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Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beeB, Hi.

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Speaker 2: Cheeky's, I'm just wondering what happened to the lady that

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Speaker 3: No, oh, Jesse, that's a different question. Okay. So Melele,

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Speaker 3: we used to call her Melele. Her name is Mercedes.

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Speaker 1: We talked to her, Johnny and I talked to her

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Speaker 1: I mean, I've thought about bringing her back here and there.

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Speaker 1: As hard as it's going to be and as much

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