1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:02,520 Speaker 1: Like writing in our diaries, except we say I'm alowd 2 00:00:02,560 --> 00:00:04,240 Speaker 1: we call the blogs. I'm gonna do one because I 3 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:05,400 Speaker 1: want to know if you guys can relate to this, 4 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 1: dear blog. This time of year, May and June are 5 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:13,720 Speaker 1: very expensive times in my family because you've got Father's Day, 6 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 1: Mother's Day, my dad's birthday, my mom's birthday, and my 7 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:21,439 Speaker 1: sister's birthday. So for sixty days, I do nothing but 8 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:23,239 Speaker 1: spend money. And my sister and I were talking about 9 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 1: this yesterday, and it's the same thing every year. She 10 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: and I get on the phone and go, all right, 11 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: what are we gonna do for mom? What are we 12 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: gonna do for Dad? What are we gonna do for 13 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:33,639 Speaker 1: Father's Day? What are we gonna do for her birthday? 14 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:37,760 Speaker 1: And we wind up coming up with something. But I 15 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: don't even know if it's what they would want or 16 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: if they even care, because if you ask my parents 17 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 1: what do you want, they'll say nothing. But they do 18 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: want something, and they should get something because they deserve it. 19 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's like you don't need anything, 20 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: and then it's like, well, I just want to spend 21 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:58,640 Speaker 1: time with you, and then it's like okay, now I 22 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: got to figure out how we're gonna do that. It 23 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: just is so complicated, And I wonder if there are 24 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:05,680 Speaker 1: any families or any of you guys, Like everyone likes 25 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:07,960 Speaker 1: to get a gift, and if you want something like 26 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 1: this year, at least they said to us, this is 27 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 1: what we would like. I love, so we can just 28 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:14,639 Speaker 1: go get it. And I realize it takes the surprise away, 29 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: but like, here you go. And I don't get me wrong, 30 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 1: like I love a gift on my birthday. You guys, 31 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 1: for example, are wildly thoughtful and and remember things. But 32 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: then again, I spend more time with you guys than 33 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: I do them, so like I, it's easier for me 34 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 1: to think of what it's stressful, but easier for me 35 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:35,040 Speaker 1: to come up with stuff to buy you guys, because 36 00:01:35,080 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: at least I sit here all morning, five hours a day, 37 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 1: five days a week and listen to what you know, 38 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:41,399 Speaker 1: you guys are into and you want. I don't do 39 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 1: that with my parents. But I just wonder if there 40 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: are any families out there that have just said, you 41 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: know what, forget it, like forget it on the gifts, 42 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: like just just just call me on my birthday. 43 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 2: Well, Fred, I can relate because the three people I'm 44 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 2: looking at, and we'll throw Shelley in starting with Shelley's birthday. 45 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: Then it's you three. Yeah. Then it's the holidays. 46 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I gotta buy for both of those, for 47 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 2: at least one of you and then my family, So yeah, 48 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 2: I can relate. 49 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:10,359 Speaker 1: Yah. So November and December stressful around here, uh huh. 50 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: May June is stressful for me, you know, and it's 51 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: like I don't know, like maybe we all just like 52 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 1: chip it on a trip and then we all just 53 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 1: get together and and it just it serves all the masters, 54 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 1: but it's just like I'm telling you, it's extremely stressful. Yeah. 55 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:26,359 Speaker 2: So my friend actually does do that. They stop doing 56 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:28,680 Speaker 2: gifts for Christmas with her dad's side, and what they 57 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 2: do is they all throw in for you know, a 58 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:33,359 Speaker 2: vacation where they can spend time. So usually they'll go 59 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:35,679 Speaker 2: up to like northern Michigan, you know, with all of them, 60 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 2: and like they put their money towards that, so like 61 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 2: an experience maybe, but then. 62 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, right, but then it's like I don't know, I'll 63 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: buy my mom something really nice one year and then 64 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: it's like I can't Maybe I can't keep that up. 65 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:47,239 Speaker 1: I don't know, So then do I get her something 66 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: equally nice next year? 67 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 2: I don't know hard and they do something different? 68 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 3: It is, Yeah, it's all right, but don't you dare 69 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 3: talk about just a phone call? Yeah, okay, Dad, don't 70 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:58,640 Speaker 3: get crazy now, you can figure something out. 71 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 1: Thing you can give them, You should find them here. No, 72 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you. And I love my dad. 73 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: I love my sister, I really do. But the person 74 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: that I spend the most money on and the most 75 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: time thinking about is my mom by a mile. And 76 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: I love my dad. I love my dad, but he 77 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:20,120 Speaker 1: just doesn't receive gifts the same way. Like he's grateful 78 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 1: and stuff, but like he would be happy with something 79 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: just so basic, but I still don't even know what 80 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 1: that is. Because even if it's like a twenty five 81 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: dollars thing, he sits at his office and if he 82 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:33,800 Speaker 1: sees it on you know, Kickstarter or whatever, he just 83 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: buys it. Or he wants a book, he just buys it. 84 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: And I'm the same way, by the way, like if 85 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: I don't go out and buy like big stuff for myself, 86 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: but like I don't sit and go I want to 87 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: read this book in six months. You can buy it 88 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 1: from me for my birthday and then send it, you know, 89 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: send it to whatever. I don't know, And then I 90 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: feel like someone said gift cards. I feel like gift 91 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 1: cards are kind of impersonal your parents. No, yeah, that's 92 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: unless you're asking for gift cards. Yeah, yeah, I don't know. 93 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 3: Apparence, You guys need to speak up, like please, this 94 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 3: whole guessing game. My sister does this Mother's Day's coming up. 95 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 3: We are going to say, what do you want? She's 96 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 3: gonna like, listen, lady, help us help. 97 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, just say it. Tell me what you want. Give 98 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: me like three options in them or even two price range. 99 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: Give me an expensive one and a moderate. 100 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 2: Price one, right, like a list or something, because I can't. 101 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:23,119 Speaker 2: Every year I said that I don't need anything. 102 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 1: I don't even let's cut the charade. 103 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,160 Speaker 2: We both know I'm going to get you something. Yeah, 104 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,840 Speaker 2: we both know I'm gonna spend my money, So don't 105 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 2: you want it to be on something that you'll actually lose? 106 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 2: Every year we do that, I'm like, I can't do 107 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 2: it anymore. 108 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 1: Next time that somebody says to me, like in my family, 109 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:44,279 Speaker 1: I don't need anything, okay, I don't have it, right, Okay, 110 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 1: you know what your anxiety would never let that foot. 111 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 1: But that's how we feel. That's how we teach people 112 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 1: a lesson. Yes, no, all right, And then they call 113 00:04:52,240 --> 00:04:54,480 Speaker 1: him happy Birthday, like, where's my gift? You said you 114 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: didn't want anything I offered? You said you don't want anything. 115 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: And next year they won't make that mistake. They'll come 116 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 1: up with thing. And then like my sister, you know, 117 00:05:03,839 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: I want to get her a nice gift, but really 118 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:07,839 Speaker 1: it's her husband's job to get the nice, nice gift. 119 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 1: I used to be the one to give my parents 120 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:10,920 Speaker 1: and I would be the ones to give her the 121 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: nice gift when she wasn't married. For Mother's Day. No 122 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: Mother's Day, we send her something, but I mean for 123 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 1: her birthday or Christmas, like normally one of us would 124 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:21,719 Speaker 1: would get her like the nice thing. Well, now that's 125 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:25,360 Speaker 1: his job. It's all my job. But there's certain stuff. 126 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: I don't need to be buying her jewelry. I don't 127 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 1: need to be buying her like expensive stuff. But I 128 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 1: also need to upstage. I don't need to upstage him either, 129 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 1: And he has other obligations. He's got two kids and 130 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:35,479 Speaker 1: a wife and a house and a bunch of stuff 131 00:05:35,480 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 1: I don't have. But yet, do I need to be 132 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: the one to give the nicer gift than her own husband? 133 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:43,360 Speaker 1: Probably not? What if that's emasculating. I don't mean I'm 134 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: not trying to upstage him. You don't. Don't think of 135 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 1: it like that. My brothers, if you're listening, don't think 136 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 1: of it. Give me the good gift, you know, Okay, 137 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,800 Speaker 1: don't worry about upstaging Big tim forget about. That's fine. 138 00:05:56,560 --> 00:06:00,280 Speaker 1: And if they want to buy your ring, about it? 139 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:00,600 Speaker 2: You? 140 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 1: What about? 141 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 3: You want to picture? Yeah? 142 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: I would? Are you wait? Yeah? Mix you all about? 143 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:08,160 Speaker 1: We'll marry each other