1 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: Hey, navy girl, a long time listener, I had like 2 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: a two carter question. So right now I am twenty 3 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:12,119 Speaker 1: five and I am a virgeon. I know, and I 4 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: will can change the show, but I think I want 5 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: to change it for you any hits now and all 6 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:19,920 Speaker 1: film because I am twenty five young. 7 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:23,120 Speaker 2: Admit I kind of want to know where this niggas at. 8 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:24,720 Speaker 2: How to get shipped out of fly out. 9 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: I know that you're in additional space now of loving 10 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 1: and companionships and wanting niggas to take off the trash, 11 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 1: But how do I do that thing that you were 12 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:35,840 Speaker 1: having and you were twenty five, like the fly outs 13 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: the middle of page, because right now a bro is 14 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:41,480 Speaker 1: working and I'm not really trying to that hard. 15 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 2: All right, thank you so much, And yeah you go 16 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 2: in horrible y'all. 17 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 3: Now this is this is crazy. By the way, it's 18 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:53,120 Speaker 3: fine that virgins listen to us. We talk a lot 19 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 3: more than just sex. And it's entertainment, you. 20 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 2: Know what I mean. 21 00:00:56,480 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 3: Like I watch movies, you know where niggas is jumping 22 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 3: out of planes and ain't never jumped out of a plane. 23 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 2: If I like, it's fine, this is entertainment. 24 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 3: Okay, So two part question, and I'm gonna break it 25 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 3: into two parts, because first off, I want to talk 26 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,479 Speaker 3: to you about being twenty five and being a virgin. 27 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,399 Speaker 3: You said you want to change being a virgin. That's 28 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 3: the first part. I think the word intentional is going 29 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 3: to be used here as well. However, I want to 30 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 3: just tell you and and ladies listen and please let 31 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:35,720 Speaker 3: me know in the comments. 32 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:36,320 Speaker 2: If I'm being too harsh. 33 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 3: I don't think there's a right or perfect way to 34 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 3: lose your virginity. 35 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 2: It could be with a longtime boyfriend, but then maybe 36 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 2: y'all break up. It could be with a long. 37 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 3: Standing crush like my first was my grade school crush, 38 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 3: and I was bright in his hair and then he 39 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 3: ended up getting inside of me while my mama was 40 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 3: at why crazy. I don't think there's a perfect way 41 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 3: to lose it. However, I think as a woman with 42 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 3: the choice and knowing as much as we know now, 43 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 3: with consent and all those things, I would just say, 44 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:20,960 Speaker 3: when you are ready to make it the most damn 45 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:22,960 Speaker 3: that word intentional, bitch. I'm about to look up at 46 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 3: the source for another word intentional, but I think it 47 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 3: needs to be discussed with the person. 48 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 2: I think that you need. 49 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 3: To make sure that they are aware that this is 50 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 3: your first time, and hopefully they're loving and caring and 51 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 3: show you that grace that is I think oftentimes stripped 52 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 3: from women in giving up their virginity to a man. 53 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 3: And don't feel the pressure. I mean, I know you 54 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 3: listen to the show. I know you hear Hella. People 55 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 3: having fun and sex is amazing. Girl. 56 00:02:56,880 --> 00:03:00,359 Speaker 2: The first couple years of sexy, I was just figured 57 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 2: it out. 58 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:03,240 Speaker 3: I don't know, if I look back, I wasn't having 59 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 3: great sex. So just know it is going to take 60 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 3: you a while to learn yourself, your body, what you like, 61 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 3: what you don't like, being comfortable, being secure, not worrying 62 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 3: about if one titty. 63 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 2: Is over here and the other is down there, or. 64 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 3: How you how how your role may look to them, 65 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 3: or I'm not gonna lie. There's so many things that 66 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 3: aren't discussed about giving your body and yourself to someone 67 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:33,799 Speaker 3: else in the moment that it's It's just gonna take 68 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 3: some time. So, like I said, I would say, be 69 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 3: intentional and make sure the person that you give this 70 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 3: part of you too is not only deserving, but is 71 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:44,839 Speaker 3: aware that this is what this moment. 72 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:47,560 Speaker 2: Is and hopefully they're a partner. 73 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 3: I don't believe you are in a relationship because if 74 00:03:52,120 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 3: the second part of this question, now the second part 75 00:03:54,560 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 3: of this question. So this was my hardest chapter two 76 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 3: write in our book. This is the part of the 77 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 3: podcast that I have the most shame. This is the 78 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 3: topic of discussion that took Wheezy and I close to 79 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 3: a year to even agree on this book for because 80 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 3: she felt that it would be contradictory to the brand 81 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:32,360 Speaker 3: of horrible. 82 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 2: Decisions to have shame. 83 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:37,960 Speaker 3: And I was like, no, bro, I'm in therapy and 84 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:41,159 Speaker 3: I'm realizing this. 85 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 2: This is tough for me. 86 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:46,039 Speaker 3: Like I was out hell fucking for the five hondo, 87 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 3: for a stack, for a pair of genus, for the 88 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:56,880 Speaker 3: cost of a tomahawk statement like and I knowing now 89 00:04:57,040 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 3: my my self worth my value, and like that, I 90 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 3: am upset a bit at this letter asking from a 91 00:05:09,240 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 3: virgin not only how to lose their virginity, but in 92 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 3: the same breath, how to be a prostitute. And that's 93 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 3: essentially what this is. That's essentially what I was doing. 94 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 3: I was involving myself in a form of sex work 95 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 3: by using my body as a form of currency. 96 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 2: In exchange for flights in exchange for money, in. 97 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 3: Exchange for moments, and in becoming someone of a value 98 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:43,000 Speaker 3: who's busted her ass to do and be able to 99 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 3: live how she wants. 100 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:47,239 Speaker 2: To know that I have purchased a pair of genes. 101 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 4: That is hanging in my closet that I ain't even 102 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 4: worn yet because that money meant nothing, and to know 103 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 4: that that was the price tag on my pussy at 104 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:00,479 Speaker 4: one point is crazy. 105 00:06:01,839 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 3: This I've reworked. I don't think you guys realize that. 106 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 3: In this book coming up, I have a chapter on 107 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 3: sexual assault, on abortion, on my ex on. 108 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:16,919 Speaker 2: There's a lot of deep. 109 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:21,480 Speaker 3: Trauma that I put into this book, and this topic. 110 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 2: Brought the most tears. 111 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 3: Was the very last chapter for me to write, because 112 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 3: as I would go and start writing it, I would 113 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 3: feel shamed, like I was full of shame. I'm still 114 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:39,560 Speaker 3: currently working past what my twenties was and what sex 115 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 3: was for me and what that relationship with men entailed, 116 00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:48,839 Speaker 3: And so at thirty three, I'm not going to advise 117 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 3: any woman to be out here. 118 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 2: Selling couchie if they don't have to. Like I was. 119 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 2: I was. 120 00:06:57,440 --> 00:07:01,359 Speaker 3: It was survival sex for me, and I definitely spoke 121 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 3: about it. On this podcast, like it was lavish, Like bitch, 122 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 3: if my nigga ain't. 123 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 2: Dropping no bag, he ain't. 124 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 3: But really, Mitch, I had bills to bay, and between 125 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:16,120 Speaker 3: all the jobs I was working and my fucking Sally 126 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 3: May loans and financial aid, I was making it. 127 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 2: And I use. 128 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:24,560 Speaker 3: That as a form to just fucking make it and 129 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 3: looking back at it now and having a different view 130 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 3: on what money is or what that comma looks like, 131 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 3: or the difference between a thousand and ten thousand and 132 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 3: ten thousand and fifty thousand and like I've made in 133 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 3: one weekend what back in my twenties took me a 134 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 3: year to make working forty hour weeks, and so like 135 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 3: just my mind has changed on what that looks like. 136 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 2: My mind on sex has changed. 137 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 3: My mind on intimacy and the importance of affection and 138 00:07:54,600 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 3: connection with a person has changed. And so this is 139 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:04,240 Speaker 3: actually where we have tons of sex workers come on 140 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 3: the podcast and talk about their journey. My only advice 141 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 3: for you would be to listen back to those episodes. 142 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 3: I am not in a place where I condone a 143 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 3: woman doing it just to pay bills and blown out. 144 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 3: Get you a man with money who values you, who 145 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 3: wants you to see the world. That's what I would say, 146 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 3: be intentional with maybe the caliber of men that you 147 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 3: choose to date or who pursues you, and in doing so, 148 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 3: let them know you're seeking affection, you're seeking love, You're 149 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 3: seeking someone who cares for you and you'd love to 150 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 3: see the world. I think a man that loves and 151 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 3: values you or really fucks with you wants to make 152 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:49,280 Speaker 3: you happy. So if the things you want are assistance 153 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 3: with bills or to go to an island you've never 154 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 3: been to, the way to do that is to vocalize 155 00:08:56,480 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 3: that in a healthy relationship, in a setting with a 156 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 3: man that wants nothing. 157 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 2: To do but to put a smile on your face. 158 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:07,439 Speaker 3: You just got a little taste of the Horrible Decisions Patreon, 159 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:10,200 Speaker 3: But why it's up there? Tap in for the full, 160 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:14,200 Speaker 3: uncut and way nastier episodes over on Patreon. 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Hey, guys, welcome to another you 168 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 3: got decisions on a motherfucking hump day. 169 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:52,319 Speaker 5: And actually, let me look, this is the hump day. 170 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 2: Right before Krema. 171 00:09:54,600 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 3: So Marry Christmas Eve, Happy Hanukah, Happy Kwanza, Happy be 172 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 3: Holidays to the Whorehive and everybody else tuned in hope 173 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 3: that you guys are enjoying your holidays, enjoying your family 174 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:13,839 Speaker 3: and baby, enjoying your time off. 175 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 2: If you have it off. If you want to. 176 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:22,560 Speaker 3: See what I'm doing, I am currently ocean side and 177 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 3: curous out because that's what you get when you don't. 178 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 2: Got the kids. 179 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:32,160 Speaker 3: Okay, it is the end of the year, and we 180 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:34,680 Speaker 3: are so grateful that you guys have rocked with us 181 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 3: and enjoyed all of our new content, our name change, 182 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 3: our rebrand, our New York Times bestselling book this year. 183 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 3: And it has been a fucking roller coaster in twenty 184 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:49,680 Speaker 3: twenty five. And so what I wanted to make sure 185 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:51,680 Speaker 3: I brought to you this week for the you Got 186 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 3: Decisions is some chaos, some drama, a reminder that even 187 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 3: though it's the end of the year, y'all are going 188 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 3: going into the new year still with. 189 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:05,680 Speaker 2: Some bullshit on some bullshit and not really knowing how 190 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 2: to navigate it. 191 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:09,439 Speaker 3: I think it's funny because this is normally the time 192 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:11,840 Speaker 3: of year where you be like, new Year next week, 193 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 3: knew me. No, girl, you can't change it that quick, No, sire, 194 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 3: you still gonna be the fuck nigga you've been in 195 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 3: twenty twenty five. Although we hope that you guys want 196 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 3: better for yourselves now, Weezy is not doing this with 197 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:31,640 Speaker 3: me today because maybe our schedules. I was just like, 198 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:35,960 Speaker 3: let me get this out, and this one specifically, I 199 00:11:35,960 --> 00:11:40,520 Speaker 3: felt like, you know, it's talking about developing a crush 200 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:43,679 Speaker 3: for a married man, and well, I've been getting dragged 201 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 3: all week for being honest about my stint of dealing 202 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 3: with married men, and so I was like, fuck it, 203 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:52,920 Speaker 3: let me answer this shit while these niggas in my 204 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 3: motherfucking comments saying all the bullshit that they can about me. 205 00:11:56,760 --> 00:11:59,480 Speaker 3: By the way, if you want to listen to me 206 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:02,559 Speaker 3: talk about that recently and why I will no longer 207 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 3: deal with a married man, go check out my interview 208 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 3: on Love and Fly Shit podcast. Anyways, really excited to 209 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:13,320 Speaker 3: get into this letter this week. Hopefully again you guys 210 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 3: are joining enjoying your time off or if you're at 211 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 3: the office, Here we go constantly giving you pul says 212 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 3: holds some content. 213 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:22,679 Speaker 2: Now here we go. 214 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 3: By the way, we received this message just last week, 215 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 3: so this is. 216 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:29,960 Speaker 2: A new dilemma. 217 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 3: The subject line reads, I'm developing a crush on a 218 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 3: married man. But hear me out, longtime listener and patron 219 00:12:39,440 --> 00:12:42,800 Speaker 3: living in fos seven Choppa City. Brah blah brah, love 220 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 3: y'all down. Okay, So I recently met this guy on 221 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:50,959 Speaker 3: a store run. He was super handsome, had an accent, six' 222 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 3: three and a beautiful. Smile he asked me for my 223 00:12:56,000 --> 00:13:00,720 Speaker 3: number AND i said. Yes we started talking regularly. Instantly 224 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 3: it was as if SOMEONE i knew for a, while 225 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:06,560 Speaker 3: even though we just. Met we went on a couple 226 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 3: of dates and On thanksgiving night we fucked and it was, 227 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:18,760 Speaker 3: amazing like, freaky, nasty, spanking spitting dirty talk all over my, body, 228 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:21,800 Speaker 3: kisses choked me WHILE i was giving head a personal, 229 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 3: frave and he ate my pussy off the bone hashtag. 230 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 3: Tenderism so after that we run it back the next day, 231 00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 3: too but after that next day he tells me has 232 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 3: something to tell. 233 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 2: Me my stomach drops and he said he's. 234 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 3: Married, like damn, Nigga Now i'm already hooked on the. 235 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:46,800 Speaker 3: Dick he, explained when he moved To america from The, 236 00:13:46,840 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 3: bahamas he got in some legal, troubles so to avoid, 237 00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 3: deportation he got. Married, Okay i'm gonna have to look 238 00:13:58,000 --> 00:14:01,640 Speaker 3: this up on CHAT, gpt but here me out because 239 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 3: deported to The. 240 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:08,520 Speaker 2: Bahamas, Okay i'm gonna. Okay he, said. 241 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:12,200 Speaker 3: They both do their quote unquote own thing and they 242 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:15,959 Speaker 3: don't have. Sex, however he kind of loved it at. 243 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 3: That now my immediate reaction, was what the? FUCK i 244 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:22,040 Speaker 3: don't know HOW i feel about being a side. 245 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 2: Chick but after. 246 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:26,760 Speaker 3: Talking to my, homegirl she was, like, Girl caribbean niggas 247 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:30,080 Speaker 3: have green cards marriages all the, time especially here In. 248 00:14:30,080 --> 00:14:34,000 Speaker 5: Florida not gonna, Lie she rationalized it enough for. 249 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:37,600 Speaker 3: Me we still, fuck but he never spends the, night 250 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 3: WHICH i want him, to especially after being. Intimate we 251 00:14:41,440 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 3: go out in public a, lot and he's publicly affectionate towards, 252 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 3: me but still having this nagging. Suspicion he's left some 253 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 3: pieces of this story out and Now i'm starting to 254 00:14:51,840 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 3: like this man a little bit more than just. 255 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 2: SEX i know it won't be anything. 256 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:59,800 Speaker 3: Serious i've already accepted that AND i don't want that. 257 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 3: Either but SHOULD i just cut this off or play 258 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 3: my role and? Compartmentalize oh, baby we got some things 259 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 3: to break down. Here first, Off i'm going to my 260 00:15:13,480 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 3: husband going to check spinning a couple purified water droplets 261 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 3: on researching. This do you need a green card if 262 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 3: you're from The? Bahamas and can you be deported back 263 00:15:30,920 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 3: to The? Bahamas, Now i'm only asking this because The 264 00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 3: bahamas IS i believe it's An american, Territory like you 265 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 3: can get to The bahamas without a passport to my, 266 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:50,800 Speaker 3: knowledge and SO i want to check. That but before 267 00:15:50,840 --> 00:16:00,800 Speaker 3: while it looks that, up let's get into your other. 268 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:05,440 Speaker 3: DILEMMA i do feel like you're lying to, yourself first, 269 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,240 Speaker 3: off and let's get into. That hold, On i'm going 270 00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 3: to ask my other check because one on my computer 271 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 3: run is. 272 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 2: Slow because it's. 273 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:14,400 Speaker 3: Also interesting light NIGGA youa, yeah we'll, see. 274 00:16:14,440 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 2: Okay so let's get into WHERE i feel like you 275 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 2: are lying to. 276 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 3: Yourself first, off you have expressed how you are liking 277 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 3: him more than. Sex you literally admit that to, me 278 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:32,640 Speaker 3: but then in the very next sentence, SAY i know 279 00:16:32,720 --> 00:16:37,480 Speaker 3: it won't be anything. Serious, however leading up to what 280 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:41,920 Speaker 3: your friend said and what you're agreeing to is that 281 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:44,760 Speaker 3: it's possible that he's not really in a marriage where 282 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 3: he is emotionally bounded to this, wife and so technically 283 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:53,640 Speaker 3: it could be something serious as long as you don't 284 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:57,160 Speaker 3: mind him legally being married to someone else only for 285 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:02,600 Speaker 3: a quote unquote. Card you're also saying that you don't 286 00:17:02,640 --> 00:17:03,400 Speaker 3: want anything. 287 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 5: More, however you like him more than. Sex make it makes? 288 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:11,680 Speaker 3: Sense the math ain't, mathing AND i feel like you're 289 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 3: trying to make something like fit in your brain to 290 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 3: just continue seeing this. 291 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:24,720 Speaker 5: Person Now here we, go and, girl the internet is your. 292 00:17:24,760 --> 00:17:27,439 Speaker 3: Friend when a nigga tell you something and you just 293 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:30,960 Speaker 3: feel like you're missing some, things, girl get your ass 294 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 3: on the. Internet here's the thing you. Ready you do 295 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 3: not need A us green card if you Have bahamian immigration. 296 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:47,200 Speaker 2: Status? Okay? 297 00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 3: Interesting apparently it, says hold, on do you need a 298 00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:53,639 Speaker 3: green card for The? 299 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 2: Bahamas But i'll here we? Go can you be? DEPORTED 300 00:17:58,080 --> 00:17:59,200 Speaker 2: i THINK i asked this question. 301 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:07,959 Speaker 3: Wrong can you live in the us as a behave 302 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:13,320 Speaker 3: mean citizen and can you be deported because this is 303 00:18:13,440 --> 00:18:20,439 Speaker 3: like if you, TRAVELING i just want to See, Okay, 304 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 3: okay okay, Girl, okay, okay he might Be, okay it's. 305 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:23,480 Speaker 2: True it's. 306 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:29,199 Speaker 3: True A bahamian citizen does need a green, card and 307 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:31,960 Speaker 3: of course you become a permanent resident with the green 308 00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:37,159 Speaker 3: card through family, sponsorship, employment, marriage or certain other. Categories, okay, 309 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 3: okay so, bitch, listen y'all know geography is not my strongest. 310 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:47,640 Speaker 2: Suit, okay so very. 311 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:53,640 Speaker 3: True here's my, thing here's my, thing and here's where 312 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:57,679 Speaker 3: you have to make it make. Sense this man said 313 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:02,120 Speaker 3: that he doesn't have sex with his, wife and they're 314 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:06,399 Speaker 3: also able to do their own. Thing, however red flag 315 00:19:06,440 --> 00:19:11,360 Speaker 3: here is that he doesn't spend the night if they 316 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:15,080 Speaker 3: are in this marriage. 317 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:15,159 Speaker 2: Only for his green. 318 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:21,080 Speaker 3: Card explain to me why he doesn't have the autonomy 319 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 3: to spend the night at your house if they're both 320 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 3: quote unquote doing their own. THING i think what you 321 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:32,800 Speaker 3: should do is inquire about, that because WHAT i do 322 00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:35,560 Speaker 3: feel like you're getting here is the short end of the. 323 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 3: Stick if you're saying that you would like him to 324 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:42,800 Speaker 3: spend the, night because you would like to spend more 325 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:48,000 Speaker 3: time with, him especially after being. Intimate you're accepting just 326 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:51,800 Speaker 3: the going out in public and public affection without the 327 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 3: private affection in terms of. Him, actually you, KNOW i 328 00:19:57,520 --> 00:19:59,200 Speaker 3: guess sleeping with you after? 329 00:19:59,320 --> 00:19:59,880 Speaker 2: Y'all fuck? 330 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 3: Now Who your question, is SHOULD i cut this off 331 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:07,119 Speaker 3: or play my role and? 332 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,920 Speaker 2: Compartmentalize and this is where in going into. 333 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:14,680 Speaker 3: Twenty twenty five and going into twenty twenty, six any 334 00:20:14,680 --> 00:20:19,639 Speaker 3: twenty twenty, FIVE i truly think that you have to 335 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:20,640 Speaker 3: go into. 336 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:25,480 Speaker 2: What do you? Want what do you? 337 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:29,000 Speaker 3: Want and what this sounds like is you would like, 338 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 3: More you really like this, person you would like a, 339 00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 3: relationship but you've also already told yourself that you've accepted. 340 00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:37,400 Speaker 2: That it won't be anything. 341 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 3: More will you be fulfilled with what it is right? 342 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:46,360 Speaker 3: Now with no milestones to reach of this going? Beyond 343 00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:51,320 Speaker 3: how how well are you with wasting your? Time because 344 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 3: if you are looking for something, more if you are 345 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:57,360 Speaker 3: looking for a, family if you are looking to be 346 00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 3: in a committed exclusive, relationlationship if you're looking to potentially 347 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:09,560 Speaker 3: get married one, day how how much of your time 348 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:12,439 Speaker 3: do you care that you waste with this? Man and 349 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:16,400 Speaker 3: that's the compartmentalization of it all? Right is this man 350 00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:18,920 Speaker 3: open to you doing your own thing outside of? Him 351 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:23,120 Speaker 3: has that been a, Conversation what has been the conversation 352 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:24,760 Speaker 3: around whether he could spend the night or. 353 00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:26,919 Speaker 2: NOT i think for as. 354 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:29,879 Speaker 3: Much as you have been talking to, HIM i think 355 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:33,000 Speaker 3: it's interesting how long it took you to find out his, 356 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 3: marriage which means there could be a lot of other 357 00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 3: things you. 358 00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:36,359 Speaker 2: Don't know about this. 359 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 3: MAN i think you could be dick blinded right. Now 360 00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 3: dick blinded is a thing you gave me almost three 361 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:48,280 Speaker 3: lines of what he did to you in that. Bedroom 362 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:52,600 Speaker 3: bit you, throwed bit you ha throwed over the, Deck 363 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 3: and SO i think you have to actually sit with. 364 00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:59,840 Speaker 3: Yourself AND i think any woman listening to this you 365 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,960 Speaker 3: catch yourself in at a crossroad with if you need 366 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:07,879 Speaker 3: to compartmentalize your emotions and feelings and the time you 367 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 3: get with a man to feel like you're okay with, 368 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,639 Speaker 3: it are you really and is this what you? 369 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:17,080 Speaker 2: WANT i think for the clip that's been. 370 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:20,439 Speaker 3: Going viral lately about me admitting to be in a 371 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:24,240 Speaker 3: side chick in my, TWENTIES i THINK i decided to 372 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 3: sit with, myself love myself first and decide WHAT i 373 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 3: would and wouldn't accept from a. Man and to, me 374 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:36,080 Speaker 3: if you're wanting something that you can't, get you're. Settling 375 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:38,400 Speaker 3: and is this the man you want to settle, with 376 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:42,919 Speaker 3: because essentially you're not gonna get anything more than probably 377 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:43,840 Speaker 3: what you're getting now with? 378 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 2: Him? Right would you be okay. 379 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 3: With this relationship if he starts spending the night with? 380 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,840 Speaker 3: You because then what else would you want after? That 381 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:57,720 Speaker 3: is it only the not spending the? Night are you 382 00:22:57,760 --> 00:23:01,120 Speaker 3: asking him about how often you talking to him about 383 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,040 Speaker 3: what his relationship with his wife looks? 384 00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:06,159 Speaker 2: Like? Mitch why you can't spend the night if y'all not? 385 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,040 Speaker 2: Together Like there's just. 386 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,879 Speaker 3: So many questions THAT i honestly feel like you're so 387 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,280 Speaker 3: scared to ask because you do like him so. Much 388 00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:16,160 Speaker 3: and of, course as, women we fear that if we 389 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:18,560 Speaker 3: ask somebody for too much that they're gonna leave. 390 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:20,320 Speaker 2: Us is that a fear that you? 391 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:25,359 Speaker 3: Have in twenty twenty, SIX i want women in these 392 00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:31,360 Speaker 3: complicated situationships to ask themselves how safe they really feel 393 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,879 Speaker 3: with being with this. Person cool you safe enough for 394 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,679 Speaker 3: him to eat yo pussy off the? Bone but are 395 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:41,919 Speaker 3: you safe enough with him to question and ask for 396 00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:45,280 Speaker 3: the actual things that you want in the relationship because 397 00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:47,920 Speaker 3: if you, can't this man doesn't make you really feel. 398 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:50,760 Speaker 3: Safe the fact that you're, asking SHOULD i cut him 399 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:55,200 Speaker 3: off or play my role and? Compartmentalize are you willing 400 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:56,080 Speaker 3: to play the side chick? 401 00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:57,920 Speaker 2: Role because you going. 402 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:01,639 Speaker 5: To your friend said your immediate reaction. 403 00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 2: Was what the? FUCK i don't know HOW i feel. 404 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,639 Speaker 3: About being a side, chick which means you want to 405 00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:07,879 Speaker 3: be a, man which means you're looking for a. Relationship 406 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,800 Speaker 3: you don't want to just quote unquote play your. Role 407 00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:12,280 Speaker 3: so Since i'm not gonna tell you to play a 408 00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:15,320 Speaker 3: role THAT i don't think you're comfortable with, Playing i'm 409 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:19,000 Speaker 3: also not gonna tell you to compartmentalize and put your 410 00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,679 Speaker 3: feelings and your needs to the side in order to 411 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:25,560 Speaker 3: have a nigga in your life who also wait until 412 00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:27,919 Speaker 3: after he got inside you to let you know that 413 00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:32,960 Speaker 3: he was. Married that's called. Manipulation that's called he wasn't 414 00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:36,280 Speaker 3: keeping it real with you before he put his dick 415 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:39,520 Speaker 3: inside of you because he felt like that little detail 416 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,879 Speaker 3: might keep him from getting what he. Wanted so are 417 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:45,600 Speaker 3: you willing to make sure this nigga gets to move 418 00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:47,840 Speaker 3: and get everything he want out of? You and you 419 00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 3: don't get what you want out of? Him or is 420 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:55,200 Speaker 3: it just dick you? Want is it just a few 421 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:59,560 Speaker 3: dates here and there that you. Want WHAT i am 422 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,920 Speaker 3: going to say you, is don't sit here and put 423 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 3: all your eggs in this, basket, baby because this ain't. 424 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 3: Given and, yes there are a tournaments specifically In florida 425 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,240 Speaker 3: who are legally married. 426 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:12,800 Speaker 1: For. 427 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:17,560 Speaker 3: Citizenship i'm gonna tell y'all some. Tea my mama married 428 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:21,720 Speaker 3: my daddy brother to keep him in The. States oh, 429 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,440 Speaker 3: yeah oh, yeah, baby IF i ever write the book 430 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:25,440 Speaker 3: about my ghetto ass. 431 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:30,040 Speaker 2: Life so my mom the only. 432 00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:34,240 Speaker 3: Marriage that she ever has on paper was literally to 433 00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:38,919 Speaker 3: keep my uncle in The states and not and not 434 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:40,480 Speaker 3: get not get sent back To. 435 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:45,720 Speaker 2: Jamaica SO i get. It but there's still a lot of. 436 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:48,639 Speaker 3: Holes and you said it, Too you have, suspicion and 437 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:50,200 Speaker 3: there's a lot of pieces left out of this. 438 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:50,680 Speaker 2: Story. 439 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:54,359 Speaker 3: Baby going into the new, YEAR i need you to, 440 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:58,239 Speaker 3: really really really sit back and consider what it is 441 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:02,000 Speaker 3: that you, want what it is that you, deserve and 442 00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:05,600 Speaker 3: how you're gonna make sure you go about assuring that 443 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:12,040 Speaker 3: you get those. Things and it starts, heavily, bitch with 444 00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:13,280 Speaker 3: sitting back. 445 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:15,199 Speaker 2: And thinking about what you. 446 00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:20,520 Speaker 3: Deserve and this goes back to my mother fucking saying 447 00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 3: THAT i said on The Breakfast club THAT i went 448 00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:29,040 Speaker 3: back and said on our episode With Sheila. Marie people 449 00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 3: are in the relationships they, deserve or at least the 450 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:35,840 Speaker 3: ones they believe they. Deserve, now of, course we can 451 00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:38,800 Speaker 3: all want more for. Everybody we all want people to be, 452 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,600 Speaker 3: Happy we all want people to be in, healthy, loving, 453 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:43,240 Speaker 3: caring non abusive. 454 00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:44,440 Speaker 2: Relationships, right. 455 00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,600 Speaker 3: Do you think that you deserve more from this? Man 456 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:56,520 Speaker 3: do you think you deserve more from any? Man AND 457 00:26:56,560 --> 00:27:00,640 Speaker 3: i think that you have to really sit back can decide. 458 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:05,320 Speaker 3: That now he focks you On, thanksgiving so you know 459 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,159 Speaker 3: clearly he wasn't with his. Family i'm curious to know 460 00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:13,520 Speaker 3: this week how he's spending His, Christmas Christmas, Eve christmas 461 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,040 Speaker 3: bringing in The new. Year are you a part of 462 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,840 Speaker 3: that or is the? Wife so for, ME i think 463 00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:21,960 Speaker 3: that it's this week is going to be. Telling this 464 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:24,080 Speaker 3: week into next week is going to be really telling 465 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,480 Speaker 3: as to how much you could really put up with 466 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:32,560 Speaker 3: this relationship and what he's giving, you as well as 467 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:38,800 Speaker 3: you really seeing how much crumbs you can bear to. 468 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,320 Speaker 3: Take because a lot of, women especially around the, holidays 469 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:46,080 Speaker 3: are excited to spend time with the niggas dicking him, 470 00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 3: down and when them niggas go and spend it with, 471 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:53,680 Speaker 3: elsewhere that's when you really start chin checking your feelings 472 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:58,000 Speaker 3: at the dull and so, yeah so to, me super 473 00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:01,640 Speaker 3: curious to see what happens if you're listening to, this 474 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,240 Speaker 3: would love for you to write back at the top 475 00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:07,440 Speaker 3: of the year and let us know where your role 476 00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:12,399 Speaker 3: kind of went during the holiday, season because clearly we 477 00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:12,959 Speaker 3: talk about it. 478 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:13,920 Speaker 2: Often it's very. 479 00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:16,760 Speaker 3: Telling and, yes even though you just met him within 480 00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:20,680 Speaker 3: this last, Quarter i'm curious to know to what extent 481 00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:25,120 Speaker 3: you felt fulfilled or pleased by this man during the holiday. 482 00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 2: Season and speaking. 483 00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:31,280 Speaker 3: Of the holiday, season y'all, Already, no we're not taking a. 484 00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:35,880 Speaker 2: Break you are getting our year end wrap. 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