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Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And.

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Speaker 2: Just like that, we're back on the air.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to yet another podcast episode with your girl

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Speaker 1: Jess Hilarious. What I'll be doing, I'll be fixing mess.

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Speaker 1: And that's why the name of the podcast is called

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Speaker 1: carefully Reckless. And look, I never explained that to nobody, right,

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Speaker 1: so carefully reckless.

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Speaker 2: I know y'all probably like, what the hell does that

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Speaker 2: even mean?

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Speaker 1: I mean, well, other than it being obvious, I'm reckless,

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Speaker 1: but I'm still careful at the same time. And I

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Speaker 1: got the name reckless from being a clap back queen.

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Speaker 2: And being just with the mess.

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Speaker 1: Early on in my career, before I rebranded my pound,

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Speaker 1: you know, I was a little messing, so you know,

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Speaker 1: I would say I was reckless, you know. But as

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Speaker 1: time went on and I grew up in everything, I

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Speaker 1: became very careful of things that I talked about, and

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Speaker 1: then just going through controversy and all of that type

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Speaker 1: of stuff and then just having the bounce back and

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Speaker 1: be resilient and just rebrand myself.

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Speaker 2: So that's why I like.

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Speaker 1: To sugarcoat it by saying carefully reckless I'm not just

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Speaker 1: reckless now, I'm carefully reckless. That's why I start using

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Speaker 1: the words like allegedly when I'm reporting shit. You know,

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Speaker 1: but we're gonna jump straight into it because i'd be

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Speaker 1: fixing mess now.

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Speaker 2: I guess it's just over for the voice memos and

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Speaker 2: shit because y'all don't be sending me them no more.

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Speaker 1: So that lets me know that more people than before

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Speaker 1: is paying attention, and I love it. I got more

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Speaker 1: listeners because people be trying to listen for y'all voice,

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Speaker 1: and I love that, Thank you very much.

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Speaker 2: Let's get right into it. H Now.

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Speaker 1: I had a little shot y'all, so I'm on one

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Speaker 1: of that. But we got these stories and we're gonna

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Speaker 1: get right into it. Hold up, hold up, I said

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Speaker 1: that three times and they start reading yet sure I please?

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. I think I already read this.

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Speaker 1: Okay, oh wait, this is the same damn girl, damn bitch,

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Speaker 1: you got a problem every week.

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Speaker 2: Shit. Okay, let me just scroll on down. I scrolled up.

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Speaker 1: I fixed some mess a few weeks ago, Like, bitch,

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Speaker 1: you need to take a vacation to go to the

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Speaker 1: helm Dan where all right? Oh my god, Jess I

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Speaker 1: have a dilemma. So I got this friend who unfortunately

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Speaker 1: has a girlfriend, right, But this story isn't about him,

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Speaker 1: it's about her. So when we first were introduced at

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Speaker 1: his twenty first birthday party, I honestly thought she didn't

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Speaker 1: like the fact that her boyfriend had a close female friend,

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Speaker 1: which a lot of women have issues with for no reason.

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Speaker 2: Huh, well, bit sh'd be for reasons.

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Speaker 1: But I understand what you're saying, though, But her delivery

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Speaker 1: and approach with me was just off. Okay, So your

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Speaker 1: friends with this guy and his girlfriend has a problem

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Speaker 1: with you.

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Speaker 2: Okay. I just had a dissector real quick, all right.

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Speaker 1: So for the listeners who didn't understand, I didn't understand either.

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Speaker 2: Now we can move forward.

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Speaker 1: Because you fucked this next sittings up so bad, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna summarize what I think you mean. Okay, So this

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Speaker 1: is what they wrote, because I just got to put

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Speaker 1: you out there for this grammatical error. It says unlike

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Speaker 1: when she was talking to everyone else, even the other women,

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Speaker 1: and the difference between me and them is I'm gay, Jess. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So she was talking to other women that she was

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Speaker 1: you and she shouldn't because you gay.

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Speaker 2: It's what you're saying. Okay, got you? Now does she

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Speaker 2: know you gay? But let's continue.

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Speaker 1: So I came to the conclusion she didn't like me

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Speaker 1: because I was me, or because I was gay, and

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Speaker 1: honestly I was fine with that.

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Speaker 2: Damn. Wait a minute, bitch is your drug?

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Speaker 1: God?

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Speaker 2: Damn, let me read this again.

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Speaker 1: So I came to the conclusion that she didn't like

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Speaker 1: me because I was me, or because I was gay? Right, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I got you, I got you, okay, and honestly was

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Speaker 1: fine with that. For months, we basically avoided each other,

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Speaker 1: out with us all. Now about two months went by

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Speaker 1: and we were all at our friend miss party. Everyone

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Speaker 2: It was her. Oh shit.

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Speaker 1: She was pretty cool when she approached me this time

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Speaker 1: and even apologized for being stand offish in the past. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I saw, I mean, and I wanted them too. But y'all,

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Speaker 1: if it's raining, if it was going down snow, sleep hell,

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Speaker 1: if we want to hit a bliky, were gonna hit

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Speaker 1: that bliky, okay. I told her to come sit with

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Speaker 1: talked and talked and talked for what seemed like ten minutes,

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Speaker 1: in common it felt like we were soulmates. Talking to

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Speaker 2: Dam be your.

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Speaker 1: Feller, love bitch over a blunt and in ten minutes,

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Speaker 1: well an hour hmm, And it was great.

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Speaker 2: But I knew it was wrong. Ooh.

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Speaker 1: I tried avoiding her after that, but it didn't work.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, let me just finish reading this story.

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Speaker 1: This shit is unraveling pretty quickly. Next time I knew

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Speaker 1: I would see her was new Year's and I was right.

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Speaker 1: As soon as I walked in, I greeted everyone and

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Speaker 1: was suddenly pulled into the bathroom. Now, in my mind,

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Speaker 1: I'm wondering how nobody's seen her and why does.

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Speaker 2: She pull me on? It sounds a little rapy. Damn,

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Speaker 2: she knows what's wrong.

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Speaker 1: I can't do this to basically my brother, like that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: But then she kissed me, and everything went out the window.

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Speaker 1: Oh my, Literally after things started progressing and it was

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Speaker 1: too much, to the point where my guilty conscience was

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Speaker 1: what to do. I know what's wrong, and I know

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Speaker 1: I should tell him, but we've been friends literally since

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Speaker 1: we were in diapers. Mmm.

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Speaker 2: I just know it would crush him. Any advice, Nah,

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Speaker 2: but you're your own with this one. I ain't gonna

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Speaker 2: hold it. I don't know what to say. Nah, I

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Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I know the shit getting good,

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Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.

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Speaker 2: If you love me, you'll listen. Now. Look, I ain't

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Speaker 1: We got wood, So look, that's gonna be the sound

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Speaker 1: I make when we read a story that we've never

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Speaker 2: Y'all listen, we have never heard a story like this before. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I like this. I ain't saying.

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Speaker 1: We ain't never say nothing like this in life. And

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Speaker 1: ain't nobody ever to write me something like this. Nobody

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Speaker 1: ever wrote me a story like this and asked me

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Speaker 1: to fix they met so for one, Like I said,

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you being honest and open enough to come

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Speaker 1: out to me and tell me this shit, because this.

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Speaker 2: Is a bold story.

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Speaker 1: And I hope your friend do not listen to this shit. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So here we are. I think the device starts with

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Speaker 1: your friend. To be honest with you, Well, you know what,

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Speaker 1: we gotta back that up because you engaged with the

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Speaker 1: friend and it takes to the fucking tango. And when

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Speaker 1: jacked the up on the wall and said, look, bitch,

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Speaker 1: you gotta chill. You date my brother. My brother sens diapers.

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Speaker 1: You gotta relax, all right. I don't want to betray him,

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Speaker 1: and you shouldn't want to be tram either. But steady,

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Speaker 1: you hear trying to eat my pussy in the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: Get your mind right, bitch, backhander, walk out.

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Speaker 1: That's what you should have That was the scene, right,

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Speaker 1: But you didn't. Y'all orally made love in the bathroom,

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Speaker 1: like and I just meant tugging each other down.

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Speaker 2: I didn't mean y'all went down on each other. And

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Speaker 2: that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: And then what you said is you knew it was wrong,

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Speaker 1: but everything went out the fucking window when she kissed you.

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Speaker 1: And you know what, This all starts with you inviting

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Speaker 2: But listen, this is also what I realized.

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Speaker 1: Maybe she didn't like you because she liked you. If

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Speaker 1: you get my drift, you get where I'm going. You

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Speaker 1: it was never about the boyfriend. Maybe she always knew

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Speaker 1: She was trying to read the room, read the temperature

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie to you now. We make mistakes

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Speaker 1: as friends all the time, but baby girl, you was

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Speaker 1: horrible for this shit because, like you said, if it's

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Speaker 1: that something is actually happening that you know should not

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Speaker 1: a mistake. That's what makes it purposeful, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like you did this you on purpose. You

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Speaker 1: But tell me what was the purpose? Like Carty said,

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Speaker 1: what was that rainsing?

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Speaker 2: What was the reason?

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Speaker 1: You know how many fishing tocy and you are gay,

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Speaker 1: so how many girls out there waiting the munch on

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Speaker 1: you and you gonna fuck with your brother's girl on

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Speaker 1: the side. Uh, both of y'all need y'all hitsmack period,

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Speaker 1: all right. And I'm saying that to you out of

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Speaker 1: love because I don't want you to get mad at me.

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Speaker 2: But I tell it like it is, Boo.

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Speaker 1: I don't always take the side of the person writing

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Speaker 1: me the story, you know what I'm saying, because sometimes

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Speaker 1: y'all be wrong.

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Speaker 2: A lot of times y'all are not.

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Speaker 1: But sometimes, very seldomly y'all are the ones wrong.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: So you ask me, what did you what should you do?

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Speaker 1: I said all that to say you should have a conversation.

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Speaker 1: But you shouldn't do that. If you value the relationship

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Speaker 1: And then good friendships are just hard to find, you know.

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, and feel bad enough to

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Speaker 1: But if you can't, if you can't do that, then

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm definitely open to you not talking to him

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Speaker 1: He would have never caught, y'all. So Shorty is serial sneaky, you.

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Speaker 1: If you want Shorty, go get her. You're just gonna

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Speaker 1: update me.

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Speaker 2: And I love that. I love that we had a

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Speaker 1: I know, and this is no discredit to anybody else,

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Speaker 1: like with stories similar to others that you know that

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Speaker 1: we try to fix the mess of every week, but

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Speaker 1: it's and we, I mean me and Taylor because Taylor

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Speaker 1: is not here today because she's busy.

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Speaker 2: But I wanted to take this one by myself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, man, like I I damn, I just fucked my

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Speaker 1: thought up.

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Speaker 2: I forgot. It's crazy. I'm not even pregnant no more,

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Speaker 2: and I.

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Speaker 1: Still be having pregnancy brain, I still be like forgetting,

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Speaker 1: Like mid sentence, what the fuck I'm gonna say, I

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Speaker 1: don't know how long that takes until that goes away,

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Speaker 1: but that that happens, and there's no, no, it's not

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Speaker 1: because of the shots.

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Speaker 2: So don't judge me.

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Speaker 1: Judge your mother, And just like that, we've come to

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Speaker 1: get another carefully.

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Speaker 2: Reckless episode with your girl Jesselari. It's again.

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Speaker 1: Taylor is out to die because she has real work

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Speaker 1: to do, y'all, all right, so she ain't got time

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Speaker 1: to be reading y'all problems, all right. But her friends

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Speaker 1: got the worst problem, so we like to hear from

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Speaker 1: them sometimes and fix their mess.

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Speaker 2: But y'all cath us next week on.

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Speaker 1: Carefully Reckless and anywhere you find your podcast pace can't.

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