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Speaker 2: Okayop, this is Okayop. I'm Samuel's Donner and I'm John Frodd.

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Speaker 2: We tell the funniest stories on the Internet.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Sam, I have a question for you.

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Speaker 2: Give me that question.

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Speaker 1: First question, do you have many many cousins or extended

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Speaker 2: Un Oh, yeah, I have a crap ton of cousins.

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Speaker 2: So my dad is one of ten and basically all

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Speaker 2: family gatherings are like we have like one hundred people

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Speaker 2: and this is my dad's family. I also have a

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Speaker 2: family in Australia too.

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Speaker 1: That's incredible and not this exciting follow up question. Is

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Speaker 1: there like an average age of when your cousins get

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Speaker 2: Or I mean we have like tiers of cousins. Okay,

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Speaker 2: So we have like first tier that are kind of

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Speaker 2: then we have a tier below that, and then I

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Speaker 1: So let's say, like your age and up, what's like

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Speaker 1: I believe we're married by like nineteen twenty, twenty one,

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Speaker 2: Twenty twenty, so early. I mean it makes like, I

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, so like I. And it's also hilarious

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think, for like minutes, like you

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Speaker 1: I feel like thirty is a really good number.

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Speaker 1: You live out your twenties, you have a chance to

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Speaker 1: build up your career, and then you can you know,

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Speaker 1: destroy it, take the marriage. But I have a story

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Speaker 1: today about two people that, for better or for worse,

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Speaker 1: decided to kind of just pull the trigger, regardless of love,

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Speaker 2: All.

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Speaker 1: Right, let's let's hear it, let's get into it today.

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Speaker 1: Up by falling in love with my wife while she

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Speaker 2: I'm so confused by that statement, because it's like, aren't

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Speaker 1: I know it's massively confusing, but it's actually like the

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Speaker 1: Last year, my best friend twenty eight female and I

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Speaker 2: Ever make a love packed with it, make a love

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Speaker 2: packed like, yeah, I happened. Why? Why? Why? I don't know. Why?

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Speaker 1: On especially as a guy, I have no biological clock.

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Speaker 2: So dude, like, I don't know guys like you, if

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Speaker 1: Bro. It's kind of nuts ND intended, because that's what

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Speaker 2: So are they gonna have kids? Like, what's the deal?

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Speaker 1: Well we will see no spoilers, Samuel.

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Speaker 1: Cute the wedding, It was surprisingly easy to sell our

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Speaker 1: The first few months of married life were awkward, but fun.

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Speaker 1: Awkward in a sense that we were still figuring out

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Speaker 1: Which that did not work for her getting frisky She

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Speaker 2: I wonder how that that actually like worked out. It's like,

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm just I just don't think you're attractive. Well,

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Speaker 2: here's how it played out. She would literally cover her

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Speaker 2: For to day, you know that's not what you want.

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Speaker 2: I would say, that is awful. It's like almost worse

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Speaker 1: Not gonna lie, it's stung a bit.

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Speaker 2: I can't even look at you.

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Speaker 1: I can't even fathom the sight of your freaking face.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, sad, I think that's a little bit much.

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day is approaching. My first Valentine's Day is a

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Speaker 2: Oh not row, oh no.

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Speaker 1: A wife who has been with thirty seven people in

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Speaker 2: I mean that's one a week. Are you really psych

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Speaker 1: You know, to each their own.

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Speaker 2: That's crazy, you would have to be. I'm just thinking, like, logistically,

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Speaker 1: Who knows? It sounds like she's probably got some sort

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Speaker 1: One of those regulars still needs to return my Ghost

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Speaker 2: Not cool, bro, I don't know if this is healthy

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Speaker 1: No. I have been with one person outside of our

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to compare body counts. I'm not trying

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Speaker 2: That is true, like he cannot falter, can't falter. She's literally.

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Speaker 1: Within the boundaries they had discussed. Yeah, right, all that

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Speaker 1: I am not Heromeo. I'm the close friend that she

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Speaker 2: I feel so sad. For Ope, it's really sad.

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Speaker 1: Showed me his Instagram. He's a surfer with a freaking

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Speaker 2: Rick, Dude, this is such a tough situation. Let's start

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Speaker 2: off by saying, first, the wife is doing nothing wrong, right,

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Speaker 2: That being said, I don't know if these novel relationship

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Speaker 1: That's my thing is I really strongly believe that they

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like what seems like they're just doing this to

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Speaker 2: But it's like you don't need to do that, and

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Speaker 2: Like these feelings are only gonna they're already there.

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Speaker 1: They're either going to grow stronger or he's going to

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Speaker 2: And it's like, exactly, and you can already feel that

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Speaker 1: He's like he's trying to like not disserb but he

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Speaker 2: Is yeah, and you can see that he has a

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Speaker 1: like Okay, how can I be okay with being unmarried?

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Or like you know, I have this belief about relationships

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Speaker 2: is like a relationship is thirty percent being with the

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Speaker 2: right person, but seventy percent just choosing to be with

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Speaker 2: that person. Yeah, the depth of a relationship is kind

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Speaker 2: of up to both parties diving in deep together. It's

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Speaker 2: not really about finding the perfect person. It's about finding

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Speaker 2: someone who you can grow with in a fun and

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Speaker 2: interesting way.

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Speaker 1: There's so much more to a relationship than love, because

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Speaker 1: there's lots of relationships where two people love each other,

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Speaker 1: but there's circumstances whatever, it's not good for them to

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Speaker 1: be together, you know what I mean. So that is

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Speaker 1: by far not the only consideration.

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Speaker 2: No, no, And obviously it's an important one that you want.

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Speaker 2: I think I think like arranged marriages are a great

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Speaker 2: example of like there doesn't need to necessarily be at

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Speaker 2: some great spark at the beginning, But a lot of

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Speaker 2: arranged marriages, if you look at them, like ten years

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Speaker 2: down the road, these people love each other, Yeah, but

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Speaker 2: they grew to love each other. I think that's something

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Speaker 2: that like, you know, in our dating culture, especially in

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Speaker 2: the US, you have such opportunity and such a plethora

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Speaker 2: around the corner that's slightly better in one area, and

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Speaker 2: it makes it really hard to you know, just choose

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Speaker 2: and stick with a relationship and really dive deep. And

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Speaker 2: I think the beauty of a relationship is in that deepness,

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Speaker 2: not in the physical or intellectual attributes to just come

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Speaker 2: from the surface, just from you know, maybe a month

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Speaker 2: of knowing someone. Sop I would say, like trying to

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Speaker 2: dive deep.

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Speaker 1: With someone, man, we really dove deep. I love I

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Speaker 1: love this discussion.

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