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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter. Subject she only wants to be

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Speaker 1: a baby mama. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty three

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Speaker 1: year old single woman and my longtime friend has two

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Speaker 1: children by my brother. He's a business owner and he's

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Speaker 1: in several civic organizations in our city. From the outside

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Speaker 1: looking in, it looks like his life is in order,

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Speaker 1: but it's not. He's been going through ups and downs

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Speaker 1: with my friend for many years. My friend is in

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Speaker 1: love with the lifestyle my brother gives her, but she

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Speaker 1: does not want to settle down and marry him. She

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Speaker 1: has the best of both worlds because he loves her

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Speaker 1: She's been on vacation since New Year's Day when she

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Speaker 1: flew to Tulum with her sisters. I have been helping

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Speaker 1: my brother take care of their daughters, ages five and seven,

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Speaker 1: and is not my responsibility, but I love my nieces

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Speaker 1: to pieces. I've called my friend several times on FaceTime

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Speaker 1: when I'm with her daughters, and she doesn't answer or

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Speaker 1: call back. My brother told me that she is up

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Speaker 1: to something because she hasn't posted any pictures on her

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Speaker 1: social media. That's odd because my friend is always posting

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Speaker 1: pictures of her great body and beautiful surroundings. I took

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Speaker 1: this opportunity to tell my brother that he should give

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Speaker 1: my friend back to the streets because she's happy just

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Speaker 1: being a baby mama. She's the it girl in our

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Speaker 1: city and she knows she can have anyone she wants,

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Speaker 1: but she hangs on to my brother for financial security.

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Speaker 1: My brother is almost forty, and he told me that

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Speaker 1: he wants to get married and raise his girls in

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Speaker 1: a two parent household, but my friend told him she's

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Speaker 1: too young to get married. I would love to tell

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Speaker 1: my friend to stop playing with my brother's heart, but

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Speaker 1: I don't want to get into the middle of this

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Speaker 1: big mess. What do I say when my brother asked

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Speaker 1: for my advice again. Huh No, I just said, wow, yeah, wow, yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean listen, I know you love your brother, and

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Speaker 1: I know you love your nieces. Like you said, you

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Speaker 1: love your nieces to pieces. I mean, you can give

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Speaker 1: him your opinion, he asked, So tell him what you think.

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Speaker 1: You're kind of in the in it anyway, because it's

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Speaker 1: your friend and you know what's going on with them.

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Speaker 1: He'll probably do what he wants to anyway, but at

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Speaker 1: least he'll know your thoughts on this situation. Say what

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Speaker 1: you gotta say, then stay out of it. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know, and he knows that his baby mama is

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Speaker 1: trifling and irresponsible. He still loves her, but he definitely

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Speaker 1: needs to move on with his life. If this is

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Speaker 1: all he can get, and he wants more. If he

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Speaker 1: can get joint or full custody of their kids, I

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Speaker 1: think that's a start to having a happy and stable life.

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Speaker 1: He wants this for himself and especially for his girls.

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Speaker 1: He then won't have to finance her lifestyle like he's

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Speaker 1: doing now either. So you should tell him not to

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Speaker 1: worry about baby mama. She is who she is and

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Speaker 1: she isn't going to change right now. He on the

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Speaker 1: other hand, when he gets out of this mess, if

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Speaker 1: he gets out of this mess, he can very well

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Speaker 1: meet someone else, start a new family with them and

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Speaker 1: the kids. I say, life is short, and he deserves

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Speaker 1: that's what you should tell him, Steve. You know, this

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Speaker 1: letter has a couple of things in it that most

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Speaker 1: her brother. Now she says that he's a business owner

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Speaker 1: and he's in several civic or organizations in our city.

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Speaker 1: See listen to that line right there. He's in several

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Speaker 1: without knowing this, this is a small town letter right here.

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Speaker 1: This is a small town letter right here. This ain't

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Speaker 1: You know, this ain't nobody in LA. This ain't Atlanta.

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Speaker 1: This a small town letter. He's in several civic organizations

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Speaker 1: because she running game. And that's all this is from

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Speaker 1: here on out. And it's a shame that your brother

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Speaker 1: don't see it. She's got the best of both worlds

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Speaker 1: her sister's wars, tell them anybody well seeing us high.

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Speaker 1: You know, God has blessed me to be able to

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Speaker 1: travel the world. I'm not familiar with it. It's obviously

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Speaker 1: once again we're going back to this a small town

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Speaker 1: to ass letter. Now she dined there with her sisters,

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Speaker 1: and now you've been helping your brother take care of

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Speaker 1: but you love them to pieces. And you call your

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Speaker 1: My brother told me she's up to something because she

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Speaker 1: great body and beautiful surroundings. That's it in a nutshell,

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Speaker 1: you saying it. She from a small town, but she

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Speaker 1: got a great body. Your brother is strong and snapped

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Speaker 1: over the fact that he got one of the baddest

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Speaker 1: is after that is ignorant. We'll get into that when

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Speaker 1: I come back. We'll have her two coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour of today's Strawberry Letters.

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Speaker 1: Subject is she only wants to be a baby mama.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: the String Show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letter. The subject she only wants to be

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Speaker 1: a baby mama. This letter, right here, I finally got

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Speaker 1: to the crux of what's going on him she only

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Speaker 1: want to be a baby mama. You're this woman that

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Speaker 1: wrote the letter has a girlfriend, her best friend who's

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Speaker 1: been dating her brother for many years. She has two children,

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Speaker 1: likes lifestyle. He's a business owner. He's in several civic

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Speaker 1: you know, he's you know, he got some fake titles,

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Speaker 1: that's what they mean. Fake title sitting on the board. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: du Yeah. Anyway, so, now come to find out that

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Speaker 1: pieces because there's her nieces. So but every time she

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Speaker 1: pictures on her social media. Okay, that's odd, because my

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Speaker 1: beautiful surroundings. That's where we left off in the letter,

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Speaker 1: it's time to flex to show her lifestyle, but really

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Speaker 1: to show her great body. And that's what your brother

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Speaker 1: is sprung on in this small town letter, that he

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Speaker 1: don't he just overjoyed with that, but he ain't looking

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Speaker 1: at the facts. Then, the ladiesid I took this opportunity

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Speaker 1: her from, then, hunt, you got her from the streets.

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Speaker 1: He then told you you need to give her back

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Speaker 1: She's the it girl in our city right there now,

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Speaker 1: right once again, we into a small town letter, because

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Speaker 1: who do you know, ladies, gentlemen, that's the it girl

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Speaker 1: Because who's the it girl in New York? Who the

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Speaker 1: Who the it girl in DC? Who the it girl

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Speaker 1: hangs on to my brother for financial security. My brother's

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Speaker 1: But my friend told him she's too young to get married. Really,

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Speaker 1: you aren't too young, hand onlie, baby, but now you're

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Speaker 1: When my brother asked for advice again, Shirley hit it

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Speaker 1: ain't in La where there's this. You know, laws that

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Speaker 1: get nothing, common law, community property. Ain't none of that

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Speaker 1: in place, So you do an oldest woman know of lifestyle.

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Speaker 1: She's refused to get married. She's told you that you've

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Speaker 1: And because you're a businessman, get on a plane and

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Speaker 1: Take a car ride, get on the plane. It is everywhere,

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Speaker 1: and it is looking to get married, and it wants

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