WEBVTT - Checking In w/ Sisterhood 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:03.600 Welcome to Checking In with Michelle Williams, a production of 0:00:03.640 --> 0:00:15.000 iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. Hey, there are you wondering 0:00:15.320 --> 0:00:19.840 what was all the fuss in Washington, DC over the weekend. 0:00:20.320 --> 0:00:22.639 We'll keep it liked on checking in with Michelle Williams, 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:24.759 and I'll tell you everything that happened. 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:33.120 Hey, what's up? Do you remember the very first day 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:36.960 of December? Those are not the words, but it felt 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:37.519 right to me. 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:45.000 Wow, we are into the first week of December, and 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:48.120 I hope you feel good about it. I don't know. 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:53.760 This feels like a reset in a way. And I've 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:58.000 been trying to stay present, like in the current day, 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:02.160 and not think about tomorrow, the next day after that, 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:04.520 next week, next month, or even next year. 0:01:06.440 --> 0:01:07.839 So this feels like a reset. 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:12.040 And I'm actually anticipating things to come in the new year. 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:14.360 And I hope that there's at least one good thing 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:18.280 that you're anticipating for the new year. Prayerfully, maybe you 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.720 just have something you're anticipating to happen for you tomorrow 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:25.679 or this week, or you need something to take place 0:01:25.720 --> 0:01:31.440 for you before this month even ends. So my prayer 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:35.760 is that whatever you have been meditating on, whatever you've 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:39.440 been praying about whatever you have need of, that you 0:01:39.520 --> 0:01:42.479 get some good news and that you get some motion. 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:47.920 By the end of this month. It's been pretty cool. 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:51.800 It's been awesome. Chilla went and got my nails done. 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:55.720 My nail broke, So when y'all see my nails, these 0:01:55.800 --> 0:02:01.960 are my natural nails, and I have it's called builder jail, 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:03.960 and they put this builder jail on. 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:04.680 Top of it. 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:08.519 But baby, my pinky nail broke all the way down 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:14.079 to the Oh. Anyway, there are bigger problems in the world, 0:02:14.240 --> 0:02:17.239 but I'm excited I got my nails done. I'm trying 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:21.480 to try new shapes or new colors, new French tip designs. 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:25.840 Some of y'all don't care nothing about that. But while 0:02:25.880 --> 0:02:30.880 I'm saying that, because you know, wanting to do things 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:34.120 for myself, making choices that I probably wouldn't normally make, 0:02:34.800 --> 0:02:40.520 you know, just having fun. Also, I've been wearing this 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:46.040 cute cranberry burgundie color on my hands and I was 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:51.440 telling someone that it's probably like, maybe not even my 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:56.840 fifth time wearing like red on my nails. And that's 0:02:56.880 --> 0:02:59.320 probably because I grew up in church and for some reason, 0:02:59.360 --> 0:03:04.400 the color of was associated with Jezebel. And then when 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:07.000 I finally got to a church where the pastor actually 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:10.880 broke down what Jezebel is and how Jezebel is actually 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:14.960 a spirit, and how Jezebel is not limited to a 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:18.440 color that you wear on your nails or lips, nor. 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:24.200 Is Jezebel a whore. Jezebel is not a woman. 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:32.959 The Jezebel is the spirit of Jezebel, and female male 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:35.360 can have that spirit. 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:38.520 Okay. I didn't mean to go there and have. 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:43.920 Bible study, but I was like, you know, it's taking 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.880 me a minute to wear red fingernail polish and two 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:51.040 wearing red fingernail polish. When you grew up in a 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:56.200 pennelcolstal denomination or the Holiness church, you bout didn't wear 0:03:56.280 --> 0:04:01.760 makeup some churches. Some of the women in churches that 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:10.720 are Pentecostal, Apostolic, even certain Baptist variations, you bout can 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:15.320 only wear chapstick. Okay, so for me to have on 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:20.040 red fingernail polish, But Michelle, you're saying bootylicious. You good, 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:22.320 you should have been more red fingernail polish. So I'm 0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:27.800 gonna be wearing red a lot more I made a 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:32.599 post today regarding actually a topic that I briefly touched 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:36.919 on on last week's episode, about people pleasing, and I 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:41.400 am so glad that a few of you guys have 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:47.440 responded in the comments, and you've said some really, really 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:56.360 really encouraging things in the comments. So I'm getting I'm 0:04:56.480 --> 0:05:01.000 learning to put myself first and choosing me or and 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:06.960 maybe not making certain decisions that betray me. What do 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:10.600 you mean by making decisions that betray you? When you 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:14.560 want to say no, but you say yes and you 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:19.520 find yourself doing this over and over and over again, 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:23.440 or you even find yourself doing this for a particular 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:27.239 person because of maybe how they show up and maybe 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:32.599 how they make you feel. I promise you it's the 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:37.040 first time for everything, and sometimes there is a first 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:41.719 for saying no. Sometimes it's going to be a first 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:45.479 for you putting yourself first, and before you know it, 0:05:45.480 --> 0:05:50.320 it will become practice. I'm not saying be selfish, be rude, 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:55.440 be mean. I'm not saying to never show up for anyone. 0:05:55.520 --> 0:05:59.760 I'm not saying to stop showing up. Doctor carry Bryant 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:03.559 said something today and she did like an Instagram live 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:07.159 and she or no, she wasn't live. She just I 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:10.280 think she just did a post and she said, if 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:17.840 they have no intentions, they should not get access. If 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:22.719 they don't, if they're not intentional about you in friendship, relationship, 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:28.400 in any relationship, they should not get access. Matter of fact, 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:31.400 you should be able to change the position in your 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:35.040 life that they have. I've also heard someone say, hey, 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:37.640 you there are some people who get a front row seat. 0:06:38.800 --> 0:06:41.320 There are some people who are going to be, you know, 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:47.279 in the first balcony. Then the rest of y'all is nosebleeds. Okay, 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:51.720 So I'm going to continue to unpack this thing about 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:56.960 putting yourself first, people pleasing and how people pleasers are 0:06:57.040 --> 0:07:03.240 some of the best performers. They're serving others, and yes 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:07.280 they're doing it with the smile, but maybe they've neglected 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:09.360 something that they were supposed to do. 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:12.320 Now. I do believe. 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:16.520 God honors when you serve others. I truly believe you 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:20.880 are always taking care of when you serve others. But 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:23.840 there are a lot of people who are You're burnt 0:07:23.880 --> 0:07:27.760 out because you just said you've said yes one too 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:32.760 many times and helping someone and maybe there's a pattern. 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:38.120 It's y'all even if it's just taking yourself on a walk, 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:43.320 or you know, getting some sorbet and eating it, eating 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:46.680 it in the car before you go inside to your family, 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:51.880 or to just dysfunction or just stress and chaos. Or 0:07:51.920 --> 0:07:55.720 maybe you're walking into a house of peace, into a 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:59.560 business of peace, your workplace or school, but you just 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:01.520 want to get that last sleek in on the ice 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:03.080 cream cone, do it? 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:05.160 Or you just want to listen. 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:07.120 To the last chorus of your favorite song. Now, if 0:08:07.120 --> 0:08:10.000 you're not gonna be late going into work or school, 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:15.160 listen to that last little chorus. Put yourself first. What 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:19.200 is it that you have desired to do for you? 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:21.360 You know what I'm saying. You've been wanting to get 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:26.000 that health club membership. Put you first. You're gonna feel better. 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:28.160 Not only are you gonna look rip, but you're gonna 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:31.960 continue to feel great. So I just wanted to just 0:08:32.200 --> 0:08:38.599 go there. Okay, the past few days have been absolutely wonderful. 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:41.960 And when you talk about putting yourself first, I did 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:42.800 just that. 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:44.840 This weekend. 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:48.600 This past weekend, I sang at the Christmas tree lighting 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:50.679 in Washington, d C. 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:52.000 At City Center. 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:56.800 It's this huge, huge, beautiful tree. 0:08:57.360 --> 0:08:59.839 Hundreds of people came out. It was like thirty four 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:00.400 to Grease. 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:06.280 They came out, and I sang some Christmas songs, maybe 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:12.440 six of them I never sang in my life, and 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:14.760 I was like, yo, I think I want to do 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:15.680 a Christmas album. 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:17.400 This was a vibe. 0:09:17.480 --> 0:09:19.880 I did it with the American Pops Orchestra, the rhythm 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:23.520 section of the American Pops Orchestra, some of those guys, 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:28.760 and it was really, really fun and I absolutely loved it. 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:33.120 I didn't even realize. I was like, am I colder hot? 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:35.160 I think they might've had a little heater blowing on 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:41.520 stage and it was awesome. Crowd participation was amazing. I 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:43.679 turned that audience into a choir. 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:44.080 Honey. 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:47.800 I divided them into sopranos, altos, and tenors. I gave 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:49.560 the mic to one man because I thought he was 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:52.040 going to teach the tenors what their part is. But Honey, 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:55.520 he grabbed the mic and gave a whole concert himself, 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:57.640 and I was. 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:01.440 Like, a man, he could actually us egg. 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:07.000 Sometimes, you know, you give the mic to people and 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:11.640 it's fun when they can't. They be off key, they 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:16.640 don't know the words, and it's so fun. But sometimes 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:21.000 it's a shocker. When they actually can carry a tune 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:22.440 A teach. 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:25.319 I said, okay, man, you've. 0:10:25.160 --> 0:10:28.920 Got something, and I said, send City Center your invoice, 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:32.520 not me. He was like, wait a minute. I sang 0:10:32.559 --> 0:10:35.040 about thirty seconds, but you should not get paid a 0:10:35.080 --> 0:10:38.440 little bit. So that was a fun time and again 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:44.600 just singing some of my favorite some of my favorite songs. 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:49.280 Matter of fact, I'll go in to the list of 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:50.720 wonderful Christmas time. 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:51.960 Simply having. 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:56.720 I did White Christmas Rocking around Chris Deep, did that? 0:10:56.920 --> 0:10:58.959 Give Love On? Did that? I did PJ. 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.920 Morton's version of Give Love on Christmas Day, the Christmas 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:05.120 song Someday at Christmas Andre Day and Stevie Wonder has 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:09.480 an amazing version of that. And of course this Christmas 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:13.960 the standard Donny Hathaway version. I did not even do 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:19.800 the Destiny's Child version, Donny Hathaway version. That's what I loved. 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:28.000 I didn't not do any Destiny's Shout Christmas songs. Somebody 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:30.920 was like, why didn't you do a Days at Christmas? Now? 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:37.760 The challenge was was being asked to do Christmas songs 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:41.160 that aren't necessarily about the birth of Jesus. 0:11:42.120 --> 0:11:43.959 And I was like, what a. 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:48.720 Minute, I'm not gonna have Christmas, not talk about my Jesus. 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:55.440 But it was amazing because there are there were so 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:59.200 many people out there in the audience of different faiths, 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:05.360 different culture, different just different races, different backgrounds. And the 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:10.920 Christmas tree lighting is what brought us all together. 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:15.600 And guess what, I'd do it again. 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:21.280 I think sometimes it's the light that you carry that 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:24.120 tells people what you're about and you don't have to 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:31.480 shove it down anybody's throat. Music brought us together. The season, 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:40.360 the holiday season brought us together, y'all. I saw smiles, people. 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:41.560 Were bundled up. 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:47.040 Oh, I would do it again. City Center can have 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:51.120 me anytime every year. Maybe I should just do a 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.640 Christmas tree lighting tour where. 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:58.199 I go across this I go across the country next 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:00.000 year and just do people's Christmas tree lights. 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:04.480 That would be fun. But it was great. I have 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:08.440 family and friends that came to see me. 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:10.319 My Style and. 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:16.880 Glam Team town A Boutique, Hush, Sharia Davis, and Ebony 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:21.920 just they're all women in the Washington, DC area that 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:24.640 I call on whenever I'm in that area. 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:26.640 I love spreading love. 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:29.560 If there's a crew in Atlanta, I rock with for Glam, 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:33.400 I rock with them if you're in Houston, for Dallas, Texas, Chicago. 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:38.840 I got Glam crews sprinkled everywhere so that when I'm 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:42.000 in their area we get a chance to fellowship and 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:45.640 talk to each other. We laughed, y'all, we laughed so much, 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:52.080 so that was cool. I came up after a night 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:56.080 of Death Becomes Her that I'm still in and. 0:13:57.840 --> 0:13:58.240 Was able. 0:13:58.280 --> 0:14:01.400 I got a car and it was driven up to Washington, 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:05.520 d C. Because I wanted to rest Friday night as 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:08.000 much as I could, and a little bit all day 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:11.040 Saturday up until it was time to rehearse and all 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:16.800 the things. And then my, oh my, oh my, I 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:24.440 got win that my sister, Collendria Trene Roland was in Washington, 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:30.160 d C. The Boy is Mine tour made a stop 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:35.800 in Washington, d C. And I was like, what am 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:40.400 I going to do? What am I going to do? 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:46.080 So I made sure that I was able to see 0:14:46.120 --> 0:14:51.440 her and see the show that I have hadn't seen yet. 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:53.520 And I was trying not to look at pictures, but 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:56.360 I said, you know what, just when they come across 0:14:56.360 --> 0:15:00.520 your timeline, honey, just like them comment it is what 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.400 it is, even when B was on tour, I hated 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:06.520 seeing all the clips and all the stuff, but I 0:15:06.640 --> 0:15:09.640 was like, it's all right, she's. 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:10.560 Gonna have a new wardrobe. 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:15.200 Bone and knowing B, she makes changes to her set 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:20.800 or even certain arrangements. So probably what people saw in Chicago, 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:24.600 it was probably different in Atlanta, you know. And same 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:28.880 with Kelly. A few people said that she made tweaks 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:34.240 to her show. Beyonce came on in. Let me tell 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:36.960 you something about that. Beyonce, Giselle and I've been talking 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:41.120 about them the past few episodes. Beyonce comes to something 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:45.520 and she sees something, she's gonna make some suggestions. 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:49.360 I love it. 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:58.040 So yes, Kelly's show, the news that I'm hearing Kelly's 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:04.880 show was the bomb. And then when Sister Carter came 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:11.840 on in, now you're seeing something else amazing, So that's 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:12.920 pretty cool. You know. 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:14.920 I think sometimes we don't like. 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:19.520 To we don't like to bother each other or necessarily 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.920 feel like we're bothering each other a burden. But it's 0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:26.400 like Kelly and B they're like, girl, Michelle, if you 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:29.760 ever you better pick up matter of fact, They're like, 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:34.320 we better be the first person each other calls. If 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:36.600 there's something in the capacity in which I know you 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:40.520 can do something, call me now. If I'm if I 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:44.200 cannot do it, that's another thing, or I'm gonna send 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:48.120 someone that can, or whatever it is. Y'all, we we 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:50.640 got you got to get you some friends that are 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:54.120 like I wish you would call somebody else other than me. 0:16:55.640 --> 0:17:02.280 I love that for us. So, Baby Kelly's show is 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:09.040 so heartfelt. I was in tears first of all, because 0:17:09.040 --> 0:17:13.080 she hadn't performed in America on a tour in fifteen years. 0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:14.600 We got to talk about that. I got to bring 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:15.400 her on the podcast. 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:18.400 Since we got to talk about that, you know, she's 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:24.680 been a huge phenomenon overseas. She's iconic in America right 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:29.199 And just to see the crowd just be on the 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:34.280 edge of their seat loving her. You want to see 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:41.919 people love people you love. Oh, it felt good to 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:44.560 see people love on Kelly. 0:17:45.480 --> 0:17:50.400 She's got it. She's got everything it takes. 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:54.840 She crushed it from the time she came out in 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:58.919 that black hat, in that black outfit. Baby, just sexiness. 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:04.639 It wasn't astiness, it was just woman. It was just sexy. 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:08.320 It was I've been on this stage before. I know 0:18:08.440 --> 0:18:13.440 what I'm doing, and y'all gonna get all of this baby, 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:20.359 but her sweetness, her heart just you felt you felt 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:23.120 her heart, and you felt that she wanted to make 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:27.200 sure that y'all felt her heart and that she felt 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:31.840 y'all's heart too, because remember to not have toured in 0:18:31.880 --> 0:18:38.240 America for fifteen years. Sometimes America we not the easiest 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:42.960 crowds to please. So it did my heart good and 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:47.560 it encouraged me even for myself, like why are you 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:53.400 afraid to do certain things? Who's putting those limitations on you? 0:18:53.400 --> 0:18:54.040 Yourself? 0:18:54.720 --> 0:18:57.479 You're putting the limitations on you. So it was so 0:18:57.680 --> 0:19:05.480 good to lady Michelle Obama coming through to see the 0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:11.280 tour was amazing. That was beautiful, getting a chance to 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:15.720 speak with her, just vibe out. I invited her to 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:24.240 death becomes her. Dabby Morrigan was there, my friend John Murray, 0:19:24.480 --> 0:19:28.360 Phil Thornton, I got to say I did. I got 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:30.520 to see Monica. Now see, let me tell you something 0:19:30.760 --> 0:19:35.439 when I yeah, I'm still an artist, so I know 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:40.159 what it's like when you're going, uh, how do I 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:45.959 say this? I went to see Kelly, but sometimes I 0:19:46.119 --> 0:19:49.800 still am probably in my head about well, I don't 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:52.280 want to bother somebody else, maybe while they're getting dressed 0:19:52.359 --> 0:19:54.240 or getting ready. And I know people will be happy 0:19:54.280 --> 0:19:56.960 to see me, but I know when I'm getting ready 0:19:56.960 --> 0:20:02.880 for a show. If you you ain't in my likener 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:08.879 cor come holler at me after the show. Don't bombard 0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:13.840 me before with stuff, Come holler at me after. So 0:20:13.960 --> 0:20:16.919 I was so glad. What was I doing. I was 0:20:16.960 --> 0:20:23.879 walking back inside Kelly's dressing room from doing something. I 0:20:23.880 --> 0:20:26.960 don't know what I was doing, and Monica was coming out. 0:20:27.720 --> 0:20:29.600 They were taking her to the stage and I got 0:20:29.600 --> 0:20:32.440 to see her. And if you're new here, I used 0:20:32.440 --> 0:20:35.440 to sing a background from Monica in the year nineteen 0:20:35.520 --> 0:20:38.240 ninety nine and some of you all weren't even born yet. 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:42.840 I haven't seen Monica in person. Oh it's been a minute. 0:20:43.119 --> 0:20:46.280 So it was good, you know, to just see each 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:48.639 other and just I feel like we hugged for about 0:20:48.680 --> 0:20:51.520 five minutes. It was just it just felt so good. 0:20:52.000 --> 0:20:58.399 I'm very, very, very very proud of this tour with Monica, Brandy, 0:20:58.880 --> 0:21:03.760 Kelly Honey Long had to bow out of the tour 0:21:03.800 --> 0:21:09.080 because of some health issues. Maya Jamal Roberts, am I 0:21:09.320 --> 0:21:14.760 missing anyone who all been on this tour. Yeah, I've 0:21:14.760 --> 0:21:17.639 been cooped up in the theater, so I might be 0:21:17.720 --> 0:21:21.600 missing some names, but it just showed I was actually 0:21:21.640 --> 0:21:23.919 I was telling Kelly it was really really good to 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:29.800 see this tour being successful. When I looked in the arena, 0:21:29.920 --> 0:21:35.359 people were from the floor to the highest seats that 0:21:35.359 --> 0:21:38.960 they had in the arena. I thought that that was 0:21:39.160 --> 0:21:48.240 absolutely amazing. So I'm proud. I'm super proud of Kelly. 0:21:48.680 --> 0:21:53.920 She's got a movie coming out. There's rumored music. I've 0:21:54.080 --> 0:21:59.760 heard some of the music. Yes, I heard some of 0:21:59.800 --> 0:22:00.520 them music. 0:22:02.119 --> 0:22:02.840 And when was that? 0:22:04.119 --> 0:22:04.359 Maybe? 0:22:04.480 --> 0:22:08.520 Was it in September? She plays some music for me. 0:22:08.560 --> 0:22:11.639 We was pool side at her house and she played 0:22:11.680 --> 0:22:15.040 me some of the music and y'all just get ready. 0:22:15.080 --> 0:22:18.040 I just I just I just love. I'm I'm proud. 0:22:18.160 --> 0:22:21.000 She's an amazing friend, a wife, a mother. 0:22:21.760 --> 0:22:25.040 So I'm loving on Kelly for this portion of the 0:22:25.119 --> 0:22:29.240 podcast because she did really really good. She showed up, 0:22:29.480 --> 0:22:39.919 y'all showed up, and it has been just beautiful to see. Okay, 0:22:40.800 --> 0:22:43.160 I am back in New York. I've got a week 0:22:43.560 --> 0:22:49.800 of Death becomes Her. We are in the holiday schedule, y'all. 0:22:51.680 --> 0:22:57.760 The holiday schedule is brutal but I am pacing myself. 0:22:58.320 --> 0:23:02.879 I actually have a massa shortly. I'm not telling you 0:23:02.920 --> 0:23:06.439 guys this because it's a flex it's a necessity. I 0:23:06.480 --> 0:23:10.240 have to get massages. It's like this therapeutic, like twice 0:23:10.280 --> 0:23:13.879 a week. No, I'm not dancing and stuff like the 0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:16.720 dancers are. So if I'm having any if I'm having 0:23:16.760 --> 0:23:19.960 to get massages twice a week, ain't no telling what 0:23:20.000 --> 0:23:24.840 they're having to do to keep their bodies in good shape. 0:23:26.600 --> 0:23:27.760 Whether y'all know it or not. 0:23:29.200 --> 0:23:33.240 We performers, we're responsible for our health and our body, 0:23:33.760 --> 0:23:37.800 not the show. They do have a physical therapist on 0:23:37.920 --> 0:23:42.680 site pretty much every day of the week or I 0:23:42.680 --> 0:23:44.600 don't know, three days out the week something like that 0:23:44.640 --> 0:23:48.120 where people can go and get massage and taped up 0:23:48.280 --> 0:23:51.240 and all the things. But it's really on us to 0:23:51.320 --> 0:23:57.920 keep our bodies in shape. And well, you know, now 0:23:57.960 --> 0:24:02.000 that it's cold outside, I wear a full face thing 0:24:02.160 --> 0:24:04.639 over my face because I don't want to get sick. 0:24:06.520 --> 0:24:11.120 So yes, I've got to get a massage and stretch 0:24:11.320 --> 0:24:14.160 and keep my ligaments and all the. 0:24:13.960 --> 0:24:18.120 Things flexible and. 0:24:20.200 --> 0:24:24.320 Not tight, because when you're when stuff is tight, I 0:24:24.359 --> 0:24:26.600 think that's what happens that's how you get injured. 0:24:26.680 --> 0:24:30.119 So we don't need any of that. But I really, 0:24:30.119 --> 0:24:31.080 really hope. 0:24:32.800 --> 0:24:36.920 You take this month to assess areas that you can 0:24:37.359 --> 0:24:40.280 take better care of yourself. Don't wait until the new year. 0:24:40.400 --> 0:24:45.200 Let's start now. What does that mean for you? Does 0:24:45.200 --> 0:24:48.040 that mean you can wake up maybe fifteen minutes earlier 0:24:48.119 --> 0:24:53.159 and stretch, maybe drink your favorite cup of tea or coffee. 0:24:53.359 --> 0:24:54.000 Maybe just. 0:24:55.560 --> 0:25:02.720 Yeah, while you're showering, gonna put some extra soap on 0:25:02.760 --> 0:25:06.680 a towel. I don't know what that means for you, 0:25:06.800 --> 0:25:13.040 but I'm just wondering if this month you can start 0:25:13.080 --> 0:25:16.879 to take care of you. It's been a journey because 0:25:16.920 --> 0:25:21.240 not everybody will understand what it is that you're doing. 0:25:21.480 --> 0:25:23.560 And it's not for them to understand. It's just for 0:25:23.600 --> 0:25:26.400 them to kind of just be a witness to the results. 0:25:27.520 --> 0:25:29.719 You don't have to make an announcement to the world 0:25:29.800 --> 0:25:33.800 that you're taking better care of yourself. I can do it, 0:25:34.040 --> 0:25:36.800 but maybe I feel like I'm called to do it 0:25:38.560 --> 0:25:42.920 to be an encouragement to somebody else. But you can 0:25:42.960 --> 0:25:48.280 do it privately and then you bust up at Fourth 0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:51.119 of July picnic and they'd be like, what you been doing, 0:25:51.520 --> 0:25:58.360 minding my business, drinking water, make people ask what is it, 0:25:58.760 --> 0:26:00.280 what you've been up to, what you've been doing? 0:26:02.040 --> 0:26:02.520 You know what? 0:26:02.680 --> 0:26:07.880 You seem so peaceful when it's chaotic right now. How 0:26:07.920 --> 0:26:12.359 are you doing that? Yeah, that's what you want to 0:26:12.400 --> 0:26:15.439 start doing. I've been reading the book. It's called The 0:26:15.480 --> 0:26:22.280 Nervous System Reset by Jessica Maguire and also my cousin 0:26:22.400 --> 0:26:25.680 that's a therapist. It's a new book I just got 0:26:25.680 --> 0:26:28.520 this week called When You're Ready This Is How You 0:26:28.600 --> 0:26:33.080 Heal by Brianna Weiss. One hundred and one essays that 0:26:33.119 --> 0:26:37.280 will change the way you think. It's amazing because on 0:26:37.320 --> 0:26:39.280 the back of the book it says healing is not 0:26:39.359 --> 0:26:40.600 a one time event. 0:26:41.359 --> 0:26:43.440 It's not even when I. 0:26:43.440 --> 0:26:47.359 Made the post today about healing from people pleasing, It's 0:26:47.359 --> 0:26:51.280 not a Woe's me. It's letting you know you're gonna 0:26:51.320 --> 0:26:55.440 find different things on the journey, like oh I thought 0:26:55.480 --> 0:27:00.360 I was over that. It's healing is a day lead 0:27:00.840 --> 0:27:05.600 journey because you have to choose you every single day. 0:27:06.720 --> 0:27:10.760 Choose you or choose the chaos. Choose you or choose 0:27:10.840 --> 0:27:16.280 the dysfunctional person who keeps bringing you mess and drama. 0:27:16.560 --> 0:27:18.440 You know what, I'm saying, and so it is a 0:27:18.640 --> 0:27:24.199 daily things. It's not a healing is not a you 0:27:24.280 --> 0:27:28.840 have a feel good moment, I'm healed. No, No, that's 0:27:28.880 --> 0:27:32.440 called a miracle. Healings and miracles are different. Healing is 0:27:32.480 --> 0:27:37.800 a journey. A miracle is instant. Okay, when y'all were 0:27:37.960 --> 0:27:42.280 Jesus was turning water into wine, baby, that was instant. 0:27:42.680 --> 0:27:46.160 When he was opening blind eyes, that was a miracle. 0:27:47.200 --> 0:27:51.200