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Speaker 1: First date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Jimma is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Antonio. Man,

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Speaker 2: I know that sucks. Antonio is one of those names.

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Speaker 2: Hello Streetard, you are so very lovely and I love

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Speaker 2: you so much? Was it Antonio? Benders Gema buy any chance?

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Speaker 2: No before we find out about this Antonio and here

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Speaker 2: date with him? How long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Antonio?

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Speaker 3: It's been almost two weeks. So have you tried to

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Speaker 3: reach out to him in that two weeks?

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Speaker 4: I didn't, you know, when we were on our date.

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Speaker 4: At the end of the date, I told him to

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Speaker 4: call me and he just never did. And you know,

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Speaker 4: I like some of his social media posts, but I

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Speaker 4: haven't texted him or you know, called.

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Speaker 3: Him or anything. Thought he was gonna call me, right,

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Speaker 3: So it's like the old nudge.

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Speaker 2: I just left your photo, bro, It's like a very

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Speaker 2: passive address on LAS.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, I'm just trying to get his attention.

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Speaker 2: Well, tell us about the date. What'd you guys do?

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Speaker 2: And why do you think you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 4: We went out for a top golf and cocktails, and

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Speaker 4: you know, we kind of sucked at the top golf.

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Speaker 5: We weren't that great at it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and we had.

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Speaker 3: A couple of cocktails.

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Speaker 4: We were both very flirtatious with each other, and we

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Speaker 4: laughed a lot, and he was complimenting me a lot,

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Speaker 4: and he made me feel really beautiful and attractive, and yeah,

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Speaker 4: I was really into him, really attracted to him too.

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Speaker 4: It seemed like we were both really into each other.

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Speaker 4: We made out for a while in the parking lot.

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Speaker 3: It was really nice, and.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we both said that we we like couldn't wait

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Speaker 4: to do it again and to see each other again soon.

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Speaker 3: What is it with Antonio? You know, it's like such

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Speaker 3: a romantic name too, you know, buy me a Moore?

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Speaker 2: Hello Life Forever.

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Speaker 3: So hey, Gemma, the date was great. So what do

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Speaker 3: you think went wrong? Was there anything that happened during

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Speaker 3: the date that may have been a flag to him?

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Speaker 4: I can't really think of anything that really went wrong

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Speaker 4: during the date. I don't know. The only thing that

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Speaker 4: I could really think of is that maybe I actually

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Speaker 4: played it too cool, that maybe it wasn't clear to

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Speaker 4: him that I was as into him as I actually was,

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Speaker 4: and you know, maybe I didn't flour enough with him. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: that's really the only thing I could think of.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's happened to me before, where somebody's played it

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Speaker 2: too cool because and I'm just like, wow, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: like I'm not going to chase like that.

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Speaker 3: So do you know they're playing it too cool or

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Speaker 3: do you think they're just into you? Say you're not

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Speaker 3: going to change.

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Speaker 2: I figured that they were just not into me, so

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Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, cool, I'll just move it along. Unlike

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Speaker 2: some people, some guys that I've seen, I won't send

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Speaker 2: fifteen messages in a row with no response, you know.

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Speaker 2: I do three, and then I'm like, okay, cool, I'm

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Speaker 2: not going to do it again, you know, right right?

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Speaker 2: But yeah, so maybe you played it too cool and

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Speaker 2: he just didn't think you were interested. But you did

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Speaker 2: say you can't wait to see him again and make

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Speaker 2: out with him at the end of me he did, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I did. Have you thought about just reaching out to him?

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Speaker 4: I have, But I have a thing where I do

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Speaker 4: prefer for the guy.

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Speaker 3: To reach out first. I get that.

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Speaker 4: It's like a thing for me, you know, like I

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Speaker 3: All right, that's kind of the clue that they're into you,

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Speaker 3: because like, if you're getting ghosted, mmm, okay, well we'll

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Speaker 3: see if we can help you out. We'll play a

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Speaker 3: song come Back and then call him and see if

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Speaker 3: we can figure out why you're getting ghosted and maybe

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Speaker 3: get you another date. Okay, okay, thanks, all right, well play.

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Speaker 2: Song come back to your first Night follow Up.

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Speaker 1: Next first Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first Day follow

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Speaker 2: up with Gemma is on the phone and she's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted by a guy named Antonio. Hello, sweetheart, and we're

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Speaker 2: about to call him and find out why she's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted and see if we can maybe get her another date. First,

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Speaker 2: before we call him, Gemma, please refresh everybody's memory on

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Speaker 2: your date with Antonio.

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Speaker 1: You are so very lovely. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So, Antonio and I went out for top golf and

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Speaker 4: cocktails and it went really well. I mean the top golf.

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Speaker 4: We thought that that, but besides that, the date went

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Speaker 4: really well. There was so much for chemistry and we

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Speaker 4: made out at the end of the day in the

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Speaker 4: parking lot, and we both said that we couldn't wait

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Speaker 4: to see each other again soon.

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Speaker 5: And it's been almost.

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Speaker 4: Two weeks and I haven't heard from him since, even

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Speaker 4: though I did.

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Speaker 5: Tell him to call me.

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Speaker 3: Mm hmmm, he hasn't.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, I've been wondering what's been going on with that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we'll call him right now and see if we

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Speaker 2: can figure it out. And once you hear the reason

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Speaker 2: that you're getting ghost and see if you want another date.

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Speaker 2: Are you ready?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I mean I know, I am. I get to knock

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Speaker 2: down Tonio.

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Speaker 3: Can't wait?

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Speaker 2: All right, here we go. I'm on a dollar phone number.

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Speaker 5: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Hi, MA, speak to Antonio Antonio. My name is Jubil. I.

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Speaker 2: It's the radio show and it's called the Jubile Show. Hi, Antonio,

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Speaker 2: I'm Naw's on this Jubil Show. Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of the Jubil Show before or

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Speaker 2: heard the show at all?

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Speaker 5: Vaguely? I heard? All right?

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Speaker 2: Cool, Well, somebody who does listen to our show emailed

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Speaker 2: us about you, and that's why we're calling you. Oh interesting,

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Speaker 2: super interesting. Do you want to know why? Of course

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Speaker 2: they emailed because we do a segment called the first

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Speaker 2: date follow up. That's where if you go out on

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Speaker 2: a date with someone and then you ghost them, that

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Speaker 2: person can email us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and find out why you're ghosting them. So we got

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Speaker 2: an email about you from a woman named Jemma that

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Speaker 2: you went to Top Golf with.

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Speaker 5: I know Jemma. I didn't ghost there.

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Speaker 3: You texted her back since the date? No, So so

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Speaker 3: what are you doing?

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Speaker 5: Bro? Is there is there a time limit to ghosting?

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Speaker 2: Well, when we talked to Jemma, she said your date

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Speaker 2: was like two weeks ago and you haven't reached out

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Speaker 2: to her, So that seems kind of long.

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Speaker 6: I've actually been very busy, even like I'm usually not

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Speaker 6: even that busy, but recently I've been very busy.

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Speaker 3: So have you thought about your makeout with Jemma since

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Speaker 3: that night?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Okay, it sounds like there's a reason and you don't

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Speaker 2: want to tell us, Antonio. Every single answer sounds like

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Speaker 5: There's nothing to not tell.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I'm if she was very interested in hearing

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Speaker 3: So do you feel like Jemma's not into you?

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Speaker 5: I think she I think she was, did.

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Speaker 3: You plan to reach out at all?

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Speaker 6: I mean, when I was going to be less busy.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it sounds like you're making it up.

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Speaker 3: He's busy right now.

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Speaker 5: I'm busy. Right now.

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Speaker 6: I can't even text her because I'm on a radio

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Speaker 2: We asked her if she had reached out to you.

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Speaker 2: She said no. She said she liked a couple of

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Speaker 2: your social media posts to kind of like wave her

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Speaker 3: But she also said, though, to call me, and you're

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Speaker 6: I think she said, call me if you want to

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Speaker 6: hang out again. And it's not that I wasn't going to.

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Speaker 6: I was just very busy. I want to hang out.

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Speaker 6: But okay, fine, I.

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Speaker 5: Do like her, but I just don't want to be

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Speaker 2: I knew there was something help, but like, what is

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Speaker 6: Okay, I'm not like a superficial person.

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Speaker 5: But she has this really long nose here, and like.

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Speaker 3: I said, I'm cracking up. I'm sorry finished.

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Speaker 6: It's kind of distracting when I'm or, you know, when

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Speaker 5: Her, and I don't want to have to tell her

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Speaker 2: But you'd like to see her, you'd like to see

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like, how do you say that? It's just one

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Speaker 6: I don't know how you like, Like, I don't know

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Speaker 5: Broached the subject.

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Speaker 2: Well, what if she plucked the nose here? You'd go

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'd love to, but I don't know how. Again,

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Speaker 6: I just don't know how. It's so distracting.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's tough to have that conversation. But you did

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Speaker 4: Oh no, oh yeah I heard all of that.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 5: Your feelings.

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Speaker 4: Honestly, it's pretty embarrassing. I didn't realize that I had

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Speaker 4: a nose hair like that. That was really bothersome. But

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Speaker 4: you know, you really should have just told me about it,

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Speaker 4: because I don't think anyone wants to know its hair

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Speaker 4: mean it's not such a big deal.

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Speaker 5: I can easily trim that. I'm sorry I didn't tell you.

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Speaker 6: I I liked you a lot, and I didn't want

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Speaker 6: to undercut the experience by bringing something up that's awkward.

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Speaker 2: That'd be tough on a first date. Honestly, I think

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Speaker 2: you're great, but there's just this thing that's poking right

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Speaker 2: out of your nose? Can I pluck it?

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Speaker 3: But then what are you gonna do? How are you

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Speaker 2: And I have a pair of tweezers with me at

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Speaker 2: all times in case I need to pluck a nose hair,

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 4: Well maybe I should borrow it.

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Speaker 3: I'm so glad you have a great atage.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, at least you have a good sense of humor

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Speaker 2: about it. Antonio, would you like to go out with

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Speaker 2: Jim again on another date? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: Sure. I love that a lot.

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Speaker 3: Jemmy, are you gonna be able to trim your nose

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Speaker 3: hair before you see Antonio again?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna be plucking my nose hair every day.

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Speaker 2: Well, congratulations, you got another date.

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Speaker 5: Nice.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's really great. I'm super excited to see here

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Speaker 4: don Antonio.

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Speaker 5: Me too. Maybe we can maybe we can go Tweezer shopping. Wow.

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Speaker 3: Well, the story you'll tell your kids one day.

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