Speaker 1: Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
Speaker 1: your hosts me Gia Judice.
Speaker 2: Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler. Hi, guys, welcome to another
Speaker 2: episode of Dirty Rush. Today we are diving into one
Speaker 2: of the wildest and most unforgettable parts of Greek life.
Speaker 2: We're talking about date parties, from epic themes and chaotic
Speaker 2: nights to the awkward pairings and unexpected drama. We are
Speaker 2: breaking down the good, the bad, and everything in between.
Speaker 2: So we're going to have some callers on this episode.
Speaker 2: So now we are bringing in the lovely grace. So
Speaker 2: I'm thinking you were a sorority girl.
Speaker 3: Yes, I was.
Speaker 2: Where did you go to school?
Speaker 4: I went to UCLA.
Speaker 2: So we are talking today about date parties, and we're
Speaker 2: just talking about kind of sometimes the chaos of them,
Speaker 2: the themes of them. You know, was there pressure if
Speaker 2: you didn't have a date, you know, trying to find
Speaker 2: one or getting asked to one. How are your experiences
Speaker 2: with date parties?
Speaker 4: So I feel like in terms of finding a date,
Speaker 4: it was kind of well rounded, which I feel like
Speaker 4: isn't very normal at other schools, but at UCLA it
Speaker 4: was kind of like in the Beginning like freshman and
Speaker 4: sophomore year, you everybody was like fighting a date because
Speaker 4: everybody wanted to be taking like a cute frat boy
Speaker 4: that they just knew of or thought was cute or whatever.
Speaker 4: And then as time went on and you get older
Speaker 4: into like your junior and your senior year, everybody stops
Speaker 4: caring about like who to take because at UCLA Greek
Speaker 4: life is so small, So like by the time you
Speaker 4: reach your junior and senior year, you kind of already
Speaker 4: know everybody. But there is this one date party that
Speaker 4: is pretty crazy that I feel like is very you know,
Speaker 4: to UCLA, which is called Crush. But basically, you get
Speaker 4: to choose three dates that you want to invite, and
Speaker 4: you like list them from like one to three, of
Speaker 4: like one being you want to take them the most
Speaker 4: three is like the person you want to take the
Speaker 4: least out of your three options. And then this committee
Speaker 4: appointed by this alreaty called the Crush Committee, basically calls
Speaker 4: the list of guys and they go from number one
Speaker 4: down to number three, and they start with number one
Speaker 4: and they're like a girl as requested for you to
Speaker 4: be her date. She wants you to come to Crush
Speaker 4: do you accept and you have no idea who invited you?
Speaker 2: The guys don't know who have okay, So they don't
Speaker 2: know who asked them exactly.
Speaker 4: Okay, I have no idea who them.
Speaker 3: They just know that somebody asks, okay.
Speaker 4: And then every grade addresses to a different theme. So
Speaker 4: like like one year or theme was like goes under
Speaker 4: and so it was like one grade was under the sheet,
Speaker 4: so everybody were like pajamas. One grade was like under
Speaker 4: the sea, so everybody was like c themed and everybody
Speaker 4: had a different grade. So like when they call your date,
Speaker 4: they're like, all you get to know is the theme,
Speaker 4: So you get to know what grade of the person
Speaker 4: that invited you.
Speaker 5: That's it?
Speaker 2: Okay, And do they also dress to theme?
Speaker 3: Yes, so they have to.
Speaker 4: So basically, like all the girls all get ready together.
Speaker 4: Everybody's like so excited, and like everybody picks out really
Speaker 4: cute outfits and whatever, and we all take one bus
Speaker 4: and then all the guys have to meet at like
Speaker 4: a set location and they all have to take a
Speaker 4: bus together.
Speaker 3: But like they don't know who invited them.
Speaker 4: All they know is like the theme of what they're
Speaker 4: dressing to. But they just get on this bus with
Speaker 4: a bunch of random guys going to a venue that
Speaker 4: they don't know to meet a bunch of girls and
Speaker 4: they have no idea who they're like technically going there
Speaker 4: to meet.
Speaker 2: That actually sounds like so much much fun. I think
Speaker 2: that's hilarious. Yeah, what happens to the guys that get
Speaker 2: like like two girls had them on the list and
Speaker 2: one is a freshman and one is a sophomore, and
Speaker 2: they have to do under the sea and under the sheet? Like,
Speaker 2: how do you then just the guy get to choose?
Speaker 2: Is there a competitive like that?
Speaker 4: I think in that case it would probably go based
Speaker 4: off of like seniority, Like whoever is in the higher
Speaker 4: grade probably gets a priority of ranking. But I don't
Speaker 4: know how often that happens, but it does happen occasionally,
Speaker 4: where like the same guy gets invited by two girls
Speaker 4: in the same grade and then the girls don't really
Speaker 4: know which of their dates out of like the list
Speaker 4: of three get asked, so like both girls could have
Speaker 4: ranked a guy number one, and then he shows up
Speaker 4: and both girls are like I ranked him number one,
Speaker 4: Like I want to hang out with him.
Speaker 2: They all three get invited that you rank no.
Speaker 4: So basically your top pick gets invited, but like let's
Speaker 4: say you're top pick is already invited by somebody else,
Speaker 4: then your number two pick could get invited. But you
Speaker 4: could have the same number two pick because you chose
Speaker 4: like your guy best friend as like four other girls
Speaker 4: who also picked him because he.
Speaker 2: Was Oh my god, I'm getting such a any day. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like in a good way.
Speaker 4: It's crazy. It's literally crazy. So everybody's kind of like
Speaker 4: who's here for who? What's going on? And yeah, it's
Speaker 4: a crazy concept.
Speaker 2: So do you ever tell the guy you were my
Speaker 2: first pick? You were my Like how does it? Does
Speaker 2: it ever sort of like come out? Is it? You
Speaker 2: keep it kind of wrapped?
Speaker 4: Or if you want to reveal it you can, or
Speaker 4: you could just go about everything saying nothing, like it's
Speaker 4: really up to you and then but it'll never come
Speaker 4: out if you don't want me to come out.
Speaker 2: So your friends don't even know, like you write it
Speaker 2: down unless you tell them.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, most people will like tell each other or be
Speaker 4: like let's invite or like plot to like invite a
Speaker 4: certain group of guys. But like if you don't tell
Speaker 4: your friends, they wouldn't know either.
Speaker 2: I mean sounds actually sounds really fun. So you did this?
Speaker 2: This happens every year.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you did this every year and it's like
Speaker 4: the most coveted event, like girls will literally pay dues
Speaker 4: senior year only like for the really going to crush.
Speaker 2: Yes, And did you ever either meet a guy there
Speaker 2: end up hanging out with a guy that you didn't
Speaker 2: expect to Was it a way for you to get
Speaker 2: to know guys that you kind of wanted to get
Speaker 2: to know.
Speaker 4: One one time, when I was a freshman, there was
Speaker 4: this boy that I really really liked. We later on
Speaker 4: we started dating, actually, but before we were dating, we
Speaker 4: just really liked each other whatever, And so I invited
Speaker 4: him to crush and one of my older brother's best
Speaker 4: friends happened to also go to UCLA at the same
Speaker 4: time and get invited to rush. And I was a freshman,
Speaker 4: Like I was like, I wouldn't do this now, but
Speaker 4: at the time, I had like started making out with
Speaker 4: my the guy that I liked at the venue, and
Speaker 4: it happened to be right in front of my older
Speaker 4: brother's best friend and my older brother's best friend like
Speaker 4: texts my brother and he's like, what is going on?
Speaker 3: This is horrible?
Speaker 4: Like why my route for this even mortified.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that is hilarious. I have to say
Speaker 2: the whole thing, and I really shouldn't feel this way.
Speaker 2: It's and appropriate. Makes you want to go back in
Speaker 2: time to UCLA and a crush party. So don't tell
Speaker 2: my husband, but I love it. It sounds like it was
Speaker 2: so much fun.
Speaker 3: It was. It was really fun.
Speaker 2: Thanks Grace. This is my offspring, Rachie. So my girl
Speaker 2: was in a sorority at the University of Delaware. I
Speaker 2: don't know if you want to share the sorority, rachel.
Speaker 5: I don't mind. I was in alphathy at the University
Speaker 5: of Delaware.
Speaker 2: You were, and so you had a pretty good experience
Speaker 2: as a sorority girl at Delaware.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I loved it.
Speaker 2: This episode, we are talking about date parties, and I
Speaker 2: know you had quite a few of those.
Speaker 5: Yes, every like three months.
Speaker 2: And I just just so I kind of know, but
Speaker 2: like you had to What is a date party exactly?
Speaker 6: It's basically they call it like formals or they call
Speaker 6: it crush and you pick a date. Everyone puts their
Speaker 6: name on a date doc and you have to have
Speaker 6: a certain amount of points in your sorority to be
Speaker 6: able to go. So if you're not going to like
Speaker 6: all the chapters, all all the events and stuff, you
Speaker 6: won't be able to go.
Speaker 2: Really yeah, and is it that big of a deal.
Speaker 2: They that much fun?
Speaker 5: They're fun. It's like some are better than others.
Speaker 1: I personally liked, like frat formals better than sorority formals.
Speaker 2: Okay, so but date parties? Was it hard to find
Speaker 2: a date?
Speaker 1: Sometimes a lot of people would just bring like girls
Speaker 1: from another sorority.
Speaker 5: I also realized you could go alone. Oh you could, Yeah,
Speaker 5: you could definitely go alone.
Speaker 2: You weren't You aren't a loser if you went alone.
Speaker 5: Was this more fun for me? I think when you
Speaker 5: brought a guy that you were interested in.
Speaker 1: Really, yeah, it's just like I don't know, you're bringing
Speaker 1: them to your date party. Everyone else has their dates.
Speaker 1: You'll like get together before drink, the bus ride, and
Speaker 1: then I feel like it also was a lot of like, Okay,
Speaker 1: he brought me to my frat formal to his frat formal,
Speaker 1: so I'm going to bring him to mind.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I remember that, Like you had like kind
Speaker 2: of an obligation.
Speaker 5: Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 2: I don't know why, but I just remember before them
Speaker 2: for you, it was like, oh, well, for me, it
Speaker 2: was always torture who to bring, Like he brought me
Speaker 2: to his, but I really don't want to bring him
Speaker 2: to mine. It was like all these politics or you
Speaker 2: would get invited to a couple of them or something
Speaker 2: and you didn't know which.
Speaker 5: That would always happen when sometimes they would bring me
Speaker 5: that there's something I don't want to bring me to mine.
Speaker 2: Really just get all this good problem to have, I suppose.
Speaker 1: And then sometimes there were like themes for the date nights,
Speaker 1: which a lot of the times there were off campus
Speaker 1: date nights. They're called like off campus mixers, so it
Speaker 1: would be like two frats and two sororities, and then
Speaker 1: there'd be a theme, so you didn't have to bring
Speaker 1: date to those. It was just kind of like an
Speaker 1: off campus party.
Speaker 5: One of the themes I remember though, we had like
Speaker 5: Y two K, so.
Speaker 2: Like you dress up for them. A lot of the
Speaker 2: date parties Like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I liked the off campus ones because they were
Speaker 1: just they were more fun by less rules.
Speaker 2: So do you have any like crazy stories from any
Speaker 2: of them, like on the bus or anything that happened.
Speaker 5: Well, one time I brought a lunatic date just got
Speaker 5: was so drunk the whole time.
Speaker 1: It's also a thing like if you bring a date
Speaker 1: and they get wasted, then you can get a jaboard.
Speaker 1: So like, let's say I brought someone and they like
Speaker 1: made a flo out of themselves, then I get in trouble.
Speaker 2: So a jboard is when you get like disciplinary action
Speaker 2: or something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I feel like I always loved the before
Speaker 1: and after the day parties. Like actually being at the
Speaker 1: day party was kind of just like you were drinking
Speaker 1: before and then you've just sit on a bus for
Speaker 1: like an hour and a half because we usually go
Speaker 1: to Philly and you have to pee, you're like drunk.
Speaker 1: It's just kind of annoying. And then you get there
Speaker 1: and goes by in like five seconds. But you go
Speaker 1: back and it's like a whole postgame situation. I always
Speaker 1: loved that, especially being in the BABS.
Speaker 5: We call it the face. What's the fous Alpha fi House?
Speaker 2: Oh wait, so hold on, So you bring this guy
Speaker 2: and he's wait, he gets wasted. He's a lunatic. What
Speaker 2: do you do?
Speaker 5: He's yeah, he just got like really wasted. It's just
Speaker 5: kind of making full of himself.
Speaker 1: Actually, I didn't get in trouble when he was there,
Speaker 1: but then I brought him. We all usually bring our
Speaker 1: dates back to the Fouls after just to like hang out.
Speaker 1: And I brought him back and he and we had
Speaker 1: a ring like a ring camera, and he ended up
Speaker 1: going on the porch and peeing off the porch and
Speaker 1: I got a jboard. They're like, your date was peeing
Speaker 1: off the porch at three A.
Speaker 2: We see somebody you were interested in before. Was he
Speaker 2: just a friend?
Speaker 5: He was just like a friend.
Speaker 1: Really, Yeah, sometimes it was better bringing a friend because
Speaker 1: you were like, Okay, I don't need to have that pressure.
Speaker 2: Did you ever feel pressure when you would bring dates
Speaker 2: that weren't your boyfriend?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Probably just that they would have fun get along with
Speaker 1: that brought some bad.
Speaker 2: Dates he did, what do you mean.
Speaker 5: Picky boys? Soles? Maybe if I went back, I would
Speaker 5: bring a girlfriend.
Speaker 2: So you're there and everybody's drinking and people because I'm
Speaker 2: just I'm trying to remember. I kind of do like
Speaker 2: I don't remember a lot of nights where you come
Speaker 2: the next day. You were like thrilled after a date party,
Speaker 2: whether or not he was it, or you kind of
Speaker 2: like someone else and your date would get mad at
Speaker 2: you or there was always like something I feel like
Speaker 2: with them.
Speaker 1: I was also annoying because if you weren't twenty one
Speaker 1: at these day parties, like you couldn't drink there. So
Speaker 1: it was I thought when we turned twenty one, it
Speaker 1: was more fun because we'd be able to.
Speaker 5: Be at the bar and stuff. Right, But yeah, I
Speaker 5: don't know. They were never like my favorite.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I always feel like something always ended up happening to
Speaker 5: You're right, like there was just like drama, right. Yeah.
Speaker 5: I also do you remember when I told you the story?
Speaker 1: I we had a date night and afterwards we were
Speaker 1: all on the bus and I like dropped my.
Speaker 5: Phone and I just like walked off the bus. Yes,
Speaker 5: And it was like two weeks before school ended. Yes,
Speaker 5: And I knew I.
Speaker 1: Dropped my phone like it was it was all on
Speaker 1: the floor. I just I guess I walked out about it.
Speaker 1: Where you waste it today? I mean probably?
Speaker 2: All right, Rachel, you are the love of my life,
Speaker 2: and now we say goodbye. All right, guys, now we're
Speaker 2: bringing in Michelle. So Michelle, you may already know, but
Speaker 2: we are talking about date parties. And so you were
Speaker 2: in a sorority.
Speaker 3: I was a Sigma capa got it.
Speaker 2: And I'm assuming that you guys had date parties there.
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, Greek life is pretty big.
Speaker 3: Yes, it is super big, and it's been growing too.
Speaker 3: They add like a new sorority every few years.
Speaker 2: Really, wow, about how many girls in your sorority just
Speaker 2: had of curiosity?
Speaker 3: Around three hundred? So are PC's in the beginning, we're
Speaker 3: like ninety people each.
Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah that's a lot. All right. Yeah, so I
Speaker 2: want you to tell me a little bit about what
Speaker 2: date parties were like there.
Speaker 3: So date parties are very frequent. They have been every
Speaker 3: single weekend, and there's always a mix of different frats
Speaker 3: and sororities. People have kind of their brother frats that
Speaker 3: they do a ton of events with and then there's
Speaker 3: some random mixes, but they're always super fun. They get
Speaker 3: some crazy DJs and rent some venues. And the themes
Speaker 3: are honestly my favorite part.
Speaker 2: Why why is that there's just.
Speaker 3: Such funny themes and some will have like the same
Speaker 3: theme every year, so everyone is anticipating it and excited.
Speaker 2: What was your favorite?
Speaker 3: I love the Kentucky Derby theme.
Speaker 2: Oh that's so fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that was always a really fun one.
Speaker 2: I love that. So you said you had them.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm think in all schools don't work like this, but
Speaker 2: you have them every weekend, so where you had to
Speaker 2: have a date, you always were either getting invited or
Speaker 2: inviting someone to yours.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so there's always one happening every weekend. Not my
Speaker 3: sorority having one every weekend, but there's always something.
Speaker 2: Oh got it? Okay? And did the girls ever invite
Speaker 2: like friends from other sororities.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, that happened all the time. I definitely did
Speaker 3: that a few times.
Speaker 2: You did, because I feel like it'd be kind of
Speaker 2: like pressure if you don't have a boyfriends, like find
Speaker 2: a date every weekend?
Speaker 3: Right, And honestly, sometimes it's more fun if you bring
Speaker 3: a friend yeah than a boy right.
Speaker 2: I have heard that. Do you have any crazy stories
Speaker 2: from any of the parties?
Speaker 3: Well, honestly, now that Kentucky Derby's on my mind, there
Speaker 3: was this one time when this frat called Lambda did
Speaker 3: the Kentucky Derby party and they partnered with Sigath, which
Speaker 3: they usually don't do. It's usually a solo date party,
Speaker 3: but in this instance they partnered together and the boys
Speaker 3: made all of the freshmen where Potato sacks and do
Speaker 3: a race as if they were horses, and they bet
Speaker 3: on them and everything, and the decor was crazy. All
Speaker 3: of the floor was.
Speaker 2: Hey, well, I'm thinking they didn't want you have potato
Speaker 2: sacks the whole time.
Speaker 3: No, yeah, just for the race, Okay, for the race, Okay,
Speaker 3: but at the end there was a fight about who
Speaker 3: won and who crossed the finish line first, and so
Speaker 3: they started physically fighting and it was the craziest thing ever.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's what happens when you mix prap boys and
Speaker 2: too much alcohol.
Speaker 3: I'm thinking absolutely. And then the rest of the party
Speaker 3: there was like a side for each fraternity and it
Speaker 3: was so funny.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Okay, so that sounds sort of fun
Speaker 2: also crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 2: Did you ever like meet a boy at one of
Speaker 2: these parties and start dating or like somebody else's date.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I definitely met a few boys at the date parties,
Speaker 3: but nothing that really lasted.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, So, but was it it was did you
Speaker 2: sometimes feel the pressure of finding someone for them?
Speaker 5: Was it more?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was in a friend group of like eight girls,
Speaker 3: and so if they were bringing boys, like if the
Speaker 3: majority was bringing boys, then we would all find boys
Speaker 3: to go, but sometimes we would just make it like
Speaker 3: a girl's night and that would be super fun too.
Speaker 3: But yeah, there's definitely pressure if your friends are also
Speaker 3: bringing boy dates.
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I remember that with my daughter, you know,
Speaker 2: having to sort of like figure out who and I
Speaker 2: don't know because now I'm, you know, an old mother type,
Speaker 2: and so I always feel like, what if you can't
Speaker 2: find a date?
Speaker 5: That must be all.
Speaker 3: You know, it's so stressful for no reason because at
Speaker 3: the end of the day, your sorority is there or
Speaker 3: like you know people there anyways, and it ends up
Speaker 3: being fun.
Speaker 5: Good.
Speaker 2: I love that. Okay, well, I really appreciate your joining us, Michelle. Listen,
Speaker 2: you guys, there are so many callers that want to
Speaker 2: talk to us about date parties, so it's just like,
Speaker 2: put a pin in it. We'll do another episode. Who
Speaker 2: knew that day parties were so exciting and so salacious,
Speaker 2: So please come back and listen to part two.