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Speaker 1: All right, here's someone texted us eight five five three

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Speaker 1: five content idea. Sure, okay, so why not? Two days

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Speaker 1: ago I had a long discussion with the girlfriend. If

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Speaker 1: you're in a relationship, is it normal? Is it okay

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Speaker 1: to be crushing on someone else? She seems to think

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Speaker 1: that's normal and even okay, yeah.

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Speaker 2: To be crushing on someone else.

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Speaker 1: Okay, how do you know then if you've crossed over

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Speaker 1: into like this is now not okay? Like I have

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Speaker 1: a crush on someone else, but like I'm thinking too

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Speaker 1: much about them more than I should be if I'm

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Speaker 1: in a relationship, I.

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Speaker 2: Don't Can you control your thoughts?

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Speaker 3: I would just say you can't like touch them or

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Speaker 3: tell them you have a crush.

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Speaker 2: But I think that's normal. You do anything that you

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Speaker 2: wouldn't do in front of your partner, if.

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Speaker 1: You if you do anything that you wouldn't do in

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Speaker 1: front of your partner when you cross the line.

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Speaker 3: Agreed, Okay, I think it's natural, especially after a while,

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Speaker 3: you know. Oh yeah, Jason falls in love once a day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah mm hmm.

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Speaker 4: I think it's like you don't act on it right,

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Speaker 4: you know, but you can help being like I guess

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Speaker 1: But I might argue that sometimes people's like what's happening

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Speaker 1: inside their head is not as bad, but it can

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Speaker 1: be as detrimental or or can be detrimental to a

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Speaker 1: relationship because if you're like really focused on someone else

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Speaker 1: another person.

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Speaker 2: So like I get it, Like.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you like, I don't know, there's somebody famous, you

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Speaker 1: see a movie or something or a TV show, or

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Speaker 1: you see them you know, wherever, and you're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: they're hot. But if you're constantly thinking about another person

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Speaker 1: all the time, isn't that I mean, even if you're

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Speaker 1: not communicating that, are you not getting into some form

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Speaker 1: of Like I don't want to use the word cheating,

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Speaker 1: because you know, every now and again, we go through,

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Speaker 1: probably once or twice a year, what people's definitions of

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Speaker 1: cheating is, and it's like, okay, come on, Like if

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Speaker 1: you like a bikini picture on instagra, some people think

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Speaker 1: that's cheating.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, well there you go. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 2: Rufe always said.

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Speaker 1: He is a serial cheating fifty times a day. Minimum

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Speaker 1: if you weren't a bikini, he has cheated with you virtually,

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Speaker 1: But I mean it's not quite emotional cheating because you

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Speaker 1: haven't communicated that.

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Speaker 2: To anybody else. But I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I used to think physical cheating was the worst, and

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Speaker 1: I almost think that emotional cheating is worse than that,

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Speaker 1: because I truly like not that either one of them

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Speaker 1: and it could mean very little, and it could be

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Speaker 2: But I think if you're.

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Speaker 1: Day after day after day investing emotionally in another human being,

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Speaker 1: I think that is worse than some forms of physical cheating.

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Speaker 4: If it consumes you, then yes, like if you are

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Speaker 4: to a point where you're actually like I will leave

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Speaker 4: my current relationship for this person, you've gone too far.

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Speaker 4: But if it's all like surface level fun, like you

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Speaker 4: just like this person's energy, that's where the separation lies

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Speaker 2: If you get this is a text.

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Speaker 1: If you get a crush on someone that you're not

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, I would argue even if you're thinking of that, like,

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Speaker 1: Well, any question becomes when does it cross into emotional cheating?

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Speaker 1: And again do you have to I mean, really we're

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Speaker 1: that you're in. Isn't that Does it matter if you

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Speaker 3: I think the more you stuff something down, the bigger

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Speaker 2: It'll pass and kind of.

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Speaker 3: Just like let it flow through you as opposed to like,

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Speaker 2: You're cheating in your hood. You know I can't control

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Speaker 1: That's Kaylen's internal or is it? Or is it calin

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Speaker 1: on sixteen? You don't stop thinking about that right now?

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Speaker 1: not We're not going to use the butter on that Fred.

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Speaker 1: They tripping because the girls on the show would never

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Speaker 1: But if you did know, would you consider that cheating?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: See, I think I would. If I'm with a woman

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Speaker 1: I know, I know, honestly, I know it's it's it's

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Speaker 1: Caitlin's interior lives. Let's go to sixteen. There's Fred alone

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Speaker 1: he doesn't know it. But I want you to know that.

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Speaker 1: I like, I'm here at home, I'm looking at you,

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking of him. That's that's that's gonna be as painful.

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Speaker 1: That doesn't matter if he said anything to that person

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Speaker 2: That's a problem.

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Speaker 4: It actually like consumes you and you're like, I can't

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Speaker 2: That is a problem.

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Speaker 3: We all need our other thoughts and secrets, Like we

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Speaker 1: But I think if it's day after day after day,

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Speaker 1: well that's different than a crush.

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Speaker 2: You can have a crush not be obsessed.

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Speaker 4: Right, you're telling If you're telling your partner you have

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Speaker 4: a crush on someone else, you got bigger issues like

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Speaker 1: But wutes are we coming full circle to the beginning.

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Speaker 1: Then the question was if you have a crush on

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Speaker 1: somebody Else's the problem, he answers, Yes.

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Speaker 4: Different levels of crushes.

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Speaker 2: Are you talking to obsessed?

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Speaker 4: I have a crushed on some of the I don't

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Speaker 4: want to eave my relationship for mares, you know that,

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Speaker 4: But I just love him as a person.

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Speaker 1: Like Yeah, but if he were to say to you,

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Speaker 1: let's step into studio be no, okay, all right, well

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Speaker 1: then I think it's okay.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would never cheat. I think it's okay.

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Speaker 1: He cheated a fantastic remnitor to reach out to my

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Speaker 1: p It starts off as an innocent crush and always

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Speaker 1: develops into something way way more.

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Speaker 2: Not always that is not true.

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Speaker 1: I think it happens to people in close proximity more

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Speaker 1: often than random, such as in a workplace.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that I.

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Speaker 3: Have a crush on Jason and he doesn't even like women, So.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's always trying to pull me in the studio.

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Speaker 3: B But yeah, where is studio being I don't even

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Speaker 2: I know where it's at.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, Well, he voiced his crush to me, and

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Speaker 1: it's a parent he talks about your.

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Speaker 2: People in the room. To have a crush up, But

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Speaker 2: it has to be here. Honestly, I'm with.

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Speaker 1: That bred nothing. Actually, I love you. I love you too,

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Speaker 1: I do. I love Ruveo back. I really knew. I mean,

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Speaker 1: some days, I you know, I want to drag him.

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Speaker 1: It's not that I want him to go out the window.

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Speaker 1: I mean we'd go together, I too would jump out.

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Speaker 1: But it's like sometimes I want him.

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Speaker 2: To come with me.

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Speaker 1: I mean, they want to come with you too, because

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Speaker 1: that studio be here out the window. Let's sleep. Okay now,

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Speaker 1: now vast inappropriate. Now it's wrong.