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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast. Okay, ladies,

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Speaker 1: are we ready? We're ready? A lot of energy this morning.

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Speaker 1: I'm here for it. Hi, ladies, Hi, I just have

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Speaker 1: to ask, is that a new ring?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: My gosh, it is I I asked it last week,

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Speaker 3: but we're always recording, recording, and so every time I

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Speaker 3: sit here, I noticed it and we were in the

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Speaker 3: middle of a conversation last week and then I just

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Speaker 3: saw it again and I was like, I'm going to ask.

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Speaker 1: It's so pretty, thank you. And I cannot remember the

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Speaker 1: person that so I've been trying to like wear it

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Speaker 1: to see because I don't. It was from one of

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Speaker 1: those gosh, what are those agencies called? Were? They're like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I get here agency agency. Yeah, They're like and I

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Speaker 1: I opened it too fast and sit, you know the

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Speaker 1: box and I and there's nothing. There's no but it's

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Speaker 1: like a little stone. But I think, and I'm way

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Speaker 1: too old to read. How small that? Wow, I've got

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Speaker 1: my readers. Do you want me to wait? So they

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Speaker 1: need to tell us tell I know. I think it's

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Speaker 1: such a pretty little advertisement. I didn't even know it's

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Speaker 1: so pretty. I love it. It's inside there. But now

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Speaker 1: that I realized I can't see anything really well, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna need to have a magnifying glass. I really like it.

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Speaker 4: On the other hand, it's on there though, but it's micro. Okay,

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Speaker 4: well let us know because it's very thank you, I know,

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Speaker 4: I just am like, you know, it's old.

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Speaker 1: Sorry. Anyway, every time I sit everything, I see it

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, it's just so pretty. Now. I got

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Speaker 1: a little squirrel during the time, though, so I have

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Speaker 1: to bring it back in.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, sorry, guys.

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Speaker 1: It's weird doing it on Monday.

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Speaker 2: It is, and it's like from like a full weekend

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Speaker 2: and like you know, all the things.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a weird feeling because I didn't get a

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Speaker 4: moment to like zone out and fold laundry. I feel

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Speaker 4: like our weekend was so amazing but so full, and

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Speaker 4: I just this morning we just hit the ground running.

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Speaker 4: Couldn't find pants and the laundry for legend, like it was.

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Speaker 2: Mondays are definitely needed most always is for that, like recovery,

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Speaker 2: like getting work stuff situated, getting house life situated. Like

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Speaker 2: Mondays definitely need and this is my fault, but yes,

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Speaker 2: we definitely it's harder to do on Mondays because then

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Speaker 2: it's done and we're moving on. But well, true, then

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Speaker 2: you have the rest of the week to do the things.

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Speaker 2: But it's hard when you look at your house. Even me,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my gosh, my house was so.

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Speaker 1: I try to reset on Sundays. So that was my

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Speaker 1: it used to Sundays are my laundry, get the house together,

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Speaker 1: because Mondays are hit the ground running. It's busy, yes, meetings,

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Speaker 1: you know. And then because I know, Tuesdays are usually

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Speaker 1: podcast days. So for me, Sundays are really my like,

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Speaker 1: oh man, I got to get everything put away because

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Speaker 1: if not, then the week just feels a little chaotic. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But speaking of the laundry, like last week, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening you guys. Oh yeah. I

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Speaker 1: ended up posting it on Socialism. Catherine sent me a

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Speaker 1: dead emoji. But I mean I was carrying the laundry

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Speaker 1: I thought into the laundry room, so I have the

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Speaker 1: not knowing like where I'm thinking I'm going laundry. I

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Speaker 1: and I said, I go, oh my god, brain. I

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Speaker 1: we're overthinking.

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Speaker 2: Well, and I think on auto like it's like it's

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Speaker 1: And so many times lately I'm like, what was I

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Speaker 1: so interesting is I've had something on my mind that

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Speaker 4: It's so satisfying. Love a pressure wash. And these those

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Speaker 4: outside couch cushions were so dirty. And so we were

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Speaker 4: but until I saw this Instagram. It's like, if you

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Speaker 4: see your wife cleaning, she's silently cleaning everything, go give

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Speaker 4: her a hug and ask her if she wants to

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Speaker 4: talk about it, and she's like, because she's her mind

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Speaker 1: Because I posted it really similar, maybe, but I saw

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Speaker 1: it and I'm actually gonna do that. I'm just gonna

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Speaker 1: pull it up because I'm butchering what I'm saying. And

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Speaker 1: why isn't this load? No, it was never remember, yeah, oh,

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Speaker 1: I've seen that one that you posted on because he

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Speaker 1: and then it was actually, no, this was it goes.

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Speaker 1: If she randomly starts cleaning everything, just let her once

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Speaker 1: she's done, give her a hug. It's not because the

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Speaker 1: house is a mess, it's because her mind is. And

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Speaker 1: I literally, yeah, I literally started crying in the middle

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Speaker 1: of like reading this. And that night I said to

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Speaker 1: Alan and I said, I know I've been kind of

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Speaker 1: I ended up I was writing the email that I

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Speaker 1: ended up spending this morning, and Catherine knows what email

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Speaker 1: I'm referring to was about some project stuff, but yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was just it's hard because I'm trying to make

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Speaker 1: sense of certain things and then there's a piece of

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Speaker 1: me that you know. We were just at the lake

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Speaker 1: again this past were weekend putting things together, which, by

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Speaker 1: the way, I'm sidebarring side sidebar with all the thoughts

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Speaker 1: can go, and this is why laundry is in the microwave. Continue.

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Speaker 1: So you know, we were there. We brought Roman because

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Speaker 1: I didn't have the bigs this weekend and so I'm like,

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Speaker 1: all right, let's go put some more things together, and

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Speaker 1: well we can, but I just I love it. There's

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Speaker 1: being there, and you know, with Alan, it's I started

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Speaker 1: to think about it too, because this was really he's

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Speaker 1: but he spearheaded the whole search. Like I remember in December,

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Speaker 1: he's like, hey, we should really start looking at lakehouse.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, no, we can't, Like no, we can't

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Speaker 1: do that, like we can't afford that. He and it

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Speaker 1: was in that moment, you know, when he's like, babe,

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Speaker 1: he's like you know, he's he's been working his hail

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Speaker 1: And in that moment, I realized that I'm not. I

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Speaker 1: because I think I've always felt like, well I can't,

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Speaker 1: like what, but that isn't you just feeling that that

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Speaker 1: I've always kind of put that that pressure and then

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Speaker 1: he also wanted something like this and I wanted, you know,

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Speaker 1: So it was just it was nice to kind of have.

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Speaker 4: So that's what it feels good to him too, because

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Speaker 4: even this house was already your plan, yeah you know,

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Speaker 4: and not that I mean it was yours and then

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Speaker 4: it just became his too. That's fine, but it wasn't

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Speaker 4: like ground but I mean, like the house plan, like

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Speaker 4: So that's got to be really like, I bet it's

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Speaker 4: really good for his soul too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's been so nice, and I think that

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Speaker 1: be able to like to do this together. Yeah, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: that's like time, Like it's really gotta it's really got

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Speaker 1: we got wine down dates and I'm like, I don't

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Speaker 1: what I've strived for and in this moment, I have

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Speaker 1: is what I said to Alan.

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Speaker 1: He goes, You've been in the mindset and he goes

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Speaker 1: and I get it. He was like, I was the

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Speaker 1: same thing where you say yes to everything, and that's

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Speaker 1: how I've always been. I've always said yes to everything.

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Speaker 1: Catherine knows this. Why are you doing this? And I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have any money, Like it's never no one's

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Speaker 1: gonna call me again, you know what I mean, Like

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Speaker 1: I'm never gonna get another offer again. Yep. So I

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Speaker 1: say yes to everything, and they.

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Speaker 4: Really did marry you twice, I've married you and Preston,

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Speaker 4: it must be artisty.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's identified fear. I mean because I'm like,

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Speaker 1: nobody may call me. You know. I go from maybe

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Speaker 1: one movie to five movies to no movies, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean. But I've realized I'm like I I

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Speaker 1: so I have these two offers, and I'm like, no,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to do like it's not enough money

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Speaker 1: for me to miss the summer with my kids and

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Speaker 1: why I wanted to have this, you know. So I'm

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Speaker 1: like no, you know, I'm like, I get real strong

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Speaker 1: on my you know, and then I'm like shit. But

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Speaker 1: also when you're cleaning the basics, I shouldn't have done that,

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Speaker 1: I know, But I'm also really putting trying to, you know,

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Speaker 1: I want to be there. And it's like, you know,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because this is going to go into well, this

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Speaker 4: Why I went to college because my parents were like,

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00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:13,879
Speaker 4: this is what you do, right right.

430
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Speaker 1: I was the first.

431
00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:18,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would have let Cayden do a trade, even

432
00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:19,879
Speaker 2: though that was hard on me. But I was like,

433
00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:22,040
Speaker 2: if you come to me with a plan, yeah, and

434
00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:25,119
Speaker 2: what trade it is, we will discuss. Oh, we didn't know.

435
00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:26,600
Speaker 2: He just knew it was cool right now to like

436
00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:28,159
Speaker 2: want to go to trade school, which I think is

437
00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:31,280
Speaker 2: great if you have a plan, right anyway, no plans

438
00:19:31,440 --> 00:19:33,840
Speaker 2: so anyway, So we have all these decisions over here.

439
00:19:34,600 --> 00:19:37,639
Speaker 2: Then we're over here. Emmy's done all start her whole life.

440
00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:40,639
Speaker 2: She's going cheer. She all starts here. It's very different

441
00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:43,840
Speaker 2: than school cheer. She is supposed to go to a

442
00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:47,760
Speaker 2: certain high school, as decided to go try to get

443
00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,320
Speaker 2: into another high school. Okay, so we're in that process.

444
00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:51,680
Speaker 2: We don't know if she's in yet. We don't know

445
00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:55,240
Speaker 2: until after April fifteenth. Well, tryouts for cheer and the

446
00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:58,280
Speaker 2: reason she really wants to go there are already happening.

447
00:19:58,320 --> 00:19:59,400
Speaker 1: So I've talked to everybody.

448
00:19:59,400 --> 00:20:02,800
Speaker 2: Okay, she can try out for sideline, which is at

449
00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:03,679
Speaker 2: the football games.

450
00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:07,359
Speaker 1: So tries out for that. Is that's all we're gonna do.

451
00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:09,439
Speaker 4: Are they similar to your I mean, I know, All

452
00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:12,840
Speaker 4: Stars wildly different. Any pieces of that happen at sideline

453
00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:16,880
Speaker 4: cheers some pieces, but it's still very different. She's really talented.

454
00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:18,920
Speaker 4: She is very talented. She is very talented.

455
00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:23,400
Speaker 2: So she tries out for sideline, she makes it, and

456
00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:25,560
Speaker 2: then we're not doing comp cheer that They have a

457
00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:29,240
Speaker 2: competition cheer team, a very good competition cheer team through

458
00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:31,320
Speaker 2: the school, through the school, but it's not really through

459
00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:32,679
Speaker 2: the school. You have to have a board and like

460
00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:34,080
Speaker 2: all this stuff, Like the school.

461
00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:35,040
Speaker 1: We go to doesn't have one.

462
00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:36,960
Speaker 2: Yes, so like the school the high school we go

463
00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:39,480
Speaker 2: too doesn't currently have one. So that's like the main

464
00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,280
Speaker 2: reason why we would move over there. Well, she decides,

465
00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:44,040
Speaker 2: after talking to some of her new friends, which I

466
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:48,720
Speaker 2: knew was probably going to happen, literally the couple days before,

467
00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:51,680
Speaker 2: she wants to try out for competition team. And I

468
00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 2: had already told her she couldn't do All Star and competition, right,

469
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:56,320
Speaker 2: I remember saying that I had said that, Yes, I

470
00:20:56,440 --> 00:20:57,040
Speaker 2: had said that.

471
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Speaker 4: Thing.

472
00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like, did we go to us?

473
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:09,760
Speaker 2: Totally forgot for the cheer floor. So I'm like, okay,

474
00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 2: she's like, they may have a JV. Varsity is very

475
00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:14,399
Speaker 2: hard to make. And I'm like, okay, let's just go

476
00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 2: and see if they have enough for a JV. It

477
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:18,040
Speaker 2: probably won't be as much work or you know, they

478
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:18,639
Speaker 2: probably won't.

479
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:19,120
Speaker 1: Practice as much.

480
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,639
Speaker 2: Let's just see, right, So she goes to these clinics

481
00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:23,480
Speaker 2: and this coach is like, do not show up and

482
00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:26,600
Speaker 2: quit on me. Like they're very like, you know, like, well,

483
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:29,760
Speaker 2: well I'm not there, and he's like, well, I'm stuck,

484
00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 2: you know, if I make it, you know. So anyway,

485
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 2: long story short, she's not feeling good about it, not

486
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,040
Speaker 2: feeling like she's going to make it. She ends up

487
00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:39,200
Speaker 2: making it the varsity. Yeah, they didn't have a JB,

488
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:43,760
Speaker 2: so it's just varsity. They have like six or seven aliens. Yeah,

489
00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:45,919
Speaker 2: Callie's on the same team. Okay, Kayden's girlfriend is on

490
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,600
Speaker 2: the same team. Yeah, she's a senior and yeah she's

491
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:52,879
Speaker 2: been on the team for years. So last night I'm like,

492
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:56,040
Speaker 2: we like have a zoom call and it's like all

493
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:57,200
Speaker 2: the information.

494
00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:59,680
Speaker 1: And I'm like, how are you going to do both well,

495
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 1: so we're not sure, and so basically to the All Star,

496
00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:10,639
Speaker 1: which we save you hours of your life if you

497
00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,240
Speaker 1: don't do that, right, So basically I had to prepare

498
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:16,440
Speaker 1: her last night to say we will try and do both,

499
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Speaker 1: but but I will try anything if it's physically possible,

500
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Speaker 1: I will try anyway. I will do anything. But I'm

501
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:26,800
Speaker 1: getting the feeling we're going to get to a point

502
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 1: where it's not physically positive. That's that was my biggest thing.

503
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:31,919
Speaker 2: Well right now it actually is wildly enough because our

504
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:34,159
Speaker 2: practices don't start till seven up there, what does and

505
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 2: these practices are after school?

506
00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:36,199
Speaker 1: Does she want to?

507
00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:39,919
Speaker 2: So I wasn't real sure, you know, your emotions were

508
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:42,119
Speaker 2: kind of like about it. And so last night I

509
00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:45,639
Speaker 2: was like, look, you start practicing tomorrow, which is today.

510
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,840
Speaker 2: She just made it starts today. Didn't know that, right,

511
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:52,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, I had no go to the school. Yeah,

512
00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 2: so we're going to be practicing. We don't even know

513
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 2: if she goes to the school. But I'm like, you can't.

514
00:22:57,119 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 2: This coach has already said like this is your only

515
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:01,159
Speaker 2: out if you ever want to try out for this

516
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 2: team again. You cannot show up to practice tomorrow and

517
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 2: then quit. It has to be a I'm sorry, this

518
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 2: isn't what I thought it was. Please welcome me back

519
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 2: in the future. If we want any prayer of ever

520
00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:13,159
Speaker 2: coming back to this team, it has to be tonight.

521
00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 2: So she kind of starts crying and I'm like, what

522
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:17,399
Speaker 2: are the emotions? But it's just so hard because I'm like,

523
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 2: I can't give you the answer.

524
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Speaker 1: You've done all starts in two or five. This is

525
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 1: new new for choices, and the choices that make it's

526
00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 1: hard because but it's not, it's really them.

527
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Speaker 4: It is difficult because it's not just like we've talked

528
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:33,720
Speaker 4: about this a lot, because we're doing ballet and cheers.

529
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 1: I tell you how you do both well.

530
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 4: They actually fit together, which was weird too. I am

531
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 4: on sixty five just to be down sixty five. But like,

532
00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:43,680
Speaker 4: it is tricky because now the cheer community we've been

533
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:46,679
Speaker 4: in it's been like such a up and coming and

534
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 4: we've done all this together and we've made ourselves our

535
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,400
Speaker 4: own booster and our own everything. And now I'm like, well,

536
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 4: I don't quit here. You know she doesn't want to.

537
00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 4: All right, Well, you put money into it, you're going

538
00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 4: to over a decade in with them. These are the

539
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 4: people you've done a lot of life with too.

540
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, now things are changing a lot in that regard.

541
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 2: So again, long story short, she may take us a

542
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 2: year off of All Star.

543
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 1: She can always go back to All Star. That's nice.

544
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 2: And she's still just a freshman. And that's what I

545
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 2: told her. I was like, don't get upset. We can

546
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 2: still you will still be progressing. And at the end

547
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,680
Speaker 2: of the day, school cheers better for college anyway. Sure,

548
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 2: so all these things, but it was just so wild

549
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 2: because I sat there and I was like, what are

550
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:26,879
Speaker 2: you thinking? What are the tears, what are the emotions?

551
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,159
Speaker 2: And she's like, I just don't know. And you know,

552
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:31,399
Speaker 2: we've all been there, like where there's decisions where you

553
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 2: don't know what the answer is. I love this answer

554
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 2: and I love this answer and I don't know what

555
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 2: it is. And she's just like, I'm so overwhelmed because.

556
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 1: I like both.

557
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:41,919
Speaker 2: I like both and I want to do both, and

558
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:44,639
Speaker 2: I don't have I don't have an answer, you know.

559
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:45,919
Speaker 2: And it was just so hard because I sat there,

560
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 2: I was like, and I can't give you an answer,

561
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 2: Like so long before I could be like, this is

562
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 2: what we need to do.

563
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 1: I don't know what the answer is either, you know.

564
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 2: So it's just been this interesting dynamic of just watching

565
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 2: it and just like surrendering all of it to like

566
00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 2: and Nick's like, what's the plan.

567
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:00,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, we have no plan, Like that's our plan.

568
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 1: We have no plan, Like that's where we're It's really

569
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 1: sometimes when we plan, ladies, we know this, yes, exactly,

570
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 1: not the plan. Yeah. So anyway, that's kind of my

571
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: wine today.

572
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 2: It's not really a whine, but it kind of was

573
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 2: because it makes me sad that I can't you know,

574
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:14,359
Speaker 2: I'm a control freak.

575
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 1: Just I think it's hard when the decisions come out

576
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,879
Speaker 1: of the mother's hands of yeah, they have to now

577
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 1: because here's the deal. She ends up not liking it

578
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:25,920
Speaker 1: and she ends up quitting. She can't go back exactly.

579
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:29,679
Speaker 2: So that's exactly like she legitimately can't. Like on the slide,

580
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:32,119
Speaker 2: it says zero tolerance for quitting, so I'm like, she

581
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:34,439
Speaker 2: cannot go back. So it's like one of those like

582
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 2: she's stuck doing this, but she's going to practice today,

583
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 2: so I guess we're doing it.

584
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 4: Well. She had an interest for a reason, So that's

585
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 4: what I always try to like listen more like a

586
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 4: lot of years behind on that. But even as we're

587
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 4: getting into like, you know.

588
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:49,479
Speaker 2: She'll have to make when it comes to those are

589
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:53,159
Speaker 2: very too big committed sports, She'll have to decide at

590
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 2: some point.

591
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:55,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's it. So I'm like, we will do

592
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,199
Speaker 4: this as long as you want to do this. But

593
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 4: also this, you know, but it's really sweet that they

594
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 4: even love anything like that.

595
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, she knows what she loves.

596
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 4: It's not like I don't want to quit cheer altogether,

597
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 4: it's like what cheer. So reminding her too that like

598
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:12,919
Speaker 4: you were interested in it for a reason, you wouldn't

599
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 4: even thought about it as an option.

600
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 1: Yep, if it hadn't been like a tug on your heart. Right.

601
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's pretty sweet. Yeah.

602
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 2: So anyway, and then this isn't a whine, but I

603
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 2: just have to compliment your daughter for a second, yours.

604
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. So Ramsey's birthday party was this weekend. Sorry,

605
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 2: I'm just taking over this podcast, love it. And she

606
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 2: had the sweetest birthday and like she was, we weren't

607
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 2: real sure who all was going to show up. There

608
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:37,399
Speaker 2: was you know, just it was one of those parties

609
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,360
Speaker 2: I didn't have to have an RSVP because.

610
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: It was like, you know whatever, thank God for you. Yeah.

611
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:43,399
Speaker 2: So it was like totally fine. I didn't have a

612
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 2: certain I just had enough of everything. We were just

613
00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:47,159
Speaker 2: kind of hanging out, making journals whatever.

614
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:48,200
Speaker 1: But anyway, so.

615
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 2: A lot of girls showed up and she was so happy.

616
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 2: But oh my gosh, we were doing presents at the end,

617
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 2: and Jolie waited to the end for her present and

618
00:26:55,920 --> 00:27:00,159
Speaker 2: she made Ramsey cry. It was the sweetest. Do you

619
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:01,920
Speaker 2: know what she gave her? No, yeah, because you didn't

620
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,240
Speaker 2: have her this weekend. I literally I like took Mike aside.

621
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 2: I was like, this was like the sweetest thing ever.

622
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,399
Speaker 2: She made her an English bulldog from her three D

623
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 2: printer but she and Mike told me, I mean Ramsey

624
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:13,360
Speaker 2: literally was like it's.

625
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 1: Like Momo who had passed.

626
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 2: You know, and she's like and Jolly was just oh

627
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,159
Speaker 2: my god, it was the sweet sweetest thing. And I

628
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,159
Speaker 2: said literally a tear up think about it. And I

629
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 2: said something to Mike and he was like it was

630
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 2: really sweet because he was like, what do you want to.

631
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 1: You know, do for Ramsey's birthday.

632
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:28,400
Speaker 2: She's like, I want to make her something and she goes,

633
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,679
Speaker 2: you know what, she had a dog that died, and

634
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 2: he's like, oh my gosh, what kind.

635
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 1: Of dog was it?

636
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 2: So they looked it up and saw that it was

637
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 2: an English bulldog and I mean, and it's beautiful.

638
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, three D printers are it's amazing exceptional. Yes, it's

639
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:43,959
Speaker 1: been incredible the things. And she's she's sweet. She'll like

640
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:47,440
Speaker 1: make things for you know. It was the sweetest. I mean,

641
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 1: all her gifts were so great and so cute, but

642
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:50,680
Speaker 1: then it was just like at the end of the

643
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 1: most thought sweet little girl, I know.

644
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 2: And it was just like the sweetest little moment between

645
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,160
Speaker 2: them two because like Ramsey's very sentimental when it comes

646
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 2: to stuff, and like she'll be whole that thing at night,

647
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 2: cry and like that's what she does. She'll take like

648
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 2: a picture of Mosley instead it next to her and cry.

649
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:08,920
Speaker 2: It's so sweet. I just had to share that because

650
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 2: it was just the sweetest thing.

651
00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 4: They're just coming into that like this age is just

652
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 4: so and you've done it before us. Yeah, it's just

653
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 4: wild because they're their own people. Yeah, like there's they

654
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 4: do care what they're getting them for, you know. Yeah,

655
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 4: it is sweet and they care about being there like

656
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 4: we salute to Tampa because Love was just heartbroken. How

657
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 4: will I meet How will I miss Remy's birthday? Like

658
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 4: she's turning ten and I won't be there to hug

659
00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 4: her when she turns ten. And I was like, okay,

660
00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 4: you know, but it really, like truly, it wasn't about

661
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 4: being left out. It was like, that's my very best friend.

662
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 4: I have to get to her and I that's how

663
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 4: we operate because I didn't have that and haven't had

664
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 4: that much of my adult life, you know. So like

665
00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 4: the people that matter most to me are the people

666
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 4: that just got to me. It's just fat to see

667
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 4: what matters to them.

668
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 2: I know.

669
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 1: It's so sweet and for Julie to think of that,

670
00:28:57,000 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 1: so I know, the sweetest thing ever. Yeah. I love that.

671
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 4: You got a wine, baby, I do. Mine's really not sentimental. Okay, Yeah,

672
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 4: we're going to talk about anything. In the headlines, I

673
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 4: have to do with aircrafts because I can make I

674
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 4: can fold another wine into that one.

675
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: Aircrafts. Well, there was a headline Brenda song Slam's airline

676
00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 1: for separating her young kids in the morning of the

677
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 1: flight without warning. She had booked the tickets six months

678
00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 1: in advance and then on the morning of they had

679
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 1: separated and the kids were not in first class anymore. Okay,

680
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 1: So and a lot of people were saying like, oh,

681
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: you're complaining about it. No, it's about the fact that

682
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 1: you're separating the family. Yeah. Yeah, the great tickets that

683
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 1: they paid for traveling with kids and then not being

684
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 1: in the seats that you bought. Correct, and you don't

685
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: want well.

686
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 2: Eating on Southwest when they didn't have planned and people

687
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 2: would let families just be separated always blew my mind.

688
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, liked a better chance be with your child.

689
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 4: We had a better chance of good Samaritans helping us

690
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 4: at when Southwest didn't.

691
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 2: Have true Yeah, FLA, that's just awful, Like no one

692
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 2: wants to not be with their family exactly.

693
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 4: So my wine has to do with that go for

694
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 4: it because we so and the Tampa flight, so it

695
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 4: actually is just we're going to merge them all together.

696
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 4: So it was going to be just love and I

697
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 4: going we don't have enough time, energy or chalkboard for

698
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:30,040
Speaker 4: how it all panned out and how it always falls

699
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 4: apart or how it all has to be reconstructed. So

700
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 4: it ended up that I had to take I was

701
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 4: going to take line in with us. Okay, but because

702
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 4: Love and I were going and now southwest, we did

703
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 4: southwest because it was last minute, and it was exceptionally expensive.

704
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: Because no one in my life plans had damn.

705
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 4: It, and so I ended up using some of Preston's points.

706
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 4: I was like, this is just ridiculous, but also like

707
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 4: less harder for me, easier for me to stomach. So

708
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 4: our flights I book, Love and I, well, now I

709
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 4: have to add the baby, who was over two years old,

710
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 4: is no longer a lap child, so now she's a

711
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 4: full ticket there and back. In order to book her,

712
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 4: Love and I have to change seats because now our

713
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 4: roads are full, so I have to upgrade us.

714
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 1: To which those upgrades are eighty five dollars.

715
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 4: A joke, by the way, because it's not the first

716
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 4: class service. No, you get an extra pistachio.

717
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 1: I learned. Just wait, you'll see the wind down flights.

718
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 1: We in the back. I didn't upgrade us, see you

719
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: in the back, everybody together. Yeah, I mean that's it right,

720
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 1: Like I couldn't get and then we don't go on

721
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 1: those to make money. We go on those to have

722
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 1: a girl's strip.

723
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 4: No, truly like it is just for the love of

724
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 4: the people. Yeah, wind down for the people. So yeah,

725
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:47,960
Speaker 4: it was so it's last minute, I have to change.

726
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 4: Then I can't pick the same flights that we had

727
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 4: because the flights before were completely like because of the ticketing,

728
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 4: there was no flight. The flight we were on didn't

729
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 4: have three seats in a row period. So when you

730
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 4: call it's I mean customer service could be our whole

731
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 4: wine about it in general. But I so I end

732
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 4: up basically working from so for Southwest on this call

733
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 4: with Robert, and I'm Robert and I are working through

734
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 4: and I'm like, let's just change the flight and we'll

735
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 4: go earlier. And then doing so, then I had to

736
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 4: bring the dog to the trainer slash groomer slash dog

737
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 4: sitter a day early and pay for that because now

738
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 4: he's going a whole night early and I'm running thirty

739
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,680
Speaker 4: five minutes there and back to drop him off, which

740
00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 4: is also not convenient when your mom doing this on

741
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 4: your own because your husband's out of town.

742
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 1: So close my clothing the microwave, closing the microwave, so

743
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 1: I anytime we had that moment, were just closing the

744
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 1: microwave and I'm nuke in my underwear.

745
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 4: So I get to the point where I'm like, Okay,

746
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 4: I just I know. I know that I am not

747
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:50,959
Speaker 4: sometimes a huge advocate for change. I miss Southwest, Yeah

748
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 4: I do. We knew what we were paying for. It

749
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 4: was very family friendly. I know I'm not alone in that.

750
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 1: We never had to show up before. We typically wanted

751
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 1: to show up to the airport because we wanted to

752
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: make sure we get in the ABC line. They care

753
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 1: to about family, They already family boarding after a's like those, Yes,

754
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: I miss it so much and I don't want to

755
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 1: pay for the upgraded not on Southwest. No.

756
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 4: And what's tricky is that you go on and you're like, oh,

757
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:18,440
Speaker 4: I'll pick this flight because it's this amount, and now

758
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 4: you have to go on and then you have to

759
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 4: go and pick and pay for your seat most of

760
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 4: the seats unless you want to be in the far back,

761
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 4: and then I will.

762
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 1: Add this or not even pick it, like you can't

763
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 1: pick it at all. Yeah, I'm going to sandwich my

764
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 1: wine with one more wine and then I can be done.

765
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 1: But if you get a seat in the front of

766
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 1: the airplane, you may not have overhead storage space. Yes,

767
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: you have to put your all your belongings up in the.

768
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 4: Top, and you may not have that ability because they've

769
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 4: already boarded all these people that also don't want to

770
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 4: do checked bags. And so if you are in a

771
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 4: whatever group, group two may not even have the ability.

772
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 4: So now your suitcases all the way in the back. Wait,

773
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 4: you're in the front.

774
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 2: Shouldn't they put the people that are in the front

775
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 2: of the plane in group one?

776
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 4: They do, but all of group one is a is

777
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,480
Speaker 4: full of people that don't want to check their bag.

778
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 4: So by the time you group too, gotcha you have

779
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 4: you can't get your bag is back there right, you're

780
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 4: in the front.

781
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 2: That's annoying because then you got to go against the people.

782
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 4: To go get your salmon here, salmon up stream and

783
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 4: want to retire at the lake and we all retire,

784
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 4: and now you know why we have a house in Alabama.

785
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 4: We're in a flying missing wild times. No, that's that

786
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 4: would yeah, and then you have.

787
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 1: To and I have to keep them with each other. Oh,

788
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 1: we flew to CanCon. Yeah it was I didn't like

789
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 1: the experience at all. Yeah, it's changed.

790
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 4: I'm like, this is just and I didn't go into

791
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:40,399
Speaker 4: the chip on my shoulder I promised, I didn't. I thought,

792
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:43,479
Speaker 4: you know what, I want the old Starbucks Starbucks try

793
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 4: back and I want the old Southwest back, please in

794
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 4: Jesus name.

795
00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 1: On this episode of We Are Curmudgeons, Hey did I

796
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 1: see Miranda Hope breaks her silence after Jesse kissed her

797
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 1: ex husband Chase. I gotta say, though it isn't like

798
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:01,800
Speaker 1: I feel like everybody has kissed him. She's like it

799
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: was kind of funny, though not funny, but you know,

800
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 1: She's just like, what did you say? But she said

801
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 1: something about her her husband being a waiting room. Yeah, yeah,

802
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: so good how her group friend is our friend group

803
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 1: is essentially a waiting room for her ex husband.

804
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 2: And I was like, Poe, girl, like that's funny, but

805
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 2: like also like also like some of the girl coaching.

806
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:24,440
Speaker 1: Where is some loyal said that? I mean, like you

807
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:30,279
Speaker 1: know what I mean, like things happened. I think it

808
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 1: depends how close you are with someone. I think it

809
00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 1: does in certain situations. I think it's how close you

810
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 1: are with that person. With the girl, I really do

811
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:44,839
Speaker 1: we I just I will die on that hill. I

812
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 1: know you are. For my own personal reason, I see

813
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 1: where we're going. I know I was like, is this

814
00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:54,239
Speaker 1: the hill we need to die? On tour and we

815
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 1: exposed the names. I'm just no, but I'm just saying

816
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 1: I think it really depends on the friendship, because if

817
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 1: there wasn't actually a close friendship, I don't see the

818
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:07,799
Speaker 1: issue with it now with this situation film together. But

819
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:09,840
Speaker 1: some of them aren't really actually friends, do you know

820
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:14,959
Speaker 1: what I mean? Well, yeah, but I also agree. I'm

821
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 1: just also saying.

822
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:20,320
Speaker 2: Like right right, they're around them enough that it's yeah,

823
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 2: like okay, and obviously this guy's making the rounds. Also

824
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,479
Speaker 2: like gross, I stop kissing him. Weirdos, Like just stop

825
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 2: making out with him?

826
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:31,080
Speaker 1: What is happening? You can't pay me? I remember? I

827
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 1: love Jesse though, and I actually like Miranda too. I

828
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 1: like being on the cast.

829
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 4: I wouldn't even kiss my husband for the first four

830
00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 4: dates we went on because I was like, I am

831
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 4: positive with your what you do for a living, you're

832
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 4: used to people making out with you. Won't will not

833
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 4: do it. Meanwhile, these girls are just like in a

834
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:44,760
Speaker 4: kissing booth.

835
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 2: Well I mean they yeah, yeah, I can't can well.

836
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 1: Listener question for today, ladies is I'm a recently divorced

837
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 1: mom of two young kids both under eight, and I've

838
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:00,239
Speaker 1: been on my own for about a year now. I'm

839
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: just starting to think about dating again, especially on the

840
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: weekends when they're with their dad. But I already feel

841
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 1: guilty even considering it because my time with them feels

842
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: so limited. How do you balance your kids needs with

843
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:13,719
Speaker 1: your own desire for relationship without feeling guilty? Girlfriend, you

844
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:15,880
Speaker 1: fee got those kids, go put on something. I mean,

845
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:18,720
Speaker 1: I mean, either stay in and watch a movie bubble

846
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 1: bath or girl, get your heels on and go out

847
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 1: down with the girls, book a flight or time. That's

848
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:25,280
Speaker 1: the thing, because it's like you can either stay there crying,

849
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 1: missing and then listen, I did it crying being like

850
00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 1: I missed my kids. And after that time it's like,

851
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: you know what, go read a book, watch a TV.

852
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 1: Like you get to have some quiet time too and

853
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 1: have fun and explore and I mean, pam and you

854
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:44,959
Speaker 1: get well, you never gets in harriss whatever like she's

855
00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 1: she's gone.

856
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 4: Yeah.

857
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 2: You get to decide what you want to do at

858
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,239
Speaker 2: that time. That's what's like so beautiful. Like if you

859
00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:52,399
Speaker 2: want to date, great, go out and do it. If

860
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:55,919
Speaker 2: you don't, breat stay home and enjoy that bubble bath

861
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Speaker 2: and enjoy that quiet, you know.

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Speaker 1: Because the reality is is and that's the heart thing

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Speaker 1: for me because people would always say like, oh, it's

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Speaker 1: so great. It's not great, it sucks, it's awful. You

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Speaker 1: don't have your kids. Who wants to be separated from

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Speaker 1: their kids? You don't like I remember one of uh, Jason,

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Speaker 1: one of the teachers at school, had asked me like,

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Speaker 1: how is it? And I'm like, listen, after however many years,

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Speaker 1: it's still hard. I don't want to ever have a

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Speaker 1: weekend without my kids, but I can't change it, so

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Speaker 1: haven't it Either I'm not going to stay here. I'm like, okay, no,

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Speaker 1: let's go to Kankun the three of us and you know,

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Speaker 1: go have or do because it's either going to stay

874
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Speaker 1: here and be sad or I'm gonna but you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: I do wonder if part of her question, though, is

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Speaker 4: about dating once you've found someone. Like the way it

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Speaker 4: read a little to me is like, so you can

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Speaker 4: do that on the weekends you don't have them, But

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Speaker 4: what happens when you do have them and you you

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Speaker 4: found someone that maybe you're regularly dating.

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Speaker 1: That would be tough. Well, then you know, this life.

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Speaker 1: We don't. That would just you know, just in the

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Speaker 1: what do you do?

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Speaker 2: Well, you might just not to be around them as

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Speaker 2: much as you want. Yeah, because you're going to have

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Speaker 2: to prioritize your kids.

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Speaker 1: A couple for a little while, get to know before

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Speaker 1: you introduce.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just it's going to look a little different than

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Speaker 2: dating was when you didn't have kids and you could

892
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Speaker 2: go out whenever.

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Speaker 1: Exactly. Well, ladies, see you next week, see you at

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Speaker 1: the lake or in the Dominican Republic. I might change

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Speaker 1: my mind. I don't know the lake. I know