Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is to keep any given experience in context. Play
Speaker 1: the whole movie, don't obsess over one disappointing scene. Today's
Speaker 1: tip comes from Mira Orndoff, a senior manager at Capital One.
Speaker 1: In a recent episode of the Harvard Business Review podcast
Speaker 1: Women at Work, Ornduff described her advocacy for part time
Speaker 1: tech jobs at Capital One and how she handled resistance.
Speaker 1: She commented that she tries to play my whole movie.
Speaker 1: Our brains are so negatively biased, and we have a
Speaker 1: recency bias, and it's so easy to let our brains
Speaker 1: replay things that haven't gone how we wanted. And with
Speaker 1: the ups and downs of the journey, I have really
Speaker 1: found it to be helpful to think about the importance
Speaker 1: of the destination that I'm driving to the progress that
Speaker 1: has happened, and I should find satisfaction in that and
Speaker 1: not in just those individual moments or milestones. Play the
Speaker 1: whole movie. That is such great advice. When we are
Speaker 1: working hard to go in one direction or achieve a
Speaker 1: goal personally or professionally, it is so tempting to focus
Speaker 1: on any given disappointment. And yes, setbacks can be disappointing,
Speaker 1: but a narrow focus means we can overlook the progress
Speaker 1: that has happened too. So, for instance, maybe you feel
Speaker 1: like you performed poorly in a job interview. That is
Speaker 1: definitely frustrating, but you can try to point out to
Speaker 1: yourself that you were offered that second round interview in
Speaker 1: the first place, and you aced the first round interview
Speaker 1: at the company last week. Plus you've got two more
Speaker 1: interviews elsewhere scheduled next week. Play the whole movie about
Speaker 1: your job search. You want to put the disappointing scene
Speaker 1: in context. This is particularly true when it comes to
Speaker 1: big personal goals that take a lot of time. I
Speaker 1: love distance running, but I know that stuff can go
Speaker 1: wrong in big races. Big races can get canceled. You
Speaker 1: can get injured half way through a marathon and have
Speaker 1: to stop after months of training. That can feel devastating.
Speaker 1: In those moments, it helps to remember that maybe a
Speaker 1: year ago you were just starting a couch to five
Speaker 1: k program and now you've run most of a marathon.
Speaker 1: Or maybe you used to run twelve minute miles and
Speaker 1: now your regular easy runs feel good at an eleven
Speaker 1: minute mile pace. All of that sounds like growth to me.
Speaker 1: You can also play the whole movie when you are
Speaker 1: experiencing frustration in a relationship. Don't get stuck on the
Speaker 1: latest scene when your friend canceled on you last minute
Speaker 1: after you'd gone to a lot of trouble to make
Speaker 1: the plans work. By playing the whole movie, you will
Speaker 1: also remember the time when she dropped everything to come
Speaker 1: to the hospital to be with you when your dad
Speaker 1: had a heart attack. That doesn't mean excusing a long
Speaker 1: string of problematic behavior. People do change, and not always
Speaker 1: for the better, but in the context of a long relationship,
Speaker 1: one dud of a scene may just not be that
Speaker 1: big of a deal. When we play the whole movie,
Speaker 1: we maintain a sense of perspective. Sure we may feel sad,
Speaker 1: but we don't let that overshadow everything else. The plot
Speaker 1: is still good. We just need to brush off that
Speaker 1: scene and keep watching. In the meantime, This is Laura.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of
Speaker 1: our time. Thanks for listening to before Breakfast. If you've
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