2: the time, but I'm right most of the time. 465 00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 1: But love bubbles. This definitely makes Rob feel like he's temporary. 466 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 1: Thanks for the two buck tip and Blue Alci thanks 467 00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:28,359 Speaker 1: for the five buck tip. Make a photo album of 468 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:31,720 Speaker 1: Rob herself, to show him that she now sees all 469 00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: those times he was there, make him a speech to 470 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:37,160 Speaker 1: let him know how important he is, apologies, and take 471 00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:40,959 Speaker 1: him to dinner, just the two of you, dude, dinner, party, dinner. 472 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 1: I love the scrap books speech. I want I want 473 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:47,199 Speaker 1: all of the robot photo shoot with the rob. I 474 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 1: want all of it. I want all of it. But 475 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,400 Speaker 1: there is an update three days later. Are you ready 476 00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:51,679 Speaker 1: for it? 477 00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:52,000 Speaker 2: Yeah? 478 00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: All right? So first I want to say some things 479 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 1: before posting. No, I am not Linda. My biological father 480 00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:00,720 Speaker 1: isn't dying. Got a DM in here, I guess that 481 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:04,560 Speaker 1: was another story. My sister is mostly just sad, not 482 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,280 Speaker 1: really mad at me, just said she understood my situation, 483 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:10,480 Speaker 1: but it still was really crappy seeing her father taken 484 00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:13,480 Speaker 1: for granted and sad. My mother is the person most 485 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,320 Speaker 1: pissed off at the moment. She is the only one 486 00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:18,240 Speaker 1: that still does not talk to me. I mean she does, 487 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:20,679 Speaker 1: but not really. For the people saying my husband and 488 00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:23,840 Speaker 1: mother were for not talking to me before they agree, 489 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:26,800 Speaker 1: and I've told me this my husband specifically. I'm not 490 00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:29,720 Speaker 1: trying to shift blame here, just saying this for the 491 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 1: people that talked about it. I was not going to 492 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:33,800 Speaker 1: post anything else on here. Not a fan of being 493 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:36,720 Speaker 1: called names and for people to keep saying that Rob 494 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:37,879 Speaker 1: should leave her family? 495 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 3: What are you? 496 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:44,200 Speaker 2: Who are many? 497 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 3: You? 498 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:51,359 Speaker 1: Not a fan of being called names? Although I'm well 499 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:54,680 Speaker 1: aware that I deserve most of everything that was said 500 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:57,640 Speaker 1: about me, the comments saying the apple doesn't far fall 501 00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 1: from the tree in regards to me and my biology 502 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:04,920 Speaker 1: father were the ones that hurt the most. A knife 503 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:06,879 Speaker 1: to the heart, and it is a fear of mine 504 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,359 Speaker 1: and the reason I don't drink much and don't use 505 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,439 Speaker 1: any substances or anything that could be addictive. But seeing 506 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:14,600 Speaker 1: how there are other things that could make us more 507 00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:17,679 Speaker 1: similar than I realized is really rightening. The day I 508 00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:20,639 Speaker 1: posted here, my mom told me Rob wanted to speak 509 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,080 Speaker 1: to me and to go to their home after work. 510 00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:26,320 Speaker 1: I went and waited for Rob to arrive. When he did, 511 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:28,560 Speaker 1: my mom left us alone, and he started off by 512 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 1: saying that he was hurt by what I did at 513 00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:33,160 Speaker 1: the wedding, that he knows he is not my father 514 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,199 Speaker 1: and that he would never try to force that on me, 515 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:37,720 Speaker 1: but that he at least thought he had some sort 516 00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:40,320 Speaker 1: of importance in my life and seeing me just not 517 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 1: give him any importance apart from talking to him when 518 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 1: I needed help with something made him realize that I 519 00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:49,800 Speaker 1: did not view him the way he thought I did, so. 520 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:53,399 Speaker 2: We were right. What that yet he thought, Yeah, he's. 521 00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:56,040 Speaker 1: Sad that he thought she viewed him as a father. 522 00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:58,760 Speaker 2: And he didn't, or to his spine, she didn't. 523 00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 1: At this point, I was all already crying so much 524 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 1: that I couldn't even talk. I waited for him to finish, 525 00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,879 Speaker 1: and when he did, I just told, basically what you 526 00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:07,679 Speaker 1: all saw on the post, that I affed up so 527 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:09,920 Speaker 1: bad that I was inconsiderate, that he is one of 528 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 1: the most important people in my life, and that what 529 00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 1: I did was unforgivable. The only reason I'm posting it 530 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,720 Speaker 1: here is because of something he said during the conversation. 531 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,159 Speaker 1: He said something about my time at college, and I 532 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,679 Speaker 1: went but that was because and stopped. He asked me, 533 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,360 Speaker 1: what because of what I just said? Nothing? You were right. 534 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:28,200 Speaker 1: That was my fault and I should have done better. 535 00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:30,720 Speaker 1: He was pretty angry at that point, and he started 536 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,240 Speaker 1: to smile, and we talked about me taking responsibility for 537 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:37,119 Speaker 1: my actions. It's something that I am terrible at. It 538 00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,240 Speaker 1: was an issue at my old job, and since then 539 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:41,440 Speaker 1: I have been trying to get better at it, but 540 00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:44,240 Speaker 1: not very successfully. He asked what changed, and I told 541 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 1: him about the post. Multiple people in the comments said 542 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:50,880 Speaker 1: that I don't take responsibility, and yes, they read right 543 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,119 Speaker 1: through me. I showed it to him and reading the 544 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 1: post calmed him down. And no, he did not read 545 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:58,560 Speaker 1: the comments, just the ones I showed to him. I 546 00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:01,080 Speaker 1: would not let him see what some of you were 547 00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,720 Speaker 1: saying about my mom. So yes, he told me if 548 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,160 Speaker 1: I was going to say something else, to thank you 549 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,000 Speaker 1: for calling me out for not taking responsibility. So ope, 550 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,600 Speaker 1: he's like basically saying thank you to Reddit for the 551 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:14,679 Speaker 1: people that actually give Valley criticism and were like, you're 552 00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:16,679 Speaker 1: not taking responsibility. You need to do that. Yeah. We 553 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:18,600 Speaker 1: talked about a lot of other things not related to 554 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:20,480 Speaker 1: the wedding. At the end, I just told him that 555 00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,360 Speaker 1: there were two things I wanted to say to him 556 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,639 Speaker 1: to take away from the conversation. Here are the two things. 557 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:26,720 Speaker 1: I really did mean it when I was in high 558 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,520 Speaker 1: school and said I wished he was my dad. Even 559 00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:32,440 Speaker 1: now with my biological dad in my life, I still 560 00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,639 Speaker 1: feel that way. And the second thing is I know 561 00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:37,240 Speaker 1: that It'll be hard for him to believe it right 562 00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:39,760 Speaker 1: now because of what happened, but I will try to 563 00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:42,080 Speaker 1: prove it to him for as long as it takes. 564 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,520 Speaker 1: That Rob is her dad. For those interested, I've been 565 00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:46,680 Speaker 1: going to a therapist with my biological father once every 566 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:48,600 Speaker 1: two weeks since he came back, but I think I 567 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,440 Speaker 1: need one for myself, so I will try to make 568 00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:53,879 Speaker 1: that happen soon. I want to thank three particular commentars 569 00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,080 Speaker 1: that helped me. One the person that told me to 570 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:58,760 Speaker 1: take it slow with Rob and DM me to stop 571 00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,320 Speaker 1: looking at the thread because I was spiraling good idea too. 572 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,960 Speaker 1: The people that said people f up, sometimes badly, but 573 00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,479 Speaker 1: in a loving and caring family, it's never the end 574 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,320 Speaker 1: of things as long as you're willing to own your 575 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:11,840 Speaker 1: own mistakes agreed. And Three and most importantly, the best 576 00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 1: comment that was fair and gave me the right advice. 577 00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:17,919 Speaker 1: You are a spoiled, selfish, childish person. I don't know 578 00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:20,560 Speaker 1: that Rob will forgive you, but you can't simply wait 579 00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:22,359 Speaker 1: to see if he does. Write him a letter in 580 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,560 Speaker 1: which you fully own up to your awful behavior. Do 581 00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 1: not say I wish someone had stopped me. That isn't 582 00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:29,000 Speaker 1: taking accountability for the way you treat people. With him 583 00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:30,919 Speaker 1: and your mom paying for your wedding and your in 584 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,040 Speaker 1: laws paying for your house, you need to grow up 585 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:36,480 Speaker 1: and reflect very seriously on how you interact with everyone 586 00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:39,720 Speaker 1: around you. I guess the post served as the letter 587 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:41,879 Speaker 1: in the scenario thank you. That was a slap in 588 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 1: the face. I needed to realize that I need to 589 00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 1: do a lot of work to improve myself and that 590 00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 1: the wedding was not its own thing. So like, yeah, 591 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,800 Speaker 1: it's true. The wedding is a resemblance. It is the 592 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,160 Speaker 1: now amalgamation of everything that you've been doing to Rob, 593 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,040 Speaker 1: taking him for granted, it is a reflection of who 594 00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:58,800 Speaker 1: I am right now, and I don't like what I 595 00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:00,679 Speaker 1: see when I look in the mirror. So Rob more 596 00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:03,000 Speaker 1: or less told me something similar, just not as aggressive. 597 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,199 Speaker 1: So this comment made me take his words as not 598 00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 1: him attacking me, but trying to help me understand my flaws. 599 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 1: I'm not sure how I will make up for this. 600 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:12,000 Speaker 1: Rob is telling me that over time, just me being 601 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: how I was before my biological showed up will be 602 00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:16,159 Speaker 1: enough for him. I don't doubt him, but it's not 603 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:18,000 Speaker 1: enough for me. I will live with what I did 604 00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,080 Speaker 1: for the rest of my life. I will always remember 605 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,199 Speaker 1: the way I am now. I actually need people to 606 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:24,160 Speaker 1: call me out for this kind of thing, and it's 607 00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 1: not fair to them. I will work on it. I 608 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:28,160 Speaker 1: have to. I will try my hardest to not hurt 609 00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:31,359 Speaker 1: anyone like this that I love ever again. Thankfully now 610 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 1: I have someone and my husband to help me do 611 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:36,159 Speaker 1: that and call me out if needed. Thank you. And 612 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,639 Speaker 1: there are some relevant comments that close this out. Not 613 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,199 Speaker 1: No Peace says you're going to feel like crap on 614 00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 1: your sister's wedding day, and good Queen Fluffinchop says, Sis 615 00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:46,359 Speaker 1: is definitely going to go above and beyond to make 616 00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:48,720 Speaker 1: sure her dad knows he has loved and honors and 617 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:51,320 Speaker 1: the walk down the aisle and father daughter dance will 618 00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:55,280 Speaker 1: be the most lovely. Capilot says yes, then he'll realize 619 00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:57,879 Speaker 1: that someone loves him. They're really getting salted in the 620 00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:02,960 Speaker 1: wound read it, God, Okay, he's trying. 621 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,640 Speaker 2: I feel like at the end of the story, we 622 00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:09,960 Speaker 2: know that Op like massively left up, but like they grow. 623 00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:13,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, Linda's saying grow. 624 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,240 Speaker 2: Don't kick them while they're down. 625 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:18,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, kick them all. If you kick someone wall, they're growing. 626 00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,160 Speaker 1: You might destroy the seeds of something beautiful. 627 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:21,920 Speaker 2: That was gorgeous. 628 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:26,639 Speaker 1: Thank you, yeah, oh thanks. John Kamsas says her husband 629 00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:28,920 Speaker 1: literally spelt it out to her and she didn't listen. Yeah, 630 00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:30,600 Speaker 1: but I think what we're seeing now is a little 631 00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:31,400 Speaker 1: bit she knows that. 632 00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:35,120 Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, I was. Yeah, she made a horrible 633 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,080 Speaker 2: mistake and she's learning and she's growing. And if we, 634 00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:40,920 Speaker 2: you know, beat up a person while they're trying to 635 00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 2: learn and grow, no one will ever. 636 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 1: Learn and grow. We need to make sure people learning grow. 637 00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:52,360 Speaker 1: What just a minute, what you're doing great? I think 638 00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,480 Speaker 1: that was great, Sophia. If you don't let people meander 639 00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:57,800 Speaker 1: and learn and grow and their sentence, they'll never finish 640 00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,640 Speaker 1: their thought, right, you had an incomplete That was the 641 00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:04,520 Speaker 1: thought that Sam just said. No, Sofia, it was great. 642 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:07,840 Speaker 3: No, Like you know that the Michael Scott thing where 643 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:09,800 Speaker 3: he's like, I just start a sentence and I want 644 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:10,680 Speaker 3: to see where it goes. 645 00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:11,880 Speaker 2: That was what that was. 646 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,120 Speaker 1: She completed the thought. Yes, it was my thought, But 647 00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:18,000 Speaker 1: don't kick her while she's growing. She's completing thoughts. Now, 648 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:18,560 Speaker 1: that's good. 649 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:20,480 Speaker 2: He was just emphasizing the thought. 650 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:23,760 Speaker 1: It was just like, that's what happened, So I love 651 00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:25,160 Speaker 1: you and support your thoughts. 652 00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:26,120 Speaker 2: You mean to me. 653 00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:28,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, I saw the wills turning. I didn't say it 654 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:30,320 Speaker 3: was a bad thing. It was just funny how it 655 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:30,760 Speaker 3: got there. 656 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, you know what I want to hear. I 657 00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:35,320 Speaker 1: want to hear more of Sophia because she's gonna read 658 00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:36,240 Speaker 1: this next story. 659 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:38,920 Speaker 2: Oh well, it sounds like I have two people in 660 00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 2: this room that don't want to hear my thoughts. 661 00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,000 Speaker 1: Oh, John and Riley. Yeah, there are just a bunch 662 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:46,880 Speaker 1: of thoughts those hoes over there, Linda, thanks to the 663 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:51,200 Speaker 1: two bucks. Our family is awesome, darn toutin the Okay, 664 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 1: fam is a beautiful thing. And I hope you guys 665 00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:58,280 Speaker 1: like for everyone who's new here, these are the episodes 666 00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:00,280 Speaker 1: that we record, they're gonna be released. This is the 667 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,800 Speaker 1: members only stream where we record episodes to got to 668 00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:04,560 Speaker 1: be released in like one or two weeks, so you 669 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 1: will be immortalized storytime history because we're gonna read comments 670 00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,320 Speaker 1: and interact with you guys. And actually maybe we do 671 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,640 Speaker 1: a call right now with someone on the wheel. 672 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,200 Speaker 3: No one wanted to call in, so we don't have 673 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:19,120 Speaker 3: anyone lined up. 674 00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 1: Oh okay, Well, if you want to call in on 675 00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 1: the next one. We'll bring you up here. Yeah. So, 676 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 1: DM Riley please if you want to give your thoughts 677 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:30,440 Speaker 1: on this next story. 678 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:31,000 Speaker 2: But let's get in