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Speaker 1: Come on, people, get yourself. You'd better check yourself. You

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Speaker 1: wreck yourself because I'm bad for your health.

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Speaker 2: I'll come well stuff, y'all, welcome back advisory.

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Speaker 3: Good mom's bad choices. It's Nila. I'm Erica. Thanks for

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Speaker 3: tuning in. Retired. I'm so funny. Are you like we

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Speaker 3: Are you going to try and fake it a little bit?

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Speaker 3: Doesn't sound like exhaust?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, you're like, it's episode twelve, y'all?

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Speaker 5: Can you tell we side? No?

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Speaker 2: I can't think of anything else. No, there's always more

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Speaker 3: How's your weekend? My weekend was super chill and uneventful.

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Speaker 3: I had one of those.

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Speaker 4: It was gloomy in California and Los Angeles, so I.

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Speaker 3: Basically chill all weekend and drank wine. Nice I.

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Speaker 2: I took Iris swimming on Saturday because she started swim

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Speaker 3: Apparently terrified of the water.

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Speaker 2: Now. She was like really brave last summer, and then

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Speaker 2: I remember she's not at all, and she's been screaming

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Speaker 2: like the entire class. So I was like, I need

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Speaker 2: at Nisha's and hung out with the little baby. And

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Speaker 2: yesterday I went to a party with the baby daddy.

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Speaker 4: Yea, Oh I saw on the ground. Did nobody else

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Speaker 4: peak that, you know, trying to watch watch since the

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Speaker 4: story She'll make a baby's daddy makes an appearance, mag

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Speaker 4: what makes an appearance? Be deep?

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Speaker 3: I know the mystery baby daddy.

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Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, we did that, which is interesting to hang

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Speaker 2: out with the baby daddy anyway, successful, it was good,

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Speaker 2: it was fine, it was great. We had a good time,

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Speaker 3: Think that's all I did. I feel like I did

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Speaker 4: I feel like I did too, but I can't remember either.

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Speaker 4: Oh I did go out. I went to No Vacancy

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Speaker 4: m which was fun. Hasn't even been there. It's like

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Speaker 4: a prohibition style bar. It looks like a hotel. You

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Speaker 3: It's sexy. I remember that. Yeah, I think I was

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Speaker 4: Actually, yeah, I like some pretty like uh like esthetically

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Speaker 3: I think, yeah, oh, I know what I did.

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Speaker 2: I watched Handmaids Tell everyone's talking about it.

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Speaker 3: I haven't seen it. I need to watch that.

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Speaker 4: I hate to start series because then I get crazy

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Speaker 4: and I want to watch the whole thing.

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Speaker 3: And that's the perfect way to watch a series. There's

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Speaker 3: waiting every week. That's how you stop watching it.

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Speaker 4: I don't want to like listen to everybody else talk

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Speaker 5: I just watch like two episodes. It's really heavy.

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Speaker 3: I heard it sad.

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Speaker 2: It's it's but it's scary because if the shit could happen,

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Speaker 2: it's happening. It's like women's rights are taken away and

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Speaker 2: like they're just made to make babies. You're like your

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Speaker 3: Great?

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Speaker 2: I watched the Royal Wedding, The Royal Wedding, Kate Kate wrong,

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Speaker 2: So I kind of cried a little bit. I felt like, well,

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Speaker 3: At thirty seven, she's married, she's married again. I hope

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Speaker 4: Unfortunately, they're always really conservative and basis no.

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Speaker 2: Diana's dress was not very conservative.

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Speaker 4: That's not like all the shit was in the shoulders

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna be a virgin Mary.

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Speaker 2: Like that's the deal that they cut you, right, Like, listen,

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Speaker 3: You could pick in your your preacher and your bands. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: cause the dress was like I was like, did you

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Speaker 4: They looked like these two step sisters from Cinderella. One

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Speaker 3: That was the best part. So well, that's what you

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Speaker 4: I don't really care about the Royal wedding. I mean,

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Speaker 3: Right, I thought that was interesting. She had her own

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Speaker 2: You know, she is half black, she's it's been divorced.

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Speaker 2: I was like, I think she's sad really. I mean

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Speaker 3: Like not a cousin and aunt.

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Speaker 4: But why, I know there was issues with the dad

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Speaker 2: But like, I don't it's I get I don't know

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Speaker 2: That's what made me feel weird, because I felt like

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Speaker 3: Yeah damn.

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Speaker 2: And she's sitting in this room full of all these

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Speaker 2: just and she's giving her daughter away, Like this is

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Speaker 2: a fucking this is not.

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Speaker 3: Real life, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: It's different when you're getting married to another celebrity. This

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, it's obviously not real life. I was

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Speaker 4: watching it like this is not real life. So all

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Speaker 5: I felt like she had to be sad.

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Speaker 4: It was just I mean, she's probably said in the mill,

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Speaker 4: How she probably didn't imagine it that way, but she's

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm not looking at Iry right now, sitting

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Speaker 3: Don't make me like I know, I don't want to go.

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Speaker 3: She's gonna interrupt us. She's so serious right now.

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Speaker 2: Uh, I don't look at her and be like, you're

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Speaker 4: But you're thinking more than it's gonna be enjoyable. Your

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Speaker 3: And you're like, your daughter gave her her citizenship.

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Speaker 5: She's she did, Yeah, she have to.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. She's mo she's moving. She's no longer

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Speaker 3: going to live in America period. She's princess.

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Speaker 2: She can't.

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Speaker 3: She can't live in La Well, she feels to pursue

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Speaker 3: her career. She's probably giving up her career. I don't know, that.

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Speaker 5: That's one thing I haven't heard anyone talk about.

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Speaker 3: Like, I don't think he's gonna make her. I think

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Speaker 2: I'm all balding, though. It's so annoying. They don't know

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Speaker 3: At a certain but that, my man, they like nothing

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Speaker 3: thirty two. Oh yeah, well he stressed out, even wanted

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Speaker 3: to leave that family for some time. He's like, I'm balding, y'all,

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Speaker 3: let me alone. Rogan on that little orange spread, just

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Speaker 3: a little orange spread something. Yeah, whatever Trump's using. Just yeah,

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Speaker 3: he is cute though, he's very cute. It's like he's

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Speaker 3: always been the cute. It looks like he's like a

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Speaker 3: He smokes weed? Yeah he does. Yeah, he got caught smoking.

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Speaker 5: It was like a controversy. Yeah, you even get caught partying.

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Speaker 3: Like he was in Vegas. I heard about the Vegas

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Speaker 3: and Vegas London like all over the place.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, or don't, I don't never mind, never mind.

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Speaker 3: We forgot call us last week, not this.

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Speaker 5: Week, but anyway. Yeah, so there was that. So I

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Speaker 5: watched that.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, so that's why I watched that on Sunday,

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Speaker 2: and or is that Sunday, Saturday, Saturday, Sunday, Saturday, Saturday morning,

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Speaker 2: Sunday morning, Saturday morning.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, chill out, too many paths. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, delirious, I'm sleep I'm hungry. Is how

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Speaker 3: Also, what else happened this weekend?

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Speaker 3: So it's like that shit is very true and rue

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Speaker 4: Right now, And can we just call this a terrorist attack?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, like she knew it was coming, like not

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Speaker 5: It's like no one wants to listen.

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Speaker 5: Even Trump, It's just it's more than him.

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Speaker 3: And you have to like how can you even process that?

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't. They're probably still not processing.

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Speaker 2: You know, I don't know if you're I mean, I

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Speaker 3: This is too much. Yeah, America makes some real readjusting.

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Speaker 3: This has happened. This is Does this happen anywhere else?

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Speaker 4: I never hear about mass school shootings for students like

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Speaker 5: But I'm sure it happens other places.

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Speaker 2: But it definitely happens here more because we have more

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Speaker 2: You can't hear it, No, okay, you need.

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Speaker 5: Oh it's it's it's at.

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Speaker 5: Your kids don't bust their your drums.

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Speaker 5: What's lightish?

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Speaker 3: What's not light We were hilarious. I was gonna talk

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Speaker 4: Netflix's very light and like not lightish.

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Speaker 3: It's actually great.

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Speaker 4: President Barack Obama and Michelle Obama have entry into a

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Speaker 4: potentially including scripted series, unscripted series, docuseries, documentaries, and features.

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Speaker 4: that's never been before, been done. They better not put

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Speaker 5: But I'm counting on you.

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Speaker 3: No, you absolutely cannot please. Donald Trump is like I

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Speaker 7: Congratulations to Barack Obama on his TV deal. Been there,

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Speaker 7: done that? Well, it's not a serie deal, but bigger. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like such a snitch, like, oh my god,

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Speaker 3: It's in my DNA, my moves. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I wasn't a stripper my past life, not that I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how do you censor this? I don't you know,

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Speaker 2: and like should you say that right?

441
00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:09,560
Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, right, right right.

442
00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 2: Like you know, like talking about just even just I

443
00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:17,439
Speaker 2: think I think I'm being low key, but apparently I'm

444
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:18,480
Speaker 2: not being low key enough.

445
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 5: I don't know, Like I don't know, I just I do.

446
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:23,120
Speaker 3: Like for me, I.

447
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,560
Speaker 2: Remember there's obviously certain like things I remember in my

448
00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 2: childhood that my mom probably didn't think I would remember,

449
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:32,520
Speaker 2: or like just like those defining moments that like meant

450
00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:34,840
Speaker 2: nothing to her but like meant everything to me that

451
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:39,199
Speaker 2: she had no idea you know. So I wonder, like

452
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,520
Speaker 2: how many of those moments have happened already? Have they

453
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 2: happened yet? I mean when I was when I was

454
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 2: trying to research, like when does the you know, the

455
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:50,919
Speaker 2: development of a child child's brain, they say, like between

456
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,919
Speaker 2: three to six. It's like really a crucial time. And

457
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:57,199
Speaker 2: so she's three now, I remember my first memory. I

458
00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 2: was around three, Like, yeah, but now.

459
00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,919
Speaker 3: Is the time? The time, right?

460
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 5: We gotta yeah, we gotta check ourselves.

461
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 4: And also I feel like the checking of yourselves does

462
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 4: come now because not only are they more cognitive and

463
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:13,640
Speaker 4: they're beginning to learn and their language is better. Because

464
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,320
Speaker 4: I read that I read that people like prior to

465
00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 4: like early on, people thought that we didn't have we

466
00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 4: we didn't have the skills and the language to report

467
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 4: about memories before three. But it comes to find out

468
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:29,360
Speaker 4: that they've they've found that children will learn the skills

469
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 4: and the language and then we can recall better early memories.

470
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:36,640
Speaker 3: So I think I lost my train of thought.

471
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:41,160
Speaker 2: No, it's true, but like like what we're talking about before,

472
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 2: Like sometimes I'm not sure. Sometimes I feel like all

473
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,359
Speaker 2: those memories are those just what my parents told me,

474
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:48,480
Speaker 2: and that now I've adopted those those memories when I

475
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 2: really weren't genuine actual my memory, right, you know, which

476
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:58,480
Speaker 2: I think probably is true, even my first memory, Like

477
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:00,560
Speaker 2: I was asking you, like, do you remember your memory?

478
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 2: Like that memory could very well be an actual memory.

479
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 2: That's been a lot of combined with like what I

480
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 2: know the story i'd have heard what I know from

481
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:14,399
Speaker 2: about my parents' relationship and how I imagined it to

482
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 2: play out exactly, you know, because I was telling I

483
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:23,400
Speaker 2: was telling Jamila that my first memory was seeing going

484
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 2: into a football game with my dad.

485
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 5: And it's so funny because like.

486
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 2: I went to when I first started going to therapy,

487
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 2: soone that was the first time anyone asked me that,

488
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 2: like what was your first memory? And I was like,

489
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:35,840
Speaker 2: immediately I remembered it. And then she like made me

490
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:39,680
Speaker 2: draw it. I was like, fucking therapy. She like made

491
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 2: me draw it. And as I was drawing it, like

492
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 2: it did become more clear, and I got emotional thinking

493
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 2: about it because I like felt suddenly almost like all

494
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:52,200
Speaker 2: my daddy issue, like it all like started to make sense.

495
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 3: R Oh.

496
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 2: I was like, because so basically my memory is my

497
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 2: mom took me to one of my dad's football games,

498
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 2: and I just remember walking down the tunnel to the stadium,

499
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,680
Speaker 2: like those tunnels you go before you get into your seats,

500
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,199
Speaker 2: and there was a lot of people, and then I

501
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 2: saw this big football field and then like her pointing

502
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:13,159
Speaker 2: at him and saying like that's your dad, maybe, like

503
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 2: what and then us hanging over the ledge where the

504
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 2: players go into the locker room and her seeing Eric

505
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:25,200
Speaker 2: Eric and then her pointing and like him not responding,

506
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:29,640
Speaker 2: like not paying attention. And I was like, oh, that's

507
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 2: like the theme of my childhood, like him not paying attention

508
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 2: and him like not being there and not acknowledging me.

509
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,479
Speaker 2: And so maybe I'm playing into this deeper than it is,

510
00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:41,680
Speaker 2: but I feel like no, I was like, oh at

511
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 2: that moment in therapy, I was like it, Oh makes sense,

512
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:47,960
Speaker 2: my dad, this is why I need attention right for

513
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:49,879
Speaker 2: me to be in a relationship all the time.

514
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 3: But this shit is real.

515
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,480
Speaker 4: That shit is real, those first memories to shape our interactions,

516
00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 4: you know, and how and how we perceive things. Yeah,

517
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:01,919
Speaker 4: and that's interesting you said that because even though my

518
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 4: story was totally different about I choked on a candy

519
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 4: when I was like two or three, and I remember

520
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 4: it but still for a child, it's interesting, it's still traumatic.

521
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:12,360
Speaker 2: It's traumatic you see that you see your parents being

522
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:14,879
Speaker 2: fearful when you can sense fear.

523
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 4: I think that those type of incidents are ingrain deeper

524
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 4: because they you know, they there's they're set there. You know,

525
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 4: they're making embedded differently.

526
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 2: No, it's true because most of my memories that I

527
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:31,160
Speaker 2: remember from young ages are negative. About like the positive one,

528
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,400
Speaker 2: I'm sure I had so many positive.

529
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,159
Speaker 4: I have a few like outfits that I love, No literally,

530
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 4: but like, yeah, they're usually too.

531
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 5: I had Alice in Wonderland.

532
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 3: One that I remember.

533
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 4: I had a crop top it was like a tie

534
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 4: at the top, it was like checkered, and it was ship.

535
00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 3: I was five.

536
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 4: It was like my fifth my fifth birthday, and I

537
00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 4: was like, I'm writing this, Oh my god, that's so cute.

538
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 4: But I definitely know I've done things that she's gonna

539
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 4: remember and that we're probably should have been avoided and

540
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 4: I'm gonna have to fix.

541
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 3: Well, you have to.

542
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,959
Speaker 2: Well, you know, we're like first time parents, you know,

543
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 2: we're learning, and yeah, she's gonna be fucked up. The

544
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 2: second one's gonna have it's gonna be better.

545
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 4: But yeah, but I also remember like being four or

546
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 4: five and like my dad, my dad leaving and like

547
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:25,679
Speaker 4: my mom making a big deal about it and not

548
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 4: coming back. I remember like my mom crying talking about

549
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 4: like going through his phone like so back in the day,

550
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:39,120
Speaker 4: like finding numbers in the pocket.

551
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. I know. But I'm like, no, no,

552
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:43,439
Speaker 3: wonder I fucked up.

553
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 4: And I like commitment because it's my whole childhood is

554
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:49,880
Speaker 4: complaining about trust issues.

555
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:56,400
Speaker 2: I'm I mean, I've had like I have to check,

556
00:27:56,480 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 2: you know, myself with me and her father argued, and

557
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 2: I've seen her get scared, you know, and like I

558
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:04,960
Speaker 2: try my part is not to argue.

559
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 5: I even like when I talk about him, I try

560
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 5: not to say.

561
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 3: The name name.

562
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

563
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 2: No, Okay, we are going to take a quick break

564
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 2: because Irene needs her pillow.

565
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 3: Will be right back.

566
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 2: Okay, we're back. Irine has her water and she's laying

567
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 2: on my lap. So if you hear a child interject

568
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 2: very close to.

569
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:50,880
Speaker 8: The microphone, that is why, like, so, uh, you know

570
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 8: what's funny now that I have kids and they're getting

571
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 8: older or a kid and they're getting older, and I

572
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 8: know I'm through influenced by the things I do and say.

573
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 4: I remember like being with my friends to older kids

574
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 4: and they're talking like uber freely and the kid's like nine,

575
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 4: and I'm like, yo, we have to be careful what

576
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 4: you say around some so but I realized it's such

577
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 4: a like if you don't, if you don't nip it

578
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 4: in the butt. Now it becomes like a regular thing,

579
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 4: like you may if you keep your conversation the same

580
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 4: in front of them.

581
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 3: All the time and expose them the shit.

582
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 4: You won't be used to curbing your conversation or saying

583
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 4: can you leave the room or having a doll conversation

584
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 4: because I realized she was just doing it, and you know,

585
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 4: like now that they're getting older, before we could do it.

586
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 4: But even with me, I had to correct myself with

587
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 4: BD because I get so annoyed so often. I'm always like,

588
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 4: oh my god, oh my god, this and I'm like, okay,

589
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 4: m I gotta like spell it out, you know, because

590
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 4: it's it is you.

591
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 5: I remember that as a kid too.

592
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 2: My mom's spelling a lot of things. And I actually

593
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 2: remember when I started to be able to like spell

594
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 2: spell and her being like, oh, that's just not working

595
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 2: no more, and just yeah, And I remember her saying, like,

596
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 2: we're having it. I remember the adult conversation thing. Yeah, like, yeah,

597
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 2: we're having adult conversations.

598
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 4: And I also remember being pretending like to be sleep

599
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 4: and hearing all everything or overhearing phone calls or listening

600
00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 4: to conversations when I was pretending to be playing right exactly.

601
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 4: So it's like you have to be extra action because

602
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 4: the kids are too smart. They're way smarter and the

603
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 4: way more perceptive than than we have any like understanding

604
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 4: of almost.

605
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 3: But we do though.

606
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 2: That's the thing is that because we've all experienced it

607
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 2: and then we forget.

608
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, we do because because it's not convenient.

609
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, or it's like we feel like we have to

610
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 2: say this now, right right now, or our emotions take over.

611
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 2: And I think that's a big part of it is

612
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 2: I feel like parenting in general is like it's like

613
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 2: a huge like get your emotions and check non like

614
00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 2: never ending tests.

615
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, like a never ending test. So true. I love

616
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 3: you too.

617
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 4: Speaking of that, I was telling Erica about the Red

618
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 4: Table talk with Jada Pinkett Smith and her mom and

619
00:30:59,320 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 4: Willow Smith.

620
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 3: I tuned into the first one I think I forgot

621
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 3: to take.

622
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 4: I think we first to talk about it last week,

623
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 4: but if anybody else has listened to them, they're really good.

624
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 3: They're like twenty minutes long.

625
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 4: But this past one was about surviving and suffering loss,

626
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 4: and basically it just reminded me of what you said,

627
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 4: because we have to like make the life we have

628
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 4: a parent lifestyle and like that includes all types of

629
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 4: things like my dance moves, the choice of music, you know,

630
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 4: cause it does you do kind of have to you know,

631
00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 4: curve your life a bit to they're with you all

632
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 4: the time, but that's what's like they're maintained, Like that's

633
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 4: the priority, you know. And she was talking about pain

634
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 4: and loss and suffering. There's there's nothing we could do

635
00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 4: to avoid it. Like we're going to we're going to

636
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 4: encounter pain, We're going to encounters you know, loss, but

637
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 4: like learning how to maintain daily life and happiness despite it.

638
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 4: And that's like a lifestyle change, you know.

639
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 2: Well, like you were saying, as far as like being curving,

640
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 2: there's like a way you need to be in front

641
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 2: of your kid or not in a way you need

642
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:07,640
Speaker 2: to be. You have to be who you are. That's

643
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 2: the thing. Like that gets confusing. It's like, okay, you

644
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:12,760
Speaker 2: want to be who you are. Like obviously me and

645
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 2: you are both about like, you know, really trying to

646
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 2: remember and be.

647
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 3: Who we were before children, but also be good.

648
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 5: Moms, but also be good moms.

649
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 3: Yeah that don't trumatize me children exactly.

650
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 2: There's a line, and I feel like it's a pretty

651
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 2: big line, you know, and it's.

652
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:34,960
Speaker 4: Like it also requires common sense, you know, like I mean, yeah,

653
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 4: and we're all gonna f up, But it's mostly to

654
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 4: me being mindful, you know, Like I could say, like

655
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 4: my Hucci moves, I can't help them, like those are

656
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 4: how I dance.

657
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 5: But well, like me, I have a terrible mouth, my cursing.

658
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 2: I think I'm pretty sure I just said sahi t

659
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 2: in front of her, and I'm only aware of it

660
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,600
Speaker 2: because we're having this conversation. And that's not only but

661
00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 2: like right now I'm hyper aware of it, Whereas sometimes

662
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:01,800
Speaker 2: I know I've slipped but she knows not to say it,

663
00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 2: but for how long?

664
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 5: But she knows well, she says like, don't say that word.

665
00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, Lewis tells me, don't say that. Don't say that,

666
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 4: which I think is great. I think that's the that's

667
00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 4: the least of my problems.

668
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 2: It's the least of them, but like like it's it's

669
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 2: the least, but also.

670
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 3: I could probably curse.

671
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 4: My child communicates is important too, though you know what

672
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 4: I'll say is like.

673
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 2: And I'm not I'm not always using my putting my

674
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 2: best foot forward in communication.

675
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 3: No neither. It's like f f Yeah, that's true.

676
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 4: But I also think just because your child can like

677
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 4: correctly use curse words and knows not to use them

678
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 4: towards you, it doesn't mean that they're not like fluent

679
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:42,720
Speaker 4: in conversation and communication. Because I'm like a really good

680
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 4: I could curse really well, but I can also communicate

681
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 4: really well.

682
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 3: That's true. And even as her child, she has a

683
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 3: pretty large yeah.

684
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 5: Cabulgary do I damn vocabulary.

685
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 4: I do think it's more important for that your kids

686
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 4: to know and understand, like we love people, we'd love

687
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 4: to sarether reacheat each other nicely, We're good people.

688
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 3: You know, if those things are important.

689
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 4: It's like cursing and I knew not to like call

690
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 4: my mom a bch even though I'm sure I said

691
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:09,320
Speaker 4: it behind closed doors, And she's.

692
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 2: Like, any what about music? Do you let Luna listen

693
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 2: to anything? Or is there anything that makes you feel

694
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 2: uncomfortables or anything you're like, oh.

695
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 4: Sometimes, like I'll hear certain things that I'm like just

696
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 4: like just comes on and I'm like, what what are

697
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 4: they saying? It's like so degrading to women, and like

698
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 4: if it's repetitive, But like, I don't listen to a

699
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:30,919
Speaker 4: lot of hardcore rap music anyway, Like I'm an old

700
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 4: school shaw day listening says a hippie type of like

701
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 4: zone anyway, so it's not like I'm bumping that constantly.

702
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:41,800
Speaker 4: But also like I remember being in like sixth seventh

703
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 4: grade and listening blasting Little Kim's whole CD hardcore to that.

704
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:48,759
Speaker 5: Was that because of your parents or was that because

705
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 5: if you found that?

706
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 3: No, no, I took it from my parents, but like

707
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:53,359
Speaker 3: they're like, what are you listening to? But I didn't

708
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:55,359
Speaker 3: have that many roles in that sense.

709
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 4: But I knew actually there was this brief period where

710
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 4: Danielle and I were pulling our songs up over our

711
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 4: bathing suits, like Little Kim, So maybe I.

712
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 3: Take that back.

713
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm aware of it, and sometimes I'm like, oh, no,

714
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 2: we're not listening to that, And some it just depends

715
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 2: what mood.

716
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, bad like inconsistent.

717
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 9: But also her dad, you know, is asp yeah, and

718
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:26,279
Speaker 9: listens to a lot of rap, listens to himself a

719
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 9: lot in the car and really loud, And I mean,

720
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:32,879
Speaker 9: I've never had that conversation with him, like I mean.

721
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 2: We've had don't listen to sometimes like when he because

722
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 2: he curses a lot in an aggressive fashion, because that's

723
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 2: just how he is.

724
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:42,799
Speaker 3: And sometimes I be like, damn and the music in

725
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 3: real life, in real life.

726
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:47,400
Speaker 2: And so I think in music, I don't know if

727
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 2: I've ever been like, I don't think I've ever been

728
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 2: like to turn that off. But I know that she's

729
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:54,879
Speaker 2: exposed to that, and I'm that's just.

730
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 3: Something to lifestyle. It's a form of art what I.

731
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 2: Was getting myself into when I decided to lay down

732
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 2: and have a baby with a gangster rapper.

733
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 4: But I also think, like, but okay, that's a good

734
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 4: conversation because just because we've all listened to gangster rap

735
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 4: like my dad's and you know, like to ice Cube

736
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 4: and all types of stuff.

737
00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 3: But like we knew we weren't going to go to

738
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 3: school and be like.

739
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:17,560
Speaker 2: Well, there was also things I had no like for example,

740
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,840
Speaker 2: that song, that Black Street song.

741
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 3: Feel a little pope coming through.

742
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:26,880
Speaker 2: I will never forget, like the moment that I realized

743
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 2: what he was talking about.

744
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 3: I was like an adult, but I got it. I

745
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,239
Speaker 3: didn't know for years there I was.

746
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 2: Just singing it and I remember though my mom being like, wait,

747
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 2: what did you just say? Like when I was a kid,

748
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 2: being like what did I just say? I don't know,

749
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 2: And I still didn't know what I said. And then

750
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 2: then it made you listen to it like what does

751
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 2: that mean?

752
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 3: Fast?

753
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 2: I still didn't get it, And fast forward to like,

754
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 2: you know a few years later, and I'm like, oh,

755
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 2: a boner in my back.

756
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,600
Speaker 4: But I literally remember the same exact thing. I remember

757
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 4: singing that song in the car with my cousin and

758
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:54,760
Speaker 4: an adult like what do you what are you singing

759
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:57,480
Speaker 4: in us literally not having no clue what they were

760
00:36:57,480 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 4: talking about, and literally it took like years for me

761
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:00,720
Speaker 4: to like finally under standad was a boner.

762
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:02,239
Speaker 2: I know.

763
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:05,359
Speaker 10: So does everyone have that defining moment with that song?

764
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 10: That song was pretty big. No, But but that's what

765
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:13,480
Speaker 10: I'm saying. I think as a child almost you can enjoy.

766
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,320
Speaker 4: A song with that listening to the context, because sometimes

767
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 4: I do it, and I'm like back in that ass

768
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 4: up and I'm like, what fuck pictures? And then I'm

769
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:24,480
Speaker 4: like more conscious of it, but I don't think sometimes

770
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 4: as children, like they're grasping the like the real concept

771
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 4: because like Luna and her homegirl saying like all my

772
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 4: friends are dead repetitively and I'm like, eh, weird, but whatever,

773
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 4: not hurting anybody. But maybe I'm like telling my girlfriend,

774
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 4: like maybe she's stop playing it for them. She's like

775
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 4: she loves it.

776
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,319
Speaker 2: I mean, you know what when I do play her

777
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:49,400
Speaker 2: like favorite songs like Wild Thoughts by Briston til Rihanna

778
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 2: du Ja Khaled, I usually play the non explicit version.

779
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:54,800
Speaker 2: I'll try to find I like what if I'm looking

780
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:56,359
Speaker 2: for it on my phone, I look for the non

781
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:59,279
Speaker 2: explicit version because that's like the.

782
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 5: Minimum of what I'm going to do the rest of

783
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:01,399
Speaker 5: the day.

784
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 2: Right Like when I'm listening to like a playlist that

785
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 2: isn't censored and I'm just letting it play, like if

786
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:11,480
Speaker 2: she's requesting it, I'm trying to play the good I guess,

787
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 2: which is like that's been.

788
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 5: Why whyfor do it all the time?

789
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 3: Then do it all?

790
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 4: I did notice like about like like Luna has always

791
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,879
Speaker 4: liked work, work, work, work, work, and before she was one,

792
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 4: I've noticed we were watching the video so she could

793
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 4: watch it. And there's like a defining part in the

794
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,879
Speaker 4: video where like Rihanna's like butterflying all the way down

795
00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:35,400
Speaker 4: and I saw Luna like like ten months over.

796
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 3: The couch and she was like and I was like,

797
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: oh my god, maybe I shouldn't want to watch the video.

798
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:43,799
Speaker 4: But it's like then on the other side of me,

799
00:38:43,840 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 4: it's like that's like an island move everybody from Like

800
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:48,560
Speaker 4: if you look at kids in Africa, they're all winding.

801
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 3: And the only problem I have with that is that

802
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 3: it's sexualized on the video.

803
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:54,240
Speaker 5: It's other people.

804
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,200
Speaker 3: I don't try. Yeah, other people. Yeah, you get to

805
00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 3: protect your kid.

806
00:38:58,120 --> 00:38:59,760
Speaker 2: You know, and it's like your kid doesn't.

807
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 3: Even know what they're doing.

808
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 2: And enticing up child bless, you know what I mean.

809
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 2: And it's like they think they're being funny and cute.

810
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,440
Speaker 2: Like Iri has this thing with her butt. She always

811
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 2: think like you know, she like bend over and like

812
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:14,680
Speaker 2: show her butt and she knows it's like funny. She

813
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 2: knows it's funny, or she knows it's like naughty.

814
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 3: And I don't know how right.

815
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 2: And I also really try to not make her feel

816
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:24,359
Speaker 2: like it's naughty because I don't want her to like.

817
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 4: Be confused about it, like her body would also like

818
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 4: be like she likes that it's naughty, right, you know

819
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 4: what I mean?

820
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 3: That's fun funny.

821
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's a whole weird thing too, because that's I

822
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 2: don't think I made that that's innately in her.

823
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 4: And it's not only is it innate you we're not

824
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:45,480
Speaker 4: conscious how much the TV feeds them stuff. Sometimes if

825
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 4: I sit there and overlost into like just the regular

826
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:50,080
Speaker 4: like Disney Channel or whatever, it's insane.

827
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:52,560
Speaker 3: It's really like even the Barbie.

828
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 4: There's a Barbie movie on Netflix and there's like I

829
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 4: don't know if any moms have seen this.

830
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:57,319
Speaker 3: There's like a.

831
00:39:57,280 --> 00:40:00,239
Speaker 4: Mean kind of Barbie named Raquel, and she's like the

832
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 4: difficult Barbie and like sometimes they don't like put on

833
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 4: this green wig we have and she's like I'm Raquel,

834
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 4: and I'm like.

835
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 3: Why why do you even mean Barbie?

836
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 4: Like why don't you even have that character on the

837
00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 4: Barbie's like you're getting this terrible behavior from TV. But

838
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:15,880
Speaker 4: there's like little things that are planted all over that

839
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 4: we have to like there's no such thing as filtering

840
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 4: at all.

841
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 5: No, there's no, of course not, of course not.

842
00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 3: But I don't know. I feel like some shit can

843
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:25,600
Speaker 3: I mean it's long, but what you can filter do

844
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 3: for sure? For sure?

845
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 2: Because some stuff excuse my language. I just also just know, like, yeah,

846
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 2: I like noticing her just copy me. Like today we

847
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 2: were taking a picture and I was sitting on the

848
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:41,279
Speaker 2: step and like she was. I caught her looking at

849
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:43,120
Speaker 2: me to see what I was doing, and then her trying.

850
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 3: To like mimi it.

851
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:46,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, like wow, it's just so crazy. They they really

852
00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 5: they look up to.

853
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 4: Us, right, and we have to make like conscious decisions

854
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 4: to be the best.

855
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 2: Us I try, because honestly, she's made me, Like she's

856
00:40:56,640 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 2: definitely made me a better person because of that. Yeah,

857
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 2: Like I wouldn't be trying to like be like a

858
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:07,720
Speaker 2: better version of myself.

859
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 3: Every day every day, Like.

860
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be conscious of it constantly. I might be saying,

861
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 2: I'm I'm working on me, you.

862
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 4: Know, but you're actually having to be consciouscause someone's actually watching,

863
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 4: holding you accountable for it, and you're actually shaping their

864
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 4: human they're going to become.

865
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 3: It's true.

866
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 2: It's like it's crazy things we remember, like I was

867
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 2: when I was researching too. They were talking about how

868
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 2: like from one to three, if a child learns three

869
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 2: languages from one to three, they'll always know it.

870
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 3: Well, we need to get on it.

871
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 2: That's why I and that's why I know Spanish.

872
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 3: Right because you're from we had Flora. Those ages.

873
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:42,840
Speaker 2: Well, my grandma speaks Spanish and you know, it was

874
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 2: just around me all the time, and it was just

875
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 2: always did your mom say Spanish?

876
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 5: It was just always around.

877
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:55,240
Speaker 2: So even though my Spanish these days is not perfected

878
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 2: by any means, I can definitely get by anywhere any

879
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:00,399
Speaker 2: Spanish seak place.

880
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 5: I can hold a conversation.

881
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 3: For sure, and it stuck.

882
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:07,400
Speaker 2: Any language that I've learned, like in high school or

883
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 2: anything later, that shoit did not stay right right. So

884
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 2: there's definitely so much truth to the absorbent mind and

885
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 2: those early stages of soaking it up, and we're in

886
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 2: it right now.

887
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 4: I really appreciate, like even having this conversation out loud

888
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:26,799
Speaker 4: with another mom because it does reset me to be

889
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 4: more conscious and challenge myself more, especially because she's right

890
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 4: in between those those prime ages that they're discussing, these

891
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 4: primary ages where they're literally soaking up every single thing

892
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:42,720
Speaker 4: and remembering everything. So I'm I'm gonna definitely challenge myself

893
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 4: to be better.

894
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:45,879
Speaker 2: These are like defining moments and we have to try

895
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 2: to be responsible because we don't.

896
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:48,319
Speaker 5: I don't want my kid.

897
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 3: I mean, she's gonna do.

898
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:51,839
Speaker 2: It anyway, but I don't want her being like when

899
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 2: she's eighteen and like, Mom, I remember when.

900
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,400
Speaker 5: You were doing this shit at you, karstady.

901
00:42:57,160 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 3: Right right, And I'll be the reason.

902
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 2: And it's because I couldn't in that moment communicate, like

903
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:04,800
Speaker 2: to get it together, keep under composure, under.

904
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 3: Composure, you know what I mean.

905
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 5: And I've had like even my mom.

906
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:10,560
Speaker 3: Has to check me as few times, and I'm grateful

907
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 3: for it.

908
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 4: She'd been like chill, she'd be like er no, mean too,

909
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 4: because we get you know what it's it's hard, but

910
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:20,279
Speaker 4: we get so caught up in our emotions and you

911
00:43:20,320 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 4: know what, I'm learning that like right, I don't know

912
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 4: if it's because honest, yes, before I'm turning thirty. There's

913
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 4: all these painful lessons that I'm getting right now, like

914
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:31,799
Speaker 4: weeks before it's happening, and I don't know if it's

915
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 4: like just the timing but it's just like all these

916
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 4: painful things or things that are making me have to

917
00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 4: like shift and reflect and think differently.

918
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 3: And it's just like, you.

919
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 4: Know, you gotta gotta reflect and look at yourself and

920
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:46,320
Speaker 4: be like take account be accountable for your actions.

921
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:48,320
Speaker 3: No, it's it's true.

922
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:52,280
Speaker 2: Luckily Iri isn't a tattle tale yet or she hasn't.

923
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 2: No one's asking her questions. But I'm like, yeah, I'll

924
00:43:57,239 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 2: get to that phase. I'm like, oh my god, what

925
00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 2: is she gonna tell? Like, what is she going to

926
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 2: tell her dad if I did something or her or

927
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 2: sometimes I'd be asking her though, I'd be like, so,

928
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:11,479
Speaker 2: oh I ask I'm like, who is her Daddy's I ask?

929
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 3: Which which people? This the best person? This person?

930
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 5: Any girls?

931
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 8: No?

932
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 3: I say girls? But is it a girl?

933
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:18,799
Speaker 6: Boy?

934
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 4: Because Lenda has this thing she goes everybody? Him him said,

935
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 4: him said, I'm like, can't is it a girl or

936
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:24,439
Speaker 4: a boy?

937
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 3: Like a girl. I'm like, oh, is she pretty? I

938
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:28,960
Speaker 3: don't know.

939
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, okay, no, no, right exactly.

940
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,319
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. But I also don't want to use

941
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:39,240
Speaker 3: my child as like a secret spibe.

942
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:39,640
Speaker 4: I know.

943
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:41,279
Speaker 5: But but then also like I.

944
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:43,279
Speaker 4: Feel bad because I know, I know he's I know,

945
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 4: I know the other way around, it's probably insane.

946
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:49,479
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't want to use our secret spot,

947
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 2: but I'm going to, and not just you know, with

948
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 2: her dad, but just in general.

949
00:44:56,680 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm looking at her DMS looking for this question

950
00:44:59,000 --> 00:44:59,399
Speaker 3: and I didn't.

951
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 4: I didn't see the this one from should I say

952
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:03,759
Speaker 4: his name? But it must have been from when we

953
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:05,799
Speaker 4: went out last weekend or this week is I did

954
00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 4: not see y'all there.

955
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,760
Speaker 3: At the party. Oh yeah, so off topic.

956
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,959
Speaker 5: Yeah, but like.

957
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 2: Even Iri, she's sleeping right now in my lap, and

958
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:22,399
Speaker 2: who knows, like just us talking the subliminal things that

959
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 2: she's catching.

960
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:25,759
Speaker 4: On to right now at this moment, right even just

961
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 4: being in the room sleeping, and you know what. On

962
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 4: the on the opposite though, on the contrary, I know,

963
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,440
Speaker 4: I I tried to sometimes when Luna is sleeping ill,

964
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:38,359
Speaker 4: I was like whisper as like affirmations in her air,

965
00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 4: like you're so strong, you're so powerful, You're so powerful,

966
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:42,360
Speaker 4: you're so intelligent while.

967
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 3: She's Sleeping's a good tip. Yeah, I'm also doing that

968
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 3: mom tip Monday. Yeah you know where I got that from?

969
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:53,000
Speaker 4: Oh ut Niche's bridal shower, tea party, whatever it was.

970
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:55,839
Speaker 4: Katti was doing it to Luna in her ear when

971
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 4: I was she was like breastfeeding and she was like

972
00:45:57,560 --> 00:45:58,399
Speaker 4: whispering in her ear.

973
00:45:58,440 --> 00:45:59,480
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, that's a good idea.

974
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:02,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, she was whispering her here, and I was like,

975
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:04,400
Speaker 4: so I started doing eating when she's sleeping and like

976
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 4: she's about to go to sleep, and she's like in

977
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 4: between that, I love you so much. I would do

978
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:12,280
Speaker 4: anything for you, my best friend. You're so strong and smart.

979
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:13,839
Speaker 4: And so while she's like, you.

980
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 2: Know, like I do do that when she's awake all

981
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 2: the time, but I think sleeping is really important too,

982
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 2: and that I'm thinking.

983
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 4: About it or even like you know, I noticed too,

984
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 4: like you know, the study about classical music and how

985
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 4: it makes them more intelligent and makes their brain da

986
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:30,280
Speaker 4: da da. But like I sometimes when she's like fussing

987
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:32,880
Speaker 4: in the car, I turned like to the classical channel

988
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 4: and just see how how her like how she r

989
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,160
Speaker 4: her mood yeah, and how and how the energy shifts

990
00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:41,360
Speaker 4: so that it does let me know, like the music

991
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:43,879
Speaker 4: does make a difference. And then and even even even

992
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 4: it's weird, like I try to do yoga with her

993
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 4: and stuff.

994
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:48,919
Speaker 3: But sometimes and I'm just like sluggish on the couch.

995
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:52,480
Speaker 4: She's like, mom, let's do yoga, and I'm like okay,

996
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 4: So she'll she'll like tell me, you know what I'm saying,

997
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:56,279
Speaker 4: so that it kind of goes both ways because she's

998
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:58,719
Speaker 4: holding me account all. But even seeing little things like

999
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:01,799
Speaker 4: she she understands, she knows, you know, like deep breathe

1000
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 4: deep when she gets frustrated because they go from one

1001
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:07,359
Speaker 4: hundred to zero to one hundred and eighty seconds. If

1002
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:09,760
Speaker 4: they can't do one thing, I'm like, take a deep breath.

1003
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,359
Speaker 4: You're tripping me out right now. But just seeing her

1004
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 4: like then seeing her do it and remember to do it,

1005
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 4: it's like, oh, okay, the repetition is working.

1006
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 8: Well.

1007
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think consistency is so key in our children's

1008
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 2: lives period, especially now though, you know, like they need

1009
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:32,360
Speaker 2: consistency and routine in some ways. I mean, shit, I

1010
00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 2: can't be shoot, shoot, I can't be consistent all the time.

1011
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 3: It's just I can It's impossible.

1012
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 2: And I used to like make beat myself up about it,

1013
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:42,719
Speaker 2: but I'll drive myself crazy. I can't, Like there's just

1014
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 2: no way.

1015
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 3: But it does, you know.

1016
00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 2: I fall short every day like there's certain things I

1017
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 2: say I'm going to get to and I can't because

1018
00:47:49,160 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 2: there's not enough hours in the day. Things take longer,

1019
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:53,399
Speaker 2: she takes longer to do this took me two hours

1020
00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 2: to do.

1021
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:58,479
Speaker 5: Her hair, like ye, But I will say that.

1022
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 2: I think it is important because even when I talk

1023
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:06,279
Speaker 2: to her, I'm always really like try I try to

1024
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 2: be aware. I tell her she's beautiful all the time,

1025
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:10,759
Speaker 2: but I try to remember to.

1026
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:13,960
Speaker 3: Say that she's smart first, yeah.

1027
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:18,480
Speaker 2: And that she's that she's kind, that she's humble, that

1028
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 2: she's you know, so many different things besides just beautiful,

1029
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 2: because as women, that's just like.

1030
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 5: That's the go to, that's like what defines us.

1031
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1032
00:48:28,719 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.

1033
00:48:29,440 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 4: I remember thinking like, as I was cute, I remember

1034
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 4: like literally thinking you did get away with shi when

1035
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:37,839
Speaker 4: you're cute.

1036
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:40,359
Speaker 3: I remember having this like thinking that.

1037
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:44,720
Speaker 5: This stuff you got away with stuff because you were cute.

1038
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 4: But yeah, I think it's important to have like good

1039
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:50,879
Speaker 4: mom or good parent friends and a strong parent friend

1040
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 4: community because it's important to check each other, you know,

1041
00:48:55,120 --> 00:48:57,000
Speaker 4: because sometimes we forget, sometimes we get caught up in

1042
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:59,200
Speaker 4: her own ship because it's hard, it's really hard to

1043
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 4: be an adult and like it's good to be like.

1044
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 3: I don't say that, watch yourself spell it out.

1045
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:05,920
Speaker 4: Because even you spelling it out reminds me to spell

1046
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:07,840
Speaker 4: it out, you know, because I want to be like

1047
00:49:08,239 --> 00:49:09,279
Speaker 4: blah blah blah blah blah.

1048
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:12,640
Speaker 2: But like, just like I just got that amazing gem

1049
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:15,400
Speaker 2: of information from you right now about her being asleep

1050
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 2: and doing that affirmations thing I never would have thought about.

1051
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,759
Speaker 2: But you know, speaking of like having a fat like

1052
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:23,680
Speaker 2: a like a group of a network, it's hard.

1053
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 5: I don't have that even now, Like you are you

1054
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 5: and no, you're.

1055
00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:32,319
Speaker 2: Like my closest mom friend. Yeah, anisia now, but her

1056
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 2: child is much much younger. She's at the beginning journeys.

1057
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:36,200
Speaker 5: It's different.

1058
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 4: It's cool for us because we are experiencing things like

1059
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 4: kind of the same time because they're going through like,

1060
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 4: you know, similar stages and like you know, they're the

1061
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 4: same age, so that they're experiencing a lot of the

1062
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,280
Speaker 4: same things at the same time, school, all this other stuff.

1063
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 4: So yeah, it's definitely a work in progress. And being

1064
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:55,399
Speaker 4: a mom, I guess we're always trying. We're always trying

1065
00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 4: to be better and get better. But you know, it's

1066
00:49:57,640 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 4: our first time around. But I'm realizing that, like it's

1067
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 4: a and less of an excuse, especially when we can

1068
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:06,040
Speaker 4: sit here and say, yeah, when I was three, my

1069
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 4: dad didn't come home and f me up, Like you

1070
00:50:08,920 --> 00:50:09,560
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying.

1071
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 3: I remember, you know, so we know better.

1072
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 4: So it's just we got to do better and just

1073
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:18,239
Speaker 4: take tiny, tiny steps to like you know, have routines

1074
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:21,879
Speaker 4: every day. But I You're right, I enjoy it because

1075
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 4: it's making me a better person. You know, I could

1076
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:27,239
Speaker 4: be better. I'm constantly like reminded that I have this

1077
00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 4: wonderful gift and blessing that I've been been placed in

1078
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 4: my care and it's up to me to like maximize

1079
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 4: her development.

1080
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:35,440
Speaker 3: You know.

1081
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:40,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, seriously, I've been really feeling that way lot lately.

1082
00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 2: Not that I love her more suddenly, but almost like.

1083
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:46,879
Speaker 3: You do you do fall in love with your kid more.

1084
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 3: It's just like a relationship.

1085
00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:52,040
Speaker 2: I've had this recent like surge of like heart like

1086
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:55,080
Speaker 2: explosionly like in the last two weeks.

1087
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:56,239
Speaker 5: Not like I you.

1088
00:50:56,200 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 2: Know what I mean, Like, yeah's appreciate she's growing, she's flourishing,

1089
00:51:01,840 --> 00:51:03,759
Speaker 2: like her personality shining through.

1090
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:05,239
Speaker 5: She's communicating with me.

1091
00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:08,839
Speaker 2: She's like a little person that I created and she's

1092
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:11,560
Speaker 2: a person Like she was a little nugget before.

1093
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:12,760
Speaker 3: Now she's like a little human.

1094
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:16,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm like, oh my god, I fucking I

1095
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 2: freaking love you.

1096
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:20,319
Speaker 4: For real, you know, and just someone who has the

1097
00:51:20,360 --> 00:51:22,800
Speaker 4: ability of the capacity to just look up and randomly

1098
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 4: say like I love you.

1099
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:28,280
Speaker 2: I'm like, you're like, and you just love me so unconditionally,

1100
00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:32,319
Speaker 2: And it's just the purest form of love. And I

1101
00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:35,799
Speaker 2: think I even posted it on Good Moms, like she

1102
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 2: trusts me more than anyone in this world, and I

1103
00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:42,640
Speaker 2: don't think i'll unless I have another child. That is

1104
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 2: the purest trust I will ever experience in my life.

1105
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 4: Period, literally, and it's so important, and so it's so

1106
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 4: important to like like nourish that and value that friendship

1107
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 4: and that person it realize like how fragile it is.

1108
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, just because she is my daughter doesn't mean that

1109
00:51:58,080 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 2: our trust can't be broken.

1110
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:02,560
Speaker 4: And value her opinion and who she is and like,

1111
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 4: you know, like her independence and all these things. You know.

1112
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 3: So it's totally it's a huge It's like it's a huge.

1113
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 4: Thing, but it's it's also so special and so beautiful

1114
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 4: at the same time.

1115
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 5: I know, I just I just feel so lucky to

1116
00:52:16,640 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 5: have a child.

1117
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,160
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not that you know, you're not lucky

1118
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 2: if you don't, but it's just something that nothing else

1119
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:25,640
Speaker 2: compares to.

1120
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 3: There's no life experience, not yet.

1121
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:31,600
Speaker 2: I mean, maybe there's something else that I haven't. I mean,

1122
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:33,879
Speaker 2: life is long, but I just can't imagine. I think

1123
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:38,160
Speaker 2: motherhood and parenthood is like pretty high up there, Like

1124
00:52:38,239 --> 00:52:40,439
Speaker 2: I don't know what else it could be.

1125
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 3: It's just amazing that, like you can have a baby

1126
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:43,399
Speaker 3: in love, it's so much.

1127
00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:46,680
Speaker 4: But you literally fall more and more and more and

1128
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:48,880
Speaker 4: more deeper in love with your kid as I get older,

1129
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 4: as you get to know, the more you're like.

1130
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:54,759
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you're so funny, and friends like, oh

1131
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:55,520
Speaker 3: my friend.

1132
00:52:55,719 --> 00:52:57,319
Speaker 2: I know, but like we're at the beginning of it.

1133
00:52:57,400 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 2: Just imagine, like you know, ten fifteen year old lunets

1134
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:02,480
Speaker 2: I know.

1135
00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:07,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, your god, please don't hate me. It's my biggest

1136
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:10,719
Speaker 4: FEARIO like thirteen, like twelve thirteen, Oh my god too.

1137
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 4: I was a little demon that was a little b

1138
00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:16,080
Speaker 4: I tch Oh my god, I mean I was just

1139
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:16,880
Speaker 4: bad as hell.

1140
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:18,800
Speaker 3: I was the at TCCH. I wanted to say rebel

1141
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 3: so badly.

1142
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:25,240
Speaker 2: I did rebel I meant yes, And it's so crazy.

1143
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 2: My brother went to prom this weekend. And he's a

1144
00:53:27,440 --> 00:53:28,799
Speaker 2: totally different child than I am.

1145
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 3: Like he's very.

1146
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:34,399
Speaker 2: You know, he's just preserved, and you know, he's really

1147
00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:38,880
Speaker 2: into school and he has had a hard time socializing

1148
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:39,560
Speaker 2: in high school.

1149
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 5: And you know, my parents were worried about him.

1150
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:47,000
Speaker 2: They really want him to like socialize, and he's been

1151
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 2: like lately, he's been like the man at school, this

1152
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 2: whole prom posal thing, Like he did a prom posal

1153
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:55,000
Speaker 2: and like killed it. My mom like got a hundred

1154
00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:58,120
Speaker 2: donuts to pass out to the whole like promposal school

1155
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:01,879
Speaker 2: after school while he proposed the girl whatever and then

1156
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:03,920
Speaker 2: and then so he's at prom.

1157
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:06,000
Speaker 3: I guess he got wasted, which he's never dreamed.

1158
00:54:06,040 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 2: Oh he did, Yeah, and he got wasted and made

1159
00:54:10,480 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 2: out with a girl. And my parents were like so happy,

1160
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:15,520
Speaker 2: and I'm like, this is a totally different experience. I

1161
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:19,959
Speaker 2: would have been ground. My ass would be in my room,

1162
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:20,760
Speaker 2: locked up.

1163
00:54:20,719 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 3: No team.

1164
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:22,560
Speaker 5: How did they know the phone take?

1165
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:22,879
Speaker 3: Oh?

1166
00:54:22,920 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 4: I know how he got drinking, made out. The mom

1167
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 4: was up that date, you know it. I was like,

1168
00:54:29,360 --> 00:54:31,440
Speaker 4: I was like, I'm so confused, Are you sure this happened?

1169
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:33,239
Speaker 4: He told them why, oh I really remember this.

1170
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:35,480
Speaker 2: No, but she also told me he also told my

1171
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:38,759
Speaker 2: parents hes, they just have different relationship. I was like

1172
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,400
Speaker 2: really secretive because I was always like getting in trouble

1173
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 2: and he never gets in trouble. And they're like, please,

1174
00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 2: please do something bad.

1175
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:48,319
Speaker 3: Please let me know. You're a teenager and they're not

1176
00:54:48,400 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 3: thirty years old. Oh my god?

1177
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 5: So oh wait, what happened that question?

1178
00:54:54,760 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 3: Okay? You ready for y?

1179
00:54:56,200 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 2: So we got a question in our DMS, and I

1180
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:03,040
Speaker 2: asked the young lady if we could ask it.

1181
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:06,880
Speaker 3: Are you saying her name? Are we keeping it anonymous? It

1182
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 3: doesn't say either, or so oh let's just keep her anonymous. Okay,

1183
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:11,800
Speaker 3: So we got a question our dams.

1184
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:15,320
Speaker 4: And just for the record, if anyone helps any questions

1185
00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:18,000
Speaker 4: they need, ask any advice that you think maybe we

1186
00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:20,360
Speaker 4: could help on, please let us know.

1187
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:22,600
Speaker 2: Or you just need like you know, so you don't

1188
00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 2: have your your girlfriend's advising shit.

1189
00:55:25,640 --> 00:55:27,440
Speaker 3: And you want to know. Yeah, you feel that.

1190
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:28,560
Speaker 5: One here with us.

1191
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:32,200
Speaker 4: You call us, You let us DMS your question because

1192
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:34,880
Speaker 4: we want to talk about it because clearly we have

1193
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 4: questions too, And if anyone has any answers for us,

1194
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:42,440
Speaker 4: pleasease please help. Okay, So the question says, hey, ladies,

1195
00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:45,680
Speaker 4: let me start by saying, I appreciate y'all, appreciate y'all,

1196
00:55:45,719 --> 00:55:50,359
Speaker 4: and first heard y'all on yes the y'alls. I appreciate y'all,

1197
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 4: first heard John yesterday, and I finished each episode. So

1198
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:56,560
Speaker 4: to the question, I'm a young single mom twenty four

1199
00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:59,239
Speaker 4: and my daughter is too How do I take my

1200
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 4: life off pause? I've been a single mom since she

1201
00:56:02,280 --> 00:56:05,080
Speaker 4: was three months old and haven't had sex since before

1202
00:56:05,120 --> 00:56:07,760
Speaker 4: she was born. I want to date, but I feel

1203
00:56:08,080 --> 00:56:11,319
Speaker 4: men mainly in my age group. Side eyes me when

1204
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,160
Speaker 4: I say I have a kid. How do I put

1205
00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:15,880
Speaker 4: myself out there and have a wonderful relationship?

1206
00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:18,000
Speaker 3: Okay, so she.

1207
00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:20,440
Speaker 2: Thinks, so she's saying men in her age age she's

1208
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 2: twenty four. Look at her like judge her because she

1209
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:23,040
Speaker 2: has a kid.

1210
00:56:23,160 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm gon say girl ten Erica's favorite answer to

1211
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:30,400
Speaker 4: all dating questions is tender.

1212
00:56:31,160 --> 00:56:32,440
Speaker 5: She's a girl.

1213
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:37,040
Speaker 4: A tender riser, and I'm once you get on tender,

1214
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:40,160
Speaker 4: you need to put the age range to like twenty

1215
00:56:40,200 --> 00:56:42,840
Speaker 4: eight to thirty five. Yeah, you need to day older,

1216
00:56:42,960 --> 00:56:46,279
Speaker 4: you need to I mean, there's I'm not saying all

1217
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 4: young guys are immature, but like ninety nine point nine

1218
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:50,640
Speaker 4: percent of them.

1219
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 2: Yeah they are. And honestly, I almost don't even want

1220
00:56:53,120 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 2: to date a man unless he has a kid. You know,

1221
00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 2: it's not a it's not a deal breaker, but there's

1222
00:56:57,760 --> 00:57:00,759
Speaker 2: just just is something different. There's a different sense of

1223
00:57:00,800 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 2: responsibility that a man has when they have shit to lose,

1224
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:06,799
Speaker 2: and it doesn't have to be a kid. So that's

1225
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 2: why you either have a kid, or you're older.

1226
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:12,399
Speaker 3: Or a career or just somewhere someone established in their life.

1227
00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:14,799
Speaker 4: Because at twenty four, a lot of guys don't want

1228
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:19,280
Speaker 4: to do much but fuc k and you know, bs

1229
00:57:19,440 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 4: lust less.

1230
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 3: So like, yeah, I date somebody thirty.

1231
00:57:22,680 --> 00:57:25,240
Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, I don't even date I really, I

1232
00:57:25,240 --> 00:57:26,880
Speaker 4: don't know. I don't really like to date guys my

1233
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:29,200
Speaker 4: age because they're usually like sixteen in man years.

1234
00:57:29,280 --> 00:57:31,320
Speaker 5: So yeah, I don't even date men my age either.

1235
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 4: Now, yeah, maybe go old, maybe go like fifty, because

1236
00:57:35,040 --> 00:57:37,400
Speaker 4: it seems they don't get smart till about sixty five.

1237
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:39,800
Speaker 3: But that's that's up to you. I'm not everybody could

1238
00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:40,000
Speaker 3: do it.

1239
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 2: And look, I you know, your two years postpartum and

1240
00:57:44,840 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 2: you know you haven't right, your.

1241
00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 3: Daughters too, yes? Or son? Yeah, yeah, daughters too. You know,

1242
00:57:50,680 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 3: girlss time to have some sex. And she's so cute,

1243
00:57:53,800 --> 00:57:55,160
Speaker 3: you know what, it's so cute.

1244
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:58,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh yeah, So about the sex whatever I mean,

1245
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 4: don't just give it to anybody obviously it you need

1246
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:02,560
Speaker 4: to get some.

1247
00:58:02,880 --> 00:58:06,080
Speaker 2: You do. It's gonna make you feel not that sex

1248
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 2: defines you or a man needs to find you, but

1249
00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:08,919
Speaker 2: it will empower you.

1250
00:58:10,160 --> 00:58:12,120
Speaker 3: Just to get back to you and remember what's important

1251
00:58:12,120 --> 00:58:13,760
Speaker 3: to you. And you know that you're sexy, that your

1252
00:58:13,760 --> 00:58:15,040
Speaker 3: bodies are not just a.

1253
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:18,600
Speaker 2: Mom, but you are a sexual being that deserves like to.

1254
00:58:18,600 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 4: Be adult beard and feel you know, deserves to come.

1255
00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:27,840
Speaker 4: So we're not encouraging random sex to anybody by any means.

1256
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:32,320
Speaker 4: But if you can just find a friend or you

1257
00:58:32,600 --> 00:58:38,120
Speaker 4: humble Facebook, no damns, do it.

1258
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:41,000
Speaker 2: And don't be afraid to put yourself out there, especially

1259
00:58:41,080 --> 00:58:42,760
Speaker 2: if you have if you don't have any attachments to

1260
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 2: any man, like, just go for it. You know what,

1261
00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:51,720
Speaker 2: you are an incredible woman. You gave birth to life

1262
00:58:52,440 --> 00:58:57,320
Speaker 2: and you're young. You're so young, so much life to live.

1263
00:58:57,160 --> 00:58:58,840
Speaker 3: And you still can live it and be a good mom.

1264
00:58:58,920 --> 00:59:00,440
Speaker 2: And you can be I'm sure I don't know what

1265
00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 2: you look like because let's follow her, follow what's back.

1266
00:59:04,320 --> 00:59:06,479
Speaker 5: But like, I'm sure you're a hot ass.

1267
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:09,680
Speaker 3: Ya ya, Yeah, you make a bomb ass baby, and

1268
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:10,720
Speaker 3: you know that.

1269
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 4: And also, like getting back to yourself is not I mean,

1270
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:19,760
Speaker 4: obviously it helps to get some but getting back to

1271
00:59:19,760 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 4: yourself just means like going out with your friends and

1272
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:24,720
Speaker 4: getting dressed, you know, like putting on some makeup, you know,

1273
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 4: like oh shit, I okay, remembering yourself a little bit.

1274
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:29,480
Speaker 4: You know, so if it takes like just if it's

1275
00:59:29,520 --> 00:59:31,320
Speaker 4: two hours, if you just have to ask a friend

1276
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 4: or whatever watch the baby for me. I want to

1277
00:59:33,640 --> 00:59:35,480
Speaker 4: go get a drink. And I see like you're a

1278
00:59:35,520 --> 00:59:36,960
Speaker 4: New Orleans so I know there's plenty of places to

1279
00:59:36,960 --> 00:59:41,479
Speaker 4: get drinks. Do you know, Like just it's little things.

1280
00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:43,040
Speaker 4: Get your nails done, you know what I'm saying, do

1281
00:59:43,120 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 4: your makeup. It will literally even if you're single, even

1282
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:48,360
Speaker 4: if you don't have any potential booty calls, even if

1283
00:59:48,360 --> 00:59:51,280
Speaker 4: you're out with your baby, it will, like your confidence

1284
00:59:51,320 --> 00:59:54,600
Speaker 4: and how you feel will attract attract that energy, like

1285
00:59:54,640 --> 00:59:57,439
Speaker 4: that's that sexiness that you feel about yourself. Will We'll

1286
00:59:57,440 --> 00:59:59,640
Speaker 4: put it out there on the universe will conspire in

1287
00:59:59,680 --> 01:00:02,440
Speaker 4: your face to get laid, to.

1288
01:00:02,560 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 5: Get laid, because that was a big part of the question, right.

1289
01:00:08,120 --> 01:00:11,680
Speaker 4: And we really appreciate you listening and asking your advice.

1290
01:00:11,880 --> 01:00:14,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you so much for listening, and we hope

1291
01:00:14,520 --> 01:00:15,520
Speaker 2: we answered this question.

1292
01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:17,160
Speaker 4: Oh and there was one last part of the relationship,

1293
01:00:17,200 --> 01:00:18,880
Speaker 4: I mean about the in the question it says, how

1294
01:00:18,880 --> 01:00:21,640
Speaker 4: do I put myself out there and have a wonderful relationship.

1295
01:00:22,160 --> 01:00:25,480
Speaker 4: I think the wonderful relationship art just comes of being honest, like, yeah,

1296
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:27,920
Speaker 4: I have a kid, these are my responsibilities. If you're

1297
01:00:27,960 --> 01:00:31,320
Speaker 4: not down for that, kick rocks. And if you are, like,

1298
01:00:31,360 --> 01:00:33,400
Speaker 4: I'm not trying to get married tomorrow, but obviously I

1299
01:00:33,440 --> 01:00:36,440
Speaker 4: want someone who's like respectable, you know, you know I

1300
01:00:36,440 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 4: can trust and girl with at this. This is the

1301
01:00:39,680 --> 01:00:41,840
Speaker 4: one thing I wish I learned as I come close

1302
01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 4: to my thirtieth birthday. I was so like as as

1303
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:48,520
Speaker 4: sassy and spicy as I am. I still question myself

1304
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:51,160
Speaker 4: a lot in my twenties with guys. I let guys

1305
01:00:51,280 --> 01:00:54,560
Speaker 4: like manipulate me when I knew they're manipulating me. Like

1306
01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:56,920
Speaker 4: I was timid, I didn't want to say certain things

1307
01:00:56,960 --> 01:00:57,360
Speaker 4: like and.

1308
01:00:57,280 --> 01:00:59,520
Speaker 3: Now I'm thirty, and I'm like, what the heff was

1309
01:00:59,520 --> 01:01:00,200
Speaker 3: wrong with you?

1310
01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:02,040
Speaker 4: You can say whatever you want, and honestly, you get

1311
01:01:02,040 --> 01:01:04,439
Speaker 4: more respects, You get further when you do. Because there's

1312
01:01:04,440 --> 01:01:07,200
Speaker 4: a wonderful book and it's called Why Men Love Bitches,

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Speaker 4: and it's true Men Love Bitches, And I encourage anybody

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01:01:10,960 --> 01:01:14,280
Speaker 4: who's anybody to read it because it's it really It

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01:01:14,360 --> 01:01:16,880
Speaker 4: just talks about just honesty and putting yourself out there.

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Speaker 4: And when you're honest, people will come to you and

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01:01:19,360 --> 01:01:21,120
Speaker 4: you'll get what you want because you're being honest with

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Speaker 4: whoever you're dealing with.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and like she said, honest honesty.

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Speaker 2: I don't ever feel like you have to lie to

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01:01:27,720 --> 01:01:29,600
Speaker 2: people about being a parent, because I know some women

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01:01:29,600 --> 01:01:32,040
Speaker 2: that do. They feel like they can't, especially I know

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01:01:32,040 --> 01:01:34,400
Speaker 2: you're twenty four, Like you know, some people might think

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01:01:34,400 --> 01:01:36,240
Speaker 2: that's kind of young to have a kid, especially a

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01:01:36,240 --> 01:01:38,919
Speaker 2: two year old, and you might feel like you can't

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01:01:38,920 --> 01:01:41,640
Speaker 2: be honest with you know, upfront with people. You look

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Speaker 2: if they if you can't be honest upfront from the

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01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:45,560
Speaker 2: beginning and they have a problem, and they have a

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01:01:45,600 --> 01:01:48,760
Speaker 2: problem you saying for you get out in the kitchen,

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01:01:48,920 --> 01:01:51,240
Speaker 2: you're already gonna have a bad relationship because you start

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01:01:51,320 --> 01:01:53,959
Speaker 2: your relationship off on a.

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Speaker 4: Lie or keeping a secret and then don't settle. You

1333
01:01:56,920 --> 01:01:59,040
Speaker 4: could have everything you want. There's someone out there who's

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01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:01,200
Speaker 4: going to appreciate all of you. You being a mom

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01:02:01,280 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 4: and being twenty four, are you being you know, all

1336
01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:04,720
Speaker 4: these things, because there could be more than one thing.

1337
01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:08,160
Speaker 4: So don't think you have to settle or live or

1338
01:02:08,200 --> 01:02:09,200
Speaker 4: be like a certain way.

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Speaker 2: And if you are doing that, then you're dating the

1340
01:02:11,600 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 2: like you're you're you're probably yeah, you're dating twenty four

1341
01:02:15,080 --> 01:02:17,080
Speaker 2: year olds, which is why you should dat older. In

1342
01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:20,800
Speaker 2: my opinion, definitely interest me. This sex gets better, much better.

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Speaker 4: And also, I mean sometimes when you have when you're

1344
01:02:23,840 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 4: a single mom, let's be honest, it's hard. You want

1345
01:02:26,320 --> 01:02:28,520
Speaker 4: to be in a relationship. At least I do because

1346
01:02:28,520 --> 01:02:30,280
Speaker 4: I'm a single mom and I still have questions. I

1347
01:02:30,320 --> 01:02:31,680
Speaker 4: want to be in a relationship with someone who's going

1348
01:02:31,720 --> 01:02:34,120
Speaker 4: to grow me and and and show me and kind

1349
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:37,600
Speaker 4: of be in a place to to support support me

1350
01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:39,320
Speaker 4: and guide me like I need that and I want

1351
01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:41,160
Speaker 4: that in a man and then a partner. And I

1352
01:02:41,200 --> 01:02:42,680
Speaker 4: don't think I used to think there's something wrong with

1353
01:02:42,720 --> 01:02:45,600
Speaker 4: saying that, but there's not and you know, maybe that's

1354
01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:47,560
Speaker 4: like even more of a reason you should get older,

1355
01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:50,240
Speaker 4: because they're maybe in a better position to do that.

1356
01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:53,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, most twenty four year old aren't gonna understand why

1357
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:56,280
Speaker 2: you can't go on a date last minute, or why

1358
01:02:56,360 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 2: you're not available this Saturday night, or why you can't

1359
01:02:59,720 --> 01:03:02,840
Speaker 2: go to the beach on Tuesday. You know, like they're

1360
01:03:02,880 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 2: just not you know, sometimes men my age don't get it,

1361
01:03:06,600 --> 01:03:08,480
Speaker 2: you know, and it's like, okay, well I'm just not

1362
01:03:08,560 --> 01:03:10,120
Speaker 2: available as much as you want me to be.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, it's just that's that's just who I am.

1364
01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:15,760
Speaker 5: Until I know that you are going.

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01:03:15,720 --> 01:03:17,240
Speaker 2: To be a consistent person in my life and I

1366
01:03:17,280 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 2: even want you to be, Like, then maybe my schedule

1367
01:03:19,760 --> 01:03:21,400
Speaker 2: could open up, because then maybe you could be around

1368
01:03:21,400 --> 01:03:21,840
Speaker 2: my child.

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01:03:22,080 --> 01:03:23,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then we can.

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01:03:23,120 --> 01:03:25,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it takes time, though, It takes time to

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01:03:25,720 --> 01:03:29,400
Speaker 4: build trust and people aren't creeps. Yeah, but when we

1372
01:03:29,440 --> 01:03:31,440
Speaker 4: come out there, we'll holler at you so we can

1373
01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:32,080
Speaker 4: go out.

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01:03:32,240 --> 01:03:33,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, girl, we'll take you out.

1375
01:03:33,440 --> 01:03:35,080
Speaker 2: We're trying to get Jamila, really trying to get out

1376
01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:37,200
Speaker 2: to New Orleans, but I owe I need to go

1377
01:03:37,240 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 2: out there.

1378
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:39,400
Speaker 3: One of my best friends lives out there. What's up?

1379
01:03:39,440 --> 01:03:39,640
Speaker 2: Now?

1380
01:03:39,720 --> 01:03:41,000
Speaker 3: Can you go the first week?

1381
01:03:41,280 --> 01:03:42,760
Speaker 5: And I owe her a trip? Can you go at

1382
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:43,720
Speaker 5: the first chance?

1383
01:03:44,280 --> 01:03:45,440
Speaker 3: Can you go? Like next week?

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01:03:46,280 --> 01:03:51,000
Speaker 2: I thought invited to Nicaragua? Okay, next week though, June first,

1385
01:03:51,160 --> 01:03:51,479
Speaker 2: the fourth.

1386
01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:53,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like tomorrow. No, are you going?

1387
01:03:54,520 --> 01:03:57,880
Speaker 5: I don't know it was it was a guy.

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01:03:58,040 --> 01:03:59,120
Speaker 3: He just guy.

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01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:01,320
Speaker 5: No, it's a friend of mine that I.

1390
01:04:01,280 --> 01:04:02,280
Speaker 3: Know, and I don't know.

1391
01:04:03,600 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I remember this. He invited me before.

1392
01:04:06,880 --> 01:04:09,560
Speaker 4: Oh and now he's still he's going back again. Like

1393
01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:13,240
Speaker 4: I guess this is jam. He goes to nicarwak he just

1394
01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:18,640
Speaker 4: kissed him. Okay, never mind, anyway, anyway, this has been great.

1395
01:04:18,840 --> 01:04:21,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know anyway me or may not go,

1396
01:04:21,040 --> 01:04:25,120
Speaker 2: but yeah, no Orleans, I'll be there if this bitch

1397
01:04:25,200 --> 01:04:25,920
Speaker 2: doesn't make it.

1398
01:04:28,160 --> 01:04:31,040
Speaker 4: Well that concludes our show for today. I'm my stomach

1399
01:04:31,120 --> 01:04:32,400
Speaker 4: is literally eating itself.

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01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:35,480
Speaker 3: I'm exhausted, and I raise asleep on my lap.

1401
01:04:35,880 --> 01:04:38,640
Speaker 4: So thank you for tuning in, and please if you

1402
01:04:38,640 --> 01:04:40,200
Speaker 4: have any advice on how we could be like a

1403
01:04:40,320 --> 01:04:41,120
Speaker 4: better example.

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01:04:41,160 --> 01:04:44,040
Speaker 2: Wait, like, I'm literally this is terrible. I was sleep

1405
01:04:44,040 --> 01:04:46,959
Speaker 2: in my lap. I'm talking about this is a prime

1406
01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:48,560
Speaker 2: example of me needing to work.

1407
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:52,800
Speaker 3: On this ship. She's she's sleep, but she's level ten sleep.

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01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 3: She's like deep deep, she's deep deep sleep. She didn't

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01:04:55,280 --> 01:04:55,919
Speaker 3: hear any of those.

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Speaker 4: She didn't hear about your sexy nicker walka trip or

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01:04:58,560 --> 01:04:59,880
Speaker 4: your shi t word.

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01:05:00,120 --> 01:05:04,800
Speaker 5: Oh god, anyway, cheers to working.

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01:05:04,560 --> 01:05:09,080
Speaker 4: On that and uh yeah, being mindful parents.

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01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:11,600
Speaker 5: I hope you guys have a good rest of your week.

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01:05:15,240 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 1: I got you're a bitcher, my nigga get witcher and

1416
01:05:17,760 --> 01:05:20,880
Speaker 1: then taking a back to the next so you better

1417
01:05:21,000 --> 01:05:24,360
Speaker 1: run afore you wrecked yourself.

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01:05:24,480 --> 01:05:25,960
Speaker 8: You get it check just before you.

1419
01:05:27,960 --> 01:05:29,840
Speaker 3: Before you wrecked yourself because.

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Speaker 11: Shock up puts off bat for your hill. Chiky ship,

1421
01:05:38,720 --> 01:05:42,800
Speaker 11: chiky ship, it's not something Cuba.

1422
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 1: And then they didn't play because they pitch made pulling

1423
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:47,880
Speaker 1: out a switchblade back on a pot because that's a

1424
01:05:48,000 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 1: night boat eight K forty seven, that's a white folk

1425
01:05:51,480 --> 01:05:55,720
Speaker 1: fifty nifty time got a new stas watch. I had

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01:05:56,720 --> 01:05:59,120
Speaker 1: cleland that they foting bank but said he took a

1427
01:05:59,200 --> 01:05:59,919
Speaker 1: ship in the whole.

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Speaker 3: Does you want to.

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01:06:01,480 --> 01:06:04,160
Speaker 1: Step to me now you'll ask himming for the tempt

1430
01:06:04,200 --> 01:06:07,800
Speaker 1: yetting they send me a Charlie Baker timber broad not

1431
01:06:07,920 --> 01:06:08,640
Speaker 1: he running.

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01:06:08,440 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 11: Up in yourself, your gods to.

1433
01:06:10,760 --> 01:06:13,640
Speaker 1: Be the time one. Now your name is just t

1434
01:06:13,680 --> 01:06:17,560
Speaker 1: one switch and snapping of young buys and new your

1435
01:06:17,560 --> 01:06:18,480
Speaker 1: better runner s