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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and

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Speaker 1: Mighty Tour. In June, I will be in Hyannas, Massachusetts,

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Speaker 1: and then two shows in Nantucket. In August, you can

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Speaker 1: find me in Red Bank, New Jersey, Montclair, New Jersey,

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Speaker 1: and Calgary.

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Speaker 2: That's Canada.

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Speaker 1: And September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego,

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Speaker 1: New York City, Philly, and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise, Idaho,

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Speaker 1: and Spokane. And then in November I'll be in San Francisco.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston, Dallas Babies,

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Speaker 1: I'll be there. And then in December I am closing

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Speaker 1: out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So get your

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Speaker 1: tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 2: Hello Hi, Chelsea, hiy Hi, what's happening? What is happening?

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Speaker 1: You have a different makeup on today?

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Speaker 2: I do.

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Speaker 3: I never do lip gloss, but I did and I

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Speaker 3: will like I found myself in the car even though

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Speaker 3: my hair is too short for it to blow into

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Speaker 2: I was like leaning away from the window.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, this is not I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm not usually lop class. You know how I feel

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Speaker 2: about lip gloss.

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Speaker 1: I feel the same way, but I always feel on

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Speaker 1: I put yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yes, but gloss is like a little.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, lip gloss ends up getting a lot of too,

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Speaker 2: Other than your lips.

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Speaker 1: Yes, unfortunately, yes it tends to I like a map finish.

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Speaker 2: Is how I feel. That's how I feel about esthetics

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Speaker 2: in general. I like a map finish.

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Speaker 3: You like to be glammed up, Like when you're at

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Speaker 3: like a show, an awards show, are you kind of like.

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Speaker 2: You could take it or leave it.

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Speaker 1: I could take it or leave it. But I do

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Speaker 1: appreciate when I look like at the Roast, Like I

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Speaker 2: Looked when I sit and when I saw videos.

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Speaker 1: Of that, like I was like, wow, you look really good.

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Speaker 1: So when I say myself or like critics' choice, when

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Speaker 1: I get really glad, remember once in a while, I'm

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Speaker 1: like wow, yeah, you know, like with the hair, they'll

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Speaker 1: do something and they add pieces and you look like

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Speaker 1: a completely different person or ten years younger. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I think the volume of hair can really take off age. Oh,

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Speaker 1: for sure, sakes, you look pressure more vibrant.

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Speaker 2: So I like that.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, yeah, I'm not really one for sitting

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Speaker 3: You're not like a Chris Jenner is like every morning.

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Speaker 2: No, I could never do that.

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Speaker 1: But then I look at what I create on my

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Speaker 2: So you know, I don't know what.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'd like to be on vacation with a little tan

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Speaker 3: Well you know who did arrive looking on point with

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Speaker 2: I listen.

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Speaker 3: I have to tell you I was so pleased because

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Speaker 3: your own Bentley, that's like not how it's supposed to work. Like,

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Speaker 3: if you have a Bentley, someone should be driving.

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Speaker 1: And somebody was driving her Bentley.

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Speaker 3: She got out of the passenger side and I had

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Speaker 3: to say, good job, girl.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, good job.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's a hot mess. Great and her name, well,

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Speaker 1: she's an influencer. She's a former MTV mischief maker, and

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Speaker 1: her new podcast is called brand Safe, which is out now,

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Speaker 1: Please welcome Tana Monge. Are we rolling because.

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Speaker 3: I want to?

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Speaker 2: Is the question? Here's a question question.

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Speaker 1: I have been mispronouncing this woman's name ever since I

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Speaker 1: it's ridiculous. And I've been calling her Tala Mangano, which

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Speaker 1: is close to calling her MONGOLOI mang Chelsea.

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Speaker 2: Can I tell you something?

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Speaker 5: I feel like if one day you called me and

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Speaker 5: If you called me and you were like, hey, Tana,

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Speaker 5: Feel in trouble almost right, Well, you would be in

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Speaker 2: Well yeah, I mean I would I leave you video

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Speaker 2: and it's funny because sometimes you'll send me one and I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, you get that microphone a little bit farther away

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Speaker 2: You don't. I'm eat it. I'm a star, are you always?

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Speaker 1: I have a banana on the way Bana allowed to

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, that's kind of what my conservator tells me.

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Speaker 2: You know I should.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's get your name. It's Tauna.

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Speaker 2: It's Tanna. It's Tanna.

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Speaker 1: But you what I'm saying?

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Speaker 5: I again, I think that if you really hit me

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Speaker 5: with a Tana, I would be in trouble.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Why do I think it's Tauna because I just.

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Speaker 2: Chelsea, I don't know it's Tana, but she thought it

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Speaker 2: was just my pronunciation. You know what actually it is, though?

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Speaker 5: Is that phonetically it is Tauna like Lana l A

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Speaker 5: right right, you know what I mean? So I my

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well you don't even talk to your parents at all?

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Speaker 5: No, Okay, and if I did, I guess I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: I have a few more issues to kind of.

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Speaker 1: You know that?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So it's Mojo Monjo, Mojo, mojo jo.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's French.

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Speaker 5: It's giving face smashed on keyboard for sure.

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Speaker 2: It's giving a little New Orleans that so deeply French

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Speaker 2: quarter New Orleans.

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Speaker 5: Okay, you know take that. I used to really hate

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Speaker 2: That'll do it for Yeah, I had I only have fondness.

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Speaker 1: I mean, well not only, but one of my fond

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Speaker 2: And they're gonna say accidentally dated. I left saying accident.

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Speaker 2: It really is, honest, until you.

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Speaker 1: Get into like the sixth, sixth or seventh week of it,

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Speaker 5: So were you in the accidental stage with fifty in

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because he was like, I I'll come wherever you are.

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Speaker 1: Where are you going to be? And I was like,

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Speaker 5: It's so fucked up when you tell me a story

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Speaker 1: Let's get to our art, let's get to me, let's

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Speaker 1: because it's abusive. And I just want to say that

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Speaker 1: I'm abusive to her because she's ridiculous and it's out

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Speaker 5: But I love Like even the other day, I was

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Speaker 5: it's beautiful. But it did start with me stalking you down.

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Speaker 5: you just when you're leaving Vegas, you're already in a

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Speaker 5: I feel dirty, I feel gross, like I don't want

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Speaker 5: and I just look a mess and I'm like, oh

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Speaker 5: my god, that's my idol, like just sitting over there,

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Speaker 5: and I was like, I don't know, just freaking the

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Speaker 2: Well, that's really sweet and cute.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what you're doing with your leg, but

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Speaker 1: here and you community, Okay, I apologize to the scoliosis community.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know if that explains you're sitting,

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Speaker 2: What did you take today? I started with a red Bull.

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Speaker 5: Someone like eleven am too. It's just like Jesus, you.

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Speaker 5: I could use another one, but it's still not enough.

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Speaker 1: I love that you take xanax and are out and about.

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Speaker 1: It's like if someone takes an adderall and it doesn't

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Speaker 1: If you know, Yeah, if you don't feel anything, you

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Speaker 1: And so I this morning I had a Celsius and

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Speaker 2: I call those the sad zoomies.

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Speaker 5: Uh huh, like where it's like the coffee is coursing

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Speaker 2: My eyes hurt. Yeah, I do. My eyes hurt. My

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Speaker 5: I don't think I like being awake, but you just

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Speaker 1: Let me give you some background on Tana.

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Speaker 2: This is what I know.

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Speaker 1: She is a She is the definition of an influencer.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, journey, And like my journey in question is like

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Speaker 1: So one of the things you're you stopped drinking, and

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Speaker 2: I thought you're about to say you stopped drinking. No,

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Speaker 2: I was like, I'm relapsing. No, I'm not drink something's wrong.

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Speaker 1: We have an understanding, and please don't we get each

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Speaker 1: And you share a lot of information about your personal life,

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Speaker 1: I think that that's very genuine, and I think that

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Speaker 1: you're I don't know, I don't know what other fields

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, because it's not an act.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you're a hot mess with or without drinking.

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Speaker 5: So I made the drinking because I was just thinking

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Speaker 5: So I definitely am like grateful for that in that regard,

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Speaker 5: was thinking about that today because in Vegas when I

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Speaker 5: asshole was just out the entire in your asshole out

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Speaker 5: a long, yes, like you've seen my asshole more than

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Speaker 5: you haven't. And I was like, you know what, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And you're in love now too, Yes, you're you're I

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Speaker 1: mean your Instagram is filled with naked pictures, like your

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Speaker 1: know who am I to tought? Obviously I'm naked all

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think I think people have gathered that for sure.

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Speaker 5: I'm definitely naked.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're naked and you like it and I too,

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Speaker 1: and then and that's fine. Why why wouldn't you?

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Speaker 2: Why don't like duality these days?

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Speaker 5: You know, sometimes it's a turtleneck and sometimes it's whole out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we don't always know what we're gonna do.

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Speaker 3: Well, like recently you posted a picture you were like

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Speaker 2: It was like hold out to keep it classic, right.

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Speaker 5: No? I think it was like a dirty napkin that

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Speaker 5: I wiped the taffalo sauce on like thirty seconds prior.

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Speaker 2: And some things just do. Yeah, they never change. But

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Speaker 5: He is truly the most patient person I have ever met,

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Speaker 5: and I definitely have these moments where I'm like radicalized.

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Speaker 5: I'm like you should leave me, Like I put him

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Speaker 2: But he is.

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Speaker 5: He's the sound, responsible guy who like loves the entertainment

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Speaker 5: and I'm just but I'm like, I.

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Speaker 2: Bring the whimsy. Yeah, yeah, you bring the care. That's

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Speaker 2: what I tell myself to sleep at night.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, the guy I'm dating, so it calls me

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Speaker 1: a sexy tornado.

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Speaker 2: I am. So that's honestly an amazing compliment. It is.

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Speaker 1: I like to be a sexy tornado. That's exactly what

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Speaker 2: Yes, one hundred yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like you might be in a similar

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Speaker 2: Did you just buy a place there?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and that's it's so nice to just go there

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Speaker 5: are just they're calmer, they're just I've never had chill

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Speaker 5: I'm screaming, my hole is out, like, you know, just

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Speaker 1: I saw something Mini Driver posted just talking about how

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 2: You know I don't deserve this.

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Speaker 5: Take the lay off me, you know what I mean, like,

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Speaker 5: give it to someone exactly.

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Speaker 1: You're like, this must have taken a lot of time

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Speaker 1: and how did you?

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Speaker 2: And I'm where?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And then I'm like and it smells so fresh and

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and I'm wearing like a buffalo sauce stained allo

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Speaker 2: Do with all your lays when you get off the plane?

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Speaker 5: They stopped doing it at the airport, and they mainly

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Speaker 2: But people put them in the fridge.

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Speaker 5: They preserve them, like I preserved a feel I didn't

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Speaker 5: know I was a preserver until I met him, Like

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Speaker 2: That's another good one, and it is just great.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I think that the thing I love the

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Speaker 2: I was never really I want a responsible.

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Speaker 5: Man, like I think he was everything that I didn't

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Speaker 5: know I needed, which is beautiful in that way. You know,

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Speaker 5: and it's almost like we are opposites in a lot

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Speaker 5: of ways, but it like works. Yeah, there's there's a

442
00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:27,919
Speaker 5: yin and a yang that balance out.

443
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Speaker 1: Yeah, because two hot message don't work together at all.

444
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Speaker 5: And I think for so long I wanted that and

445
00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:33,840
Speaker 5: then it's like, wait, yeah I did too. My boyfriend's

446
00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:36,919
Speaker 5: like TikTok dancing and cheating on me on Snapchat And

447
00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:38,720
Speaker 5: where how did I get here?

448
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Speaker 3: You know, do you have fitness and wellness questions? Well,

449
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Speaker 3: Chelsea's personal trainer Ben Bruno is about to guess on

450
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Speaker 3: an episode, So right into Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail

451
00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:49,440
Speaker 3: dot com with all your fitness and wellness questions.

452
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Speaker 1: I want to talk about your new podcast, which is

453
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Speaker 1: called brand Safe.

454
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Speaker 5: This is actually the first time I'm talking it.

455
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Speaker 1: Okay, this is very exciting. So I'm gonna throw up

456
00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:04,760
Speaker 1: because you've been talking about this a lot to me personally,

457
00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:08,200
Speaker 1: but talking about launching this podcast. It's called brand Safe,

458
00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:11,359
Speaker 1: and you've had, You've come from two other successful podcasts,

459
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Speaker 1: one of which you ended, one of which you're still

460
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Speaker 1: doing right, yes, yes, okay, So do you want to

461
00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:18,960
Speaker 1: talk a little bit about those two podcasts at all,

462
00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:21,640
Speaker 1: why you ended one, why you decided to start one

463
00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:22,080
Speaker 1: on your own.

464
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, let's go.

465
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Speaker 5: I mean, so Canceled is the one that ended, and

466
00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:30,560
Speaker 5: it was like such a magical time. I look at

467
00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,960
Speaker 5: it as this like really fucked up scrap book that

468
00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:36,080
Speaker 5: I get to show my kids one day. And we

469
00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:38,960
Speaker 5: were just young and party. I was partying a lot,

470
00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:41,639
Speaker 5: at least in Los Angeles and kind of coming on

471
00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:45,240
Speaker 5: and just airing people out. Like I was definitely a

472
00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:47,119
Speaker 5: lot crazier in that regard. I was going out and

473
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Speaker 5: I would always say I was collecting more, you know.

474
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Speaker 2: I was kind of like my Chelsea lately. Yeah, you

475
00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:52,360
Speaker 2: were canceled.

476
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Speaker 5: That's funny because today when we shoot Brand Safe, that

477
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Speaker 5: was one thing I wanted to talk to you a

478
00:18:57,040 --> 00:18:59,359
Speaker 5: lot about, is just all of the different reinventions and

479
00:18:59,400 --> 00:19:02,520
Speaker 5: rebirths you've had and how you and if you hold

480
00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:05,280
Speaker 5: hands with all of these different eras that you've had

481
00:19:05,320 --> 00:19:07,919
Speaker 5: and stuff, because I find that very interesting and that's

482
00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:09,760
Speaker 5: how I feel now that I'm in this reworth. But

483
00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:12,080
Speaker 5: I could have never gotten here without that girl. And

484
00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:14,359
Speaker 5: she was very messy, and she did a lot of

485
00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:17,400
Speaker 5: things that I need to make reparations for probably until

486
00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:20,760
Speaker 5: the day I die, right yea, yeah, But it was

487
00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:23,720
Speaker 5: very entertaining and it was an amazing time. And then

488
00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:26,000
Speaker 5: just towards the end of it, I did I got sober,

489
00:19:26,040 --> 00:19:28,919
Speaker 5: I fell in love. I was talking about green juice

490
00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:31,560
Speaker 5: and like my ibs and like I didn't have the

491
00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:35,399
Speaker 5: interesting chaotic things to bring to the table as much,

492
00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:37,720
Speaker 5: you know, and broke my co host same things.

493
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Speaker 2: She got married, and it just it.

494
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Speaker 5: Became this like beautiful ending where we ran off into

495
00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:45,080
Speaker 5: the sunset and it was time to end it, you

496
00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:46,560
Speaker 5: know what I mean. And it was just it was

497
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Speaker 5: also in La every week, it was a different lifestyle

498
00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:51,359
Speaker 5: like now I'm kind of shooting everywhere and stuff, just

499
00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:56,000
Speaker 5: doing something more I guess on brand with my lifestyle now,

500
00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:58,800
Speaker 5: you know, I was holding on to like a version

501
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Speaker 5: of myself that I needed to.

502
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Speaker 1: Hmmm, you know part ways with Well, I think that's

503
00:20:02,600 --> 00:20:04,959
Speaker 1: the natural evolution of somebody who's actually, like, you know,

504
00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:08,320
Speaker 1: thinking about life instead of just like having life happen.

505
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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh wow, that was really sweet.

506
00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:13,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true, like we grow up, and like, if

507
00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:15,640
Speaker 1: you're not growing up at some point, it's not interesting.

508
00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:17,040
Speaker 2: I agree, I think.

509
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Speaker 5: And for so long again, I was tied to this

510
00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,760
Speaker 5: idea where if I grew or if I was doing

511
00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 5: anything with substance or intelligence that I was, no one

512
00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:27,120
Speaker 5: would be interested. And it got to this point where

513
00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:28,840
Speaker 5: I was like, that's just not true, and my fans

514
00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:31,080
Speaker 5: are amazing for that, for showing up for me.

515
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Speaker 2: No matter what it did.

516
00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 5: It started to feel kind of regressive and repetitive, and

517
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Speaker 5: like just the drama centric stuff also can be very

518
00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:42,159
Speaker 5: taxing on your mental health if you're not wanting to

519
00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,639
Speaker 5: stand in the line of fire, if you're not wanting

520
00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:46,760
Speaker 5: to deal with all the discourse and the clips and

521
00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:49,879
Speaker 5: the commentary and stuff, and yeah, it came to this

522
00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:52,120
Speaker 5: like very poetic end, and it's great.

523
00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:55,000
Speaker 2: I still can't shut the fuck up. Yeah, So here

524
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Speaker 2: I am continuing to.

525
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Speaker 1: So what's the story with your parents?

526
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Speaker 4: God?

527
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Speaker 2: Do you have a a week?

528
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Speaker 1: I mean, just give us the sound bites, like I know,

529
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:04,640
Speaker 1: I just read.

530
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,119
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like, just give me a clip.

531
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Speaker 1: I didn't know this well, I just I didn't know

532
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 1: this about you. And I was reading your notes and

533
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 1: it said you haven't spoken to them since you were thirteen,

534
00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:14,360
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, are you moved.

535
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:15,440
Speaker 2: Out when you were thirteen? Right?

536
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:15,800
Speaker 3: Yes?

537
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:17,720
Speaker 1: And I wish I could have fucking moved out when

538
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Speaker 1: I was two, street I wanted to move out when

539
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Speaker 1: I was six.

540
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Speaker 5: That is why I resonate with you so hard. I

541
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:25,560
Speaker 5: think that when you speak even about like your thoughts

542
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Speaker 5: as a child, especially in this last book, you did

543
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:28,040
Speaker 5: a lot of.

544
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Speaker 2: That, you know what I mean. You talk about how

545
00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:30,360
Speaker 2: you knew.

546
00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,560
Speaker 5: You were destined for a first class you were destined

547
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 5: for a different life, that they weren't gonna necessarily do

548
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:37,440
Speaker 5: it for you. And you knew that from a very

549
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Speaker 5: young age, which I feel like a lot of people

550
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:42,119
Speaker 5: don't necessarily grow up like that. There is they have

551
00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:44,919
Speaker 5: much more naivity to their childhood, you know. And I

552
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,439
Speaker 5: feel like I was very similar to you in that

553
00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 5: regard where I woke up in this world. I was

554
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 5: born into it, and I was like, oh, you people.

555
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,600
Speaker 1: Are Yeah, I would feel like the idea that your

556
00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:56,600
Speaker 1: parents are like, I've definitely never felt unsafe in my home.

557
00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:56,840
Speaker 3: You know.

558
00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:59,359
Speaker 1: It wasn't like that. But the idea that my parents

559
00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,320
Speaker 1: were the ones that we're going to take care of

560
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:04,679
Speaker 1: me was ludicrous. Like I was like, this is not

561
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,560
Speaker 1: a possibility, exactly, Chelsea.

562
00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:09,399
Speaker 5: And I think that is the difference. I think my

563
00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:11,440
Speaker 5: home was also a very unsafe home. It was very

564
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:13,640
Speaker 5: turbulent in a lot of ways. I mean, my dad

565
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 5: was in the Vietnam War, he had a lot of PTSD.

566
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Speaker 5: They were both older, born in the fifties, just very

567
00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 5: out of touch and with everything. And my mom was

568
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 5: very depressed and just the I hate to call her

569
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 5: the common case of a victim of lots of failed

570
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,159
Speaker 5: abusive relationships, but that's.

571
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Speaker 2: What it was, you know.

572
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Speaker 5: And yeah, from a very young age, I knew like,

573
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Speaker 5: this is just not gonna fit, you know. And my

574
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 5: best friend's family was very kind to start taking me

575
00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:42,120
Speaker 5: in from thirteen on and just giving me the good

576
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:44,520
Speaker 5: meal on the table, showing me that a holiday is

577
00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:47,119
Speaker 5: something you should celebrate, showing me that there can be

578
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,120
Speaker 5: happy moments and that love is unconditional.

579
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Speaker 2: My parents were also.

580
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:53,640
Speaker 5: Extreme narcissists, and narcissistic abuse is also just very hard

581
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Speaker 5: to go through because you're never going to get the

582
00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:58,719
Speaker 5: accountability or the apology or the glution.

583
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:00,000
Speaker 2: Yes, exactly.

584
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,600
Speaker 5: And it eventually got to a point, I think where

585
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,119
Speaker 5: it just continued to snowball, and I realized I was

586
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 5: because I spent a lot of my childhood, I guess,

587
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:12,200
Speaker 5: trying to make them into something better, like hoping, living

588
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:14,479
Speaker 5: on this edge of hope that they would wake up

589
00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 5: one day and grow. And eventually it was just like,

590
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 5: this isn't going to happen, and I have to go

591
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 5: no contact for my mental health. That was right after

592
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 5: they sued me. That was kind of like a big catalyst.

593
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:28,119
Speaker 5: What slander and defamation itau?

594
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,400
Speaker 1: You were talking about them publicly, yes, and.

595
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Speaker 5: I had had an MTV show and on the reality show,

596
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,159
Speaker 5: I was kind of detailing what my childhood was like.

597
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 5: And that was super hard for me because I was like,

598
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 5: not only was I telling the truth. I was telling

599
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 5: one one thousandth of the truth, you know. So it

600
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 5: was it was a cash grab, and it was one

601
00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 5: of those things where it was like and that was

602
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 5: just the thousandth time where that was all I felt like,

603
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:48,640
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, was a check to them,

604
00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 5: and you know, they wanted to take credit for all

605
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 5: of my success and we made you and if anything,

606
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 5: everything I was was to fight them for so long

607
00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:59,919
Speaker 5: and was to be nothing like them, I guess, you know.

608
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 5: And yeah, eventually it had to be no contact just

609
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 5: for my mental well for you and thank you. I

610
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:08,399
Speaker 5: think so many people, you know, they want to argue that,

611
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:09,879
Speaker 5: right because they don't understand.

612
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 2: They want to be like, but it's your blood and

613
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 2: it's your parents.

614
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 5: And I always just try to tell people it's like

615
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 5: if someone is no contact with their family, it means

616
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:20,240
Speaker 5: they have tried everything. Like that's never it's not option one,

617
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. You try and you try

618
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 5: and you try and you fail.

619
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Speaker 2: And I don't know.

620
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 5: Now I've finally made a lot of peace with that.

621
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:29,719
Speaker 5: I think for a while I was drinking about that.

622
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 5: I think for a while I was angry, and I

623
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:34,760
Speaker 5: think I got to a full point of just empathy

624
00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 5: that they weren't that generation too, like mental health was

625
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 5: not a thing for their generation, and just so many

626
00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:41,800
Speaker 5: different things.

627
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Speaker 1: It's just also a nice lesson to talk about and

628
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,439
Speaker 1: to think about, because you've got me thinking about all

629
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:50,440
Speaker 1: the different ways in which you can find parents in life.

630
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 1: It's so true and like mother's parents, like I feel

631
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 1: like I mother a lot of young people in my

632
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 1: life happily, Like I love it. I want to, you know,

633
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 1: like I want to be a big sister or however

634
00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: these girls in my life see me, it's like I

635
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:06,400
Speaker 1: want to be there and like fill in the gaps

636
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:08,879
Speaker 1: because I know so many people who have parented me

637
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:11,679
Speaker 1: that are not my parents, and my siblings very much

638
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: so parented me growing up. And it's like it can

639
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,919
Speaker 1: come from anywhere, and it's very nice to be able

640
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,919
Speaker 1: to because it's such a struggle to let go of

641
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:24,199
Speaker 1: the expectation of your parents treating you the way that

642
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:27,199
Speaker 1: you see other parents treat their children in happy homes.

643
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 2: Speak that truth, Chelsea, It's very true.

644
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 5: I mean I think that I always describe it as

645
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,679
Speaker 5: a void that I eventually had to make friends with, right,

646
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 5: Like I think for so long it was this void

647
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 5: that I was trying to fill, and I was just

648
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:40,359
Speaker 5: trying to fill it and fill it and fill it,

649
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 5: but it was endless, you know, And eventually it was like, yes,

650
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 5: if right now I walked outside and I saw a

651
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 5: dad teaching his little girl on a bike, I'm going

652
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 5: to be like I was robbed of that.

653
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 2: I never got that.

654
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 5: There's still going to be moments where I'm aware of

655
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 5: that and the void. But I think that the peace

656
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 5: came from stopping trying to fill it, and you know,

657
00:25:57,840 --> 00:25:59,639
Speaker 5: being grateful for the things that I had in other

658
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 5: avae news and the people who did step in. Even

659
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 5: when you text me and you call me ooopsie or

660
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:07,199
Speaker 5: you call me Poopsie, and I know what that means

661
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:10,199
Speaker 5: to you. Like, I'm so grateful for all of the

662
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 5: people in my life who have stepped up and shown

663
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 5: me love and someone I can look up to, and

664
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Speaker 5: just family and just all the different things. You know,

665
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 5: I feel so blessed, and I always try to be

666
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 5: the poster child for that to like, you know, for

667
00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 5: the girls out there who are like I'm going no contact.

668
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 2: I'm like, you will find a new normal that fulfills you.

669
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Speaker 1: Yeah, what is one of the things that you've learned

670
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 1: about yourself that you're really proud of through getting sober, Like,

671
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 1: I'm sure you're really proud of that, right, Yeah.

672
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 5: And for so long I think I couldn't even I

673
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 5: was so self deprecating, and I think that a lot

674
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:45,840
Speaker 5: of times to the world wanted to be deprecating me.

675
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 5: The world wanted to be kind of saying these awful

676
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:49,639
Speaker 5: things about me. So I almost was living in this

677
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:51,159
Speaker 5: mindset where it's like, I'm going to get to it

678
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 5: before them, you know what I mean, I'm going to

679
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 5: get to the self deprecating punchline before them. And it

680
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 5: was it ended up obviously, and then with the drugs

681
00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:00,560
Speaker 5: and alcohol, all that's spiraling into a lot of self hatred.

682
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 5: And this is kind of the first time in my

683
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,439
Speaker 5: life where I'm like, I might still be a little messy,

684
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 5: but I can be a role model and I am

685
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,439
Speaker 5: proud of myself and I am resilient as fuck. And

686
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:12,959
Speaker 5: I did like build all of this for myself with

687
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:16,199
Speaker 5: no fucking help. I made it out of Yeah, I

688
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 5: was dealt the shittiest fucking hand ever.

689
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:19,679
Speaker 2: And you lived in Vegas growing up.

690
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 5: I knew the Texas old de Mans before I knew

691
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 5: the ABC's Like, come on, growing.

692
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 1: Up in Vegas is something that I find unfathomable. I

693
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,159
Speaker 1: read Andre Agassi's book. I don't know, have you read

694
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:32,239
Speaker 1: ever read that book? No, but I will now he

695
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:35,239
Speaker 1: grew up in Vegas, and I just I found that

696
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:39,479
Speaker 1: book to be so depressing, well on so many levels,

697
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: because his father forced him to be a tennis player

698
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:42,640
Speaker 1: when he didn't want to, and like bought a house

699
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 1: and build a tennis court in the back. But Vegas

700
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 1: just is like to me. And I guess, you know,

701
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 1: I don't live there, so I don't know, and I

702
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 1: can't speak from experience, but it just seems dire.

703
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 2: No, you hit the nail on the head, Chelsea.

704
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 5: I think by six years old, I was like, why

705
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,160
Speaker 5: the fuck are we raising kids here?

706
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

707
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 5: As a child, I was well aware because obviously there

708
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 5: are nice enclaves, right. There are the children who were

709
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 5: born in Summerland and they played tennis their whole life,

710
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:15,640
Speaker 5: and they'd go out to the desert and they went

711
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:17,120
Speaker 5: on family trips to California.

712
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:18,440
Speaker 2: I'm sure they had a great fucking life.

713
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 5: Okay, But the rest of us who were living in

714
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 5: poverty in Las Vegas.

715
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 2: It is dark. I think it's a city that.

716
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:28,360
Speaker 5: Runs on like sex and money and alcohol and all

717
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 5: of the dark things in the world. I think I

718
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:32,919
Speaker 5: really a lot of Even in writing my book right now,

719
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 5: I'm almost writing about how my morals were this reverse thing,

720
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 5: like I was taught horrible morals and I was taught

721
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 5: that like you get what you want by lying and

722
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 5: manipulating and scamming and like just all of these things,

723
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, and that addiction and substances

724
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 5: and that was all normal to cope and it was

725
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 5: almost My life has been this big thing of unlearning

726
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 5: what being brought up in that environment taught me.

727
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 1: I guess, did you have siblings?

728
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:02,480
Speaker 2: No? No, only child? More depressing, so depressing.

729
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 5: And that was That's why I'm so grateful for I'm Aarry,

730
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 5: my best friend, because you know, they he taught me

731
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 5: what a sibling is, and they taught me what sibling

732
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,160
Speaker 5: love is. And yeah, I imagine that my life would

733
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 5: be entirely different if I had a sibling, you know,

734
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 5: if I had someone to be like, are you fucking

735
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 5: seeing the shit?

736
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what the thing is about siblings.

737
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 1: I think and I still heard Gabor Matte or he's

738
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: this Canadian psychologist and he talks about like no two

739
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 1: siblings have the same experience, and I would argue against that,

740
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 1: like my brothers and sisters commiserate all the time about

741
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 1: what it was like. They're they're the only other people

742
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 1: that know exactly what it was like growing up in

743
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 1: my household, which was like we we all had a

744
00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 1: different set of parents because we were different ages, but

745
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 1: we all had the same set of circumstances. Yes, and

746
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 1: it was ridiculous, like you know, they didn't pick us

747
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: up they like they you know, there was never going

748
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 1: to be like breakfast on the table, yes, like you know,

749
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 1: there was just like everyone fend for yourself. And it's

750
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 1: a nice like it's a nice bond to know, you know,

751
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 1: because and also as we age, you kind of become

752
00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 1: the opposite or the same of what you grew up with.

753
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 1: Mine was immediately like I am, first of all, I

754
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,800
Speaker 1: need a housekeeper, like you guys are we need a

755
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 1: cleaning lady. We need a housekeeper, and I need her

756
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 1: to live with me, and you know what I mean,

757
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 1: Like that was the first thing that I needed. I

758
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 1: needed a brand new car because my dad was a

759
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 1: used car dealer. I'm like, I'll never driving a used

760
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 1: car once I have enough money. And it was just

761
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,200
Speaker 1: all the things that I found to be an ick

762
00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 1: were it.

763
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Speaker 5: Do you feel like some of your siblings ended up

764
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 5: being more similar my.

765
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: Sisters a little bit. Yeah.

766
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Speaker 2: I have two.

767
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Speaker 1: I have a brother and a sister who are a

768
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 1: little bit more like scrappy. You know, they're just kind

769
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 1: of like hustlers. I mean, we're all hustlers. I'm a

770
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,800
Speaker 1: hustler for sure, but they hustle in a way that

771
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 1: is just kind of like smacking things together and like

772
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 1: you know, on the move, kind of fast and loose.

773
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, I have that too, but I

774
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:53,239
Speaker 1: it's mine is a little bit more like I have

775
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 1: standards of operation, and they're up here, you know what

776
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 1: I mean. There's got to be a level of standard

777
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 1: of operation for me. Like I don't like anything below

778
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 1: that standard. But I love that, especially as I get older.

779
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't have time for that, you know

780
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 1: what I mean. I'm too fucking busy.

781
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 2: I don't have time for it.

782
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 5: And I have no problem saying I have no time

783
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 5: for it, but I think that if a man did it,

784
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 5: no one would blink. And you have been the person

785
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 5: that has spearheaded that. You've always been that way, you

786
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 5: know what I mean? You know what you want and

787
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 5: you're going to go get it and you're not going

788
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 5: to fucking apologize for it, which.

789
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 2: Right is so inspiring. It really is.

790
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 1: So what do you like when you think about this

791
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 1: new podcast and like, you know, like what what do

792
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 1: you have in mind?

793
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 2: Like what do you want to do? What do you

794
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 2: want to accomplish?

795
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 5: I think that calling it brand safe obviously there's some

796
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 5: irony there, like you're not safe, Yes, at all, no

797
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 5: one's safe. But at the same time, I am in

798
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 5: this new era where I care and sometimes I understand

799
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 5: that maybe I don't need to say the crazy thing

800
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 5: that's going to get me in a bunch of trouble.

801
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 5: And I'm you know what I mean, I'm working with

802
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 5: companies because they're less disgusted with associating with me, and

803
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 5: I think that what I want to do with brand Safe,

804
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 5: it really is I want to have a lot of

805
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 5: conversations that I've never gotten to have online. I want

806
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 5: people to almost feel like they're in my phone and

807
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 5: they're in my group chat. And while you are a

808
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 5: powerhouse and a celebrity and amazing and you are coming

809
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 5: on today as my first guest, I'm not just trying

810
00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 5: to have a bunch of back to back big names

811
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 5: and stuff I think I want to talk to almost

812
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 5: similar to life will be the Death of Me, the

813
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 5: way that you really dove into talking to like psychologists

814
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 5: and therapists and all those things.

815
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 2: I want to do that.

816
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 5: I want of my best friends on and I want

817
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 5: to just have the conversations that we have in bed

818
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 5: and just like bring people almost even closer into my life.

819
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 5: I've been filming a lot of them in Hawaii where

820
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 5: I'm just talking about childhood, talking about dating. It's almost

821
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 5: like I spent so much time gathering this lore and

822
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 5: falling down and now I finally have stood up, and

823
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 5: I want to use what I've learned to help the

824
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,719
Speaker 5: girlies know that they two can wake up one day

825
00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 5: and say I'm brand safe now, and they can wake

826
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 5: up one day and reinvent in any way they want,

827
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:58,160
Speaker 5: even if people perceive them differently, like that, you can

828
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 5: carve out your own path and I'm so brand safe now.

829
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, that's so true. We have so many similarities

830
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:07,560
Speaker 1: in our like, you know, direction trajectory, that's the word.

831
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: That's the word that could replace journey. Trajectory is yeah,

832
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 1: that's better. That's better because we are we have like

833
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 1: it's very analogous, like the partying da da DA, realizing

834
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: how you're coming across, feeling a little bit harsh about

835
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 1: how you come across, feeling a little bit like, Okay,

836
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 1: maybe I need to like pump the brakes on this.

837
00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 1: Like I totally relate to all of that, and I

838
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 1: think that's a very natural thing for anybody in their

839
00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 1: twenties and thirties to be thinking about, you know, and

840
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: to see people on the other side of it, and

841
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 1: to see people like going through the pain of it's

842
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,360
Speaker 1: not a breakup with yourself, because it's a different version

843
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 1: of yourself, but in a sense, you are kind of

844
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 1: breaking with your past. And some people will get uncomfortable

845
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 1: with that, you know, some fans get uncomfortable with that.

846
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 1: I was just at this dinner the other night and

847
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:55,719
Speaker 1: as this woman who's pretty famous producer, she came up

848
00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 1: to me at this dinner and I've known her over

849
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 1: the years. We've always been cordial and whatever. But I

850
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 1: don't know her well, and she came up to me

851
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 1: and she sat down next to me, and she's like,

852
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 1: I just want to let you know that, like I

853
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 1: have seen so many changes in you over the course

854
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 1: of like the last five ten years.

855
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 2: She goes, it's really beautiful, Like.

856
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:14,719
Speaker 1: You've really come into your own and you're just like

857
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 1: a total solid, like sister woman. I know we have

858
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 1: a ton of mutual friends, and I just know, like

859
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 1: I used to be scared of you. This is a

860
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 1: woman who like runs Hollywood, by the way. So the

861
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,439
Speaker 1: fact that she's telling me she used to be scared

862
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,160
Speaker 1: of me, I'm like, what are you fucking talking about it?

863
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,319
Speaker 1: How She's like, she's like, but I used to be

864
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 1: just you were just not you know, like not not

865
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 1: easy to be around. Or it's like I was scared

866
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 1: to be around you. Not scared of you, but like

867
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:37,919
Speaker 1: scared to be around you.

868
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 2: Unsafe.

869
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: Maybe I have heard that before. People are like I

870
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 1: feel unsafe around Chelsey. Yes, I'm like, what do you

871
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 1: think I'm gonna do? And they're like, we don't know

872
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 1: why you're gonna do that's what that's what's so scary.

873
00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:52,439
Speaker 2: I couldn't relate more. And it is Yeah, it's really nice.

874
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 5: I feel like I've been getting a lot of that

875
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 5: lately too, And you're right, it's not it's not a breakup,

876
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:58,319
Speaker 5: but it is. It is a rebirth, and I was

877
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 5: I was equating it, this is so whole for me,

878
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 5: but like I felt like I was like a crab

879
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 5: who like lost this shell. It doesn't fit anymore, and

880
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,720
Speaker 5: I'm like kind of looking for my new one that fits,

881
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 5: you know.

882
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 1: And then that transitional period in between those two it

883
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 1: can be really naked. Yeah, it's quite uncomfortable because you're

884
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 1: kind of trying on your different versions of yourself. As

885
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: I've said before that and you're like does anyone do

886
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 1: I like me?

887
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 3: Yes?

888
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 1: And and then there's a period also of self consciousness

889
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 1: that I had never experienced before therapy. I became super

890
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 1: self conscious for about four three to four years, and

891
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 1: I didn't like that feeling at all relate and I

892
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,560
Speaker 1: was like is this how I am now? And it's

893
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 1: it finally subsided, it went away. I am all longer

894
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 1: self conscious because I was like, shit, I don't like this.

895
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 1: And this is how most people, I think feel, you know,

896
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 1: when people always say like why are you so confident?

897
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know, I'm just this way. I

898
00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 1: don't have like an elixir, but I mean I can

899
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 1: try and help you. But when I felt that way

900
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:03,359
Speaker 1: for a few years, I was like, oh, this isn't

901
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 1: this is an uncomfortable feeling.

902
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it was.

903
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 1: Second guessing your interactions and thinking overthinking about what you said, yes,

904
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,480
Speaker 1: how you said it, Whereas before I would just say

905
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 1: something and fucking forget about it for two years and

906
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:16,760
Speaker 1: then find out five years later I totally offended somebody.

907
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:17,240
Speaker 2: Chelsey.

908
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 5: I literally I couldn't agree with something more because I

909
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 5: was like, I think I lived my life up until

910
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:24,840
Speaker 5: the past three years not even knowing what the word

911
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:27,880
Speaker 5: anxiety meant, and like sometimes I will look back and

912
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 5: almost romanticize that. You know, it's like it's awful and

913
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 5: you are making reparations forever and you're saying all the

914
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 5: crazy things and stuff. But anxiety and I had never met,

915
00:36:37,080 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. I was just living no

916
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 5: holds barred, going one hundred miles per hour. It didn't

917
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 5: fucking matter who I pissed off. It didn't fucking matter

918
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 5: what I said, Like either I'd drink it away or

919
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 5: I would just keep doing it. It didn't matter. And then

920
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 5: it was like almost across this transitional phase, I did

921
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 5: start to be like, oh my god, I need to

922
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,839
Speaker 5: think before I speak, and then almost overcorrecting. I think

923
00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 5: there was a second where I swung the pendulum so

924
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 5: far and I'm like, Okay, I'm acting like fucking mother Mary,

925
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 5: Like I don't.

926
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 2: It doesn't need to be that, you know what I mean.

927
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:07,319
Speaker 5: You you are opinionated and you are loud, and it's

928
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 5: like it's finding this this middle ground and there is

929
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 5: a lot of anxiety and perception and thinking about all

930
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 5: of your past selves and like I guess almost regret

931
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 5: as well, Like it's it's balancing all these things out,

932
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 5: you know, and it's it is an anxious period.

933
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 2: But yeah, yeah, I love that. I love that.

934
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna take a break and we'll be right back.

935
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 2: With Tana manjur.

936
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:37,800
Speaker 1: And we're back, you guys, with Tana Manzo perfect.

937
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 5: It honestly makes me so uncomfortable, like because I'm so

938
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:41,880
Speaker 5: even in Vegas.

939
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 2: You're like, Tana, get over here, and I just I

940
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:47,240
Speaker 2: can't wait to unpack that trip on my pod.

941
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 1: That was when I met Cowboy, so That's what I

942
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 1: wanted to know, is if it was that trip or

943
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 1: the trip after. It was the trip you were you

944
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:58,720
Speaker 1: because you we stayed the night after, remember Mike Karen,

945
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 1: my assistant, was with us, and that whole group of

946
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:04,880
Speaker 1: girls and we went yeah, and then we went to Alana.

947
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,800
Speaker 1: And then after Alanis, I went back to the casino

948
00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 1: because all those girls had lost my money.

949
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:10,640
Speaker 2: I lost like three.

950
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 1: Grand I lost your money. That's okay, but I that's

951
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 1: what it's for. And then I came back the next night.

952
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:17,879
Speaker 1: I was like, let me go win that money back.

953
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,000
Speaker 1: I know I can win. And so I went back

954
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:22,359
Speaker 1: with my friend Terrence from New York. And you met

955
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:23,920
Speaker 1: Terrence too, right, Yeah?

956
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:27,319
Speaker 5: And was Terrence the guy you were absolutely hazing. You

957
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,600
Speaker 5: kept telling him to get up because he was bad luck.

958
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 5: Oh no, that was someone else, like this moor Man

959
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 5: just trying to gamble on.

960
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 2: Chelsea's like, get the fuck out of my face. Someone

961
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:39,439
Speaker 2: else needed to be in your fucking seat.

962
00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:42,919
Speaker 5: But also you have this like cunty power where when

963
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:45,960
Speaker 5: you're not the person being hazed by her, you're like, oh.

964
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:48,359
Speaker 2: My god, you feel like her little teacup jama. You're like, yeah,

965
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:48,799
Speaker 2: I get him.

966
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 1: He was throwing the table off. It wasn't Terrence. I

967
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 1: don't think it was some other guy, but I can't

968
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 1: remember who it was. But he was throwing the table

969
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:56,279
Speaker 1: off because he didn't know how to gamble, and I

970
00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 1: was like, just get out of here.

971
00:38:57,760 --> 00:38:58,320
Speaker 2: So funny.

972
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,320
Speaker 1: But the next night when I did that was the

973
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 1: night I met cowboys. So you were there, So you

974
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:04,480
Speaker 1: were there with me, so your energy helped me.

975
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 5: That made my cowboys so fucking happy. I want to

976
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:09,320
Speaker 5: hear all about this. Do you guys are very cute,

977
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:11,839
Speaker 5: by the way, Thank you. Like just such an attractive

978
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:12,760
Speaker 5: couple together.

979
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,680
Speaker 1: I should have seen us an issemble together everyone.

980
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 2: We would walk down the street and people would be.

981
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 1: Like, Hollywood, Hollywood. They don't they don't have that accent,

982
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 1: but they were screaming Hollywood, and I was like, god,

983
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 1: we really stand out like two sort of thumbs. And

984
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:27,360
Speaker 1: it's like, well, because no one is blonde there, you

985
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 1: know what I mean?

986
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 2: Is here to stay?

987
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 1: No, I don't think anyone is here to stay.

988
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,439
Speaker 5: But I assume that he is a man who kind

989
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 5: of owns that and like knows.

990
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:38,399
Speaker 2: Knows how you operate, and is.

991
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's definitely seeing how I operate, and he knows

992
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: it could be over in a second.

993
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,840
Speaker 5: But I think I think that's hot too, when someone

994
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 5: can kind of be like I know that, but I'm

995
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 5: here for the ride exactly, and I'm down. And I mean,

996
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 5: I always ask you about this, like we know that

997
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 5: you I don't know. I don't want to say you

998
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 5: don't love not monogamy, but like you're not looking for

999
00:39:57,680 --> 00:39:59,120
Speaker 5: like long term, forever partner.

1000
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm to post a monogamy, like if I'm

1001
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 1: in a relationship, it's not like I'm having If I'm

1002
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,400
Speaker 1: in a relationship that's defined as a relationship, like we're

1003
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 1: seeing each other. Yeah, it's not like I have to

1004
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:10,879
Speaker 1: go fuck a bunch of other guys. But if I'm

1005
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:15,080
Speaker 1: casually sauntering throughout the world and meeting people in different places,

1006
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: those aren't relationships. Those are casual encounters. And where if

1007
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 1: I see somebody a couple, cowboy, cowboy, I'm seeing cowboy

1008
00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 1: right now.

1009
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 2: That's exclusive.

1010
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: But but I mean that's about all I can really

1011
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:29,720
Speaker 1: fucking handle. And it's long distance, which is my favorite.

1012
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 1: I like long distance. Yeah you need distance, Yeah I

1013
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 1: need distance, and everyone needs distance from me as well.

1014
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 1: When I'm working, and when I'm here in town, I don't.

1015
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 1: I don't have time for any fucking distraction.

1016
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:40,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, I really don't.

1017
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 1: I just want to hit the ground running, get all

1018
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 1: my ship in a row so that I can go.

1019
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:47,239
Speaker 2: And relax where at some point he lives in Florida.

1020
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,919
Speaker 2: No shit, A big problem? And why have you gone

1021
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 2: to Florida?

1022
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 5: No do you think across the duration of this relationship

1023
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 5: you will.

1024
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 2: Even ever set foot in his parts? It's unlikely, but possible.

1025
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 2: Is it like a Tampa like sad Sad? Or I

1026
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 2: don't want to say.

1027
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 1: I don't even want to say where it is.

1028
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:06,800
Speaker 2: I don't love Florida.

1029
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:09,799
Speaker 1: My feelings about Florida have nothing to do with Floridians.

1030
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:11,840
Speaker 1: They have to do with the politics of the state.

1031
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 1: And for some reason, even though there are states that

1032
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 1: are commensurate or worse than Florida, Florida sticks out to

1033
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 1: be like a sore thumb or of just dysfunction. They're

1034
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 1: burning books. I hate all that shit. I hate the politics.

1035
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:28,840
Speaker 1: I hate DeSantis, Texas. I feel like is a hopeful

1036
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 1: place like Texas. I feel like we can flip at

1037
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 1: some point, and that's why I still fuck with Texas.

1038
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 2: Now Florida's staying the same.

1039
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: Florida is just not open carry. I don't like that.

1040
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 2: I don't like.

1041
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just even the Miami of it all, like

1042
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 5: those people, those men especially like it is just it's

1043
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:48,919
Speaker 5: lawless in the worst way.

1044
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:49,879
Speaker 2: What about your guy?

1045
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:50,840
Speaker 1: Is he permanent?

1046
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 2: Is it what permanent?

1047
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 4: Like?

1048
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:53,320
Speaker 1: Aren't you engaged?

1049
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 2: I'm not engaged.

1050
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:55,760
Speaker 1: Would you get engaged?

1051
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 2: I would get engaged. He's pretty permanent to me, Yes,

1052
00:41:59,080 --> 00:41:59,360
Speaker 2: he is.

1053
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 5: Honestly, I think that I used to very much so

1054
00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 5: be a grass as always greener type of girl, one

1055
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:06,759
Speaker 5: foot in the door, one foot out the door with

1056
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 5: a lot of people. And when I really look at him,

1057
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 5: when I really put it all out on paper, and

1058
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,600
Speaker 5: lord knows, I have like I'm making a vent diagram.

1059
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 5: I'm trying to convince myself and like whatever, when I

1060
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 5: really put it all out there, I don't think I

1061
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,319
Speaker 5: would ever find anyone better. And I think that that's like,

1062
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:23,359
Speaker 5: that's what it is for me, you know what I mean.

1063
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 5: I'm like, you're the best, and I fucking love you.

1064
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 1: And so do you think you'll get married?

1065
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:31,439
Speaker 2: Honestly, yes, I think that it'll be Tanna style. It'll

1066
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:33,720
Speaker 2: be like a Vegas and I have to be the wedding.

1067
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:35,760
Speaker 2: I would be so excited.

1068
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 5: I think I'll invite you to the Hawaii one because

1069
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 5: I think the Vegas one would just gross you out. Yeah,

1070
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:41,280
Speaker 5: I think so, it would make you really sad.

1071
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, my actions across all it's like, Okay, we just.

1072
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 2: Got married, can we go gamble? Like that's going to

1073
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 2: be my energy for that one.

1074
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 1: Well, that's fine, I'm come for the gambling party. Yeah, okay,

1075
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 1: Well that's really sweet.

1076
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 2: I'm happy for you. I'm happy for you, and we'll

1077
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:54,440
Speaker 2: thank you.

1078
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,399
Speaker 5: And I feel like, even just see you've been sending

1079
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,120
Speaker 5: me so many cute photos of you guys and stuff,

1080
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 5: you're very like proud of this relationship, which I love

1081
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 5: to see.

1082
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,560
Speaker 1: Well, I like to be representative of what I like

1083
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:06,400
Speaker 1: to be honest about what's happening in my life. So like,

1084
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:10,360
Speaker 1: I didn't hard launch a relationship. I just was throwing

1085
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 1: in pictures of him in my carousels because that's somebody

1086
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,440
Speaker 1: I was spending a lot of time with. So I

1087
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 1: also find it weird when like you, you know, like

1088
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:19,759
Speaker 1: to go on a trip with somebody for two weeks

1089
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 1: and then post twenty pictures of yourself alone without the

1090
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 1: person as kind of a big fuck you. Yeah, you

1091
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:27,239
Speaker 1: know what I mean, And so like I don't. I'm

1092
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: not trying to. Like people are like, we didn't you

1093
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 1: learn your lesson with Joe Koit? No, I didn't learn

1094
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 1: my lesson because I'm gonna be honest about my life.

1095
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:35,040
Speaker 2: I love that as well.

1096
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 1: I think care if we break up, that's then we

1097
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 1: break up.

1098
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't matter about you know what I mean.

1099
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 5: I really like that energy. I feel like I see

1100
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 5: a lot in this space. People have one bad public

1101
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,439
Speaker 5: or not even bad just public breakup and they write

1102
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 5: it all off forever, and it's like, I don't know,

1103
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:51,840
Speaker 5: I could never do that. So I guess I resonate

1104
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,280
Speaker 5: more with your side, Like I'm I suck at keeping

1105
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 5: things to myself.

1106
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm not.

1107
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 1: I don't take things so seriously that I can't share them. Yeah,

1108
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 1: it's a relationship. It's like it may last, it may not,

1109
00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 1: who knows, we'll find out.

1110
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:05,960
Speaker 2: What do you like the most about him? It's like,

1111
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 2: what is He has a great voice and I love that.

1112
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 1: I like a real strong haven't you met him?

1113
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:15,959
Speaker 2: No? No, not yet?

1114
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 1: Okay to know each other too off the internet Chocolate

1115
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:20,320
Speaker 1: Singles dot Com.

1116
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 2: I love that. Yeah, we were both looking for a

1117
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:26,360
Speaker 2: black man. I'm going to tell people that's where we met. Honestly. Yeah,

1118
00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 2: they probably believe you.

1119
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 1: Yeah what we're saying. Oh what I like about it?

1120
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I don't know. There's a lot

1121
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 1: of alike about him. He's very gentle, He's a gentleman,

1122
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:40,800
Speaker 1: and I was like, I was pretty grossed out by men.

1123
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,640
Speaker 1: I have to say straight men general have been pretty

1124
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 1: disappointing of late, and this whole political backdrop is just

1125
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 1: representative of where men have fallen short by not protecting

1126
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 1: our rights, not protecting the people's like, you know, rights

1127
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: that don't impact them directly, LGBTQ, trans, black, you know,

1128
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:00,319
Speaker 1: people of color, like white guys just seem to not

1129
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 1: know how to like organize on behalf of other people. Yes,

1130
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 1: because their rights are never really infringed to and you're

1131
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:11,759
Speaker 1: like hello. So it was very refreshing for me to

1132
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:13,960
Speaker 1: meet a man that saw me and I was a

1133
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 1: hot mess the night he saw me too. I was

1134
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 1: stoned and drunk and gambling and running that table like there.

1135
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 1: When we left there, there was a line waiting at

1136
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 1: that blackjack table because we had turned it into a

1137
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 1: fucking gold mine and I was betting. I was splitting

1138
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: twos against the king and winning.

1139
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 2: I was like, watch this.

1140
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 5: And the attitude you get, it's a birthday attitude Kimmel.

1141
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 1: And he was saying I was telling him the story

1142
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:38,959
Speaker 1: because he didn't know I, you know, I was seeing someone.

1143
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 1: And then it came up about the trouples. He's like,

1144
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 1: could you go away with And I told him the

1145
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 1: story about how I met him, and he was, you

1146
00:45:43,719 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 1: honestly sound like James Bond. He's like, you sound like

1147
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: a female James Bond. And I was like, that's you

1148
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 1: are fucking funny. But yeah, I like that. He can

1149
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: take it because it's a lot.

1150
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 2: I'm a lot.

1151
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:58,040
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm like, you like, good good luck. If

1152
00:45:58,080 --> 00:45:59,960
Speaker 1: I agree with that, good fucking luck.

1153
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 5: And I think I don't know if you ever, I

1154
00:46:02,160 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 5: don't know if you relate to this one. Like a

1155
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 5: lot of times in relationships, I was trying to be

1156
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 5: a little bit different or just like maybe dial it

1157
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 5: back a little bit. And then it was like, this

1158
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 5: person is not falling in love with me. And then

1159
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 5: it's like I'm presenting them for that, But I caused.

1160
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:18,919
Speaker 1: That, And I hate being fraudulent, like I when I'm

1161
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 1: not real, I'm like, you're gross. Like I hate the

1162
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:26,279
Speaker 1: fake voice, I hate fake enthusiasm. I hate I just

1163
00:46:26,320 --> 00:46:28,920
Speaker 1: want to be real and like, so it's nice to

1164
00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 1: be with someone and be real, Like, yeah, I'm a

1165
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: bitch too.

1166
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 2: Yes, Also I know that they they're in it for

1167
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 2: all of that, you know, Moody.

1168
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:38,319
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's gonna be good and sometimes it's gonna not

1169
00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 1: be great. So that's important to cow boy. Yeah, kidding up,

1170
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 1: all right, So let's get to the advice.

1171
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm dope.

1172
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:51,960
Speaker 3: Our first question comes from Naomi, and she says, Zomy Campbell,

1173
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 3: it is in fact asking for advice.

1174
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 2: She always needs some help.

1175
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,799
Speaker 3: So she is thirty two and says, dear Chelsea. Late

1176
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 3: last year, I underwent full nasal reconstruction to correct poor

1177
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:06,040
Speaker 3: technique from my previous nose job. Leading up to the surgery,

1178
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:08,719
Speaker 3: I was very sexually active, driven by a place of

1179
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 3: scarcity and a fear of being alone. As a trans woman,

1180
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 3: I've grown accustomed to the mindset that I'm only valued

1181
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 3: for sex and that love is scarce due to the

1182
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 3: discrimination women like myself often experience.

1183
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 2: I can't recall the last time.

1184
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 3: I chose a period of abstinence to focus on myself,

1185
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:25,840
Speaker 3: but I feel that this healing period is the right time.

1186
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 3: I found myself falling into promiscuity as part of my

1187
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:32,360
Speaker 3: identity due to a deep need for intimacy in the past.

1188
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:34,759
Speaker 3: This has also led me to endure toxic men, yet

1189
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:35,840
Speaker 3: I continued.

1190
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:38,320
Speaker 2: To pursue them. My question for you is this, how.

1191
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 3: Do you cope with loneliness when you choose abstinence to

1192
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:43,760
Speaker 3: focus on self healing? What benefits can come from taking

1193
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 3: a break from men to heal one's broken parts. It

1194
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 3: feels like it will take forever to heal, and I

1195
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 3: don't want to be alone. Please feel free to be

1196
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 3: direct and honest. Your insights mean a lot to me.

1197
00:47:52,280 --> 00:47:56,399
Speaker 3: With lots of love and a bandaged nose. Naomi, Hi, Naomi, Hi,

1198
00:47:56,680 --> 00:47:57,840
Speaker 3: how are you guys?

1199
00:47:58,040 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 2: We're great.

1200
00:47:58,680 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 1: This is Tantamajo.

1201
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 4: She's our special guest, Hianna.

1202
00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 2: First of all, I just want to say that you're fine.

1203
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 2: Normally I'm barking, so I'm coughing. That was also just

1204
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:13,840
Speaker 2: so profound, so well written.

1205
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 1: It was. I mean, first of all, I love that

1206
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:18,839
Speaker 1: you're thinking about all of these things because you have

1207
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 1: such a huge opportunity right now by taking a break

1208
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:26,120
Speaker 1: and being abstinate and actually like looking into yourself for

1209
00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:29,440
Speaker 1: self love, Like that is exactly what every woman should

1210
00:48:29,440 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 1: be doing at a certain point in her life. And

1211
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:34,279
Speaker 1: this is your point. This is a huge growth opportunity.

1212
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 1: You're gonna have like a really good time by yourself.

1213
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,840
Speaker 1: Being alone doesn't mean that you're lonely. You can start

1214
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 1: all these new like habits and patterns that are going

1215
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 1: to set you up for success for the rest of

1216
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:48,439
Speaker 1: your life. You know, you can wake up every day

1217
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 1: and first of all, you should be writing down what

1218
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 1: you're experiencing through this and writing down your commitment to yourself,

1219
00:48:54,440 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 1: reminding yourself each day, I am committed to being alone

1220
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 1: and providing myself with the love I need to be

1221
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:04,000
Speaker 1: a loving individual in a relationship in the future. That's

1222
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:06,920
Speaker 1: what you're doing. You're investing in yourself during this period

1223
00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 1: of time, and that's it is a completely winning situation

1224
00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 1: for you. Nobody's going to come in and fuck your

1225
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: shit up. You're there to like restore and like sanctify

1226
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 1: the person that you are so that you become a

1227
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 1: tree that no one is able to push around or

1228
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:23,479
Speaker 1: push over.

1229
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:24,479
Speaker 2: That's the goal.

1230
00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 5: You're also going to enter whatever does eventually happen next,

1231
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 5: you're going to say, as rising no, I'm not to enter.

1232
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:33,240
Speaker 5: This is a psychic grading.

1233
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 2: I'm not to enter, never will I ever.

1234
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 5: But you know, whatever you do eventually enter, you'll enter

1235
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:45,120
Speaker 5: as a completely different person, therefore attracting completely different people,

1236
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:49,400
Speaker 5: therefore garnering new experiences, hopefully more positive ones because of

1237
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:52,000
Speaker 5: all of the self work and the level of toleration

1238
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:53,839
Speaker 5: that you will now have. You know, you're not going

1239
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 5: to be so tolerant of people's bullshit or just wanting

1240
00:49:57,200 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 5: a sexual identity from you and stuff. I think that

1241
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 5: the tree analogy is Chelsea really hit the nail on

1242
00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:04,800
Speaker 5: the head there. You know you're going to be someone

1243
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 5: that no one can fuck with because of this period

1244
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:07,919
Speaker 5: of time.

1245
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 4: Thank you. I really appreciate that. It's really hard to

1246
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 4: cope with being lonely when you're like I said, when

1247
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:18,120
Speaker 4: you're trans and you want affection and love and then

1248
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 4: I don't know's it's difficult, you know what I mean?

1249
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:24,520
Speaker 1: I don't know what you mean because I'm not trans,

1250
00:50:24,560 --> 00:50:27,799
Speaker 1: but I understand the concept of loneliness. And I don't

1251
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:30,640
Speaker 1: want to pretend that I can experience what you've experienced,

1252
00:50:30,840 --> 00:50:33,000
Speaker 1: but I will say to you, like, you're not the

1253
00:50:33,040 --> 00:50:34,880
Speaker 1: only person that feels lonely.

1254
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 2: You're not alone, and I think that.

1255
00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:40,480
Speaker 1: You should a like what practices do you have set

1256
00:50:40,480 --> 00:50:43,080
Speaker 1: in place today? Like what do you journal? Do you

1257
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 1: have a gratitude journal? Like do you meditate?

1258
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 2: What do you do?

1259
00:50:46,840 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 4: I actually do stand up comedy to help I laugh

1260
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:51,919
Speaker 4: at myself all the time. I say, having a noose

1261
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 4: job is a Jewish rite of passage. And you know,

1262
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 4: I'm able to find Catharsis in that. That's great whenever

1263
00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 4: I'm joking about like you know what I mean?

1264
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think you can add some things that's awesome.

1265
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 1: First of all, that's fucking hard to do stand up.

1266
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 1: It takes a lot of balls, I know. And Tanna,

1267
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 1: don't you do stand up too?

1268
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 2: I'm trying. I'm trying.

1269
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:15,720
Speaker 5: And even that's She's right, Like, you are doing something

1270
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:18,720
Speaker 5: that is so hard to do that so many people

1271
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:20,919
Speaker 5: can't do. And I hope that you start to find

1272
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:22,800
Speaker 5: community in that as well. And the amount of people

1273
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:25,239
Speaker 5: in the audience and stuff that just make you feel

1274
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 5: seen and are grateful that you're there because hearing you

1275
00:51:27,800 --> 00:51:29,440
Speaker 5: say I'm lonely, I also just want.

1276
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 2: To be like we are our words right.

1277
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:36,400
Speaker 5: And the more that you are driving home I'm lonely,

1278
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 5: I'm lonely, I'm lonely, of course you are believing that

1279
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:42,120
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, Whereas Chelsea has such a

1280
00:51:42,120 --> 00:51:44,280
Speaker 5: good point where it's like, this might be a period

1281
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 5: of your life that you are navigating more alone than

1282
00:51:46,680 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 5: you've ever navigated any other period of your life, but

1283
00:51:49,440 --> 00:51:52,399
Speaker 5: you're also filling your time in such a good way.

1284
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 5: You're also filling your time with the passion that you have,

1285
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 5: and you're also like maybe trying to make friends in

1286
00:51:57,080 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 5: that community, and you know, putting forth actions to build

1287
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:03,280
Speaker 5: a future for yourself where you feel less alone.

1288
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:05,360
Speaker 2: And I think the second you stop saying I'm.

1289
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:07,239
Speaker 5: Lonely, I'm lonely, I'm lonely, and you start saying like,

1290
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:09,839
Speaker 5: I'm a fucking powerhouse. I don't need anybody, but I'm

1291
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:12,240
Speaker 5: going out to do my own thing and I'm building

1292
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:15,280
Speaker 5: a less lonely life for myself, You'll start to believe

1293
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 5: that more and more, Like unfortunately, some periods of our

1294
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 5: life are kind of lying to ourselves.

1295
00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:20,360
Speaker 1: I think that's it.

1296
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 2: I think that's great.

1297
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:24,160
Speaker 1: What she just said is so beautiful. You are building

1298
00:52:24,560 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 1: a reservoir. Do you know the analogy that Brene Brown

1299
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:30,400
Speaker 1: talks about with the marble jar. She talks about friendships

1300
00:52:30,400 --> 00:52:32,960
Speaker 1: and like when you have a relationship with someone, like say,

1301
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 1: you know, me and my sister, we have so many

1302
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:38,000
Speaker 1: marbles in the marble jar that it would take something

1303
00:52:38,120 --> 00:52:42,279
Speaker 1: really crazy to take any marbles out. There's so many

1304
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 1: there that even if something terrible happened, only a couple

1305
00:52:45,800 --> 00:52:47,759
Speaker 1: marbles would be taken out, and I would it would

1306
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 1: still be forgivable, you know what I mean, Like we

1307
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:52,959
Speaker 1: would still be together because we've we've invested so much

1308
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 1: into each other. There's been so many exchange of marbles.

1309
00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:58,719
Speaker 1: I want you to like think of that about yourself,

1310
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:01,239
Speaker 1: Like every day that you spend alone, first of all,

1311
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 1: you should wake up and write down, I love myself.

1312
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 1: I am incredible, I am capable, I am building a

1313
00:53:08,160 --> 00:53:10,800
Speaker 1: better life for myself. I am going to be grateful

1314
00:53:10,800 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 1: for this time that I have alone, or I am grateful.

1315
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:16,319
Speaker 1: Just start saying it, like in the present, everything that

1316
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:19,319
Speaker 1: you're grateful for. And I have a gratitude journal in

1317
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:21,799
Speaker 1: my phone that pops up every morning and night. And

1318
00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:24,600
Speaker 1: sometimes I don't do it, but I usually do and

1319
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 1: it is a nice reset. It takes five minutes, but

1320
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,399
Speaker 1: it's a nice thing to write down three or four

1321
00:53:29,440 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 1: things that you're grateful for each day. To look outside

1322
00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 1: and be like, I'm grateful for the weather. I'm grateful

1323
00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:35,560
Speaker 1: for that tree that I get to look out out.

1324
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:37,560
Speaker 1: You know that's behind you. I don't know if that

1325
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:39,840
Speaker 1: is a tree or maybe that's your hair. I can't tell,

1326
00:53:40,080 --> 00:53:43,560
Speaker 1: but it's my hair. Oh, be grateful for your hair,

1327
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:46,760
Speaker 1: you know. Be grateful for all of the little things

1328
00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 1: that we don't kind of take into account. This is

1329
00:53:49,560 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 1: the part of like a human experience, is to really

1330
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 1: really focus on the stuff that you have the time

1331
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 1: to focus on the stuff that we don't pay attention

1332
00:53:58,520 --> 00:54:02,560
Speaker 1: to every day. So huge opportunity for you, Like this

1333
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 1: is beautiful and this can be transcendent for you. So

1334
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 1: I do want you to develop and like get into

1335
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 1: patterns that you aren't in yet. You know, I think

1336
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:13,920
Speaker 1: you should try to meditate. I think you should download

1337
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:17,640
Speaker 1: the comapp and just do five to ten minutes a morning.

1338
00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 1: Whether you like it or not just commit to it

1339
00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:23,400
Speaker 1: and do that for like at least thirty days and

1340
00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:26,160
Speaker 1: just see how you feel. Journal about it after. You

1341
00:54:26,160 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 1: don't have to sit there journaling for two hours every day,

1342
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:31,720
Speaker 1: but just say, Okay, I just meditated, I didn't feel anything.

1343
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:34,799
Speaker 1: I'm going to try again tomorrow. I just meditated. I

1344
00:54:34,840 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 1: still don't feel anything. I'm gonna try again whatever it is.

1345
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:40,439
Speaker 1: Or I just meditated, I felt something. I'm not sure

1346
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:42,960
Speaker 1: what I felt, but I'm gonna try again tomorrow. Start

1347
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:46,640
Speaker 1: to set patterns up for yourself. They may seem stupid

1348
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:49,880
Speaker 1: or trivial or like it's not gonna have an impact,

1349
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 1: or if you try it a couple times and you

1350
00:54:51,560 --> 00:54:55,040
Speaker 1: don't feel something significant, you're gonna get like, oh no,

1351
00:54:55,560 --> 00:54:57,960
Speaker 1: you need to commit to yourself right now, you know,

1352
00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:00,360
Speaker 1: Like I want you to do all of these new hows, rabbits,

1353
00:55:00,400 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 1: whatever three you choose, whether it's journaling, like do a

1354
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 1: gratitude thing in the morning, a meditation, and something at

1355
00:55:07,880 --> 00:55:10,240
Speaker 1: night where you're like, thank you so much for this day,

1356
00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 1: this is what I learned, this is something I want

1357
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:14,719
Speaker 1: to remember about today. That's one of the prompts in

1358
00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:17,040
Speaker 1: my gratitude journal says what is something you want to

1359
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:20,920
Speaker 1: remember for today. And I always make think, oh, yeah,

1360
00:55:20,960 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 1: show up you know whatever it is, like, yeah, I

1361
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:24,439
Speaker 1: showed up for this when I wasn't in the mood,

1362
00:55:24,520 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 1: or I removed myself from the situation when I wasn't

1363
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:29,840
Speaker 1: in the move, like something I learned that helped me today.

1364
00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:32,880
Speaker 1: Reading for me is always a good resetter. If I

1365
00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 1: could sit down and read for an hour, you know,

1366
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:37,919
Speaker 1: get some books and fucking read some books to get

1367
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:41,240
Speaker 1: yourself out of your own head and into someone else's story.

1368
00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 5: Also, I will just say, looking at you, you are

1369
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:46,840
Speaker 5: absolutely beautiful. Okay, you're already a new bitch with the

1370
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 5: new nose, okay, but you are You are genuinely about

1371
00:55:49,640 --> 00:55:52,839
Speaker 5: to be in so many ways. And like Chelsea said,

1372
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:55,960
Speaker 5: I can't relate to your scenario specifically, but what I

1373
00:55:56,000 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 5: will say is my best friend in the world, she's

1374
00:55:58,160 --> 00:56:00,319
Speaker 5: trans and I watched her go through something really really

1375
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:03,040
Speaker 5: similar to you, where she was kind of leaning into

1376
00:56:03,040 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 5: the promiscuous nature and then therefore she was attracting people

1377
00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:09,439
Speaker 5: who were only attracted to that, and she it felt

1378
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:12,520
Speaker 5: very transactional, and she was leaving these situations feeling either

1379
00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:13,359
Speaker 5: unsafe or.

1380
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:14,920
Speaker 2: Just lower about herself, et cetera.

1381
00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:17,080
Speaker 5: And then I watched her do the same thing where

1382
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 5: she was like, I'm cutting off anyone on this low

1383
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,520
Speaker 5: vibration who just wants me for this. I'm going to

1384
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:23,879
Speaker 5: be lonely until I have to be lonely. She worked

1385
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:26,160
Speaker 5: on her business. That's where the stand up comes in.

1386
00:56:26,239 --> 00:56:28,799
Speaker 5: She worked on thinks she was passionate about, and she

1387
00:56:29,040 --> 00:56:32,440
Speaker 5: met this man that I would die for. He is

1388
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:36,799
Speaker 5: so incredibly just kind, accepting, funny, smart, He's proud of

1389
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 5: her in every room.

1390
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:38,840
Speaker 2: And she never thought she would, you know.

1391
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:41,320
Speaker 5: And it was the second she became this person where

1392
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:45,040
Speaker 5: she believed she deserved that, and she set these boundaries

1393
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 5: in these standards there. It was all along, but she

1394
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,240
Speaker 5: was never going to attract that person on that low vibration,

1395
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:51,839
Speaker 5: you know. So I just want to say I've seen

1396
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 5: it personally and I believe in you to do it.

1397
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:55,359
Speaker 2: I really do.

1398
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 4: Thank you.

1399
00:56:56,360 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Okay, Naomi.

1400
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 4: So that doesn't mean I'm not going to have anything

1401
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:04,320
Speaker 4: like in the future, right, What do you mean.

1402
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:07,640
Speaker 3: Like like hookups and getting together with guys and girl,

1403
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:09,400
Speaker 3: you're about you're about.

1404
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:12,560
Speaker 2: To levitate in ways you never know? Are you kidding me? That,

1405
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 2: I think, and you'll see how much more fulfilling it is.

1406
00:57:15,520 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 5: I think I had a lot of transactional sex in

1407
00:57:17,360 --> 00:57:19,280
Speaker 5: my life as well. When I was finally like making

1408
00:57:19,320 --> 00:57:22,400
Speaker 5: love to someone and like knew that they cared about

1409
00:57:22,400 --> 00:57:25,000
Speaker 5: me more as more than just a set of holes,

1410
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:27,440
Speaker 5: I was like, Wow, this is this is amazing.

1411
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 1: I think that is the difference you go from fucking

1412
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 1: to making love, which is a kind of corny thing

1413
00:57:32,720 --> 00:57:33,800
Speaker 1: to say, but it's true.

1414
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 5: It's the worst thing ever to say. But also like

1415
00:57:35,640 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 5: you're levitating, like I promise.

1416
00:57:37,200 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you are, Like you are investing in this

1417
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 1: time that you're spending right now, You are investing in

1418
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:43,240
Speaker 1: your future self.

1419
00:57:43,360 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 5: And you start to look back at all the times

1420
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:48,320
Speaker 5: where you were just giving your energy away to these lizards,

1421
00:57:48,680 --> 00:57:51,200
Speaker 5: and you're like, oh my god, I'm so happy that

1422
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 5: I'm this energy exchange now is mutual and valid and

1423
00:57:55,080 --> 00:57:56,840
Speaker 5: I'm not going to look back one day with like

1424
00:57:56,920 --> 00:57:58,680
Speaker 5: disdain and disgust at it, you know.

1425
00:57:59,240 --> 00:58:00,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, Naomi.

1426
00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 3: I also want to say you have value for who

1427
00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:07,040
Speaker 3: you are, regardless of them placing value on you. You have

1428
00:58:07,200 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 3: value because of who you are. So I want you

1429
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:11,040
Speaker 3: to be telling yourself that as well.

1430
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:13,760
Speaker 4: Thank you guys so much. And Chelsea, I'll see you

1431
00:58:13,840 --> 00:58:15,720
Speaker 4: in Chicago and April. I'm so excited.

1432
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 1: Oh awesome, I love that.

1433
00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 2: Okay, great, I'll see you then You're gonna die. She's

1434
00:58:21,160 --> 00:58:24,280
Speaker 2: the best. Keep us posting. Okay, Naomi, thank you.

1435
00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:26,040
Speaker 4: I will thank you guys so much again.

1436
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:29,720
Speaker 1: Okay, love you, Naomi, Bye, gorgeous, Love you too, Tana,

1437
00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:33,600
Speaker 1: bye you. Okay, we're going to take a break and

1438
00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:40,040
Speaker 1: we'll be right back. Okay, and we're back with Dana.

1439
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:42,160
Speaker 2: Okay.

1440
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:46,040
Speaker 3: We have a question about putting your job to become

1441
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 3: an astrologer or threesomes.

1442
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:52,680
Speaker 2: I also pick all right this one.

1443
00:58:53,920 --> 00:58:57,440
Speaker 3: This one's just an email, But Natasha says, Dear Chelsea,

1444
00:58:57,960 --> 00:59:00,200
Speaker 3: I'm struggling a little with my desire for sex. My

1445
00:59:00,240 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 3: boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years,

1446
00:59:02,520 --> 00:59:05,200
Speaker 3: and while our relationship is amazing and that sex is great,

1447
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:08,160
Speaker 3: I find myself wanting it more often than he does. Recently,

1448
00:59:08,200 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 3: after kissing a few girls, I've been in the mood

1449
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,600
Speaker 3: for a threesome. I know my boyfriend is open to

1450
00:59:12,640 --> 00:59:15,000
Speaker 3: the idea, but I'm unsure the best approach regarding the

1451
00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:18,600
Speaker 3: person and setting. Should we consider someone unknown, like meeting

1452
00:59:18,760 --> 00:59:21,280
Speaker 3: someone on vacation, or is it better to choose someone

1453
00:59:21,320 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 3: we know, perhaps a neighbor or someone we meet at

1454
00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:26,600
Speaker 3: a bar in the city. I'm particularly concerned about finding

1455
00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:28,880
Speaker 3: a situation that won't jeopardize our relationship.

1456
00:59:29,360 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 1: Not a neighbor.

1457
00:59:30,200 --> 00:59:35,960
Speaker 2: I literally, you're gonna hate getting the mail. Any advice

1458
00:59:36,000 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 2: you could offer would be great, Natasha.

1459
00:59:37,840 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 1: I like threesomes too, and I think you should go

1460
00:59:40,640 --> 00:59:43,000
Speaker 1: and find someone at a bar and have it be

1461
00:59:43,080 --> 00:59:46,520
Speaker 1: like an anonymous person and just see if you're up

1462
00:59:46,520 --> 00:59:48,720
Speaker 1: for that, or like if they're up for that, you know,

1463
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:50,960
Speaker 1: and you guys have to like do that together so

1464
00:59:51,000 --> 00:59:53,600
Speaker 1: that there's trust and like understand what the situation is

1465
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:55,560
Speaker 1: before you go into it. Make sure that you guys

1466
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 1: are like spelling out the boundaries for each other.

1467
00:59:58,520 --> 01:00:01,640
Speaker 5: I also think the anonymity of the person kind of

1468
01:00:01,640 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 5: does create a more secure foundation. You always hear the

1469
01:00:04,200 --> 01:00:06,800
Speaker 5: stories of it being the neighbor and the coworker, and

1470
01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:09,120
Speaker 5: then there's problems and I'm not sitting here, I.

1471
01:00:09,120 --> 01:00:10,640
Speaker 2: Don't know your man. He might be amazing, you know

1472
01:00:10,680 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 2: what I.

1473
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:13,960
Speaker 5: Mean, But just still, I think that the safest route

1474
01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:16,760
Speaker 5: is the anonymity, right YEA yeah, yeah, yeah.

1475
01:00:16,600 --> 01:00:18,160
Speaker 2: Someone you never have to see again if you don't

1476
01:00:18,200 --> 01:00:19,480
Speaker 2: want to, Yes, exactly.

1477
01:00:19,520 --> 01:00:21,760
Speaker 1: And then you says, decide how you like that experience

1478
01:00:21,800 --> 01:00:23,400
Speaker 1: and what you learned from it together and if it

1479
01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:25,480
Speaker 1: was fulfilling or if it was just like a fantasy.

1480
01:00:25,760 --> 01:00:28,280
Speaker 1: But like, there's nothing wrong with the threesome, Like I

1481
01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 1: don't have any judgment towards.

1482
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 2: That, Like I get it, all right, go for it, Natasha.

1483
01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:35,200
Speaker 2: And it's also sexy, you know, it's kind of sexy. Yeah,

1484
01:00:35,240 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 2: and like that kind of it.

1485
01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:38,640
Speaker 5: There's no harm in trying something and then deciding that

1486
01:00:38,680 --> 01:00:40,000
Speaker 5: you don't like it. But the spelling out of the

1487
01:00:40,040 --> 01:00:41,880
Speaker 5: boundaries is also so important, you know.

1488
01:00:42,440 --> 01:00:45,840
Speaker 1: All right, Tana, I love you. Her new solo podcast

1489
01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:48,760
Speaker 1: is called Brand Safe. It'll be out when this is on.

1490
01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:51,600
Speaker 1: Please go listen to it. Where do people listen to it?

1491
01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:54,040
Speaker 5: YouTube, Spotify, Apple Music. It's going to be everywhere. And

1492
01:00:54,040 --> 01:00:55,840
Speaker 5: I'm so excited to have you on today. You were

1493
01:00:55,920 --> 01:00:56,720
Speaker 5: my first guests.

1494
01:00:56,840 --> 01:00:59,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, so here and we're going where are we going?

1495
01:01:00,480 --> 01:01:01,320
Speaker 2: I don't fucking know her?

1496
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:03,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe to be honest with you, Okay, look great.

1497
01:01:03,920 --> 01:01:06,000
Speaker 1: I love you and I'm so happy you're here and

1498
01:01:06,080 --> 01:01:08,720
Speaker 1: you were happy I met you in Burbanks even though

1499
01:01:08,760 --> 01:01:11,280
Speaker 1: I didn't meet Oh the best part about this story

1500
01:01:11,400 --> 01:01:16,320
Speaker 1: is I so we didn't even meet them, Yes, because

1501
01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:19,160
Speaker 1: we didn't even meet then because I got home. I

1502
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:22,120
Speaker 1: have a publicity team, a PR team, my favorite people

1503
01:01:22,120 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 1: in the fucking world. And Paul and Alec are two

1504
01:01:24,880 --> 01:01:27,440
Speaker 1: gay guys who work on my PR team. Gay is

1505
01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:29,800
Speaker 1: on a PR team, of course, and they're young, so

1506
01:01:29,800 --> 01:01:32,000
Speaker 1: they are always with it. They understand what's going on.

1507
01:01:32,040 --> 01:01:34,200
Speaker 1: And they were like, oh my god, this woman. You

1508
01:01:34,280 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 1: were posting stories about seeing me at the airport, and

1509
01:01:37,680 --> 01:01:40,720
Speaker 1: they're like, this girl Tanna, she's like a huge influencer, Chelsea.

1510
01:01:40,880 --> 01:01:43,760
Speaker 1: You would love her. She like loves you, and she's

1511
01:01:43,800 --> 01:01:48,320
Speaker 1: posting about you. She's crying, she's got hysterical. Because I made.

1512
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:49,320
Speaker 2: The biggest missa.

1513
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:52,000
Speaker 5: I ultimately decided because also I felt like it was

1514
01:01:52,040 --> 01:01:55,880
Speaker 5: so interesting just karmically universally. Our seats weren't like next

1515
01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:57,960
Speaker 5: to each other, like just we both booked them. And

1516
01:01:57,960 --> 01:01:59,880
Speaker 5: then like Chelsea's in the seat, I'm in the seat.

1517
01:02:00,040 --> 01:02:02,960
Speaker 5: It's a jet, sweet plane. We are like this Starbucks

1518
01:02:02,960 --> 01:02:04,720
Speaker 5: cup is what fits in between us, Like we are

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Speaker 5: so close in proximity, and then ultimately I decided I

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Speaker 5: feel like I parasocially know Chelsea Handler pretty well. I

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Speaker 5: know I don't think that she would live for this

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Speaker 5: that she was then she is like, yes, it's nighttime,

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Speaker 5: we're on this plane, like please bother me, Like I

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Speaker 5: know that, and I was like, if it's meant to be,

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Speaker 5: it will be. And then I went home and obviously

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Speaker 5: I can't shut my trap. So I made fifty tiktoks

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Speaker 5: about it because I thought that.

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Speaker 2: Would be the end of it.

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Speaker 5: My best friend even texted me on the way here

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Speaker 5: and he was just like, how cool is it that,

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Speaker 5: like go tell you on that plane that like you

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Speaker 5: would get to have a day like today. And I

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Speaker 5: appreciate you're a busy woman, You're a powerhouse. You don't

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Speaker 5: have to do the things you do. And I think

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Speaker 5: that's what makes it so special, is like knowing you

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Speaker 5: don't have to text me at three a I'm a

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Speaker 5: hilarious video.

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Speaker 2: About your day.

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Speaker 5: You don't have to, you know what I mean, give

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Speaker 5: me all this advice walking through life. You don't have

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Speaker 5: to have a whole podcast day with me, but you

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Speaker 5: do it anyways, and that's who you are.

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Speaker 1: So thank thank you, baby, thank you. Okay, that's enough.

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Speaker 1: That's enough about me.

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Speaker 3: If you want advice from Chelsea, write into Dear Chelsea

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Speaker 3: podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea is a production of iHeartMedia.

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Speaker 3: Follow Chelsea on all socials at Chelsea Handler, and find

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Speaker 3: Katherine on TikTok at Flashcadabra. Dear Chelsea is edited and

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Speaker 3: engineered by Brandon Dickert executive producer Katherine Law. Find full

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Speaker 3: video episodes and minisodes now on Netflix, and get tickets

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Speaker 3: to see Chelsea live at Chelseahandler dot com