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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, I am officially on my High and Mighty tour.

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Speaker 1: March twentieth is Denver, Colorado. March twenty seventh Portland, Maine.

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Speaker 1: March twenty eighth Providence, Rhode Island. March twenty ninth, Springfield, Massachusetts.

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Speaker 1: April tenth is Chicago. I'll be at the Chicago Theater

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Speaker 1: in April eleventh. Indianapolis, Indiana. April twelfth Louisville, Kentucky. April

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Speaker 1: sixteenth is Albuquerque, New Mexico. April seventeenth is Masa, Arizona.

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Speaker 1: April twenty third is Kansas City, Missouri. April twenty fourth

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Speaker 1: is Saint Louis, Missouri. April twenty fifth is Minneapolis, Minnesota.

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Speaker 1: April thirtieth Nashville, Tennessee. May first is Charlotte, North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: May second is Durham, North Carolina. May sixth I'm doing

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Speaker 1: Netflix as a joke festival. I will be in Los Angeles.

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Speaker 1: May fifteenth, Saratoga, California. May sixteenth, Monterey, California. May seventeenth, Modesto, California,

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Speaker 1: and then June fourth Portchester, New York. June fifth is

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Speaker 1: Boston in mass and June twelfth is Portland, Oregon and

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Speaker 1: then Seattle is June thirteenth. I'm doing a second show

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Speaker 1: at the Paramount Theater in Denver on Saturday, December fifth,

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Speaker 1: So suck on that. Everybody. Go to Chelseahandler dot com

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Speaker 1: for tickets. Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea, Hi, Hi, Hi, I'm good.

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Speaker 1: I'm in Los Angeles. Oh, thank you, thank you. We

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Speaker 1: were going to do it at my house, but I

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Speaker 1: had to replace my downstairs air conditioning.

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Speaker 2: I know, there's always something.

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Speaker 1: Just I just went my house is finished. My house

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Speaker 1: is finished. Everybody, it's finished, finished, finish. But then I

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Speaker 1: saw all these articles in the newspaper. Well I didn't

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Speaker 1: read the newspaper, but my publicis send me a roundup

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Speaker 1: of like stuff, and apparently it's all over the news

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Speaker 1: that I bought my toxic house from RFK Junior. Because

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Speaker 1: I must have said it. I think I said it

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Speaker 1: on this podcast, yeah several times.

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Speaker 3: But you know what, we need the witches to know

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Speaker 3: that it's not his house anymore, because I think they

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Speaker 3: still keep cursing it over and over and over again.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so Etsy witches.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like you can hire a witch on Etsy

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Speaker 3: to like, you know, get with your guy.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm going over to Kimmel so I'm going to

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Speaker 1: make an announcement there about my house and be like,

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Speaker 1: please bless my house. Everyone give me send me your

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Speaker 1: good energy.

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Speaker 3: I will spend seven dollars on Etsy to have a

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Speaker 3: witch bless your house.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, thank you. I think I think I added

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Speaker 1: a second show in Denver. I'm coming back in the

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Speaker 1: winter because I didn't want to do any two night ers.

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Speaker 1: So I'm doing a second show at the Paramount Theater

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Speaker 1: in Denver on Saturday, December fifth, and the pre sale

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Speaker 1: starts Wednesday at ten am local time. Okay, so go

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Speaker 1: get a ticket if you've missed out for my show

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Speaker 1: in Denver, which is this Friday. Anyway, we have a

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Speaker 1: very cutie patuity Canadian guest today. She's from you know,

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Speaker 1: or from Scrubs and Roseanne and Rick and Morty and Moore.

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Speaker 1: Please welcome actress Sarah Chalk. Oh there she is. Look

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Speaker 1: at that beautiful face.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh my god? Technology is it working? Can you

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Speaker 2: guys hear me?

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Speaker 1: We is? We is working? We'd be working, and shit,

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Speaker 1: we be gemmin I talk like this. Now that I'm

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Speaker 1: back from Jamaica, I have so many different access to

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Speaker 2: I want you're all about to make up. I can't

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Speaker 2: believe the headphones, the microla, the zoo link. It's all working.

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Speaker 2: It's all coming all technology.

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Speaker 1: And babe, I'm allergic totech. We're at the same age,

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Speaker 1: we're both allergic to technology. I want to die before

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Speaker 1: AI comes out. I just want to euthanize. I want

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Speaker 1: a group euthanized. Do you want to do it with me?

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Speaker 2: I'm in We'll do it in Whistler, which is I

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Speaker 2: can see. It's where you are. It's my favorite place

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Speaker 1: Before you say another word, please, I'm going to interrupt

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Speaker 1: you because I just learned this morning that you have

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Speaker 1: a house in Whistler. How is that? How is it

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Speaker 2: How are we not skiing together?

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Speaker 1: All right? Well, how are we not skaing together?

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Speaker 2: It's already love it first sight. I want to ski

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Speaker 2: with you. I grew up. I learned to ski in Whistler,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's what I dreamed. That's where I

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Speaker 2: I probably do. It's crazy we uh yeah, I grew

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Speaker 1: It's my favorite place too. I love especially right now,

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Speaker 2: I heard. I can't believe it. I'm actually in la

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Speaker 2: yet and so finally the snow is coming. I'm so jealous.

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Speaker 2: So are you gonna go, like straight after this podcasting.

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Speaker 1: I'm literally out there. I'm wearing all of my bottoms

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Speaker 1: and then ruins all the fucking snow. But I just

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Speaker 1: want to talk about first of all, aren't you so

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Speaker 1: grateful to be a Canadian?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, I am. I am. I mean I'm actually

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Speaker 1: Canada's sister. I might just want to My friends were out.

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Speaker 1: We went over to my friend Andre's house for dinner

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Speaker 1: these Canadians are just so nice. It's so weird. And

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I know, I understand. Every year I

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Speaker 2: It's because we just say the Americans are coming. This

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Speaker 2: pretend to be polite. We got to live up to this.

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Speaker 1: And my friend goes sometimes, she goes, do you ever

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Speaker 2: Because we're also not just like Canadians are fucking funny.

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Speaker 2: The Canadians have a good time.

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Speaker 1: believe me. That's why. That's another component of my ability

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Speaker 2: And there's like often snow, Yeah, there's often snow.

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Speaker 1: I just saw a picture of you. Here's something that

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Speaker 1: I'm not looking forward to ever happening in my life,

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Speaker 1: So let's focus it about it happening in yours. I

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Speaker 1: saw a picture of you and your new Newish lover.

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Speaker 1: You've had a boyfriend for about a year, right.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Yeah, I met someone fantastic, which was so fun

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Speaker 2: This can't be right. And then I met my boyfriend

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Speaker 2: to take this into our hands now. Like they were like,

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Speaker 1: Have you heard of the superstich in deduce what that

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't even know, Like I guess if when

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Speaker 2: can't ask for everything, so what would be like? I mean,

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Speaker 2: most important to me, is I want someone adventuress. I

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Speaker 1: That is so funny. I actually did that for real.

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00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:15,399
Speaker 1: When I was in elementary school, I lied to my

432
00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:18,600
Speaker 1: whole class in order to gain some more respect from

433
00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:20,920
Speaker 1: my peers because I didn't feel like they respected me enough,

434
00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:22,439
Speaker 1: and I told them that I was going to be

435
00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:25,240
Speaker 1: in this sequel to Private Benjamin, playing Goldie Han's daughter

436
00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:28,040
Speaker 1: as her daughter. I wrote about this in my very

437
00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:30,320
Speaker 1: first book, and I was like telling people. I was like, oh, yeah,

438
00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:32,119
Speaker 1: I had a screen test with Goldie Han. We have

439
00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:34,080
Speaker 1: so much chemistry. I was like, you guys better start

440
00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:35,800
Speaker 1: respecting me now because I'm going to be famous and

441
00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:37,639
Speaker 1: then you're gonna regret that you weren't nice to me.

442
00:19:38,160 --> 00:19:40,560
Speaker 1: And it went all around school and everyone's coming up

443
00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:43,440
Speaker 1: to me asking me all sorts of questions, and then like, obviously,

444
00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,520
Speaker 1: nothing ever happened. So I just had to keep like postponing,

445
00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:48,159
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, it's going to be a summer shoot.

446
00:19:48,160 --> 00:19:50,879
Speaker 1: I had all the lingo down, and then finally I

447
00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:53,119
Speaker 1: was like, oh, they decided to go in a different direction. Meanwhile,

448
00:19:53,119 --> 00:19:56,360
Speaker 1: there was no fucking sequel to Private Benjamin. So eventually

449
00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:58,960
Speaker 1: I just eventually I just had to transfer schools. I

450
00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:01,800
Speaker 1: was like, this is dude emiliating.

451
00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:05,440
Speaker 2: So we had we had a girl in our grade

452
00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:07,320
Speaker 2: do that too. She lied about being part of the

453
00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:09,360
Speaker 2: Mini Pops. I don't know if you've ever heard about

454
00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:13,040
Speaker 2: the Mini Pops. The Minipops were this like kids cover

455
00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:16,439
Speaker 2: band in Canada that were so fucking cool. It was

456
00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:18,800
Speaker 2: like everybody wanted to be a mini pop. They would

457
00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 2: release records that were just covers of like awesome eighties songs.

458
00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:24,760
Speaker 2: And so this girl came to school one day and

459
00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:26,359
Speaker 2: she was like, I'm going to be a mini pop

460
00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,960
Speaker 2: and we couldn't believe it. We were floored. It was

461
00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:34,679
Speaker 2: the most exciting thing. And then she wasn't like it

462
00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:38,240
Speaker 2: wasn't true. And I just remember when this whole Becky

463
00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:40,560
Speaker 2: thing happened. I was like, I'm going to be exactly

464
00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:41,720
Speaker 2: like the minipops.

465
00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, how is Tom Arnold?

466
00:20:45,800 --> 00:20:46,280
Speaker 2: Oh my god?

467
00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:47,000
Speaker 1: He was.

468
00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,600
Speaker 2: He was great to me. He was very I think

469
00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:52,080
Speaker 2: ever since that kind of phone call, like he was

470
00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:53,440
Speaker 2: always really supportive of me.

471
00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 1: Oh, sorry, I didn't mean Tom Arnold. I met the

472
00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:59,760
Speaker 1: father that played the John Goodman. Sorry. I didn't mean

473
00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:02,199
Speaker 1: to ask about Tom Arnolds. Who cares. I mean, I

474
00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:04,160
Speaker 1: know Tom Arnold, I don't need YadA. Yeah, I want

475
00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:06,040
Speaker 1: to know about the dad because he seemed awesome.

476
00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:10,119
Speaker 2: He was, I mean, that was like crazy. He was

477
00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:12,840
Speaker 2: one of my idols at the time, obviously, and like

478
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:14,920
Speaker 2: now I was working with him in my dressing room,

479
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,000
Speaker 2: was right beside him and I was. I mean, I

480
00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:20,320
Speaker 2: had no business being there. I had literally never worked

481
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:22,399
Speaker 2: except for on a couple of Canadian productions where I

482
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:24,480
Speaker 2: would like answer the phone in a movie and be

483
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,439
Speaker 2: like mom phone. And that was like the totality of

484
00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 2: my body of work before having gone onto that set.

485
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:34,600
Speaker 2: And then it was like John Goodman, Laurie Metcalf, Sarah Gilbert,

486
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:40,360
Speaker 2: Johnny Gallechi, Sandra Bernhardt, Fred Willard, like the craziest group.

487
00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:43,080
Speaker 2: ID just sit there and watch. But John Goodman was

488
00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:47,199
Speaker 2: so kind, like he was he went out of his

489
00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:51,119
Speaker 2: way to kind of like make me feel okay, you know,

490
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:52,760
Speaker 2: like he'd be like, hey, kid, how you doing, And

491
00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:55,919
Speaker 2: he didn't do that. And then obviously just to like

492
00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 2: watch him work and what he would do with a

493
00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:01,040
Speaker 2: script from the Monday morning table read till the Thursday

494
00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:03,920
Speaker 2: night tape night and try different things, and I would

495
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 2: just kind of watch him and he's one of the

496
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:10,680
Speaker 2: most Yeah, he's just so talented.

497
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:14,240
Speaker 1: So that was a great preparation for you for Scrubs, right,

498
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:16,480
Speaker 1: I mean, that was kind of like college for Scrubs.

499
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 2: It was. It was college for Scrubs, but it's like

500
00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,560
Speaker 2: such a different experience, Like I feel like on Roseanne.

501
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:26,439
Speaker 2: I was so young and so new and so and

502
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:28,880
Speaker 2: it's different, such a different experience. I hadn't even really

503
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:30,919
Speaker 2: pre thought of replacing a character, and you're trying to

504
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:35,159
Speaker 2: like fit into that mold, and luckily I was kind

505
00:22:35,200 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 2: of young and naive and didn't really understand it, Like

506
00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 2: I didn't really think about the expectations maybe that would

507
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:47,640
Speaker 2: be put on, like filling those shoes. But then in Scrubs,

508
00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 2: it was when it felt like it was my first

509
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 2: experience of like it feeling so creative because I got

510
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:56,359
Speaker 2: to really create the character. Like Bill had written this

511
00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 2: character that was I read it and I was like, fuck,

512
00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:00,879
Speaker 2: this is so good. I want to be a part

513
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 2: of this so badly. The character description said moves and

514
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 2: talks at a faster pace than normal humans, and that

515
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,639
Speaker 2: was something that I'd always struggled with, like everyone's always

516
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 2: like slow down in life in space to me too,

517
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 2: me too, and it's hard. You just want to We're busy,

518
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 2: we got to get we got to get all the

519
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 2: information out, and so I thought, Okay, this is like

520
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:26,840
Speaker 2: my part, and then Bill ended up like tailoring our

521
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 2: parts and adding all of our own quirks and selves,

522
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 2: like Elliott wasn't written as a disaster who fell and

523
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 2: hurt herself all the time. And then that was just

524
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 2: woven in very early on when they realized that I

525
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,719
Speaker 2: still had not figured out where my body was in space.

526
00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 2: But that felt like the comedy masterclass, like getting to

527
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 2: work with Bill. He would come to set every rehearsal,

528
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,360
Speaker 2: which is super rare from my experience, like I've never

529
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:53,160
Speaker 2: had that happen where the showrunner comes every single rehearsal

530
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 2: and comes up and goes like, Okay, you know, try

531
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 2: this differently, try these two alts instead of that joke.

532
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 2: See which one you know works the best. He was

533
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:05,479
Speaker 2: super collaborative and gave us so much freedom that is,

534
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 2: you know, we'd get it once exactly as written, and

535
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:10,359
Speaker 2: then he'd be like, oh, if this line says I

536
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 2: told you so, if you want, you can just do

537
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 2: like and I told you so song and dance instead

538
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 2: if you feel like it. And so I feel like

539
00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:21,679
Speaker 2: I got to learn like so much about comedy just

540
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 2: from watching him work and how he would take a

541
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:26,160
Speaker 2: scene and if it wasn't working, he'd be like, Okay,

542
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 2: let's try this, try that, try that. It was so

543
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,639
Speaker 2: lucky and so fun, and because we were shooting in

544
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 2: this like abandoned hospital in the valley, we felt kind

545
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 2: of removed from everything, and so it created this interesting

546
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:43,160
Speaker 2: dynamic of feeling like a very collaborative space, and there

547
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:46,880
Speaker 2: was also like a real I think my favorite part

548
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 2: about it was there was a real feeling that you

549
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,719
Speaker 2: could fail, like just try anything, which obviously in comedy

550
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:55,440
Speaker 2: I think that's the only way it can really work

551
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,120
Speaker 2: if you're not thinking about what you look like while

552
00:24:58,119 --> 00:24:59,919
Speaker 2: you're doing it, what you just like any of the

553
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,159
Speaker 2: their factors. Just try it. If it doesn't work, they

554
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 2: won't use it. And so we really were freed up

555
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 2: to try anything.

556
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 1: That's awesome. I love to hear that. That's so like

557
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:11,399
Speaker 1: creatively fulfilling. I mean, you know, to just to be

558
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 1: able to spread your wings and fly and have somebody

559
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,760
Speaker 1: just show you. Because that show was original and it's

560
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,200
Speaker 1: it's like it had it used devices that we hadn't

561
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 1: seen before on those kinds of shows.

562
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, it did, And I remember thinking that when I

563
00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 2: read the script, like I I was like, oh, I

564
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:30,640
Speaker 2: haven't seen anything like this. And I had just moved

565
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:33,199
Speaker 2: to LA with my best friend and we didn't know anybody,

566
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 2: and we never had was it one of the gems?

567
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,200
Speaker 2: It was one of the gems. It was one of

568
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 2: the gens. She'd gone to film school at UBC and

569
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 2: Vancouver and wanted to produce, and I wanted to act,

570
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:46,160
Speaker 2: and so we packed up her truck with the most

571
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 2: random shit. It was like Steve Martin and the jerk

572
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 2: when he's like, I just need this mug and this thing.

573
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:52,159
Speaker 2: Like we had, like I packed a guitar that I

574
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:54,240
Speaker 2: didn't know how to play, and we were going to

575
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 2: go for like a six month sublet, and then I

576
00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:00,880
Speaker 2: stayed seventeen years. But you know, Jen and I had

577
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:04,160
Speaker 2: plans to go to a concert and I got two

578
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,639
Speaker 2: auditions for the next day. And normally I would just

579
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:08,159
Speaker 2: be like, Okay, I've got to work on these auditions.

580
00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not cancling on Jen, We're going

581
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 2: to the concert. I don't care. And I come home

582
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:16,440
Speaker 2: to this envelope, these two envelopes for these two auditions,

583
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 2: and it's midnight and my audition for scrubs is at

584
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 2: nine AM. And I open it and I start reading

585
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 2: it and I'm like turning the pages and I'm like,

586
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 2: oh fuck, oh, this is so good shit. I like,

587
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,879
Speaker 2: now it's the auditions happening in like eight hours and

588
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:34,040
Speaker 2: fifty nine minutes. And I never opened the other envelope.

589
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,439
Speaker 2: I have no idea what that audition was. And I

590
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 2: just worked for a couple of hours and then got

591
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,719
Speaker 2: some sleep and went and read for casting, and they

592
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 2: were like, can you come back in a few hours

593
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:45,679
Speaker 2: and read for Bill? But yeah, I remember reading the

594
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 2: script thinking like, oh, this is so different and like

595
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 2: you said, using devices we hadn't seen. And I loved

596
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 2: the pace of it. And I laughed out loud reading

597
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 2: the script, which was so rare, and.

598
00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: I love it. I love that. I love that you

599
00:26:58,560 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 1: get to I mean, like, who would have ever thought

600
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 1: like all of these shows and all of these successful

601
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:05,199
Speaker 1: series would be rebooted. Like if someone told you when

602
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: you were doing it the first time, you're going to

603
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,120
Speaker 1: be doing this again twenty five years later, nobody would

604
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: be like, I'm not even going to be alive, then

605
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 1: there's no.

606
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 2: Chance, totally totally. Who's fifty? Like that sound like what? Yeah?

607
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 1: Exactly? What about Okay, let's talk about being fifty. Let's

608
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: talk about like that age, because it's not what I

609
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 1: expected at all. It's like so much better. It's so

610
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 1: much like you know, I feel so much younger than

611
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 1: I ever thought I would feel. I feel younger than

612
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: I felt when I was in my thirties. But let's

613
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: talk about advice that you've been given, good or bad,

614
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 1: that has had an impact on your life.

615
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, first of all, I completely agree with you. Like,

616
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 2: I'm turning fifty this coming August, and I mean, if

617
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:45,359
Speaker 2: you were to say, like, how old do you like,

618
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 2: I feel like I my brain stopped at like thirty three,

619
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:50,160
Speaker 2: I think is the age that I always think I am.

620
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:55,880
Speaker 2: And Yeah, to have had this lucky career I'm very

621
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 2: grateful for because it has allowed me to be able

622
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 2: to raise my kids. You know, like when you're when

623
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 2: you're working, you're working hard, but then you have these

624
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:05,159
Speaker 2: chunks of time where you're off and you can be

625
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 2: totally present and do that. In terms of advice that

626
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 2: I've been given that's been good.

627
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 1: Or bad or bad, we like bad advice too.

628
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:15,879
Speaker 2: We like bad advice. Okay, I'll start with good. My

629
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 2: dad's favorite expression was the best time to plant apple

630
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 2: orchard was twenty five years ago. The second best time

631
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 2: is today. And I feel like that he told us

632
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 2: when we were little. I think about it often because

633
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 2: it's like anytime I'm like, okay, it's too late, Like

634
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 2: I think through your whole life, you always feel like,

635
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 2: oh fuck, is it too late? Is it too late

636
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 2: to do this? And it's like never too late, Like

637
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 2: it's actually never too late, Like I wonder.

638
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 1: We just had this conversation, me and three girlfriends. We

639
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 1: were just talking about this and like the idea of ascension,

640
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 1: like we are always ascending. Like just because something hasn't

641
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 1: happened yet doesn't mean it's going to happen. It's not

642
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 1: going to happen because of your age. Your age is

643
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 1: not preventative of what your desires are. It's actually an enhancement.

644
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 1: It makes it more likely to happen because it's still

645
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: on your mind. And like, oh I was gonna do that,

646
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Speaker 1: and I didn't do it before I turned fifty. That

647
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Speaker 1: means it's gonna be even better when you do do

648
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Speaker 1: it after fifty, not that it's not happening.

649
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Speaker 2: One hundred percent. And exactly when you do it, you're

650
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 2: like really gonna do it, and you're gonna do it

651
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 2: at a time in your life that you're ready to

652
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Speaker 2: do it. Like I was like, I want to learn

653
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Speaker 2: how to play an instrument. I'm like it too late,

654
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 2: and I was like, no, it's not too late.

655
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not exactly. We were just talking about this

656
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: and I was like, got you know, oh, if I

657
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Speaker 1: don't do this by that time I'm thirty or the

658
00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: time I'm forty, and that's like such backwards thinking. It's like, oh,

659
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 1: this now that I'm this experience, this much wiser and

660
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 1: I'm this much smarter, I'm not going to even fuck

661
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Speaker 1: this up when it does happen, you know, Like I'm tuned.

662
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Speaker 2: In now totally. And I feel like even with like skiing,

663
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 2: you know, like I was like the other day, I

664
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 2: was like I want to go take some more lessons

665
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 2: and kind of like bring my skiing to the next stage,

666
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 2: because like I grew up skiing my first job, I

667
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 2: was a ski instructor, and then I took My kids

668
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 2: are six years apart, so I feel like I spent like,

669
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Speaker 2: you know, they were in between my skis when they

670
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 2: were one and a half and then on the harness

671
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 2: and then kind of like everyone else is going off

672
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Speaker 2: and doing the real runs and you're like on the

673
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Speaker 2: little ones for and then I had another kid and

674
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Speaker 2: they did, so I feel like I took such a

675
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 2: long chunk off of like really skiing, and when I

676
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 2: went back to it, I was like, oh, I feel

677
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 2: like I'm skiing with the technique of like the old

678
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 2: equipment and the old technology and those skis that weren't

679
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 2: shaped and so right.

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Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I get that.

681
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just feel like having like a just in

682
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 2: general open mind to like it's never too late, it's

683
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 2: never too late to try anything. I feel like in

684
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 2: so many aspects of my life, I feel like things

685
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 2: are just the best they've been or taking off, Like

686
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 2: in the relationship that I'm in has been so fun

687
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 2: and so fulfilling and so interesting to you know, have

688
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 2: so much in common and so like, Yeah, I feel

689
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:47,520
Speaker 2: like in all aspects it feels like fifty is amazing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like you're peaking. But I don't even believe

691
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 1: in peaking either, because we're ascending. That's what we're calling it.

692
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 1: We're ascending until we die. We are in a sense,

693
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 1: and what that means we just keep getting better and

694
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 1: better and better, Like it is a ref fine, beautiful thing.

695
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 1: Like I am totally down with that. I can't believe

696
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: the garbage we've been listening to our whole lives or

697
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 1: are absorbing just kind of this narrative that's just not true. Anyway,

698
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Speaker 1: Let's move on to callers before we run out of time. Catherine, Sorry,

699
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 1: we got caught up in this level conversation.

700
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Speaker 2: I'm going to think of that about a sension that's

701
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 2: gonna be nice.

702
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 1: Yes, please, yes, do it. Let's spread spread that messaging.

703
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 1: Women need to hear this.

704
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Speaker 2: Well.

705
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Speaker 3: Our first caller today is l And this is not

706
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:35,120
Speaker 3: a question about baseball. It's a question about struggling through setbacks.

707
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Speaker 3: So El says, you're Chelsea. My son is sixteen and

708
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 3: struggles to process setbacks and perceived failure. He's at the

709
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 3: top of his class, takes multiple ap courses, and thrives

710
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 3: in academic environments, even though he claims his classes are boring.

711
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 3: Many things in life come easily to him, except baseball setbacks.

712
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 3: He's been playing baseball since he was about five, and

713
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Speaker 3: even after entering high school, he was often the strongest

714
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Speaker 3: player on his team. He's currently on a competitive travel team,

715
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 3: so the level of play is higher and he has

716
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 3: to work harder. In theory, there should be a healthy

717
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 3: learning and growth experience, but in reality, any perceived poor

718
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 3: performance sends him into an intense spiral of self criticism

719
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Speaker 3: and frustration that can last for hours. But baseball doesn't

720
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 3: allow hours to process emotions. The game continues and he's

721
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 3: expected to stay mentally present for his team. He becomes

722
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 3: angry with himself, his performance suffers, and this only reinforces

723
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 3: the cycle. We currently have him in therapy, though he

724
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 3: doesn't have buy in. He views his reactions as normal

725
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 3: teenage emotions, which, to some extent they are. Our goal

726
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 3: isn't to pathologize his feelings, but to help him develop

727
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:38,720
Speaker 3: coping strategies so that setbacks don't derail his mood, confidence,

728
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 3: or performance for the rest of the game and be

729
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Speaker 3: on the field. We've tried a gratitude journal, which he

730
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Speaker 3: didn't take very seriously, and his therapist has given him

731
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Speaker 3: strategies to practice in the moment, but the cycle persists.

732
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Speaker 3: Do you have any suggestions for helping him process these

733
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Speaker 3: emotions in a healthier way? Are there any strategies you'd

734
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Speaker 3: recommend that we might not have tried with gratitude?

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Speaker 1: L Hi, L Hi? How are you? This is our

736
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 1: special guest, Sarah chalk.

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Speaker 4: Oh, nice to meet you.

738
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Speaker 2: Hi Hi.

739
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Speaker 1: I have a friend who's staying with me right now, Whistler,

740
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Speaker 1: and her daughter is in the same situation that your

741
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 1: son is very successful athlete. Young had a like, you know,

742
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 1: bad day playing and was devastated by it, you know,

743
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Speaker 1: And I think those are all really natural emotions, but

744
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:24,360
Speaker 1: for a kids to like, if they want to take them, like,

745
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 1: they have to get into like a championship mentality, right,

746
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 1: Like if they're gonna really be successful at this, they

747
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: have to out smart themselves. And like, there's got to

748
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 1: be a lot of books on this, Jamie, did you

749
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:39,960
Speaker 1: say you knew about a book about this? She's I'm

750
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:41,959
Speaker 1: gonna have her come upstairs because we literally just had

751
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 1: this conversation about her daughter last night, and she's like,

752
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 1: it is what it is. She didn't have a good

753
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:47,080
Speaker 1: day today. She's just gonna have to deal with it.

754
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: That's the like the mentality of a champ Like if

755
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 1: you're you're gonna have to deal with your emotions and

756
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 1: you can't spiral every time, and that's something that he's

757
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 1: just gonna kind of have to learn. This woman's calling

758
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Speaker 1: in with the same thing we were talking about yesterday,

759
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 1: her son like flipped expiraling out when he has a

760
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: bad play and stuff. Do you want to hop on

761
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,400
Speaker 1: and give her some advice? Here, this is my friend.

762
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 1: She just happens to be in town.

763
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Speaker 2: Hi, beautiful Jamie, Hi gorgeous.

764
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:09,959
Speaker 1: Hi.

765
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 3: So, her son is struggling with feelings of self criticism

766
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 3: and especially when he's playing baseball, and so like he

767
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,800
Speaker 3: needs tools to like quickly process those emotions.

768
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: How old is he?

769
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Speaker 4: He's sixteen?

770
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Speaker 5: Okay, I have the same thing of a fifteen year

771
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 5: old superstar softball player. So what I've learned from this journey.

772
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 5: I also played sports in college, and I wish I

773
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Speaker 5: had this information when I was in college because I

774
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 5: think it would have made me a better competitor. Is

775
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,920
Speaker 5: it's all mental? Everything is mental. Has he hit home

776
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 5: runs before? Has he made double plays?

777
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Speaker 6: Yes, well, he's gotten triples before. He's ever hit it

778
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 6: over and out of the park, right, he's made double plays.

779
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Speaker 4: He's a really good player.

780
00:34:55,560 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, but he's a perfectionist yeah yeah, And he's just

781
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 5: criticizes himself when he doesn't perform right. So, Like, I

782
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 5: think the most important thing an athlete can do is

783
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 5: work on their mental game. Does he journal No.

784
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 6: I tried having them, Like Catherine said, I tried having

785
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 6: him write a gratitude journal. This was last summer, and

786
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,239
Speaker 6: he we would go through what he would write in there,

787
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 6: because at first, like he he thinks he's a normal team.

788
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 6: He doesn't think that anything that is happening with his

789
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 6: emotions is out of the ordinary. And again it's it's not.

790
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Speaker 5: It's not it's how you can train your brain to

791
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:37,359
Speaker 5: it's it's really a mental thing. So like my daughter,

792
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 5: what she started doing, I mean, she wants to play

793
00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 5: D one, so this is all her journey. I don't

794
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 5: push her, this is her thing. But she started journaling.

795
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 5: So before she'll do hitting lessons, before a group practice,

796
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:53,319
Speaker 5: before any sort of work she's doing, she'll put what

797
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 5: her expectations are for the practice, and then after the

798
00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 5: practice she'll put in did she accomplish that? What did

799
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:02,879
Speaker 5: she need to work on next practice? And so it's

800
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 5: always just like looking at what you've done and what

801
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 5: you need to do right now. It sounds like it's

802
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 5: all a mental thing. So that's what he should be

803
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 5: focusing on. There's a book called, I think it's called Champion.

804
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:19,399
Speaker 5: The Champion mind be the champion mind or something like that.

805
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,240
Speaker 5: She started reading that she talks to a mental coach.

806
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Speaker 2: Now.

807
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Speaker 5: I mean, it's so different from when I was growing up.

808
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 5: We didn't have anything. I was just like, if I sucked,

809
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 5: I would just be in like a dark hole. But

810
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 5: you know, and all the high end coaches all tell

811
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 5: if you watch any tiktoks or Instagram, they all tell

812
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 5: the players like what we're watching. We don't care if

813
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 5: you're a baller. We don't care if you have one

814
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 5: hundred percent batting average. We care about your body language.

815
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Speaker 5: So if you strike out three times in a row,

816
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:48,879
Speaker 5: do you go in the dugout and bring everybody down

817
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 5: with your energy or do you, you know, come in

818
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 5: and just realize what you did wrong and move on,

819
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 5: turn the page.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And it's hard for them to pull back and

822
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 5: look at themselves. But you're on a team sport. If

823
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 5: you want to go torture yourself, go swim, go golf,

824
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:07,280
Speaker 5: go tennis. But this is a team sport, So bring

825
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 5: the good energy even when shit is bad. And what's

826
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 5: great about all this is it's such a good lesson

827
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 5: for life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've done my way to drap on the knowledge.

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Speaker 5: Yes, I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go warm my toes

830
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 5: for the Whistler Hill. Here's your host, Chelsea Hammler.

831
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Speaker 1: I really had to put her on the spot there,

832
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Speaker 1: you guys, and she delivered.

833
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 2: That was late. I think what she said about like

834
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 2: being a perfectionist is so true, Like and I was

835
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:42,440
Speaker 2: a perfectionist as a kid and experienced, you know, really

836
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 2: trying to figure out how to go back to a

837
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 2: growth mindset, like I think I had one initially and

838
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,760
Speaker 2: then as you work going back into the auditioning process,

839
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 2: I really got out of that. And in terms of like,

840
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 2: you know, because I was a kid who like if

841
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 2: I was doing a project on Sri Lanka, I was

842
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 2: cutting every page out into the shape of an elephant,

843
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 2: Like don't do that, just travel later. That makes no sense.

844
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 2: And I, you know, in terms of team sports, like

845
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 2: it's all I wanted. I just want to be on

846
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:08,799
Speaker 2: a team, Like I would take any fucking team. I

847
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:11,839
Speaker 2: was like, I tried it for basketball, volleyball, the track

848
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 2: and field team. I was like, whoever will take me?

849
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Speaker 2: Nobody would, So I got used to a level of

850
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 2: rejection that I think actually is why I ended up

851
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 2: being able to go into acting. But I think, like

852
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 2: for your son and for the times of days that

853
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:29,320
Speaker 2: doesn't work out, I actually think it's really true that

854
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 2: you learn so much more from failure than you do

855
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:33,840
Speaker 2: from your successes. So every like if you're going and

856
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 2: you're hitting a home run every time, like, actually it's incredible,

857
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 2: But I don't think you're learning anything that's going to

858
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:41,520
Speaker 2: help you grow. And so because the reality is like

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Speaker 2: I don't know if the goal for him is to

860
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 2: become like a professional baseball player or if it's just

861
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 2: to do it right now with his buddies. But if

862
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:51,800
Speaker 2: he's out there and he's failing, it's obviously not failing.

863
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 2: But I mean, if he's not doing let's say it

864
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 2: doesn't go the way that he wants, he's going to

865
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:56,479
Speaker 2: come out of that. And right now, like you said,

866
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 2: he's working through it and he's trying the gratitude journal,

867
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 2: you're trying therapy, trying all these different things. Those are

868
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:05,280
Speaker 2: all tools that are going to serve him in every

869
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,239
Speaker 2: area of his life. No, because none of us are

870
00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 2: going to no matter what we do, we're not going

871
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 2: to go out there and it's not going to be

872
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:14,719
Speaker 2: a successful day. All of the days most days, and

873
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:17,439
Speaker 2: I think like if you can, like just the fact

874
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 2: that you're and him are aware of it and trying

875
00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:22,920
Speaker 2: to work through the tools. I guess the other part

876
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 2: of it is what's the goal for him in terms

877
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 2: of like does he want to take this the whole

878
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 2: way and if not, what is the best spot for him?

879
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 2: Like my niece played professional or not professional. She played

880
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 2: field hockey at a high level. She was on Team Canada,

881
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 2: and when she stopped, her enjoyment of the game went

882
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 2: like through the room. She's an incredible field hockey player.

883
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 2: But sometimes I think when you're a kid and you're

884
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 2: a teenager and you're dealing with all of the elements

885
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:52,560
Speaker 2: of being a teenager and the pressures of school and

886
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:56,359
Speaker 2: all of that, like to take the pressure cooker out

887
00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 2: of it, and they can actually just really enjoy the

888
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 2: sport can be really cool too. I mean obviously that

889
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 2: balance with you know, yeah them pushing through the heart

890
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:05,959
Speaker 2: is probably the most important part.

891
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:08,400
Speaker 1: But also, like I think what Jamie said is like like,

892
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 1: for first of all, of course, the gratitude journal, like

893
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 1: most adult men are not going to do that, you know,

894
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:15,319
Speaker 1: so like if you could, if you pivot and make

895
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 1: a journal about journaling, like about his expectations, about before practices,

896
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 1: about what he expects, and also emphasize that team component aspect,

897
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 1: like you want to be a leader, you want to

898
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: be a champion, then you need to actually get into

899
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 1: like a kick into a different gear when you're disappointed

900
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 1: in your own performance, you know what I mean. You

901
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: can't bring other people down with you. I think that

902
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 1: will have an impact on him as well.

903
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 6: Do you have any advice for when he's in the

904
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 6: moment when something doesn't go because like in his mind,

905
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,240
Speaker 6: even if he hits a pop fly, that's a horrible

906
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 6: hit because pop flies are at his level of play

907
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 6: now ninety nine percent of the time caught, and he's

908
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 6: just like now done for the game essentially, Like he

909
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:58,280
Speaker 6: was even ejected out of a game by the umpire

910
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 6: for arguing a call. And it's just in the moment,

911
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 6: like I can get him to do I think like

912
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 6: the because two hours after a game he's like totally fine.

913
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 4: He's like, oh yeah, I'm good. I'm like, but I

914
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:11,720
Speaker 4: need you to be good like in that moment, because

915
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 4: now you're just hurting your team.

916
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 3: I don't know if you can get buy in on this,

917
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 3: But meditating on a daily basis, even if it's like

918
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 3: five ten minutes, can help slow him down in those

919
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:22,799
Speaker 3: moments so he's not like.

920
00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:26,919
Speaker 2: Just having this super like fast reaction. It really does

921
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:27,440
Speaker 2: help you.

922
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 3: Have a more measured response when when stuff like that happens.

923
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 3: And it doesn't even have to be like woo woo meditations.

924
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 3: It can be simple box breathing or counting to ten

925
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,959
Speaker 3: with his breaths, or even just doing you know, really

926
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 3: short basic meditations on headspace or an app like that.

927
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 1: I think your role is just to really be a

928
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: guide for to hear him when he is looking for

929
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 1: answers that you can help him to find those answers.

930
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: You guys will work together to find those answers. If

931
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 1: he's disappointed in his own behavior and his reaction, then

932
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 1: that's an opening for you to go, Okay, we can

933
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 1: figure this out together. I can help you this. This

934
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 1: study says all we have to do is meditate five

935
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:06,799
Speaker 1: minutes a day. He's not going to like that either,

936
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:08,839
Speaker 1: but you can do it with him. You can sit

937
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 1: there and say, this is going to help your brain

938
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 1: regulate so that when you are in that moment and

939
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 1: you are feeling super reactive, you can pull back and

940
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:18,279
Speaker 1: just be quiet and think of your team instead of

941
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:21,800
Speaker 1: thinking of yourself and your reactivity, and like just taking

942
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 1: all those moments without being too kind of officious, because

943
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:27,839
Speaker 1: of course you're's mother and you care more about him

944
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 1: than anybody in the world, but just to be like

945
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 1: this calming force around him so that he keeps coming

946
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 1: to you when he wants answers, so that you're the

947
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 1: calm and he's the storm, and that he knows where

948
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 1: the calm is going to be.

949
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 3: And then just one more thing I want to flag

950
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 3: all before you go, is if he is being really

951
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 3: self critical and irritable, especially irritable outside of practice, I

952
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 3: would keep an eye on that because that can be

953
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 3: a sign of depression in teenage boys. So just keep

954
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 3: an eye on that outside of base on two.

955
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:01,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely know. We're very aware, like he's putting a

956
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:02,800
Speaker 4: lot of pressure on himself.

957
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,799
Speaker 6: My husband and I tell him, like, you don't have

958
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 6: to play, Like we're cool if you don't want to play,

959
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 6: but he loves the game and he wants to play

960
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 6: and he wants to do really well.

961
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 4: And it's like, oh, but it's hurting you.

962
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:17,160
Speaker 1: I know, but you know that's something he's going to

963
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 1: have to figure out for himself, Like there's nothing you

964
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 1: can do. He's going to have to decide if it's

965
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:24,880
Speaker 1: worth the feelings that come with, you know, not always succeeding,

966
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: Like is it worth it? Are the wins like worth

967
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 1: it with the losses? And that's not something you can

968
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 1: make happen for him. You can only be supportive at

969
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,319
Speaker 1: every turn and be like, Okay, you want to do this,

970
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 1: We're going to support you. If you don't want to

971
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 1: do it, we'll totally support you too.

972
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 6: I know I've mentioned so we do have him in therapy.

973
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 6: Do you think finding a new therapist is that something

974
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 6: to do? Because the guy he goes to now and

975
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 6: he's very nice and my son says he likes him,

976
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:52,439
Speaker 6: but then when we drive to his sessions, he's like, yeah,

977
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 6: I don't really think I need this, So like I

978
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 6: feel like his buy in isn't that everybody?

979
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:00,279
Speaker 3: Everybody feels that way on their way to therapy, Like

980
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:02,319
Speaker 3: I don't need this today and then it's your biggest day.

981
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: I would keep him in therapy and like, if you

982
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 1: can look for maybe some like a sports therapist or

983
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:08,919
Speaker 1: something that's a little bit more geared to what he's

984
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 1: into in the interim, But don't take him out prematurely.

985
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 1: Just leave him in so he has some sort of

986
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:16,760
Speaker 1: sounding board, but also in the meantime, look for somebody

987
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:18,839
Speaker 1: that you can gear towards more what his interests are.

988
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 2: All right, well, keep us posted.

989
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, thank you, I thanks bye.

990
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:25,960
Speaker 1: Al, thanks for calling in. Wow, that was like a

991
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:26,920
Speaker 1: triage moment.

992
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 2: You guys really like you guys and Jamie stepping in.

993
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,240
Speaker 1: All hands on deck. That was serious.

994
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 2: Oh my god. I wanted team sports so badly. Like

995
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 2: I finally said to the coach, I'm like, I just

996
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:40,400
Speaker 2: want to get on the bus. What's nobody signing up for?

997
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 2: And they were like, nobody does racewalking and I was like, great,

998
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 2: I'm in. And so I was racewalking just so.

999
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 1: And were you racewalking all by yourself?

1000
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 2: Because it was like a few kids from other schools

1001
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 2: in the province. So I came second in the province

1002
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:57,880
Speaker 2: because it was probably only two people.

1003
00:44:58,239 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1004
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, finish up with our one drink question here.

1005
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 3: So Nicky says, I'm a thirty five year old Canadian

1006
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 3: passionate about boycotting US travel and products when possible in

1007
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 3: the wake of the current administration threatening to invade Canada

1008
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 3: and all this fifty first state bullshit.

1009
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 2: The problem is that I live in.

1010
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:19,759
Speaker 3: The frozen tundra of Winnipeg and my husband wants to

1011
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 3: take a vacation somewhere hot while it's still cold. My

1012
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 3: husband is a wonderful partner and dad that works incredibly hard.

1013
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 3: He's in his first year of being an attending doctor

1014
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 3: after fourteen years of training. We have two young kids

1015
00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 3: and can only manage to get away for a long weekend,

1016
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 3: and there are not many direct flights out of Winnipeg.

1017
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 3: He would love to go to Phoenix, Vegas or Palm

1018
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 3: Springs since it'll be hot and.

1019
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 1: We can fly direct.

1020
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,840
Speaker 3: He agrees with boycotting US travel, but also feels like

1021
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:45,680
Speaker 3: we need to live our lives a bit. So my

1022
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 3: question is do I make an exception to my boycott

1023
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:50,719
Speaker 3: to go on vacation with my husband, who absolutely deserves it.

1024
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 1: NICKI no, No, find somewhere else to go or go

1025
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 1: to asauna, like, forget about it. Your boycott is a boycott.

1026
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 1: I don't know temporary boycotts like you can things to

1027
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 1: cancel them. It doesn't work if we're not serious about it.

1028
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:05,359
Speaker 1: So if you care about the state of the world,

1029
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 1: you have to care about boycotting things altogether. And I'm

1030
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:10,440
Speaker 1: believing I'm doing it in my own life, and I'm

1031
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 1: doing it with all the people that I work with

1032
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 1: and the people that work for me in my house everything.

1033
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:17,280
Speaker 1: This is a consideration that we talk about all the time.

1034
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:21,440
Speaker 1: It is serious business. So yeah, I mean also, I

1035
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: joined Noble Mobile. I got off of eighteen and T Verizon.

1036
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:25,839
Speaker 1: That's one good thing you can do. You can join

1037
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:28,760
Speaker 1: Noble Mobile. They encourage you to stay off of your phone.

1038
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 1: They incentivize you to stay off of your phone. My

1039
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 1: phone bills have been like thirty five dollars a month

1040
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 1: and I travel internationally all the time, so that's a

1041
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 1: great first step. Cancel chat GPT, please be on the

1042
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 1: only ethical anthropic is the only ethical like AI system

1043
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,320
Speaker 1: that is available. So try to down get rid of

1044
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 1: chat GPT. Like these steps mean things. These people are

1045
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 1: making money and profiting off of our prison system, off

1046
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 1: of these detention centers. They are making money off of

1047
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:57,879
Speaker 1: this all of these AI guys. So if you want

1048
00:46:57,920 --> 00:46:59,799
Speaker 1: to have an impact, you have to be serious and

1049
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,360
Speaker 1: your husband can go without his vacation to prompt springs

1050
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:02,759
Speaker 1: for the year.

1051
00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, go to go to BC good Whistler.

1052
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I guess that's cool. By the way, it's

1053
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 1: it's hot here, so you can come here. I'm sure

1054
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 1: it'll be It's like we've got the worst winter. It's

1055
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 1: like hot cold, hot cold, so by the time you

1056
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 1: get here it could be sunny exactly exactly. And I

1057
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: say this, I know that you're listening to this, and

1058
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 1: people are like, well, it's might be easier for you

1059
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,560
Speaker 1: because you have more you know, privilege, and I have

1060
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:26,839
Speaker 1: more money. It's it's listen, it's hard for all of us.

1061
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 1: I use all of those things all the time, and

1062
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:31,319
Speaker 1: I have to be disciplined. I never go on chap

1063
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:34,840
Speaker 1: GPT ever ever, ever, ever. I barely use anthropic. I

1064
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:37,320
Speaker 1: don't want to even get into that. And I know, Sarah,

1065
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 1: we've already discussed our limited technology abilities, so it's like

1066
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:43,640
Speaker 1: it's hard for me, so those things are kind of

1067
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 1: not even that difficult. But I've I've can canceled streaming services,

1068
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 1: I stop using Amazon. Like we're doing everything we can

1069
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 1: to make sure that you make a dent in these

1070
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:54,840
Speaker 1: people's bottom lines, because that's all anybody cares about.

1071
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 2: Is money, right, right, and where it hurts.

1072
00:47:57,600 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, So we'll take a break and we'll be right

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Speaker 1: back to wrap up with Sarah Chalk. And we're back

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Speaker 1: with Sarah Chalk. Everyone can watch Scrubs? Where where can

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Speaker 1: they watch Scrubs.

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Speaker 2: Sarah on ABC on Wednesday nights and streams the next

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Speaker 2: day on Hulu Disney Plus.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and Hulu Disney Plus is a perfect example of

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Speaker 1: somebody who did the wrong thing and then corrected it

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Speaker 1: and did the right thing. So I canceled that prescription

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Speaker 1: and then I re downloaded it when they did the

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Speaker 1: right thing, so you can reward the description subscription was

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Speaker 1: it did I say prescription? You did too much drugs?

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Speaker 1: That's a perfect way to go out with our scrub star.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Sarah.

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Speaker 2: I will.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna have to stay together at some point, Okay,

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Speaker 1: So I.

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Speaker 2: Would love it. Yes, I was up. I was up

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Speaker 2: last week and there was Yeah, there was like no

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Speaker 2: snow or you know, rained on snow. So I'm so

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Speaker 2: excited it's coming. And apparently it's like one hundred centimeters

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Speaker 2: in the next couple of days.

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Speaker 1: I know, I know, I'm not even I have to

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Speaker 1: leave on Thursday, but I'm going to be back in

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Speaker 1: the beginning of April, so I'm going to hit you

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Speaker 1: up and see if you're around too.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I would love it. I want to hear about Finland.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Yeah, I can't wait to tell you. It was awesome.

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Speaker 1: It was so beautiful. Yeah, Okay, have a great day, Sarah.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Ok thanks for having me.

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Speaker 3: The word of the week is officious. Officious adjective intrusive

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Speaker 3: in a meddling or offensive manner, used to describe someone

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Speaker 3: that acts more official than they actually are. Volunteering one

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Speaker 3: surfaces where they are neither asked nor needed. Used in

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Speaker 3: a sentence, the man spreading Man's planer was both meddlesome

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Speaker 3: and officious officious.

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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, I am officially on my high and mighty tour.

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Speaker 1: March twentieth is Denver, Colorado, March twenty seventh, Portland, Maine,

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Speaker 1: March twenty eighth, Providence, Rhode Island. March twenty ninth, Springfield, Massachusetts.

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Speaker 1: April tenth is Chicago. I'll be at the Chicago Theater

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Speaker 1: in April eleventh. Indianapolis, Indiana, April Twelfthville, Kentucky. April sixteenth

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Speaker 1: is Albuquerque, New Mexico. April seventeenth is Mesa, Arizona. April

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Speaker 1: twenty third is Kansas City, Missouri. April twenty fourth is

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Speaker 1: Saint Louis, Missouri. April twenty fifth is Minneapolis, Minnesota. April

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Speaker 1: thirtieth Nashville, Tennessee. May first is Charlotte, North Carolina. May

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Speaker 1: second is Durham, North Carolina. May sixth I'm doing Netflix

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Speaker 1: as a joke Festival. I will be in Los Angeles

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Speaker 1: May fifteenth, Saratoga, California. May sixteenth, Monterey, California. May seventeenth Modesto, California,

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Speaker 1: and then June fourth Portchester, New York. June fifth is Boston,

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Speaker 1: mass And June twelfth is Portland, Oregon. And then Seattle

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Speaker 1: is June thirteenth, So suck on that, everybody. Go to

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Speaker 1: Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 3: If you want advice from Chelsea, right into Dear Chelsea

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Speaker 3: podcast at gmail dot com. Dear Chelsea is a production

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Speaker 3: of iHeartMedia. Follow Chelsea on all socials at Chelsea Handler

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Speaker 3: and find Katherine on TikTok at flash Cadabra. Dear Chelsea

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Speaker 3: is edited and engineered by Brandon Dickert executive producer Katherine Law.

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Speaker 3: Find full video episodes and minisodes now on Netflix, and

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