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Speaker 1: My mother forged documents behind my back so she could

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Speaker 2: Well that's crazy, Sophia.

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Speaker 1: Well Riley, it's Inheriting too Much Drama Week on the

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Speaker 1: this show afloat. I, twenty four female, found out earlier

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Speaker 1: this year that I was supposed to receive around one

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Speaker 1: father passed away. I found out by looking into a

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Speaker 1: cabinet in our house. I was to do so because

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Speaker 1: my mother acts rich or poor whenever it suits her,

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Speaker 1: plus other strange behavior. I found a letter that was

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Speaker 1: had my inheritance. All I needed to do was submit

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Speaker 1: some paperwork and they'd give me a check. By the

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Speaker 1: r slash Okay storytime separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley,

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Speaker 1: and we're here to give good advice goofully, but we

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Speaker 1: So let us know what you would do in the comments.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure how, but my mother somehow submitted documents

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Speaker 1: for me and even cash the check that was in

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Speaker 1: my name. I'm also not sure why she felt entitled

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Speaker 1: to it when she got five hundred thousand dollars in

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Speaker 1: inheritance herself. When I confronted her about it, she obviously

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Speaker 1: did not take it well. She was very adamant that

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Speaker 1: received photocopies of the check the submitted documents, etc. After

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Speaker 1: I told her that, she tried negotiating with me, stating

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Speaker 3: I said no.

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Speaker 1: I said she would guilt me into delaying her payments

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Speaker 1: I eventually made her show me her bank statements. As

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Speaker 1: far as I know, she has around three hundred and

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Speaker 1: too long to give me any money. I received fifty

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Speaker 1: This was on October third. No, why did you let

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Speaker 1: her do that? Why'd you let her do that?

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Speaker 2: I don't Nope, he's an only child. Yeah, Oh my gosh, Sophie,

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Speaker 2: why did you let her do that? Because his mom

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Speaker 1: She has three hundred and thirty thousand dollars in her

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Speaker 2: How do you burn through that much money that quickly?

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Speaker 1: She gave me the silent treatment in text and in person.

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Speaker 1: The next day I tried calling her. She started crying hysterically,

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Speaker 1: Days later, we had a four hour argument. A couple

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Speaker 1: my mother exhibits strong BPD traits and that it's all

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Speaker 1: my mother would cycle between hostile behavior and attempts to

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Speaker 4: Who comes in?

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Speaker 1: She's like looking straight at O. P. I just can't

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Speaker 5: When you said that, it made me think of the

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Speaker 5: I'm taking this kill on.

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Speaker 2: He gets a call like you have three brief face,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm familiar with that.

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Speaker 5: He gives them like, oh, I'll give you like three

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Speaker 2: She's like, okay, we'll do ten K.

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Speaker 5: And then two k okay now five k or two

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Speaker 1: But the briefcase is there's everyone knows has to be

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Speaker 3: Two hundred dollars?

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Speaker 1: She then sat next to me and played a video

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Speaker 1: of someone saying that if a family member is mean

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Speaker 1: She wasn't getting a reaction, so she started asking questions

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Speaker 1: buying me food, making long winded explanations for why she

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Speaker 1: Because it was embarrassing for a woman in her sixties

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Speaker 2: Got to keep up with the what are they the Joneses.

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Speaker 1: Keeping up with the Jones Is that what it's called?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, keeping up with the jont You got to keep

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Speaker 5: Right now, they're moved. They're so fast. They got a

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Speaker 2: I don't have that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like, I need more. You don't understand. And also,

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Speaker 1: He's like, what, I don't even drink anything, And she's.

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Speaker 2: Like, I don't know, you could be you're a substance addict.

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Speaker 1: You were a little sniffley the other day, just saying

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Speaker 1: She also made it clear she did not want to

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Speaker 2: So this is why she's doing all this stuff.

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Speaker 3: She's lonely.

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Speaker 2: You can't live alone. Good call man. That was crazy.

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Speaker 2: I didn't take it out lowly.

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Speaker 1: She's just a sixty year old woman who needs to

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Speaker 4: And it sounds like they're trying to pull some weird

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Speaker 7: treated on kindly or disrespectfully. I believe kids benefit from

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Speaker 7: structure and consistency, and I've tried to reinforce respect for

440
00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:10,160
Speaker 7: both households rather than undermining her. The kids are comfortable

441
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Speaker 7: with me and sometimes refer to me as mom as

442
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Speaker 7: a mom figure. They usually call me by my name

443
00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:17,159
Speaker 7: or a nickname, but on their own they have also

444
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Speaker 7: said things like I have two moms.

445
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Speaker 3: I have never forced or coached this.

446
00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:24,479
Speaker 7: Their biological brother and I used to be on good terms,

447
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Speaker 7: but over time she's become increasingly hostile towards me and

448
00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:31,600
Speaker 7: continues to involve the children in adult issues. Some examples

449
00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:34,120
Speaker 7: include telling the kids things like don't call her mom,

450
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Speaker 7: She's not your mom and she's just pretending to be

451
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Speaker 7: her mom, which upsets and confuses them. Our youngest often

452
00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:43,680
Speaker 7: comes directly to me with questions about things that his

453
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Speaker 7: mom says. As recently as yesterday, he asked, why does

454
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Speaker 7: mommy always say that she doesn't like you? He was

455
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Speaker 7: clearly upset. When this happens, we respond kindly and neutrallly.

456
00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:56,720
Speaker 7: We do not bad mouth their mom. Yesterday, we told

457
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Speaker 7: him sometimes people don't like other people, and that's okay.

458
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Speaker 7: Not everyone will like you in this world, but you

459
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Speaker 7: should never let someone's dislike for you, change who you are,

460
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Speaker 7: always be you, no matter what. If someone doesn't like you,

461
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Speaker 7: then that's their loss. I have never spoken negatively about

462
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Speaker 7: their mom around the kids or shared my frustrations with them.

463
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Speaker 7: And for some additional context, she asked my fiance if

464
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Speaker 7: they could get back together if he and I did

465
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Speaker 7: not work out quote for their son. This was years

466
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Speaker 7: after they broke up and they have not been together

467
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Speaker 7: since twenty seventeen.

468
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Speaker 3: Twenty eighteen, I.

469
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Speaker 7: Have received anonymous texts containing fake dating profiles using my

470
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Speaker 7: fiance's photo. These profiles do not exist, contain incorrect information,

471
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Speaker 7: and my fiance does not use dating apps. I do

472
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Speaker 7: not have proof of who sent them, but given the

473
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Speaker 7: timing and circumstances, I strongly suspect it might be her.

474
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Speaker 7: I have never accused her directly because I don't have evidence,

475
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Speaker 7: but she's also cold or avoids us entirely when my

476
00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 7: fiance and I are together, but is friendly when he's alone.

477
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Speaker 7: We have repeatedly tried to handle things like adults, but

478
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Speaker 7: she refuses to have a conversation with us. When I

479
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,479
Speaker 7: calmly stated my boundaries about not involving the kids in

480
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 7: adult conflict, she immediately shifted to blaming me, saying that

481
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Speaker 7: there were things I do that she doesn't like, without

482
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Speaker 7: acknowledging anything I said. I responded kindly and asked her

483
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Speaker 7: to tell me specifically what I was doing so I

484
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Speaker 7: could address it or fix it, and she never responded.

485
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Speaker 7: My fiance and I have given multiple opportunities for a

486
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Speaker 7: respectful conversation, and she continues to refuse to engage.

487
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Speaker 3: While still involving the kids.

488
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Speaker 7: Regarding social media, I sometimes refer to the kids as

489
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Speaker 7: my kids, never implying that they are biologically mine, and

490
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Speaker 7: post family photos my fiance.

491
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Speaker 3: Their father has explicitly said that this is okay.

492
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Speaker 7: Her grandmother told me I should stop because quote it

493
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Speaker 7: makes her uncomfortable.

494
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Speaker 3: I do not agree.

495
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Speaker 7: I do not believe her discomfort gives her authority over

496
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Speaker 7: how I speak or post, especially when their father supports it.

497
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Speaker 3: Church has also become an issue.

498
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Speaker 7: But before we go into that issue, I want to

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Speaker 7: pause ye and discuss that one.

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Speaker 4: She sounds like just such a miserable person, like clinging

501
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 4: to this hope of like, well, he'll come back to me,

502
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:12,920
Speaker 4: But then it's such a mean, miserable person. Yeah, it's like, lady,

503
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Speaker 4: I don't know what you're trying to like win back here.

504
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 7: By being just awful, right, Like, it's probably the kind

505
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Speaker 7: of thing where it's just like as their lives separated

506
00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:24,199
Speaker 7: and moved on, like hers didn't get any better, but

507
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Speaker 7: his obviously did.

508
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Speaker 4: Me.

509
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Speaker 3: But then that.

510
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Speaker 7: Specific issue of like saying like my kids in the post, right,

511
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Speaker 7: that is interesting to me because I mean, I know

512
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Speaker 7: teachers will say something like that, like, oh, like these

513
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Speaker 7: are my kids.

514
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Speaker 4: Like my teacher friends say that all the time.

515
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Speaker 3: Yeah, same, and like uh.

516
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Speaker 7: But at the same time, we've also heard stories where

517
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Speaker 7: like a mother in law would do that like my baby,

518
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Speaker 7: and that's like a huge bothersomething to the mother or

519
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:52,960
Speaker 7: like to like the actual mother of the kids.

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Speaker 4: That is a tough one because I would typically be like, well,

521
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Speaker 4: it is kind of like bio mom's call on that phone,

522
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 4: but to some extent like kind of the kids calls

523
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 4: even But I feel like you can respect that boundary

524
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Speaker 4: of like trying to be better about that kind of thing.

525
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that one's.

526
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Speaker 4: Kind of a semi valid like Okay, fine, she's being

527
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Speaker 4: awful and won't have a conversation with you. That's a

528
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:25,120
Speaker 4: whole different problem. But if that will help some tension

529
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Speaker 4: ease up. Sure, fine, be conscious in an effort to

530
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Speaker 4: like not do that one.

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Speaker 7: Because I mean, am I even if you're like on

532
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Speaker 7: a bad terms or good terms even and you just

533
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Speaker 7: don't want someone saying that they're your kids because they're not.

534
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Speaker 4: I can I fully understand that.

535
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Speaker 7: Yeah, unless they're like married, maybe then like maybe I

536
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Speaker 7: don't know, but.

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Speaker 4: They're just just are they married or are they even

538
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 4: those like that's such a bigger conversation of like everyone

539
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:54,199
Speaker 4: should be on board with it.

540
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:55,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just a small thing.

541
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Speaker 4: I feel like it's not like and I think at

542
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Speaker 4: a certain age the kids kind of do get that

543
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:02,640
Speaker 4: call to decide on their own, right, But they sound young.

544
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Speaker 7: Because I guess they have been saying like, like I

545
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 7: have two moms and stuff, right, been there for most

546
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 7: of their lives.

547
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 3: So I don't know. That's a complicated way.

548
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 7: It's tough, yeah, but everything else I totally agree on.

549
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,200
Speaker 7: So church has also become an issue early on. Their

550
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 7: mom allowed me to take the kids to church with

551
00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:19,360
Speaker 7: me for about a year and a half. Then suddenly

552
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 7: she told me, if you take my kids to church

553
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 7: one more time, we're going to have a problem. To

554
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:28,200
Speaker 7: avoid conflict, my fiance and I stopped taking them. Since then,

555
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:31,880
Speaker 7: the kids have repeatedly asked to go back. Recently, when

556
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 7: I mentioned I was going to church, the oldest literally

557
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,719
Speaker 7: begged me, hands together and jumping up and down, asking

558
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 7: to go with me. The kids have also told us

559
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:43,120
Speaker 7: they're upset with their mom for not letting them go anymore.

560
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 7: My fiance and I talked it through and decided together

561
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Speaker 7: that letting them attend church is not harmful, especially since

562
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 7: they are asking and not being forced. We told them

563
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 7: that they do not have to go if they don't

564
00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 7: want to, but they're welcome to explore their beliefs. We

565
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 7: are Christians, and the kids have expressed that they love

566
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:00,640
Speaker 7: Jesus and want to learn more. We believe their beliefs

567
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 7: matter and should not be shut down. Their mom is

568
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 7: now angry again, but has not directly told us to

569
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 7: stop taking them. Okay, One more important piece of context. Historically,

570
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 7: my fiance often gave in to her demands to keep

571
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 7: the peace. Since being with me, he has learned to

572
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 7: stand up for himself and set boundaries. I do not

573
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 7: allow manipulation in our households. I believe this shift is

574
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:24,679
Speaker 7: part of why her hostility has escalated because neither of

575
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 7: us can be controlled the way he once was.

576
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:29,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a good and I could fully see her

577
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 4: being like and it's because of her, and it's like

578
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:36,120
Speaker 4: it's really not like she just helped him hold strong,

579
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:38,719
Speaker 4: Like right, you can't blame her for him getting a

580
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 4: spine on stuff.

581
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 7: Like, even if it is because of her, it's like good,

582
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 7: but that yeah, exactly.

583
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:48,360
Speaker 3: I mean that's such a common thing.

584
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 7: It's like so common someone's controlling, whether they like are

585
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:54,640
Speaker 7: purposefully doing that or not. And then like as soon

586
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:58,400
Speaker 7: as you're not going along with their beliefs the same

587
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 7: way that you use too, then they're just like what's happening?

588
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 3: They're being so rude. Now they're being terrible.

589
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,120
Speaker 4: But yeah, this is one of those things where it's

590
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 4: like sure, like some things that she seems to be

591
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,640
Speaker 4: coming up with are maybe potentially like kind of valid,

592
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 4: but like to me, some of the validity gets lost

593
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,119
Speaker 4: when you're not willing to like sit down and have

594
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:21,399
Speaker 4: a conversation about it. Yeah, like if you just want

595
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 4: to be petty and like suddenly like have an outburst

596
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 4: of getting mad or like talk to your kids about

597
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:29,880
Speaker 4: it over like the adults that you're mad at.

598
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:31,960
Speaker 3: Right, then I'm gonna be like.

599
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 4: Girl, what the heck?

600
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 6: Like?

601
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 4: But if we can have a like I don't know.

602
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:37,240
Speaker 4: I don't even know if there's a way to be like,

603
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 4: can we sit down and talk like?

604
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 7: But there is a little bit more to this story.

605
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 7: I'm not trying to replace her, erase her, or undermine

606
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 7: her role. I'm just refusing to shrink myself hi to

607
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 7: help the relationships or surrender decisions in our household to

608
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 7: someone else's emotions, especially when the kids are being pulled

609
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 7: into adult conflict. So Reddit am at the a hole

610
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 7: for holding these boundaries, continuing to post and speak freely,

611
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 7: supporting the kid's relationship with me, and allowing them to

612
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:10,680
Speaker 7: attend church when they ask, even though it makes their

613
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 7: mom uncomfortable. And that's the end of that story.

614
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 4: But let's say you I say the calling you mom one,

615
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 4: maybe we could stop doing Yeah the church one that

616
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 4: should be up to the kids. Yeah, and what was

617
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 4: the last one?

618
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 3: Uh uh? Holding these boundaries?

619
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,719
Speaker 4: Oh no, you have to hold your boundary. Yeah that's healthy.

620
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's super healthy.

621
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 4: Yeah screw her on that one.

622
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would totally agree.

623
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Speaker 7: I think like I get why a lot of the

624
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 7: frustrations are with you, but I think most of this

625
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 7: needs to be going through your husband or fiance. Yeah,

626
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 7: and it seems like it is, honestly, but yeah, I

627
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 7: think if he's okay with a lot of it, it

628
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 7: seems like you're not, you know, pushing your own desires

629
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 7: onto these.

630
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Speaker 3: Kids at all.

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Speaker 9: You're not like you have to go to church, right, Yeah, exactly,

632
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 9: like the act being like please literally like you are

633
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 9: trying to please her in these other ways.

634
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 3: The kids don't like it. And also she's yelling at

635
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 3: them and stuff. She's just current anyway. So I think

636
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 3: you're fine, and I think you know that, And that's

637
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 3: the end of this story. We're going on to the

638
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Speaker 3: next one.

639
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Speaker 4: My mother in law stole from me out of spite

640
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 4: after I got engaged to her son.

641
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 3: That's a whole bunch of yikes right there.

642
00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 4: I have a mother in law, as many of us do,

643
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,719
Speaker 4: of course, but I would like to share my experience

644
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 4: in my mother in law's circus. My husband and I

645
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 4: moved back to Georgia from Florida about a year and

646
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Speaker 4: a half ago. We left Georgia for many reasons that

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Speaker 4: I will not get into. My in laws offered for

648
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Speaker 4: us to stay with them until we got on our feet,

649
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Speaker 4: and we helped where we could by paying bills, cleaning

650
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Speaker 4: the house, taking care of their dog, and more. By

651
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Speaker 4: the way, this comes from a minute question forty one

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Speaker 4: forty four, and if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 4: go to the rsash Okay storytime sub reddit. I'm Carly,

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Speaker 4: I'm Angie, and we're here to give a good advice.

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Speaker 4: S gooofully, But we don't have all the answers. We

656
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Speaker 4: only know what we would do, So let us know

657
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Speaker 4: what you would do in the comments. I know, Pie says.

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Speaker 4: Let me backtrack a little. My husband and I got

659
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 4: engaged back in March of this year and are getting

660
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 4: married in two weeks, and I really need to get

661
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 4: this off my chest. Ever since we got engaged, my

662
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 4: relationship with my mother in law has completely changed. Before

663
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 4: the engagement, my mother in law would offer to hang out, talk,

664
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 4: genuinely be like a mom to me, which I always

665
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 4: loved because I always wanted a mother in law like that.

666
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 4: After the engagement, everything flipped. She became spiteful. She and

667
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 4: her husband would sleep in the nude with their door open,

668
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 4: do spicy related things with the door wide open, walk

669
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 4: around the house practically nude, and make rude and condescending

670
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 4: remarks toward both me and my husband. They also expected

671
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 4: us to keep the house clean. Obviously, we kept our

672
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 4: room and bathroom clean, but they wanted us to handle

673
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 4: practically the entire house except their room. I did not

674
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 4: mind helping every once in a while, but they started

675
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 4: taking advantage of it. They expected us to take care

676
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 4: of their dog and cook for them almost every day

677
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 4: while they went out to party all weekend long. My

678
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 4: husband and I would stay home while they were out.

679
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 4: I have not even gotten to the worst part yet.

680
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 4: Their dog has attacked my dog and they have never

681
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 4: apologized for it. Their dog has attacked our dog on

682
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 4: multiple occasions and they always brushed it off as them

683
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 4: just playing. My husband and I even tried talking to

684
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 4: them before things escalated, but nothing changed. Everything came to

685
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 4: a head this weekend. I noticed my blow dryer was different.

686
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 4: My mother in law and I have similar blow dryers,

687
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 4: so I immediately called my husband, freaking out because I knew

688
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 4: it was not mine. My mother in law is known

689
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 4: for having sticky fingers. While on the phone with my husband,

690
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 4: I said out loud that it was not my blow dryer.

691
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 4: She loves to easdrop on our conversations and we have

692
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 4: caught her outside her door multiple times listening. Her mother

693
00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:11,479
Speaker 4: does it as well. I left my blow dryer on

694
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 4: my bed and went to run Errand's. When I came back,

695
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 4: my actual blow dryer had magically reappeared in my bathroom,

696
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 4: exactly how I had left it a few days earlier.

697
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 4: I overheard my mother in law and father in law

698
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 4: laughing and joking about how stupid I was and how

699
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 4: I never noticed my blow dryer had been swapped with

700
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 4: her old one. My mother in law has even gone

701
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 4: as far as stealing my cleaning products and supplies just

702
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 4: to try and push my buttons. This weekend, I decided

703
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 4: to be the ultimate petty daughter in law. I took

704
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 4: everything I had given her, including her Apple watch, the bill, money,

705
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 4: a backpack I lent her and my cleaning supplies as well.

706
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:56,480
Speaker 4: I moved out of their house and into my mom's house.

707
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,720
Speaker 4: But I forgot to mention we move into our apartment

708
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 4: in two weeks. If anyone have suggestions to help us out,

709
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 4: we would truly appreciate it. Please let me know if

710
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:07,640
Speaker 4: you have gone through something like this and what you

711
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 4: did from there, you have some comments, but uh, what

712
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 4: do you think?

713
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 3: Well, I have not been through anything like this.

714
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 4: I mean I have been through like roommates taking things, though.

715
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,640
Speaker 3: What'd you do about it? Honestly?

716
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:31,319
Speaker 4: Uh? Like putting weird locks on things and then just

717
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 4: not acknowledging that I put a lock on it. And

718
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 4: it's like, if you want to acknowledge that there's a

719
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 4: lock on it, you can acknowledge that you went in

720
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 4: for something.

721
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 3: Right, Like, why does it matter?

722
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 4: So we're just never gonna talk about it kind of thing, yeah,

723
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 4: or calling them out straight up, like being like, hey,

724
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:49,239
Speaker 4: like if I'm not giving you permission to go in

725
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 4: there and take this thing right stop, Like can you not? Yeah?

726
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 4: Why are you doing this?

727
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 2: Yeah?

728
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:57,800
Speaker 4: So yeah, it's tricky. Like in this case, it sounds

729
00:34:57,800 --> 00:34:59,400
Speaker 4: like you can just like move your stuff to your

730
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:00,800
Speaker 4: mom's for two weeks.

731
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:03,400
Speaker 7: Right like hopefully, I mean because they're living with a

732
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 7: mother in law and father in law.

733
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 10: Yeah.

734
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wonder like how soon you guys can read?

735
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:10,920
Speaker 4: Can you leave things just kind of like bare bones

736
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:13,439
Speaker 4: and just like get a bunch of stuff away right?

737
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 3: Yeah?

738
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 2: Yeah?

739
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:16,399
Speaker 4: Wore weeks. You've got it.

740
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 3: I believe in you, I believe get those little ox.

741
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 4: Yeah comments come at once. Some women go all weird

742
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 4: when their precious baby boy commits to another woman. Your

743
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 4: mother in law sounds like one of those weirdos. You

744
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 4: were acceptable as long as you were just a girlfriend temporary.

745
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 4: Once you got engaged, you change to a permanent fixture,

746
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 4: and some bizarre jealousy inside her reared its ugly head.

747
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:43,800
Speaker 4: She started acting like a jilted high school ex girlfriend,

748
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:47,000
Speaker 4: spiteful and trying to make you jealous with the creepy

749
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 4: displays of nudity and spicy sleep. There's nothing you can

750
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 4: do about it other than avoid her as much as possible.

751
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 4: She's screwed up. That's all advice. For your new apartment.

752
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 4: No key. Absolutely, do not give her a key, not

753
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 4: even for one time. Do not leave your keys lying

754
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:07,279
Speaker 4: around either. Since she's no n f sticky fingers, it

755
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 4: seems to take some sick, grossly matured delight in taking

756
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 4: your stuff. Do not ever trust her to be in

757
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 4: your home unsupervised, No unannounced drop ins. Leave her on

758
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 4: the doorstep. Keep the relationship superficial and civil. She's showing

759
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 4: you what she thinks of you believe her, do not

760
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:27,880
Speaker 4: grovel to try to make things better, comment to any

761
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 4: reaction from her. Yet luck that you pulled that last

762
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 4: stunt on her OPI said she was mad as heck

763
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 4: when I took those items back and even tried to

764
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 4: swindle my husband by saying he could leave when I left.

765
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 4: She never apologized for anything and is upset about not

766
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 4: having her Apple Watch. She kept pacing back and forth

767
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 4: after I took everything and even tried intimidating me. I

768
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 4: looked right past her and kept packing my car. Update.

769
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 4: I also found out they had the post office stop

770
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 4: my mail from coming to their house two months prior.

771
00:36:58,680 --> 00:36:59,399
Speaker 3: Where did it go?

772
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 4: Made me even happier that I took my Apple Watch

773
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 4: backpack and bill money. She already got herself a new

774
00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:07,360
Speaker 4: Apple Watch. She can barely afford to pay her bills,

775
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 4: yet she keeps adding more expenses. Oh we have another update. Actually,

776
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 4: oh wow, wow.

777
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 7: So it seems like she was not letting the mail

778
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,399
Speaker 7: go to her use and maybe paying for a PO box.

779
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 3: Is that what that was?

780
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 4: Yeah? I don't even know where she's sending it.

781
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, it's kind of weird.

782
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:25,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, she could have just put it to a random address, like, yeah, right,

783
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 4: I don't know.

784
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 3: I don't know.

785
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 4: Update too. My mother in law has demanded that I

786
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 4: go pick up my stuff, including a white dresser, all

787
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 4: my clothes, and Christmas decorations we bought for our apartment.

788
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 4: If I do not take all my belongings by Monday,

789
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 4: she says, she will throw it all away. Little does

790
00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 4: she know I've had those items for over ten years

791
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 4: and was planning to throw them away anyway. My husband

792
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 4: is beyond upset and disappointed. This was such a crazy escalation.

793
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,360
Speaker 4: This really was like she fully just like Loki became

794
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 4: in out of her house.

795
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:58,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's a.

796
00:37:58,360 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 4: Thief and then and then punched you.

797
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 3: It's like, okay, yeah, a good thing. I'm out of here.

798
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 3: I don't want to see you.

799
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 4: You it, put some clothes on. You should donate some

800
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 4: clothes to run your way out.

801
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:12,840
Speaker 3: There you go. It's like, why didn't you steal my clothes?

802
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:15,319
Speaker 3: Out of everything that you would have been cool with that.

803
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 4: He agreed to go no contact the day we move

804
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:20,320
Speaker 4: in and refuses to deal with her anymore.

805
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 3: Wow.

806
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 4: She's even trying to convince him to stay with her

807
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 4: and telling him that I'm gonna punt him out once

808
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 4: we move in. Little does she know we're eloping the

809
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 4: day we move in.

810
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:30,280
Speaker 3: Oh wow.

811
00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 4: I pray God heals her heart of this bitterness and

812
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 4: brings peace to her. And that's the end of this story.

813
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 4: We're gonna go to the next one.

814
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 7: My stepsister missed all my milestones, so I completely removed

815
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 7: her from my life.

816
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 4: And she missed that milestone too.

817
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 7: I am twenty seven and my stepsister is twenty nine.

818
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 7: Our family's merged when I was six and she was eight.

819
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 7: We got along really quickly after our famili's merged. You

820
00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 7: usually hear stories about it taking years or that step

821
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 7: siblings do not like each other at the beginning, but

822
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 7: that was not the case with me and my sister.

823
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 7: By the way, this comes from front Suit fifty six

824
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:06,400
Speaker 7: eighty And if you want to submit your own stories,

825
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 7: go to the hour slash Okay, storytime subpar at it

826
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 7: And I'm Angie.

827
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 3: I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice.

828
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 7: Goofily, But we don't have all the answers. We just

829
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 7: know what we would do in these situations.

830
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 3: So let us know what you do down below.

831
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 7: And Opie says Of course we had arguments and fights,

832
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 7: but we were close.

833
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:24,919
Speaker 3: I even lived with her for around four to six

834
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 3: months when I graduated high school. I truly looked up

835
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 3: to her as my older sister and always thought very

836
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 3: highly of her. I wanted to be like her. I

837
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,360
Speaker 3: got married in April of twenty twenty four. I was

838
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 3: twenty five at the time and she was twenty seven.

839
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 7: It was planned kind of quickly, and everyone had about

840
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:40,280
Speaker 7: six weeks notice.

841
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 3: My wedding was.

842
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 7: At eleven in the morning and at the municipal court,

843
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:46,839
Speaker 7: so we only had about an hour because there were

844
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 7: other people getting married after us. My sister was the

845
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 7: first person to say that she was excited and that

846
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 7: she would be there. About two weeks later, she texted

847
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 7: me saying that she could not come because she and

848
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 7: her boyfriend already had tickets to go to Dallas to

849
00:39:59,000 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 7: see either.

850
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,800
Speaker 3: Of the cowb the Rangers. They did not leave for.

851
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 7: Dallas until around twelve or one o'clock, and it was

852
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 7: only a five hour drive. The game did not start

853
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 7: until the evening around seven or eight. She literally could

854
00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 7: have made it to my wedding if she had left earlier,

855
00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 7: but for whatever reason, she chose not to. I was

856
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 7: really hurt because this was my wedding and she chose

857
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 7: a game instead. I tried to be understanding, but it

858
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 7: still hurt a lot. Valid About four months later, in

859
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 7: August of twenty twenty four, we were both at my

860
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 7: brother's baby shower. I went into it wanting to make

861
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 7: up and move on, and we did. Everything seemed fine again.

862
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 7: I found out I was pregnant in November of twenty

863
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 7: twenty four and planned a gender reveal in January twenty

864
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 7: twenty five. Months in advance, she told me she could

865
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:46,839
Speaker 7: not come because she was going to Kansas to see

866
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:50,360
Speaker 7: her boyfriend's family for someone's birthday on his side. Again,

867
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 7: I was really hurt because this was another huge milestone

868
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 7: in my life and she missed it. Later, I planned

869
00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:58,439
Speaker 7: my baby shower for late May of twenty twenty five.

870
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:00,880
Speaker 7: She said she was coming, and I was really happy

871
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:03,839
Speaker 7: because I thought she finally was going to show up

872
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 7: for me. Around that time, she started posting in our

873
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 7: family group chat that her boyfriend was mentally and financially

874
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:12,880
Speaker 7: abusing her. Everyone told her that she deserved better, and

875
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 7: she said that she was leaving him and even sent

876
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 7: pictures of packing his stuff. Later, it turned out that

877
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 7: they were still together. After that, she got into a

878
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 7: fight with my parents because my mom was very blunt

879
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,759
Speaker 7: about her relationship. I stayed out of it because that

880
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 7: was between them and had nothing to do with me.

881
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 7: About a week before my baby shower, we sent reminder

882
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 7: invites on Facebook and she marked that she was going

883
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,359
Speaker 7: the day off the baby shower. She did not show

884
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:38,360
Speaker 7: up and did not text or call at all. Nothing

885
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:40,239
Speaker 7: I would have understood if she said she did not

886
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 7: feel comfortable being around my parents and wanted to meet

887
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 7: up supperly, but I got no explanation, no gift, and

888
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 7: no message for context.

889
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:49,399
Speaker 3: I live in Dallas, and.

890
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 7: My whole family, including her, lives in Midland, which is

891
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:56,080
Speaker 7: about five hours away. I went to Midland for my

892
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:59,319
Speaker 7: wedding and my gender reveal, my baby shower, and even

893
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 7: my brother's baby shower.

894
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 3: I was in Midland for a full week for my.

895
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 7: Baby shower, and she knew that she could have tried

896
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:07,880
Speaker 7: to see me at some point, and she did not.

897
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 7: A month after my baby shower, I had my daughter

898
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 7: posted in social media and saw that she viewed my

899
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 7: Snapchat story but did not say congratulations or anything. I

900
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:21,720
Speaker 7: was freshly postpartum and incredibly emotional. I had been preparing

901
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 7: for this life changing moment, and yet she had missed

902
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 7: every single major milestone in my life, my wedding, my

903
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:30,319
Speaker 7: gender reveal, my baby shower, and now she could not

904
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:33,360
Speaker 7: even acknowledge the birth of my daughter. No text, no

905
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 7: phone call, no message, nothing, just complete silence. I felt

906
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:41,719
Speaker 7: so alone, hurt and rejected. My heart ached knowing that

907
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 7: someone I had looked up to my whole life, someone

908
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 7: I considered my sister, could be completely absent at the

909
00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 7: most important moments of my life. I cried to my

910
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:52,800
Speaker 7: mom about it, feeling a mix of grief, frustration, and heartbreak.

911
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,400
Speaker 7: To make it worse, the first person who congratulated me

912
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,360
Speaker 7: on my daughter was my high school bully, not my sister.

913
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 7: I realized that my sister had truly chosen to be

914
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 7: absent from my life at the times that mattered most,

915
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 7: and it felt like a permanent wound. At that point,

916
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 7: I decided I was done. She missed my wedding, my

917
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:12,320
Speaker 7: gender reveal, my baby shower, and even acknowledging the birth

918
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:14,839
Speaker 7: of my daughter. I was there for her wedding, her

919
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 7: baby showers, her gender reveals, and her births. I always

920
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 7: showed up for her, and she did not show up

921
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:23,399
Speaker 7: for me. My daughter is now six months old. I've

922
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:25,840
Speaker 7: blocked my sister on all social media and we do

923
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 7: not talk. She's talking to my parents again, and I'm

924
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 7: sure they will fix their relationship, but for me, there's

925
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 7: no fixing this. I plan to ignore her at family

926
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,040
Speaker 7: events and keep my distance. Am I the a hole

927
00:43:37,080 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 7: for cutting her off and not wanting a relationship with

928
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:39,880
Speaker 7: her anymore?

929
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:42,680
Speaker 4: It's so tricky because you're not the a hole, like

930
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 4: for doing what you need to do in that moment,

931
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:48,360
Speaker 4: and you were still hurt and your feelings are still valid.

932
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 4: And if you decide I can't be there for her

933
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:55,919
Speaker 4: even if she comes back, that's fine, but you need

934
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 4: to like also think deep, Like if she comes back

935
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:01,280
Speaker 4: and explains to you these reasons and it is because

936
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 4: of like something awful that's been happening, Yeah, would that

937
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 4: change your mind? Like part of me thinks that she's

938
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 4: not doing this out of malice, and there should be

939
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 4: like maybe be open to if she tries to come back,

940
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 4: but like if that's a stopping point for you, that's

941
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:19,799
Speaker 4: unfortunately a stopping point for you.

942
00:44:20,239 --> 00:44:27,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, I ah, Like so so complicated, because yeah, I

943
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 7: don't think you're a hole for feeling like this, but

944
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 7: I might even venture to say you might be the

945
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 7: a hole for like blocking her and stuff.

946
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:35,680
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie.

947
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 4: If someone is true. If someone is reaching out and

948
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:41,359
Speaker 4: saying like I am in this position yeah and might

949
00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 4: need help, and you block them.

950
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, because it's but.

951
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,360
Speaker 4: She has your parents, so it's tricky.

952
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 7: Yeah, so it's I'm glad that she's possibly rekindling that

953
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 7: relationship with your parents.

954
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I don't know.

955
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 7: I mean, if she's family, like, I get it, that

956
00:44:57,520 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 7: sucks that she was missing all of that stuff, but

957
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 7: I think and still going to brothers stuff too, right, right, Like,

958
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,719
Speaker 7: if someone is in that kind of relationship though, and

959
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:09,879
Speaker 7: she's admitting it like she knows, but she's still with him,

960
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:12,840
Speaker 7: obviously that's not because she just wants to, you know,

961
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 7: So I think I think.

962
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 3: Uh, we need It's very tough, but I think maybe

963
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 3: just like keep the door open.

964
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 7: I don't think you should totally cut this relationship off,

965
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:31,839
Speaker 7: because you should what's probably happening. And if if you're

966
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 7: not like familiar with situations like that, then you wouldn't know.

967
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 7: But I'm guessing that what a lot, like a lot

968
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 7: of her decisions are being made off of survival.

969
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:45,319
Speaker 4: Yes, she's like what she's hearing from him over and

970
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:47,840
Speaker 4: over again, Like you start to believe that it's true.

971
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:49,280
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, totally.

972
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, So I think that you should, you know, still

973
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 7: hold space for your feelings and acknowledge those That's okay,

974
00:45:57,440 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 7: but definitely keep an eye out and like maybe read

975
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 7: up a little bit on some relationships and see, uh

976
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,560
Speaker 7: see how you can forgive her.

977
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would say, you can shut the door, but

978
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 4: keep it on lock. Yeah she comes knocking, we can,

979
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 4: we can.

980
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 1: Consider your family.

981
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:20,239
Speaker 4: You're out, like she might genuinely be really upset and

982
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 4: missing you.

983
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, totally, And honestly, she's.

984
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:28,279
Speaker 7: You know, she's unpacking a lot, she's going through log

985
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 7: But we do have an update here. I want to

986
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,320
Speaker 7: clarify a bit about my sister's situation since some commenters

987
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 7: have asked. She started this relationship in twenty twenty five.

988
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:42,720
Speaker 7: She was financially mistreated by her boyfriend. She covered rent, utilities, groceries, bills,

989
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 7: kid expenses while he contributed nothing. She also experienced mental mistreatment.

990
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 7: He would frequently yell at her and degrade her when

991
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,840
Speaker 7: he was upset, but it never was physical. She is

992
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 7: very active on social media and keeps in contact with

993
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:58,520
Speaker 7: other family members. Right now, my other two siblings and

994
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:00,560
Speaker 7: I are not speaking to her because of how serious

995
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 7: we think the situation is.

996
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:05,319
Speaker 4: That that's a wild sense, it's very backwards. We're not

997
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 4: speaking to her because we know that she's in a

998
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:12,760
Speaker 4: crappy situation that is like now you're lingering.

999
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:15,920
Speaker 3: Into I'm feeling a lot stronger about.

1000
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:20,160
Speaker 7: I know some family members think we should get over it,

1001
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:22,279
Speaker 7: but for us, this is not a small issue. I

1002
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 7: appreciate everyone who is trying to offer a perspective. I

1003
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:28,080
Speaker 7: just wanted to share more context so people understand why

1004
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 7: we have made the choices we have.

1005
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:34,320
Speaker 3: Opie. I okay, I'm quite against you now.

1006
00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:36,399
Speaker 1: I think I would go a hole now.

1007
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:37,360
Speaker 4: I think you're.

1008
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 3: Totally the whole.

1009
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 7: I think because I because, I mean, maybe you got

1010
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:43,319
Speaker 7: to the point where it's just like there's nothing else

1011
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 7: I can do. I've tried so hard to get you

1012
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 7: out of the situation. I don't know what you've been doing,

1013
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:49,400
Speaker 7: Like you know, we didn't.

1014
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:51,759
Speaker 3: I just can't handle it anymore. Yeah, we haven't heard

1015
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 3: any of that, So I'm not gonna guess that that's

1016
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:57,799
Speaker 3: what you're doing. But either way, like, if.

1017
00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 11: That's the thing that, like the textbook had, what they're

1018
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:07,399
Speaker 11: doing is like is isolating, isolating their family, and you're

1019
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 11: kind of letting it happen.

1020
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 3: I know it's hard. I know it's hard to not

1021
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 3: let that happen.

1022
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 4: I think we should read up on some leave some

1023
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 4: things about it. This about her situation, like.

1024
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 7: Because you're not like letting her come to you anymore

1025
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:27,840
Speaker 7: for that relationship, for that safety, then she has no

1026
00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 7: other choice but to stay with that partner, like.

1027
00:48:30,719 --> 00:48:32,760
Speaker 4: Which she also didn't even sound like she was coming

1028
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 4: to them about it beyond like hey, guys, like the

1029
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 4: initial thing yeah, and seemingly was met with a lot

1030
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:41,719
Speaker 4: of just like, we don't want to talk to you.

1031
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1032
00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:46,240
Speaker 7: So I don't think you should be doing this, Sopie.

1033
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:49,879
Speaker 7: I think you are in the wrong. Still understandable why

1034
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 7: you felt the things you felt before about her missing

1035
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:56,799
Speaker 7: those things, but again, it's something you just truly don't

1036
00:48:56,880 --> 00:49:00,080
Speaker 7: understand unless you're like in that situation.

1037
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 4: And okay, do you understand, but read up on it.

1038
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 3: Please please read up on that.

1039
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 4: Oo.

1040
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:12,359
Speaker 3: That's the end of that story. Hey, it's Angie, your

1041
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:14,760
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1042
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1046
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1049
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1050
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:44,080
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1051
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1052
00:49:45,080 --> 00:49:48,320
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1053
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:51,239
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1054
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1058
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1059
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Speaker 10: To give good advice goofy. But we don't have all

1060
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 10: the answers because we're just goof balls. So if you

1061
00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 10: have answers we don't have, or don't know, or you

1062
00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:10,279
Speaker 10: just want to tell us how wrong we are, just

1063
00:50:10,400 --> 00:50:13,320
Speaker 10: let us know in the comments and op says. After

1064
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:15,720
Speaker 10: a few minutes, there was a part where the family

1065
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 10: was eating Christmas dinner. My girlfriend made a nasty little

1066
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 10: comment which was something like, look at that crap dinner.

1067
00:50:23,840 --> 00:50:26,840
Speaker 10: I didn't really react to her comment. The mother in

1068
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:29,279
Speaker 10: the movie brought the turkey, and my girlfriend said, m

1069
00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 10: that looks like cow placenta. That's when I sat up

1070
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 10: at cow placenta. I sat up and said, are you serious?

1071
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:39,800
Speaker 10: I told you that not everyone has the luxury of

1072
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 10: a fancy Christmas dinner.

1073
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,280
Speaker 6: I told her to look at the big picture.

1074
00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:46,840
Speaker 10: At least they have their significant others. It's not about

1075
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:49,960
Speaker 10: just the presence after all. She then said something along

1076
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 10: the lines of yeah, that money you spent on food

1077
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 10: to donate to charities on Christmas Day could have been

1078
00:50:55,560 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 10: used to fund to me a better gift. That was

1079
00:50:57,480 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 10: when I lost my crap and just went home. Haven't

1080
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 10: talked to her since I'm contemplating whether to stay with

1081
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 10: her anymore.

1082
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 6: Any advice is appreciated.

1083
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 10: We've got some comments, as Revia nineteen says, how long

1084
00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:14,200
Speaker 10: have you been dating? Either way, you guys have some

1085
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 10: obviously different viewpoints. Continuing, we'll only make things more tense,

1086
00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 10: OPI says, we have been dating for six months. Heel

1087
00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:27,919
Speaker 10: Steamboat says with a capital C. You next Tuesday. Good

1088
00:51:27,920 --> 00:51:32,960
Speaker 10: thing you found out before she turned into fiance. Then again,

1089
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,760
Speaker 10: how did this side not show up until this very moment?

1090
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 10: Opie says she was just always quiet until early February,

1091
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 10: and that's when she started speaking lots. It wasn't always

1092
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 10: rude and silly. It was rather informative and overall a

1093
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 10: great person to talk to. Jared Tan says, it depends, though,

1094
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 10: what did you get it for Christmas? Opi says for Christmas,

1095
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:55,880
Speaker 10: I got her a fifty five inch TV for her house,

1096
00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 10: as we don't live in the same house. A deleted

1097
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 10: user said the entire point of dating is to get

1098
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:04,239
Speaker 10: to know each other in all sorts of situations to

1099
00:52:04,280 --> 00:52:06,239
Speaker 10: see if you're compatible for the long haul.

1100
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 6: It seems you've collected some important.

1101
00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:12,239
Speaker 10: Data in that regard, and there is an update. Did

1102
00:52:12,280 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 10: we break up?

1103
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:16,240
Speaker 6: Press one in the chat? If they broke up, press

1104
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:20,480
Speaker 6: two in the chat? You think magic is evil? We

1105
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:23,440
Speaker 6: do have an update. I assume you're breaking up Riley.

1106
00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:27,000
Speaker 2: With this girl. Yeah, Oh, is that why I'm talking?

1107
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:27,760
Speaker 6: Huh?

1108
00:52:27,920 --> 00:52:29,040
Speaker 2: Is it because I was on my phone?

1109
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,840
Speaker 6: No, oh no, no, oh no. I was just asking

1110
00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 6: if you break up with you.

1111
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:35,360
Speaker 10: Yeah, we're working out lady because she's evil and doesn't

1112
00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 10: believe in the spirit of Christmas unless.

1113
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:38,919
Speaker 2: She's a ten.

1114
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 5: And she just said it as a joke, and I

1115
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 5: didn't understand her joke. Then we're gonna get past that, okay,

1116
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 5: but it didn't sound like a joke.

1117
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:46,040
Speaker 6: Update.

1118
00:52:46,680 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 10: So after I went home yesterday, I cooled down a

1119
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:50,719
Speaker 10: bit and finally collected my.

1120
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:53,319
Speaker 6: Guts to call her. I called her.

1121
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:56,839
Speaker 10: She accepted my call and said what I told her,

1122
00:52:57,160 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 10: I'm sorry for overreact, and she dropped off the call.

1123
00:53:01,680 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 10: I texted her, I need the copy of my house

1124
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 10: keys back.

1125
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:08,239
Speaker 6: I'm breaking up with you. She didn't respond.

1126
00:53:09,000 --> 00:53:11,360
Speaker 10: I got into my car, went to her place, knocked

1127
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:14,680
Speaker 10: at least ten times before storming off. I looked in

1128
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 10: the parking lot and her car wasn't there, so I

1129
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 10: texted her where are you? Ten minutes pass, no response.

1130
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:25,879
Speaker 10: I drove back home and noticed her car parked at

1131
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 10: my house. I carelessly parked my car, ran inside the house,

1132
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 10: and there I saw her collecting all my crap, my laptop,

1133
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 10: my iPad, my valuables. And that's when I told her,

1134
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 10: what are you doing? She told me, I'm taking back

1135
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:43,439
Speaker 10: what's mine. That's when I tried to grab the things

1136
00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 10: off her arms before she screamed get off of me.

1137
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:50,719
Speaker 10: She started using her feet to pummel me and ran

1138
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 10: out of the house. I told her to give my

1139
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:55,439
Speaker 10: crap back or I'd call the cops. She didn't react

1140
00:53:55,480 --> 00:53:57,879
Speaker 10: to the warning, so I whipped out my phone and

1141
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:01,080
Speaker 10: dialed the PO PO. She drove off with my laptop,

1142
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:02,600
Speaker 10: my work phone, and my iPad.

1143
00:54:03,160 --> 00:54:08,759
Speaker 6: Cops arrived. Yeah. No, that's so she's crazy and all

1144
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 6: of those things can be tracked.

1145
00:54:10,480 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 2: Oh yes, so, thank you, Steve Jobs.

1146
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 10: The cops arrived roughly twenty minutes later, and I told

1147
00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:19,399
Speaker 10: them what happened and the location of her house. They

1148
00:54:19,440 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 10: sent off a cop to her house to collect the electronics.

1149
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:24,439
Speaker 10: The cops started asking me questions like.

1150
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 6: Is this the first time? Do we get our stuff

1151
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 6: back here?

1152
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:28,359
Speaker 4: Uh?

1153
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:30,239
Speaker 5: Type one if you think so, Type two if you don't.

1154
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 5: I'm typing one because I think so.

1155
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:35,720
Speaker 6: Yeah, I hope. So what what?

1156
00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:36,440
Speaker 4: What like?

1157
00:54:37,280 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 2: Switch flipped for with this woman?

1158
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:41,320
Speaker 6: That text message?

1159
00:54:41,719 --> 00:54:47,759
Speaker 2: But before this, okay, quiet shy Carly, She's Carly No?

1160
00:54:48,160 --> 00:54:51,359
Speaker 2: And then she went crazy. Huh Carly shy?

1161
00:54:51,560 --> 00:54:55,400
Speaker 6: No, No, Carly is not quiet and shy.

1162
00:54:55,760 --> 00:54:57,800
Speaker 2: I I feel like she's been quiet and shot this

1163
00:54:57,840 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 2: whole time.

1164
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 4: I was very much so as a kid, if that

1165
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:02,680
Speaker 4: helps your case.

1166
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:03,960
Speaker 6: Just like Keon.

1167
00:55:04,760 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, Keon didn't talk until he was like what ten.

1168
00:55:08,920 --> 00:55:12,480
Speaker 4: I don't think I looked anyone talked to he was sixteen.

1169
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:15,040
Speaker 6: Well, let's finish this story.

1170
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:18,880
Speaker 10: Forty minutes later, I got my stop back.

1171
00:55:18,960 --> 00:55:21,480
Speaker 6: That's quick, that is that's a quick turn around. That's

1172
00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:22,080
Speaker 6: a good point.

1173
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 10: She had been put into a cell for eight hours

1174
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 10: and she will have to.

1175
00:55:25,960 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 6: Attend court the following week.

1176
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:31,800
Speaker 10: Now I'm contemplating why life always gives me the crap

1177
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:34,399
Speaker 10: end of the stick. And there is an edit here

1178
00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 10: for everyone questioning how she got arrested on the same

1179
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 10: day she let the cops in and confessed what she

1180
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:40,120
Speaker 10: had done.

1181
00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 6: Well, she was repentant in the spirit of Christmas and magic,

1182
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:46,239
Speaker 6: oh and Jesus.

1183
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:49,920
Speaker 5: So like she's kind of crazy, but also telsa cops,

1184
00:55:49,920 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 5: what's going on?

1185
00:55:51,320 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 6: Yeah?

1186
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:54,359
Speaker 10: I mean, what does she think that now she can

1187
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:56,640
Speaker 10: leverage her being in jail to make you feel guilty

1188
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:58,320
Speaker 10: and get back together with you somehow?

1189
00:55:58,480 --> 00:55:59,759
Speaker 6: Like, I don't know that.

1190
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:03,719
Speaker 10: That's pretty insane if she thinks that, But yeah, I

1191
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:06,640
Speaker 10: don't know. It's also really insane to be like, ugh,

1192
00:56:07,040 --> 00:56:09,360
Speaker 10: I can't believe you donated food on Christmas when you

1193
00:56:09,360 --> 00:56:10,920
Speaker 10: could have bought me a bigger TV.

1194
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:11,839
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1195
00:56:11,960 --> 00:56:15,919
Speaker 10: True, Like if you get flip flops, sure, that's one thing.

1196
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 10: You got flip flops for Christmas. Maybe I'm like, well,

1197
00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:21,080
Speaker 10: instead of spending all that turkey money, maybe you could

1198
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:24,799
Speaker 10: have got me something some nice. Even then it's like, no,

1199
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:27,960
Speaker 10: that was turkey money for the children, the children of

1200
00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:31,759
Speaker 10: the world. Anyway, kuckiye mccucker custon the third, she has

1201
00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 10: been put into his cell for eight hours and she

1202
00:56:34,560 --> 00:56:36,880
Speaker 10: will have to attend court the following week for what

1203
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 10: the harmful act or the theft or both, Opie says.

1204
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 10: Theft Rich sat for twenty one says, Okay, so your

1205
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:48,440
Speaker 10: first post seemed like a rational person who might be

1206
00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 10: prone to saying stupid stuff. I mean, you start off

1207
00:56:51,160 --> 00:56:54,439
Speaker 10: by calling her your role model. Your second post makes

1208
00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 10: it sound like she's a psychopath. My only question, how

1209
00:56:58,360 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 10: did she not exhibit this bayhavior in the last six months?

1210
00:57:02,560 --> 00:57:05,759
Speaker 10: Opie says she was quiet and all until like mid

1211
00:57:05,840 --> 00:57:07,680
Speaker 10: February where she started acting up.

1212
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:09,279
Speaker 6: I mean, what is that? Is that?

1213
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:10,440
Speaker 2: Give us more detail?

1214
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:12,960
Speaker 6: What is this is that? Like? Is that like a

1215
00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:16,439
Speaker 6: is that bipolar? Is that what bipolar does?

1216
00:57:16,880 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 2: We should probably ask someone that she got she was

1217
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:20,919
Speaker 2: She went into like a man.

1218
00:57:21,040 --> 00:57:24,600
Speaker 6: She was swinging more manic instead of being bass.

1219
00:57:24,880 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 10: I don't know, yeah, cause it's not like a switch

1220
00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:28,360
Speaker 10: that flips on and off every day.

1221
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:30,080
Speaker 6: That's what a lot of people think bipolar is. Like

1222
00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 6: one second you're like ha ha, and then the.

1223
00:57:32,160 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 10: Next second you're like ah, But it's really it's it's

1224
00:57:35,240 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 10: like it's like longer waves of those Yeah.

1225
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:41,040
Speaker 6: We'ren't even those emotions.

1226
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:45,520
Speaker 5: We're not too sure here, Bombay Blue says a jeebus chos.

1227
00:57:45,680 --> 00:57:48,920
Speaker 10: Dude, what do you think would possibly cause a girlfriend

1228
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:50,360
Speaker 10: to freak out in mid February?

1229
00:57:51,960 --> 00:57:52,520
Speaker 3: That's point.

1230
00:57:53,040 --> 00:57:55,840
Speaker 10: Did this guy totally mess up Valentine's Day? And that's

1231
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 10: when she started talking?

1232
00:57:57,160 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 5: You think, so can you fumble.

1233
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:02,720
Speaker 2: Valentine's Day that bad?

1234
00:58:02,800 --> 00:58:05,360
Speaker 10: You fumble Valentine's Day so hard? Your entire your girlfriend's

1235
00:58:05,480 --> 00:58:07,200
Speaker 10: entire personality changes.

1236
00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 5: Goodness and guys on February twelfth, come to more Valentine's

1237
00:58:09,320 --> 00:58:09,960
Speaker 5: Day stream.

1238
00:58:10,000 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 10: On an unrelated note, how was your Valentine's Day with her?

1239
00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:17,200
Speaker 10: Opie says, Valentine's Day was pretty good. Actually, we went

1240
00:58:17,240 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 10: to a bunch of museums of her choice. Visitor family

1241
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:23,920
Speaker 10: dot dot dot s TRPs says, I don't fully get it.

1242
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 10: Is she just prone to harmful behavior? Or did she

1243
00:58:26,000 --> 00:58:27,880
Speaker 10: give you those things so she felt she had the

1244
00:58:27,960 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 10: right to take them back? Opie says, no, I bought

1245
00:58:30,680 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 10: those electronics with my own money way before I ever

1246
00:58:33,720 --> 00:58:34,160
Speaker 10: met her.

1247
00:58:34,720 --> 00:58:36,920
Speaker 6: I don't know what was in her mind when she

1248
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:37,439
Speaker 6: took them.

1249
00:58:37,800 --> 00:58:40,360
Speaker 10: I haven't spoken to her properly since the TV incident,

1250
00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:41,880
Speaker 10: and that is the end of that story.

1251
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 7: My boyfriend refused to eat the foods my mother cooked

1252
00:58:45,760 --> 00:58:48,120
Speaker 7: because it's disgusting for him.

1253
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:51,200
Speaker 6: Nothing like mama's home cook plate a slap.

1254
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 7: I come from a multinational family. My mother is a

1255
00:58:54,800 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 7: Vulga Tatar, a national minority of Russia, and a Russian.

1256
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 7: My father, who passed away years ago, he's Ukrainian and Belarusian.

1257
00:59:03,160 --> 00:59:05,720
Speaker 7: My parents lived in both Russia and Ukraine, and in

1258
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:08,640
Speaker 7: twenty fifteen, my whole family moved to my mom's relatives

1259
00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 7: in Turkey. By the way, this comes from Throwaway or

1260
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:14,960
Speaker 7: Ostriche And if you want to submit your own stories,

1261
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:16,880
Speaker 7: go to the r slash Okay story Time, supread it

1262
00:59:16,880 --> 00:59:20,080
Speaker 7: and I'm Angie, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, and we're here

1263
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:22,200
Speaker 7: to give good advice Goofily. But we don't have all

1264
00:59:22,240 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 7: the answers. We just know what we would do in

1265
00:59:23,720 --> 00:59:25,960
Speaker 7: these situations. So let us know what you do in

1266
00:59:26,080 --> 00:59:30,920
Speaker 7: the commons, and Opie says. In my family, all national

1267
00:59:30,920 --> 00:59:33,040
Speaker 7: dishes were always cooked and served on the table.

1268
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 3: My boyfriend is American.

1269
00:59:34,880 --> 00:59:37,000
Speaker 7: A week ago we flew with him to my mother

1270
00:59:37,080 --> 00:59:40,320
Speaker 7: in Turkey and she made national dishes. There were dishes

1271
00:59:40,360 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 7: of Tatar, Russian, and Belarusian and Ukrainian cuisine, as well

1272
00:59:45,160 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 7: as several dishes of Turkish cuisine. During dinner, my boyfriend

1273
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:52,240
Speaker 7: looked annoyed. He barely touched the dishes. My mom asked

1274
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:53,280
Speaker 7: him if he liked the food.

1275
00:59:53,560 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 3: He replied, rather irritably that he was not hungry. After

1276
00:59:57,760 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 3: dinner was over and we moved into my room, asked

1277
01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:00,920
Speaker 3: what was wrong.

1278
01:00:01,120 --> 01:00:05,040
Speaker 7: My boyfriend rudely said that in the civilized world, eating

1279
01:00:05,080 --> 01:00:09,640
Speaker 7: horse meat is as wild as eating human flesh. Horse

1280
01:00:09,640 --> 01:00:13,520
Speaker 7: meat sausage is a national dish of the Tatars. He

1281
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:17,600
Speaker 7: also said that a khroshka, the dish that is traditionally

1282
01:00:17,600 --> 01:00:20,000
Speaker 7: eaten in Eastern Europe in the summer, but my mom

1283
01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:22,560
Speaker 7: cooked it now so my boyfriend could try it looks

1284
01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 7: and smells gross. He ridiculed all the other dishes, saying

1285
01:00:26,560 --> 01:00:29,520
Speaker 7: that they all either consist of potatoes with meat and

1286
01:00:29,680 --> 01:00:33,840
Speaker 7: dough alone, or are too Soviet and were invented in

1287
01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 7: the USSR during a food shortage, so they are just

1288
01:00:36,920 --> 01:00:38,040
Speaker 7: incongruous dirt.

1289
01:00:38,720 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 3: All Turkish sweets were too sweet for him.

1290
01:00:42,160 --> 01:00:44,280
Speaker 7: I asked him why he was so mean, and he

1291
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:46,480
Speaker 7: said that it would be decent if my mom cooked

1292
01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:49,320
Speaker 7: some of his usual American dishes, and that he was

1293
01:00:49,440 --> 01:00:50,480
Speaker 7: hungry because of me.

1294
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:52,960
Speaker 3: I hope, he says, am I the a hole.

1295
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:56,600
Speaker 7: No, my mom just wanted him to get to know

1296
01:00:56,680 --> 01:00:58,880
Speaker 7: the culture of our family. There was nothing wrong with

1297
01:00:58,960 --> 01:01:01,160
Speaker 7: the dishes she cooked. If he didn't want to eat

1298
01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:06,000
Speaker 7: horse meat or groschka, he could eat traditional Tatar triangular

1299
01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:09,200
Speaker 7: pies with potatoes and duck meat. There was also a

1300
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:13,000
Speaker 7: whole dried goose on the table. It's very tasty, and

1301
01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:16,080
Speaker 7: sweets with honey, should I really tell my mom to

1302
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:19,400
Speaker 7: cook American dishes? And we do have some comments here.

1303
01:01:19,720 --> 01:01:22,600
Speaker 7: Jenny from the block says, not the a hole.

1304
01:01:22,720 --> 01:01:24,120
Speaker 3: Get this guy out of your house.

1305
01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:28,440
Speaker 7: He is rude, entitled, borish, crass, and an embarrassment to

1306
01:01:28,480 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 7: the United States. He also does not care about you.

1307
01:01:32,040 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 7: If he did, he would gratefully try every dish and

1308
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 7: be excited to learn about your culture. He is also

1309
01:01:37,000 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 7: not very bright, as you can't even get the ingredients

1310
01:01:39,920 --> 01:01:42,880
Speaker 7: you need to make traditional American food in your location.

1311
01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:46,240
Speaker 7: Do not waste your life with this person. And it's

1312
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Speaker 7: lots of people are asking what is traditional American food?

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Speaker 7: I love the curiosity. Here are some things that I

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01:01:52,120 --> 01:01:55,040
Speaker 7: am talking about. The comment ter made a whole list

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Speaker 7: of American cuisine too lung to list, but it included

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01:01:57,720 --> 01:01:59,360
Speaker 7: hot dogs, hamburgers, brobacutca.

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Speaker 4: Yep.

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01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:01,280
Speaker 10: Yeah.

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01:02:01,400 --> 01:02:04,600
Speaker 6: Also, jazz was invented in America, was invented in New Orleans.

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Speaker 3: I didn't know that.

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01:02:05,920 --> 01:02:07,800
Speaker 10: I mean the concept of Okay, never mind, I'm not

1322
01:02:07,840 --> 01:02:08,960
Speaker 10: gonna defend jazz.

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01:02:09,640 --> 01:02:12,720
Speaker 6: We only have so few things that we are ours.

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Speaker 6: Let us have that.

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Speaker 12: Well, if you look at the reality of like the world,

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Speaker 12: the United States of America is a pretty new country. Yeah,

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Speaker 12: compared to exactly static.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, And look, people were playing improvised music for a

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01:02:25,760 --> 01:02:28,200
Speaker 10: long time, Okay, but improvised music as a genre and

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01:02:28,240 --> 01:02:31,760
Speaker 10: an experience was invanted in New Orleans, and it's that's jazz.

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Speaker 7: I'm gonna trust you on that. I'm not sure sure,

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01:02:35,120 --> 01:02:36,080
Speaker 7: but I'm gonna trust you.

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Speaker 3: Okay. It sounds about right.

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Speaker 7: Simple Code thirty two twenty nine says, this guy joined

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01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 7: your family dinner, proceeded to insult your mother by not

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01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:46,760
Speaker 7: touching what she cooked, then insulted your whole food and

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01:02:47,280 --> 01:02:51,240
Speaker 7: heritage to you, then suggested that American dishes should.

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01:02:51,040 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 3: Have been made, and then blamed you for his hunger.

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01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:58,840
Speaker 7: He doesn't seem to have much redeeming qualities, right, Opie.

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Speaker 7: I rarely tell someone to break up, but this guy

1341
01:03:01,360 --> 01:03:04,200
Speaker 7: just reeks with entitlement and racism. I believe you can

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01:03:04,200 --> 01:03:06,880
Speaker 7: find a better guy who would treat you and your

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Speaker 7: family better than this one. Edit forgot to vote, but

1344
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:13,240
Speaker 7: not the ahole Just the fancy says, Yeah, this guy's rough.

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01:03:13,480 --> 01:03:15,640
Speaker 7: My in laws are Ukrainian and Russian and they make

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01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:19,960
Speaker 7: plenty of Eastern European dishes. I'm American and do I

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01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 7: love all of those dishes? No, but I try them.

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01:03:23,080 --> 01:03:25,520
Speaker 3: I am polite, and in trying some of them, I've

1349
01:03:25,560 --> 01:03:27,800
Speaker 3: found that I quite like some of them.

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01:03:28,240 --> 01:03:31,280
Speaker 7: Also, it's insanely unreasonable to fly to a far away

1351
01:03:31,320 --> 01:03:35,360
Speaker 7: country to expect American food. This guy isn't mature enough

1352
01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:37,560
Speaker 7: to be dating, in my opinion, not the a whole.

1353
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:40,440
Speaker 3: Another commentary says, break up with them.

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01:03:41,080 --> 01:03:43,800
Speaker 7: My boyfriend, a very southern white man, eats all of

1355
01:03:43,840 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 7: the multinational foods my family cooks after being a military

1356
01:03:47,160 --> 01:03:49,560
Speaker 7: brat my whole life and loving the different cuisines they

1357
01:03:49,560 --> 01:03:52,640
Speaker 7: got to enjoy. My boyfriend tried hotpot for my birthday

1358
01:03:52,680 --> 01:03:55,240
Speaker 7: and said it wasn't his favorite, but still ate it.

1359
01:03:55,680 --> 01:03:58,200
Speaker 7: He enjoys the food, but hates working for his food.

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01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:00,640
Speaker 7: I'm Mexican from my dad's side, and I love making

1361
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:03,280
Speaker 7: traditional Mexican food every now and then, and my boyfriend,

1362
01:04:03,320 --> 01:04:06,080
Speaker 7: along with his parents love it and always go back

1363
01:04:06,120 --> 01:04:09,400
Speaker 7: for seconds or thirds. Opie, never settle for anyone who

1364
01:04:09,440 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 7: was so incredibly rude and disrespectful to your culture. And

1365
01:04:13,160 --> 01:04:15,880
Speaker 7: we do have an edit from Opie, But yeah, I

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01:04:15,920 --> 01:04:17,080
Speaker 7: agree with all those comments.

1367
01:04:17,120 --> 01:04:19,920
Speaker 10: Yeah I do too. Edits on the same day. I

1368
01:04:19,920 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 10: wonder if this instantaneous breakup. I mean, I can't imagine

1369
01:04:25,720 --> 01:04:27,640
Speaker 10: even needing to go to the internet to be like,

1370
01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:31,040
Speaker 10: but what do I do about this guy who insulted

1371
01:04:31,120 --> 01:04:34,960
Speaker 10: not only my entire family but also just their whole culture?

1372
01:04:35,320 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, how are like, how would you expect to continue

1373
01:04:39,080 --> 01:04:39,880
Speaker 7: that relationship?

1374
01:04:40,080 --> 01:04:40,320
Speaker 4: Yeah?

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01:04:40,440 --> 01:04:43,200
Speaker 6: I don't. I don't think there's any life left.

1376
01:04:43,600 --> 01:04:45,000
Speaker 3: I don't think so that.

1377
01:04:45,800 --> 01:04:49,600
Speaker 10: Yeah, horse meat joke. Just imagine whatever it would be.

1378
01:04:51,000 --> 01:04:53,160
Speaker 10: Insert here yep, boom.

1379
01:04:53,240 --> 01:04:55,880
Speaker 7: So we have an update from the same day on

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01:04:56,000 --> 01:04:59,360
Speaker 7: the same post. Wow, I'm a little confused by how

1381
01:04:59,360 --> 01:05:02,240
Speaker 7: many comments there are. Unfortunately I can't read them all.

1382
01:05:02,480 --> 01:05:05,280
Speaker 7: I thought about it and decided, and the commentars helps

1383
01:05:05,320 --> 01:05:06,480
Speaker 7: me in my decision.

1384
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:07,600
Speaker 3: That I should dump him.

1385
01:05:07,960 --> 01:05:13,600
Speaker 7: Yeah, not because he didn't want to try the dishes

1386
01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:15,680
Speaker 7: that my mother had prepared for those who asked it.

1387
01:05:15,760 --> 01:05:19,120
Speaker 7: There were also neutral dishes at the dinner, like potatoes, chicken,

1388
01:05:19,160 --> 01:05:22,920
Speaker 7: traditional tutar, chicken soup, et cetera. There's so much amazing

1389
01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:23,920
Speaker 7: food at this dinner.

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01:05:24,200 --> 01:05:27,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, they had, they had pulled out all the stops.

1391
01:05:27,440 --> 01:05:30,800
Speaker 7: Yeah, but because he was extremely rude to my mom

1392
01:05:30,840 --> 01:05:33,640
Speaker 7: and behaved rudely at dinner. There is a little bit

1393
01:05:33,640 --> 01:05:36,000
Speaker 7: more to this story. But yes, I think that's a

1394
01:05:36,000 --> 01:05:36,600
Speaker 7: great idea.

1395
01:05:36,640 --> 01:05:39,400
Speaker 3: Ohp dump him for being rude to your family.

1396
01:05:39,880 --> 01:05:40,200
Speaker 2: Family.

1397
01:05:40,320 --> 01:05:43,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, there's not really much of an option left after that.

1398
01:05:43,440 --> 01:05:46,280
Speaker 12: Yeah, I want American food. Well, the only way you

1399
01:05:46,280 --> 01:05:48,000
Speaker 12: can do that is go back.

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01:05:48,320 --> 01:05:50,400
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, but how are you.

1401
01:05:50,360 --> 01:05:53,800
Speaker 7: Expected to like eventually marry into this family when you

1402
01:05:54,560 --> 01:05:57,640
Speaker 7: like explicitly hate their culture apparently, like.

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01:05:58,360 --> 01:06:01,440
Speaker 10: What Yeah, she's like, yeah, and we're never going back,

1404
01:06:01,720 --> 01:06:04,800
Speaker 10: and don't let them near me with their disgusting Soviet

1405
01:06:04,840 --> 01:06:05,680
Speaker 10: era recipes.

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01:06:06,000 --> 01:06:07,120
Speaker 6: Yeah. Very crazy.

1407
01:06:07,280 --> 01:06:10,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, crazy. There is a little bit more to the story.

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01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 7: My mom was upset with his behavior, although she didn't

1409
01:06:13,520 --> 01:06:15,439
Speaker 7: show it to him, but I know she was sad

1410
01:06:15,440 --> 01:06:15,960
Speaker 7: and offended.

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01:06:16,040 --> 01:06:18,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, because you know what, because she's got good manners.

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01:06:18,240 --> 01:06:21,040
Speaker 10: Yeah, she better in all this work, better manners than

1413
01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:21,760
Speaker 10: he deserved.

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01:06:21,960 --> 01:06:22,400
Speaker 4: Hm hmm.

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01:06:22,960 --> 01:06:24,960
Speaker 3: He could be rude with me or other people in

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01:06:25,000 --> 01:06:28,160
Speaker 3: the same way before, but then he always apologized, and

1417
01:06:28,400 --> 01:06:30,840
Speaker 3: I wanted to believe that he really improved for the better,

1418
01:06:31,360 --> 01:06:33,720
Speaker 3: But now I think it didn't make sense. I wish

1419
01:06:33,800 --> 01:06:36,200
Speaker 3: I could respond to every commenter here, thank you for

1420
01:06:36,280 --> 01:06:39,600
Speaker 3: your support, And there are some more comments. This was

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01:06:39,840 --> 01:06:43,160
Speaker 3: never about the food. The boyfriend is just an untitled

1422
01:06:43,200 --> 01:06:43,720
Speaker 3: a hole.

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01:06:43,880 --> 01:06:46,840
Speaker 7: If someone hosts you in their own country, of course

1424
01:06:46,880 --> 01:06:49,280
Speaker 7: they're going to serve their local cuisine. That shouldn't be

1425
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:52,080
Speaker 7: a surprise to anyone with common sense. And if you

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01:06:52,080 --> 01:06:55,000
Speaker 7: don't like it, fine, but there's no excuse.

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01:06:54,560 --> 01:06:55,640
Speaker 3: To be rude about it.

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01:06:56,120 --> 01:06:58,600
Speaker 7: Comment too says I never understood why someone would date

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01:06:58,640 --> 01:07:01,320
Speaker 7: a person from another culture and don't take their time

1430
01:07:01,640 --> 01:07:05,040
Speaker 7: to understand their partner's culture or tradition. Do they have

1431
01:07:05,120 --> 01:07:09,840
Speaker 7: some sort of weird superiority complex My culture food is normal,

1432
01:07:09,920 --> 01:07:13,080
Speaker 7: but not yours because it's not my culture. Do they

1433
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:17,800
Speaker 7: never question this mindset? Coming three says I'd do terrible things.

1434
01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:20,200
Speaker 3: To try those dishes. Dude is a loser.

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01:07:20,320 --> 01:07:22,320
Speaker 6: I just want one strip of drad goose.

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01:07:22,360 --> 01:07:25,360
Speaker 10: Please, please, please give me a strip of drad goose

1437
01:07:25,400 --> 01:07:26,080
Speaker 10: for Christmas.

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01:07:26,200 --> 01:07:29,360
Speaker 3: That's crazy. Please And that's the end of this story.

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01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:30,760
Speaker 3: We're going on to the next one.

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01:07:31,800 --> 01:07:35,240
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01:07:35,280 --> 01:07:35,520
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01:07:35,640 --> 01:07:37,800
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01:07:37,880 --> 01:07:39,680
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Speaker 10: My boyfriend will dump me over a tattoo, but I

1445
01:07:43,600 --> 01:07:44,880
Speaker 10: won't change my mind.

1446
01:07:45,040 --> 01:07:47,680
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get a tattoo worthy heckin of nuts.

1447
01:07:47,600 --> 01:07:48,680
Speaker 6: Right on my butt.

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01:07:48,920 --> 01:07:51,760
Speaker 10: I'm twenty female and my boyfriend is twenty three male,

1449
01:07:51,800 --> 01:07:53,480
Speaker 10: and we've been dating for three years.

1450
01:07:54,040 --> 01:07:56,080
Speaker 6: So my favorite band in the entire world.

1451
01:07:56,120 --> 01:07:58,960
Speaker 10: This is a small indie rock band called Alex Sucks.

1452
01:07:59,480 --> 01:08:02,720
Speaker 10: I've been since their first song came out and they've

1453
01:08:02,920 --> 01:08:05,640
Speaker 10: really gotten me through some tough times. Their music is

1454
01:08:05,680 --> 01:08:06,480
Speaker 10: really special to me.

1455
01:08:06,920 --> 01:08:07,400
Speaker 6: By the way.

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01:08:07,440 --> 01:08:10,920
Speaker 10: This comes from user Scumbucket oh five and if you

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01:08:10,960 --> 01:08:12,560
Speaker 10: want to submit your own stories, go to the oar

1458
01:08:12,600 --> 01:08:13,960
Speaker 10: slash Okay Storytime severed it.

1459
01:08:14,240 --> 01:08:19,200
Speaker 6: I'm Dakota, I'm Angie, I'm Keon, and.

1460
01:08:18,280 --> 01:08:19,760
Speaker 10: We're here to give a good advice goofy. But we

1461
01:08:19,760 --> 01:08:21,280
Speaker 10: don't have all the answers. We only know what we

1462
01:08:21,280 --> 01:08:23,360
Speaker 10: would know. We only know what we would do, So

1463
01:08:23,479 --> 01:08:25,479
Speaker 10: let us know what you would do in the comments.

1464
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:28,439
Speaker 10: And Nop says three and a half years ago, right

1465
01:08:28,479 --> 01:08:31,519
Speaker 10: before we started dating, I saw them in concert for

1466
01:08:31,520 --> 01:08:34,760
Speaker 10: the first time and got the lead singer, Alex, to

1467
01:08:34,880 --> 01:08:37,840
Speaker 10: sign my arm so I could get it tattooed. I

1468
01:08:37,880 --> 01:08:40,040
Speaker 10: was seventeen at the time, so it was going to

1469
01:08:40,040 --> 01:08:43,000
Speaker 10: be my eighteenth birthday present to myself, But three years

1470
01:08:43,040 --> 01:08:46,080
Speaker 10: later I still don't have it done because of money problems.

1471
01:08:46,560 --> 01:08:48,679
Speaker 10: I talked to my mom and she's offered to pay

1472
01:08:48,680 --> 01:08:51,519
Speaker 10: for my first tattoo for Christmas, something small, around two

1473
01:08:51,600 --> 01:08:54,200
Speaker 10: hundred and fifty dollars. So I immediately thought of this

1474
01:08:54,280 --> 01:08:58,040
Speaker 10: signature tattoo. I got really excited and called my boyfriend,

1475
01:08:58,200 --> 01:09:02,000
Speaker 10: who immediately shut it down. He said he'd be beyond

1476
01:09:02,120 --> 01:09:04,519
Speaker 10: pissed if I got it done. I asked if he'd

1477
01:09:04,520 --> 01:09:06,639
Speaker 10: break up with me, and he went silent for a bit,

1478
01:09:06,680 --> 01:09:09,679
Speaker 10: which kind of says it all. I got upset and said, fine,

1479
01:09:09,760 --> 01:09:12,080
Speaker 10: be that way, and hung up. I can't believe this

1480
01:09:12,120 --> 01:09:14,639
Speaker 10: guy's really pulling the what you're gonna.

1481
01:09:14,439 --> 01:09:18,080
Speaker 13: Get another man's name tattooed on you? Well, why don't

1482
01:09:18,080 --> 01:09:19,960
Speaker 13: you get my name tattooed on your head?

1483
01:09:20,800 --> 01:09:21,000
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1484
01:09:21,040 --> 01:09:25,360
Speaker 3: He's probably thinking that this is just wild. You break

1485
01:09:25,439 --> 01:09:29,479
Speaker 3: up over a tattoo, girl, Get your priorities straight.

1486
01:09:30,160 --> 01:09:31,599
Speaker 6: Yeah, come on, now.

1487
01:09:32,040 --> 01:09:35,040
Speaker 10: I understand where he's coming from with it being another

1488
01:09:35,120 --> 01:09:37,680
Speaker 10: man's name on me forever, but I don't see it

1489
01:09:37,720 --> 01:09:40,559
Speaker 10: that way. It barely looks like a name, and it's

1490
01:09:40,640 --> 01:09:43,520
Speaker 10: not about it being his name, but just a representation

1491
01:09:43,760 --> 01:09:45,880
Speaker 10: of their band and something so special to me.

1492
01:09:46,400 --> 01:09:48,040
Speaker 6: I wouldn't get it on my arm either.

1493
01:09:48,200 --> 01:09:50,559
Speaker 10: It would be on my thigh above my knee, so

1494
01:09:50,640 --> 01:09:53,439
Speaker 10: it would only be seen during the summertime. Anyway, am

1495
01:09:53,439 --> 01:09:56,840
Speaker 10: I overreacting? Is this something that anyone would be upset about?

1496
01:09:57,280 --> 01:10:00,479
Speaker 10: I included a picture of the signature. Come At one

1497
01:10:00,479 --> 01:10:03,280
Speaker 10: says it not overreacting. You showed him something you were

1498
01:10:03,280 --> 01:10:06,799
Speaker 10: passionate and excited about, and he responded with hostility and anger.

1499
01:10:07,320 --> 01:10:10,680
Speaker 6: He's jealous and unnecessarily insecure. Take it from me.

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01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:13,160
Speaker 10: Life is too short to spend time and energy on

1501
01:10:13,240 --> 01:10:16,519
Speaker 10: people that dim your light. And him reacting in anger

1502
01:10:16,560 --> 01:10:19,960
Speaker 10: to this is the biggest issue. I'd leave without blinking

1503
01:10:20,000 --> 01:10:22,719
Speaker 10: an eye. Don't stay with people who drain the life

1504
01:10:22,720 --> 01:10:24,840
Speaker 10: and passion out of you. Our stay on earth is

1505
01:10:24,920 --> 01:10:28,320
Speaker 10: far too brief. Hope, he says, thank you. I don't

1506
01:10:28,360 --> 01:10:31,439
Speaker 10: know if this is leave him level, but if he

1507
01:10:31,520 --> 01:10:34,200
Speaker 10: continues with the anger, it might be. Come At two

1508
01:10:34,200 --> 01:10:37,479
Speaker 10: says it absolutely is leave him level. He has showed

1509
01:10:37,520 --> 01:10:40,320
Speaker 10: you his true colors and you deserve better. I don't

1510
01:10:40,400 --> 01:10:43,360
Speaker 10: have any tatts, nor am I the tat type. But

1511
01:10:43,479 --> 01:10:45,280
Speaker 10: if my wife wanted something like this, I'd tell her

1512
01:10:45,360 --> 01:10:47,519
Speaker 10: to go for it. Comment three says it's a tattoo

1513
01:10:47,520 --> 01:10:50,040
Speaker 10: of a band. You aren't getting a tattoo of an

1514
01:10:50,320 --> 01:10:53,880
Speaker 10: X or a male best friend. Boyfriend is way too insecure,

1515
01:10:54,320 --> 01:10:56,280
Speaker 10: And there is a update from three days later.

1516
01:10:56,680 --> 01:10:58,360
Speaker 6: To answer some questions real quick.

1517
01:10:58,560 --> 01:11:00,519
Speaker 10: Yes, he has been aware of my love of this

1518
01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:03,479
Speaker 10: band since we started dating. We've attended two of their

1519
01:11:03,520 --> 01:11:07,519
Speaker 10: concerts together. He also knew about my want of the tattoo,

1520
01:11:07,920 --> 01:11:10,559
Speaker 10: he just never expressed dislike of it until I finally

1521
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:13,120
Speaker 10: had the means to get it. Yes, he has tried

1522
01:11:13,160 --> 01:11:15,360
Speaker 10: to control my appearance in the past, telling me he

1523
01:11:15,360 --> 01:11:17,320
Speaker 10: doesn't like it when I do my makeup, he doesn't

1524
01:11:17,320 --> 01:11:19,280
Speaker 10: want me to dye my hair, not allowing me to

1525
01:11:19,360 --> 01:11:23,840
Speaker 10: wear remotely revealing clothes like crop tops, and threatening to

1526
01:11:23,920 --> 01:11:26,120
Speaker 10: leave me in the past if I get certain piercings

1527
01:11:26,160 --> 01:11:26,439
Speaker 10: I want.

1528
01:11:26,640 --> 01:11:30,920
Speaker 12: Great, this guy sounds like a hoot in a half.

1529
01:11:31,439 --> 01:11:35,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, would they make this guy? I sucked down.

1530
01:11:36,439 --> 01:11:39,080
Speaker 10: I took your Guy's advice and called him and asked

1531
01:11:39,120 --> 01:11:42,080
Speaker 10: him if we could have a civil conversation. I asked him,

1532
01:11:42,120 --> 01:11:45,080
Speaker 10: point blank exactly what his issue is with the tattoo.

1533
01:11:45,479 --> 01:11:47,000
Speaker 10: It's exactly what most of you guessed.

1534
01:11:47,320 --> 01:11:47,639
Speaker 6: He said.

1535
01:11:47,680 --> 01:11:50,679
Speaker 13: It's because it's another man's name, and I'd be branded

1536
01:11:50,720 --> 01:11:52,839
Speaker 13: with his name like he owned me forever.

1537
01:11:53,439 --> 01:11:57,040
Speaker 10: Oh bruh, he is beyond saving.

1538
01:11:57,200 --> 01:11:59,639
Speaker 12: Hey, you should get eachitch to album. Hey, you should

1539
01:11:59,640 --> 01:12:02,879
Speaker 12: get tato dude insecure right on your forehead.

1540
01:12:03,040 --> 01:12:06,479
Speaker 7: Yeah, exactly, because I mean he's trying to own you

1541
01:12:06,600 --> 01:12:10,320
Speaker 7: by controlling what you wear, how you do your makeup,

1542
01:12:10,520 --> 01:12:14,160
Speaker 7: what piercings you get, Like you not getting this tattoo

1543
01:12:14,280 --> 01:12:16,040
Speaker 7: is a sign of him owning you.

1544
01:12:16,439 --> 01:12:19,360
Speaker 6: Exactly. Oh exactly. Let's just put this guy on a

1545
01:12:19,360 --> 01:12:21,320
Speaker 6: little raft and push it out into the ocean.

1546
01:12:21,600 --> 01:12:24,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, during a storm, so.

1547
01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:27,400
Speaker 10: He can catch the fish, right, fish come out during

1548
01:12:27,439 --> 01:12:31,000
Speaker 10: stormy weather. Sure, sure, I'm a fisherman. I tried explaining

1549
01:12:31,040 --> 01:12:34,160
Speaker 10: to him how it is very different from that in

1550
01:12:34,200 --> 01:12:36,439
Speaker 10: my opinion, and I don't see it as his name

1551
01:12:36,439 --> 01:12:38,800
Speaker 10: but a representation of the band as a whole and

1552
01:12:38,840 --> 01:12:41,439
Speaker 10: a tribute to them. He couldn't understand where I was

1553
01:12:41,439 --> 01:12:44,519
Speaker 10: coming from. Then he said another reason was, and I quote,

1554
01:12:45,040 --> 01:12:49,000
Speaker 10: you dressed like a salute at his concerts. Eyah, Hey,

1555
01:12:49,960 --> 01:12:53,759
Speaker 10: just keep digging, dude, keep on digging, dig that hole.

1556
01:12:54,160 --> 01:12:55,439
Speaker 6: You're gonna get down to the mantle.

1557
01:12:55,479 --> 01:12:59,360
Speaker 7: Eventually, he's gonna be a jealous of an indie artist

1558
01:13:00,160 --> 01:13:00,719
Speaker 7: of music.

1559
01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:03,559
Speaker 6: Yes, m mm mm mm mmm.

1560
01:13:04,040 --> 01:13:06,240
Speaker 10: He also accused me of trying to get the lead

1561
01:13:06,240 --> 01:13:08,799
Speaker 10: singer's attention, which made me very upset.

1562
01:13:09,280 --> 01:13:11,959
Speaker 6: I told him, no, the worst I've worn was a mini.

1563
01:13:11,760 --> 01:13:14,479
Speaker 10: Skirt that didn't show my butt and a tube top

1564
01:13:14,560 --> 01:13:17,320
Speaker 10: with a bra underneath so it looked like I had straps,

1565
01:13:17,680 --> 01:13:20,240
Speaker 10: and he was there with me when I wore that.

1566
01:13:20,600 --> 01:13:22,760
Speaker 10: The other two times i've seen the band, once with

1567
01:13:22,880 --> 01:13:25,080
Speaker 10: him and once without, I was wearing baggy jeans and

1568
01:13:25,120 --> 01:13:27,240
Speaker 10: the tank top. I tried explaining, I am in no

1569
01:13:27,320 --> 01:13:30,080
Speaker 10: way trying to get his attention. I dressed like that

1570
01:13:30,120 --> 01:13:32,680
Speaker 10: because I felt good in my body that day and empowered,

1571
01:13:32,680 --> 01:13:34,600
Speaker 10: and I wasn't trying to show off for anyone but

1572
01:13:34,680 --> 01:13:37,599
Speaker 10: myself and him. He didn't want to hear it. He

1573
01:13:37,640 --> 01:13:39,760
Speaker 10: then said it would be different if it wasn't my

1574
01:13:39,880 --> 01:13:40,880
Speaker 10: first tattoo.

1575
01:13:41,080 --> 01:13:41,880
Speaker 12: What does that mean?

1576
01:13:42,360 --> 01:13:43,439
Speaker 3: He's just making stuff.

1577
01:13:43,520 --> 01:13:45,160
Speaker 10: She should get a tattoo on your arm, says my

1578
01:13:45,160 --> 01:13:47,320
Speaker 10: boyfriend made me get this tattoo and then.

1579
01:13:47,240 --> 01:13:49,559
Speaker 3: Get yeah, yeah, exactly.

1580
01:13:50,000 --> 01:13:52,920
Speaker 13: Well, actually, I need you to get my name tattoo first,

1581
01:13:53,320 --> 01:13:55,080
Speaker 13: because then I have first DIBs.

1582
01:13:55,240 --> 01:13:57,480
Speaker 3: She's literally just grasping out straws.

1583
01:13:58,080 --> 01:14:01,040
Speaker 10: He should be grasping it because he should be on

1584
01:14:01,080 --> 01:14:05,120
Speaker 10: that raft out in the ocean. I asked why, and

1585
01:14:05,160 --> 01:14:07,639
Speaker 10: he said it's because at least I had something else

1586
01:14:07,720 --> 01:14:09,320
Speaker 10: and not just a man's name as my.

1587
01:14:09,320 --> 01:14:11,680
Speaker 6: Only branding quote unquote.

1588
01:14:12,120 --> 01:14:14,040
Speaker 10: I asked if he would still break up with me

1589
01:14:14,120 --> 01:14:15,960
Speaker 10: if it was my second or third tattoo, and again

1590
01:14:16,000 --> 01:14:18,800
Speaker 10: he remained silent yes, and wouldn't answer me because he

1591
01:14:18,800 --> 01:14:19,800
Speaker 10: would still break up with You.

1592
01:14:20,000 --> 01:14:22,880
Speaker 3: See, he's a stupid little stinky man.

1593
01:14:23,040 --> 01:14:25,400
Speaker 10: If there's ever been more of a time to break

1594
01:14:25,479 --> 01:14:27,120
Speaker 10: up with a stupid little stinky man.

1595
01:14:27,320 --> 01:14:30,760
Speaker 3: Yep, it's right now. It's right now, stupid little stinky man.

1596
01:14:31,360 --> 01:14:33,639
Speaker 6: Get him out, Get him out of your life.

1597
01:14:34,280 --> 01:14:37,840
Speaker 3: He's still stinky man, stinky little man.

1598
01:14:38,880 --> 01:14:39,160
Speaker 2: Little.

1599
01:14:39,600 --> 01:14:41,640
Speaker 10: I am in another state for Christmas, but when I

1600
01:14:41,640 --> 01:14:43,559
Speaker 10: get home, I'm getting the rest of my crap from

1601
01:14:43,600 --> 01:14:46,160
Speaker 10: his house and leaving. I haven't broken up with him

1602
01:14:46,200 --> 01:14:48,160
Speaker 10: yet because I have a lot of valuable things at

1603
01:14:48,200 --> 01:14:52,200
Speaker 10: his house and unfortunately fear retribution. I'm fed up with

1604
01:14:52,240 --> 01:14:55,240
Speaker 10: his behavior and a lot of you guys's comments really

1605
01:14:55,280 --> 01:14:59,439
Speaker 10: opened my eyes and helped encourage me to GTFO. Three

1606
01:14:59,520 --> 01:15:02,559
Speaker 10: years ain't nothing at my age or any age.

1607
01:15:02,720 --> 01:15:03,040
Speaker 6: Really.

1608
01:15:03,600 --> 01:15:05,240
Speaker 10: It'll hurt for a while, but I know in the

1609
01:15:05,280 --> 01:15:07,240
Speaker 10: long run it's what I have to do to preserve

1610
01:15:07,280 --> 01:15:10,160
Speaker 10: my piece and be happy with my life. Thank you

1611
01:15:10,200 --> 01:15:12,200
Speaker 10: to everyone who took the time to read this and

1612
01:15:12,280 --> 01:15:15,000
Speaker 10: give advice. In my last post, and we have some

1613
01:15:15,080 --> 01:15:19,280
Speaker 10: more comments. Opie needs to dump this guy, Opie replies,

1614
01:15:19,320 --> 01:15:21,479
Speaker 10: thank you. I am ready to be free and move

1615
01:15:21,520 --> 01:15:24,080
Speaker 10: on to the next chapter of my life. Hey, our

1616
01:15:24,120 --> 01:15:27,840
Speaker 10: relationship has been beyond far from perfect, and I am

1617
01:15:27,920 --> 01:15:29,760
Speaker 10: disappointed but not surprised.

1618
01:15:30,080 --> 01:15:34,599
Speaker 6: This is the breaking point. A downvoted commenter says, is

1619
01:15:34,680 --> 01:15:36,800
Speaker 6: getting the tattoo that important?

1620
01:15:37,400 --> 01:15:41,000
Speaker 12: Okay, boyfriend, tell that to the three people who have

1621
01:15:41,080 --> 01:15:42,360
Speaker 12: tattoos here right now.

1622
01:15:42,560 --> 01:15:44,960
Speaker 6: Little one inch man? Very important?

1623
01:15:45,640 --> 01:15:48,599
Speaker 10: Opie says, yes, very much, And if our relationship means

1624
01:15:48,640 --> 01:15:50,839
Speaker 10: so little to him that he'd leave me over a tattoo,

1625
01:15:50,840 --> 01:15:54,120
Speaker 10: then I don't want to be in it anyways. Exactly

1626
01:15:54,280 --> 01:15:57,400
Speaker 10: the same commenter replies, but are you leaving him over

1627
01:15:57,439 --> 01:15:58,559
Speaker 10: the tattoo as well?

1628
01:15:58,880 --> 01:16:01,600
Speaker 3: Different? That's different and very different.

1629
01:16:01,520 --> 01:16:03,080
Speaker 6: Because of what that behavior means.

1630
01:16:03,160 --> 01:16:04,280
Speaker 4: Someone just read the story.

1631
01:16:04,320 --> 01:16:08,840
Speaker 6: Obviously, foolish man, this is just a boyfriend, op. He says.

1632
01:16:08,880 --> 01:16:10,200
Speaker 6: It's a lot more than the tattoo.

1633
01:16:10,320 --> 01:16:12,760
Speaker 10: I'm leaving him because he's continuously showed me that he

1634
01:16:12,800 --> 01:16:15,360
Speaker 10: thinks of me as his object to own and control.

1635
01:16:16,040 --> 01:16:19,200
Speaker 10: He's also cheated on me a few times. And there

1636
01:16:19,280 --> 01:16:21,560
Speaker 10: is no trust left in our relationship.

1637
01:16:22,080 --> 01:16:22,439
Speaker 6: Huh.

1638
01:16:22,560 --> 01:16:26,679
Speaker 10: Of course this course, no way this guy would cheat

1639
01:16:26,720 --> 01:16:27,879
Speaker 10: on you, No way.

1640
01:16:28,360 --> 01:16:32,439
Speaker 3: No wallop. Question were they minors? Because you were? Question

1641
01:16:32,960 --> 01:16:34,360
Speaker 3: seventeen seventeen.

1642
01:16:34,760 --> 01:16:37,599
Speaker 10: I've been trying to work past these things because I

1643
01:16:37,680 --> 01:16:41,000
Speaker 10: love him, but I just can't justify staying with him anymore.

1644
01:16:41,120 --> 01:16:43,400
Speaker 10: A commander says, please don't lose your nerve when you

1645
01:16:43,400 --> 01:16:45,000
Speaker 10: get back, follow through and break up.

1646
01:16:45,400 --> 01:16:45,599
Speaker 6: Op.

1647
01:16:45,640 --> 01:16:48,280
Speaker 10: He says, I won't thank you. I've had enough of

1648
01:16:48,320 --> 01:16:50,639
Speaker 10: his crap. I've been feeling like it might be time

1649
01:16:50,680 --> 01:16:53,120
Speaker 10: to move on lately, and the more I thought about this,

1650
01:16:53,320 --> 01:16:56,240
Speaker 10: it sealed the deal. If our relationship means so little

1651
01:16:56,280 --> 01:16:58,679
Speaker 10: to him, he'd leave over a tattoo, I don't want

1652
01:16:58,680 --> 01:16:59,960
Speaker 10: to be in it any longer.

1653
01:17:00,439 --> 01:17:02,439
Speaker 6: And that is the end of that story.

1654
01:17:02,760 --> 01:17:08,080
Speaker 7: Yay, But we like to hear get away from this

1655
01:17:08,160 --> 01:17:09,880
Speaker 7: crappy little stinky.

1656
01:17:09,479 --> 01:17:14,360
Speaker 10: Peep man, stinky pee man, stinky pee drinking, eating asparagus

1657
01:17:14,360 --> 01:17:14,760
Speaker 10: all day.

1658
01:17:14,960 --> 01:17:20,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, fart enough sky, cabbage is stinky pee asparagus.

1659
01:17:20,560 --> 01:17:22,160
Speaker 6: Cabbage man, what's.

1660
01:17:22,000 --> 01:17:23,200
Speaker 12: Up with you in cabbage today?

1661
01:17:24,720 --> 01:17:26,639
Speaker 3: I've just played off of what happened earlier.

1662
01:17:26,720 --> 01:17:27,360
Speaker 12: No, you're fine.

1663
01:17:27,439 --> 01:17:27,920
Speaker 1: It's him.

1664
01:17:28,160 --> 01:17:29,680
Speaker 12: He's been thinking about.

1665
01:17:29,280 --> 01:17:30,840
Speaker 6: Do you set cabbage once?

1666
01:17:31,720 --> 01:17:34,680
Speaker 12: Twice technically technically four times?

1667
01:17:35,040 --> 01:17:37,840
Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story.