1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,760 Speaker 1: Today's tip is to work with your family to make 4 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:23,079 Speaker 1: a collective list of your one dreams. This will help 5 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 1: you make plans for fun, memorable experiences in the future. 6 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: You'll also avoid wasting your precious leisure time figuring out 7 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:37,320 Speaker 1: how to spend it. Long time listeners will have heard 8 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 1: me recommend making a list of one hundred dreams, an 9 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: exercise I learned from career coach Caroline Sniza Levine years ago. 10 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 1: A list of one hundred dreams is like a bucket 11 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: list with a really big bucket. The brilliance of such 12 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: a long list is that you identify lots of things 13 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: you want to do in your life. Some of them, 14 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: like publishing a book, or running a marathon or renovating 15 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: your kitchen, require a lot of time or money. They 16 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: may not be things that are achievable in the near term. 17 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: With one hundred dreams, though, you will also list items 18 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:21,680 Speaker 1: that are much more doable. You won't renovate your kitchen tomorrow, 19 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 1: but you could try a banana split at your local 20 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: ice cream place. You won't publish a book tomorrow, or 21 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: at least you probably won't, but you could publish a 22 00:01:32,600 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: letter to the editor in your local paper with items 23 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: like these among your dreams. You can totally make your 24 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: dreams come true. And as you enjoy smaller scale special experiences, 25 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: publishing a book and running a marathon may start to 26 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 1: feel more possible. When you make your dreams come true, 27 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: the story you tell yourself starts to change. You are 28 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: someone who does cool stuff. You can make cool stuff happen. 29 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: If you haven't made your own personal list of one 30 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: hundred dreams, I hope you will consider giving it a try. 31 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:15,320 Speaker 1: It can make a big difference in the year ahead. 32 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 1: It can also be great to make a list of 33 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: one hundred dreams with your family. You'll generate lots of 34 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: ideas for how to have fun to gather, and you'll 35 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 1: also get to know each other in the process as 36 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: you hear more about each other's desires. So set aside 37 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 1: some time to brainstorm individually and collectively. Then see what 38 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 1: you've come up with. I bet you can picture the 39 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:47,399 Speaker 1: conversations this would spark. Maybe your partner wants to take 40 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: the family camping. What are his memories of camping? Growing up. 41 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 1: What does he imagine it will be like camping altogether 42 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:00,679 Speaker 1: with the family? And what about ghost stories? Definitely every night, 43 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:06,080 Speaker 1: occasionally or no way never. Maybe your teenager wants to 44 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: map out your family tree. How did she get interested 45 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 1: in that? What aspects of your family history is she 46 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:16,799 Speaker 1: most curious about. Our dreams are part of who we are, 47 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 1: and hearing your family's dreams gives you a new window 48 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 1: into their personalities. Generating a family list of one dreams 49 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 1: could be a great activity for a car trip, with 50 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:33,800 Speaker 1: everybody having individual thinking time and then sharing their dreams 51 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: out loud. If you're making the list at home, you 52 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:40,320 Speaker 1: could record the ideas on a big piece of paper 53 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: or a whiteboard if you have one. Put headings like 54 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 1: places to go, things to do, foods to eat, skills 55 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: to learn on the paper, and then give every family 56 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: member a marker to write or draw their ideas on 57 00:03:57,200 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: the appropriate pages. To see what dreams generated the most enthusiasm. 58 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 1: You could have everyone read all the ideas and then 59 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:08,960 Speaker 1: give each person stickers to mark the ideas they are 60 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 1: most excited about. Once you've captured the ideas, figure out 61 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: how to put them somewhere you can see frequently. Maybe 62 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:21,479 Speaker 1: it's a bulletin board in the family room or a 63 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:24,840 Speaker 1: poster tacked up to the pantry door. Or maybe you're 64 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 1: all digital and you will all consult a shared document. 65 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:32,719 Speaker 1: You can figure out what works for you. But you 66 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: want to be sure to revisit this list because if 67 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 1: you know what your family is interested in, because you've 68 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: created a list of one dreams, you are ready to 69 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 1: make memories anytime the opportunity presents itself. When you're planning 70 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: vacations and weekends, you can consult the list and find 71 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: lots of ideas. You won't keep going around saying what 72 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:00,279 Speaker 1: do you want to do? I don't know what do 73 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 1: you want to do? Or I don't want to do that. 74 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 1: You've got lots of options, and with those options, you 75 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 1: can start making your family's dreams come true. If your 76 00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:14,719 Speaker 1: family makes a list of one dreams together, I would 77 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: love to hear about it. You can reach me at 78 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: Laura at Laura Vanderkam dot com. In the meantime, this 79 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: is Laura. 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