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Speaker 1: Well, guys, a breakup can be horrible when you're the

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Speaker 1: one getting dumped. I mean, we've all been there, we

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Speaker 1: know how it feels. But being the breaker upper isn't

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Speaker 1: always easy. That's not always easy, right knowing you Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because you're the one that's going to hurt someone else.

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Speaker 2: You know that you care about.

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Speaker 1: You know, you can make second guess yourself and wonder

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Speaker 1: if you're really doing the right thing. But ghosting isn't

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Speaker 1: cool like texting someone to break up. Okay, so here

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Speaker 1: are some some decent ways to break up, according to

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Speaker 1: Cosmopolitan magazine, all right, this is about breaking up grown

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Speaker 1: folks style.

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Speaker 2: We want you to be clear. If you're the breaker upper.

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Speaker 1: People only end relationships when their partner doesn't match their outlook,

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Speaker 1: their values, their needs and desires anymore. Otherwise you're still

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Speaker 1: good right.

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Speaker 3: Outlook value, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, outlook all that in big words.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you don't, if they don't match that, then

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Speaker 1: you got to break up with them. But if they do,

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Speaker 1: then you're good stay with.

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Speaker 2: So be clear, Just be clear.

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Speaker 4: It is yeah, well but you know it's you can

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Speaker 4: they're saying you good.

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Speaker 3: But a person can have all the qualities and you

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Speaker 3: just not like them.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, I see what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: I think that can happen, meaning the values and all

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Speaker 1: that can match up.

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Speaker 4: You just don't like you, like what I like, what

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Speaker 4: I eat? You want to go where I want to go?

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Speaker 4: But if I don't like you, you.

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Speaker 2: Or why are you with them in the first place?

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Speaker 4: He s you? You do one came up with the

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Speaker 4: adult breakup.

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Speaker 1: All right, fall out of love in your in your

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Speaker 1: mind first, it's only going to be okay, and listen

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Speaker 1: to this.

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Speaker 2: It's only going to be.

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Speaker 1: Harder to end things if you keep thinking about the

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Speaker 1: happy times.

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Speaker 2: So you got to stop that, all right.

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Speaker 1: When you're trying to build up the strength to break

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Speaker 1: up with some one, focus on the top five negative.

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Speaker 2: Moments of your relationship.

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Speaker 1: This is all according to Cosmotolitan Cosmopolitan magazine.

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Speaker 2: This is according to them. So yeah, what do you think.

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Speaker 2: Let's hear your point.

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Speaker 4: I'm here to help you.

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Speaker 5: You know, I break up with you, but keep doing

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Speaker 5: it with you, you know what I mean, because you're

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Speaker 5: gonna need That's why you're going through this.

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: That's not healthy, that's toxic.

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Speaker 4: No, that ain't talk.

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Speaker 3: I'm helping you get through what we're going through.

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Speaker 2: That's unhealthy. Tommy to no, it's not. It's unhealthy without

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Speaker 2: Steve jumping here anytime.

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Speaker 4: C l O.

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Speaker 2: Chief Love Officer.

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Speaker 4: No, So you need you need it's two many three

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Speaker 4: men on this show. You need to see his side.

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Speaker 2: What's your side?

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Speaker 6: You're with?

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Speaker 1: Who?

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Speaker 6: What you break? That makes sense to me? Break?

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Speaker 5: But let's keep going. I mean, I mean, come on,

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Speaker 5: think about it, sir. Let me say you So we

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Speaker 5: break up on a Thursday. This is our first Friday apart, right,

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Speaker 5: what we're supposed to do.

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Speaker 6: We've been doing it on Friday. Let's get back and

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Speaker 6: get going. This makes absolute great sense. I don't know

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Speaker 6: what the people that Common Polity talking about.

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Speaker 5: It, but me and Tommy and other Steve agree we've

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Speaker 5: been doing it on Fridays.

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Speaker 6: Why stop?

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Speaker 5: Now?

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Speaker 1: What guys think? Really?

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Speaker 4: What you want?

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Speaker 2: I don't want you to think off I break up

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Speaker 2: with you?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but you're still coming through. I want to talk then. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 4: let's just talk about it in bed.

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Speaker 2: Naked.

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Speaker 4: If that's where we at, let me see if I've

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Speaker 4: made a mistake.

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Speaker 5: That's what that's what you're talking about. That's the question.

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Speaker 5: Let's see if I've made a mistake. No, he's saying, well,

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Speaker 5: we're laying down. Let's see if I've made a mistake.

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Speaker 1: Right, yeah, all right, next, moving on from that ignorance,

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Speaker 1: be kind, very kind, but be strict.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Breakups are hard for both people. So be kind and

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Speaker 1: be respectful. While you start to distance yourself. You see that.

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Speaker 1: While you start to distance yourself, but stay strong with

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Speaker 1: your boundaries.

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Speaker 4: All right, can you what?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's important, miss many this, miss many?

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Speaker 4: Now many, don't burn? No cheating? What is we talking about?

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna ask you, n actually to get into bed?

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Speaker 6: Did I do that? I will be firm, say it again.

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Speaker 6: Could you please get in the bed? No, get your bed?

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Speaker 6: That works, Try it the nice way. But you like it?

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Speaker 6: You like it when I'm direct, sh I am?

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Speaker 2: I am? Figure okay, this is what else you have

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Speaker 2: to do?

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Speaker 1: Guys, when you want to break up, you know nicely,

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Speaker 1: like grown ups should do.

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Speaker 2: Figure out how valuable they are? Figure it out?

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Speaker 1: Okay, only you know if this is a five minute

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Speaker 1: breakup over coffee, sit down, dinner and discussion, or one

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Speaker 1: last night.

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Speaker 2: Last night of.

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Speaker 4: Passion finally said we agree with one.

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Speaker 2: Last night of pass before yes, break up.

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Speaker 4: Yes, don't nobody? I want no coffee. Coffee, that's right,

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Speaker 4: A lot of nobody looking for a motel. Ain't nobody

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Speaker 4: looking for that?

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Speaker 6: Who are you.

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Speaker 5: Guys on top of that shirt? What figure out how

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Speaker 5: value it? I don't set your price. I set in

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Speaker 5: my ass. I know how value I am.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm I like that. Junior.

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Speaker 3: You have to allow these guys to You've got to

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Speaker 3: see more than one side, uh, because that's actually how

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Speaker 3: they think.

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Speaker 1: Yes it is no yeah when you're not here and

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Speaker 1: they answered the strawberry letter, it's pretty much like this,

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Speaker 1: pretty much yeah, persona.

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Speaker 6: But we are representing the male community.

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Speaker 1: From all right, guys, we'll be back with more of

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