Speaker 1: Brooking Jewels second d D. I've been on a lot
Speaker 1: of first dates where during the entire date I have
Speaker 1: to remind myself what her name is. But the guy
Speaker 1: on the phone for today's second date update went above
Speaker 1: and beyond what he needed to do to make sure
Speaker 1: that he knew his date, maybe even a little too well.
Speaker 1: We'll find out why in just a second, but first
Speaker 1: let's talk to him. His name is Ian Ian. How
Speaker 1: are you. I'm doing quite well, Thank you? How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm not too bad? Thank you for doing the second
Speaker 1: date update today. So I read your email and the
Speaker 1: amount of effort that you put in to this first
Speaker 1: date is very impressive to me. Well, thank you. All right,
Speaker 1: before we get to what happened, let's talk about your
Speaker 1: date first. What's her name? Her name is Ali Ali?
Speaker 1: And where did you meet Ali? We meet at a
Speaker 1: local bar. Um, just at a local bar? Okay, okay?
Speaker 1: How how did you meet her at a local bar? Sorry?
Speaker 1: I probably should have said that as well. Um So, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was putting songs into the jukebox at the at
Speaker 1: the bar, and I had a few credits left over,
Speaker 1: but there were no more songs that I wanted to hear,
Speaker 1: so I asked the nearby pretty girl if she had
Speaker 1: any song requests that I could play for her, and
Speaker 1: then we just kind of struck up a conversation from there.
Speaker 1: Do you actually played her songte Oh, of course, yes,
Speaker 1: no I would. I would have rather been like, that's
Speaker 1: a terrible suggestion, whatever, but hey, what's your name? Love?
Speaker 1: That's your first initial thought in mine is oh, if
Speaker 1: they get married, that will be their first dance song.
Speaker 1: Well probably not. She had to play pour some Sugar
Speaker 1: on me. Oh, that would be an amazing first dance.
Speaker 1: So we exchanged numbers names obviously as well, and uh,
Speaker 1: she said it would be okay if I asked her
Speaker 1: out sometime. So what did you guys actually do when
Speaker 1: you went out on a date. Well, I had put
Speaker 1: together a picnic spread with just a few snacks, and
Speaker 1: I had made a little surprise for her. And I'm
Speaker 1: glad that we've gotten to this part because that's the
Speaker 1: thing that I read in your email that was very
Speaker 1: interesting to me. If this is the surprise you're talking about,
Speaker 1: I feel like he knows what women want. Picnics with
Speaker 1: wine and food and then even a thoughtful gift or
Speaker 1: your time intil youre the surprise, and then we can
Speaker 1: see if you think this is romantic, because honestly, I
Speaker 1: don't know. It could be romantic or it could be
Speaker 1: a little strange. But tell us what you did. I
Speaker 1: actually think it's it's it's very romantic. It's it's certainly
Speaker 1: it's certainly unique. I think it'll stick in her mind.
Speaker 1: So that's good. Okay, it's a very clinical description of
Speaker 1: your surprise. Well, I mean, you know, I know what
Speaker 1: I'm bringing to the table as it were. All right,
Speaker 1: all right, I like that, And so what was the surprise? Well,
Speaker 1: so I went on the computer. I did a lot
Speaker 1: of research, and I put together and printed out a
Speaker 1: rather extensive family tree, a family tree whose family treat
Speaker 1: for her, for for Alice and for Ali way of
Speaker 1: her family. Yes, I'm it's remarkably easy to find. Actually,
Speaker 1: if you can find their Facebook page, if they have
Speaker 1: marked any of their relatives, their mom or a sister
Speaker 1: or anything, it's pretty easy to figure out the whole timeline.
Speaker 1: I went back for Alice, and I went back I
Speaker 1: think it was six or seven generations. Wow, very interesting stuff.
Speaker 1: Did she seem interested in it? Yeah, she seemed very interested.
Speaker 1: In it. Yeah, it seems like she thought it was
Speaker 1: very cool. Are you sure? I mean, a girl you
Speaker 1: met at a bar shows up to a park with
Speaker 1: basically a complete stranger and he has the whole history
Speaker 1: of her entire bloodline like that. That's weird, man. I mean,
Speaker 1: she did seem a little bit taken aback at first,
Speaker 1: but yeah, well, once I started pointing out some of
Speaker 1: the more interesting features of her timeline, she seemed to
Speaker 1: get more into it. She had a pretty famous great
Speaker 1: great think three I think four generations backs were great? Great?
Speaker 1: Did you just it sounds like you just pulled up
Speaker 1: the family tree in front of you. Did you just? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've got it pulled up right now. That's it's just
Speaker 1: on my computer. Oh okay, So who is the great grandfather?
Speaker 1: You didn't get to that point. Oh he was a
Speaker 1: He was a prospector at a goldmine, one of the
Speaker 1: first out in California. Wow, dude, that's pretty cool. Cool, cool, guys,
Speaker 1: there's one cool thing about what this guy did. Interesting. No,
Speaker 1: it's like stalking on a whole nother level stalker. It's
Speaker 1: not as if I'm out in a tree in front
Speaker 1: of her apartment. I mean one of the things we
Speaker 1: talked about when we were at the bar was that
Speaker 1: I'm very into genealogy. I have a subscription to ancestry
Speaker 1: dot com. Um, you know, this is the hobby of mine,
Speaker 1: and she thought it was cool, so I thought I
Speaker 1: would I would make her a gift. I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't know where the stalker is coming in. So
Speaker 1: it's it's not like you did the family tree thing
Speaker 1: completely out of the blue. She knew that this was
Speaker 1: a passion yours. Yes, yes, absolutely, Okay, yeah, no. No.
Speaker 1: If you say your hobby is photography and you show
Speaker 1: up with pictures of her, that's strange. Okay. If you
Speaker 1: would talked to her and said, hey, would you want
Speaker 1: me to research your family and she said yes, that's
Speaker 1: that's a whole different story, Well, then that kind of
Speaker 1: takes away the surprise aspect that yes it does, it
Speaker 1: would be I think it would be at least interesting.
Speaker 1: So did you spend the whole time going over her
Speaker 1: family tree or did you do other things? The tree
Speaker 1: was the largest part of the conversation. It was sitting
Speaker 1: right there, and frankly, I spent a lot of time
Speaker 1: on it and new learned a lot of things about
Speaker 1: her history that I wanted to share with her. You
Speaker 1: took so many chances on that, like she could have
Speaker 1: a family that she hates or an uncle that's in prison,
Speaker 1: for all you know. I'm actually ninety nine point nine
Speaker 1: percent certain she does not have an uncle in prison.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't know that went through her history. That's true.
Speaker 1: You did the research and you know all about her.
Speaker 1: How did the date end? What was the last thing
Speaker 1: you guys said to each other? So I drove her
Speaker 1: home and as we pulled up to her place, she
Speaker 1: said that was the most unique first date she'd ever
Speaker 1: been on. Thank you. I said I would call her,
Speaker 1: and she said she was looking forward to it. And
Speaker 1: then she said that she was going to put the
Speaker 1: family tree up on her wall, maybe in a nice frame. Wow,
Speaker 1: all right, so it sounds like she did like it.
Speaker 1: Then if she wants to put it on her wall, well,
Speaker 1: I don't know why she would say she did like
Speaker 1: it so many times that's true. Maybe I'm just totally
Speaker 1: different than she is. Well, we'll play a song, come back,
Speaker 1: call her and get your second date update. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: hold on, don't go anywhere brooking jubil in the morning.
Speaker 1: Second Update. Welcome back to the second date update. If
Speaker 1: you're wondering why I'm starting it with Sister Sledge, we
Speaker 1: are family. That's because of what Ian did for his
Speaker 1: first date with a girl named Ali. It's probably one
Speaker 1: of the most creative things I've ever heard anybody do
Speaker 1: for a first date. Definitely the most work I've heard
Speaker 1: a lot of people put into a first date. He
Speaker 1: actually made her a family tree. You got her name
Speaker 1: from Facebook, found from her family members went online. I
Speaker 1: guess he's a big enthusiast of this kind of thing.
Speaker 1: He does it for all his friends and family and
Speaker 1: stuff like that for Christmas and gifts, and he decided
Speaker 1: he was going to make her a gift, a family
Speaker 1: tree for their first date. He thinks that she was
Speaker 1: impressed by it and really liked it. But now she's
Speaker 1: not calling him back. So we're gonna see if we
Speaker 1: can get her on the phone and find out why. Ian. Yes,
Speaker 1: is that one of your favorite songs? By the way, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's fine. Yeah, I just want to apologize. Okay, I
Speaker 1: think I went in a little bit hard on you
Speaker 1: on your surprise. That's okay. You called me a stalker,
Speaker 1: but that's I mean, that would have been my reaction
Speaker 1: had I received an information about myself from someone I
Speaker 1: didn't know. But maybe she liked it, but also be
Speaker 1: prepared that she didn't. Okay, well, I mean again I am.
Speaker 1: I am hoping she did like it, but she she
Speaker 1: is not calling me back, so you might be onto something.
Speaker 1: Then well we'll figure out why right now. Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna dial her phone number. Thank you, You're welcome. Here
Speaker 1: we go. Hello, Hi, it was looking for Ali. This
Speaker 1: is hey Ali. How are you? My name is Jebil
Speaker 1: from brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay, do you
Speaker 1: know what that is? Uh? I assume some sort of business.
Speaker 1: I guess it is kind of a business. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's actually a radio show. Okay, well, so what is
Speaker 1: this about. This is about a guy that you know.
Speaker 1: He's a friend of the show, and he actually emailed
Speaker 1: us hoping that we could get you on the phone
Speaker 1: because you're not calling him back after your first date,
Speaker 1: are you, sire is? Yeah, his name is Ian, so
Speaker 1: Ian emailed us saying that he thought he had a
Speaker 1: wonderful first date with you, but ever since then, he's
Speaker 1: tried to get a hold of you and you're not
Speaker 1: responding to his text messages or phone calls. So he
Speaker 1: thought maybe we could get you on the phone and
Speaker 1: find out if something went wrong on your date. That's
Speaker 1: really weird. I know, it's a segment we do on
Speaker 1: our show all the time. So he emailed us, And
Speaker 1: now I'm asking you the question, did you like your
Speaker 1: date with Ian? It was? It was interesting? I feel
Speaker 1: like that's adjective to use. What did you want me
Speaker 1: to tell you? I mean, how about this, I'll tell
Speaker 1: you what he told us. Okay, okay. He said that
Speaker 1: he met you at a bar and then went out
Speaker 1: for a picnic, and at your picnic, he presented you
Speaker 1: with a huge family history thing that he had made
Speaker 1: from some website or something. Yes, that's correct. Yes, that
Speaker 1: did that freak you out? That would have freaked me out. Well,
Speaker 1: it took me by surprise for sure. Yeah. I had
Speaker 1: never met anybody who has gone to such great length
Speaker 1: to impress me. Maybe. Yeah. Well he said that you
Speaker 1: guys had talked about it and you knew that he
Speaker 1: was into this kind of thing. Oh I did. I
Speaker 1: just wasn't expecting, I guess, on the first date for
Speaker 1: him to whip out my full entire family, like not
Speaker 1: even just my grandparents, like my great grandparents, and then
Speaker 1: beyond you know what I'm saying, I like to bring
Speaker 1: up genealogy as a hobby and then to troll your
Speaker 1: Facebook page to find out who your great great great
Speaker 1: great great great grandfather is is a big leap. Was
Speaker 1: it at least impressive to you? I mean, he did
Speaker 1: a lot of research obviously liked you. Yes, that part
Speaker 1: is very impressive because I'm sure that took a lot
Speaker 1: of time. But then that's also creepy because now he
Speaker 1: has a lot of my family's information. Yeah, it's a
Speaker 1: weird line because you know, he told us about it,
Speaker 1: and I went back and forth. I was like, is
Speaker 1: it creepy or is it a nice thing from a
Speaker 1: guy who's just really into finding out people's family histories. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I kind of agree with you, but I went back
Speaker 1: and forth, is this impressive or is this weird? But
Speaker 1: then it just got like straight up weird. It got
Speaker 1: stranger after your surprise. Oh yeah, so after our picnic
Speaker 1: where he presented me with the family tree, we start
Speaker 1: walking down this hill and then he's like to surprise, Like, uh,
Speaker 1: what is this surprise? And He's like, this is the
Speaker 1: oldest cemetery in the state. Like cool, awesome. Then he said,
Speaker 1: look over there, over there is where your great grandparents
Speaker 1: are buried. What okay, he took me to the burial
Speaker 1: side of your family. Oh that's not even There's one
Speaker 1: more layer of weird to this. Then he whipped out cheesecake, like,
Speaker 1: let's finish our picnic at my great grandparents grace. I mean,
Speaker 1: he knows nothing about your feelings on death or if
Speaker 1: you knew these people, right, No, yeah, And he basically
Speaker 1: was like, let's spend time with your great grandparents. So
Speaker 1: did you stand there and eat cheesecake in front of
Speaker 1: your great grandparents grave? I whooped that cheesecake down a
Speaker 1: lot of That is the best visual I've ever heard
Speaker 1: of it my whole life. Did you guys, did you
Speaker 1: guys talk during it? Or oh no, I was eating
Speaker 1: so fast. What was his reasoning for wanting you to
Speaker 1: be He wanted me to know about my history and
Speaker 1: spend time with them. Did you learn anything new from
Speaker 1: eating cheesecake your great grandparents grave? He told me a
Speaker 1: couple of facts about them, But in my mind, I'm like,
Speaker 1: just finished the cake just just because cheesecake and let's go.
Speaker 1: So I'm sorry. I just have a quick thing to
Speaker 1: say here. Um oh all right, I was hoping you
Speaker 1: would wait, what is going on, Ali? That's Ian. He's
Speaker 1: actually on the other line listening and not to talk
Speaker 1: to you. What are you talking about? I mean that
Speaker 1: he was on the phone the whole time listening and
Speaker 1: he wanted to talk to you. He was supposed to
Speaker 1: wait until I brought him into the conversation, but he
Speaker 1: just couldn't help himself. I guess I'm sorry that I
Speaker 1: jumped in. I just I couldn't help myself. I feel
Speaker 1: like Ali's missing something that's kind of just inherently cool
Speaker 1: about the fact that she has distant relatives, not not
Speaker 1: even distant relatives, direct line relatives that live right right
Speaker 1: in town. I myself, I had to go to Scotland
Speaker 1: to have this same experience as being able to see
Speaker 1: the gravestones of my great great grandparents. That's I mean,
Speaker 1: that's that's his. And I just cut you off for
Speaker 1: a second. I do think that's really cool. I mean,
Speaker 1: that is awesome, and that would be a really sweet,
Speaker 1: romantic thing. But you just met me. Can't we talk
Speaker 1: about that and get to that point, like I don't know,
Speaker 1: three years from now, I mean three years from now,
Speaker 1: that's a long time. It could be a whole other
Speaker 1: generation and they have to redo the family tree. Okay,
Speaker 1: well at this point I think that you can stop
Speaker 1: working on my family tree. Yeah, Ali, I mean, did
Speaker 1: you have fun with him outside of the kind of
Speaker 1: strange research he did into your history? I could have
Speaker 1: maybe dealt with the family tree thing, because that was
Speaker 1: pretty impressive. But then taking somebody to a cemetery on
Speaker 1: a first date. I mean, yeah, I know that you
Speaker 1: don't really understand how she's not fully impressed by the
Speaker 1: family tree thing. But taking somebody to a grave site
Speaker 1: on a first date. I feel like everyone's blowing this
Speaker 1: very out of proportion. The grandparents Finding the grandparents was
Speaker 1: actually pretty easy. But the main setup, the the main
Speaker 1: research was going into the family tree. That's what the time.
Speaker 1: I think, that's what we should focus on. That's the
Speaker 1: part you're trying to like, well, we need to focus on.
Speaker 1: We need to focus on taking somebody to a grave
Speaker 1: site on a first date, matter who it is. Yeah, why, Okay,
Speaker 1: what if I put it this way, and what if
Speaker 1: I say, like, maybe you spent too much time investing
Speaker 1: on where Ali came from instead of who she is
Speaker 1: right now. Thank you. Ali doesn't even know who she is.
Speaker 1: If she doesn't know her path, you know, then I
Speaker 1: come into her life and I can help her figure
Speaker 1: it out. Are you kidding? I think you need to
Speaker 1: wait and find out some more about me first, But
Speaker 1: at this point it's not going to happen. What a
Speaker 1: wonderful lead into my question. Ali, would you like Ian
Speaker 1: to learn more about you and go out on a
Speaker 1: second date with him? We will pay for it now. No,
Speaker 1: he freaked me out. Then he insulved me. No. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I didn't mean to insult you. That was certainly not
Speaker 1: my intention. I feel like if we could go out
Speaker 1: again and just start from fresh, that would be good,
Speaker 1: And I will tell you there is an extra incentive
Speaker 1: if you have another date with me. I found out
Speaker 1: some pretty interesting things about a great aunt of yours.
Speaker 1: I don't care. At this point. I don't care, and
Speaker 1: I don't want to go to her great either. Okay,
Speaker 1: I can just I can just email you the information
Speaker 1: in the links. She has a Wikipedia page's she was Wow. Well, Ali,
Speaker 1: thank you for talking to us about your day. Yeah, Ian,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you didn't get a second date, but maybe
Speaker 1: this is a lesson learned. Yeah, I guess so, yeah,
Speaker 1: and what's that lesson? Don't ask people out on a
Speaker 1: first date. They're going to be ungrateful about research you do.
Speaker 1: Texting at seven eight five nine two, this say is
Speaker 1: I don't think i'd like to go out with this guy,
Speaker 1: but I'm wondering if I could hire him to do
Speaker 1: some research on my family's break and jewel in the morning,
Speaker 1: talking about today's second date update if you missed it,
Speaker 1: the student named Ali wanted to call a girl or
Speaker 1: Ian wanted to call a girl name Ali that he
Speaker 1: went out with. She wasn't calling him back, and he
Speaker 1: couldn't figure out why because for their first date he
Speaker 1: went to great lengths and actually researched her whole family
Speaker 1: tree and even presented her with a nice little like
Speaker 1: presentation basically on her family. And then we found out
Speaker 1: when we got her on the phone that not only
Speaker 1: did he do that, he took her on a picnic
Speaker 1: next to a cemetery. It was the grave site for
Speaker 1: her great grandparents, and he took her to their grave
Speaker 1: to have dessert. She was obviously creeped out by that
Speaker 1: and doesn't want to go out with him again. The
Speaker 1: other thing is some people may be really into that,
Speaker 1: but it's not a first date move right. It'd like
Speaker 1: get to know you first, and then maybe we can
Speaker 1: move on to that if you're into that whole thing.
Speaker 1: But he didn't get it at all. It's like, what
Speaker 1: are you talking about? This is great. Everybody should learn
Speaker 1: about their family history, and I went out of the
Speaker 1: way and took you to where your dead great grandparents
Speaker 1: are on Some people are pissed at us. Someone wrote
Speaker 1: in I hope you didn't ruin him. He was just
Speaker 1: being chivalrous. I don't think we ruin him. I don't
Speaker 1: think he I don't think he realized that. She was
Speaker 1: like really angry at him. He just didn't understand. He
Speaker 1: put it back on her. Let's like, well, fine, then
Speaker 1: just don't go out with guys who were doing research
Speaker 1: on your family if you don't want to know about it.
Speaker 1: Remember you want to do a seconday up. They don't
Speaker 1: have to do his email the show, and we will
Speaker 1: call the person who didn't call you back. Two point
Speaker 1: five