WEBVTT - Need Some “Me Time” 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:02.160 This is Suckers. 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:06.000 I'm Kiln Bell, I'm Dean Bell, and I'm Jared han An. 0:00:06.040 --> 0:00:07.280 iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:09.320 --> 0:00:13.440 How is it going? Everybody? We are here to record 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:15.120 our episode of Suckers. 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.880 I why are you talking like that? 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:19.320 I've already started this podcast off weird. 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:20.840 My name is Dean Bell. 0:00:20.920 --> 0:00:25.599 I'm joined here in studio in Aruba by Kaylen Bell 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:29.040 and Jared is joining us for once in our Lives. Jared, 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:30.280 we're actually an hour ahead of you. 0:00:32.479 --> 0:00:33.919 Oh so it's three o'clock. 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:36.040 It's three o'clock here in Aruba. 0:00:36.200 --> 0:00:40.000 Ah Uba. How is it Ruba? You guys look very colorful. 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:42.920 Yeah, that's a nice way to say sunburn. I appreciate that. 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:44.879 It's pretty pretty nice. 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:48.639 Yeah, Dean, Dean's turning to end pretty fast, but he's 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:50.880 not wearing well. You were sunscreen today, which is good. 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:51.800 What were you going to say? 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:52.880 It was great? 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:55.640 I really love it. It's been very relaxing. We went on 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:56.280 a boat today. 0:00:58.040 --> 0:00:59.600 What else have we done? We've eaten a lot. 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:01.920 I haven't really been drinking, but as I say that, 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:04.720 we are drinking champagne. But besides this, we really haven't 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:05.559 been drinking a lot. 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:06.600 Yeah. 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:10.720 Great, summation of Aruba. So far, we have gone on 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:12.600 a boat today. We went on a boat yesterday. We 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:16.240 went to the national park up north. And she's right, 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.000 we haven't really drank that much, but we've been eating 0:01:18.040 --> 0:01:20.120 quite a bit. It's just hard to adjust to the 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:24.400 time zone difference for me, especially, I'm not sure why 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:27.160 we're three hours ahead, and I just can't seem to 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:29.120 get it together right away. 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:32.240 Well, that's why I don't like traveling very far, is 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.759 because I remember when we went to Iceland, which is 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:38.199 something along the lines. We were in La at the time, 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:41.560 like eight hours different, something crazy like that, and so 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:44.440 we we flew in, we took a red eye, so 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:47.440 we tried. We got in at like six thirty in 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.800 the morning Iceland time, but we hadn't slept in I 0:01:50.800 --> 0:01:54.800 don't know, twenty hours something along those lines, and so 0:01:55.800 --> 0:02:00.120 we were we were so tired, and it was nonine 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:01.600 o'clock in the morning. But we're like, we can't go 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:04.240 to bed because we were there Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, 0:02:04.360 --> 0:02:05.680 and so we're like, we can't go to bed because 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:07.080 it's nine in the morning. If we go to bed now, 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.480 we're screwed. So we got to try to stay awake 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.160 as long as possible. So what our plan in it 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:14.080 was a terrible plan. We were like once like eleven 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:15.880 o'clock hey, and we started really crashing. We're like, okay, 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:18.880 let's take a two hour, three hour nap. We'll rest 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:20.720 up for like three hours. We'll get up around two 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:24.000 or three do our day, and then hopefully by ten 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:26.359 o'clock tonight, because we only slept three hours, we'll be 0:02:26.400 --> 0:02:28.240 tired enough where we go to bed and get eight hours, 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:31.080 then we'll be adjusted. Well, dumb dumb over here, and 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:33.680 dumb dumb is me. I went to go set an 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:38.120 alarm for two pm, and I set it for two am. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:42.960 So we go to sleep around like eleven, and then 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:45.080 all of a sudden, I open my eyes and it's 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:48.320 dark out, and I'm like, wait a minute, what time 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:50.959 is it? And I look over and it's six thirty pm, 0:02:51.040 --> 0:02:54.720 and I'm like, oh no, we just slept eight hours 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:57.160 and it's six point thirty at night. 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.320 And then it's like you're waking up for breakfast, but 0:02:59.360 --> 0:03:01.400 then you have to go to bed in four more hours. 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:03.399 Oh, So of course we didn't go to BITU till 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:05.600 like four in the morning that night, and the whole 0:03:05.639 --> 0:03:08.359 trip was just the problem was to Iceland at this time, 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:11.880 it was wintertime. There was only about four hours of daylight, 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:15.360 four or five hours of daylight, so it's truly you 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:17.800 only have a few hours because Iceland's all about just 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:22.320 driving to waterfalls or seeing natural resources, and it was 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:23.680 you know, I don't want to do that at night 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:27.799 because that sounds very scary, so we didn't do much. 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:30.040 Now, I don't remember being especially jet lagged. On our 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:32.680 season of The Bachelorette, we went to Norway, which is, 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:34.760 you know, obviously a few hours of ahead of Iceland, 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:41.240 but like longitude, latitudinally it's about equal similar, I would say, 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:44.960 at least to southern to northern Iceland. So in terms 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.960 of just like sunlight time, I think it's probably similar 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:49.280 at the time of year that we were there. But 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.680 I don't remember specifically being too jet lagged. I don't 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:53.360 know why, maybe because as a young buck at the time, 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:54.880 I was just twenty five, so. 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:58.400 Maybe that's why you're talking about your season of Bachelorette 0:03:58.520 --> 0:03:59.560 or a trip. 0:03:59.360 --> 0:03:59.960 That you actually went. 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:03.160 I was just talking about to Ash I you're talking 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:04.520 about bacheloor At my bad. 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:07.800 But you know, I mean, you still traveled for the show, 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:09.240 so it's all kind of in the same thing. 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:11.040 You guys went to what Ireland or something? Right? 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.839 We went to Ireland and that's where I should speak 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:16.400 closer to the mic, I sound better. That's where got 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:19.560 We went to Ireland. We went to Dublin and that's 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:22.600 where I had a private concert with the Cranberry's hashtag 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.920 humble brag. And then we went to Kolarnie and that's 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:29.640 where I kissed the Blarney Stone hashtag humble breg. It 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:30.080 was cool. 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:31.919 Yeah, we've been in Ireland. 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:34.200 The jetlag here isn't bad. Why are you complaining about 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:35.440 jet lag because. 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:39.240 I'm suffering the consequences of it. You know exactly what 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:40.040 I'm talking about. 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:43.200 But it's I mean, it's like a three hour difference. 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:46.040 Yes, But the thing is our flight left at midnight 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:48.760 out of Denver. I had to drive us four hours 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:51.600 while you sat comfortably in the passenger seat, and then 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:53.960 we flew three and a half hours to Charlotte, and 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:55.560 then we had a two hour layover. Then we flew 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:56.520 three and a half hours here. 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:58.760 The Red Eye definitely messed us up, but I don't 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:00.640 think it's jet lag. I think it's it's not sleeping 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:01.320 because of the. 0:05:01.279 --> 0:05:04.839 Red eye, but jet lag kind of also like part 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:06.680 of jet lag is the fact that you're not sleeping 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:07.640 very well on an airplane. 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:10.000 I'm thinking more of like the time change you can't 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:10.440 adjust to. 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:14.360 I mean, yeah, but that's definitely part of it, definitely 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:17.160 part of the product. But yeah, so I'm still struggling 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:21.280 before we're here for two more days. Yeah, it's been 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:23.919 it's been great tropical paradise. We left like it was 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:25.480 like two feet of snow dropping on the ground in 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:27.839 Colorado when we left, and now we're kind of a bummer, honestly, 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:30.520 eighty five sunny humidity, a. 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:33.880 Bummer because I'm finally into skiing and it was a great, 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.200 great day to ski. Dean skied, but we had friends 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:38.120 in town, so we skied for two days. Dean skied 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:41.360 for four days, and then we left and Dean drove 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:43.520 through a very scary, crazy snowstorm. 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:44.960 So props to him, thank you. 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:46.520 That's why I'm tired, because I had to focus so 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:48.520 much energy on driving and getting us there safely. 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:50.480 Yeah. 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:55.120 So my question for you, because a lot of couples 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:58.760 go through this do you think that the juice is 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:01.680 worth the squeeze right now? With the jet lag, the 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:04.640 missing of the snow, and you know, listen, this is 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:06.480 in your honeymoon, so it's not like you have to 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:09.800 feel guilt about being like, oh, maybe we shouldn't have 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:13.280 done this because we're just tired and we'd rather actually 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:15.080 be in the snow and be at home in our 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:18.560 new house. So my question for you is, do you 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:21.360 think thus far on your trip through Aruba, the juice 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:22.840 has been worth the squeeze? 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:24.800 Yeah? I do. 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.000 I think it's so nice, so relaxing. It's nice to 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.640 change it up being in the dead of winter right now. 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:33.760 I guess we're approaching spring. But it's nice to come 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:36.680 here and lay on the beach and be a little mindless. 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:39.760 It's nice to leave winter paradise to go to a 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:40.599 tropical paradise. 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:41.760 So it is nice. 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:43.479 It is very, very nice, and I'm so happy to 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:46.320 be here, and we're here for the perfect amount of time. 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:49.279 I think too, Like Monday to Friday is great because 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:51.280 if it's like Friday to Sunday, it feels like you 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.240 don't have enough time. If it's Monday to Monday, you 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:54.960 feel like you're spending a little bit too much time 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:56.280 away from home. So I do think that we kind 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:57.719 of nailed it right in the head timing wise. 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:00.440 Yeah, we were supposed to go straight from here to Italy, 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:03.160 and then we were sad about leaving al So we're 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:05.119 gonna go home for a week and then go to Italy, 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:05.919 which'll be nice. 0:07:06.040 --> 0:07:06.280 Yeah. 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:07.919 I just wish that it was easier to fly with 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:09.679 dogs internationally, and. 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:10.720 We had a dog that's nicer. 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:13.240 But yeah, both, Well, it's not like he's going to 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:15.520 be Yeah, we've traveled with him before, and I see 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:18.160 your point, But I just wish that he could fly 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:20.080 with us, Like, can we get him a passport. 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:23.320 Or something, a dog passport. He just has to be quarantined, 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:23.960 I'm pretty sure. 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:26.120 Yeah, But then by the time he's done quarantine, it's 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:26.720 time to go home. 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:29.200 It's not really worth it. 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:31.640 I mean, these are so small, kit you just put 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:35.920 him in a nice little handbag and put him underneath 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:36.200 the seat. 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:36.720 That's what we do. 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:39.120 Yeah, but I think what pawn arrival at least Hawaii, 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:41.480 I don't you're kinda are you sure about that? 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:44.720 No, I only know about Hawaii, And well, you were 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:46.120 trying to bring a dog back from Nepal. 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:48.720 So I know about Nepal's rules. I don't know about Europe. 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:51.240 Yeah, I don't know. 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:54.120 It's also like more enjoyable to not have him on 0:07:54.160 --> 0:07:56.200 a trip, to worry about taking him out, to worry 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:59.080 about if he's going to bite someone at a restaurant, 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:01.120 if we're going to kicked out of a restaurant like 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:01.440 we have. 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:03.600 I disagree. I want him with me at all times. 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:04.960 I would take him everywhere if I could. 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:07.840 So, Deane's the reason we're not going to Italy. We 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:09.480 just need we just need to go home and see 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:10.040 how I'm the. 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.520 Reason we're not going in Italy. We are still going 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:15.239 to Italy. And when we confirmed that we weren't going, 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:18.080 you were jumping up and down with excitement at home, 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:20.120 and you literally looked me in the eyes and you said, 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:23.120 I can't believe I'm the girl that's excited about not 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:25.440 going to Italy now. 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:27.560 Because going back to back trips was a lot, and 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:31.200 packing for eighty degree weather and then packing for sixty 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:32.400 degree weather was scinon. 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:32.839 Is dressing me out? 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:35.360 And I we don't check bags, so packing that in 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:37.280 a carry on, I did it, but I wasn't happy 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:37.559 about it. 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:39.680 I'm not saying you're wrong. I'm just saying, don't blame 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:41.320 it on me when you're saying that you when you 0:08:41.360 --> 0:08:41.880 were jumping up. 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:45.480 I know you do. I know you do. 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:46.839 This is the life that I've signed up for, and 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:49.560 that's totally fine. I've totally agreed and I'm totally down 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:51.960 with it. But yeah, so here we are in Aruba. 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:54.800 It's been great. It's been perfect weather, a little bit windy, 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:57.280 but it is what it is. Eighty five and sunny 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.120 every single day and we're just having a black. 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:02.280 You guys have any like cute couple of things that 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:03.000 you're doing. 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:06.120 Just dinners every night. It's like a very romantic honeymoon 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:09.559 esque spot. It's like people are either on their honeymoons 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:13.600 or it's people with time shares or just retirees on vacation. 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:14.440 It seems like. 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:16.480 Or we're trying to get the young people to be 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:17.560 interested in it now too. 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:18.640 Yeah, they should be. It's great. 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:21.440 I mean it's it really has been a great vacation. Yeah, 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:22.640 and super easy to get to. 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.040 Super easy to get too. We're working with the tourism board, 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:28.320 so it's been it's been a fantastic experience so far, 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:31.400 And if anyone's listening to this podcast, we are probably 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:32.800 going to talk about it on Been There Dean that 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:35.960 next week, so we'll get into some more depth about it, 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:38.680 about our daily routine and our and our itinerary and 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:40.480 what we've done and where we ate and all those things. 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:43.000 Yeah, like it's a Caribbean island, but and we'll talk 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:46.200 more about that on your podcast. But there's a lot 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:48.360 to do, whereas I feel like a lot of Caribbean islands, 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:51.400 you're kind of just I don't know, on an island. 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:53.120 But there, we went on to a national park. 0:09:53.160 --> 0:09:56.120 There's hikes, there's there's more than just the beach, which 0:09:56.160 --> 0:10:06.120 is nice. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:08.839 How is it up in Rhode Island? 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:14.240 Uh? Cold, It's cold and crappy out right now, but 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:16.600 it was nice the other day it was like sixteen Sonny. 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:20.520 I was actually thinking yesterday because Ashley has a doctor 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:24.480 appointment down in Virginia next week, so she is going 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:29.079 to go early to see her family. I have to 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:31.079 work a couple extra days. She'll leave a couple of 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:32.880 days before me and then I'll meet up with her. 0:10:33.040 --> 0:10:34.920 But I was thinking as well, and I felt that 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:37.280 saying this to her face, but I did, which was 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:40.280 I love visiting your family, but I can't stay at 0:10:40.320 --> 0:10:42.120 your parents' house for more than a few days anymore. 0:10:42.120 --> 0:10:46.560 I think at that stage because I love them so much, 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.000 I love spending time with them, it's truly not them. 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:54.200 It's more so I need my I don't have a 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:57.200 car there, I don't have my stuff there, I don't 0:10:57.240 --> 0:11:00.520 have my routine there. So like I'm just the type 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:02.960 of person where I am very much like go go, go, 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:04.719 go go. So if I'm not an Audrey, so I'm 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:06.560 down here, I'm on the computer, but then I'm also 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:09.720 like getting the garage together, or setting up a studio downstairs, 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:12.760 or cleaning up the basement, or like just doing things 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.320 around the house, or running errands, or like cleaning up 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:18.120 the cars, and like going to the gym, and these 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:20.000 things that I can't do anymore. I can't do down 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:21.839 there because it's like I always had the ass to 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:23.880 use her mom's car, and then I always feel terrible 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:26.000 because you know, her Mom's like, oh, I'm gonna go 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:27.920 to the grocery store later, and I'm like, oh, don't. 0:11:28.000 --> 0:11:29.040 Like I don't need to go to the gym. I 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:31.600 final I'll just do like push up downstairs. I can't 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:34.360 put a burden on her. So it's just like and 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:38.880 then it's it's nice having the help, but I wish 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:41.439 I just I was like, should we just like buy 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:43.800 a piece of crab car that we just have down 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:45.080 there so we have the freedom and where I can 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:46.480 be like, oh, I'm just gonna run or I'm gonna 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:48.320 go here, or I'm going to do that or so 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:49.959 on and so forth. It's really just like the lack 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:50.480 of freedom. 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:52.560 There's something about being a guy where it's just like 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:55.280 you just want to have you want to have something 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:57.040 that's going to take you away from being at home 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.199 for an hour, whether it's like running errands or going 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.720 to the store or working out something like that, just 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.520 like an hour to yourself where you're just like music's 0:12:04.559 --> 0:12:07.560 on and and you can just you know, do just 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:08.760 do guy stuff for an hour. 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:11.040 I know, I've been working out in the morning, which 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:13.599 has been great unless I have to open Audrey's. But 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:18.080 uh yeah, dude, it's just like I need that. And 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:20.320 I can't tell if Ashley needs that. Kaelin, do you 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:20.839 need that. 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:24.719 Like time alone working out? What do you mean, like. 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:29.320 You I I feel selfish saying it, but like I 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.920 also wake up before Dawson and Ashley wake up to 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:34.840 ensure that I'm not infringing on their time. But like 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:37.920 I need to go to the gym and I need 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:41.440 to just like be alone for a part of the day. 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:44.240 Not a long extended period of time, but like if 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:46.240 I'm like, hey, I'm gonna go get a coffee and 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:48.480 Ashley's like, oh, I'll come with you, and I'm like, 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:52.280 I love you so much, I'll bring Dawson, but like 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:56.120 I need, I need to be in my own head. 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:59.480 Yeah, I mean I guilty here as well. 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.800 Well, I definitely need that time to work out, Like 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:06.560 I feel really bad and gross if I don't have 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:07.440 I don't work. 0:13:07.320 --> 0:13:09.400 Out like five times a week, So I need that time. 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:11.480 And I like being in my car alone, like listening 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:13.920 to my music or my podcast, So I get that. 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:17.840 Yeah, I think Ashley is the weird one. I really do. 0:13:18.040 --> 0:13:23.280 She like never needs that and it's the most I mean, 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:25.079 I think I've talked about this podcast before and it's 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:29.640 the most endearing, sweetest, most wonderful thing. But it's like 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:34.480 I feel terrible because I'm like I just need, you know, like, 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:36.640 even I love going to the gym in the morning. 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:38.920 It's like gets my day going. I love it so much. 0:13:39.720 --> 0:13:42.080 It's like I get up, I do my thing. But 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:44.760 then she's told me on numerous occasions, she's like, I 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:47.640 miss you being home when I wake up. And I'm like, 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:51.040 ohh no, and she says it in such an endearing 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.360 and wonderful way. How could you possibly ever be mad 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:55.280 at that? But she's like, I'm not saying that I 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:56.760 don't want you to go to the gym, but like, 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:58.920 do you have to go to the gym every morning, 0:13:59.000 --> 0:14:00.760 maybe like once or twice, and then you go later 0:14:00.800 --> 0:14:03.160 in the afternoon the other days. I'm like, no, that's 0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:06.160 I don't want to do that. I want to go 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:08.000 to the gym five or six times a week in 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:09.959 the morning, like get my day going. That's how I am. 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.240 She's like, I just miss waking up and having you there. 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:15.640 It's like it's just a different vibe. And I'm like, oh, 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.360 that's so sweet and you're so wonderful, but like I 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:21.680 can't do that for you. Yeah. 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:23.200 Well, and there is something to be said about working 0:14:23.200 --> 0:14:24.680 out in the morning too. It just does set the 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.600 day off on it a good note, but there are 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:29.480 times where like I don't want you to feel like 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:33.640 bad or guilty about that, because I'm the exact same way. Like, 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:37.200 for instance, when we were in Bozeman for Christmas and 0:14:37.360 --> 0:14:39.560 we were about to drive from Bozeman to our new 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:42.640 house in Colorado. To Kaylin, I was like, you could 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:44.880 drive with me for it's eleven hours to get to 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:47.200 boat to Colorado. You can ride with me in the car, 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:49.360 or you can fly to Denver and take that car 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:51.960 and drive that up to Carbondale. And in my head, 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:53.680 I was like, I think it's kind of a win 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:55.400 win because Kaylin doesn't have to sit in the car 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:57.480 with me for eleven hours. You know, I get a 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.320 like there's just something about like listening to the music 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:01.360 that I want to listen to, to listening to the crappy 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:04.080 podcast that I like to listen to, getting to pee 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:06.120 on my own schedule, and not having to worry, you know, 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:09.800 there is something nice about that where obviously marriage is 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:11.680 the best thing in the entire world, but I think 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:15.400 people still need the time to be by themselves and 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:16.640 like function as an individual. 0:15:16.680 --> 0:15:17.760 Sometimes No, I one. 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:18.480 Hundred percent agree. 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:21.040 I think there's like two different relationships, Like we function 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:23.000 really well when he goes on trips for like a 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:27.160 week or two weeks, even you haven't done for a while. 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:30.040 But I think we function really well when we have 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:31.480 that time of part and then we come back together, 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:33.200 or if it's just like a weekend or whatever. But 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:35.720 then there's some couples who who don't have that and 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:36.680 function perfectly fine. 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:39.000 I think we're just unique in that way. 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:40.920 I just I'm so used to being alone that I 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:47.520 when I'm alone, I think I think more interestingly in 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:49.080 a way. I don't know how to describe it, but 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:51.400 like when all I have to do is think about 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:54.040 my own thoughts, I just feel like my brain goes 0:15:54.080 --> 0:15:56.680 to weird or darker, not darker, but like more interesting places. 0:15:57.400 --> 0:16:00.680 And when I'm around you, or even if I'm like 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:02.760 watching TV or whatever it is, it my brain like 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:04.800 allows itself to like tap out before I get to 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:07.760 that weirdly interesting place. And when you're alone, like you're 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:10.840 allowed to kind of pursue those avenues mentally and see 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:11.240 just like. 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:13.720 How weird you really are alone. I love it. 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:15.640 I think I do think there is so much of 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:17.880 a benefit to it, where it's like you'll never fully 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:20.560 realize how weird you are until you spend you know, 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:22.320 a certain amount of time by yourself. 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:23.960 I never knew it was about weirdness. 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:26.200 I love being weird. I think weird is the most 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:28.920 underrated thing in the history of humanity. 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:31.160 I like being alone just because I feel like I'm 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:31.760