WEBVTT - Hopeless Romantic and Single 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:04.160 and The Black Effects. 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:13.960 Hey you all, what's up your girl? Justsee Lourie's is here? 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:16.439 Welcome back to you got another Canfully Reckless episode with 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:20.599 your girl Jess. Hilarious. Now listen, I am tired of 0:00:20.680 --> 0:00:24.520 shit today period, and you all gonna get these stories. 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:27.520 But I'm gonna let my friend Taylor read the story. 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:28.000 She's tried. 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:30.639 Mmm, she try and get about the room, y'all. No, 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:33.600 come on, this is one of my producers or whatever, 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:37.320 and she's gonna read the story because this is a 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:40.280 long story and I don't understand, So come on, kick 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:40.800 it to them. 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:42.320 What's up, Jess. 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:44.800 I started this new job at a warehouse about two 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:47.559 months ago, where I met my boyfriend. He was already 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:48.280 working there. 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:50.440 And I was new girl. He was all over me. 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:53.239 At first, I didn't really give him any play, but 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:56.720 the consistency in him constantly showing effort was so attractive, 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:57.760 so I gave him a. 0:00:57.680 --> 0:00:59.080 Shot, and now he's my boyfriend. 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:01.440 We only we had the same shifts and when we 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:03.640 would get off, he will always take me out, which 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:06.320 I thought was so sweet. It was even this one 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:08.440 time that he booked a nice hotel and got it 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:11.440 decorated and ran me up a hot bath and bessiged 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:12.280 me the whole night. 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:16.520 I've never had that before. Now, like I told you, 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:17.240 we are. 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:20.080 Only two months in and everything is beyond perfect, which 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:22.759 makes me question is it really perfect? So one day 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:24.839 I asked him, Hey, how do you feel about meeting 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:26.840 my parents? And he told me that it's a big 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:29.440 step for him to take and he's not quite ready yet. 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:32.039 And I understand because we only have been dating for 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:35.240 two months, but I was also still just testing him, 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:38.240 so I left it alone. But girl, that same day, 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:40.319 we get in the car. It's this number that keeps 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:43.160 calling him. He answers it and says it's his sister 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:46.160 and she has a new number. Side note, I actually 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:48.320 met his sister once and I didn't know she was 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:51.120 having problems with her phone, so I'm like, okay, cool. 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:53.600 A few days later, we were lying in the bed 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:55.320 and his sister starts calling. 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:57.320 Him again and again and again. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:01:59.360 I asked him, why don't you just pick it up, 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.560 and he told me she's annoying. So I didn't want 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:03.200 to get in the middle of that, so I just 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:05.880 let it be. He walks in the kitchen and she's 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:08.440 still calling him. But my mom was like, maybe you 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:11.240 should just answer the phone. It should be important. So 0:02:11.320 --> 0:02:14.040 I answer it, and she said you must not be 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:16.120 answering the phone because you were with that bitch stopped 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:19.000 playing with me before I tell you what's up. So 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:20.880 I said, tell me what's up, and she hung up 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:22.920 the phone. I called her back three times and she 0:02:22.960 --> 0:02:25.520 did not answer. I blacked out. I ran in the 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:27.960 kitchen and said that bitch is not your sister, and 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:30.480 he's like, what are you talking about. I'm like, I 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:32.360 answered your phone and that bitch is not your sister. 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:35.160 So he starts going off why would I touch his phone? 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:37.880 I had no business doing that, and basically trying to 0:02:37.880 --> 0:02:40.440 flip the whole script. We are sitting there fussing for 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:42.480 about five minutes, and he kept trying to deny it 0:02:42.600 --> 0:02:45.760 and saying it's not even like that bullshit. So I 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:48.080 just left it at that point, and he followed me 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:50.520 to my car. He even got in his car and 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:52.239 was trying to follow me for a little bit. 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:53.160 But he just stopped. 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:55.600 I got in the house and cried my little eyes out, 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:57.240 and I didn't even want to go to work the 0:02:57.280 --> 0:02:59.720 next day because I knew I would see him that night. 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:03.200 I call his phone because I wanted answers. I was blocked. 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:05.720 I just left it at that. I go to work 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:07.640 the next day and he's not even there. So in 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:09.839 my head, I'm just thinking, what do this nigga really 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:12.840 got going on? I don't want no part of it anymore, 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:14.960 but I would like to know, because I did just 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:18.240 waste my time and literally quite in love with him. 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:23.560 Later that night, he sends me a text apologizing and 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:26.280 saying he was overreacting, but he wanted to tell me 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:26.720 the truth. 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:27.440 He said. 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:29.400 The truth was that he used to date his sister's 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:31.560 best friend, and when they were with each other, she 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:34.000 would take my sister's phone and try to calm me 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:37.320 off of it because she's blocked on everything. He don't 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:39.480 even know why his sister is still friends with the girl, 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:43.080 considering she's crazy. But that's what he told me he was. 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:45.920 I didn't respond back because I just didn't know what 0:03:46.000 --> 0:03:48.160 to believe. Do you think he could be lying or 0:03:49.040 --> 0:03:51.160 do this even sound right? Let me know what you think. 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:54.560 Wait a minute, So he used to work together, okay, 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:56.360 and so that's how she met him at work and 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.680 he kept showing up assistance and all that. Ohky, because 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:00.360 I was okay because I thought they he was just 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:02.680 coming up her job. But he actually worked there. And 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.720 you went up there and you said he was there. 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:08.560 It wasn't even at work. Girl, Listen, two things could 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:11.520 have happened. He could have because that, honestly, that shit 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:13.480 could be true. We know one thing he loved to do. 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.560 He loved block, and bitches don't have no problem with blocking, 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:17.960 none of y'll out of his motherfucking life. Okay, so 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:20.320 you said you met the sister and you you didn't 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:21.919 know she was having issues with her phone, so she 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.440 got a new number whatever whatever. Now that being the 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:29.560 sister's friend, I have seen situations like that. That's why 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:32.680 I used to have the mindset like I don't fuck 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:36.120 with men with sisters because a lot of times sisters 0:04:36.120 --> 0:04:39.080 and moms and cousins and shit and aunts and shit, 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:42.080 they can't break up with a person. When you break 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.400 up with a person and they have their favorite xes 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:46.279 and shit, you get what I'm saying. If there's no 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.640 reason why if I'm breaking up with you, and let's 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.800 just say fensince I'm the guy, if I broke up 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:53.680 with you, you're still hanging around my fucking family and shit like, 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:56.520 that's gonna be crazy for whoever I am dating, the 0:04:56.520 --> 0:05:00.400 next person I'm dating or whatever. So that could be true, 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:02.719 but then he could be lying as well, because how 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:04.720 he blew up and shit and then blocks you. You 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:08.280 had the audacity to block me after I find out 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:10.560 some shit. If he'd kept that shit a huntred from 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:13.960 the jump, it would have never been no issue because 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:19.520 communication and honesty is just two things that can solve 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:22.120 so many fucking problems. That's not to say you wouldn't 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:24.200 have been angry, but at least he told you up 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:26.560 front the first time the sister called. I know, it's 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:28.920 kind of like, all right, cool, hanging aswer for his sister, 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:31.080 But when y'all was laying in bed and that number 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:32.680 kept calling him back to back, he knew what the 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:34.320 fuck was going on, and all he had to do 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:40.039 was say, Yo, it's my sister popping up, But it's 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:43.839 my ex calling me from my sister's phone because she's 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:44.800 blocked on everything. 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:50.000 That's all he had to say. But on you. 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:54.920 Now, for you, it's only been two months, baby like, 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:57.720 and I'm not trying to downplay your relationship, because when 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:00.960 somebody just sweeps you off your fucking after you try 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:02.640 to resist them and all that type of shit. 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:04.680 But like, if a god makes you. 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.520 Fold and where you want to fucking deal with him, 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:15.480 then I understand how you kind of could be swept 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:18.240 off your feet. And I totally do understand it. I 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:22.799 totally do get it. But it was only two months, 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:24.520 and that was like two months of you being in 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:27.240 the honeymoon phase. And then also after two months you said, hey, 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:29.359 you want to meet your mother. That's a red flag 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:31.599 right there too, I mean, and then on the flip 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:33.680 side of it, after two months, I'm not sure I 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:34.240 meet your mother. 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:35.760 You know what I'm saying. This is how some guys 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:36.400 could be thinking. 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:38.919 Have y'all ever talked about I want to know if 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:41.640 y'all ever talked about being official or being in a 0:06:41.640 --> 0:06:43.640 relationship and shit like that, Because even though because a 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:48.000 guy could be playing all the right roles, like doing 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:52.080 all the right things, playing the boyfriend duty and you know, 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:56.599 all that type shit, it's still not want to commit 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.040 you feel me like it's a lot of guys out 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:03.560 here like that, Like women, women do all these wifely duties, 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:05.960 we cater to these men and all that, but still 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:07.360 don't want a relationship. 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:09.920 You get what I'm saying. So that could have been 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:10.400 what he was on. 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:12.280 But if y'all talked about being in a relationship and 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:16.080 all that type of shit, then I understand he definitely failed. 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.320 But he didn't want to meet your mother. I left 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:19.920 a nigga for not wanting to meet my mother. The 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:23.040 nigga that I took on a couple's retreat. That nigga 0:07:23.040 --> 0:07:24.920 didn't want to meet my mom until I broke up 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:26.360 with his and he was like, I meet your mother. 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:28.840 Don't ever try to play with my mother, and that 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:30.680 I broke up with you. Now you want to meet her? Now? 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:34.440 Now on til the next one like jay Z and Swizz, 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:39.680 because we're not playing Oh hold on, hold on, hold 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:40.640 on your here she go. 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:45.640 I was dealing with a person and we were rather 0:07:45.680 --> 0:07:48.000 go on vacation that first time, and my mom just 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:50.080 wanted to know, like okay, let me just talk to him, 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:53.040 like see like catch his character or whatever. That. Yeah, 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:55.600 how he reacted to just talking to him talking to 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:58.520 her on the phone, not like while he was on 0:07:58.520 --> 0:08:01.000 the phone with her, but before that like, oh, I'm 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:04.160 just stressed out, like it was a lot, and he 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:05.320 was like, I just want to get over with, Like 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:06.680 I probably just meet both of your parents. 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:08.160 I could go over with. What do you mean get 0:08:08.160 --> 0:08:08.720 it over with? 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:11.640 If you're trying to grow a future with me, you 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:14.600 can't just get it over with, like you're gonna see 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:15.720 them a lot then. 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:16.240 All right? 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:18.200 So he always a better go on the trip and 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:19.760 your mother wanted to know who he was going on the. 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:21.560 Trip because it was just y'all too exactly. 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:23.720 My mother would be the same exact way and has 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:25.679 been the same exact way in the past. 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:27.960 Did you ask where that came from? Like has he 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:28.680 ever tried me? 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:30.800 Maybe in the past he was told he wasn't good 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:33.720 enough for somebody's daughter or what like yeah it was 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:38.120 like extra, yeah it was it was yeah, it wasn't 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:39.640 And what happened to him? 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.920 Oh he's going he acted out on that vacations. 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:46.839 He acted out on a vacation. Clay say yo, say no. 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:48.880 Shout out to Love is Blind season seven. That's my shirt, 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:51.439 my bead child because that sounds like something clear that 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:55.000 like boy that I find all right, So back to 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:58.400 the girl, so tell her you think the guy is lying, Okay, 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:02.720 let's say he is lying, leave his ass alon like, 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:06.000 because when you read your own story back, mama, like 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:08.800 you you, you clearly can see what's going on now, 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:13.240 even he's even when he admitted to overreacting and shit 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:15.559 like that and then he told you the truth. 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:21.800 Yo, A number kept calling if the friend was using 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:23.920 this sister's phone, when did't he have his sister's number 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:25.040 already locked? 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:29.120 But maybe he didn't want to block his sister. 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:33.160 But she's put it like that wasn't it was just 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:36.320 a number and he said that was his sister. Why 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:38.640 wasn't your sister's contact being your phone already? 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:40.960 No, you're right, You're totally right about that. 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:45.280 So look, I don't know who line or not, but 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:48.959 I feel like you should leave him alone just because 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:50.800 it just seems like it's a lot of mess. And 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:53.560 then obviously the ex is not over him. And even 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:57.640 though she's blocked on everything, who's to say that the 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:02.520 sister ain't keeping her around because they do talk sometimes 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.880 or you get what I'm saying, And then she could 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:07.800 be blocked for right now and shit, and that's why 0:10:07.840 --> 0:10:10.320 she called him so fucking much. He probably she probably 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:12.680 made his ass mad again and he blocked like you 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:13.679 was blocked temporarily. 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:16.880 Then he called you once he calmed. 0:10:16.520 --> 0:10:19.680 His ass down and felt better about the situation enough 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.040 to explain the truth to you, or his version of 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:23.080 whatever the truth may be. 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:25.679 So I think you shall honestly leave him alone. 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:28.240 And then I feel like God shows people these things 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:31.040 so early to try to save you from something bigger 0:10:31.080 --> 0:10:34.079 and deeper happening later. I mean, it's only been two months. 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:36.480 You enjoyed the honeymoon phase. You done got rubbed down, 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:39.600 all that everything. He swept you off your feet. Girl, 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:41.680 Go back to work, do your thing, and look, try 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:44.559 not to date nobody you work with that's always liking 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:46.520 this shit. That's a red flags and it's just a 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:48.800 nigga that you want to fuck with. And you see 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:51.440 like red flags are happening and all that type shit. 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:53.960 You work with him. You gotta be around this motherfucker 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:57.559 every day. Know that I would never date nobody fuck 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:00.400 I work with period. I mean, I'm not as you, 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:03.440 but I am, so don't do that. All right, le'vel 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:06.120 update me hit me back, because let me know what's 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:06.480 going on. 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:06.840 Now. 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:08.760 We're gonna take a brief break, you can go grab 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:11.080 you something to eat, something to drink, something like that. 0:11:14.880 --> 0:11:16.719 Hey, Jess, So I have a friend that she's a 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:18.320 homie who is very beautiful. 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:20.800 We've been friends for years. She's an amazing woman. 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:24.280 However, I'm talking to this new guy and I'm scared 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:27.000 to bring him around her. In the past, she has 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:31.920 going after guys I have liked and talked to, and honestly, like, 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:34.559 it wasn't a big deal to me, but at the 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:36.800 same time, it's like, but why are you at my leftovers? 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.679 So it just leaves me a bad taste in my mouth, 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:42.080 Like I don't I love her, but it's just like, Ugh, 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:44.319 I don't know, she's a type of friend. I want 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:48.160 to really bring her around someone that I actually really like. 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:51.680 I don't know whether to be insecure about it or 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:53.000 just don't say anything. 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:53.800 Wow. 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:58.480 So there's this friend that you have that has in 0:11:58.520 --> 0:12:04.320 the past gone at the guys that you were talking 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:06.720 to after you were talking to them. So she ain't 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:10.880 try to interrupt your relationship with even y'all little talking phase, 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:15.680 but she would still proceed to show interest in the 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:20.040 guy after y'all would talk. Fuck yeah, the fuck First 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.199 of all, why are you still friends with her? And 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:25.839 then it should be in absolutely no way, shape or 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:27.600 for him a question in your mind if you would 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:29.800 bring this man around her, why are you trying to 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:33.240 bring him around? Like no, no, my friends ain't met 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:35.200 Christ and my friends have never done no shit like that. 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:37.440 But my friends ain't meet Christ until I was in 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:39.880 a relationship with this nigga. We was in out talking phase. 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:42.880 I didn't bring him around. I wanted to make sure 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:44.600 he was right for me, you know what I'm saying. 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:46.160 I didn't want to jump the gun and then he'd 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:49.480 just be enough a nigga that adds to the pile 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:51.920 of niggas that I was talking to. And it didn't 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:53.520 work with You know what I'm saying because I hate 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:54.640 failed relationships. 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:56.040 I hate failed talk ships. 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:58.400 Because I'm not talking to you just for you to 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:00.800 go here about your business. I'm talking to you because 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:02.920 I love love, I love relationships. But I wanted to 0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:06.920 make sure, after so many failed relationships, that Chris was 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:07.360 the one. 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:09.559 And once I did, and I knew that. 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:14.120 Significantly fast, significantly fast, like seven months in, I was like, 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:15.880 all right, yeah, you can meet everybody. Well, I actually 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:17.520 know it was five months my bad five months in 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:19.520 because my son was the first one to meet him. 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:20.880 And then I was like, all right, I'm gonna bring 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:21.560 around my friends. 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:24.800 And then my mom didn't want to meet him because 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:26.680 my mom got tired of meeting men that I wasn't 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:29.719 gonna be with that I wasn't it wouldn't last. And 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:34.040 so you know, that's what it was. There's no way 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.560 that you should be trying to You ain't got no 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:38.160 more friends to bring them around. Why the fuck you 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:42.520 keep bringing niggas around this one? The fuc y'all must 0:13:42.559 --> 0:13:45.560 be like really really good friends, best friend's sisters, something. 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:48.120 But I'm telling you, best friends don't scout out your 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:50.959 fucking exes or people that you were talking to. You 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:53.240 know how many minute it is in the world where 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.360 you don't have to ever go after somebody's leftovers, whether 0:13:56.520 --> 0:13:58.839 like I said, whether they were married to them, boyfriend, whatever, 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:01.319 whether I don't care if y'all y'all went out on 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:05.160 one date, why the hell you, as my friend, would 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:08.480 go behind me and do that, You know what I'm saying, 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:10.360 So you gotta check her. But I would say, if 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:11.840 the shit is going good with that guy, that you 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:14.120 would now know, do not bring him around her, but 0:14:14.240 --> 0:14:16.920 had that conversation with her, because it's not like you 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:19.520 need a little bit more advice on whether you should 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:23.479 be insecure about the situation. Nah, don't be fucking insecure 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:28.920 about somebody else. What somebody else doing? You leave your 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:31.680 man and your friends separate, but heavy conversation with your 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:33.000 friend because I can tell you and never had a 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:34.920 conversation with her, or she would have stopped doing that show, 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:36.440 y'all would not be friends right now? 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:37.560 You get what I'm saying. 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:39.400 If she really a friend, you gotta sit her down 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:41.720 and be like, listen, why is it every time that 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:42.320 I talk. 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:45.320 To someone or you or keep that shit straight up 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:45.560 with her? 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:48.440 I did want to introduce you to somebody that I'm 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:49.920 dealing with, but in the past I noticed that you 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:52.320 would after the same type of guys or like my 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.360 exes or whatever, or when I'm done with them, you'll 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:55.720 end up talking to them. 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:58.440 No shame in your game? Why are you so comfortable 0:14:58.440 --> 0:14:59.400 doing it? As my friend? 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:01.040 I've been one to talk to you about this, but 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:04.840 I just didn't know if it was worth me even 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.840 saying anything because obviously I'm not in a relationship with 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:11.680 these guys anymore. But it still just shows your character 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:16.880 and I don't want to carry this any any longer. 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:18.280 I want you to know how I feel about it. 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:20.360 You gotta have a conversation with your fucking friend, because 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:22.520 I don't know what's wrong with you. You keep letting 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:25.040 her take niggas from you. Say no, but I just 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:27.960 think you should, like really really have a conversation with her, 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:31.160 And no, don't don't don't bring your man around her 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:33.680 even after you had a conversation, because she been You've 0:15:33.680 --> 0:15:36.240 been allowing her to do this shit for years. So 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:39.040 take the guy around your family. I mean, you know, 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:41.520 or somebody if you really want to introduce him, is 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:45.080 he he must be a hunk child? Like what what 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:46.280 what he looked like? 0:15:46.280 --> 0:15:46.360 Like? 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:47.840 What's what is it? 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:52.080 You know? 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:53.520 What what's going on with you? 0:15:54.080 --> 0:15:54.320 Do you? 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.360 I'm trying to get her business right now, You're like, no, 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:03.480 so what's going what's going to? Because all right, for 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:06.440 those who don't know, Taylor is in the first episode 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:10.320 of Breakfast Club series that me, DJ Andvy and Charlamagne started, 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:13.520 and I'm the one that's giving her advice on dating 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:16.320 because she was like at one point, fuck these niggas. 0:16:16.360 --> 0:16:18.800 These niggas, these niggas are fuck boys, and they don't 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.720 deserve me. And I know my worth, you know, But 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:25.480 apparently at one point she didn't because she was sitting 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:28.800 there a pout one about how niggas ain't shuit so 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:31.000 you didn't know you're worth all this time. 0:16:31.840 --> 0:16:34.640 So so what's going on? 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:34.920 Now? 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:36.480 Where are we? Because they want to know. 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:40.560 First of all, I knew my word. That's why I 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:42.560 break up with them. 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:46.640 Nothing I'm dating oh. 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:48.480 And I would say this is the first time that 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:54.480 I'm I'm dating someone, but like it's very transparent where 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:59.280 I told him, like, look, I'm gonna be dating other people, 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:01.000 like and you're free too too. 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:04.800 I'm not damn So you're saying here calling niggas fuck 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:06.640 boys and you want some fuck girl shit. 0:17:06.640 --> 0:17:09.800 It's not that. That's not what's going on, white thing 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:12.760 as a funck girl shit. We're very transparent with each other, 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:16.440 but like we're not exclusive. And if a guy, if 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:18.840 I'm walking out whatever that and I see a guy 0:17:18.920 --> 0:17:21.679 that showed interest and he gets taped my number, he 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:26.080 can because I'm not touching anybody. 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:28.520 Okay, So no matter how all right, So be cause 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:31.040 you have girls who like to date one guy at 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:34.239