WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: Family Surprise

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<v Speaker 1>Brooking Jewels second d D. I've been on a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of first dates where during the entire date I have

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<v Speaker 1>to remind myself what her name is. But the guy

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone for today's second date update went above

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<v Speaker 1>and beyond what he needed to do to make sure

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<v Speaker 1>that he knew his date, maybe even a little too well.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll find out why in just a second, but first

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<v Speaker 1>let's talk to him. His name is Ian Ian. How

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<v Speaker 1>are you. I'm doing quite well, Thank you? How are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not too bad? Thank you for doing the second

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<v Speaker 1>date update today. So I read your email and the

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<v Speaker 1>amount of effort that you put in to this first

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<v Speaker 1>date is very impressive to me. Well, thank you. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>before we get to what happened, let's talk about your

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<v Speaker 1>date first. What's her name? Her name is Ali Ali?

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<v Speaker 1>And where did you meet Ali? We meet at a

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<v Speaker 1>local bar. Um, just at a local bar? Okay, okay?

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<v Speaker 1>How how did you meet her at a local bar? Sorry?

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<v Speaker 1>I probably should have said that as well. Um So, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was putting songs into the jukebox at the at

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<v Speaker 1>the bar, and I had a few credits left over,

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<v Speaker 1>but there were no more songs that I wanted to hear,

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<v Speaker 1>so I asked the nearby pretty girl if she had

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<v Speaker 1>any song requests that I could play for her, and

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<v Speaker 1>then we just kind of struck up a conversation from there.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you actually played her songte Oh, of course, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>no I would. I would have rather been like, that's

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<v Speaker 1>a terrible suggestion, whatever, but hey, what's your name? Love?

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<v Speaker 1>That's your first initial thought in mine is oh, if

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<v Speaker 1>they get married, that will be their first dance song.

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<v Speaker 1>Well probably not. She had to play pour some Sugar

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<v Speaker 1>on me. Oh, that would be an amazing first dance.

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<v Speaker 1>So we exchanged numbers names obviously as well, and uh,

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<v Speaker 1>she said it would be okay if I asked her

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<v Speaker 1>out sometime. So what did you guys actually do when

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<v Speaker 1>you went out on a date. Well, I had put

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<v Speaker 1>together a picnic spread with just a few snacks, and

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<v Speaker 1>I had made a little surprise for her. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>glad that we've gotten to this part because that's the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that I read in your email that was very

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<v Speaker 1>interesting to me. If this is the surprise you're talking about,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like he knows what women want. Picnics with

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<v Speaker 1>wine and food and then even a thoughtful gift or

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<v Speaker 1>your time intil youre the surprise, and then we can

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<v Speaker 1>see if you think this is romantic, because honestly, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. It could be romantic or it could be

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<v Speaker 1>a little strange. But tell us what you did. I

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<v Speaker 1>actually think it's it's it's very romantic. It's it's certainly

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<v Speaker 1>it's certainly unique. I think it'll stick in her mind.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's good. Okay, it's a very clinical description of

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<v Speaker 1>your surprise. Well, I mean, you know, I know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm bringing to the table as it were. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, I like that, And so what was the surprise? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>so I went on the computer. I did a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of research, and I put together and printed out a

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<v Speaker 1>rather extensive family tree, a family tree whose family treat

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<v Speaker 1>for her, for for Alice and for Ali way of

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<v Speaker 1>her family. Yes, I'm it's remarkably easy to find. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>if you can find their Facebook page, if they have

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<v Speaker 1>marked any of their relatives, their mom or a sister

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<v Speaker 1>or anything, it's pretty easy to figure out the whole timeline.

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<v Speaker 1>I went back for Alice, and I went back I

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<v Speaker 1>think it was six or seven generations. Wow, very interesting stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Did she seem interested in it? Yeah, she seemed very interested.

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<v Speaker 1>In it. Yeah, it seems like she thought it was

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<v Speaker 1>very cool. Are you sure? I mean, a girl you

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<v Speaker 1>met at a bar shows up to a park with

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<v Speaker 1>basically a complete stranger and he has the whole history

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<v Speaker 1>of her entire bloodline like that. That's weird, man. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>she did seem a little bit taken aback at first,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, well, once I started pointing out some of

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<v Speaker 1>the more interesting features of her timeline, she seemed to

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<v Speaker 1>get more into it. She had a pretty famous great

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<v Speaker 1>great think three I think four generations backs were great? Great?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you just it sounds like you just pulled up

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<v Speaker 1>the family tree in front of you. Did you just? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I've got it pulled up right now. That's it's just

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<v Speaker 1>on my computer. Oh okay, So who is the great grandfather?

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<v Speaker 1>You didn't get to that point. Oh he was a

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<v Speaker 1>He was a prospector at a goldmine, one of the

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<v Speaker 1>first out in California. Wow, dude, that's pretty cool. Cool, cool, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>there's one cool thing about what this guy did. Interesting. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like stalking on a whole nother level stalker. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not as if I'm out in a tree in front

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<v Speaker 1>of her apartment. I mean one of the things we

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<v Speaker 1>talked about when we were at the bar was that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very into genealogy. I have a subscription to ancestry

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. Um, you know, this is the hobby of mine,

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<v Speaker 1>and she thought it was cool, so I thought I

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<v Speaker 1>would I would make her a gift. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where the stalker is coming in. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's not like you did the family tree thing

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<v Speaker 1>completely out of the blue. She knew that this was

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<v Speaker 1>a passion yours. Yes, yes, absolutely, Okay, yeah, no. No.

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<v Speaker 1>If you say your hobby is photography and you show

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<v Speaker 1>up with pictures of her, that's strange. Okay. If you

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<v Speaker 1>would talked to her and said, hey, would you want

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<v Speaker 1>me to research your family and she said yes, that's

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<v Speaker 1>that's a whole different story, Well, then that kind of

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<v Speaker 1>takes away the surprise aspect that yes it does, it

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<v Speaker 1>would be I think it would be at least interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>So did you spend the whole time going over her

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<v Speaker 1>family tree or did you do other things? The tree

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<v Speaker 1>was the largest part of the conversation. It was sitting

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<v Speaker 1>right there, and frankly, I spent a lot of time

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<v Speaker 1>on it and new learned a lot of things about

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<v Speaker 1>her history that I wanted to share with her. You

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<v Speaker 1>took so many chances on that, like she could have

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<v Speaker 1>a family that she hates or an uncle that's in prison,

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<v Speaker 1>for all you know. I'm actually ninety nine point nine

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<v Speaker 1>percent certain she does not have an uncle in prison.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't know that went through her history. That's true.

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<v Speaker 1>You did the research and you know all about her.

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<v Speaker 1>How did the date end? What was the last thing

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<v Speaker 1>you guys said to each other? So I drove her

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<v Speaker 1>home and as we pulled up to her place, she

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<v Speaker 1>said that was the most unique first date she'd ever

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<v Speaker 1>been on. Thank you. I said I would call her,

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<v Speaker 1>and she said she was looking forward to it. And

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<v Speaker 1>then she said that she was going to put the

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<v Speaker 1>family tree up on her wall, maybe in a nice frame. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, so it sounds like she did like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Then if she wants to put it on her wall, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why she would say she did like

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<v Speaker 1>it so many times that's true. Maybe I'm just totally

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<v Speaker 1>different than she is. Well, we'll play a song, come back,

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<v Speaker 1>call her and get your second date update. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>hold on, don't go anywhere brooking jubil in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Second Update. Welcome back to the second date update. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're wondering why I'm starting it with Sister Sledge, we

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<v Speaker 1>are family. That's because of what Ian did for his

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<v Speaker 1>first date with a girl named Ali. It's probably one

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<v Speaker 1>of the most creative things I've ever heard anybody do

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<v Speaker 1>for a first date. Definitely the most work I've heard

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people put into a first date. He

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<v Speaker 1>actually made her a family tree. You got her name

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<v Speaker 1>from Facebook, found from her family members went online. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess he's a big enthusiast of this kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>He does it for all his friends and family and

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<v Speaker 1>stuff like that for Christmas and gifts, and he decided

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<v Speaker 1>he was going to make her a gift, a family

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<v Speaker 1>tree for their first date. He thinks that she was

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<v Speaker 1>impressed by it and really liked it. But now she's

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<v Speaker 1>not calling him back. So we're gonna see if we

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<v Speaker 1>can get her on the phone and find out why. Ian. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>is that one of your favorite songs? By the way, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's fine. Yeah, I just want to apologize. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>think I went in a little bit hard on you

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<v Speaker 1>on your surprise. That's okay. You called me a stalker,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's I mean, that would have been my reaction

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<v Speaker 1>had I received an information about myself from someone I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know. But maybe she liked it, but also be

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<v Speaker 1>prepared that she didn't. Okay, well, I mean again I am.

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<v Speaker 1>I am hoping she did like it, but she she

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<v Speaker 1>is not calling me back, so you might be onto something.

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<v Speaker 1>Then well we'll figure out why right now. Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna dial her phone number. Thank you, You're welcome. Here

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<v Speaker 1>we go. Hello, Hi, it was looking for Ali. This

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<v Speaker 1>is hey Ali. How are you? My name is Jebil

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<v Speaker 1>from brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay, do you

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<v Speaker 1>know what that is? Uh? I assume some sort of business.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it is kind of a business. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually a radio show. Okay, well, so what is

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<v Speaker 1>this about. This is about a guy that you know.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a friend of the show, and he actually emailed

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<v Speaker 1>us hoping that we could get you on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>because you're not calling him back after your first date,

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<v Speaker 1>are you, sire is? Yeah, his name is Ian, so

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<v Speaker 1>Ian emailed us saying that he thought he had a

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful first date with you, but ever since then, he's

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<v Speaker 1>tried to get a hold of you and you're not

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<v Speaker 1>responding to his text messages or phone calls. So he

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<v Speaker 1>thought maybe we could get you on the phone and

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<v Speaker 1>find out if something went wrong on your date. That's

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<v Speaker 1>really weird. I know, it's a segment we do on

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<v Speaker 1>our show all the time. So he emailed us, And

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<v Speaker 1>now I'm asking you the question, did you like your

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<v Speaker 1>date with Ian? It was? It was interesting? I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that's adjective to use. What did you want me

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you? I mean, how about this, I'll tell

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<v Speaker 1>you what he told us. Okay, okay. He said that

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<v Speaker 1>he met you at a bar and then went out

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<v Speaker 1>for a picnic, and at your picnic, he presented you

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<v Speaker 1>with a huge family history thing that he had made

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<v Speaker 1>from some website or something. Yes, that's correct. Yes, that

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<v Speaker 1>did that freak you out? That would have freaked me out. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it took me by surprise for sure. Yeah. I had

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<v Speaker 1>never met anybody who has gone to such great length

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<v Speaker 1>to impress me. Maybe. Yeah. Well he said that you

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<v Speaker 1>guys had talked about it and you knew that he

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<v Speaker 1>was into this kind of thing. Oh I did. I

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<v Speaker 1>just wasn't expecting, I guess, on the first date for

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<v Speaker 1>him to whip out my full entire family, like not

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<v Speaker 1>even just my grandparents, like my great grandparents, and then

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<v Speaker 1>beyond you know what I'm saying, I like to bring

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<v Speaker 1>up genealogy as a hobby and then to troll your

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<v Speaker 1>Facebook page to find out who your great great great

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<v Speaker 1>great great great grandfather is is a big leap. Was

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<v Speaker 1>it at least impressive to you? I mean, he did

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of research obviously liked you. Yes, that part

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<v Speaker 1>is very impressive because I'm sure that took a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of time. But then that's also creepy because now he

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<v Speaker 1>has a lot of my family's information. Yeah, it's a

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<v Speaker 1>weird line because you know, he told us about it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I went back and forth. I was like, is

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<v Speaker 1>it creepy or is it a nice thing from a

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<v Speaker 1>guy who's just really into finding out people's family histories. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of agree with you, but I went back

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<v Speaker 1>and forth, is this impressive or is this weird? But

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<v Speaker 1>then it just got like straight up weird. It got

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<v Speaker 1>stranger after your surprise. Oh yeah, so after our picnic

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<v Speaker 1>where he presented me with the family tree, we start

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<v Speaker 1>walking down this hill and then he's like to surprise, Like, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>what is this surprise? And He's like, this is the

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<v Speaker 1>oldest cemetery in the state. Like cool, awesome. Then he said,

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<v Speaker 1>look over there, over there is where your great grandparents

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<v Speaker 1>are buried. What okay, he took me to the burial

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<v Speaker 1>side of your family. Oh that's not even There's one

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<v Speaker 1>more layer of weird to this. Then he whipped out cheesecake, like,

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<v Speaker 1>let's finish our picnic at my great grandparents grace. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>he knows nothing about your feelings on death or if

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<v Speaker 1>you knew these people, right, No, yeah, And he basically

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<v Speaker 1>was like, let's spend time with your great grandparents. So

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<v Speaker 1>did you stand there and eat cheesecake in front of

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<v Speaker 1>your great grandparents grave? I whooped that cheesecake down a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of That is the best visual I've ever heard

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<v Speaker 1>of it my whole life. Did you guys, did you

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<v Speaker 1>guys talk during it? Or oh no, I was eating

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<v Speaker 1>so fast. What was his reasoning for wanting you to

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<v Speaker 1>be He wanted me to know about my history and

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<v Speaker 1>spend time with them. Did you learn anything new from

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<v Speaker 1>eating cheesecake your great grandparents grave? He told me a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of facts about them, But in my mind, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>just finished the cake just just because cheesecake and let's go.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm sorry. I just have a quick thing to

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<v Speaker 1>say here. Um oh all right, I was hoping you

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<v Speaker 1>would wait, what is going on, Ali? That's Ian. He's

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<v Speaker 1>actually on the other line listening and not to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to you. What are you talking about? I mean that

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<v Speaker 1>he was on the phone the whole time listening and

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<v Speaker 1>he wanted to talk to you. He was supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>wait until I brought him into the conversation, but he

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<v Speaker 1>just couldn't help himself. I guess I'm sorry that I

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<v Speaker 1>jumped in. I just I couldn't help myself. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like Ali's missing something that's kind of just inherently cool

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<v Speaker 1>about the fact that she has distant relatives, not not

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<v Speaker 1>even distant relatives, direct line relatives that live right right

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<v Speaker 1>in town. I myself, I had to go to Scotland

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<v Speaker 1>to have this same experience as being able to see

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<v Speaker 1>the gravestones of my great great grandparents. That's I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's his. And I just cut you off for

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<v Speaker 1>a second. I do think that's really cool. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that is awesome, and that would be a really sweet,

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<v Speaker 1>romantic thing. But you just met me. Can't we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about that and get to that point, like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>three years from now, I mean three years from now,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a long time. It could be a whole other

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<v Speaker 1>generation and they have to redo the family tree. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>well at this point I think that you can stop

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<v Speaker 1>working on my family tree. Yeah, Ali, I mean, did

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<v Speaker 1>you have fun with him outside of the kind of

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<v Speaker 1>strange research he did into your history? I could have

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<v Speaker 1>maybe dealt with the family tree thing, because that was

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<v Speaker 1>pretty impressive. But then taking somebody to a cemetery on

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<v Speaker 1>a first date. I mean, yeah, I know that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't really understand how she's not fully impressed by the

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<v Speaker 1>family tree thing. But taking somebody to a grave site

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<v Speaker 1>on a first date. I feel like everyone's blowing this

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<v Speaker 1>very out of proportion. The grandparents Finding the grandparents was

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<v Speaker 1>actually pretty easy. But the main setup, the the main

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<v Speaker 1>research was going into the family tree. That's what the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I think, that's what we should focus on. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>part you're trying to like, well, we need to focus on.

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<v Speaker 1>We need to focus on taking somebody to a grave

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<v Speaker 1>site on a first date, matter who it is. Yeah, why, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what if I put it this way, and what if

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<v Speaker 1>I say, like, maybe you spent too much time investing

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<v Speaker 1>on where Ali came from instead of who she is

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<v Speaker 1>right now. Thank you. Ali doesn't even know who she is.

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<v Speaker 1>If she doesn't know her path, you know, then I

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<v Speaker 1>come into her life and I can help her figure

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<v Speaker 1>it out. Are you kidding? I think you need to

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<v Speaker 1>wait and find out some more about me first, But

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<v Speaker 1>at this point it's not going to happen. What a

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful lead into my question. Ali, would you like Ian

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<v Speaker 1>to learn more about you and go out on a

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<v Speaker 1>second date with him? We will pay for it now. No,

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<v Speaker 1>he freaked me out. Then he insulved me. No. Sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mean to insult you. That was certainly not

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<v Speaker 1>my intention. I feel like if we could go out

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<v Speaker 1>again and just start from fresh, that would be good,

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<v Speaker 1>And I will tell you there is an extra incentive

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<v Speaker 1>if you have another date with me. I found out

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<v Speaker 1>some pretty interesting things about a great aunt of yours.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care. At this point. I don't care, and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to go to her great either. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I can just I can just email you the information

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<v Speaker 1>in the links. She has a Wikipedia page's she was Wow. Well, Ali,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for talking to us about your day. Yeah, Ian,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry you didn't get a second date, but maybe

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<v Speaker 1>this is a lesson learned. Yeah, I guess so, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and what's that lesson? Don't ask people out on a

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<v Speaker 1>first date. They're going to be ungrateful about research you do.

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<v Speaker 1>Texting at seven eight five nine two, this say is

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think i'd like to go out with this guy,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm wondering if I could hire him to do

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<v Speaker 1>some research on my family's break and jewel in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>talking about today's second date update if you missed it,

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<v Speaker 1>the student named Ali wanted to call a girl or

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<v Speaker 1>Ian wanted to call a girl name Ali that he

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<v Speaker 1>went out with. She wasn't calling him back, and he

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't figure out why because for their first date he

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<v Speaker 1>went to great lengths and actually researched her whole family

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<v Speaker 1>tree and even presented her with a nice little like

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<v Speaker 1>presentation basically on her family. And then we found out

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<v Speaker 1>when we got her on the phone that not only

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<v Speaker 1>did he do that, he took her on a picnic

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<v Speaker 1>next to a cemetery. It was the grave site for

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<v Speaker 1>her great grandparents, and he took her to their grave

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<v Speaker 1>to have dessert. She was obviously creeped out by that

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<v Speaker 1>and doesn't want to go out with him again. The

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<v Speaker 1>other thing is some people may be really into that,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not a first date move right. It'd like

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<v Speaker 1>get to know you first, and then maybe we can

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<v Speaker 1>move on to that if you're into that whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But he didn't get it at all. It's like, what

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<v Speaker 1>are you talking about? This is great. Everybody should learn

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<v Speaker 1>about their family history, and I went out of the

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<v Speaker 1>way and took you to where your dead great grandparents

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<v Speaker 1>are on Some people are pissed at us. Someone wrote

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<v Speaker 1>in I hope you didn't ruin him. He was just

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<v Speaker 1>being chivalrous. I don't think we ruin him. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think he I don't think he realized that. She was

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<v Speaker 1>like really angry at him. He just didn't understand. He

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<v Speaker 1>put it back on her. Let's like, well, fine, then

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<v Speaker 1>just don't go out with guys who were doing research

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<v Speaker 1>on your family if you don't want to know about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember you want to do a seconday up. They don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to do his email the show, and we will

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<v Speaker 1>call the person who didn't call you back. Two point

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<v Speaker 1>five