WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Double Booked Dating Fail

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<v Speaker 1>The second date of day. Sometimes with a bad first date,

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<v Speaker 1>there's one moment that you can look back on and

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<v Speaker 1>say that was it, That was where I messed everything up? Yeah? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>For me, each date has about fourteen of those. Is

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<v Speaker 1>it when I did the full reenactment of the movie

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<v Speaker 1>Garden State?

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<v Speaker 2>Was that it's you?

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<v Speaker 1>Or was it when my zipper got caught in the

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<v Speaker 1>sushi conveyor belt?

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<v Speaker 3>How?

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<v Speaker 4>I still don't for some reason, why were.

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<v Speaker 1>You that close to the you know?

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<v Speaker 2>He too much?

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<v Speaker 5>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>One of our listeners says that she knows that she

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<v Speaker 1>made a huge mistake in one moment, and she's regretting

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<v Speaker 1>it today. That's why she's asking for our help. Her

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<v Speaker 1>name's Jessica. Jessica. Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey guys, Jessica.

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<v Speaker 2>Before you let us know, I just want to say,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes it's good to only have one giant bad thing

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<v Speaker 2>go wrong, because at least you can pinpoint what went wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, did you have a sushi conveyor belt incident too?

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<v Speaker 3>There was no sushie involved.

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<v Speaker 1>Good tragedy avoided. What what what happened with this guy?

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<v Speaker 1>What's his name?

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<v Speaker 3>So I went out with Vince?

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<v Speaker 6>Vince?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay?

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<v Speaker 4>And how do you know, Vince, how'd you guys meet?

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<v Speaker 3>It was online, so it was kind of, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>like a first sort of blind date online and it

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<v Speaker 3>was good. It was it was it was nice. We

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<v Speaker 3>had a really good vibe and all.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, well we'll play a song, we'll come back. We

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<v Speaker 1>should hear more about it, huh.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean were you were you shocked that it was

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<v Speaker 4>going that well?

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<v Speaker 3>I totally was. I you know, I had kind of

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<v Speaker 3>low expectations, but I don't know. He was just it

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<v Speaker 3>was humble and cool and fun and we're having a

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<v Speaker 3>good time. The problem is, so because I have these

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<v Speaker 3>low expectations, I kind of sort of accidentally double booked

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<v Speaker 3>myself that night.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh wait, like with another date or with a party

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<v Speaker 4>or something.

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<v Speaker 3>No, it was another date.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh girl like that, you have options? Why to the

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<v Speaker 4>same night.

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<v Speaker 3>I just figured we'd we'd eat and we're like, okay, thanks,

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<v Speaker 3>that was fine by and then that would be it.

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<v Speaker 3>Because that's kind of been my experience.

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<v Speaker 1>Was Vince aware that you had two dates going on

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<v Speaker 1>that night?

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<v Speaker 5>He was not?

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<v Speaker 3>Oka, he was not, And you know, looking back, I

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<v Speaker 3>mean that's the moment like I should have canceled, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>because I lost track of time. And when I realized

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<v Speaker 3>I was like twenty minutes away from the second date,

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<v Speaker 3>and I was like, oh shoot, so I had to

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<v Speaker 3>wrap things up really fast. He was like, oh, we're done,

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<v Speaker 3>and I was like, yeah, I'm so sorry. I gotta go,

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<v Speaker 3>and I then vote him some money for the like

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<v Speaker 3>half a bill, you know, because I didn't want it to

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<v Speaker 3>be like this good bye.

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<v Speaker 4>What did you actually leave before the bill came?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, like it had just gotten there.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but like you didn't let him like walk you

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<v Speaker 6>out to your car or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I had to run.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh man, oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just as a guy having to sit there and

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<v Speaker 1>watch your date like bolt on you.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, before you even finished like totally paying the bill

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<v Speaker 6>and then they veno you, which is feels it like

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<v Speaker 6>business trans actioning.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, Yeah. And I think I mean, I think you

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<v Speaker 3>could tell that something was going on because he was

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<v Speaker 3>asking me, are you okay? Like did I did I

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<v Speaker 3>do something? Or you know, when I was trying to

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<v Speaker 3>tell no, no, it's not you, You're great, this is good.

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<v Speaker 3>I just coming personal came up. I gotta I gotta run. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I would almost prefer a girl to

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<v Speaker 1>sneak out on me yeah, rather than like collect herself

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<v Speaker 1>frantically be like okay, sorry, I gotta go by No,

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<v Speaker 1>you just reschedule.

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<v Speaker 2>You should have been honest and you said, look, I

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<v Speaker 2>have something going on. I want to give you my

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<v Speaker 2>full attention. You know, it's like a job interview. You

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<v Speaker 2>don't want the person interviewing and being.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, Okay, just tell me about yourself real quick. I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta go. I gotta go ya. Based on your profile

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<v Speaker 1>picture and your interests, I had very very low expectations

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<v Speaker 1>into this. I never ever thought this was going to

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<v Speaker 1>go like this. But yeah, sorry bye.

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<v Speaker 6>And the thing is, I'm guessing the second date went

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<v Speaker 6>terribly because we're not calling the second date for a

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<v Speaker 6>second date update, we're calling the first dude.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, what happened with guy number two?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Guy number two was a no show?

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<v Speaker 6>It I bet you, I bet you felt I would

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<v Speaker 6>feel so foolish at that point.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I did. I waited an hour at the bar

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<v Speaker 3>for this guy, and I just felt like it was big,

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<v Speaker 3>it's full. And so after my hour of waiting, I

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<v Speaker 3>tested Vince and I was like, hey, so I cleared

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<v Speaker 3>that up. If you're still out, I'd love to hang

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<v Speaker 3>out some more kind of try to smooth it over,

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<v Speaker 3>and he texted me back lol.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, yeah he is, and that's all you guys

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<v Speaker 6>have talked since.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I tried texting him one other time and he didn't respond,

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<v Speaker 3>so I was like, Okay, I'm gonna leave it alone.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to pesture him, but I'm feeling really

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<v Speaker 3>really bad about it, and I you know, I'm hoping

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<v Speaker 3>it's something that I could kind of come back from.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. If you tell him the truth, it

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<v Speaker 2>makes you sound bad, like, hey, I'm only calling you

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<v Speaker 2>back because this guy stood me up or I would

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<v Speaker 2>have I beg you.

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<v Speaker 6>But you can explain it as like you made a mistake.

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<v Speaker 6>He's dating, like he gets it, like it's hard, it's

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<v Speaker 6>hard to make decisions. It always feels like the more

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<v Speaker 6>you date, the more options you'll have or something. I

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<v Speaker 6>don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want to date to leave me for another date.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean nobody would. Nobody would. But do we have

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<v Speaker 4>to tell him that part?

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's why we don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, I think we're going to go in planning

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<v Speaker 1>to not tell him yes, but you know what, if

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<v Speaker 1>it slips out, then it slips out. You do this.

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<v Speaker 4>Every once in a while. Somebody wants what they can't have.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and if he thinks that she's wanted by a

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<v Speaker 6>lot of other people, that's not necessarily to play some games.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe we should say it wasn't just one extra date.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it was twenty extra dates. And the other guys

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<v Speaker 1>could match up to Vince. Right, Convince was better than

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<v Speaker 1>all of them. We're going to play a song, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>come back, we'll call Vince and we'll try and get

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<v Speaker 1>your second date. Update. Okay, Jessica, all right, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>hold on.

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<v Speaker 5>Update.

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<v Speaker 1>The saying is nice guys finished last. Yeah, but that's

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<v Speaker 1>not always true. Sometimes they don't even get to finish

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<v Speaker 1>dinner before their date ducks out on you for a

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<v Speaker 1>hotter guy.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, go out.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry for the low blow there, Jessica, but that is

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<v Speaker 1>what she did to a great dude that she was

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<v Speaker 1>with named Vince. She had to leave early to go

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<v Speaker 1>meet up with another guy, and what happened? Other guy

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<v Speaker 1>no showed.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, anything is Jeffrey. If you liked Vince Moore, you

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<v Speaker 4>would have booked his date second.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 4>My initial like, you wouldn't have put him first.

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<v Speaker 1>It ended the night, no matter what. But she went

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<v Speaker 1>in with those low expectations. So, Jessica, I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to know we are going to try our very best here,

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<v Speaker 1>but even though we're enjoying ourselves, we have another phone

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<v Speaker 1>call book with a possibly better hotter listener in ten minutes,

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<v Speaker 1>So we're gonna trying to make this quick.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, all right, but really, really please if we can

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<v Speaker 3>not tell him about the other date.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, okay, so why did you leave? Then? I mean

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<v Speaker 4>we're gonna have to tell something.

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<v Speaker 3>Family emergency, right, like, admit, it's a family emergency and

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<v Speaker 3>we just met. He doesn't have to know those details.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, okay, well.

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<v Speaker 2>What what's the detail? Grandpa's sick?

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<v Speaker 4>Like she said, he didn't have to know the details.

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<v Speaker 4>He doesn't need What if he asks.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, oh my god, family emergency is everyone?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>What do we say?

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<v Speaker 4>Your business? Okay, talk about my family? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, all right, we'll.

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<v Speaker 6>Vague he's gonna Jessica.

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<v Speaker 5>All right, we're ready.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna dial Vince's phone number, try and get your

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<v Speaker 1>second date update. Here we go.

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<v Speaker 5>Hello, Hey is this Vince? This is him, this Evince.

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Jeff from a morning radio show called

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<v Speaker 1>Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. What's up, KNA was

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<v Speaker 1>awkward silence, I freaked out. Okay, we're all here.

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<v Speaker 5>What's going on, gred.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a segment, Yep, it is an awkward segment that

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<v Speaker 1>we do. It's called a second Date Update. We're calling

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<v Speaker 1>on behalf of one of our listeners who went out

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<v Speaker 1>on a date with you.

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<v Speaker 5>Her name's Jessicah, yeah, Jessica. Okay, hmm.

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<v Speaker 4>She really liked you, really? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, it doesn't seem like she liked you because

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<v Speaker 1>she left the date in such a hurry, but that's

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<v Speaker 1>just one of the things that she does when she

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<v Speaker 1>really likes the guy. She she gets nervous and panics.

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<v Speaker 4>And leaves freaked out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a problem.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh so, so she told you guys what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she gave us a little recap of it.

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<v Speaker 5>And she and she actually felt bad about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, I mean, she's she didn't want to have

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<v Speaker 1>to leave, but she didn't really have a choice.

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<v Speaker 2>Family emergency.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, Yeah, I don't know. I just kind of doubt

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<v Speaker 5>that's really the case.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, she texted you later, she said, just to

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<v Speaker 6>let you know that she was like still interested.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, yeah, she did text me later she wanted

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<v Speaker 5>to like me back.

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<v Speaker 1>Upright, and we heard you texted back kind of snarky,

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<v Speaker 1>just lol.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean I said that because she really seemed

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<v Speaker 5>like she had better things to do and she had

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<v Speaker 5>somewhere else more important to be. Like, we were having

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<v Speaker 5>a great time, we were eating, and she pretty much

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<v Speaker 5>ended it in the middle of us eating and left

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<v Speaker 5>the front.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's not really fair to her because it could

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<v Speaker 1>have been something that was totally out of her control.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh really, So, I mean, you guys talked to her,

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<v Speaker 5>So what did she say was out of her control?

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<v Speaker 6>She she know, she made a commitment that she had

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<v Speaker 6>to follow through on.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, okay, yeah, this sounds really general and vague, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>do you.

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<v Speaker 1>Have a problem with that.

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<v Speaker 4>Vague and aggressive?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, I just mean it's it's kind of

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<v Speaker 5>hard to believe considering the way that it sort of ended. Like,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, I just.

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<v Speaker 4>Feel like, so you say that you think she's lying.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well, I mean, this is the thing, like, and

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<v Speaker 5>you know, I'll be completely honest with you guys, but

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<v Speaker 5>I've had some trust issues from the past and everything.

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<v Speaker 5>When we were talking. Seemed pretty good the way that

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<v Speaker 5>everything sounded, and she seemed pretty straightforward, but my trust

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<v Speaker 5>issues kind of came into play, and I just wanted

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<v Speaker 5>to sort of see like where her head was at.

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<v Speaker 5>So I actually had one of my closest friends, who

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<v Speaker 5>is you know, he's basically a model when he is

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<v Speaker 5>a model and looks, you know, really good looking dude,

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<v Speaker 5>and so he actually matched with her, and I had

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<v Speaker 5>asked him, like, you know, why don't you schedule sort

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<v Speaker 5>of like a date for the same day.

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<v Speaker 1>WHOA.

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<v Speaker 5>I know this is crazy, and you know, I was

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<v Speaker 5>like putting it all out there, but this is kind

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<v Speaker 5>of why I feel so just really disappointed.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on, you already knew about the other date that

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<v Speaker 1>she had.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so he reached out and she already had a

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<v Speaker 5>date scheduled with me.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, kid, dude, you set a trap for her.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I didn't know that, to be honest, she would

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<v Speaker 5>be that thirsty to hop on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, if you had.

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<v Speaker 6>A model that matched with you and wanted to go

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<v Speaker 6>out the same night, you're not telling me that you

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<v Speaker 6>wouldn't book her.

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<v Speaker 5>Still, I actually would have just canceled the other date

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<v Speaker 5>and gone out with the models.

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<v Speaker 4>Are you two dates you wouldn't want.

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<v Speaker 5>To like, yeah, because then it kind of just felt

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<v Speaker 5>like a pity date.

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<v Speaker 3>You know. Yeah, I don't like.

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<v Speaker 4>This, that's low man.

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<v Speaker 6>I just think that you're missing an opportunity, like if

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<v Speaker 6>you could give her some grace here, like you may

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<v Speaker 6>actually find somebody who you really connect with.

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<v Speaker 5>And like, the reason why I put the test out

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<v Speaker 5>there was because she put on her profile, she's tired

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<v Speaker 5>of the game, she's looking for something really meaningful, and

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<v Speaker 5>I felt like we were aligning really well. I did,

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<v Speaker 5>and that was why I was like before I even

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<v Speaker 5>how serious are you? Or are you just another girl

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<v Speaker 5>who puts it on her profile but really just wants.

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<v Speaker 1>To you know, I feel like maybe there is some

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<v Speaker 1>truth to what she's saying there, because she clearly wants

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<v Speaker 1>to connect with you because she's actually on the other

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<v Speaker 1>line listening this entire time.

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<v Speaker 4>That doesn't help trust is shoes.

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<v Speaker 1>She wants to talk to you right now.

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<v Speaker 5>Man, Wait, she's listening to this whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, don't you trust her?

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<v Speaker 4>Now?

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<v Speaker 1>She's right there? Jessica, Hi, awkward?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh yeah, how's it going, Jessica.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh, not great. I feel really bad that I couldn't

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<v Speaker 3>figure out like what I needed to do in that

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<v Speaker 3>moment and make a better choice. But I feel really

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<v Speaker 3>bad for you and those trust issues and the mind games,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's wow, that's a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so much on both sides.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I think you both just hang up before we

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<v Speaker 2>even get into this.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just too much.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not embarrassed at all what I did. If anything,

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like it gave me clarity on sort of

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<v Speaker 5>what you're where you stand and what you're looking for.

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<v Speaker 5>And I mean, I get it, I get why you're

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<v Speaker 5>you're feeling bad, but like at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 5>like you could have easily just not gone on that date,

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<v Speaker 5>or you could have canceled it, whatever you chose to

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<v Speaker 5>do that that's totally fine. You were set up. I

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<v Speaker 5>know that's a little embarrassing, but I just like you

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<v Speaker 5>don't have to wait each time.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think that you can gauge in one date

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<v Speaker 3>like what someone's all about and if they're really serious,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I owe you nothing, But I feel bad that

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't make the choice because I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 3>wish i'd been more decisive, But I can be decisive

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<v Speaker 3>right now and tell you that absolutely, we don't need

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<v Speaker 3>to bother with it because that's my games.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not interested who you're already cutting it off now.

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<v Speaker 5>I could totally appreciate that, And to be honest, if

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<v Speaker 5>it wasn't for the fact that you texted me back

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<v Speaker 5>after you were stood up, asking to hang out again

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<v Speaker 5>like that same night, I totally have met up for

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<v Speaker 5>a second date, because you know, I just feel a

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<v Speaker 5>little about it. But the fact that you text me

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<v Speaker 5>back right away just kind of showed, like how it

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<v Speaker 5>felt that I was into you.

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<v Speaker 3>It said that I was into you. Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 3>I want to be the one not showing up. I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't want to be the no show because that sucks

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<v Speaker 3>and I know what that feels like. So for whoever

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<v Speaker 3>the other guy was, I didn't want to be that person.

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<v Speaker 3>And when he didn't show up, I was relieved and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, cool, maybe Vince is still down, Maybe

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<v Speaker 3>I can fix this.

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<v Speaker 2>You guys are both making it.

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<v Speaker 4>That's a valid point on Jessica's part.

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<v Speaker 5>I can see where she's coming from, and she's probably

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<v Speaker 5>obviously like like she said, not interested, but she is

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<v Speaker 5>totally fine. I honestly don't have any hard feelings toward her.

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<v Speaker 5>If I saw Jessica in the street and we said

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<v Speaker 5>hello and talked, great, it just.

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<v Speaker 4>Sounds a little aggressive stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>I should just go out and like let your guards

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<v Speaker 2>down a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Jessica, Are you're not going to apologize to Vince for

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<v Speaker 1>ditching out in the middle of the date?

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<v Speaker 6>Why was shell She ended the date, paid for half

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<v Speaker 6>the dinner like it was the end of it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not like she's left in the middle, like he

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<v Speaker 4>should apologize for her.

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<v Speaker 1>Vince did apologize. He was like, I'm sorry if I

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<v Speaker 1>set you up for the trap, but you were the

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<v Speaker 1>one that scheduled another date right after me. Oh, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not a real enough.

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<v Speaker 4>Ball at all. He said, I'm proud of what I did.

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<v Speaker 4>Who is this male model friend up to anyway?

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't heard of Jessica apologize once.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't feel like I need to apologize. I did

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<v Speaker 3>not lie to him. I told him I needed to go.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't owe him anything.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, it's not your it's not your fault, Jessica that

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<v Speaker 6>his friend was hotter and it wasn't.

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<v Speaker 4>Guys kidding.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like we're not going to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>get another date out of this. For anybody. But did

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<v Speaker 1>we at least learn an important life lesson from it all?

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<v Speaker 3>Yea online dating is a waste of time.

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<v Speaker 1>Close this show is a waste of time. But you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, thanks for.

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<v Speaker 4>Playing freaking Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, sometimes in these second date updates, you can

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<v Speaker 1>feel the ships start to sink and we can try

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<v Speaker 1>and bail it out and try and save it, or

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes there doesn't really matter. It's going full Titanic. This

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<v Speaker 1>is gonna sink no matter what, and we just have

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<v Speaker 1>to chalk it up to a bad day. That was

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<v Speaker 1>definitely this second date up day. Yeah, there is no chance, but.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm pretty sure she's going to hit up his hot

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<v Speaker 4>roommate again.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh you know, the buddy did him a favor for

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<v Speaker 6>a second.

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, I mean he didn't want a date, So.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean she's going to do that just to spite him.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe maybe it'll still be good for her.

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<v Speaker 1>She may even play the long game, like just marry

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<v Speaker 1>her friend, marry his friend, go all the way up

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<v Speaker 1>to there just to rub it in his face up

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<v Speaker 1>on the altar.

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<v Speaker 4>That's kind of weird. How specific you're thinking about.

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<v Speaker 1>Is the ship sinking?

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<v Speaker 4>Get off the ship?

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<v Speaker 1>Jeff, I'm jumping overboard anyway. If you ever want to

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<v Speaker 1>get a second date up date, you can always email

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<v Speaker 1>the show. We'll call the person who isn't calling you

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<v Speaker 1>back