1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: Buggal up. Hold on tight, we got it for you here. 2 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:08,440 Speaker 1: It is Schawberry letter, subject my wife cheats way more 3 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 1: than I do. Listen, there's Steven Shirley. My wife and 4 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:18,640 Speaker 1: I have been together since two thousand and nine and 5 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 1: married since two thousand and fifteen. We have three sons 6 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:25,159 Speaker 1: and I love them all dearly. I'm not trying to 7 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:27,920 Speaker 1: sugarcoat this at all, but I have to tell you 8 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: about my wife now. We've both cheated on each other 9 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 1: from the beginning of our relationship, even though she refuses 10 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:39,880 Speaker 1: to admit all that she's done. I forgive her for 11 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: everything because of my wrongdoing, but I have a problem 12 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: with her dishonesty. I am willing to work work on 13 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,599 Speaker 1: all of our business issue, all of our issues, because 14 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: it's till death do us part. She admitted to cheating 15 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 1: with six different guys since we've been married, but she 16 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 1: claims that no sex was involved. I don't understand what 17 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 1: you're doing if you cheat without having sex. I've admitted everything, 18 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: even that I got my ex mistress pregnant and we 19 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 1: ended up terminating the pregnancy. That was it for me, 20 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: and now I'm done cheating. I want to work on 21 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 1: my marriage because I don't want to lose this woman. 22 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,479 Speaker 1: But just the other day I saw her looking at 23 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 1: another guy lustfully, and it brought back the doubts I 24 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: have about her being faithful to me. I try not 25 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: to keep bringing up the cheating because I don't want 26 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 1: to keep the dispute going. There has been so much 27 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:37,760 Speaker 1: damage done already. I'm remorseful and I forgive her, but 28 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 1: I cannot forget all that has happened. It is Is 29 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: it too late for us? What should we do? Please? Help? Well, 30 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 1: I'll say this, Um, it's never too late for anything. 31 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 1: It's never too late. It's never too late. But man, 32 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: oh man, this this is a lot right here. Um, 33 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: I have to suggest also, kind unseling, counseling counseling, I 34 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: have to suggest that if you truly want to work 35 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: on your marriage, you and your wife right now are 36 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:09,519 Speaker 1: on two different pages completely. You say you are done 37 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,920 Speaker 1: with cheating, but your wife uh seems to still have 38 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 1: it in her blood. If what you're saying it's true, 39 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:18,239 Speaker 1: you want her to stop, but listen until she's ready 40 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: to stop. If she's ever ready to stop, you guys 41 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 1: cannot move forward. It's way big of you to forgive 42 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: her and all of that, uh, and to finally stop 43 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:30,240 Speaker 1: cheating yourself and UH want to work on your marriage. 44 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 1: That's very unusual for a man. Usually men don't do that. 45 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 1: Usually it's the woman who will take the man back 46 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: for cheating. But it's you know, men do take their 47 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:43,519 Speaker 1: wives back, but it's very rare. It's rare. The trust 48 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: has been broken here, and unless you guys are willing 49 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:48,639 Speaker 1: to do the work that it's going to take to 50 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: rebuild that trust and get back on the same page. Uh, 51 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: this relationship is doomed. And that's the bottom line, Stevey. 52 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,799 Speaker 1: I don't even know how you wrote this. We come back, 53 00:03:03,840 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about these six dudes. She's been with six. 54 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,520 Speaker 1: Ain't that much forgiveness in the world. I'm not the lord. 55 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you that he got his mistress pregnant. Steve, 56 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: don't forget that. We'll have part two of your response 57 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 1: to the letter. Steve. Here we are with today's Strawberry letter, 58 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 1: the subject my wife cheats way more than I do. 59 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: Let's recap this is it really ain't no recap. These 60 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 1: people have been together since two thousand nine, married since 61 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:33,240 Speaker 1: two thousand fifty they got three sons he loved. This 62 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: is a man writing this letter. He ain't on sugarcoat this. 63 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: But I gotta tell you a by my wife. We've 64 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: both cheated on each other from the beginning of our relationship, 65 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 1: that from two thousand nine, even though she refuses to 66 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: admit all she's done. I forgive her for everything because 67 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: of my wrongdoing, but I got a problem with her dishonesty. 68 00:03:53,920 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 1: You got a problem with her dishunter. WoT don't see, bro, 69 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 1: I'm not understanding you. Man. I forgive her because of 70 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: everything because of my wrongdoing, but I got a problem 71 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 1: with her dishonest What I got a problem with Tommy 72 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:18,239 Speaker 1: being black? But ain't I black too? But you can't 73 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: be a dishonest person and then to have a problem 74 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 1: with another person dishonest. It's crazy. I'm wanting to work 75 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: on all our issues because it's till death do us part. Oh, 76 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:36,160 Speaker 1: so now you want to bring out divine. She admitted 77 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:40,039 Speaker 1: to cheating with six different dudes since we've been married. 78 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: It ain't but two thousand and eighteen. In three years, 79 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: you just slept with six dudes outside of your marriage, 80 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:53,720 Speaker 1: But she claims no sex was involved. I don't understand 81 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: what you're doing. If you cheat without having set you 82 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:58,839 Speaker 1: and I both know. Dog, Come on, you quit talking 83 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:04,279 Speaker 1: about this here. This boy is stupid on so many levels. 84 00:05:04,320 --> 00:05:08,280 Speaker 1: I've admitted everything, even that I got my ex mistress 85 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 1: pregnant and we ended up terminating the pregnancy. So what 86 00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: did you go in there and tell it? Phonk? Yeah, 87 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:18,919 Speaker 1: why did you walk in there? If you terminated the pregnancy, 88 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:23,039 Speaker 1: which I'm not condoning or bashing, That's not what I'm 89 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: doing here. But if you terminated the pregnancy with your mistress, 90 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 1: what is you going in the house with the news 91 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: that there's nothing to talk about happened? You're getting riled. 92 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:45,159 Speaker 1: Stupid ass didn't terminated the pregnancy, then walk in the 93 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: house and admit everything. If Nick, what are you two? 94 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: That was it for me? And now I'm done cheating. 95 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 1: I want to work on my marriage. You don't have 96 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 1: a marriage, y'all. Just two people to stay together that 97 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 1: screw a lot out of other people. Because I don't 98 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:11,839 Speaker 1: want to lose this. You don't have wait, wait, there 99 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 1: are two people that stay together that do what y'all? 100 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: Just two people that stay together and screw a lot 101 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 1: of other It ain't what. This ain't marriage. Don't sound 102 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:28,480 Speaker 1: Let the gospel play? What you really? That new uh 103 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:34,480 Speaker 1: commercial on TV for cable, y'all slingless. I want to 104 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: work on my marriage. You don't have one, because I 105 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:39,719 Speaker 1: don't want to lose this woman. This not your woman. 106 00:06:41,400 --> 00:06:45,279 Speaker 1: She belong to too many other people. But just the 107 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: other day I saw her looking at another guy lustfully. 108 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: Well that's number seven, and it brought back the doubts 109 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 1: I have about her being faithful to me. She not. 110 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: I try not to keep bringing up to cheating. She 111 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: keep cheating. You can't quit bringing it up because the 112 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,039 Speaker 1: number keep getting high. She brought it up again at 113 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: the three, then she did four, that she did five. 114 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: She didn't sick this sound. Now she looking at number seven, 115 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 1: and you saw. I don't want to keep the dispute going. 116 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:22,240 Speaker 1: There's so much damage done already. Dog, y'all irreparable. Guess 117 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 1: what I think. Y'all ain't got nothing. Y'all ain't never 118 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: been faithful to each other. You've never been true to 119 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: each other. You've been lying and cheating on each other 120 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 1: since you met. What repair? What? It's never been any church. 121 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 1: I'm remorseful, and I forgive her. What shut up with 122 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:48,679 Speaker 1: saying you forgive her? That's too many damn dudes, one 123 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: too high. You can not tell him that's too damn ministrily, 124 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: you don't want Steve's and so don't put my name 125 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 1: at the top of that, dear Stevens. Steve say six 126 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 1: or two me pregnant? That I got that, I got that. 127 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: He got another woman pregnant here he wrought anyone in 128 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 1: there and told it. Yeah, I told you this boy 129 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 1: stupid a lot of level. I'm not forgiving you seven damn, 130 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do it. I'm not Christ. A matter 131 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: of fact, Christ, it's the only one I know that 132 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 1: is capable or forgiving the chick six times for sleeping around. Now, 133 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: I'm remorseful and I forgive her, but I can't forget 134 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:39,360 Speaker 1: all this happened. Well, if you can't forget it, and 135 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: then she could she do refreshing courses? She do refreshing 136 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: course because in case you're trying to forget, let me 137 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 1: half doing refreshing. Is it too late for us? Yes, yes, 138 00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 1: it's too late for y'all. What should we do do? 139 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 1: What's already happened? Break up? Y'all already broke up. Just say, man, 140 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 1: all right, well that's your opinion. So what are they? 141 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 1: They're not married? What are they? One more time so 142 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 1: we can be clear. Are a couple of people there 143 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: together at school? A lot of all the people? You 144 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:28,319 Speaker 1: know what. I'm not gonna give up. I'm just gonna 145 00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:31,719 Speaker 1: say give up. No, I'm not I'm not certain. We 146 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: talk about six people, and she looking at number seven 147 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 1: lustfully in front of you. Hey man, you got to 148 00:09:41,120 --> 00:09:45,240 Speaker 1: look at yourself from going I just ain't it. I 149 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 1: just ain't it. I'm not man enough for this one. 150 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, we gotta get out of here. Thank you. 151 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: You can email us or instagram us your thoughts on 152 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey f M. 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