Speaker 1: Second day. How many times have we heard the story?
Speaker 1: I don't think that girl would have ever spoken to me,
Speaker 1: but I had a puppy with me in the park thing.
Speaker 1: You know, I've got fifteen different phone numbers, yeah, checks out. Sure.
Speaker 1: Some were from eighty year olds and a couple of
Speaker 1: fourteen year olds. Still phone numbers. There's a few ones
Speaker 1: who haven't been through menopause quite yet, and those are
Speaker 1: the ones that I want to go out withee. We've
Speaker 1: all heard that story before, Okay, is that not the
Speaker 1: story we're gonna hear today? Well, we haven't heard is
Speaker 1: the girl with the dogs in the park and how
Speaker 1: that leads to a life of romance? I mean it
Speaker 1: works exactly the same dog park. And I was like,
Speaker 1: how I more often? And are you talking to us?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I was talking to
Speaker 1: somebody else. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I thought
Speaker 1: I would do but I must have did. Not none
Speaker 1: of your drama. You're a good Lisa, You're here, You're
Speaker 1: on the show. Now. Were you talking to your puppy
Speaker 1: and we were, Yes, I was talking to my puppy, coping,
Speaker 1: I was spenting. We were talking about you because Apparently
Speaker 1: dogs were involved in your first date. Is that right? Yes?
Speaker 1: Well dogs are always involved in my life, but yeah,
Speaker 1: specifically my first day as well. Okay, so you're like
Speaker 1: a dog mom. Well yeah, so I'm a dog mom.
Speaker 1: But I'm a dog mom and I love my dog
Speaker 1: so much that I ended up running my own pet business.
Speaker 1: That's all. You have your own business, all that's doing
Speaker 1: good work in the world. Thank you. Is that how
Speaker 1: you met a person you would know with? No? So
Speaker 1: I met him online. Um, he didn't really know like
Speaker 1: what I did necessarily, but he knew that I was
Speaker 1: an animal lover. Okay, And does he have a name? Yeah,
Speaker 1: his name is Nathan. Okay. So I was supposed to
Speaker 1: go meet up with him a couple of days ago
Speaker 1: and I was running late, so I was like, let
Speaker 1: me just ask him if he wants to come and
Speaker 1: walk the dogs with me? Oh? Mix in business and pleasure. See,
Speaker 1: do you want to come with me to my work?
Speaker 1: Who doesn't want to walk dogs? Like you're outside, you're
Speaker 1: enjoying the weather, and you're hanging out with it. I
Speaker 1: would love it. That's the only thing I'd probably get
Speaker 1: me on a walk is give me some dogs that
Speaker 1: How did it go. Were you able to have like
Speaker 1: a fun time with him, make it romance? Yeah? It
Speaker 1: was great. We met up, you know, we took the
Speaker 1: dogs around. It was like really really good. And he
Speaker 1: asked me, He's like, do you have your own dog?
Speaker 1: And I said yes, I of course I have my
Speaker 1: own dog. And he says, well, we should walk him too,
Speaker 1: And I told him that his name was Barney. It's
Speaker 1: short for Barnacle actually, because he's kind of old and crusty.
Speaker 1: Did you like run like stop by your apartment or
Speaker 1: something and pick up Barney. Yes. We ended up blocking
Speaker 1: Barney and after we had walked like four different dogs,
Speaker 1: so you know, I was like, this guy is willing
Speaker 1: to walk with me for these my hours. You know.
Speaker 1: It was so and good and the comedies was great,
Speaker 1: and we went to go drop off Barney back at
Speaker 1: home and we kissed on my front door. Are you
Speaker 1: kidd right in front of barney body party? You think
Speaker 1: that's inappropriate on the first date in front of the kids.
Speaker 1: Yet to do it in front of children, Barney trouve.
Speaker 1: I think Barney approved. Did you invite him up or
Speaker 1: did it? Was it the so I invite him up
Speaker 1: and then he ends up spending the night. All right,
Speaker 1: the morning wasn't awkward at all, Like everything was super smooth,
Speaker 1: except the only awkward thing about it was that Barney
Speaker 1: sucked in the body because he always sleeps with me,
Speaker 1: but he didn't think mine. O. Well, I mean he
Speaker 1: knew what he was getting into. He walked dogs with
Speaker 1: you for hours, and I mean you obviously made a
Speaker 1: good connection because it's not even like you guys were drinking.
Speaker 1: It wasn't like some like. It was like it was
Speaker 1: all genuine that all sounds great. So how did you
Speaker 1: two leave it? That day? So he was getting ready
Speaker 1: to go that next morning and I told him, I
Speaker 1: was like, well, I want to be vulnerable with you.
Speaker 1: And I said, I like you and I do them,
Speaker 1: so you know, I don't want to meet anyone else
Speaker 1: new online like I did. But not take it too seriously.
Speaker 1: Is this the talk? I feel like, I feel like
Speaker 1: it's important to you know, like let people know what
Speaker 1: page you're on and for them to let you know
Speaker 1: what page they're on, and that's how things work. So
Speaker 1: I asked this, I said, are you okay if we're
Speaker 1: in a situation ship and a situationship, well, that's like
Speaker 1: you're not quite in a relationship. It can either be
Speaker 1: a new relationship or you know, those people that date
Speaker 1: for ten years would never get married. That's also considered
Speaker 1: a situation, right, like not meeting new people, but like
Speaker 1: not boyfriend girlfriends and just concentrating on each other. Though
Speaker 1: so exactly like you were before. Absolutely not that you
Speaker 1: get in trouble in your calling app, which sucks. That's interesting.
Speaker 1: What did he say? He's seen a little surprised by it,
Speaker 1: but not in a bad way, and he kind of
Speaker 1: laughed and he agreed with it. Oh that's cute. Well,
Speaker 1: and I bet it was refreshing for him, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean I would imagine, like finally someone who is
Speaker 1: like forthright with how they feel what they want. Here's
Speaker 1: my boundaries. Yeah, as a guy, I maybe it could
Speaker 1: have waited a day or two. I mean, if it
Speaker 1: didn't go so well, I don't think that I would
Speaker 1: have brought that up. But like it was just so
Speaker 1: natural and like you guys said, like you weren't drinking,
Speaker 1: we weren't doing anything crazy, So like all the feelings
Speaker 1: that I got from him were very genuine, and I
Speaker 1: was I thought it was a great time. Okay, So
Speaker 1: now you're officially in a situation ship with Nathan who
Speaker 1: won't call you back. Is that what's going on? That's
Speaker 1: kind of how they were, is at the end of
Speaker 1: the situation ship? Well I hope not, because it just started, okay,
Speaker 1: but now you're having trouble keeping the situation ship going.
Speaker 1: I mean there's been like a couple of times where
Speaker 1: I try to reach out to him, you know, like
Speaker 1: try to set up a little date to hang out
Speaker 1: and like nothing too serious, just like a coffee date
Speaker 1: or something. Or I even asked him if you wanted
Speaker 1: to come over and hang out with Barnie again, and
Speaker 1: he's just kind of like, either a we've busy or
Speaker 1: it's definitely a situation that we're in now. But yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna try and ship it though. When we called
Speaker 1: Nathan coming up, we're gonna ship you too. After we
Speaker 1: play a song, come back and get your second date update. Second,
Speaker 1: it's weird we talk about so many different dating terms
Speaker 1: on this show, and I haven't heard of the one
Speaker 1: that Brooke and Jose both apparently knew, called situation ship, yes,
Speaker 1: which Brooke is trying to attempt with her husband unsuccessfully
Speaker 1: I don't break up. Yeah, you're not fully exclusive, but
Speaker 1: you're also not actively trying to meet new people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that's what happened on Lisa's date the other day
Speaker 1: with a guy who ended up spending the night after
Speaker 1: they walked dogs together, woke up the next morning and
Speaker 1: she said, will you be in a situation ship with me?
Speaker 1: And he was all on board for it, or so
Speaker 1: we said. At least his actions have been a lot
Speaker 1: different than me because he is not scheduling that second
Speaker 1: meet up. So we're gonna call him and find out
Speaker 1: why he isn't more serious about this situation ship. Not
Speaker 1: too serious. I don't want to be the average amount
Speaker 1: of seriousness that goes into situations, right, Lisa, Right right, okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: are you are you feeling nervous about this? Because I mean,
Speaker 1: you obviously really like this guy. I mean, the only
Speaker 1: thing that I'm getting nervous about is maybe I brought
Speaker 1: up like the situation ship a little bit too early. Well,
Speaker 1: maybe we can unscare him off. Yeah. If that is
Speaker 1: the case from a radio station, we're cool. Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: who knows. Maybe after this callsoever will be considered the
Speaker 1: situation ship Crusaders. Do we have to Ye, I'm putting
Speaker 1: in the petition to change the show name from Brook
Speaker 1: Jeffrey to the Situation Ship Crusaders. I'm gonna deny that motion. Yeah, ok, fine,
Speaker 1: we'll stick with book Jeffrey fin Stoll Nathan to say hello,
Speaker 1: Hey is this Nathan? H Yeah, this is Nathan. Sorry.
Speaker 1: Did we just catch you waken up or something? No,
Speaker 1: just get a lot of calls from numbers I don't have.
Speaker 1: So you're annoyed. We're not a solicitor. Huh. Well yeah,
Speaker 1: don't worry, bro. Yeah, well we we're not not solicitors
Speaker 1: in a way. Yeah, we're soliciting on behalf of one
Speaker 1: of our listeners named Lisa that you went out on
Speaker 1: a date with and are still seeing, not seeing I
Speaker 1: don't think well want to still see? Yeah, I know Lisa,
Speaker 1: we're seeing each other. Okay. So she reached out to
Speaker 1: us for this thing called a second date update. That's
Speaker 1: what we're doing right now, because she's a little bit
Speaker 1: confused about why after your first date there hasn't been
Speaker 1: a second one. She says, you've responded to text, It's
Speaker 1: just like, doesn't seem like you're super stoked to see
Speaker 1: her again. No, I do like Lisa a lot, Like
Speaker 1: she's awesome. Okay, okay, so you I mean, the situation
Speaker 1: ship is on on your side. She told us at
Speaker 1: the end of your first day, you guys set up
Speaker 1: a situation ship, and she told us that she might
Speaker 1: have been worried that she rushed into it. They brought
Speaker 1: it up a little bit too soon. They scared you off.
Speaker 1: Or we told her she may have brought it up
Speaker 1: too soon. But yeah, no, yeah, I mean I think
Speaker 1: situation ships are awesome. Okay, right, yeah, So you aren't
Speaker 1: actively pursuing anyone else and you're concentrating on dating Lisa
Speaker 1: right now. Well I wouldn't exactly say that, but I
Speaker 1: am pursuing Lisa. We are in a situation ship. Well,
Speaker 1: she said that she's been trying to make plans with you,
Speaker 1: but you're always busy or something. Well, I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: I would have gone out with her last week, but
Speaker 1: like she said that she could only do Friday, and
Speaker 1: I was actually kind of already had plans with someone
Speaker 1: a date on Friday. So if you're in a situation ship,
Speaker 1: you don't go out on another date. It's right, isn't
Speaker 1: that how I understand it? YEA, well, no, I mean
Speaker 1: we are in a situation ship. It's like I basically
Speaker 1: can't go out and meet anyone new, but there are
Speaker 1: like a few other girls I've already been seeing in
Speaker 1: chattywas so like that should be okay. You know, I
Speaker 1: think you guys differs. Yeah, you're kind of cheating on
Speaker 1: a situation ship. You can't cheat because it's not relationship
Speaker 1: Like this is on your side, bro, So you're in
Speaker 1: a situationship with Lisa, But what are the other girls? Then?
Speaker 1: You know, I'm actually like in like, there's like four
Speaker 1: four situationships. I mean at the moment, fais at the
Speaker 1: same time is allow. I don't think that's a thing
Speaker 1: unless you talk about an open situation ship. But I
Speaker 1: don't think you have that situation. She just said, like
Speaker 1: you can't go out and meet anyone new, and like
Speaker 1: that we talked about. This is one of those like
Speaker 1: semantic things instead of I mean, do you you haven't
Speaker 1: older about the other four women, so you obviously know
Speaker 1: it would upset her. I mean, for all I know,
Speaker 1: she could be in several other situationship. Okay, that's what
Speaker 1: cheaters always. You don't have to tell them because it's
Speaker 1: a situation ship. Just that. But you can't date like
Speaker 1: five people at the same time and say you're all
Speaker 1: in a situation ship. We're with all of them, we're
Speaker 1: all sounding very confused about it. But Nason seems very
Speaker 1: sure of himself that this is okay. To me, It's like,
Speaker 1: that's the difference between a relationship and a situation ship.
Speaker 1: So you may have a cheat in a relationship, though,
Speaker 1: you're just saying in this situation it's okay, okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it's it's actually a pretty great situation because
Speaker 1: I mean I get to like this free path to
Speaker 1: go out and get and I cook up with a
Speaker 1: bunch of other girls and like, you know, no commitment
Speaker 1: to anyway. So you're getting you like Brenda and Sally
Speaker 1: and Ashley and Lisa, and they're all cool with it.
Speaker 1: It's like we just pulled all the names out of
Speaker 1: nineteen fifteen. I'm just saying, why am I not in
Speaker 1: a relationship that sounds great? A situationship? Situations No, that's
Speaker 1: not how it works. That's not how Lisa thinks it works.
Speaker 1: I could guarantee in Focus on one Another serious is
Speaker 1: totally on the same page, Nathan, Yeah, find out that's
Speaker 1: let's ask her, Because Nathan, I need to let you
Speaker 1: know that Lisa is on the other line listening. She
Speaker 1: actually has me this one time. I am listening and
Speaker 1: you're just augusting. We are not an open situationship. I
Speaker 1: don't think that you understand what the definition of a
Speaker 1: situationship is. No, you told me I wasn't supposed to
Speaker 1: meet anyone new, and they have it. That's a good
Speaker 1: situation ship. Remember when I told you that I wanted
Speaker 1: to be vulnerable with you. That also means telling the truth.
Speaker 1: So why didn't you just tell me the truth to
Speaker 1: start it? Oh? I didn't lie, you didn't ask God.
Speaker 1: That is such a red flag, Lisa, anyone who says
Speaker 1: that the truth telling that's more of relationship status. I
Speaker 1: think situation ship isn't unto one hundred percent honesty. Yet.
Speaker 1: I think that's true because you should tell the truth
Speaker 1: to everybody, your friends, your relationships, no matter who it is.
Speaker 1: So I just see a lot of red flags here.
Speaker 1: I did tell the truth. I just told it to
Speaker 1: everyone on the radio, Like I wouldn't have said that
Speaker 1: information if I was trying to hide something like well,
Speaker 1: why didn't you tell me that to start with? Then? Like,
Speaker 1: why did you have to wait for it now? If
Speaker 1: you have nothing to hide, why didn't you just tell
Speaker 1: me when we were seeing each other, when I asked
Speaker 1: you to be in a relationship common knowledge of we're
Speaker 1: going into a situation ship breakdown here. But here's the thing, Like,
Speaker 1: obviously there was a miscommunication here, right, he thought one thing,
Speaker 1: you thought the other. Moving forward, I mean, would you
Speaker 1: be willing to only see Lisa and drop the other
Speaker 1: four situation ships? Or on the other hand, Lisa, would
Speaker 1: you be willing to take on more situation ships for four?
Speaker 1: Maybe you guys can exchange situations. I don't know how
Speaker 1: these work. Lisa just sounds awesome, and it sounds like
Speaker 1: you guys had a real connection. Barnacle, how could you
Speaker 1: do this for Barney? Barney really liked you? And now
Speaker 1: I'm concerned for Barney because I always trust all the
Speaker 1: people that my dog likes, and I don't trust you.
Speaker 1: Right now, Barney, are going to have to have a
Speaker 1: serious conversation. Oh no, no, Barney's old too. We don't
Speaker 1: want to let him down. He might be disillusional. That's
Speaker 1: probably what it is. It's like Barney is partially in
Speaker 1: this situation ship tune. Yeah, yeah, the kids. So maybe
Speaker 1: you should dump Brenda and Sally and Gretel and a
Speaker 1: German fairy tale whoever it is. And maybe would you
Speaker 1: be interested in just a one person situationship with only Lisa.
Speaker 1: I mean, if you're willing to do that, we'll pay
Speaker 1: for another date between you two. Not a relationship, just
Speaker 1: the situation. I just want to date super casual. I
Speaker 1: am keeping it super casual. I'm only dating the people
Speaker 1: I'm in situationships with. Okay, stick into your So you
Speaker 1: are a Polly situation ship person, is what you're saying.
Speaker 1: That is not a term that I acknowledge. You don't
Speaker 1: acknowledge it. It It doesn't exist. Yeah you know what, Ny,
Speaker 1: then I'm just not into it. I really like, I
Speaker 1: just saw a lot of red flags to start with,
Speaker 1: and if you just can't be honest with me up front,
Speaker 1: then I'm just not going to waste my time. I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: this is really a bummer because I really like hooking
Speaker 1: up with you and everyone else at the same time.
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the morning, Man, who knew you could have
Speaker 1: four situation ships all going at once. Actually, you could
Speaker 1: probably have even more if you're really your much money
Speaker 1: is I think he's the only one that knew that.
Speaker 1: The other don't know that that's happening. He's like, I'm
Speaker 1: not cheating on anyone, but sleeping with a lot of people.
Speaker 1: There is no cap on the number of situation ships
Speaker 1: you're allowed to have. Apparently it did not work out
Speaker 1: for him, Jeffrey, that's not what you need to have
Speaker 1: three other situation ships to fall back on. Unless they
Speaker 1: heard this segment, I'm just telling this is the golden
Speaker 1: age for guys in the dating time. I'm telling you
Speaker 1: you don't have to do a single thing. As long
Speaker 1: as the girl feels kind of good about the label,
Speaker 1: then you can treat her as badly as you want to,
Speaker 1: never talk to her again, and they'll be cool in
Speaker 1: a way. He's wildly romantic. I guy sucks. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: guess no shock there wasn't a second dated, at least
Speaker 1: not with that girl. Yeah, I'm sure he'll be on
Speaker 1: the show again. Not by choice though. Anyway, If you
Speaker 1: ever want to get a second date update on a relationship,
Speaker 1: a situation ship, a casual encounter, anything, We'll try and
Speaker 1: tackle that for you and call the person who isn't
Speaker 1: calling you back. Broken Jeffrey in the morning,