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Speaker 1: My wife might be cheating on me. I want a divorce,

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Speaker 1: have been going through this series and we have a

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Speaker 1: Let's go TLDR catching us up. Opie struggles with the

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Speaker 1: His older son is deeply hurt and protective of OPI

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Speaker 1: The psychologist suggests allowing Opie's wife to join the sessions.

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Speaker 1: Opie's wife continues to apologize and shares updates about her

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Speaker 1: efforts to improve. Opie leans towards divorce, but is open

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Speaker 1: And that's where we're at. We still have not also

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Speaker 1: the divorce. She hasn't been given the divorce offer. Will

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Speaker 1: he pull it back all together and just get it

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Speaker 1: together with her? Let's find out. Opie says, feel free

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Speaker 1: to criticize me in the comments or via DMS, but

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Speaker 1: I believe I made the right decision in the end,

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Speaker 1: there are many reasons why I decided to let her

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Speaker 1: undoubtedly the biggest reason. Ninety eight percent of my decision

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Speaker 1: revolved around them. They visited the psychologist again on Monday.

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Speaker 1: One by one. The psychologist explained that my younger son

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Speaker 1: that he feels I'm angry at him because of what

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Speaker 1: this comes from outrageous spread eighty seven O six on

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Speaker 1: the arsash Okay story Time subvered it. So. My older son,

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Speaker 1: Once again, he repeated that my wife is a bad

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Speaker 1: and I joined the younger son for a session next time.

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Speaker 1: The tension between them was palpable. They're just seven and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, wouldn't they Maybe it's a different country. It is

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's still weird to me. I don't know, maybe

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Speaker 1: Older son is just like I don't like anybody anymore.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I just want to throw a football. You want

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Speaker 1: That's true. He would rather do that than have the

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Speaker 1: We're bringing it back. We're bringing it back. He said

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Speaker 1: First question, Paul, good move or not bring her back

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Speaker 1: or not or whatever you think is best? Riley? Yes,

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Speaker 3: The children are developing an improper relationship with their mother.

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Speaker 2: I don't I don't think it would be good to

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Speaker 3: It's gonna be tough. I think it's a war at home.

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Speaker 3: It's setting a bad precedent. I think that, like, maybe

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: You just don't want you to be a reason why

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Speaker 3: then maybe they feel like, oh, you manipulated me into

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Speaker 3: Younger brother is gonna learn from older brother he hates mom.

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Speaker 1: I guess I hate mom. Yeah. I'm confused now I

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Speaker 3: It is actually a perfect opportunity for them to teach

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Speaker 1: It's perfect talk on it.

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Speaker 3: Because it's like you can bring your wife who's like

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Speaker 3: your ex wife, right, you can still get the divorce, yes, right,

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Speaker 3: But it's like being able to forgive somebody and being like, hey,

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Speaker 3: But it's like, you know, she's a human, she's fallible

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Speaker 3: It's like, and that's a perfect life lesson to hopefully

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Speaker 1: think it's some sort of like in between compromise. Maybe

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Speaker 1: what you're saying is like, hey, we're gonna come together

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Speaker 3: Yeah, regardless of what she's done wrong, she is still

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Speaker 3: your mom and like, was you know, an important part

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Speaker 3: of my life?

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Speaker 1: Yes, all your life.

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Speaker 2: There And sixty five percent of chat said no.

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Speaker 1: They said, don't bring that back, Bay dope, don't bring

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Speaker 1: her back. Don't bring her back. Chat Chat doesn't want

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Speaker 1: her back. But actually that's more, way more split than

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Speaker 1: I thought, to be honest. But Opie goes on to say,

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Speaker 1: I went to her friend's house in the evening unannounced.

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Speaker 1: Her friend was shocked to see me and said, my

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Speaker 3: I don't think he's like that, because if he was,

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Speaker 2: He keeps him more control because he can be like,

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Speaker 3: But if what he wants, I mean, I guess.

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Speaker 2: And I understand what he's asking is like somewhat reasonable

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Speaker 1: But this list is pretty reasonable. Yeah, it is reasonable. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: This is weird. But she did agree to everything, so

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Speaker 3: I'll your friend, right, I would say, So, that's how

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Speaker 2: A great friend holds others accountable.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and hey, I'll still support you yep. And I'll

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Speaker 1: be here for angel move. I'll be here for you. You

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Speaker 1: Come on. Clargy says they need to divorce. They are

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't think that they were going to stay married.

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Speaker 1: Like they need to, Yeah, they needed to divorce, stay

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Speaker 3: Same house necessary. I just because I think the initial

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Speaker 1: These people need to take notes. These people need to

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Speaker 1: don't know, it's given. Maybe this is too much, but

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Speaker 3: I mean potentially maybe a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he should.

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Speaker 2: No no, no, no, no, no, no, you know what I

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Speaker 1: I hate my mom. I was gonna say that emo rap.

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Speaker 3: That was Jess Slinky two, same thing.

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Speaker 1: Goth whatever, that's goth? What do you mean I hate

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why'd you call it emo rap?

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Speaker 1: Next?

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Speaker 3: Eminemmine ham eminem is not emo.

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Speaker 2: Someone that hates called it singing a singer like you say,

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Speaker 3: That is not the only genre of music that exists.

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Speaker 1: Yes and no, yes and yeah no, but John's sorry.

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Speaker 1: That's the that's the thank you.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna saw a rappers emo lead singer, would

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Speaker 3: you okay? Chat is Blink one eighty two rap?

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Speaker 1: No, it's not blink one eighty two. He's saying like

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Speaker 1: The singing was blink. The sentiment was Emo rapper. You're

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Speaker 3: That was like the most actually like thing I've ever

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Speaker 1: Was giving him. But anyways, back to the story. When

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Speaker 1: He asked me to leave him alone because he wanted

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Speaker 2: Anytime he's sad, nap, mad nap, happy nap, tired, absolutely away.

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Speaker 3: It's a good move for most emotional states of Distress's nap.

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Speaker 2: Actually a great one time he got like really bad

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Speaker 3: He just snapped the whole time he was grounded.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for like two months. Bro is unlocked life. Your

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Speaker 1: Melody was doing chores, My wife was cooking, and my

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Speaker 1: Riley's brother does best. He went to sleep. He took

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Speaker 1: The three year old.

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Speaker 3: with life and it's perfect at all times.

436
00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:48,040
Speaker 1: Dude, because you're three, being three, sick, terrible three. Let's

437
00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:51,239
Speaker 1: run it back, man. My younger son was eating and

438
00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:54,359
Speaker 1: watching TV. My wife was watching me every second like

439
00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:57,800
Speaker 1: she was some kind of spy, was just gauging your reactions.

440
00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:00,720
Speaker 1: I'm here for you, OPI you've committed a crime, stealing

441
00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:06,240
Speaker 1: my heart? Got him? Uh? Got him? I got him? Dakota,

442
00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:09,879
Speaker 1: he did? I got him? Did it? Yay? And my

443
00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,560
Speaker 1: older son didn't say a word. He just stared at

444
00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:14,679
Speaker 1: me with a look that seemed to say, Dad, I

445
00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:21,159
Speaker 1: love you, but you're that's right, dude, son Rose, do

446
00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:24,439
Speaker 1: you find this bros nine years old? That's crazy? But

447
00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:26,920
Speaker 1: he said it with his eyes. Yeah, he knew. He's

448
00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:29,040
Speaker 1: one of those new nine year olds. Due these nine

449
00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:31,760
Speaker 1: year olds need to stop. They got smartphones, Riley told

450
00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:32,240
Speaker 1: me a little bit.

451
00:20:32,280 --> 00:20:35,480
Speaker 3: I imagine just uncodly things we would have gotten up

452
00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 3: to too.

453
00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:39,480
Speaker 1: Smartphones at like nine years even apparently even YouTube shorts

454
00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 1: is too dangerous these days. Who knows.

455
00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:45,240
Speaker 3: I believe that after what I saw back in the day,

456
00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:48,360
Speaker 3: back in twenty sixteen, I saw whatever.

457
00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:53,680
Speaker 1: He Maybe I am a kitty cat. Probably I am.

458
00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:56,080
Speaker 1: I think. I I hate that. I think I made

459
00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,480
Speaker 1: a good decision, but part of me also thinks that

460
00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:01,160
Speaker 1: it was a horrible decision. I guess time will tell.

461
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:04,000
Speaker 1: After dinner, my oldest son went to his room and

462
00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:06,720
Speaker 1: I followed him there again. We played video games for

463
00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:09,400
Speaker 1: a little bit, and before I left, I told him

464
00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:11,880
Speaker 1: that I would always be there for him, and then

465
00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:14,639
Speaker 1: he could tell me anything that bothers him. He seemed

466
00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 1: better after that. Later, I spent some time in the

467
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,640
Speaker 1: living room while the kids were already in bed. That's when,

468
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:24,080
Speaker 1: for the first time, my wife approached me.

469
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 3: Approached with a trade proposal.

470
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:31,399
Speaker 2: Oh goodness, you didn't say I couldn't do unvisual or

471
00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:33,240
Speaker 2: visual humor in the windows.

472
00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:37,439
Speaker 1: Well, that's your rules. Your rule is no visual humor. No,

473
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:38,000
Speaker 1: But he said I.

474
00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 2: Couldn't say any in the windows anymore.

475
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:42,320
Speaker 1: That then you said to yourself that you couldn't do visually.

476
00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:44,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you guys said it for all the listeners,

477
00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,400
Speaker 3: shocking his breastcles on chat.

478
00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:51,080
Speaker 1: Oh his prestacles.

479
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 2: We know what's about to happen, though, but to get

480
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:57,760
Speaker 2: hot and steamy, it might just at.

481
00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 1: Oh goodness, oh god, oh god. That's when, for the

482
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:04,879
Speaker 1: first time my wife approached me. She told me that

483
00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:07,920
Speaker 1: she was blessed to have another chance, that she would

484
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 1: respect everything I asked of her, and that she would

485
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 1: still commit to the changes she promised because that's what

486
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:18,479
Speaker 1: she truly wants. Okay, she said, it's the least she

487
00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 1: could do after everything. I didn't say a word. I

488
00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:25,120
Speaker 1: just looked at her.

489
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,359
Speaker 3: He just stared, stared back in silence.

490
00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:36,360
Speaker 1: Just like that, she went to sleep in the guest room.

491
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,240
Speaker 1: And now I'm writing this. I don't know. I hope

492
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 1: I made the right choice. My younger son and daughter

493
00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:45,439
Speaker 1: are very happy, and their smiles are the most important

494
00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 1: thing to me. Hopefully my older son will come around.

495
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,879
Speaker 1: As for me, Well, I don't really care, bro, Who

496
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,479
Speaker 1: are you kidding? Okay, who are you kidding?

497
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 2: He does, He's just masking it. He's using this as

498
00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:58,440
Speaker 2: a way to say I don't care.

499
00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 3: Put on the inside, you would to be right all

500
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:02,879
Speaker 3: this stuff if you didn't really care. Yeah, if you

501
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 3: didn't really care, you wouldn't have told her about your

502
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 3: Canadian girlfriend, Like, oh, okay if that, Oh so you

503
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 3: only want me, that's cool. I'll just I'll make sure

504
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:13,440
Speaker 3: my girlfriend from Canada is an ever around here.

505
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 1: That's facts, so you don't have to see her.

506
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 3: She's super hot dude and speaks French Canadian bro.

507
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 1: Honestly, it helps me a lot that she's here. I

508
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 1: have more free time. Yeah, that's why you like it.

509
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 1: It was tough handling everything my work, driving the kids

510
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: to and from school and practices, the psychologists, visits their friends,

511
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 1: being at home with them, helping with homework, and essentially

512
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:39,640
Speaker 1: being both a dad and a mom at the same time.

513
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 1: I will say that is one thing we didn't even

514
00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,439
Speaker 1: really consider this whole time, is that he basically became

515
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,320
Speaker 1: I mean, he did hire what seems to be kind

516
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:48,440
Speaker 1: of a full time nanny, but he did become kind

517
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:50,680
Speaker 1: of like a essentially a single dad for three kids.

518
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 3: That's not other We did not touch on that a

519
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:54,400
Speaker 3: single time.

520
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 1: That's that's a big love. That's a lot of work.

521
00:23:56,760 --> 00:24:00,439
Speaker 1: It is. If this situation ruins my chances of finding

522
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:04,159
Speaker 1: another woman in the future, I'm okay with that. Hmmm,

523
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 1: I don't care. I don't know how long we'll live

524
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 1: like this, but as long as my kids are doing great,

525
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 1: I'm fine, even if it means I'll never be truly

526
00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 1: happy again or have another partner.

527
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:20,640
Speaker 3: The guy who doesn't care, he's like, I don't care

528
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 3: if I'll never be happy again. It's like, bro, yeah

529
00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:24,280
Speaker 3: you will, if you will?

530
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:25,280
Speaker 1: What?

531
00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,040
Speaker 2: But we like the grind that he's hearing it for

532
00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:29,840
Speaker 2: the kids. He's doing all this for the kids.

533
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 1: I actually don't you know.

534
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 2: I think we'll get Charlie, your mom's never coming home again,

535
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 2: and and you should be okay with that.

536
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 3: Well, can you imagine like it's inevitably gonna if he

537
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 3: really does, like become miserable and he hates his life,

538
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 3: but he doesn't care.

539
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:44,719
Speaker 1: But it's like, yeah, you will, and that's gonna rub

540
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:46,679
Speaker 1: off on the kids. That's that's what I'm saying. The

541
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:47,400
Speaker 1: hatred of your.

542
00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 3: Own life is going to turn into resentment that you

543
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:51,720
Speaker 3: have towards your children and towards your ex wife. Yes,

544
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 3: like you're just gonna be a bitter, hateful old man.

545
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 1: Not even his ex wife. He needs to officially divorce her. Yeah,

546
00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:02,640
Speaker 1: just cut the ties and then honestly, have her live

547
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:07,360
Speaker 1: in a like place, department whatever, close by, come over

548
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 1: during the day, still help out like it is. He's like, hey,

549
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 1: you know, the least I think she could do is

550
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,239
Speaker 1: you know, be helpful like like she was when they

551
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:15,920
Speaker 1: were married. Like it's still their kids, and still she's

552
00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 1: still like helping with the household kids of being raised

553
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,639
Speaker 1: in But hey, yeah, Opie, I'm getting more frushut with Opie.

554
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:24,000
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie. But Opie says,

555
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 1: my kids are the most important thing in my life.

556
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,640
Speaker 1: I would give up my life for them, let alone

557
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 1: my emotional or spicy sleep life. I never imagined letting

558
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:35,840
Speaker 1: her come back, But when you live through these moments

559
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 1: with your kids every day, it's incredibly tough. If we

560
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 1: were in the same country and living there, I would

561
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:45,400
Speaker 1: have divorced her already. But in this situation, I truly

562
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 1: believe that this is the right decision for now, at

563
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 1: least for my kids. Thank you all. Update is coming up, Yes,

564
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: please update.

565
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,640
Speaker 3: God's give us a nice, juicy update.

566
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 1: Please. I I'm just so like, why not just divorce her?

567
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 1: Because this?

568
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 3: You know what I think what he said about himself

569
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 3: and he was like, my son called me a big kittie,

570
00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 3: And I'm like, I don't know.

571
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 1: Maybe he's right.

572
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,959
Speaker 3: He's probably right. And it's like, if that's how he

573
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,399
Speaker 3: thinks about himself, is that where a lot of this

574
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 3: feeling is coming from, Like the feeling that he's typing

575
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,199
Speaker 3: out in these Reddit posts, is he actually expressing it

576
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 3: to that level in real life?

577
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 1: Like I doubt it.

578
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,920
Speaker 3: So it's like a lot he's just already holding in

579
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 3: all of these like toxic negative feelings. But like all

580
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 3: of this to say, like I don't know, he's waiting

581
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:39,879
Speaker 3: for something.

582
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: I don't know what he's waiting.

583
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:43,719
Speaker 3: Is he waiting for something I don't It's not an

584
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 3: apology because she's apologized at the trillion time, but it's

585
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 3: like what is he waiting for? Like what what? At

586
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 3: some point it'll feel normal again, like what I think

587
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 3: that I think them if you're if you're if if

588
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 3: this is how you really feel and you're like, she's

589
00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 3: disgusting to me and I never want to divorce her.

590
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:02,119
Speaker 3: And then if things change down the line, guess what.

591
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:05,240
Speaker 3: There's this thing called marriage that you can do again.

592
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 1: You can do it.

593
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:07,920
Speaker 3: You can get married again, what do you mean you

594
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 3: don't have to make anything out of it. You can

595
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 3: just go get the piece of paper signed, and now

596
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:11,440
Speaker 3: you're married.

597
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 1: I won't be arrested.

598
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 3: It's not illegal I as far as I'm aware of it,

599
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 3: to get married twice in Asia.

600
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:22,639
Speaker 1: Oh, what was the comment from your point out earlier?

601
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 1: My cat's name is Karen. I dated a guy who

602
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:27,760
Speaker 1: lived with the mother of his kids and they were

603
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:33,360
Speaker 1: never married. They had separate bathrooms. Yeah, no, yeah, yeah,

604
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: living together. I do like, back to Dakota's point earlier

605
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 1: in the episode, I do like the idea of them

606
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: like having more integrated co parenting. I don't like the

607
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: idea of them staying married and living together in the

608
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 1: same house.

609
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 3: Twenty four seven, Yeah, just be abound in the neighborhood. God,

610
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 3: he offered to buy her house. Do that did There

611
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 3: was like I can't remember in which part it was,

612
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 3: but it was like, I'll either give you the house

613
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 3: and all the car whatever in the car and then

614
00:27:57,200 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 3: I get full custody, or we'll have custody and I'll

615
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 3: just like pay for you to I'll pay for wherever

616
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 3: you're gonna live.

617
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 1: It was part of the divorce offer. But now there's

618
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 1: no divorce.

619
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's like, just maybe just do that instead

620
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 3: do the second part that's happening. That was I thought

621
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 3: that's what they were gonna do, and now he's like,

622
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:13,640
Speaker 3: I'm gonna live with her.

623
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,199
Speaker 1: That's what we both thought. Insane. He really threw us

624
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 1: for a loop, even though we kind of predicted it,

625
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:21,360
Speaker 1: but weren't. I don't know. Anyways, update, my wife gets

626
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 1: a taste of her own medicine.

627
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:24,680
Speaker 3: So you cheat on your wife.

628
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 1: Okay, Hey guys, so you asked for an update. Well,

629
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 1: some things have happened, so let me start. Yeah, please explain, OPI.

630
00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:35,119
Speaker 1: The first thing is that I told the husband of

631
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 1: my wife's friend everything. She was the one that knew

632
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 1: about the affair. I'll remember her. There was like one

633
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 1: friend who did know the affair was going on. At first,

634
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: I didn't want to since they have a little son,

635
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 1: but in the end I decided I would. Why Why

636
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 1: why do we keep going back? He just loves destruction.

637
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: He loves destruction. Oppy app is continuing to I said

638
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 1: this in the beginning of the series. He's gonna keep

639
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: going overboard and it's just gonna be messy. I hate this.

640
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 1: At first I didn't want to do it since they

641
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:06,440
Speaker 1: have little son, but in the end I decided I would.

642
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,280
Speaker 1: I made the decision after replying to some of your

643
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: comments where I explained her role in all of this.

644
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 1: She was the one telling my wife that she wasn't

645
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 1: doing anything bad while cheating on me and encouraging her

646
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 1: to dump me for the affair partner. Oh, so, why

647
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:25,959
Speaker 1: the F should I feel sorry for her?

648
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 3: I wouldn't feel sorry for her. I'd feel sorry for

649
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 3: the kid who's life you're destabilizing. Yeah, there's people besides

650
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:34,360
Speaker 3: you that exist in the world, and they have lives

651
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 3: that you're blowing up because you're being a baby.

652
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: At this point, I feel like crazy of me to

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Speaker 3: be saying.

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Speaker 1: That right now after what happened.

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Speaker 3: But as of now, you're blowing up someone's life that

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Speaker 3: you don't even know them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it's like, would it be good for

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Speaker 1: the husband to know? Maybe, but just you've got enough

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Speaker 1: going on. Just just stop, just just stop with all

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Speaker 1: this mess. Yeah. Her husband is from the country that

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Speaker 1: we live in, a local guy. He's forty two, she's

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Speaker 1: thirty four, a foreigner. I don't particularly like him. He

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Speaker 1: gives me a fishy vibe. I've heard some stories about him,

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Speaker 1: but honestly, I think he never liked me. I told

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Speaker 1: my wife I wanted to tell him because when I

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Speaker 1: go through the screenshots she gave me of their conversation,

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Speaker 1: I feel disgusted. If for oh, maybe that was when

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Speaker 1: she like sent everything over something.

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Speaker 3: No, I think this is he's probably going through them

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Speaker 3: like just for any free time. We'll go back through

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Speaker 3: it because he's just like a glutton for suffering.

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Speaker 1: He just loves torturing himself.

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Speaker 3: He wants to keep himself in that state of agitation.

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Speaker 1: Dude, why not just find happiness? O pete? Just just

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Speaker 1: yea god behind you?

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Speaker 2: Come on, bro, the best revenge is, you know, investing

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Speaker 2: in yourself success, not.

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Speaker 1: This success in all meanings of the definition of the word.

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Speaker 1: If her friend could write stuff like that, who knows

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Speaker 1: what she's capable of. My wife blocked her after writing

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Speaker 1: me that letter and hasn't had any contact with her sense.

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Speaker 1: Her friend tried to reach out through other friends, but

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Speaker 1: my wife did not answer. My wife said if I

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Speaker 1: wanted to tell him, I could, or she'd do it

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Speaker 1: if I preferred, because again, she'll do anything at this point.

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Speaker 1: It seems