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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey. This is from Cheyenne and Plano. Cheyenne writes,

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Speaker 1: I have two younger sisters and they've dated the same

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Speaker 1: guys twice. I'm concerned that this is a thing for them.

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Speaker 1: I talked to them and they said it's no big deal.

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Speaker 1: They're nineteen and twenty one and moving too fast. Should

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Speaker 1: I let them make their own mistakes?

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Speaker 2: Well?

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Speaker 3: They making them. I'm trying to figure out where you

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Speaker 3: at in this. Should I let them? They doing it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: They twenty twenty one. You can't tell them nothing.

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Speaker 1: Nineteen and twenty one.

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Speaker 3: Why would two sisters want to be passed between the

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Speaker 3: same man?

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Speaker 2: Why? What makes that okay in your head? What? Man?

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Speaker 2: We just live in a different world today.

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Speaker 1: Man, It's just yeah, it seems like in their minds

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Speaker 1: though they're passing the guys between them.

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Speaker 2: The difference is.

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Speaker 3: The difference here is the act of sex between the

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Speaker 3: two is quite different.

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Speaker 2: M It's very very different.

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Speaker 3: And if you don't treat your body with more respect,

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Speaker 3: stop expecting other people to do it.

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Speaker 1: That's right, that's right.

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Speaker 3: That part if you will allow anybody to come along

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Speaker 3: with a conversation and have it. Then that's what's going

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Speaker 3: to continue to happen to you. Well, you have to

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Speaker 3: set some standards for yourself, young ladies, and you can.

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Speaker 3: That's not being old fashioned, that's just being smart to

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Speaker 3: who you are.

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Speaker 2: This is.

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Speaker 3: This is just you putting the value on yourself that

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Speaker 3: you should have. And if a boy comes over and

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Speaker 3: dates your sister and gets rid of your sister, why

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Speaker 3: would you.

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Speaker 2: Allow him to come and do the same thing to you.

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Speaker 1: Ride They don't know that unless someone tells them that.

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Speaker 1: So I'm glad you said what you just said.

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Speaker 3: Man, And you know, I don't you know, there's some

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Speaker 3: stuff out there that's still good called morals.

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Speaker 2: Those are still good values.

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Speaker 1: They still good self respect, you know.

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Speaker 2: Self esteem. Yeah, I'll see the pride, dignity just yeah

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Speaker 2: them words is old, but.

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Speaker 1: They still but they're still meaning. Yeah, they're still means today.

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Speaker 1: All right, Thank you, Celo, great advice. Diane in Richmond writes,

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Speaker 1: I'm a fifty nine year old divorced mother of three sons,

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Speaker 1: and I allowed my oldest son's girlfriend to stay with

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Speaker 1: us for a while. She and my son are twenty

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Speaker 1: two years old and expecting their first child. How do

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Speaker 1: I get them out of my house before the baby comes? What?

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Speaker 3: Why you let them in your house? For want of

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Speaker 3: them all of a sudden to be me? And that's

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Speaker 3: why I tell you. Look, ladies, you gotta set some rules.

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Speaker 3: Twenty two he's still at the house now he brings

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Speaker 3: somebody else to the house that his don't.

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Speaker 2: Even need to be here. Twenty two years also far

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Speaker 2: from my mom and daddy house.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're out at eighteen.

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Speaker 2: Most of us go over there and tell my daddy

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Speaker 2: what live here? Again? He's a boy. What did I

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Speaker 2: tell you when you went to college? This is just

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Speaker 2: some standards.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so now she wants them out of the house.

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Speaker 1: When it was okay when they were you.

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Speaker 2: Can't baby them.

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Speaker 3: And then when they start acting like a baby, we

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Speaker 3: want some different results. I bet you he ain't working,

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Speaker 3: he ain't got no job, he ain't doing nothing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah right, Yeah, baby got a baby mama, same situation.

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Speaker 2: Probably they all just in the house. Yeah and grind

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Speaker 2: mold right now? Yeah, this all right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Teddy and Mobile, Teddy writes, I learned

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Speaker 1: my wife's dad some money to pay off a gambling

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Speaker 1: debt from the Super Bowl. He just paid me back,

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Speaker 1: and I put the money in the wrong account. My

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Speaker 1: wife keeps asking where where the money came from. I

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Speaker 1: don't lie to my wife, So what do I tell her?

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Speaker 1: Let me repeat that, Steve, I don't lie to my wife.

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Speaker 1: So what do I say?

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Speaker 2: Right here? Y'all married? Yeah, y'all not gonna be married long.

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Speaker 2: This marriage is on the clock.

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Speaker 1: Because what do you always say? You got to lie?

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Speaker 2: So now.

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Speaker 3: What you finna do is you're gonna tell your wife

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Speaker 3: that her daddy got in the gambling problem. You loaned

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Speaker 3: in the money, he paid you back, and that's where

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Speaker 3: the money came from. Then he she gonna go to

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Speaker 3: her daddy, and then her daddy gonna be looking up

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Speaker 3: you sideways because her young man, this was between us. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and I paid you your money. I came to you

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Speaker 3: as a man. I paid you your money. Now my

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Speaker 3: daughter in my behind because your punk don't want to

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Speaker 3: lie to her. You see how I see how stupid

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Speaker 3: that is? So that you see I don't know how

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Speaker 3: you can't avoid lying?

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Speaker 2: Man?

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Speaker 3: What is what is all this truth? And your dumb

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Speaker 3: how you put the money in the wrong account? How

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Speaker 3: stupid are you? I ain't never done.

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Speaker 2: Nothing I have all that first accident, he made a mistake. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you stupid. First of all stupid. He's a good person.

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Speaker 1: Oh d a lie father and loss of money, but

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Speaker 1: he's stupid.

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Speaker 2: Bro. Listen to me. Listen to me.

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Speaker 3: When you loaned your father the money, I'm assuming you

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Speaker 3: took it out your account.

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Speaker 2: That loan is a tax right off. Mm hmm.

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Speaker 3: Now your then got the money back from your father

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Speaker 3: and put it in the bank, and now you gotta

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Speaker 3: pay taxes on that money. You can't be almost stupid

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Speaker 3: than this. Stupid and man, don't write this show no money. No,

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Speaker 3: you stupid.

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Speaker 2: Somebody pay you some money back. That's called a loss.

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Speaker 2: You loaned him, he loaned the money. This is honest.

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Speaker 2: I loaned him the money.

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Speaker 3: So that income is not taxable because you sent it

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Speaker 3: out as a loan, and his money is not taxable

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Speaker 3: because he took it as a loan. So now you

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Speaker 3: got an outstanding loan on your books that you get

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Speaker 3: to claim. Okay, now he pays you the cash back.

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Speaker 3: Your dell took the money to the bank.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's just an honor.

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Speaker 3: But that's just playing on stupid Donald Trump, what he's

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Speaker 3: an honest.

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Speaker 1: Trump understand where this is going. He's just an honest man.

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Speaker 3: Do you think Donald Trump would get a cash payment

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Speaker 3: from somebody and go put it in his bank? No,

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Speaker 3: and pay taxes on it? No, why would you do that?

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Speaker 3: This got cash transaction. That money is in their closet

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Speaker 3: down there in Milagro. Right, dog, you treat you got

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Speaker 3: to treat.

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Speaker 2: Your father in law like the cartail?

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Speaker 1: What what what.

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Speaker 3: Do you mean you have to treat your father in

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Speaker 3: law like the cartail. This is a drug transaction. They

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Speaker 3: don't put that money all in the bank.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, the laundry they launder it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, so now he's a feeling.

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Speaker 1: Yes, he's just an honest, good guy. And now he's

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Speaker 1: going to jail.

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Speaker 2: Gets you what does that get you? Stupid? Didn't pay

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Speaker 2: them taxes at.

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Speaker 3: Didn't defend the tail on his daddy in law, and

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Speaker 3: then he gonna lose his respect for him.

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Speaker 2: Head to tell your house, ask me.

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