WEBVTT - Evan & Ruby: She Ghosted Him After a Perfect Date… Then a Photo Changed Everything

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<v Speaker 1>First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's Christmas time, we're counting down the twelve first

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<v Speaker 2>day follow ups of Christmas has voted on by you. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we countdown all the way to the number one first

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<v Speaker 2>date follow up that you voted on. Evan is on

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<v Speaker 2>the phone today for our first Date follow up and

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<v Speaker 2>he's getting ghosted by Ruby. So in a few minutes

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<v Speaker 2>we'll call her and see if she'll tell us why

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<v Speaker 2>she's ghosting him and maybe get him a second date.

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<v Speaker 2>But first, Evan, how long has it, Vinceince you heard

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<v Speaker 2>from Ruby?

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<v Speaker 3>It's been about four days.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, that's too bad. Yeah. Have you hit her up

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<v Speaker 4>a bunch in that time?

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<v Speaker 3>I did try a couple of times. Yeah, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want to over do it, so I reached out and

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<v Speaker 3>definitely got nothing back.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, And you feel like that's weird, Like you feel

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<v Speaker 5>like four days is a long time?

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<v Speaker 4>Did not hear from her?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we're kind of hitting it off, so it is

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<v Speaker 3>out of the ordinary.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, tell us about your date.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, Ruby and I went to a rooftop bar, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know it had the best view of the city.

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<v Speaker 3>It was. It was our idea. Actually it was super cool.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I can't really be beat it for a

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<v Speaker 3>first dage, just great, great place, grabed drinks, shared a

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<v Speaker 3>charcuterie board, and you know, our conversation was just really easy, natural.

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<v Speaker 3>The vibe was laid back and plenty of kind of

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<v Speaker 3>flirty moments. She's hilarious. You know, We're making each other

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<v Speaker 3>laugh the whole night, and they were just barked, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>the kind of camp bake. We ended up taking a

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<v Speaker 3>walk after and because we were both a little buzzed,

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<v Speaker 3>and before we said good night, there are a few

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<v Speaker 3>kisses and yeah, you know, it's just a kind of

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<v Speaker 3>day you never want to stop.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, Well, why do you think you're getting ghosted?

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<v Speaker 5>Them?

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<v Speaker 3>Honestly really confused. You know, we were texting NonStop for

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<v Speaker 3>two days after so things were you know, they felt promising,

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<v Speaker 3>and then nothing, it just stopped.

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<v Speaker 5>So wait, you went on the date and you ended

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<v Speaker 5>up hearing from her after the date.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's the date for about two days.

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<v Speaker 4>And then it stopped. Right, Could it be something you texted?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think so. I mean, I don't think it

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<v Speaker 3>was I did text her a pick of me, like

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<v Speaker 3>in the bathroom with a towel on and the tease

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<v Speaker 3>like I thought it would be harmless.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, is that the last time you were from her?

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<v Speaker 5>I believe so R and B Tripp and if I

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<v Speaker 5>got ghosted after that.

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<v Speaker 3>She was teasing me about having abs. So I just

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<v Speaker 3>decided to show her, you know, I don't know, maybe

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<v Speaker 3>it was too much. It wasn't like a pick or anything.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, do you have abs? Or was joking around

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<v Speaker 4>me and like check out, my you don't have them?

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<v Speaker 4>You know I have.

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<v Speaker 3>As Yeah, I mean I just wanted to prove myself.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, that could be it. So was a selfie?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>If you stop talking to you right after that, then

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<v Speaker 2>that probably it probably has something to do with that.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. I mean, I don't think it was

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<v Speaker 3>that bad or racy or anything.

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<v Speaker 4>But what did you say when you send the picture

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<v Speaker 4>of yourself in a towel?

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<v Speaker 3>Nothing much. I just I think I've put like a

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<v Speaker 3>little blurb like you know, here proved or something like

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<v Speaker 3>along those lines.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>In the middle of today's first day follow up, if

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<v Speaker 2>you're just joining us, Evan is on the phone and

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<v Speaker 2>he's getting ghosted by Ruby. So we're about to call

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<v Speaker 2>her and see if she tell us why she's ghosting

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<v Speaker 2>him and hopefully get him a second date. But first, Evan,

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<v Speaker 2>why don't you break down your date for us one

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<v Speaker 2>more time.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So we had a lot of great moments on

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<v Speaker 3>our dates, barks flew, everything was perfect. So we had

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<v Speaker 3>a connection. And and you know, two days after the date,

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<v Speaker 3>I've not heard from her.

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<v Speaker 5>And the last thing that you sent her was, let's

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<v Speaker 5>not forget this part, a picture of yourself in the

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<v Speaker 5>bathroom and a towel.

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<v Speaker 3>I did send her my ab.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, Well, are you ready to see if that's

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<v Speaker 4>the reason you're getting ghosted?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, let's do it.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, here we go. I'm gonna call her right now. Hi, man,

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<v Speaker 4>I speak to Ruby. Please, Hey Ruby, how are you?

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<v Speaker 4>This is a radio show, it's called the Jubile Show.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi Ruby. My name is Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm Jubil. How are you?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm good.

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<v Speaker 4>Have you ever listened to the show before? I have dope?

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, what if I told you that you were the

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<v Speaker 2>star of a first date?

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<v Speaker 4>Follow up? Right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh god?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we got an email about you from somebody that

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<v Speaker 2>you're ghosting and they don't know why.

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<v Speaker 4>You know who emails.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm pretty sure it's probably Evan.

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<v Speaker 2>You're a very smart Evan told us about your date,

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<v Speaker 2>said that he really liked you, thought you guys had

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<v Speaker 2>an awesome time, but you texted for a little while after,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you just ghosted him, and he wants to

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<v Speaker 2>know what's up?

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<v Speaker 4>Would you mind telling us?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, like, look, I really I thought Evan was

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<v Speaker 6>great and we had an amazing time. But then after

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<v Speaker 6>my date, my friend showed me something and it just

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<v Speaker 6>it kind of killed the vibe for me.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, what was it?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, So I tested my friend a picture of Evan

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<v Speaker 6>when we were on the base because she wants me

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<v Speaker 6>to look like And then the next night she sends

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<v Speaker 6>me a picture of him with some other girl, all

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<v Speaker 6>like literally the night after we went on the date,

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<v Speaker 6>and then she was at another bar and they were

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<v Speaker 6>making up.

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<v Speaker 3>No no, no, no, you've got it wrong.

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<v Speaker 4>He's actually on the phone and wants to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god. I mean like, yeah, okay, I I

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<v Speaker 6>guess I knew this was com Oh man, hi.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, uh, look, You've got it all wrong.

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<v Speaker 6>It's not no, no, even you are literally in the picture.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, it's not hard to recognize someone when you

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<v Speaker 6>were just right there, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, yeah it happened, but it's not what you think.

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<v Speaker 3>Like she's she's someone I've been cooking up with for

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<v Speaker 3>a while, and I was I was going to tell

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<v Speaker 3>her it was over because I wanted to focus on

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<v Speaker 3>you that night, and I just I didn't get to

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<v Speaker 3>it yet.

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<v Speaker 2>So you were, oh with someone else right after your

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<v Speaker 2>date making out with her?

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<v Speaker 3>Technically, yeah, Agan, you were just with me and then

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<v Speaker 3>you just go and.

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<v Speaker 6>Make out with someone else. I mean, I understand people

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<v Speaker 6>date multiple people, but it just it felt.

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<v Speaker 3>Wrong to me. I swear, I swear I'm done with her.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not seeing anyone else. I like you. I was

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<v Speaker 3>going to tell her that the next day, but it

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<v Speaker 3>was like, it wasn't like that anymore, Like you're the

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<v Speaker 3>one that I want to date.

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<v Speaker 4>Did you tell her that?

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<v Speaker 3>I told her?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I wouldn't want to see a picture of

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<v Speaker 5>the dude that I just want to date with mixed

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<v Speaker 5>like messing around with somebody else again, Like she said,

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<v Speaker 5>I get people are dating other people, but if I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know, I wouldn't feel good about that either.

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<v Speaker 4>I just would have too many questions.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like are you just saying that like you want

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<v Speaker 3>to date me?

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<v Speaker 6>Or like did you hook up with her that night?

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<v Speaker 6>You know, that's just how it felt to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you hook up her? Yeah, but it was it

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<v Speaker 3>was just like a last like last round type of thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I swear I told her about you at that point,

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<v Speaker 3>and that was the last time you.

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<v Speaker 4>Told her after you hooked up.

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<v Speaker 3>You're not hooked up with.

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<v Speaker 6>Her after you told her about me?

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<v Speaker 3>Like seriously, no, I told her about you after I

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<v Speaker 3>hooked up with herful.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, okay, so you hooked up with her after you

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<v Speaker 6>told her about me, Like seriously, no.

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<v Speaker 3>I hooked up with her and then I told her

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<v Speaker 3>about you. It's but but that's because things felt so

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<v Speaker 3>different with you, like we've been on one date. It's

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<v Speaker 3>not like I cheated on you or anything. I was

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<v Speaker 3>just I was trying to do the right thing.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, it would have been better if you told

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<v Speaker 6>her before and.

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<v Speaker 3>Didn't hook up the point. Okay, I get that, but

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<v Speaker 3>it was you. I was just kind of desperate. Instead

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't get to see you, and you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>was just trying to break things off, and it didn't

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<v Speaker 3>go as smoothly as I hoped they would.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, if we were to date and you didn't

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<v Speaker 6>see me, you can't hook up with other people.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I'm not trying to do that. I swear.

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<v Speaker 4>It's kind of tricky because he kind of does have

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<v Speaker 4>a point.

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<v Speaker 5>He is trying to do the right thing, like he

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<v Speaker 5>didn't cheat on anybody, and she's out of the picture.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, Ruby, would you like to go on a second

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<v Speaker 2>date with Evan? We'll pay for it.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, Evan, are there any other people I need

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<v Speaker 6>to know about?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, yeah, well yes, but I We're going to

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<v Speaker 3>text them and let them know I'm not available via text.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not going to meet up with them. I will

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<v Speaker 3>show you the text.

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<v Speaker 4>What do you think, Ruby, Oh, it sounds like serious?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean, like honestly, we did just go in

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<v Speaker 6>one date and it was like a really, really good date.

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<v Speaker 6>But I swear to God, Evan, if any of my

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<v Speaker 6>friends send me more pictures of you out with other women,

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<v Speaker 6>you're gonna wish that I was just ghosting you.

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<v Speaker 3>It will be I promise you will never see that again.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to to ever meet that side of

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<v Speaker 3>you again.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, sure, all right, we'll go out again.

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<v Speaker 4>Are you happy?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? Thank you?

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<v Speaker 4>You ave theme.

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<v Speaker 5>You.

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