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Speaker 1: this one. I'm there right now. It could be yours.

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Speaker 1: got a fool you here to Scrollberry letter? Why? Thank you, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: thank you? Subject she took away all my joy. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I am having a major problem. My fiance

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Speaker 1: and I've been together for almost two years. She is

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Speaker 1: thirty seven and I am twenty nine. In the early stages,

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Speaker 1: we used to throw down in the bedroom. I'm talking

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Speaker 1: mood about sex has drastically changed. She rations it out

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Speaker 1: But then she tells me when it's over, whether I'm

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Speaker 1: that day. I typically lounge around, cook her dinner, relax,

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Speaker 1: This woman has cut me off from all of my

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Speaker 1: supply and she wasn't even polite enough to wean me off.

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Speaker 1: She just did it cold turkey. When I as why

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Speaker 1: she switched up our sex life, she said, I'm a

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Speaker 1: because that's not how real life works. I'm wondering what

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Speaker 1: she expected by getting with a guy my age. I

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Speaker 1: I need the same sex from her that got me hooked?

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Speaker 1: Is she really? Is this really how marriages? If so,

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Speaker 1: is there anything I can do to change things? Well,

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Speaker 1: you might have to move on. Okay, you might have

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Speaker 1: to move on. The crazy thing is that in this

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Speaker 1: letter you kind of both have a valid point. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you are twenty nine years old. You've been spending your

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Speaker 1: introducing you to what she sees as real married life

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Speaker 1: with you know, not sex five times a day ending

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Speaker 1: she sees married life right now. And she's calling you

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Speaker 1: a horn dog all of that. I know, at twenty nine,

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Speaker 1: a lot, if not most married couples do slow down

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Speaker 1: like date night came into play, you know, And that's

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Speaker 1: why you hear married couples saying things like we need

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Speaker 1: you know, the sex does dwindle in a marriage I

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Speaker 1: don't know if that's what she was talking about necessarily,

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Speaker 1: So I think you need to reassess your intentions here.

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Speaker 1: This may not be the woman for you. It doesn't

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Speaker 1: only going to get worse if she cut it off. Now,

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Speaker 1: she's going to ritchet shut in a minute, she's gonna

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be able to look at it, You're gonna

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Speaker 1: here's the deal. You're having a major problem. That's the

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Speaker 1: opening line, Stephen Sherley, I'm having a major problem. If

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Speaker 1: this will become an even more major problem. This is

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Speaker 1: a disaster. Y'all been together for two years. She thirty seven,

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Speaker 1: hold up bruising and bite mama. Where the punching the

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Speaker 1: love about each You might have messed around and just

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Speaker 1: could never stay dumb back then, but lady I can

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Speaker 1: her mood about sex has drastically changed. Hey man, and

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Speaker 1: she's thirty seven and it didn't drastically change. You're in trouble, man.

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Speaker 1: She rashes it out to me. Now it's not as

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Speaker 1: exciting because she only likes to do it in one position. Nothing,

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Speaker 1: And I'm excited for what I get. But when she

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Speaker 1: tell me it's over, it's over ten minutes. Whether I'm

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Speaker 1: Let's go stop alight. Yeah, we'll left Part two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letters subject she took away all my Joy.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Steve Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letters subject she took away all my joy.

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Speaker 1: This is horrible, man, it's over with. Like I said,

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Speaker 1: dog took away your joy. Your opening lines, I have

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Speaker 1: a major problem. Yes you do. And you're not even

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Speaker 1: married yet. Used to have sex all the time. You're

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Speaker 1: twenty nine, thirty seven, y'all been together for two years.

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Speaker 1: Early stages. You throw around in your bedroom, all over

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Speaker 1: the house, five times a week, multiple time. She couldn't

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Speaker 1: keep her had done and get to the point where

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Speaker 1: y'all end up with bruises or bite malls. Her hat

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Speaker 1: could never stay done. But lately I'm bare to get

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Speaker 1: her to take care of my knees. Her mood about

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Speaker 1: sex has changed drastic. Well now she rashes it out

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Speaker 1: to me. Now it ain't exciting because she only liked

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Speaker 1: to do one position. Now see, y'all been doing all

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Speaker 1: bruises and bites and that's all over the place. Now

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Speaker 1: she down to one position and she got ten minutes

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Speaker 1: done or not ten minutes time? Let's go stop? What'so

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Speaker 1: iPhone lom going off? Everything starts get out now it's

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Speaker 1: not hardly long enough, so I have to finish the

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Speaker 1: job myself. Damn though you down to that. But the

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Speaker 1: worst part is she only wants to be intimate on Sundays.

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Speaker 1: The dog she didn't broke it down. It ain't had

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Speaker 1: nothing happened in the week, and now it's just on Sundays, man,

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Speaker 1: which is my only day off because I'm self employing.

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Speaker 1: I show houses every day sept Sunday. She knows I

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Speaker 1: don't like to get out of bed, shower, shave on

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Speaker 1: that day. I typically lines around cook her dinner, relax

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Speaker 1: and watch sports on movie. She chose Sunday on purpose.

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Speaker 1: This woman has cut me off from all my supply

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Speaker 1: and she wasn't even polite enough to wean me. Oh,

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Speaker 1: she just did it cold turkey. When I asked her

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Speaker 1: the time, because that's not how real life works. Well,

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Speaker 1: that ain't what you said when we first met. Now

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Speaker 1: you gotta commitment talking about from this man. Now she's

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Speaker 1: talking about she don't want you to go into marriage

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Speaker 1: thinking that you can get it in kind of way

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Speaker 1: you want to. So now she's showing you. She's given

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Speaker 1: you a preview of a coming attraction. She's showing you

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Speaker 1: what marriage is gonna be like with her. You're down

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Speaker 1: the Sunday's Dog and ten minutes on Sundays. Let me

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Speaker 1: tell you something, bro, you ain't gonna be happy like this.

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Speaker 1: You know I know you ain't because you ain't happy now.

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Speaker 1: So brother, all this is gonna lead to us an affair.

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Speaker 1: That's all this is gonna lead to is an affair.

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Speaker 1: That's all it is, and you're thinking about it now.

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Speaker 1: Anytime a man write a letter about his woman sexual things,

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Speaker 1: it's on his mind. Now. He trying not to go

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Speaker 1: there right now, the young brother trying not to go

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Speaker 1: there because he said, you know, I love her, She's

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Speaker 1: Is this really how marriage is? Uh? Sometimes? Dog? Now,

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Speaker 1: marriage is gonna change and ain't gonna be as frequent

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Speaker 1: as a world because y'all in the house and I'm

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Speaker 1: telling you something else. Some thing's gonna come into plate

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Speaker 1: that's gonna affect bills, kids, work, decisions, sickness, all this. Hell?

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Speaker 1: Uh so, is there anything I can do to change things? Now?

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Speaker 1: All you can really do is just start like in

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Speaker 1: ten minutes once a week. You ain't gonna do that.

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Speaker 1: You fix your mind around this. Once a week, ten minutes,

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Speaker 1: you might have a chance what you want. Okay, this

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Speaker 1: it's ten now, it's definitely gonna get cut down. Is there? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Is there a happy medium? Is there a compromise? Because

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Speaker 1: because maybe he's just he won't moan wild for her,

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Speaker 1: the bruising, like you said, and the bites and all

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Speaker 1: of that. Okay, he won't more. Yeah, she's saying he's

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Speaker 1: a horn dog. She ain't gonna do this no more.

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Speaker 1: We did this for two years too much. She's not

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Speaker 1: ten minutes a day. Now. Now, we're not going to

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Speaker 1: do this with you. No, no, we're not doing it

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Speaker 1: with you. I'm out by now. She's the perfect woman

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Speaker 1: for you, except she don't like sex. What you do?

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Speaker 1: How perfect is that? Pardoner? Oh? So what you're gonna

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Speaker 1: do is you're gonna do a lot of people do.

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Speaker 1: gonna do. You're twenty nine, y'all. Ain't y'all ain't going

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Speaker 1: to church, so this ain't a more issue. Sunday is

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Speaker 1: your off day for movies and laying around. You don't shower, shade,

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Speaker 1: He ain't going to church, so ain't no, ain't no

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Speaker 1: you ain't no in here. Ten minutes on Sunday, hold

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Speaker 1: I quit biting. We want to do something else though

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Speaker 1: we got ye cut back. I tell you what, No

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